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For cautious pregnant people on this great, perilous journey to parenthood.

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Welcome, you gorgeous Momma you!

This group is for cautious, newly pregnant women who are still in the "unsafe" first trimester, or women in later pregnancy who are looking for like-minded support. A place to discuss your anxieties and joys about early pregnancy and beyond.

I know there are many of us out there who have gone through trials to get pregnant, currently going through trials while pregnant, and women who have been through previous miscarriages, or babyloss. And we wanted to make a comfortable and supportive environment for this situation.

TMI is welcome and expected!


Helpful Links:

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Due Date List

CHAT (Please put your username followed by how far along you are in weeks. Ex: Username18)

Using Flair

How to Count the Weeks of Pregnancy

Compilation of Pregnancy, Labor, and Parenting Resources

Gift Exchange Details


Statistic Charts:

Daily Odds of Pregnancy Miscarriage

Pregnancy Due Date Ranges


Here are some more subreddits you might like:

Pre-Pregnancy:

/r/TryingForABaby

/r/stilltrying

/r/ttcafterloss

/r/trollingforababy

/r/TTC30

/r/TFABLinePorn

/r/TFABChartStalkers

/r/waiting_to_try

/r/infertility

/r/TTChealthy

Pregnancy Related:

/r/BabyBumps

/r/BB30

/r/InfertilityBabies

/r/hcgifs

/r/parentsofmultiples

/r/Twins

/r/DecemberBumpers2017

/r/January2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/February2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/March2018Bumpers

/r/AprilBumpers2018

/r/May2018Bumpers

/r/June2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/july2018bumpers (Private)

/r/august2018bumpers (Private)

/r/september2018bumpers (Private)

Pregnancy Loss/Support:

/r/Miscarriage

/r/babyloss

For Dads

/r/predaddit

/r/daddit

Post Pregnancy:

/r/CBTB2 (Once you're a month away from your due date you can send a message through to be added!)

/r/breastfeeding

/r/CsectionCentral

/r/beyondthebump

/r/beyondbaby

/r/NICUParents

/r/Postpartum_Depression

/r/MyPPDSupport

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/r/clothdiaps

/r/namenerds

/r/hCGifs

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how many weeks am i ?

hello, i’m not too sure how far along i am and i’m hoping for some help figuring that out my last period started october 12th and lasted until about october 17th i had an LH surge the 29th of october (possibly ovulated 30th of october) now im testing faintly positive but my app is telling me im 4 weeks, any advice ?

2 Comments
2024/11/10
03:37 UTC

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Discharge at 21w5days

Hi Eveyone,

I am a FTM, age 34 and 21 weeks, 5 days currently. I have been getting brownish jelly like discharge . Should I be concerned?

The link is here https://imgur.com/a/jBJLkmB

2 Comments
2024/11/10
02:40 UTC

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HCG Betas

Hello everyone!

I just found out recently I'm pregnant again after a TFMR in May at 19 weeks pregnant and a blighted ovum in August, so my nerves have been though the roof.

My Dr has taken extra measures this cycle such as doing a physical exam of my cervix because I had light brown spotting around 12 dpo and has checked my HCG as well.

My HCG currently has been as follows: 178 (14 DPO)- 3 weeks and 4 days 405 (16 DPO) - 3 weeks and 6 days She feld confident with the rise since they more than doubled but I asked for an additional HCG beta at 4 weeks and 6 days (23 DPO) it came back at 8,028. I have also had on and off symptoms so I just wanted to ensure they were still rising and not declining.

Ladies, if you've had a similiar experience and/or any opinions on HCG rise please comment and please share your experience.

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2024/11/10
01:54 UTC

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10 dpo cramping

hi all, i’m new to this group. i just recently found out i was pregnant (ttc) i’m now 10dpo and i feel such bad stomach cramps. no sign of bleeding but it just feels like i have so much gas or like i need to poop or throw up really bad. i had a miscarriage a couple months ago and im really scared that’s going to happen again. can anyone give me any advice ??

2 Comments
2024/11/10
01:45 UTC

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Third Trimester. Weird Stomach Noises?

Waiting to hear back from my doctor.

29W5D after four losses, so very paranoid.

Today throughout the whole day, my stomach has been making audible, gurgling (???) noises that it has never made.

Has anyone else experienced this?

7 Comments
2024/11/10
01:39 UTC

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Beta numbers

By conception/ovulation date, I should be right around 4 weeks 5 days as of this post. I had my beta drawn three times starting at 4w because I have high anxiety and coming from a chemical pregnancy on my last cycle. What do you guys think of the numbers?? Do they seem a bit low?

