Don't get me wrong, I love my twin sibling it's just the fact that people treat us like the same person all the time. For me this has gotten to such a high point to were people just call us "the twins". Probably the worst thing though happened today. So baisically i'm in a school play, and guess what play it is.................. a dr seuss musical. I auditioned for a completley diffrent role and this one role was not even on the roles list. And guess what role I found out I got today.................... THING 2 and my twin sibling got thing 1. I can say I did not specifically say I did not want the role, but it was not on the roles list, so how was I supposed to know? Something like this happened last year when I was in theatre last year. It was a mean girls play and me and my twin got the role of lions THE ONLY 2 I cant say I did not enjoy that role though. Another bad thing is people can't seem to tell us apart even my close friends.

This is my first Halloween without my twin since she’s at university while I do online college at home so I’m kinda sad but I’m still gonna have fun. I’m planning to eat pizza, watch Nightmare Before Christmas and Over The Garden Wall, handing out candy, and playing the new Sonic game.

Hi twins! I'm a mom to identical twin boys who will be 2 this winter. Not only do my boys share a birthday (obviously) but they also were born the same day as their cousin (17 hours apart) and their Grandfather. On top of that, we have 3 other family members who have their birthday that week.

I know growing up as twins, birthdays can be a sensitive day. I feel my boys have it extra tough and worry about them not feeling celebrated as their own person and their birthday feeling more like a 2nd Christmas that isn't about them.

I had a thought to make them feel special and would love some opinions from you guys if you think they will like this as a tradition growing up. They were NICU babies and were in there for 3 & 4 weeks (Twin A came home first). I think it would be fun for my husband and I to do one-on-one days with them on the anniversary of the day they came home. We would do a full friend/family bday on their actual birthday but then they could pick a special activity the day they came home and their brother would stay home with a sitter or something. My only concern is that the dates are 9 days apart and that might feel like a long time for Twin B to wait for his day. But at the same time, most siblings have different birthdays so maybe he will understand?

TIA!

Hey guys, I’m writing here and because I’ve been doing some research since me and my partner have been seriously discussing children. However, im a fraternal twin (with a brother, I’m a girl) and my mother is also a fraternal twin with a girl. From my research, I was able to conclude that the chances are higher, but I’m kinda worried because I don’t want twins. (Edit to add: the reason I “don’t want” twins is because my mum almost died giving birth to me and my brother, due to the complications in the pregnancy, as well as me almost dying due to the lack of nutrition, as my brother got most of it.) when I said I don’t want twins, I would love twins, but I’m worried I wouldn’t be strong enough to carry them or that one would die. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense, I’m just trying to figure it all out and thought who better to ask than other twins? TIA for any help.

Hey all, I am a 27y.o. twin, a couple of years ago I stumbled on a video explaining the different types of twins and how they develop, and was dumbfounded when I learned about Seisquizygotic twins. I have lived my whole life explaining to people that my IDENTICAL twin is actually my identical twin and not just fraternal or a regular ol run of the mill sibling. We do (especially now as adults) not look identical. My twin (Female) has, from birth, always been heavier than I have been, has a completely different hair texture than I do, different skin tone, different nose and chin, different eye colour, she lacks dimples where as I have two sets on my cheek. We grew up with 4 sets of twins in our schools and we're very close friends with nearly all of them. Their parents would NOT accept we were identical twins despite my parents saying "believe me, I was there... One placenta.."

If in we are Seisquizygotic twins, it would explain how we are incredibly different. (Essentially one egg from dear ol Mom and two sperm from dearest Dad!) Medical proof and documentation of Seisquizygotic twins is extremely rare, would it be worth talking to a medical professional about this?

Edit: both my twin and I are female

I mentioned to somebody the other day that I used to suffer with depression, but since I haven’t spoken to my brother that’s my identical twin I haven’t suffered with this condition. We stopped talking properly about 14 years ago after the death of my mother. I still love him and miss the rare good times, but I love myself and so he’s no longer in my life .

My fiance twin and him drive to work together, business partners, own a home together, have all there finances in theee business together, have the same friends, travel together.

Us getting engaged I think was hard on the other twin- he is now traveling non stop to Europe and I notice my fiance is moody and sad.

It passed and now I am noticing he is apprehensive to buy anything with me- a home, share his finances, anything that shows he is partnered to me.

Is there a possibility he is struggling detaching from his twin? I'm concerned they have no Individual personality and it is essentially a divorce for them.

FYI I love his twin we have great relationship. Since engagement lots of turbulence in regards to moving forward and making moves together

Is this normal or a red flag for myself?

Hi, I'm a fraternal / dizygotic twin (I'm female, my twin is male) and I wonder what other people's experiences of being a fraternal twin are if they're not extra close as twins.

