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For cautious pregnant people on this great, perilous journey to parenthood.

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Welcome, you gorgeous Momma you!

This group is for cautious, newly pregnant women who are still in the "unsafe" first trimester, or women in later pregnancy who are looking for like-minded support. A place to discuss your anxieties and joys about early pregnancy and beyond.

I know there are many of us out there who have gone through trials to get pregnant, currently going through trials while pregnant, and women who have been through previous miscarriages, or babyloss. And we wanted to make a comfortable and supportive environment for this situation.

TMI is welcome and expected!


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How to Count the Weeks of Pregnancy

Compilation of Pregnancy, Labor, and Parenting Resources

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Statistic Charts:

Daily Odds of Pregnancy Miscarriage

Pregnancy Due Date Ranges


Here are some more subreddits you might like:

Pre-Pregnancy:

/r/TryingForABaby

/r/stilltrying

/r/ttcafterloss

/r/trollingforababy

/r/TTC30

/r/TFABLinePorn

/r/TFABChartStalkers

/r/waiting_to_try

/r/infertility

/r/TTChealthy

Pregnancy Related:

/r/BabyBumps

/r/BB30

/r/InfertilityBabies

/r/hcgifs

/r/parentsofmultiples

/r/Twins

/r/DecemberBumpers2017

/r/January2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/February2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/March2018Bumpers

/r/AprilBumpers2018

/r/May2018Bumpers

/r/June2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/july2018bumpers (Private)

/r/august2018bumpers (Private)

/r/september2018bumpers (Private)

Pregnancy Loss/Support:

/r/Miscarriage

/r/babyloss

For Dads

/r/predaddit

/r/daddit

Post Pregnancy:

/r/CBTB2 (Once you're a month away from your due date you can send a message through to be added!)

/r/breastfeeding

/r/CsectionCentral

/r/beyondthebump

/r/beyondbaby

/r/NICUParents

/r/Postpartum_Depression

/r/MyPPDSupport

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/r/namenerds

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Reassurance of HCG at 4 weeks

I am 14 or 15 DPO so about 4 weeks and 2 days based off LMP and had betas done today > came back at 151 IU/L > Is this a ok number? In my last pregnancy we didn't start checking until I was after 6 weeks so they were much higher. This seems low to me I go back on Thursday as we are monitoring this for my own peace of mind after my stillbirth... But this number has not given me any peace of mind as I sit here going down a google rabbit hole. What were your numbers around 4 weeks? Does this seem like a good baseline number?

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2024/12/04
01:35 UTC

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Bleeding at 21 weeks

Yesterday afternoon I had blood when I wiped. I wouldn’t consider it spotting but it also wasn’t everywhere. It was only the one time and there hasn’t been any sign of blood since. I did have sex on Sunday late morning but there was no sign of blood until over 24 hours later. I called my OB and they think it was probably from the sex, but they are having me come in tomorrow for a cervix check to be sure. I had a perfect anatomy scan on 11/20. I’m expecting twins and I can feel baby A moving a lot. I haven’t confidently felt B yet. Any positive stories would be great. ❤️

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2024/12/04
01:11 UTC

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Feeling like I’m heading towards the end and I’m an anxious mess

This pregnancy has been endless stress for me, and honestly I’m causing a lot of stress for my husband. From the second I tested positive I have been a nervous wreck. I lost my first pregnancy last year and that has caused an insane amount of anxiety for an already anxious person.

First, my tests were progressing very slowly. So I decided to get some HCG tests. The first two were great.

….but then my symptoms disappeared and I got a third. The third result showed an extremely slow doubling time from my second. 87 hours. Not good.

I started spotting and having pain in my left side a few days later, so my doc ordered a transvaginal ultrasound to rule out an ectopic.

Amazingly, we saw the baby with a heartbeat (113), fetal pole, etc…unfortunately, the baby was measuring 4-5 days behind.

I just KNOW this pregnancy is heading for the end. And honestly I feel like this whole process is giving myself and my husband false hope. ALL the research shows that there is a 99% chance this will miscarry, so why is it dragging on?

I’m just an anxious mess. I’m falling behind at work and it’s hurting my relationship. If it’s going to end I wish it would just end already. I feel lead on. Or if it’s going to stay can I PLEASE get some reassurance numbers or a good scan??? Ugh. It’s all so frustrating and nerve wracking.

