14 month fell off high chair today. The front must’ve not been put into place correctly by me last night and she went face forward. I feel horrible. She cried for 5-10 minutes (it all feels much longer). I noticed after that she has a goose egg on her forehead, which was expected given the height of the chair and hardwood floor. She was responsive almost immediately after - ate some food, read, was able to point to her nose and stomach when I asked (I desperately did this to check if she cognitively present, I know it means nothing but I was panicking more than she was). She was walking fine too. Opted not to go to ER.

I’ll be watching her closely.

Any feedback? Similar stories? Words of encouragement? I feel horrible (I’m the father)

I wish someone would do the math on how much a year supply of formula costs for different brands and put it in all the new mother information given out by health care providers. It definitely would encourage more new moms to nurse their little ones if they realized formula would cost them thousands of dollars vs an extra few hundred calories a day.

Edit- Sorry, this was not meant to be a criticism or a shaming- I was actually unaware myself as a new mom if you added up the cost for a year, and the advertising by big pharma/nestle/ etc. never mentions expenses. I understand fed is best- and there is a cost associated with breast feeding but I found for my second it was substantially less than the cost of formula and I hope everyone enjoys feeding their little ones however it works best for both of them.

Our 9 week old has started showing signs of rolling so we are trying to transition away from the swaddle. He was previously using the Happiest Baby Sleepea so we tried a few nights with 1 or 2 arms out in that. Lots of wakeups and horrible sleep so we bought the Zipadee Zip based on the many rave reviews here on Reddit.

Last night was the first night we tried it and baby spent basically all night punching air! He couldn’t get to sleep because he was just moving his arms constantly. When he did finally get to sleep (with us patting his belly for like an hour), it definitely did not suppress his Moro reflex during the night. He would startle and we’d be back to flailing arms.

Did anyone experience this with the Zipadee Zip? Did it get better or is this just not working for our baby?

Edited to add: I know this transition will take some time and it’s only been one night. But I wanted to see if this level of constant flailing was typical for people’s first night or if we should go back to the one-arm Sleepea.

My husband is a great partner and is doing what he can to help me recover from a rough pregnancy and traumatic birth. He took several weeks off from work (separate from his paternity leave, which he’ll take after I go back) so that he could do more at home and let me focus on recovery. For 6 weeks he did the bulk of baby care, day and night. This is after he spent the pregnancy doing the bulk of our housework. If it was just him and me, I would be grateful for what he’s done and all would be well.

Enter our families. My mom made a comment that he’s done “more than his share”, his mom called him and straight up called me lazy for not cooking more (hubby told her not to talk about me like that), our siblings and dads are of the same mindset.

I am totally failing to see how he’s done more than his share. I had hyperemesis gravidarum in pregnancy, as well as worsening migraines and emergency abdominal surgery at 9 weeks pregnant for ovarian torsion. My labor included a fever, pitocin cramps, an epidural that failed at 8cm, almost 3 hours of unmedicated pushing, a shoulder dystocia, and painful measures to release the dystocia (like having a nurse press hard on my belly each time I pushed and then having the doctors reach inside me and grab baby). I had severe postpartum preeclampsia, horrible swelling, baby in the NICU so I didn’t rest for 9 days, a third degree tear, and a fractured tailbone. Now at 6 weeks postpartum I still get daily migraines and my back hurts every time I pick up baby and sometimes when I’m resting. I already ovulated and have PMS and am looking into birth control methods, because that’s on me, not him.

So, no, I don’t think 6 weeks of losing sleep is “more than his fair share” and I’m disgusted and resentful that others seem to have that opinion. Am I missing something? How is it so normalized that women sacrifice their bodies and health and that’s just the way it is, but men put in some hard work for a few weeks and they’re going above and beyond? And husband is wondering why I woke up mad at the world today.

ETA: when he goes back to work, even now, I’m doing the bulk of babycare. Not trying to physically exhaust the man.

Hi all, father to a 10 month old baby. Posting on wife’s account.

