Officially 23 weeks today with triplets. We plan on purchasing a vehicle by the end of December . It needs to be a 6 seater for the 3 girls , my husband and I, and his mom . Which SUV do you guys have or highly recommend for 3+ kids?

My spouse is 30 weeks pregnant with di/di twins and was already seeing a MFM. She woke up the other day with unexplained bleeding after some pelvic pain a day before. Scary moment for us.

Clinical diagnosis is Placental Abruption but bleeding has stopped and the twins are doing good. They aren’t picking up any risks on the cervix, contractions, and scans don’t show much. She is being monitored over the next four days at the hospital out of precaution.

What can I do as a husband? Is there anything I can advocate for? She has weekly MFM appointments from this point on.

My wife and I need to fly to the Bay Area in January with our 6 month old twins. We have a grandmother traveling with us. This is our first trip as a family of 4. We will be staying with family in 3 different locations. We are renting a minivan. We plan to also rent car seats. Any travel tips? Is this doable? What do we need to bring? getting daunted but also ready to Rip off the travel band aid.

Does anyone ever feel like being a twin parent is isolating? I mean it in the sense that people don’t really understand and their advice or comments usually just land wrong. I guess some days I feel overwhelmed, but I also generally just keep it to myself because none of my friends or family have twins and I find that most of their advice isn’t helpful but also invalidating at times. Sometimes I just feel like I’m on my own little island without a ton of support (even though I do have a lot of people around ).

Anyway just venting or looking for solidarity lol

I just found out I'm having twins, with my last baby I did all natural no medication. I was so glad I did. Although at my appointment the nurse practitioner said I'd have to have an epidural and probably have a c-section. I asked if it really wasn't possible to have a natural birth and she said no doctor would recommend I do that and then scared me saying if I didn't have an epidural and one of the babies flipped I'd have to be put on anesthesia and then the babies would probably have to be resuscitated and then I wouldn't see them for an hour until I woke up. I'm really hurt by this honestly because I really want to try and do all natural again. I also don't want to hurt my babies though.

Hey guys,

My girls are a week away from 5 months old. It feels like for the past week, they've been napping like crap (up every 15-30 mins but tired again in half an hour), always seem hungry but don't eat much in a sitting, and sleeping like crap, in 2-4 hour intervals at night. Extremely fussy and more difficult than usual to soothe. I thought we hit the 4 month sleep regression already, but maybe this is it? When they're awake they're making whining and distressed sounds often, when when they've been freshly changed and fed.

My question is - is this just a normal stage I need to wait out for a few weeks or is this possibly sign I need to do a routine with them? Usually I just follow their cues and until now, it's been working fine. Now it just seem like nothing quite makes them happy - not food or cuddles or bouncer or toys, but they also fight sleep very hard.

Thanks in advance!

Hello guys , I’m expecting my twin girls next week at 35 weeks & I was scared of nicu time & if I would have to have a C-Section ! My gyno has told me little to no information about the birth & I was wondering if you guys could tell me a couple of your stories if you guys had any 🥹🙏🏾

They will be one month in a couple of days. I know they don’t do much now other than eat, sleep, poop, and cry but I’m getting bored of that routine. I feel bad even saying it but I also sometimes feel a little hard to connect with my girls. I know I love them in the sense that I deeply care about them and wouldn’t want anything bad to happen to them but all I can find myself saying to them when they are awake is “my little princess, you’re so beautiful, you’re so cute” I give them kisses but I guess I’m just waiting to see what they’re personalities will be like. Is there anything I can do to feel more connected and have some fun ?

And just general advice on raising them? I have cousins that are twins so it runs in my family and I was expecting mine to be fraternal twins as well because they are di/di. My NIPT came back and it says monozygotic so I’m a little shocked but yeah. Any advice from anyone is welcome please(:

I have 10 month old twins that are currently still in their infant carrier car seats. We live in a townhome type apartment with a parking lot(no assigned parking so sometimes we're close to our door and sometimes we're very far). The twins are getting way too heavy to carry both in their bucket seats in and out of the house by myself, but I also have no idea how to transport them without the seats or leaving one in the car to go grab the other, lock the door, etc. (which I am not comfortable with). The thought of taking them out of car seats and into a stroller for several yards feels incredibly annoying. I have successfully taken them out of the car, but it was a challenge as they're wiggly. Any advice on how to get both babies in/out of the car in one full swoop that isn't a complete pain and safe?

