So I'm attending a wedding soon and need to decide on the hair color I want to have.

I'll be wearing a green skirt with an off white dress shirt (linen) and want to wear silver jewelry. I've had both orange and pink hair before and liked the colors a lot, both suit me so now I can't decide. My color is a peak-a-boo color so the upper layer of my hair is my natural brown.

The picture is as close as I could get to the skirt color and the two hair colors. (for privacy reasons I didn't wanna post a photo)

Things that need to be considered:

1. there's yellow left over from my last color so orange would not be tinted but pink possibly could be. However I did a test strand of pink and it looks nice and vibrant, no noticable yellow hue (also means that I'll have a pink strand if I go for orange haha)

2. the orange color bleeds a little more than the pink one so my hair needs to be fully dry. I don't want to stain my dress shirt

3. silver jewelry is important to me, idk which color fits the silver better

I'll greatly appreciate the help with deciding.

yes i am from texas lol

a big part of being non-binary to me and for a lot of other non-binary folks (if im not mistaken) is changing internal/external/both perception of themself away from the apparent/traditional social constructs which define a ‘man’ or a ‘woman’, such that their gender identity (if they have one) exists outside of the binary in that way. in the meantime, another phenomena that occurs is the evolution and change that binary people influence on the (social constructions that are the) binary gender ‘definitions’; for (a not great) example, if all of a sudden it became typical for men to wear skirts, that would seem to shift the abstract binary categorization lines which delineate binary gender in our/society’s view in a small way. so some questions:

1. how do you see these two things intersecting/interacting with one another?

2. do you think the binary and/or gender as a whole will gradually become less and less meaningful?

3. if the binary does fade away, do you think the term ‘non-binary’ will fade with it and people will opt for more specific gender terms to identify with? or do you think people will just stop using gender describing/identifying terms overall?

4. do you see an eventual fade-away of gendered language as a whole (with gendered languages in particular, ik some languages are already gender-free)?

I only just started coming out to friends and colleagues about 3 weeks ago, and now I'm at the point of figuring out what I want a don't want going forward. The issue I'm coming across is just that, being older, my life and career are so established, that I'm struggling to figure out how to make changes.

For context, I work as a therapist, and I'm worried that any transition I make is going to be distracting to my patients. For example, changing my name and pronouns (I'm AMAB and using They/Them pronouns now.) I don't know if anyone else here has dealt with coming out well into an established career, but I'm feeling stuck as to how to deal with it.

All this on top of having older parents who I'm not sure it's even wise to come out to. Me coming out as gay was already a big mess 20 years ago.

I know it's broad, but any insight would be appreciated. I am excited to make changes but I really don't know how to go about it.

I am 22 and have been out as Non-binary and Pansexual for about 5 years now. I was born with a penis and have been on HRT for a little over a year because I tend to identify with my body in more feminine ways. I have always wanted brests and wear more fem clothes and if I could have both sets of genitals I honestly would. I saw a few posts on this subreddit recently speaking about Enby Lesbians and I wanted to speak about some of the bad experiences I've had with people using that label. I am ethically non monogamous with a few partners and on quite a few dating apps, including queer ones sometimes geared towards more fem-leaning people. I have had multiple people match with me identifying as an nonbinary or trans masc lesbian. When I speak about being Non-binary or not really wanting bottom surgery I am usually quickly asked what my assigned gender as birth is. A lot of the time it tends to also be asked in very gendered terms like "do you identify more with womanhood or manhood". I explain that I just don't see my gender in that way but I'm not shy about the fact that I have a penis and other than some size changes from HRT I currently have no plans for that to change. I have gotten some really bad reactions from people saying I'm not fem enough to be matching with lesbians and I just have to think that I must have seemed fem enough for them to swipe on me in the first place. I've had many IRL friends say it is just a chronicly online take and to not let it get to me. Even so, it has left the internet and made me on multiple occasions feel devalued and disphoric. Honestly if it is fully a genital preference that is absolutely fine. I know may people are just sexuality attracted to just people with penises or just people with vulvas and that is absolutely valid. I'm just wondering if it may be better to have separate terms for attraction to gender expression vs genitalia. I personally have no preferences and I would love to hear from enby and trans mascs who identify as lesbians and why they choose that label. For me the only use for labels is to quickly explain to others the basics of you're identity. In a perfect world we wouldn't need them. I'm sure this is all anecdotal and there are many lesbians on here that use that label to just say you are attracted to everyone but cis men. Maybe I have just been unlucky. I want to hear people's positive experiences.