My wife is finding it difficult to get along with my family when before she would attend each and every family function, buy gifts for my family members and bring baked goods that took hours to make. This is causing some strain and disagreements regarding when to meet up or attend family gatherings etc (family gathering 90% of the time means my parents, my brother and sister, and sometimes my brother's wife as well as my adult cousin and his wife. Usually we would stay for between 3-5 hours, travelling between 45 minutes and one hour there and back). My wife does not want to attend any more family gatherings other than rare occasions such as my birthday. My wife never disagreed to my family visiting our home (although I know she doesn’t like it but she doesn’t complain) and she also agrees to travel to meet my family in a public place. She doesn’t want to visit my family’s homes because she says that she feels ganged upon by my family members. I would like to have the option to take our baby myself even if she doesn't want to go to their homes, but she is concerned for the baby's safety, the reasons which I will list below, as well as the baby's age when these things happened. These are in my wife's own words since she is aware of this post and we compiled a list together.

My mum was pushing to visit after a few days of the baby being born. She said she would wear a Covid mask. She ended up visiting (with my dad) exactly one week after birth at our wishes. My wife did not want my parents wearing any masks, - it was not her concern. My wife says that she wanted time to recover after the trauma of emergency c-section and have time to settle into our lives as a family of 3.

When my wife was 39 weeks pregnant, my sister looked directly at me (not my wife) and said that she and my mom could come to hospital when my wife gives birth. My wife considers this a red flag. On our family WhatsApp chat, when the baby was born, only my brother asked specifically how my wife was doing rather than just referencing the baby. (Newborn)

When wife asked my mum to visit in hospital, they had the following text exchange: Wife - Any chance you’d be able to visit us in hospital today or tomorrow? I had to have emergency c section, I am immobile. I can’t really walk or help (me) properly to take care of baby. Mum - Why was that? Did you have an epidural too? Perhaps we can come tomorrow rather than today so you can try and rest. I'll speak to (me) later and we'll work it out. Wife - You and (me)? Mum - Me and grandad (my dad’s name). Are the staff kind and helping you re nappy changes if (me) goes home tonight? Wife - Yes they’re really good here. It’s one of those things - how to properly swaddle a baby with a blanket, How to hold the baby properly, It can be tricky as first parents to get it right. Mum - Course it is, you've never done this before. Why don't you ask the staff at the hospital to show you both next time they come in. Wife - They do show but quickly. Mum - You must ask them to show you again but slowly and ask them to watch you both do it so you can be reassured you're doing it properly. The main thing is that you always support his head when lifting and holding. My wife found problems with this text exchange: she asked my mom to come to the hospital for help after her emergency c-section. My wife’s own mom was in my wife’s country of origin so she wasn’t there and my wife was hoping for female support from my mom. My wife says that she understands my mom not coming to hospital right then and there but she was surprised to hear that my mom is planning to come the day we get back home and also bring my dad. My wife took offence that my mom said that she will work out the details of the visit with me, not with my wife. My wife says that visits to hospital and at home should be worked out between both parents, not just me (dad). And she believes that my mom and sister treated her like she had no say in this.

When we went on 2 nights holiday at the home my sister was staying, my dad said “I want to put baby on rocking horse toy” - my dad wanted to take a picture, it was a large wooden rocking horse. My wife said ‘It would be better next year because right now he’s too little for it’. My dad laughed in my wife’s face. (7 months) My sister kissed him on top of the head whilst she was holding him on the sofa without asking, and also when the baby was in bassinet she kissed him, but my wife did not see where the kiss landed. She suspects face or head. Since this date, my wife posted a comment on the family group chat saying ‘Some important information to be aware of as to why newborn babies should never be kissed, and provided a link to our countries national health website where it states in details why babies should not be kissed and what the consequences could potentially be. In response to this message, my mum replied the following: “ Thank you. I’m sure I can speak on behalf of us all in this group to reassure you that as much as we completely love little "baby" we would never dream of getting too close to him if we had any illness or infection that could be passed on. His immune system will be improving all the time with your breast milk and your loving care.❤ By the time he’s a toddler he’ll be making mud pies and jumping in rain puddles xxx”. My wife did not like this as she said they wouldn't kiss him if they are sick, rather than they wouldn't full stop. (Newborn). My wife also was hurt because she had trouble breastfeeding and was pumping every few hours so that she could feed our baby breast milk. My wife also said that it felt strange that all family members put a like on my mother’s comment and no one acknowledged her asking not to kiss the baby. My dad tried to kiss the baby recently, I pulled him away, he tried again, I pulled him away further, he kissed his hand, and muttered something and he was upset that I didn’t let him kiss the baby. (10 months) My wife was present for a conversation between my sister and an extended family member. Family member was explaining that there should be no plush toys or blankets in the crib but the baby. My sister questioned it. This is why my wife feels unsafe leaving the baby with my sister. (6 months) My wife finds red flags regarding my family’s dynamic here: My sister did not allow my family to babysit her child (now adult) for 18 months. Not even her own mother. My sister said to us ‘Before family gatherings I always cry because I get so anxious’. By wife says - if my own sister feels this way regarding her own family, how is she supposed to feel as an in-law wife. My brother’s wife rarely comes to family gatherings and so did my sister’s ex partner. My brother tends to speak not so nicely about his wife when she isn’t present in the fanning gathering and he was my mom’s date of birth tattooed on his body which in my wife’s words presents how strong the family enmeshed is