Monday- 4w - 26 Wednesday- 4w2d- 74 Friday- 4w4d- 183

I got them all done at 7am in the morning, all 48 hours from each other. I know they’re doubling and that’s good, but do they seem low??

2 Comments
2024/11/10
01:17 UTC

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How could you tell the difference between pregnancy symptoms and Progesterone?

5 weeks pregnant and taking progesterone 200mg everyday. I had an empty sac when I had ultrasound at 5 weeks but tech though maybe I was too early to see yolk sac. Today I am 5 weeks and 3 days and I think I'm starting to have symptoms of pregnancy like aversion to smells etc but I don't know if a lot of this due to the progesterone I'm taking or could it be natural pregnancy symptoms. Those who take it, could you tell the difference?

3 Comments
2024/11/09
23:15 UTC

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Previous losses have stolen so much joy

This year has been indescribably sad during our IVF journey. Our first transfer ended in a loss and D&C at 8 weeks, and our second transfer resulted in a chemical pregnancy

My reaction seeing a positive (but faint) test today at 6DP5DT was anxiety and tears. I feel robbed of the joy and finding it so hard to believe this won’t end in another loss

6 Comments
2024/11/09
20:14 UTC

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I’m so scared…with everything

I should be 9W something today. I have a history of miscarriage as well as not so great fertility stuff in general (eg failed IVF cycle, unfortunate Dr feedback on my egg quality). This is a spontaneous pregnancy. My dog laid her head on my lap a bit hard…I was scared. I accidentally bumped my stomach slightly on a clothes hamper…I was scared. I had some nutmeg on eggnog then did online research…I was scared.

Those are just some of multiple examples. I’m so terrified that something’s going to happen again. I have nothing to suggest that beyond my history, and it’s been all-consuming. I’ve tried to keep every little fear inside since I’m definitely bugging my husband. Anyone else have this virtually constant experience?

5 Comments
2024/11/09
20:07 UTC

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On a roller coaster

I don’t know what to even think anymore. Long story short I had an hcg of 17 this then went to 35 to 70 to 150 every 48h. I also had bleeding prior to the initial level which is why it was drawn in the first place. Bleeding stopped now and the doctor says she doesn’t see any reason to be worried but this is the exact opposite of every single thing I’ve read and googled. I’m fully expecting this not to work out but not sure why the doc said there was no concern. I did ovulate late around cd 20 (lmp was 9/29) and the 17 was on Halloween

I was told to wait for my US in two weeks but that seems crazy to wait that long

7 Comments
2024/11/09
20:02 UTC

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Am I overreacting? Slow HCG

First beta: 77 at 13 DPO Second beta: 147 at 16 DPO

They were taken 66 hours apart. My OB messaged me and said this was good news but based on what I’ve read, this seems low. Am I wrong to be cautious?

Additionally, my home pregnancy tests were notably lighter today.

4 Comments
2024/11/09
19:58 UTC

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Wondfo not getting darker at 12 DPO?

So I've had at least 2 confirmed and 1 possible early chemicals consecutively prior to this cycle. This month I ovulated on ~CD20 and I got a faint line at 9DPO using a Wondfo. The only thing is that I started taking a baby aspirin every morning since ovulation.

I did it again on 10DPO and got the same faint line on the Wondfo, but a clear BFP on the FRER. I know these are more sensitive though!

I've been testing with the Wondfo the last two days as well but don't feel like the lines are getting darker. :( they aren't getting lighter though or disappearing like they did for the chemicals but I'm feeling anxious.

I got my hsg blood test done today and it was around 100? I'm supposed to go back to two days to see if it's doubled, but I'm getting scared due to my history. :(

I've been feeling continuous cramps in my right side though like implantation pains since 7DPO. I know it's probably just a waiting game now but anyone have similar experience?

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2024/11/09
19:48 UTC

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Gestational sac or Adenomyosis

Hello, im 5w pregnant after 2 previous loses before 7 weeks. One being pregnancy of unknown location im September.

This pregnancy, I had right side pain for 3 days and freaked out about ectopic so went to Early Pregnancy Unit. My scan showed what could be a small gestational sac (no yolk, no heartbeat of course) measuring 4 weeks 6 days and my HCG was 960. Im back in for another scan in 10 days…

Heres issue - my last loss, i had a private scan at 6w 1 day and they found what they thought was a 3mm x 4mm gestational sack ….it even said “gestational sack?” On the image.

