I think im pangender because i usually feel like every gender all at once, but sometimes i feel like no gender at all like i feel like just a being. Its rare for me to feel like this but i think its significant enough to bring up, But now im wondering would i still be pangender?

(I used to be genderfluid but that didn’t feel right so I don’t think I’m genderfluid)

Im afab, and I believe im pangender. Id love to be a male, or more androgynous, but being female is okay too. Is it okay to feel one or more genders more than others? Or have like a main gender or something? Idk- Also im more comfortable saying 'oh im trans' most of the time, does pangender fall under the trans umbrella? ✨ALSO✨ is it okay for my gender to be influenced by others?? As in, im around females, i feel more fem. Males, more male.

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I use two sets of pronouns and I feel extremely insecure about asking people to learn them so I just let them call me she/her. I know I shouldn't because it hurts my mental well-being.

My online pronouns are gli/glitch/glitches/glits/glitchself My irl pronouns are archaic pronouns thou/thee/thy/thine/thyself

Does anyone else go by different pronouns or neopronouns/xenopronouns

Okay,so I think im pangender. Ive been identifying with pangender for a few days and i feels right, but i have a question! I know i feel every gender, but i don't keep track of the genders i feel. I just say, 'oh yeah im all of da genders!' instead of saying 'i feel uhh paraboy, demiboy, demigirl, etc.' is that okay?

I've explained the actual term, but I'm not sure how to explain it further?? My friend wants to understand me further, and she's saying she's struggling to as she doesn't exactly understand the term, I've been trying my best to explain and she's been really apologetic with me because she can't really understand it that well. I've explained the term but she doesn't get it, does anyone have any ideas on how I could help her to understand??

I feel like almost every gradient of the masculine-feminine spectrum + agender spectrum — including girl, paragirl, demigirl, libragirl, neutral, androgyne, libraboy, demiboy…… etc

So I’m almost an entire spectrum, and my gender definitely feels uncountable & sort of infinite within the spectrum.

However, I do NOT experience binary male (or anything beyond two thirds male, so no paraboy either), aporagender/maverique, or any xenogenders.

Could this be classified as pangender?

I really like the pangender label and flag, and I feel a pull to identify as it. However, I’m aware that I may not fit the definition enough to be pangender. Maybe polygender would be a better fit? It’s just I feel like polygender doesn’t express gender’s uncountability/infinite-ness as explicitly as pangender does and so I like pangender better. If that makes any sense?

Help is needed & very appreciated!

Pretty much since I've known about other genders besides male and female, I've been feeling more and more like I don't care about what pronouns people use for me. I was born female, but I'm also okay if people use they/them or xenopronouns to refer to me. I've been opposed to people using he/him, but I feel like it could just be that I know I'm not male, and I feel like I don't actually care what pronouns people use to refer to me. I don't want to call myself pangender yet, because idk if there's an exact label for what I'm feeling. It's also hard to tell because everyone I know knows that I use she/her, and uses those, and I don't really want to have to explain to them, when I don't know what I'm comfortable with.

I'm not entirely sure what gender label I go by, and this seemed like the best place to ask since Google wasn't helping

Yesterday, I realized I was Pangender.

I used to identify as Trigender but I had been questioning again for a while because I sorta just felt (and still feel) like I was both all genders within the spectrum and also not any specific one. This led me to talk to my NB friend, who is very well-educated on gender and way better at research than me. So they helped me put 2 and 2 together, and find the label that I thought fit me best.

Now I’m here! 🥰

(I use we/us) We’re sorry for a stupid question, but we doubt so much…😭 We only today realized we were a pangender

I have been on a soul searching journey for around a year now. Finally come to the conclusion I am Pangender. It was hard for me for the longest time as I assumed I was Trans masc, but my "gender compass" as I call it, kept swirling so I shall try to explain it like i did to my wife (she is Trans Woman). I feel all at the same time, female focused sometimes and then it swings to masculine, but sometimes i feel none at all. It varies day to day. Am glad to find out I am not the only one. So this is me saying hello and being happy to find I am not alone!

After struggling to figure out my gender identity for a while I have finally come to the conclusion I'm pangender. Which I guess makes me a pangender pansexual, lol. My questions are: what is your experience like being pangender? Doesn't being pangender mean I'm trans? (I experience genders that differ from the one I was assigned at birth, but I experience my assigned gender to, so how does that fit into everything?) Also I found a couple different flags online, what is the flag discourse, and which is the favorite of the community?

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I made a post like this on the agender sub a long time ago, but : No matter how feminine, masculine, or androgynous you are. Your gender identity is completely valid. You don't have to look a certain way to be any gender, your gender is an identity, not a fashion style.💗

My friend is being a jerk, and keeps saying stuff like "I'm more gay / trans than you" or "You're still partly a woman so I don't classify you as a guy" and it hurts my feelings because like... It's not a competition. Everyone is valid. He's trans ftm, and gay mlm, so he should understand this. But he doesn't. I know I'm valid but sometimes I feel like I'm just delusional for being pansexual and pangender. Like maybe I should just say I'm bi and trans demiboy. Clearly that's easier and more well known.

Yippee!!!!!!!