Thanks for listening

18 Comments
2024/12/04
01:06 UTC

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HCG was doubling slow and now fast?

Does it seem concerning that my hcg doubling time has varied so much? Also, from hcg by dpo charts I’ve seen, it looks like my 17 & 19 dpo numbers were lower than average, but all the other days had average hcg numbers for the dpo. I’m not getting any more hcg tests done, so now I just have to wait until my ultrasound.

11 DPO: 22

13 DPO: 71 (28 hr doubling time)

15 DPO: 159 (41 hr doubling time)

17 DPO: 284 (57 hr doubling time)

19 DPO: 624 (42 hr doubling time)

22 DPO: 2688 (32 hr doubling time)

If I just put my first & last number into a calculator, it says the doubling time from 11 dpo to 22 dpo was 37.50 hours. This mostly gives me peace but I’m still a tad worried about it slowing down in the middle.

2 Comments
2024/12/04
00:45 UTC

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HCG rising but not properly. In limbo

TW: multiple losses

I had a MMC in July that caught me off guard so I requested betas early this time around. At 13 DPO beta was 47 and yesterday at 20 DPO it was only 100 which is a horrible doubling rate. The doctor said “it could go either way” and didn’t raise the alarms but I feel like there is no way this pregnancy is viable and they are not really telling me the reality of the situation.

I don’t really know how to keep going from here. I just want answers but likely won’t have them till the end of the week. We’re supposed to take our son on a trip for his 2nd birthday and i just can’t imagine traveling if I know this is coming.

9 Comments
2024/12/04
00:07 UTC

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NIPT test

Just got my bloodwork done today and they said it’ll take a week. Ugh. I’m so anxious.

0 Comments
2024/12/03
23:26 UTC

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Suppose to be 9 weeks but measuring 5 weeks

Curious someone I know is measuring 5 weeks at first scan but it suppose to be around 9 weeks lmp was September 21 . Is there a possible of late ovulation? Even with lmp being all the way September 21? There was just an empty sac, no bleeding or spotting or any pain.

9 Comments
2024/12/03
23:09 UTC

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Please help, scared. Potential MD

TLDR; 7w pregnant, HCG 33,000+, ultrasounds a week apart both deemed to show empty sacs by radiology, told expect a blighted ovum so had a glass of wine, my additional anxiety meds, and used a heating pad. Panicking because did I hurt my baby if they are wrong?

I’ve had spotting and cramping this whole pregnancy, I am meant to be 7+1 off of LMP and 7+3 off ovulation. I found out I was pregnant 11/7, and 11/13 weeks went to the ER for cramps. My HCG was 58 and we only saw the corpus lutem cyst.

Monitored my HCG and it was going up appropriately, but on 11/22 felt discharge come out before jumping in the shower and it was dark brown blood. Called the Dr on call and she told me it’s most likely a blighted ovum. We had a scan the following Tuesday (11/26) and measured a full week behind schedule. Follow up scan was scheduled for this Friday.

Over thanksgiving waiting for the scan I had some red spotting on and off. I have anxiety and ocd (treated now but has been severe in the past) so we went for a private scan yesterday, where we only saw the sac. This led us to be referred to the ER. 5 hours later and after a 45 min ultrasound the radiologist ruled the sac had grown but again empty. The OB on call told us this is not going to end well and will be abnormal. She thought she maybe saw a flicker of a sac in one angle - not in others - and wouldn’t give us a diagnosis officially and sent us back to my current OB. This is despite an empty sac reading by two different ultrasounds a week apart from two different hospitals and two different radiologists and HCG now being above 33,000 - aka SOMETHING should be visible.

We have had a lot of issues with them these past few weeks and will be moving at the conclusion of this. Basically every nurse we have seen agrees the laws in my newly red state are ridiculous. When I called today one of the head nurses wanted to give me medication to help me pass the assumed BO. She called after speaking to Dr and they said I need to come in Friday but I'll get medication then.

I called back and explained I am just petrified of them double backing, but the head nurse said they won’t. I told her I was terrified of them saying I need another ultrasound in 10 days and she was like “no, no, no. They are going to do an ultrasound, explain what happened, and explain what happens next and you’ll get your medication from pharmacy.” I asked, “do we just need the 10 days proof because of the political and legal things to cover asses (and then apologized for not explaining it so politely) and she said yes.”.