We are flying across country with our 5 month old twins for thanksgiving. Any advice/tips? Flight is at night so hoping they sleep most of it.

I don’t know where to begin. I’m trying my hardest to stay positive, so I don’t fall into a depression and so I can be the best Mom I can be to my baby boys.

I’m a single FTM to 3 mo twins. Besides support from my mother I have no one and no other help. I’m currently living with her and she helps tremendously as far as taking us to our appointments, running errands for me and occasionally holding one while they’re both acting up. For the most part I’m home alone with them because she does have her own life and works very hard. Because she does so much already, has had her own children years ago and she didn’t bring mine into the world I feel a sense of guilt and shame asking her for more than she already does.

Prior to giving birth to my babies - which I love so much and couldn’t see life without now - I contemplated on whether I wanted to go through with the pregnancy or not. I’ve always wanted to be a mom but I wasn’t where I wanted to be in my life and wasn’t sure if I’d be capable of providing for a baby. When I told the father I was pregnant he encouraged me to terminate the pregnancy because “he wanted us to enjoy our time together first”.

SPOILER: I decided to keep it and I distanced myself from him. We spoke about getting married and having a bunch of kids on plenty of occasions so I was unsure why the sudden change in energy. But then again I know people tend to say things they don’t mean.

He ended up reaching out to me a month later and I tell him I’m still pregnant and to my surprised he seemed happy about it. At this point I’ve yet to find out I’m having twins so when I finally find that out and tell him he reassured me we’d find a way to make it all work. Sure enough when they were born (8 weeks early might I add) he called here and there “to check on us”, probably sent a total of $300 for them and never even came to see them - ever. He actually disappeared off the face of the earth and he hasn’t answered a call or text in 2 months.

I say all this to say I’ve already failed my children. As I stated before I try to keep it together for them but today has been such a rough day. They have been crying nonstop and I feel like crying. I feel so much guilt for bringing them into a life that is far less than what I wanted for my kids. For getting frustrated when I’m left to do everything and it not nearly being enough. I look at their cute little innocent faces and my heart breaks for them because as challenging as parenthood is, I couldn’t imagine how as a parent you could abandon them. While I feel sad knowing I didn’t choose the right man to be a father to them, selfishly I’m grateful for having them.

All in all on most days I feel defeated. All days I’m hiding the fact that I’m mentally and emotionally losing it. I don’t know how or when things will start to look brighter but I guess this is what being a mother is? It is without a doubt the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced.

On a day as shitty as today I have no choice but to keep pushing through. And if you’ve made it this far, thanks for listening (reading). Time to go pump ✌️

A purposfully broad question, I did a search for sleep trainging and the posts where mostly specific to certain scenarios, but I was curious to any and everyones succesfull sleep training methods. Hoping to keep a running list I can referance/try as I try to sort out what works best for my wife and I's kids on the way

I’m 29 weeks with di/di twins. I have felt baby A move less and less each day over the past couple weeks. Baby B is constantly moving and making his presence known. Baby A is measuring very small and they think she has a cord issue but we don’t know for sure yet. I told my doctor about decreased movement and she said if baby A keeps being sluggish or I don’t feel her, go to OBED. I went last night because I noticed I hadn’t felt her move all day (I have a receptionist job so I would’ve felt her). They did an NST and said her heartbeat was great and they sent me home. They said to get in touch with my OB and see if she wanted to do an ultrasound (why they couldn’t have done an ultrasound in the OBED is beyond me). I told my OB everything and she was supposed to get back to me but they closed and now I won’t hear anything until Monday at least🙃 has anyone had a cord issue and the heartbeat was fine? Or am I just worrying for nothing? I feel like I see stories all the time where baby has a heartbeat but something else is wrong and they don’t know it because they only checked the heartbeat.

Should I get a second opinion? I understand some babies are just bad sleepers, but this seems a bit ridiculous. He used to sleep 4-5 hour stretches until 6 months. Ever since then, for the past 2 months, he will fall asleep for 5 minutes to an hour then wake up crying. Sometimes I’ll pat his bum and he’ll fall asleep then wake up 5 minutes later crying. He was previously sleep trained, and he does still fall asleep on his own he just doesn’t STAY asleep. I’ve tried to let him cry it out but he’ll cry until he pukes. He’s a twin, and his twin pretty much sleeps through the night, so I know it’s not a problem with the room. They are both breastfed and both gaining normally.