My dad was wheeling the pram on a walk when we were on the 2 nights vacation at sister’s home by the beach. My wife tried to fix the baby’s hat, and my dad kept walking and did not stop the stroller. She said she found it disrespectful. He had the stroller for the whole walk, not letting my wife enjoy the beautiful sea breeze with her baby on a short holiday trip. (7 months).

My questions are:

1)Is my wife justified in feeling disrespected and anxious around my family, and not wanting to see them? 2) Is she justified in not wanting me to take the baby alone to family gatherings, due to safety concerns? Or should I have the right as father to go just the two of us if she doesn't want to come? She says the following: ‘if that’s how they behave around me, how will they behave towards the baby when I’m not around?’ 3) How can we move forwards and compromise on some of these issues? I am trying to see and understand her point of view on all these issues. However, I also do not believe there is a legitimate safety concern with our family and I want to attend with the baby to these occasional family dinners (the upcoming one is a sibling's birthday). Is it fair for her to expect the family to visit our home or meet in a public place? The baby has met my brother and sister around 4-5 times in total. My wife had a very good relationship with my family prior to birth and was kind and generous towards them but it all changed.  Happy to answer any questions you may have. Thank you in advance!

Cold, flu & RSV season is upon us and other moms constantly post on social media not to kiss their babies because of this. My father in law was kissing all over my 3 month old last night and while I’m generally not a fan, even minus the illness thing, he is chronically ill and doesn’t have much time left so I hated saying anything. My girl was born full term and is healthy and is up to date on vaccines. Anyways, is not kissing just a newborn thing? Am I overreacting for not wanting even grandparents to kiss? I was so excited to have a baby (for a TON of reasons) but one being I finally get to kiss all over a baby. I never did it to any other baby because I didn’t think you were supposed to. Thoughts appreciated!!

I'm 3 months pp with a lovely baby girl. I had a difficult birth with emergency surgery and my stomach still feels so weird. It's still numb in some places, and I'm very specific about what clothes I put on my body now.

Anything too tight just feels so wrong. Jeans too tight? Nope. Tee too tight? Nope. It just feels so weird for any clothes to sit on my body that way. Does that ever go away? Or is my wardrobe just different now.

I exclusively breastfeed and pump so I'm sure that has to do with it as well. Just curious to get some stories from other mamas.

I don’t know how to start this so I’m just going to jump right in. I hate my body post baby. I had three miscarriages and then finally got pregnant and had my rainbow baby. I gained quite a bit of weight going through the miscarriages and fertility treatments and then gained even more through my full term pregnancy. Prior to all of this I was 125lbs now I’m 205. I have loose skin and stretch marks but those don’t even bother me. It’s just the weight that does.

I feel like I don’t even recognize myself anymore. And I thought I could find the time to go to the gym but I just haven’t. I stay at home with my son all day and go to school online full time. Once my husband gets home from work at 5 I’m then making dinner and just exhausted. How do other moms find the time to keep up their health? I need to lose weight. I hate looking in the mirror. But if I can’t make it to the gym am I just destined to be a mom blob forever? Sorry for the long rambling post. I just needed somewhere to express this.

