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For cautious pregnant people on this great, perilous journey to parenthood.

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Welcome, you gorgeous Momma you!

This group is for cautious, newly pregnant women who are still in the "unsafe" first trimester, or women in later pregnancy who are looking for like-minded support. A place to discuss your anxieties and joys about early pregnancy and beyond.

I know there are many of us out there who have gone through trials to get pregnant, currently going through trials while pregnant, and women who have been through previous miscarriages, or babyloss. And we wanted to make a comfortable and supportive environment for this situation.

TMI is welcome and expected!


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How to Count the Weeks of Pregnancy

Compilation of Pregnancy, Labor, and Parenting Resources

Gift Exchange Details


Statistic Charts:

Daily Odds of Pregnancy Miscarriage

Pregnancy Due Date Ranges


Here are some more subreddits you might like:

Pre-Pregnancy:

/r/TryingForABaby

/r/stilltrying

/r/ttcafterloss

/r/trollingforababy

/r/TTC30

/r/TFABLinePorn

/r/TFABChartStalkers

/r/waiting_to_try

/r/infertility

/r/TTChealthy

Pregnancy Related:

/r/BabyBumps

/r/BB30

/r/InfertilityBabies

/r/hcgifs

/r/parentsofmultiples

/r/Twins

/r/DecemberBumpers2017

/r/January2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/February2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/March2018Bumpers

/r/AprilBumpers2018

/r/May2018Bumpers

/r/June2018Bumpers (Private)

/r/july2018bumpers (Private)

/r/august2018bumpers (Private)

/r/september2018bumpers (Private)

Pregnancy Loss/Support:

/r/Miscarriage

/r/babyloss

For Dads

/r/predaddit

/r/daddit

Post Pregnancy:

/r/CBTB2 (Once you're a month away from your due date you can send a message through to be added!)

/r/breastfeeding

/r/CsectionCentral

/r/beyondthebump

/r/beyondbaby

/r/NICUParents

/r/Postpartum_Depression

/r/MyPPDSupport

Specialty Subs:

/r/clothdiaps

/r/namenerds

/r/hCGifs

/r/CautiousBB

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Don’t know what to think… thoughts? Advice? Antecdote?

I’m currently in low & slow hcg limbo and am looking for opinions/similar numbers and results (good or bad).

Backstory: I got a vvfl on 10dpo. Continued to test and line was not getting much darker (figured it was going to be chemical). After a very sloowww start, my lines finally started to darken around 16dpo but were still no where near where I was seeing other people at that point. I reached out to my doctor and she ordered HCG for reassurance. Numbers are below:

11/25 - 17dpo: 79 11/27 - 19dpo: 190 11/29 - 20dpo/4w6d: 442 12/2 - 24dpo/5w2d: 799

After the first three draws, I was cautiously optimistic. I ransacked different subs for others with similar stories and while some stopped progressing, the consensus seemed to be that as long as it’s doubling, it’s a good sign.

Well today comes around and after 74 hours (due to weekend), my number went up but didn’t even quite double.

Obviously, I will reach out to doctor tomorrow and see what she thinks. In the meantime, any thoughts or advice are welcome!

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2024/12/03
03:03 UTC

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Drano? I know I sound crazy

Hi hi! I’m 10w pregnant and today my husband used bathroom cleaner on our clogged shower drain. I went in like 5 mins later and showered while the smell was still pretty strong - to be fair, I had just vomited all over myself and wasn’t really thinking clearly. I was in the bathroom for like 15 minutes or so with the door shut. Could this harm my baby? I feel so stupid now

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2024/12/03
01:44 UTC

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TTC

We have started TTC this month which news flash, is not ideal with the holidays. We were only able to try 4 days prior to me ovulating this month. Anyone on here have luck conceiving 4 days prior to ovulation? I’m hoping to get pregnant sooner than later as I’m 33 and my husband is 41🙃

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2024/12/03
01:20 UTC

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HCG at 17 DPO?

I tested faaaaint positive last Monday 10 DPO and had positive early digitals (sensitivity of 10) by Tuesday night. Couldn’t get my blood drawn last week because of the holiday but I went today at 17 DPO, or 4 weeks 3 days, and it was 217. That seems low to me because when I was pregnant with my son my betas were 38 at 11 DPO, 92 at 13 DPO, and 1003 at 18 DPO. Should I be worried?

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2024/12/03
00:37 UTC

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10w scan Large Gestational Sac

I just had my 10w scan. The fetus measured on the dot at 10w too.

However my gestational sac measured one week older. It is almost 20mm larger than the CRL. Is this any cause of concern?

2 Comments
2024/12/03
00:09 UTC

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BFN to BFP progress pics?