I haven’t slept for 2 months and I’m so fucking tired and it’s making me resent motherhood. I just want him to sleep. I’ll just pat his butt all night long and breastfeed him while bawling my eyes out. I don’t know what to do. Every night it doesn’t get better, it seems to get worse.

Has anyone else gone through this? Do you think there’s something wrong or is he just a bad sleeper?

Hi everyone!

28w2d with mono/di twins.

I had a growth scan this morning outside of my doctors office because the ultrasound tech at my doctors office was out for today. I was supposed to have a doctors appointment to discuss the results today as well, but they called and rescheduled it for Monday.

At my ultrasound appointment, she said Baby A was measuring 2 pounds 6 ounces and Baby B was measuring 2 pounds 13 ounces, which sounded like a fairly major size discrepancy to me.

Of course, I made the mistake of googling it… and according to google, this is a 27% discordance. I’m not sure how google calculated that or if it’s accurate, but now I’m freaking out.

I’ve called my doctors office multiple times, and they said since the doctor is out of the office today due to being at the hospital, they cannot give me any information and I will have to wait until Monday.

I tried calling the office that did my imagining and speaking to them directly and no such luck.

Of course now I am freaking out and going down a google rabbit hole and it seems like I will have to wait until Monday to get any solid answers. Uhg. 😞

Hi!

Planning on flying from the East Coast to the West Coast for Christmas. I'll be 23-24 weeks over that time. Did anyone fly during this time? How was it? Was your MFM against it or ok with it?

2nd Q is - my work commute is usually 45 mins to 1 hour each way. I'm 5'1" and today sitting in my car I had the thought that my belly might become too big to drive. I was going to try to keep working until 30 weeks but I'm not sure if that is realistic. It's probably not (I have an active job) but have no idea how I'll feel then I can't even imagine it haha. Not only that but I'm only 16 weeks (small bump. mo-di twins) and just drove 4 hours and my back is killing me.

Thanks for the insight!

I took a week off work to spend time with my boys since I’ve been back working since they were 10 weeks old and I only really see them on the weekends. I was determined to really observe their sleep patterns and try and get them on a a better schedule in hopes of having less crabbiness in the evenings. They go to my moms 2 days a week and in home child care 3 days a week. No matter where they are, they come home around 3 and are such little turds.

So since taking notes on them all week (lol) I’m seeing a pattern of a 9am nap and a 12pm ish nap. The problem is they wake up after one sleep cycle sooo cranky! They def need at least a 2 hour nap here I’m finding. But they need intervention to go back to sleep. Typically snuggles or rocking or something along those lines. I know this is pretty normal developmentally and most people contact nap to rescue a nap when they have a singleton. I can’t contact nap two of them but I’ve gotten creative this week in how to intervene and keep them asleep for another hour at least.

However, I can’t expect my mom or a child care provider to do what I’m doing to help them link these sleep cycles (you should see my bed right now with how I have it divided so I can tend to both while keeping them from disturbing eachother. I sit here and watch them the whole time). So I’m wondering if there’s something else I can do to help them stay on this schedule. It’s really helped them the past few days. They’re so much happier and sleeping better at night too.

I follow wake windows but also just go off their cues when I can tell they’re really getting tired.

Here was today for example: 7am wake 9-9:35 nap 11-11:50 nap 1:15 back down for another nap (sooo cranky) Both woke around 2:05 but I helped them back to sleep and they’re still sleeping soundly They’ll probably wake around 3, then nap again around 5 for 25-45 mins before bed time, which is typically around 7:30.

Any ideas? I suck at this.

Has anyone not done a ton of structured socialization for their LOs and they turned out fine? Mine are almost 14 months, still somewhat in survival mode, and I really stress we’re not giving them enough socialization. We do walks and parks (they mostly just look around), we can do stores, but we are new to where we live so we don’t know anyone to do playdates. I’ve tried joining FB groups but they’re all private. Playground structures are too big for them, but they do watch other bigger kids. They can’t sit for library time. So mostly they interact with each other at home or with us / grandparents. We give them large play areas with tons of toys (eg slides etc). We are hoping to take them traveling soon but that’s a whole ordeal and not truly socialization with others. Are they ok? I worry I’m messing them up somehow and they’ll get anxiety around people / kids later.

I try to do the best for them on every front but this front is really a struggle that feels a bit beyond my control. Has anyone not done a ton of structured socialization at this age and had it all be fine? 😬

I have 4 month old Di/Di twins and am having such a generally terrible time being at home with them. Daycare would run about $2,000 a month for a respectable facility. My mortgage doesn’t even amount to that. Before I could put them in daycare I would have to find a job as well.