My LO (7w) had a hard time latching in the hospital and after 2 days of no sleep, stress, 3 LC visits, and painful nips, we put him on formula. When I was getting discharged, my MIL said “Similac? YUCK!” And left. I love my MIL like crazy. She is the sweetest lady. But that was easily one of the top 5 most hurtful moments of my life. I BAWLED for 30 minutes after.

I EP now so he doesn’t get formula anymore but she always comments on how my breast milk is good and I should be proud and blasé blasé. It drives me nuts when she comments on it because truly I don’t give a crap what the kid is eating as long as it’s good for him, he’s hitting his milestones, and enjoying his life. I only pump because it’s cost effective.

She’s still a sweetheart to me and has never ever hurt my feelings prior. I know she’s from the “breast is best” time. It just makes me cry when I think about it sometimes still and I can’t tell my husband so I wanted to let it out.

My baby is just about to turn 4 months, but today he hasn’t been laying back and relaxing while eating like he normally does, with both breast and formula bottle he’s moving around quite a bit.. is it normal for babies to just be getting a bit more active now or is he maybe just uncomfortable??

I accidentally dropped the soother on the ground for a good few seconds and my wife didn't hear that I said it fell. She accidentally gave the soother to our newborn (2 month old). Now we're panicking. How can we asure he'll be fine. Do we need to go to the doctor?

My baby who's 4 months almost 5 months is legit always hungry and never sleeps through the night. No matter how much we feed her. She drinks 6 oz of formula with rice. We mentioned it to our pediatrician and she said to use rice with our formula to fill her up.

Even with 6 oz she downs it cries for more, she never throws up or spits up. We've tried 7 oz before and same results cries for a bottle after 2-3 hours even if in the middle of the night. Any advice or is our child just a foodie? She weights 13lbs 4oz last appointment shes had. Any advice?

My baby slept through the night for the first time. Like from 9 pm to 7 am... I went to bed at 11.. and I woke up like 4 times... My husband also woke up 2 times and couldn't get back to sleep.. The irony... .I was just worried all the time, does he have a fever, why is he not snoring.. why can't I just take the win???

Last time he slept 7 hours straight, he then woke up like 5 times the following days. So I'm not counting my winnings just yet..

I think the whole thing was funny. You'd think you'd magically sleep better if they have a good night but nope

My (39F) baby's (11mo) daddy (41M) is an alcoholic. He's been working really hard to overcome it, but slips up every 1-3 weeks. I suspected tonight (Halloween) was one of those times.

Halloween is his favorite day of the year, and he had been so looking forward to seeing our LO dressed up and trick-or-treating. We were going to be joining another family with some older kids. I dressed our girl up and she was so cute! Around 4:45pm the kids started getting antsy to go.

My husband was still not dressed after his shower, so I pushed him to get dressed. After about 15 minutes, he was still in a towel and the kids were getting impatient and so was I. At this point, I should clarify that "getting dressed" meant putting on his jeans and a t-shirt and a cloak I got him, not some elaborate costume. My baby loves those kids and I didn't want her to miss the chance to go out with them for at least a bit.

He blew up at my impatience and started shouting at me, telling me that everyone waiting can fuck off and then went into the bedroom screaming his head off. At that point, I just told him to come find us when he was dressed, and took her and left.

An hour later, we came back to see if he was ready to join us. I didn't want him to regret missing it all. At first, it seemed like he was going to come, and I was trying to gently urge him along because I found an empty glass of vodka and knew he would be prone to be belligerent if I wasn't careful. Well, I wasn't careful enough and he ended up shouting at me that I was a "stupid fucking whore" and screaming at me to get out, as I had our cute little baby strapped to my front. Our LO is in a bit of a mimicking phase right now and she started to make these sounds that almost mimicked his shouting. I took her and left again.

This isn't the worst incident by any means. He hasn't worked in years, so I'm the sole financial provider for the home and he makes it possible for me to work by caring for her as I do so. On several occasions, I had to take her to work with me because he was in no state to care for her. There was also the night when I'd thrown out my back so badly I had to crawl on the floor to our LO's bassinet while she cried because he was passed out drunk. There was the time he almost missed our first family vacation because he was passed out when we had to leave for the flight. I don't know why I'm sharing this. I guess I am sad and want to feel less alone in this.

I EBF my 8 month old and have been building a freezer stash over this time. Probably around 150-200oz stored, besides the occasional time I need extras for a babysitter, I haven’t used any. When do I start cracking into it?

