I was watching the show "Gen V" and found Jordan Li's character super interesting. They completely change gender anytime they want. And it made me wonder, do you wish you had that ability for real? Is it enough to present gender through the way you dress, or do you wish you could transform completely back and forth? I hope that makes sense

I'm 18 and AFAB. I've identified as non binary since 16, but it never felt exactly right, and my friend and I were talking a couple days ago and he mentioned the possibility of bi gender. So here's what I'm experiencing and if anyone has any ideas on if maybe this could be the right fit or any ideas on other identities I could look into, that would be great.

So sometimes I feel genderless, sometimes I feel like every gender at once, sometimes I feel almost completely like a girl but always with a small amount of something else. Sometimes I'm also feel like a good mix of both genderlessness and being a girl. I did look into gender fluid but that didn't feel quite right because even though it moves around it doesn't quite feel fluid. It's like turning the page in a book and the next page is based on my situation, mood, or other internal or external things. Or sometimes I just wake up different than I was the last day and don't notice until later because even though all the identities are different they feel pretty similar. More often then not it's either no gender or a half girl half non binary mix. I use they/them pronouns but I could use she/they I just don't like it as much. He/him pronouns are only okay in combination with they/them but I'd prefer to just use they/them. I know pronouns don't equal gender but I figured any extra context might help.

Thank you for reading and I appreciate any responses

Hi all: I (AMAB) started identifying as bigender this year to reflect my sense of having both a masculine and feminine aspect within me. I feel this at an energetic level, which causes some aspects of dysphoria with my body. But most of my struggles tend toward the psychological. I have long struggled with anxiety, depression, and dissociation. I find it nearly impossible to cry and have very limited emotional range. Some history of trauma as well. The biggest problem I seem to have is the repression of my feminine aspect by my masculine aspect (and the world around me).

I’m working on all of that in therapy, so I guess what I’m really looking for is discussion, connection, support, and even guidance. Although I find that I keep looking anywhere but myself for direction. I think I’m most afraid of transitioning in a way that leads to loved one’s deciding they can’t be in my life any longer, or in the same capacity. Altering my gender expression and befriending other queer people definitely helps, but a part of me wonders whether or not I need more significant changes. I find it hard to be patient and present because I see everything as a problem to be solved. I find it hard to be Fully vulnerable with people close to me, and even harder to be “true” to myself.

To be fair, some days I feel amazing. I dance around the house and dress to my liking and feel attractive and accomplished. I can go for a workout or do a meditation or go out into nature and feel very in sync with myself and the world. I have rounds of gender euphoria. Sometimes I feel like I should “just be happy.” And I wonder if I Could just let myself be as I am, without judgement. Maybe that’s one of the difficult aspects of gender: the recognition of others, or lack thereof.

I know that I want balance. I know that I value authenticity. I know that this journey will require ruptures as much as creativity, and that the energies of love and community will help get me where I want to be. And, that it’s never really over, until it is.

Hello, /r/bigender. I’ve been reflecting on my gender identity and wondering if this might be my community. From what I understand, bigender experiences can vary greatly, and I’d like to share mine to see if it resonates with anyone here.

I am both a man and a woman at all times. There’s no shift or separation—just a profound sense of unity within myself. How I present varies along the spectrum between masculine and feminine, and I use different names depending on my presentation. However, this is entirely about how I express myself outwardly—things like my gait, body language, voice, facial expressions, and fashion. Regardless of these changes, my identity is constant, unified, and whole.

Any rejection of this truth causes me significant dysphoria, while embracing and nurturing it brings me euphoria. I feel at peace when I live in harmony with both aspects of myself, and I don’t experience the kind of fluctuation or chaos I’ve seen described in some other gender identities, like genderfluidity.

I’m curious if this experience resonates with others here. Does this align with bigender experiences? Or might there be another term that better fits my perspective? Thank you in advance for your thoughts and insights!

