i really want to come out to people that i’m nonbinary and go by a name that’s not my birth name, but i don’t really want to sit those people down and full on come out to them (i have way too much anxiety about that). is there any way that’s a less idk serious way to come out? sorry if this a dumb question :p

I honestly don't really know what I expected. Well, I thought it was enough if I myself know my identity, but I'm still just as depressed. I've only told a handful of people online and I'm not sure I can share that part of myself with anyone in real life. It's always been like that for me, trust issues and all. Being afraid to stand out or be too loud, not knowing I was even allowed to make my own decisions, even though I used to be more confident as a child.

It probably won't fix anything, but can someone just call me Rian? Maybe that could make it seem worth it, even if for a minute.

I live in America, and have spent years being confused on what I even am, and after realizing, have been socially transitioning over the past year. I was heavily considering setting up an appointment to start taking hormones over the past few months, and then the election results came in. Is it still worth setting up an appointment? I'm AMAB, so passing as that would be safer, and potentially even useful, maybe? I'm so lost right now

As someone who is trying to embrace more of their enby and genderfluid side, and experiment with bisexuality, I have thought about experimenting with relationships and such in college. For some people I have interest in, they range from gay/bi men, other non-binary folk, and lesbians. However, as someone who is cisgender-passing and AMAB, I fear that I might accidentally end up coming across as some creepy straight dude trying to hit on lesbians, and add that with a bit social awkwardness, and it's a recipe for disaster, and vice versa with gay men.

Obviously, I know I can be rejected and such even with the knowledge that I'm non-binary, and I am totally fine with that. The problem is coming off as a perverted asshole, and it's also a bit weird to just say that I am non-binary out of nowhere. And even outside of relationships and such, I just want to appear more gender-neutral in general, though still with somewhat of a masculine look. What is some advice to appearing more androgynous, and appealing to both groups I mentioned?

It just looks like a color check for printers or something.

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I came to know about that through their insta. I myself am bi. How do i make them feel comfortable, plus they are reserved, so any tips?

Hi, everyone. I’m 21, AFAB for context. For as long as I can remember, I didn’t “feel” like a girl. I couldn’t place it, it was just that something felt off. Between the ages of 11-13 I thought that I was FtM, but that wasn’t quite right either.

Ages 15 onward I started identifying as nonbinary. All of these years later I’m a very feminine presenting person. I like my long hair and the ways that traditionally “feminine” articles of clothing fit me (although I do mess with adding more masculine elements and silhouettes sometimes). Despite my femininity, I still feel hugely disconnected from being either female or male and maintain my NB identity, using she/they/them.

While I’ve come to feel pretty comfortable with my external appearance, it’s my organ situation that bothers me most. I was blessed with a very small chest so that’s not an issue. The outside of downstairs is whatever. But my uterus causes me great distress and always has. The thought of even having the ability to become pregnant is terrifying and makes me feel separated from my body. Every time I have a period or ovulate and am reminded of my uterus’ functions, I become severely emotionally distraught. I spend roughly two weeks of every month being extra miserable because of this (more than the usual awareness makes me).

In a perfect world, I would like to be anatomically gender neutral, whatever that means. I do not wish to have female or male reproductive capabilities. I just want to Be. I don’t know if that makes sense, I find it difficult to really articulate this, I just know that I’m dysphoric and it sucks.

I’m not really sure what to do from here. I was in therapy in the past but it’s been years. I currently have an IUD, which has helped, but not eliminated the issue. I know I’d like to have some kind of surgery, I just don’t know exactly what would be best for me. I’m not really wanting to do anything that would require HRT.

Partial hysterectomy? I would still be dealing with hormone cycles, right? Tubal ligation would be the same, still having hormonal cycles, it’s also equally as effective as an IUD if I recall correctly so doesn’t fully eliminate pregnancy risk. I just wish I could get away with having nothing, you know?

Input is appreciated from anyone, especially anyone who has had any similar surgeries. I’m also worried about the fact that I’m 21, unmarried, and childless, which poses an issue for surgery. I am aware of the master doc of willing surgeons but it’s also an issue of time and resources. I’m also now hyper aware of potential restrictions on trans and reproductive healthcare.

Also seeking general advice on handling the dysphoria and distress throughout my cycle.

Thanks yall <3

Please ignore my hair I kinda messed it up pretty bad 😭

So basically I work in a retail pharmacy and live in the south US so it’s taught to most to say “yes/no/thank you sir/ma’am” just to be polite. I grew up down here so it doesn’t bother me when people call me ma’am bc I do still have fairly fem features even with my shaved head (I’m AFAB). But lately customers have started correcting themselves worried they’re misgendering me and it actually makes me happy!

It’ll go like this:

Me: asks patient a question

Them: “yes/no ma’am. Sorry, I mean sir, or ma’am, whichever, I don’t want to say incorrectly”

Me: smiles and chuckles, waving them off “it’s ok! Either or is fine, actually” (even tho I prefer they/them, I’m fairly fluid in my gender so I’m kinda at the point of any pronouns work)

And like, it often makes me feel so good bc one, they see that I’m not going to blow up in the interaction but also IM A MYSTERY TO THEM IN THAT MOMENT and it makes my little they/them heart happy…being ambiguous confirms my gender identity, as backwards as that sounds

I’m under 40 and recently diagnosed with breast cancer. As a nonbinary person, it’s unusual. I’ve had a difficult time finding other enby/trans vlogs. Would it be helpful or supportive to report my (very rapidly evolving) situation? Or would I just be harassed for no reason?

Went to get a haircut at a barbershop I've never been at before. Barber took like 2 hours but did a really good job (or so I thought but not sure by this situation right after). I accidentally walked over to some lady thinking she was my mom I just looked at her from my peripheral vision and then the lady in front of her said "I think she wants one of those papers you have". I realized I was not standing near my mom but a stranger and that they were referring to me. I immediately said "Oh my bad" and then got a card and left. I was apologizing more so that they looked at me as a girl then being there. Got the haircut to look more masculine and that blew up right in my face so quick.

Idk what haircut i want :((

The t-shirt sparkles, the jeans have embroidered flowers and I'm a bit in love with pink at the moment.