We did have a secret language when we were 4-5 years old, and I always wanted there to be something special about being a twin, but it just never panned out... Indeed he has grown apart from me (like, radically) along with other relatives to the point that nowadays we have limited contact. He barely says hello when he sees me, and most years we just text each other happy birthday on our birthdays, but nothing beyond that.

I find it difficult to talk about being a twin when we are not very close today (we're in our 30s). Everyone expects you to be SUPER best-friends And that just didn't happen for us.

I guess I'm curious what other people's advice/experiences have been talking or disclosing about what it means to be a twin if you're a little bit estranged.

Hi guys, I want to start off by saying me and my twin are really close and I love her a lot. I just wanted to know if anyone else feels like their twin holds them back. I have a hard time making friends because my twin is always there. I also feel like I have to be cautious because I feel embarrassed if I mess up around her. This causes me to hold back a lot amd sometimes gives me anxiety. Does anyone else feel this way, and if so what can I do to solve this?

I have twins in my family and they told me that they can sense each other‘s distress. Like if one of them is hurt physically or emotionally, the other one can tell.

I was thinking about the implications of this. Like is one twin more receptive to this than the other? And how do y‘all differentiate between your own pain and your twin‘s?

If you’re both upset, do you feel your twins‘ pain on top of your own? Isn’t that overwhelming? In general, being THAT close I imagine it must be so distressing/upsetting to see or feel the other one being hurt, especially if you don’t know what’s going on.

As a non-twin I’m curious. I hope it’s okay to ask!

My close friend recently lost their identical sibling and I just want to find support for them. It's beyond what I feel anyone else experiences when it comes to grief, so I was hoping for some help from this community

I've got a bit of an issue I'd like some twins to give me advice on.
It's time to get this off my chest. I'm a twin brother (26M) and we both chose similar careers except my brother has gotten more opportunities. We both have strong work ethic, I'm always trying to update my resume but I haven't been as lucky in landing good jobs. Sometimes I'm even working longer hours. We're both told we're good at what we do.

YES. I can feel happy for him and always pray for his success but whenever I see my parents or friends that know the two of us... I just feel horrible. I'm trying equally as hard, I don't slack off and try to learn as many skills as I can even while unemployed at the moment.

I know success takes time and it's different for everybody... including twins... but my parents and society somehow think that both twins have to have the same level of success at the same time. We're both 26.

Secretly, I feel miserable when my brother tells me about his successes at work. I even feel a bit jealous. He's always talking about all the stuff he gets to buy and how much he's getting paid. He's not doing this with a bad intention, it's normal people talk about their day. It just feels sour when you've gotten laid off and been unemployed for some time now. It's the same when my mom boasts about him to the rest of our family.

IDEALLY, I'd love to cut contact with him for a few months so I can stop feeling so bad and continue moving forward.

But I can't push him away either... so that's why I'm getting it off my chest.

I would love any advice on the topic of shaking off this ugly attitude

I’ve been talking to this guy for a few weeks now and realise I’ve forgotten to mention that I have an identical twin sister (we don’t look 100% alike I’d say about 70%) do you think he’ll be pissed off that I forgot to mention it? We are very individual and I didn’t feel like I had to bring it up I just said I have a sister.

We never really thought we looked alike, always had different hair and clothing styles. But lately we’ve been leaning towards the same style and there’s very few differences, like one has a nose piercing and one has slightly darker hair.

Its really freaky now to look in the mirror together and see two of the same person, or when i look at her and its like im actually staring into a mirror. I think its funny that it took us almost 17 years to realize we ACTUALLY do have the same features.

Are there any twins out there with a similar experience?

Identical twin here! My twin sister and I are super close and we’ve never dated.

I was wondering what your experiences are with dating - is it hard for you to find love? I feel it is hard a little bit because I already have my “soulmate” who gets me 100% and who is also my best friend. I do want a boyfriend but also fear that she might feel I abandon/not choose her if I ever get into a relationship. Anyone else relate?

Tell me how you view romantic relationships being a twin!

Idk if this is the right place to ask but I'm working on a story with a friend (different story then the one on my last post) and my characters are a human child, some sort of freaky lab experiment that decided to take the form of them and a clone. Now my character has to have some kind of explanation as why there are two people who look almost identical to them so they just decide to pretend to be triplets. Would there be anything that would give this away? Any kind of mannerisms or behaviors? Now I might end up chopping one out and just going with two of them but I was just wondering.

I just wanted to write my thoughts down and see if anyone else could relate at all. I have a fraternal twin sister, and she’s been my best and closest friend in the world since birth. She’s the most important person in my life, more precious to me than anyone at all.