Fast forward 5 days, from that private scan had right side pain and bleeding, i go to the EPU, have internal exams / 2 sets of bloods done as they expected ectopic. At the second (hospital, not private) scan the doctor tell me that its not a gestational sac, its an area Adenomyosis (i had miscarried in between the 2 scans)

So my issue…

Im freaking out that with this current pregnancy, the 4 week 6 day measuring sac they are seeing , is again just the area Adenomyosis mistaken for gestational sac.

Im trying so hard not to get my hopes up.

Has anyone else had this situation or similar?

I will know for sure in 10 days at my re-scan but its such a nerve racking time to wait!!

3 Comments
2024/11/09
19:34 UTC

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How do you deal with the fear and dread of SCH?

9 weeks and 3 days today with twins after IVF. A week ago I had a huge bleed with a big cloth. Went to ER, it is a SCH. The doc said he would not worry about it, told me I can live my life normally. Been spotting for a few days after and basically put myself on modified bedrest because my 2 friends from my home country who were in a same situation got put on an extremely strict bedrest for 2 weeks. In the country I live in everything is very liberal and they do not want to interfere with your freedoms. My sch is 5 cmx 3 cm, so very big. Based on all the articles, it is worrying. The doc here said he saw only a few bad outcomes.

In any case, since that day I feel terrified every time I go to the toiled, every time I feel a pinch... I am in bed but getting up twice every hour and often moving from bed to sofa and doing some cooking but I am just afraid of getting out of the house in case I start bleeding again.

I feel like it is not healthy behavior so please give me your coping mechanisms., I will appreciate it greatly.

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2024/11/09
18:32 UTC

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Fell on hands and knees…

Hello! I am 15w today. I am traveling and tripped and fell hard on my hands and knees on cobblestone yesterday. I didn’t hit my belly but am worried the impact could’ve hurt the baby. I feel fine, but can’t get the thought out of my head. I called my OB - they were closed and his on call service said without any bleeding, they don’t consider it an “emergency.”

I’ll get in touch with them Monday when I am back home but I am so anxious.

5 Comments
2024/11/09
18:22 UTC

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Pregnant after 2 losses (miscarriage and then Ectopic). Anxious about Hcgs at 5 weeks.

Got my first positive 11dpo (then went back and looked at 10dpo test and saw a vvvfl.)

Got my first beta hcg at 21 DPO, 5+0 weeks: 672.2.

Got my second beta exactly 48 hours later (23 DPO, 5+2 weeks): 1574.8.

I feel good about the doubling time (39 hours), but I'm concerned these numbers are still low and have read about others having numbers that are similar and the pregnancy eventually ending in a miscarriage. Looking for positive outcomes with similar numbers! Thank you!

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2024/11/09
18:14 UTC

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worrisome HCG rise ... is there any hope

I am 5w+5d today. This is my third pregnancy, the prior 2 ending in losses before 8 weeks. The first loss was due to a chromosomal abnormality but the second one did now show any genetic abnormalities. I had more testing throughout the second pregnancy due to the prior loss. At this point in the last pregnancy, my hCG was ~29k.

The hGC for this pregnancy has me convinced that it will not be viable. I had an US 2 days ago since the doctor was worried it may be ectopic. It was not, but only a gestational sac was seen. The doctor has not explicitly expressed any concerns about the viability of this pregnancy and was pleased to see it wasn't ectopic.

My progesterone has also been an issue. Despite being on suppositories, it dropped to 9 this week. I have increased the dosage.

hCG:

10/25: 93

10/29: 393 (+44% per day)

11/5: 1652 (+23% per day)

11/7: 2399 (+18% per day) :(

11/8: 3325 (+39% per day)

I have been scouring the internet for information to help manage my expectations. It is my understanding hCG increasing below 25-30% a day is almost 100% likely to end in miscarriage. It seems there is little to no chance this is viable and I'm starting to drive myself crazy since it's still unknown. Is this pregnancy officially a wash?

3 Comments
2024/11/09
18:12 UTC

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So much uncertainty!

Hi all, posting here mainly because my midwife's office is not open on weekends except for emergencies.