Not gonna go much into it but she might have figured it out and im not worried that shes gonna be mad or anything im just a bit stressed :/ idk what to say if she asks something or if she will treat me differently (not necessarily in a bad way)

Please forgive my ignorance but I am trying to educate myself as I try to support and understand my child. If a teen is trying to figure their identity out but is confused but doesn’t not identify as a cis-male what does that mean? More pointedly if they identify as nonbinary is that a spectrum of gender identity? I know it is under the trans umbrella but does that mean they identify with the gender not assigned at birth? I hope this makes sense and please forgive me if I am not articulate or asking clearly. Thank you for your help.

I (35 AFAB NB?) am still figuring out my gender identity, but I feel much more comfortable sorting things out when I'm able to talk through my experiences externally while still exploring internally. Hopefully I'm welcome in this space, as I currently am considering the possibility that I am genderfluid.

I have questions about my body goals and where to go from here.

Background:

I am currently taking low dose combination birth control for PMDD (depression) and endometriosis. I am interested in starting low dose testosterone because I would like to slowly change my body composition and get bottom growth. I'm not interested in voice changes or body hair, but I know that it might be unavoidable (I would get laser hair removal and learn to love my new voice--my natural register is already very high, soprano 1 is my singing range).

I also know that I have some body dysphoria about my breasts and lower anatomy. I had a breast reduction in Oct 2022 (32DDD to 32B) but I'm still quite bothered by my size. I don't know if I want to be completely flat chested or just very very small. I have tried a binder or sports bras, but I feel too restricted and uncomfortable even when I size up, and they don't produce the look I want. I would much rather use bra inserts/breast forms and be smaller.

Surgically, I might consider a simple release meta without vnectomy +/- another breast reduction +/- salpingectomy in the future, if HRT doesn't meet all my goals.

Questions:

1. From what I've read, it's not safe to take both estradiol and testosterone at the same time because of the increased risk of breast cancer. Can testosterone help with endometriosis and hormone fluctuations around the menstrual cycle? Did anyone switch to the minipill (progestin only) for birth control and how did it go for you?

2. If you started low dose T, what form did you start with (gel, cream, or injectable)?

3. If you are on low dose T, what effects did you notice first, and how far into taking it?

4. My current lower anatomy is VERY small and causing a lot of frustration during sex/masturbation. I know that HRT outcomes vary wildly by individual genetics, but did any of you start off similarly? I sometimes go months without doing anything alone, and doing something with a partner requires a lot of stimulation for me to orgasm. I sometimes give up before it happens, depending on how I'm feeling. (Luckily we have a very positive sex life and there are no real goals to sex besides pleasure and intimacy.) I have some phantom penis feelings during sex and get gender euphoria from masturbating in a more "masculine" way, but I don't feel like a man or want to be seen as a man socially. I don't care about labels/pronouns, in a social sense, but my body doesn't look how I want it to, if that makes sense.

Sorry for the long post, and I'm happy to answer any questions that might help paint a better picture. I am just feeling lost on where to go next. I am currently seeking out a therapist who is neurodivergent/gender diversity informed.

I’m a non binary (gender expansive) trans masc person and I’m dating a cis man. He told me he’d be less attracted to me if I got top surgery and is obviously uncomfortable when we talk about my identity or gender in general. He apologised for his comments about me medically transitioning and I still feel weird. I’m not as attracted to him now and I don’t know if I should break up with him or not. I’m worried I won’t meet someone else and I also don’t want to stay with someone who doesn’t accept me fully. Ughhhh

I am a 25 y/o cis man who just realized my desire to be feminine is a genuine part of who I am rather than just a desire or fetish. This is deeply concerning internally for me to wrap my mind around. I want to have more feminine emotions and traits. I resonate with Non Binary like this: I feel (mind & body) 75% female and 25% male, but my 25% male was completely suppressing the 75% female my whole life.

In a way taking HRT would push me more towards femininity but I do still resonate with that small amount of masculinity, being fine with my name and pronouns. In a way telling people I’m not trans could be part of the comfort of how I want to express myself. But I’m not sure if that comfort is a valid expression of self or if it’s coping with a reality I don’t understand.

Anyone here struggle with something I call Comp-Cis? I'm a 26 year old trans male who uses they/them (nonbinary person with trans man's body), but for my whole life I thought I was a female. Simply because I assumed I must be.

I heard comphet from the lesbian community (women who assume they are straight simply because it's expected). I thought this was a great way to explain my own feelings. Now I don't identify as female at all, not even a little.

