Just curious if it is normal for the fertility clinic to be so quick and brief with our appts?? We had another appt today for some additional testing and husband had to do an SA. While he was gone, they soon pulled me back to start my tests and I wanted to wait for him to join. Almost seemed “annoyed” by me asking to wait for him to join which was really quick after I was back in the room.

I guess I’m semi venting because I feel like just another person run thru the system and that my emotions are being disregarded. I spoke with a friend who also goes to this clinic and according to her she likes how quick they are and that they are brief with appointments. Is this how everyone else is feeling too? Or am I just being dramatic?🙃

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I tend to ovulate quite early (around cd 9 -10), and then have a 14 - 15 day luteal phase.

My periods are very light and my lining is usually about 5mm by ovulation which is quite thin.

Can ovulating early cause issues with lining thickness and trying to conceive?

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Hi, I am heading to IUI this cycle. My 3rd day LH was 14. It has been this high for the first time. Doctor had given me certrotide injection and today (4th day) , I ll get to know if the level has come down. Has anyone experienced this? Does high LH has negative impact on IUI. Can anyone please help

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Rituals are important in every society, but they tend to focus on positive moments (graduations, weddings, etc), and there are very few meaningful spaces or rituals for infertility and pregnancy loss (Japan’s mizuko kuyō, or “water child” shrines, are an exception that you can read more about on this wikipedia page ). October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, and at 7pm that night, people light a candle for their losses. But what about the times in between when people want to mourn their losses? And what about the other reasons we in the infertility community have for grieving?

Rituals are important for processing our emotions and gaining closure, which is why at the end of each month, we’ll be providing an opportunity for people to create their own ritual for whatever it is their grieving and share it here. This post will be shared a few days before the end of each month. The idea is that with the closing of the month, you can take some time to reflect on your recent grief, perform a ritual, and do some processing, with the possibility of being a bit more ready for the new month and the possibilities it holds.

This thread is intentionally loose on guidelines in order to be as inclusive of possible. You might be mourning something tangible, like a miscarriage, failed transfer, failed IUI, or failed timed intercourse cycle. Maybe you’re grieving that your IVF results aren’t as good as you hoped, and are feeling sad about your abnormal embryos, or the fertilized eggs that didn’t survive to become embryos, or the fact that your IVF cycle yielded no embryos at all. Perhaps you’re pursuing donor eggs or donor embryos are are grieving the loss of a genetic connection. Maybe you’ve gotten a heavy diagnosis. Maybe you’re sad that you’ve been benched and haven’t been able to do any treatment in the last month, or that you’re still waiting for an appointment at a clinic, or that you don’t have insurance coverage and need to save, or simply can’t afford certain treatments. Maybe a close friend or relative announced their pregnancy or had a baby, and you’re sad that you can’t fully feel happy for them while navigating your own infertility. Maybe you’re just grieving the fact that you’re here at all. Remember, there are no pain olympics here, and no matter what it is that you’re grieving, your pain is valid.

The idea here is to hold space and honor the different types of grief that we are all experiencing, and give ourselves a dedicated time to process the hardships and traumas of the month. This is not a toxic positivity thing: there is no expectation that because you’ve done a ritual that you should now be able to magically move on. This is simply a chance for us to process some feelings, which is an essential part of healing and not something that we get the opportunity to do in a society where most of us don’t even share our struggles with others, share our rituals, and support each other.

I did some research on grief rituals, and here’s a list of options that fit within our context. This is just a starting point - feel free to create your own or modify these as you see fit. You are welcome to share a photo and/or describe your ritual and what it is you’re grieving at this moment.

• Light a special candle used only for your ritual purposes
• Burn incense or sandalwood (Sage is endangered, making it scarce for the Indigenous people who use it for religious and cultural purposes, so I’m leaving it off this list - obviously if you’re someone who uses it in religious/cultural ways this doesn’t apply to you).
• Write down the thing(s) you are grieving and want to let go of and then burn the piece of paper
• Create a work of art
• Plant a tree or flowers, or buy yourself flowers or a plant
• Take a walk in nature and reflect on the cyclical nature of the seasons and how spring always follows winter. We are in our own personal winters, but nature reminds us that no matter how cold, dark, and sad, spring always follows eventually.
• Read or say aloud an inspirational verse, poem, or prayer
• Play or sing a specific song
• Ring a chime or a bell

These ones apply more to feelings of loss to me, but might be a good option for those who have gone through a miscarriage or feel some other form of loss, such as a failed transfer (loss of the embryo):

• Make a donation to a charity that reminds you of the lost loved one (a friend of mine who had a stillbirth organizes walks for March of Babies (part of March of Dimes) in honor of the son she lost).
• Carrying something special that reminds you of your loved one that you can take out and hold when you feel the need, such as a “worry stone.”
• Create a “place” memory - a certain spot outdoors that you designate for being connected to the lost child that you can visit when you want to remember and feel close to them, such as a certain tree, spot in your yard, or bench in a park.