HERE IS WHY I AM SCARED - the drs told me use a heating pad, take my additional anxiety meds (should not be taken pregnant), and so my husband and friends encouraged me as such to have a glass of wine last night. Now I’m down the rabbit hole that maybe something is in there and that one dr was maybe right (even though we would have to terminate for medical reasons), so please give it to me straight on what to expect.

15 Comments
2024/12/03
21:23 UTC

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13dpt

So this is my 1st medical cycle did letrozole cd3-7 and triggered on cd14 I am now 13dpt and testing negative on pregnancy test . Wondering what’s the latest someone got a positive?

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2024/12/03
20:58 UTC

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what can I expect at my 7 week ultrasound?

I will be 7+4 (calculated from date of my last menstrual period) when we get our ultrasound.

However, I ovulated around CD15, so doesn't that mean that I'm only about 5 weeks?! Are they going to be able to see anything?

This is pregnancy #3 after two consecutive losses. Send all of the good vibes and positive success stories my way! 🌈🌈

3 Comments
2024/12/03
20:56 UTC

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Betas still rising fast after 6000?

If you look at my post history, I was recently worried about my betas slowing down a bit...now I'm worried that they're rising too fast!

Here are my betas:

13 dpo: 36

15 dpo: 129 (26 hr doubling time)

18 dpo: 543 (35 hr doubling time)

20 dpo: 1254 (40 hr doubling time)

23 dpo: 2907 (59 hr doubling time)

26 dpo: 9570 (42 hr doubling time)

I was crossing my fingers that I'd at least stay around 72 hrs with this last one. I wasn't expecting it to speed up again. I can't even find anything on all the forums about betas rising fast at this point. Anyone else experience this?

4 Comments
2024/12/03
20:50 UTC

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Pizza & listeria

Totally spaced out and ate a slice of pepperoni pizza at Sbarro in the mall. Of course now I am freaking out about Listeria. It was reheated but surely sitting out for a bit too. Do you think I’m ok??

9 Comments
2024/12/03
20:50 UTC

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Welp… there is no baby :(

My first positive test was Nov 9 @ 12 DPO Had a blood test Nov 15 , Hgc came back @ 1719. Today dec 3 had first ultrasound , unfortunately there was no baby … Any advice for better luck next time? Diet ? Vitamins ? Anything?… thank you

45 Comments
2024/12/03
20:42 UTC

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Hcg at 14 dpo

I got my beta back today on 14 dpo and it is 7. Any success stories with similar betas? Praying this 🌈 baby sticks.

6 Comments
2024/12/03
20:27 UTC

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10wks 2 days pregnant brown discharge or blood

I’ve had light brown blood or discharge when I wipe along with cramping I’m scared it’s the start of a miscarriage. Any others experience this? Any good outcomes?

5 Comments
2024/12/03
20:24 UTC

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5 week US to rule out ectopic now this…..?

I went for my 5 week ultrasound yesterday. I was 5 weeks on the dot so I didn’t expect to see much of anything. I even told the tech that I was slightly annoyed my doc sent me SO early cause i felt it was almost pointless and probably just gunna heighten my anxiety if she really did see zero. She agreed it could have waited a week.

Anyways, she did an abdominal and transvaginal. She was so kind and actually told me her opinion on everything (here in Canada you literally have to beg the techs to tell you anything at all). So whatever most likely no ectopic which is good but I have a corpus luteum cyst on my right side (previous ectopic side) which is causing the pain I’m having.

Fast forward to today, almost 24 hours after my ultrasound. Pink spotting/discharge. It’s making me sick to my stomach cause I have BEEN. THROUGH. IT with the baby game (as I know a lot of us have and yes, it super sucks). I’m trying to convince myself I’m fine and that it could be from cervical irritation from the ultrasound yesterday but at the same time I’m like “24 hours seems like a long time after to start spotting”.

Has anybody experienced spotting a while after a transvaginal ultrasound before? Am I being completely delulu cause spotting is normal at 5 weeks? I dont know….. somebody try and make me feel better over here and tell me your stories LOL

Xoxo

EDIT: the early ultrasound yesterday was to rule out an ectopic as I’ve had one in the past. She said she saw the sac but no pole. I’m so lost right now 😪

6 Comments
2024/12/03
20:23 UTC

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Embryo suddenly gone?