I’m nb and have a typical male name. I’ve thought about changing it to something more “neutral”. But I’m just worried that I would appear pretentious or “edgy” in a particularly bad way. Plus unfortunately I can’t force my family members to use it so I would probably only need it used by friends or something. I’m fascinated by Mesopotamia and the cultures and am a Mesopotamian polytheist at the moment as well. So I’m thinking of using a word from one of the languages. Although I’m not intending to culturally appropriate anything.

especially as someone living in the deep south

my best bet thus far has been taimi, but i just got blocked for trying to explain my complicated relationship with gender and sexuality 😭

Transmasc NB here. When it was my turn to give them my shoe size, I panicked and said my size in women’s because I just assumed they wouldn’t gender me correctly. Much to my surprise, they gave me the size in men’s! I did have to then go back to the counter and ask for a size down lol. But this gave me the confidence to use the men’s room there, despite my crippling anxiety about using public restrooms. Just wanted to share my little win from last night :)

I came out to my family recently, and beeing refered to with the name I picked somehow feels wrong. Is that normal? Is there just a sort of "adjustment period"? I've been feeling like I'm enby for over two years now, but does my name not feeling right mean I was wrong? Did I pick the wrong name? So sorry if my grammer is bad, english isn't my first language.

I'm wondering if anyone here has any knowledge on binders/binder tank tops? I've only ever purchased one and it was not comfortable and I haven't gotten another since. My friend is getting married in August and I really want to have a flatter looking chest. I'm from Canada and I've been looking and looking. At this point Im overwhelmed haha. I'm a larger person with larger boobs so taping isn't an option. Any information is greatly appreciated.

I'm marking this NSFW because I'd rather be safe than sorry.

So I'm an AFAB enby 25 years old. I've always been on the fence for getting HRT because I wanna be androgynous. I don't wanna be overly feminine or masculine. I wanna deepen my voice (I work customer service and theres this one regular with a kid who compares my voice to Snow White. It's always such a cute interaction but I hate that's what my voice is perceived as.)

I'm looking into DHT to do this, but there's another reason I want it which is why I marked the post as NSFW. Some other side effects can include an enlarged clitoris and an increase in sex drive.

There are other, personal, dysphoria related reasons I want HRT. But these are the ones that I'm seeking advice on. I'm not sure how far I wanna go with it. I don't know what kind of HRT to seek out or if I should do it under the guidance of a doctor. I know there are other side effects like hair growth, muscle mass increase, and fat re-distribution. Frankly I feel like I'd be pretty okay with those.

I'm just worried my voice might end up too deep/masculine.

Hi y’all! I’m K, non binary trans masc. I want to start wearing rings but I’m having trouble figuring out where to get some that are good quality and not super pricey. Any tips on where I can find some masculine rings?

This question comes from a really particular search result when you ask the question “Are Femboys Non-Binary?”. The results say it’s a slang term. I do not feel attached to any label, but I am currently transitioning. Whenever I see a femboy part of me really resonates with that way of self expression. But is this more related to simply cross dressing? For me I am contemplating doing HRT to be more feminine because it is more than just cross dressing for me.

I was assigned female at birth but am intersex and have had hormone level issues since puberty. My estrogen is low and within the range of a menopausal person.

I'm transmasc as well and I was looking to start low dose T. I have an endocrinology appointment on Tuesday and I was discussing with my mum whether or not to take SERMs since these will increase E levels and improve bone health (I don't have osteoporosis but have osteopenia) but won't cause breast growth and some can block estrogen receptors in the uterus as well. I would be alright with my E level going up to help my bone health.

Is there anyone in the same position as me and could help me with this? Thanks.

Hi! I need some help from the NB community. My graduation is coming up soon and I need to pick an outfit. I had a previous outfit that was a suit but when I tried it out recently I got incredibly dysphoric and I couldn't even look in the mirror without crying. I need some sort of formal wear for my outfit and something that won't out me (I'm amab). Any suggestions would be appreciated, thx.

okay for important context, we're from Germany. and there is an erotic store that has some local stores in bigger cities but it also has an online shop.
so what is that name? it's Orion.
now, i picked that name because im a nerd and wanted to choose something space related. that's Orion is a figure from greek mythology is a big bonus here. it's a pretty well-known constellation, it's not like super obscure
also I'm only really 'out' to my friends and online spaces, my other friends arent bothered by the name and use it for me (either think it's funny cause im ace or dont actually know the 'other connotation'), and she didnt mind it a couple of years ago, until she got a job where she would walk past the store on her way, so?? anyway I don't know where im going with this, just had to write it down
peace out