I have anxiety, so I guess this could be why I do this, but I have a habit of thinking about what I would do if a loved one were to pass, especially my sister. It terrifies me. We’re so young, our lives haven’t even really started yet, but I can’t help but be terrified of the inevitable, that one day my sister will die. Sometimes I hope that it’s me who will die first just so I don’t have to deal with the pain of losing my sister, but I wouldn’t want her to go through that either.

I just wonder a lot, who will die first? If it’s me, how will my sister handle it? Will she be okay? And if she dies first, how will I handle it? I feel like it would completely wreck me, it would ruin my life. I can’t live without my sister, she’s so important to me, I’ve never known life without her. Hell, we’ve been sharing a room together our entire lives, it’s all I’ve ever known.

I’m just terrified of losing her I guess. It doesn’t take over my life or anything, but I can’t help but wonder what I’ll do when the inevitable happens.

I am looking for help.

My friend lost her identical twin recently. I can't imagine the pain she is in. I'm hoping to find support groups for twins who have lost their twin, especially any support groups that may exist for identical twins in this situation.

I'd appreciate any help to point me in the right durection

Thank you

Hi guys, just joined – happy to be here! 38yo fraternal twin, female (with female twin), UK.

My twin and I were just talking about the fact that we were told we were non-identical, but we've always been close and similar. I don't think we look very similar anymore, but we've lived quite different lives and have different styles etc.

Apparently there are some twins that have separate placentas but are actually still genetically identical, and I wonder whether that applies to us. I think the understanding in the 80s when we were born was quite simplistic.

The main thing that has made us wonder is that we both had to have an operation in our late teens called a hymenectomy, because we both had this thing called a microperforated hymen, which apparently is pretty rare. Is both twins having a rare condition/malformation, whatever you want to call it, sometimes a sign of being identical? Or I guess it could just be that the general genetics in the family led to it? Our mum didn't have it, though.

Hey all you lovely twins. I’m not a twin, but a mom to 7yo twin boys. My specific question is for male twins…did you guys “fight” a lot? And by that I mean, like just jack around? It seems every time I turn around my kids are wrestling or messing around in some way 🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s not necessarily violent but it’s often and I’m just always thinking someone is going to get hurt.

I take them to the beach often where there aren’t any obstacles and lay out the “rules” (no hitting, kicking, biting, scratching) and let them have at it in a safe space…lol. I’m honestly at a loss as if this is “normal” or not. They’re always laughing and enjoying it, 95% of the time at least.

They’re my only kids so I have zero reference.

Input is appreciated!

I'm writing a book where two fraternal twin sisters are trapped in a sort of time bubble for 300 years, surviving off the land, before someone finds them and brings them out to the modern world. A few things:

They are quite different from one another. The younger has crippling anxiety and is autistic, so she struggles with change. She loves and admires her sister like no other, and finds herself relying on her to support her through scary situations. She's incredibly skilled at some things that end up being useful during their survival situations. She seems more like a younger sister because since she's autistic, she spent much of her development behind her sister, even if they're the same age. She talked later, learned emotional regulation later, all of that stuff. This is the POV character.

The older is seen as a golden girl by everyone else, she's strong, smart, charming, sociable, and very kind. She's extremely devoted to protecting her sister. She can be overconfident and likes teasing all those she loves except her sister, because she knows she's sensitive about that. I want, as the found family dynamic happens with the other lead characters, for the younger to come out of her shell and the older has a habit of trying to micromanage her out of overprotectiveness and habit.

There are times when they have the same thoughts or ideas about things, though that is a result of their closeness and centuries spent solving problems together, not because they are twins.

My sibling and I are not close and I want them to have an extremely close relationship. I don't even know how much physical contact is normal between siblings. What kinds of inside jokes do you have with your twin? Is the kind of relationship described above believable, and likeable? What are some insights about being a twin that would make these two characters as accurate a representation as possible?

I just started reading Harry Potter books once more. I'm reading them first time after becoming a twin mom. I was wondering if she did justice to the characters. Was her writing relatable to identical twins? What do you people think?

I hear twin jokes every day. My two and I are identical, mirror image and it’s so tiring hearing “I thought I was seeing double” for the millionth time. Is this something other people here get and what is the best reply you give?

Or do you all get other twin jokes and how do you handle them?

My semi-new boyfriend has a twin he lives with. After way too much thought, I finally ordered a gift for my boyfriend, and I have a card I made him. Now it suddenly struck me that since he has a twin it might be rude not to get something for his brother, especially since they both live together, it's a milestone birthday, and they will likely do some level of a joint celebration.

If I should get his twin a gift, do you have suggestions? I don't know his twin well enough to get anything very personal.

Hi,

In a hypothetical situation, if you like someone and you tell your twin you like someone and learn that they too like the same person, and if your twin decided to pursue them, would you consider it as a form of betrayal?

Or, simply

If your twin likes the same person as you what would you do?