Over the next few days, up until the last day of the month, this space will be for sharing what you’re grieving and the ritual you did to honor and process your grief. Feel free to link to a photo of your ritual. You’re also welcome to simply write about what you’re grieving without doing a separate ritual - the writing is the ritual in that case.

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Not getting what’s wrong inside me or my husband. I was on 3rd cycle of letrozole . I ovulated all the times like expected. Had HSG test- no blockage. Husband’s sperm are also fine. I am so depressed and worried.

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Anyone have any insight or comparison charts when it comes to using a smart watch vs actual BBT? I got a watch right after Christmas and had my 1st round of letrozole this cycle and wondering if the watch even has any accuracy to temping when TTC.

Hey everyone, Just need some advice or a better understanding of what I was recently told today. I started 5mg of letrozole for 5 days and today, after completing all 5 days it seems like my follicles are only at 0.75cm and 0.8cm when it was expected that to start the trigger shot I should be at 1.1-1.2cm. They are now considering giving me 5 MORE days of letrozole at 2.5mg only and see where that brings me. I’m feeling super down about the fact my body did not respond to the letrozole. Has this happened to anyone else? Thank you for reading.

Update: they want me to come back on Tuesday to see where my follicles are at. But does this mean I’m out this cycle?

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25f with atypical/lean pcos. Here is what happened in my most recent failed IUI cycle:

• Went in for baseline scan cycle day 4. Everything was fine other than they found two cysts on my right ovary. Found out they weren’t estrogen producing so they allowed me to start letrozole

-took letrozole 2.5mg CD 4-8 same time every night.

-Went back cd 10 and was told I have a 16.9mm follicle. ETA: the 2 original cysts seen shrunk down to normal size

-went back in cd 11 and follicle as almost 19mm. On the way home from the clinic I started having cramps on my right side (where my dominant follicle was). Possibly ovulating? Also during my ride home they called and said blood worked showed I was having my LH surge naturally. They told me to trigger that night and come back the next morning CD 12 for IUI.

• So I had a 19mm follicle on cd 11 was told I was naturally surging but to still trigger that night between 8pm-12am, then come back at 11:45am the next morning for IUI.

IUI went well the provider said, no complications, my husband has no male factor.

But everything I read says that you ovulate 36 hours after trigger and at the very earliest 24 hours… well that would’ve been CD 12 nightC not morning. Or was I ovulating on my own since I was having an LH surge? If that’s the case, why did they still have me trigger?

Was the timing off (meaning it could’ve been on their end by accident) or what do you think the issue was?

It was not successful. What questions or concerns should I ask my doctor when we meet after my negative beta?

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I’m 37 and 8 months TTC. Likely going to start IVF soon but this cycle decided to try taking clomid to “super ovulate” and ended up with what turned out to be a faux peak followed by what I assume is the second real peak. Anyone else have double peaks? Better yet, anyone get pregnant from a double peak cycle?

I have been spotting 3 and 4 DPO - ovulation confirmed via TVS. I have started taking vaginal progesterone 2 DPO. Has anyone faced this?

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Hey all- need advice

I had IUI scheduled this cycle. I had my HSG on CD 8. Didn’t have sex post that as I was sore. Also, my husband was scheduled to give sperm sample for washing and doc advised us absistence for 4-5 days.

I visited my Gynaec on CD 11 for HCG trigger. BUT in tvs - it showed that my follicle are already ruptured. She cancelled my IUI and told to have intercourse within next few hours and for next 2 days.

I wanted to know do we still have the chance - as I have heard that sperm has to be present in thr fallopian tube before ovulation..but in my case- we had sex post ovulation.

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Hi all, Struggling with infertility for 4 years . Finished 2 cycles of letrozole and TI - unsuccessful. Going for HSG tomorrow. I am extremely scared about the pain. Please let me know your experiences also does HSG increases the chance of pregnancy later.

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Just failed my 3rd monitored letrozole cycle with a trigger (7.5 mg CD 3-7). Feeling super discouraged because I feel like it should have worked by now if it was going to work. Looking for people who had success with this method after 3 failed rounds and or wondering if it’s time to just move on. My doctor said we could move straight to IVF after 6 failed tries, but Is IUI worth it at this point?