My baby is 9 days old. She will sleep all day with me, no problem. But at night, when I put her in her bassinet, she wakes up screaming after a few minutes. Her pacifier falls out and its over. We cannot get any sleep and idk what to do. I wish it were safe for her to sleep with us at this point. I cannot handle it anymore.

Mine make me bloated and uncomfortable and I’m thinking of just stopping them!

Hi guys, I'm sorry. This might be a little length but I would really appreciate any help I can get.

I'm a father of 7-month old girl, when she was 4-months old, we sleep trained with CIO and it worked. However, due to financial constraints, my wife had to go back to work and she now goes to daycare and as you know, they're almost always sick when they're at daycare so the progress from CIO pretty much reset, like back to zero, we can't really just leave her to cry it out these days because she always has a snot running her nose and we manage that so we're not really sleep training these days. (Apparently, sleep training doesn't really work when they're sick and sometimes you have to do it all over again when they get sick? so we gave up on that).

We're shift workers and we're just doing "contact nap", we let her fall asleep on either one of us and then put her down to her crib - guaranteed, she's going to wake up at least 2-3 times a night, we either feed or just rock her to sleep.

My problem is, when I come home from a long day's work, my wife goes to work and it's my turn to care for her and put her to bed and every night, without fail, she cries, a lot on me. It is so taxing on my soul and mental health, I dream bedtime every night, I don't look forward to it because I know I'll have to watch and hear her cry for at least 30mins to 1 hour. I feel so guilty, like I don't know what I'm doing wrong or what I should do. She pretty much just tires herself crying on me until she falls asleep or sometimes when I cannot take it anymore, I turn on the TV for her to watch Moana until she's really tired and sometimes, when she falls asleep and I put her down, she wakes up again crying. It is so exhausting, I feel so helpless.

Have any of you ever gone through this kind of experience? Does it ever get better? Please, I don't mind if it is a criticism or disapproval or what I do, I just need some comments, some advice or assurance.

My 7 week old likes to just stay awake! He hasn’t slept for more than 20 minutes for about 8 hours if not longer. He takes little naps, wants to snack on a bottle, then just stays awake, looks at his surroundings, and makes noises(not crying). He doesn’t cry or get fussy but just keeps his eyes open and is calm. Before this week he regularly put himself to sleep. And we never had to rock him or even turn off the lights. Even when I try putting him to sleep he looks at me like I’m crazy. Am I supposed to be trying longer to put him to sleep? Is this fine or are we sleep depriving him?

I had my baby september 5th and my bleeding wasn't terrible it kind of came and went but was always there. Well I was cleared at my 6 week appointment and then a week later I was having bright red bleeding it wasn't a lot but it was there when I wiped.

Ob said it was probably my period well it wasn't. Now I'm 2 months postpartum and I'm still bleeding! It's red and it's not a lot but it's pretty consistent. I'm not having any other symptoms but I'm so tired of the bleeding. Any suggestions?

I’m 36. Went to get my hair done in July ‘24 with zero gray hairs. Went in to get my hair done today after having LO on August 13th ‘24 and my hairdresser says I’m now 20% gray. Please tell me I’m not the only one this happened to 🫠

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Prior to pregnancy and especially when pregnant all I craved and really could tolerate was fruit. I was fortunate enough to live near the SoCal area, which admittedly has some pretty gnarly selections of ripe/fresh fruit, especially mangos. I was able to get 4 mangoes for a dollar, and would eat 2-3 mangoes every day. I know for a fact I will be telling my daughter I grew her by eating mangos. But it was literally every single type of fruit. I needed it, I cherished it, I loved it….

Now, I barely have any appetite for fruit anymore. I just want meat and high protein foods. I definitely still get a sweet tooth, but not for my once beloved fruit platters. If I want sweet, it needs to be the most calorie dense bullcrap that doesn’t nothing for me nutritionally.

I miss my days of sitting in the sun, reading my book, and munching on fruit like it was the food equivalent of gold.

I’m mainly curious if anyone else had a drastic change in cravings from before/during pregnancy to after?

Like the title says, does it end? What would make it end or how would it be considered done? I’m 16m pp and I definitely still feel postpartum. Obviously physically healed, but mentally it has been so rough lately. I feel like I’ve hit a wall.