Hello! I started thinking about something. Since I'm bigender, I identify as both (30%) male and (70%) female (I'm biological a woman). I recently broke up with my boyfriend (cis and straight man), but I'm still wondering.. Wouldn't that make him bisexual, since I also identify as a male? I'm bisexual by myself, so does it mean that a lesbian shouldn't feel attraction towards me because of me being bigender? I guess so, but I want to hear other opinions (sorry for any mistakes, English isn't my first language).

so, im still living with my parents in a highly conservative country ://. I want facial hair (afab) i started growing a tad bit more than the peach fuss and im grateful for that. I found smth for hair growth but idk if it will work for facial hair... Advice highly appreciated.

So he identifies as being 50% male 25%nb and 25%female. He doesn't feel genderfluid though.

New here

I have this intense longing for femininity not only outside of myself but inside of myself. I feel like a man and a woman and I just want to be able to transition but my parents are Catholics and they don’t want me to transition.

There was a post over in gender fluid that I replied to and wanted to get some feedback from this community if my post resonates with anyone.

Basically it was how to explain to someone not genderfluid what it feels like.

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I saw a post months ago using the analogy of being in a car and someone else is driving. To build off that:

So you are on a highway.

The lanes represent your personal different genders. For me it's two lanes, male or female.

Someone else is driving so you have less control over changing lanes, and potentially why the change is occurring.

Sometimes the lane change is gradual, sometimes it's sudden.

You can go long or short durations without changing lanes on the highway.

Sometimes the ride is relaxing, other times it's stressful.

The driver may or may not listen to your thoughts on changing lines. (My driver isn't listening right now and it's super frustrating when a sudden lane change occurs out of the blue)

I would also add the vehicle may represent your sexuality.

So a convertible may always have the top on during the journey, or it may change to the top down on parts of the journey.

For me, my sexuality doesn't change with the shift, I'm always attracted to women, but your convertible may ride with the top down for a while after changing lanes.

I'm questioning being a bi gender of girlflux and transmasc.

Pangender Dysphoria BIG Problem

That is how I identify. I am physically female. I have been with women a lot and I am single and seeking a monogamous completely reciprocal gay male type of lover relationship with a bi to pan man on dating sites. I haven't had much response but have had some and I am going to keep trying. I described this and asked if anyone else has looked for an unusual type of relationship through online dating on the reddit online dating reddit site. They banned me from the online dating reddit because they said I am obviously just trolling. But it is real. I feel very strange and offended being accused of not being real.

Hi, I ask myself a question that never stops haunting me: am I bigender because until then I thought I was a man but I would have loved it with a woman's body and to be a woman and I love being gendered as feminine so I have a question how did you know you were bigender? Because it annoys me not to know myself.

(Update I am indeed bigender)

Often I see "two or more " more often in the case for bisexuality. With bigender, I see more of a strict only 2 genders, seeing as it could easily be replaced with trigender or multigender. I would much rather go by the bigender definition "2 or more" than trigender with my identities.

Is there anythin wrong with that?

Right now I express how I feel gender wise by how I dress and act but I've been thinking about somehow getting a binder and wearing it all the time even in my more feminine outfits and stuff do you think it'd be a good idea??

There are two bigender flags that I have been seeing, and I don't know which one to use. Are they both fine to use or is one problematic??? 😭😭
Do I use the most common one which is more a purples and pinks, or do I use the pink, yellow, white, purple, and blue one???

Have a great weekend!

i remember like ten years ago, i combed through a bigender thread from some website i wish i remembered. i wrote down a lot of points they made, some of which i remember, to a degree- a lot of which i do not.

they were smart, old, mature... resigned, in a way. a haunting sort of way. but it felt really legitimate. really true.

this subreddit? i found one or two posts that actually really resonated with me- something about music production, and almost being in a collab with yourself.

otherwise, i hate this place so goddamn much. this shit makes me feel less than alone. i tried joining bigender dot net but honestly? i imagine it's worse. fuck you.