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Rituals are important in every society, but they tend to focus on positive moments (graduations, weddings, etc), and there are very few meaningful spaces or rituals for infertility and pregnancy loss (Japan’s mizuko kuyō, or “water child” shrines, are an exception that you can read more about on this wikipedia page ). October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, and at 7pm that night, people light a candle for their losses. But what about the times in between when people want to mourn their losses? And what about the other reasons we in the infertility community have for grieving?

Rituals are important for processing our emotions and gaining closure, which is why at the end of each month, we’ll be providing an opportunity for people to create their own ritual for whatever it is their grieving and share it here. This post will be shared a few days before the end of each month. The idea is that with the closing of the month, you can take some time to reflect on your recent grief, perform a ritual, and do some processing, with the possibility of being a bit more ready for the new month and the possibilities it holds.

This thread is intentionally loose on guidelines in order to be as inclusive of possible. You might be mourning something tangible, like a miscarriage, failed transfer, failed IUI, or failed timed intercourse cycle. Maybe you’re grieving that your IVF results aren’t as good as you hoped, and are feeling sad about your abnormal embryos, or the fertilized eggs that didn’t survive to become embryos, or the fact that your IVF cycle yielded no embryos at all. Perhaps you’re pursuing donor eggs or donor embryos are are grieving the loss of a genetic connection. Maybe you’ve gotten a heavy diagnosis. Maybe you’re sad that you’ve been benched and haven’t been able to do any treatment in the last month, or that you’re still waiting for an appointment at a clinic, or that you don’t have insurance coverage and need to save, or simply can’t afford certain treatments. Maybe a close friend or relative announced their pregnancy or had a baby, and you’re sad that you can’t fully feel happy for them while navigating your own infertility. Maybe you’re just grieving the fact that you’re here at all. Remember, there are no pain olympics here, and no matter what it is that you’re grieving, your pain is valid.

The idea here is to hold space and honor the different types of grief that we are all experiencing, and give ourselves a dedicated time to process the hardships and traumas of the month. This is not a toxic positivity thing: there is no expectation that because you’ve done a ritual that you should now be able to magically move on. This is simply a chance for us to process some feelings, which is an essential part of healing and not something that we get the opportunity to do in a society where most of us don’t even share our struggles with others, share our rituals, and support each other.

I did some research on grief rituals, and here’s a list of options that fit within our context. This is just a starting point - feel free to create your own or modify these as you see fit. You are welcome to share a photo and/or describe your ritual and what it is you’re grieving at this moment.

• Light a special candle used only for your ritual purposes
• Burn incense or sandalwood (Sage is endangered, making it scarce for the Indigenous people who use it for religious and cultural purposes, so I’m leaving it off this list - obviously if you’re someone who uses it in religious/cultural ways this doesn’t apply to you).
• Write down the thing(s) you are grieving and want to let go of and then burn the piece of paper
• Create a work of art
• Plant a tree or flowers, or buy yourself flowers or a plant
• Take a walk in nature and reflect on the cyclical nature of the seasons and how spring always follows winter. We are in our own personal winters, but nature reminds us that no matter how cold, dark, and sad, spring always follows eventually.
• Read or say aloud an inspirational verse, poem, or prayer
• Play or sing a specific song
• Ring a chime or a bell

These ones apply more to feelings of loss to me, but might be a good option for those who have gone through a miscarriage or feel some other form of loss, such as a failed transfer (loss of the embryo):

• Make a donation to a charity that reminds you of the lost loved one (a friend of mine who had a stillbirth organizes walks for March of Babies (part of March of Dimes) in honor of the son she lost).
• Carrying something special that reminds you of your loved one that you can take out and hold when you feel the need, such as a “worry stone.”
• Create a “place” memory - a certain spot outdoors that you designate for being connected to the lost child that you can visit when you want to remember and feel close to them, such as a certain tree, spot in your yard, or bench in a park.

Over the next few days, up until the last day of the month, this space will be for sharing what you’re grieving and the ritual you did to honor and process your grief. Feel free to link to a photo of your ritual. You’re also welcome to simply write about what you’re grieving without doing a separate ritual - the writing is the ritual in that case.

I just got my negative blood serum pregnancy test. Feeling very low and depressed. 5 years of married life. I have PCOD and husband has low motility. This was my second letrozole cycle and I ovulated successfully all the time. Now my doctor has suggested me to go for HSG and IUI this cycle. I am already feeling negative and depressed. Is there any hope.