Not to mention at the ob a couple months ago the nurse saw my chart said I was pp and was like “it says here you’re postpartum, but you’re not, are you?” And I looked at her so confused because I wasn’t sure if it ever ended?

My baby boy is 4 months, 17.5 pounds and just upgraded to size 3 diapers and size 12 months clothes. He can still fit 6-9 months but he’s filling them out so they won’t fit much longer!

So I’ve been sick with a cold (cough, sore throat, snotty nose, the works) and I can’t seem to shake it. It really sucks because I still have to take care of the baby and I’m afraid I’ll spread the cold to him. He’s three months old and exclusively breastfed. Do y’all think he’s doomed to get it, or will the breastfeeding protect him?

If I had known there was a risk of nonstop spotting with the hormonal IUD, I would not have done it. I got the nexplanon removed after several months of the same, and I communicated that with my new providers, but no one gave me any indication that it was going to happen with the IUD. Going on three weeks now of spotting. I didn't even get to enjoy the end of my lochia because I bled post-partum right up until the week before I got it placed.

Anyone had a similar experience? How long did it last for you? Anything that helped? It's cramping my style.

On October 7 I spontaneously gave birth to my daughter at 29w due to chorioamnionitis, funisitis, and a dysmature placenta among other things. All of this because my copper IUD failed after having it for 7 years and I couldn’t remove it during the pregnancy.

My placenta didn’t deliver. My doctor had to scrape it out of my uterus by hand. She never felt my IUD during it and it never came out during labor. We do an ultrasound to see if she removed everything, it looks like she did and we see that my IUD is fully embedded in my uterine lining now. It somehow managed to become embedded during my pregnancy.

Fast forward about a week and a half, I pass a piece of placenta when I stand up. It was the most disturbing feeling ever. Like a jelly fish just sloshed out of my vagina when I stood up. Traumatising. I’m in the NICU bathroom, see that golf ball size lump of placenta and call the nurse line. They send me to the ER. ER tells me to follow up with my doctor.

My doctor finds out I have more tissue in there than we thought. She prescribes me Cytotec. It doesn’t do ANYTHING. So she has scheduled a hysteroscopy and a D&C. For tomorrow.

LAST NIGHT I DEVELOP MASTITIS. I’ve waited a week for this surgery that she moved up from the end of November to tomorrow. And I get an infection in my breast?!?! Y’all I am doooooonneeee. I just want to be done with this all. I just want to focus on my baby.

My baby is 9 days old. Up until today, I've been attempting breastfeeding, pumping, and formula. Mostly formula. Now, it's just formula. She gets similac 360. She is incredibly gassy. All night long, she's farting like a grown man. We bought the gas drops but my husband is scared we are over doing it. Today, she went quite a few hours without pooping, then had absolutely explosive diarrhea. Later, in get car seat, she was scream crying. I discovered it was because she couldn't seem to scrunch her legs enough to farther. Once she got out, she got it out then was fine. Now, she keeps grunting and crying and pulling her legs up to her chest and constantly farting. My husband is scared the gas drops made her constipated. I just can't handle seeing her seem to be in such pain. Any suggestions? Thoughts? Recommendations? Anything at all. I will mention it to her doctor, but we don't go until Tuesday. My MIL claims it's from formula and I have to breastfeed. I mentally can't handle that, and it's too late even if i changed my mind. I also just think it's not true. She uses lansinoh bottles and we pace feed.

Basically what the title says.

Yesterday we sold our charming old home to move closer to our parents. The house is not nearly as darling as this one, but we knew we wouldn’t be able to grow our family here alone. We both work and only have one set of grandparents in the state—they’re absolutely willing to help but both hate driving far so it’s been hard to coordinate childcare and just basic support.

I’m VERY close with my family so not worried about that, I know it’ll help, I guess I’m just so heartbroken and sad to be picking up our life here. We got married and moved in here, then brought our baby home here, and just got so comfortable. The neighborhood, home, and everything about this place is a dream.

I just got out of 10 months of horrible PPD and have always felt like I’ve had no village over here which is what pushed me to move closer to one.

Any words of encouragement would be so helpful. I have such cold feet about it all 💔