I'm not writing this post in hopes of false hope, as I am 99.9% sure this is a miscarriage. I just have never heard of this happening and can't find anything online about it. 2 weeks ago, the tech saw a fetal pole, yolk sac and heartbeat of 113BPM. Everything seemed viable and the doctor was extremely optimistic. However, today I went back and they did not see anything and they said the sac has not grown. I have not bled or cramped or even spotted. I just don't see how this is possible at all. It doesn't make sense to me. I would like it if someone can tell me if they've ever heard of this or if it happened to them. I'm absolutely devastated.

7 Comments
2024/12/03
19:01 UTC

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5w5d heartbeat at 90 bpm - looking for reassurance

Hi everyone!

I had my first ultrasound today at 5 weeks 5 days. The tech was able to find a heartbeat, but it measured around 90 bpm. I know that’s on the lower side for this stage, and it’s been hard not to stress about it. It’s measuring as it should be, but the heart rate has my heart racing lol.

I had a missed miscarriage at 10.5 weeks back in July, so I’m feeling extra worried this time around. My next scan is in two weeks, and the waiting is already torture.

Has anyone had experience with a lower heart rate at this stage and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? I’d appreciate hearing similar positive situations or any advice.

Thanks so much!

4 Comments
2024/12/03
18:56 UTC

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13+3, morning sickness getting worse

I just want to rant.

I’m currently taking half a unisom at night and B6 in the morning (if I take any more than half a unisom I turn into a zombie the next day). The medication makes it so I don’t feel nauseous all the time, but it does not prevent me from suddenly getting sick after eating. I’m losing at least one meal a day. The one day I tried skipping unisom completely, I lost every meal I ate that day. For a few weeks there I only got sick once every 3-4 days but now I’m back to being sick every day! So much for symptoms getting better as the second trimester approaches!

9 Comments
2024/12/03
15:00 UTC

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How to deal with crippling anxiety after loss?

I've had three missed miscarriages in the last year. I'm newly pregnant (15 dpo) and I feel sick to my stomach with anxiety 24/7. I thought my lines were progressing ok on my wondfo tests but I took an easy at home and it still looks really light and now I'm absolutely spiraling. I have no symptoms. I'm dreading what's to come - a series of scans full of bad news, waiting for the slow heart rate to stop, choosing between pills and surgery, going through weeks of bleeding and hormone drops all for nothing. I'm trying to stay positive but it's not easy.

20 Comments
2024/12/03
14:50 UTC

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When did you stop progesterone suppositories?

3 losses under my belt, pregnant with #4. Viability ultrasound at 6w5d showed everything it should, measuring ahead at 7w and hb of 140.

Clinic just sent my med instructions and told me to stop progesterone at 8 weeks next week. This seems early... Anyone else stop this soon?

Thanks!

28 Comments
2024/12/03
14:49 UTC

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Doctor keeps insisting my dates are wrong but they can't be.

I'm so frustrated with my optimistic doctor and increasing pregnancy symptoms when I'm almost certain this pregnancy isn't viable.

My doctor brought me in for a follow-up ultrasound after only finding a gestational sac the first time. I had an early scan because of some bleeding and cramping. According to my LMP I would have been 7w the first time, and 8w yesterday, but I think those numbers are a week ahead, and that I was actually 6ish and 7ish weeks at the scans. Either way, far enough along that I'm certain they should have seen something, especially at the follow-up. All they saw at the second scan was that the sac had grown (1.37cm) but is still empty, and that my HCG is continuing to rise. To me, that pretty much guarantees a blighted ovum.

Both the doctor and ultrasound tech believe I'm "way off" with my dates. However, I can't be "way off" because I got a positive pregnancy test 4 full weeks ago. That would have to have been an absolute minimum of 9dpo, and 3+ weeks pregnant already.

What's going on here? Are they just stringing me along while they wait for some amount of time to pass so they can legally declare it a nonviable pregnancy? They want me to come back for another scan next week, and my doctor told me he's "pretty sure we'll see something positive." That seems impossible to me based on the hundreds of accounts of blighted ova I've read over the past two weeks.

He wouldn't even discuss medical/surgical abortion options with me because he said things are looking too optimistic for us to do that.

tl;dr dates are not adding up but doctor is optimistic.

16 Comments
2024/12/03
14:16 UTC

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Beta HCG over a week

Mostly just looking for reassurance - I've had betas drawn 11, 14, and 17 DPO (holidays made it tough to hit every other day!) with levels of 72, 200, and 563 respectively.