I thought we were 8 weeks, but we had a tvu last week where we saw a yolk sac but no fetal pole. We were upset as we thought this was a mmc, but we scheduled a 1 week followup to re-scan before opting for a d&c.

yesterday, a fetal pole was found (!) (no heartbeat yet), but they measured us at 6w — nearly two weeks earlier than we expected, based off of my LMP and tracking.

however, we also have hcg that is pretty high for being 6w... 80,000 increasing to 110,000 in the past week.

we'll be going in one more time next week for another hcg on monday and tvus to see if we detect a heartbeat, but the whiplash has been hard, with a lot of uncertainty during this time.

anyways, just looking for some anecdotal input. we are optimistic that there has been progress and we may just be early, but we're a little on edge since the hcg readings are on the higher side and beginning to plateau. we still have a tentative d&c scheduled for next week, but it's really confusing hearing that they have seen progress with the development of a fetal pole.

any similar stories?

11 Comments
2024/11/09
16:55 UTC

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HCG 22 at 8dpt- any hope?

I am 9 days post 5day frozen embryo transfer. Yesterday I was going crazy and decided to order an hCG test from quest yesterday myself. Well I just got the results - 22 (at 8dpt). I'm very concerned it's either a chemical or an ectopic (because I've read online about people having low betas and ending up having an ectopic). Feeling very sad and anxious (about ectopic). Should I count myself out at this point?

3 Comments
2024/11/09
16:49 UTC

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Diminished symptoms at almost 10 weeks

I had a MMC in June and am trying not to freak out. I’m 9+5 today and woke up feeling pretty normal. My nausea is greatly diminished and despite getting terrible sleep thanks to my 3 year old, I’m not extremely fatigued. We saw baby 2 weeks ago at 7+5 and he/she had a heart rate of 161, so nice and strong.

Has anyone else experienced this and had a healthy baby? I feel like with my daughter I was sick up to about 14-15 weeks. I just don’t trust my body after my MMC. I still had pregnancy symptoms up until the day I physically miscarried.

7 Comments
2024/11/09
15:52 UTC

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HCG decrease at 6 weeks

Hi all, wondering if anyone else has had this experience…

At 6+1, my doctor ordered a bHCG and my level was at 53,969. She told me she is not worried so didn’t order a second round of testing. 2 days later at 6+3, I noticed my symptoms have decreased/disappeared completely…so I paid for a Labcorp bHCG out of pocket and the result just came back at 49,611.

Could this mean anything other than what I think it means? :(

6 Comments
2024/11/09
15:37 UTC

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Traveling first trimester?

Hi guys,

When I’ll be 8 weeks pregnant we were meant to fly out to our friend’s wedding (Chicago to Cali) for four days. This is in 5 days now, and my husband is saying he’s okay with canceling.

I asked my OB and she said there’s no problem. This is my rainbow baby so I’m a little on edge, and wondering if anyone else had a similar experience?

8 Comments
2024/11/09
14:48 UTC

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Pregnancy worries.

Hi everyone so from a previous post I had found out I was pregnant but now I’m concerned something is wrong I took a test because the only symptoms I was having after a missed period was cramping and hunger. Fast forward to I had went to the hospital due to cramping I was like 4 weeks and 5 days I was told my urine came up negative for pregnancy and my blood test was inconclusive so the retested and my HCG was really low so it was difficult to tell if I was or not and was told possibly pregnant to make sure I follow up with my doctor and take prenatals my HCG level was a 22.3 not sure what that meant so I googled which mentioned bligten ovum or early miscarriage but no bleeding and cramps stopped on top of that I took another test after I came home came back positive but the line was still faint which had me concerned fast forward to now I am 5 weeks and 4 days but I don’t really have any symptoms I barely have any hunger or cravings like I did at first but I do get nauseous if I don’t eat or I’m eating something then outta nowhere get nauseous and my first appointment isn’t until I’m almost 7 weeks but they can’t see me before then so should I be worried?

11 Comments
2024/11/09
14:19 UTC

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Totally lost track.

Line or not? Unknown DPO help me work it out? (Pic is in lineporn group)

I am CD31.

CD13 I had ewcm - had sex. CD14, CD15 & CD16 I had random red spotting. No sex on those days. CD17 I had ewcm - had sex. CD18 I had ewcm - had sex. CD19 I had non-fertile creamy cm. No sex. CD22 - had sex. Didn’t notice any CM atall. CD23 - EWCM again! No sex. CD28 - lower back discomfort.

And now I am CD31 and have been taking a 10miu test every day for the last few days. All totally negative until today I think I see a really faint line??🫣 it was there right away.

Thoughts on my situation?!🫣 what DPO am I? And is this even a faint positive do you reckon?

This is the one cycle I ran out of OPKs!!