How do I even do this? They’re so alert and demanding. I’m so burnt out. My husband works 12 hour shifts. It’s exhausting. They scream and cry so much. They hate bouncy seats, play mats, swings, etc. They just want to be held but they have to be held how they want to be held and it just doesn’t work with two.

Idk I’m just rambling - I’m so tired of dreading my life. I don’t have any help. My family sucks. His family sucks. Ever since they’ve become more alert nobody wants to sit around and help for 12 hours. Paying for help for 12 hours is more expensive than daycare.

21 M/O (20 corrected and they are a little bit like chalk and cheese)

Not physically finally have nailed but as in how to get twins more chill in a library and listen to story time. It’s currently feels like fire fighting two gremlins when we go. We read a lot at home and they can get the whole sitting down for story time at home but the library version seems impossible. They just want to run around and it all chaotic Feeling very jealous of the singleton parents who can sit there 1-1 with their kid to get them used to setting 😭

Any advice or is it just one of those “with time things)

Hi guys!! I just found out yesterday at 7+3w that I am pregnant with twins. I had a basic idea of what I needed on a baby registry but now with two, I am hoping to get your recommendations on what I should put on a registry + buy.

What are we doing when we have twins who both want to be held constantly?! It’s hard to hold them together cause they can’t hold their heads up that well yet (they are 3 months old, 1 month corrected). But I have to wash bottles, do laundry, go to the bathroom 😅 and they both just scream even though all their needs are met. They hate swings, bouncers, their play mat, they hate the baby carriers we have so I can’t wear them. Do I just let them cry while I get things done? I feel bad but I have to do things. I can’t hold them 24/7.. ugh. I go back to work next Wednesday and my husband will be taking over. He hilariously thinks this won’t be happening for him and that they’ll learn to like their swing, bouncers, etc. He said “they won’t be crying all day like this for me” Okay.. 🤣

I’ve been weighing my options when I have to go back to work. Do I:

1. take the babies to daycare and spend a lot of $$$$ and leave them with strangers that leaves me uneasy because of all the horror stories you hear from daycare centers on the news.
2. leave them with my mom that doesn’t work ( if she even wants to ) but also, I’ve seen her get stressed out/ annoyed a couple of times even since she got here like 5 days ago to help me at home because the babies cry a lot and want to be entertained most of the day. I don’t want her to snap on the babies so I fully don’t trust her either.
3. or do I not go back to work and basically lose my really good paying career and all the progress I’ve made there for years because I really really don’t want to leave my babies at all or trust them with anyone 😔

im open to other suggestions too. I know I worry way too much but that’s unfortunately how I am. I also know that no one is going to be as patient with the babies as me. It takes a lot for me to really get overwhelmed with them. I already know their personalities

Thanks in advance to anyone that takes the time to respond to this post!

Hi all, I have twins, one boy one girl and they turned four in june. they have their own bedrooms but they don’t sleep in them and they sleep with me in my bed. they’ve been through some trauma this year so i’ve had them with me to help heal. How do i move them from my room into theirs, either sleeping together in one room or individually in their own. I’ve tried buying them special sheets and that hasn’t worked, but when they sleep together, my boy wakes up my girl when he wakes up and it causes her to be quite tired and unhappy throughout the day. I need help!

My 17 month boys are on their last legs in their cribs. One has climbed out, the other prob isn’t far behind. They share a room and there’s no possibility of them not, but it hasn’t been an issue prior to this - when one cries, the other just sleeps through it. But ever since the one climbed out, we pushed the cribs together (so he would end up in his brothers crib instead of falling to the ground), and sleep has been bad. They will intentionally wake each other up when upset, throw their pacifiers all over the place and then get upset when they’re gone, etc. They do actually frequently talk and play throughout the night - it’s cute but they need to sleep and between that and the crying it keeps everyone up (2 other kids also).

Our plan was to put a queen mattress down and have them share, but now I’m not sure, as won’t they just be bothering each other all night? To those whose multiples have always shared a room, what did you guys do at this point? Any tips? Do I just need to let them play around and figure it out on their own?

2 month old boys and baby A spits up all the time. We’ve nicknamed him Mauno Loa. Now baby B is starting to spit up more consistently. So is it just bibs, bibs, bibs? So annoying to get them layered and then they spit up on all my hard work.

Please tell me it stops at 2 months and a week.