It's about a 51 hour doubling time for the 14 -> 17 DPO values. I know that's within normal range, but I'm worried that it's gone down from the initial doubling rate. I had a recent chemical as well and am just so worried this pregnancy won't stick

6 Comments
2024/12/03
14:13 UTC

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TW Bleeding/spotting

I am currently 6 weeks 1 day today. On Sunday I started bleeding while I was at work. I was able to leave and go to the ER. (I don’t do any heavy lifting. I just walk around and talk to people.) I did go home first since I do have to take progesterone and when inserting that’s when I saw the amount of blood. I never filled up a pad but it was dark red with some clots. At the ER they did an ultrasound. They said it might still be too early but they couldn’t find a fetal pole. My HCG was at 14448. They were also concerned with the cyst I had in my right ovary. I do have PCOS but they mentioned the cysts were larger. That night the bleeding went away and I had brown discharge with tissue. Yesterday was also just a lot of brown spotting but went away at the end of the day. I have my appointment tomorrow morning but I guess I wanted to see if anyone has gone through anything similar and what was the outcome. I have been TTC for four years and this is my first pregnancy.

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2024/12/03
13:48 UTC

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Substantial BBT drop and diminished symptoms at 12+4.

I’ve had previously MCs and CPs but and always had a drop in BBT and loss of symptoms. Today I woke up and measured a substantial drop in BBT (-0,4). Throughout this pregnancy I’ve consistently measured + 0,2 - 0,4 from baseline. I’ve never been this far along, my MC has always been quite early. Should I prepare myself for the worst? I’ve also lost symptoms lately, but I know that can be common when first trimester is coming to an end. I have my first scan on Friday. Should I reach out to my GP?

8 Comments
2024/12/03
12:35 UTC

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Breast/nipple tenderness gone 5w5d

I (33F) am 5w5d pregnant after a MMC in July at 7w1d. I have noticed that my one and only symptom (breast/nipple tenderness) has completed disappeared over the last few days. Now my breasts just feel normal, not even heavy. I cried to my husband in bed last night as I just feel like history is repeating itself after I had such hope for this pregnancy. I have no other symptoms and I’m getting very worried.

2 Comments
2024/12/03
12:19 UTC

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Don’t know what to think… thoughts? Advice? Antecdote?

I’m currently in low & slow hcg limbo and am looking for opinions/similar numbers and results (good or bad).

Backstory: I got a vvfl on 10dpo. Continued to test and line was not getting much darker (figured it was going to be chemical). After a very sloowww start, my lines finally started to darken around 16dpo but were still no where near where I was seeing other people at that point. I reached out to my doctor and she ordered HCG for reassurance. Numbers are below:

11/25 - 17dpo: 79 11/27 - 19dpo: 190 11/29 - 20dpo/4w6d: 442 12/2 - 24dpo/5w2d: 799

After the first three draws, I was cautiously optimistic. I ransacked different subs for others with similar stories and while some stopped progressing, the consensus seemed to be that as long as it’s doubling, it’s a good sign.

Well today comes around and after 74 hours (due to weekend), my number went up but didn’t even quite double.

Obviously, I will reach out to doctor tomorrow and see what she thinks. In the meantime, any thoughts or advice are welcome!

2 Comments
2024/12/03
03:03 UTC

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Drano? I know I sound crazy

Hi hi! I’m 10w pregnant and today my husband used bathroom cleaner on our clogged shower drain. I went in like 5 mins later and showered while the smell was still pretty strong - to be fair, I had just vomited all over myself and wasn’t really thinking clearly. I was in the bathroom for like 15 minutes or so with the door shut. Could this harm my baby? I feel so stupid now

3 Comments
2024/12/03
01:44 UTC

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HCG at 17 DPO?

I tested faaaaint positive last Monday 10 DPO and had positive early digitals (sensitivity of 10) by Tuesday night. Couldn’t get my blood drawn last week because of the holiday but I went today at 17 DPO, or 4 weeks 3 days, and it was 217. That seems low to me because when I was pregnant with my son my betas were 38 at 11 DPO, 92 at 13 DPO, and 1003 at 18 DPO. Should I be worried?

3 Comments
2024/12/03
00:37 UTC

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10w scan Large Gestational Sac

I just had my 10w scan. The fetus measured on the dot at 10w too.

However my gestational sac measured one week older. It is almost 20mm larger than the CRL. Is this any cause of concern?

4 Comments
2024/12/03
00:09 UTC

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