4 Comments
2024/11/09
12:04 UTC

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Feeling very pessimistic about progression.

I'm currently 5w6d and I was admitted to the hospital yesterday for left side pain and a weird tingle on my shoulder, I was scared it was an ectopic. Had a scan done and while they can't certainly rule out ectopic, they MIGHT have seen a shadow in the uterus which gives me hope however my HCG levels taken yesterday(5w5d) were at 1781 which is definitely on the lower end. I know they should check if it's doubling every 48hrs and I will push for them to check my levels again however I'm still so worried about my HCG levels.

I haven't heard anything good about levels this low and I'm assuming they're rising pretty slowly(although I haven't had them tested previously). I guess I just need a bit of hope as well as a reality check, I need success stories as much as I need stories that haven't ended positively that are similar to mine.

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2024/11/09
11:25 UTC

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Spotting at 6 weeks and they could not find a gestational sack

TRIGGER WARNING: POSSIBLE LOSS

I started to spot in the morning without any pain , I am 6 weeks 3 days today. I ended up going to the ER for my peace of mind. They did an ultrasound and couldn't find anything, not even a gestational sack. They basically said it's pregnancy of unknown location as they didn't see any mass in my tubes either. Dr. Told me to go back in 48 hrs to redo hcg to see if it's decreasing to confirm the miscarriage. If it continue to increase than ill have bigger problems to deal with. First hcg was 382 on Oct 29, then it was 755 on Oct 31 and on Nov 8 when they checked it was 5583.

So far im still just spotting, not enough blood to soak a pad and no clots. I have had mild cramps the entire day they were not inconsistent but there the whole day and I have this very uncomfortable feeling down there.

I was guarding my heart all these days but I feel so sad right now. Hoping for some miracle but also want to be realistic about the outcome of this. 😞

7 Comments
2024/11/09
10:42 UTC

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Worried about MMC

Hi everyone, i am currently around 5w1d pregnant. Very early, i know. I also have PCOS and was able to conceive both times on metformin.

I had a previous MMC in April at 11w2d after everything was perfectly fine. That time i had no symptoms at all, other than fatigue.

This time around i have sore boobs, some nausea and mild cramping. Which is since yesterday all gone. Just like that. Gone. I have read online that symptoms come and go, but i am freaking out that it is a miscarriage again. I am terrified.

First scan is in 2 weeks. I am a very rational person, but not when it comes to this pregnancy apparently.

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2024/11/09
09:11 UTC

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Worried waiting for an US

I’m 7+6 pregnant today. I’ve been TTC for two years and a half, and IVF for one year. Two ER, 3 frozen 3-day embryos and 3 frozen 5-day embryos. I did a transfer in July but it sadly ended in a chemical. I did a second transfer on October 3rd and it stuck! 🥹 My betas were great, and we got to hear a strong heartbeat at 6+4.

My next ultrasound will be at 10w, but now I’m so scared. I’ve been feeling hungry, tired and sick with nausea the past weeks (well, very mild symptoms, I felt kind of normal), but the last three days I’ve been feeling totally normal. I’m taking progesterone so if it goes downhill I won’t bleed.

I know symptoms come and go, and I need to just wait and be patient and trust, but I’m anxious and scared. Sometimes I feel I’m not pregnant anymore because of how normal I feel. How can I wait and hope for the best? I’m trying…

3 Comments
2024/11/09
07:27 UTC

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7 weeks.. Only symptom disappeared / Tan Discharge

I am 7 weeks 5 days pregnant. My first ultrasound is Monday… I’m almost there but I’m feeling so discouraged. I’ve had practically no symptoms other than sore boobs. They’ve been sore for about 2-3 weeks.

Two days ago I had clear and tan discharge in the morning (it only happened once). It wasn’t a ton. Then yesterday I had it again around the same time, maybe a little more. I called my Obgyn and they didn’t seem concerned. I had no cramping at all.

Well today my only symptom of sore boobs is just about gone.

Has anyone experienced this and been okay? This is my first pregnancy.

3 Comments
2024/11/09
06:28 UTC

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Progesterone question

Hi! I’ve had 3 miscarriages. One rainbow baby. With my rainbow baby I had a 21 for the progesterone around 4 weeks and hCG was in the 1000s at that point. With my miscarriages my hCG never got that high but my progesterone was 22. Im considering supplementing next time we try but I don’t know? Does progesterone seem like my issue if my rainbow baby had less then the losses???

4 Comments
2024/11/09
05:54 UTC

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