Okay so I’m not 100% sure with the term pangender, I don’t want to be a cis woman who’s just lying and saying she’s pretending to be pangender (which sounds insane but I know other people know the feeling)

So this is like a list of reasons why I think I’m pangender

1. I don’t feel gender dysphoria

Like I feel like cis women would still not like it to be referred to as a man since they are a woman, but like if I were told that I was a man I would say “okay cool”

2. I would love to be a man, but also I like being a woman, but also being nonbinary sounds cool

I would love to look masculine, to be all looking like a man and shit but I also enjoy being a woman, wearing makeup and dresses and fashion, also looking androgynous would be like really cool

3. If someone were to refer to me as a pronoun other than she/her I would be like oh that new, cool

Feels self explanatory, although this hasn’t happened yet so I actually don’t know how I would react

Now why I think I’m just cis

1. I refer to myself as a girl and use she/her pronouns and I’ve only ever been referred to as a girl

Idk if I have anything else.

So could I get some outside opinions on this? Should I continue identifying as pangender?

I'm trans (most of the time at least, im pangender but about 70% pf the time i identify as a girl. I am amab). But i don't feel like anybody will ever really see me as a girl.

when i look in the mirror, my idea of myself doesnt line up with how i look. I feel like i dont look enough like a girl. Which is fucking stupid. You shouldnt have too look like anything to be a girl.

Clothes have no gender. Fasion has no gender. But i still cant break down this mental barrier between my body and my idea of myself. I dont even feel dysphoria the same way anymore. I feel physically disconnected from myself. When i look into a mirror i dont feel like im looking at myself, but rather someone else.

And when i do actually feel like im in my body i feel immense overwhelming self consciousness and dysphoria. I haven't been able to get on hormones becuase of complications with doctors and therapists. I just dont know what to do anymore.

What, in your opinion, separates the terms "agender", "pangender", and "nonbinary"? How do you know which one you are?

This is a Pangea sub reddit? lately I’ve been thinking about Pangea more than normal. im not a bigot. (I have autism)

Hey everyone. I’m just wondering what this would be exactly 😅

I don’t identify with my assigned gender at birth to start with AFAB. I do however identify as feminine but not female so no calling me daughter or women or girl. But I feel fine with my birth name and pronouns sometimes i use they/he pronouns though.

I feel like gender presentation is a aesthetic personally at least for me. I hope that makes sense and then I’ve identified as no gender and in the past I’ve I’ve felt masculine and still continue to feel masculine but not exactly male but I wouldn’t mind being called son or guy.

I’m questioning if I’m pangender or just simply libra fluid so agender but switching to different genders. Because I always go back to feeling like just a person and not necessarily a gender. What do you all think this identity would be? Also if you think it’s a different identity then please feel free to tell me because I’m really confused on this.

Context: The gender I was assigned at birth never felt 100% right for me, to the point where even other kids at school told me, I was not that. I think they wanted to offend me, but I was kind of proud of it. The opposite gender doesn't really fit me either, so being raised in a binary world, I was quite confused. A few years ago, I first heard about the term non binary and felt like it described me well, but was still reluctant to use it. I tried to just live on and not care, but the topic keeps coming back, especially now that I have started university (~2 years ago, but it still feels like yesterday), met my very queer friend group and my girlfriend came out as trans.

When I first heard about the term autigender (being unable to define your own gender, because gender is a social construct and autistic individuals struggle with understanding social constructs) it felt exactly like what I was experiencing, except that even though I am suspected to be autistic (by essentially everyone who knows me, including therapists) I don't have an official diagnosis and it is unlikely that I can get an opportunity to get assessed any time soon, if at all. Since autigender is a locked label exclusively meant for autistics and very controversial as well, it doesn't feel right to use it.

I am panromantic asexual and feel like my general perception of gender and my romantic orientation are super connected. I have often seen being pan described as being genderblind in that context and feel like this really fits: I don't care at all what gender my partner has and I also dont care about my own gender. -> I feel drawn to the label pangender

In the agender community, I have often seen people describe masculinity and femininity as something more like an aesthetic than a gender identity, and I can relate to that. I have asked my girlfriend how she knows what her gender is, and she said she just knows, while I don't. While I respect her identity, I don't understand it or anyone who identifies with a certain gender.-> I feel drawn to the label agender

I like presenting as feminine, but I feel that is partly because I am aesthetically attracted to femininity, partly because it works really well with my body type. I also like presenting as masculine, because men's clothes are so damn comfortable. I love it when people tell me I look androgynous. But I don't feel like all this is really connected to my gender. I also don't think my gender identity is different on, say, a "fem" day vs. a "masc" day, it is always just ☆me☆. I also don't feel the need to use a different name because it is MY name, no matter what gender anyone associates it with. (Luckily, it isn't a super common name, and I associate it mostly with the character I was named after, who doesn't necessarily depict gender expectations)

When googling the definitions, the difference between agender and pangender seem pretty obvious, but in reality it seems very hard for me to tell if I feel all genders at once, resulting in an undistinguishable blur or none at all (think white noise). In general, my opinion is that we would all be better off if there were no genders/stereotypes or even sexes (Let's just be like plants!). Oh, I almost forgot: I think genitals/biological sex is irrelevant to me because as an asexual person, those body parts seem fairly unnecessary to me anyways.

It doesn't bother me, when people use she/her pronouns for me, so there is a part of me that says I am just a cis woman, especially since I learned about the term "gender detachment". It seems to be pretty common for AFABs to not fully connect with being a woman because the definitions/ expectations are just so outdated. (But why do trans women exist then?)

Anyways, analyse the shit out of me and share what you do/don't relate to :)

Have a nice day!

Edit: Feel free to suggest something entirely different if you think that fits