I’ve seen those videos where a baby looks back and forth between their dad and their dad’s twin and I’m wondering how often that happens. My identical twin is pregnant right now so I wonder if her baby will get us mixed up or if he’ll know easily

I'm livid right now.

I feel like my twin is either on the spectrum or has very high narcissistic traits, like our dad. And I don't say so lightly. (She was even told maybe she is autistic by advisors in her medical training). She VERY often responds to things you say to her in a completely inappropriate manner. And it's usually her being extravagantly rude. I'm sick of her bullshit. And it's shocking to me that while she's very intelligent, she seems to have NO idea how disrespectful she is to people. Especially to myself and our mom (I was watching TV downstairs last night and heard my mom yell at her and tell her not to talk to her that way, because she asked her if some wipes she was using were unscented or something, and my twin responded to my mom, "Just look!" instead of being non-lazy enough to give a simple yes or no).

My twin is often depressed about being single, and the other time, my mom mentioned to me that she should not be surprised she is single due to how she talks to people. Some guy she was dating that she was probably nasty to because he even kicked her ass out of his house one time (the guy himself is definitely problematic, has told my sister with his own mouth, "people tell me they don't like the way I talk to them," so maybe they're the perfect match for each other!)

Her bedside manner is definitely fake. She fucking is so goddamned rude and disgusting when completely unprovoked.

She just moved home after finishing her residency an hour and twenty minutes away. She wants to live by herself because she said our mom annoys her. I get irritated with our mom at times for valid reasons, but I'm not fucking disgusting completely unprovoked.

I hope she does live alone, so no one is subjected to her fucking bitchcraft!

I have felt this way many, many times within the last several years, but really, since we were young to an extreme extent to something rude and disgusting she says to me when I'm being perfectly cordial with her (she used to always call me stupid for no valid reason, so something is absolutely wrong with her. When we worked at the same place, more than once, people told me I am nicer than her).

I am genuinely somewhat bereft about this deep down. It seems there are twins who actually get along and care about each other, and consistently show that in the way they treat each other. I do not feel that my twin cares about me.

I'm trying not to give a fuck about her anymore. I remember crying to my significant other because I felt sad that she had to move again elsewhere to do her pediatric rotation a while ago, and told me she felt depressed about it. I didn't want her to be alone. But I'm feeling so done with her fuckery. Why be caring of how a loved one feels when they clearly don't give a fuck how they talk to you?

What the FUCK kind of reply is, "You don't know how to search for an apartment?" Man, you're making over $200,000 a year. What you can afford on an MD salary is not what you will afford on an RD salary. It fucking has NOTHING to do with knowing how the FUCK to search for apartments in certain price ranges (literally, I am only 2 months into my official career job, and I'm saving up for a new car because the one I have now is an explosion risk if you were to turn it on. And an expensive ass fix. So, I don't have money to just be throwing at rent in Boston. I need to save it up to get what I need so I don't have to share my mom's car.)

So, FUCK YOU. GO LIVE ALONE, YOU MONSTER.

End rant.

So I'm writing a story, its not particularly about twins but a few of the characters are sets of twins. Now I don't really know much about twins or how close they are nor am I a twin so I just kind went with my relationship with my siblings (which is more so just indifferent) but one of my beta readers said the characters didn't act much like twins at all. Which at first I didn't worry to much since I doubt it's ever going to actually be like a published thing but now I'm panicked because I hate the idea of writing something incorrectly so did I? I would be willed to give more info about the story if needed. (Sorry if this is a dumb question)

Fellow male/male fraternal twin here. I'm curious what a community of twins thinks of the struggles of dating. Context: I have little dating experience at 26 and mainly due to being shy. The past few years I have really gotten over the shyness

Question: I have always thought that since I had such a close relationship growing up that I was pre-exposed to a lot of relationship skills and roles. I'm curious what you all think of this and if there is validity to this.

Dilemma: I'm currently reading this book called "twin dilemmas" and obvious not all twinships are the same and this book tries to argue for 3 major archetypes. But for twins getting into romantic relationships with "singletons" (non-twins), it claims that we may have "too many expectations for deep understandings that are verbal or non-verbal" (pg 109).

Personal questions: Will my twinship be the closest relationship I'll likely have in my life? Is it unrealistic to expect to be as close with another as my twin?

My twin and I are 18, she's totally perfect in my parents eyes, shes enlisting into the Air Force, engaged to a great guy they love, got her license, and she's neat and tidy with everything.

While I'm "pretending to be a boy", messy, don't have a well paying job, starting college, and can't even pass my learner's permit test.

It seems like with everyday that passes I can't seem to reach her level, and everything I can do right she does way better. Every conversation I have with my parents starts with your sister does this... Or why can't you be like her...

And no matter how much I try nothing is as good as something my sister can do.