I am 9DPO today and had a pretty stark negative test. Feeling kind of depressed about it. Anyone happen to have BFN to BFP progress pics? Just trying to distract myself. Thanks in advance 🙂

14 Comments
2024/12/03
00:08 UTC

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No symptoms/symptoms disappearing

Today I am 6 weeks 3 days after suffering a MMC in early September. Shortly after my BFP this time, my nipples were pretty sore but that's about it. A couple days ago I noticed they barely hurt anymore. That was my only symptom. No fatigue, no nausea, no cramping, I feel completely normal. With my pregnancy that ended in loss, I was always tired and my boobs were so sore all over, and i had cramping atleast a couple times a week. I never had nausea with that one either. Im worried something is wrong since my only symptom seems to be disappearing, and disappearing symptoms were the first thing I noticed with my MMC. Am I just lucky to not have symptoms or should I worry? I have my first scan next week and my betas taken around 5 weeks looked great. I was put on progesterone suppositories at 5 weeks as my progesterone was on the low end of normal.

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2024/12/02
22:58 UTC

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Beta rising but only by 64% instead of doubling

I had my first Beta on 11/29 9dp5dt and it was 226.4 which was a great start. My second beta was today 12/2 12dp5dt and it was only 351.2 a 64% increase. I’ve been worried since the first beta since my at home line tests were also not changing or doubling. My doctors seem a bit concerned and will be monitoring me more closely- so I’ll be going back in two days for a 3rd beta test. As anyone had a similar experience with a positive outcome? If not, I have one more euploid embryo in storage but I’m wondering if I should go back to egg retrievals in hopes of getting another one. I’m wondering if there a benefit to back to back transfers? Or if should I not waist time and focus on getting another embryo?

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2024/12/02
22:44 UTC

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Measuring behind at 6w4d, is this normal?

I have been having quite the roller coaster the past few days with low HCG levels and loss of symptoms.

I was sure I was going to lose the pregnancy. This morning I started having cramping localized on the left hand side and went in to rule out an ectopic.

The ultrasound showed a heart rate of 113 bpm and measured around 5w6d. I am currently 6w4d, relatively certain on that. Might be up to one day off. Has anyone else measured 4-5 days behind and had success?

Also, has anyone else had a similar heart rate?

Just nervous about literally everything and looking for some success stories!

9 Comments
2024/12/02
22:19 UTC

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13 DPO, spotting, diminished symptoms, darker line?

Hello! I've had two back-to-back chemical pregnancies my past two cycles. This cycle, on Thursday (9 DPO), I got a very faint positive, and each day since, my lines have gotten darker. My symptoms have included sore boobs, heartburn, and slight nausea. Last night (12 DP0), I started cramping and noticed some brownish, pink discharge. Today, I haven't had any cramping but am continuing to see more brownish/pink discharge. It's gotten heavier (though kind of watery) throughout the day but still not enough to fill a pad or tampon. My symptoms have all gone away (I keep feeling like my boobs are maybe a little sore, but also I feel like I'm having to really try to feel it lol). I just took another test, and my line was darker than even this morning's test, which makes me feel hopeful, but also the lack of symptoms and spotting is making me feel defeated. I know there's no way to know for sure until AF comes (or doesn't come), but I'm curious if anyone has had a similar experience or has any words of wisdom ♥️

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2024/12/02
22:16 UTC

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I feel so out of touch with my body (TW possible miscarriage)

I got my first positive test about a month ago. Since then it's been a whirlwind... bleeding, cramping, visits to the ER, and empty gestational sac, measuring behind, and so on.

I've been really struggling with this feeling that my body is stuck in this in-between state. I don't know if I'm going to start miscarrying any minute now, if my pregnancy will go on for another few weeks, if it will go all the way. I've been so nauseous and fatigued I haven't been able to work out or even keep on top of household chores.

Does anyone else feel disconnected from your body while going through all of these ups and downs? I feel so weak and pale and I can't tell if anything is showing on the outside or if it's just because I feel so gross on the inside.

2 Comments
2024/12/02
20:23 UTC

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low hcg

14dpo bloodwork came back at 7.1 hcg. Is this destined to be a chemical or could it just be early? Home tests have been giving me faint positives all weekend and I was so excited, but now I’m just worried.

12 Comments
2024/12/02
19:50 UTC

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Anyone with partial abruption? 34w

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2024/12/02
18:48 UTC

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16 weeks pregnant and weird pain.

I woke up today (16w1d) feeling weird. I started showing a little bit last week. I am getting pretty used to round ligament pain in my lower belly, but today I started feeling sort of a tearing/numbing sensation in my middle stomach (kind of behind my belly button). It is actually worse when I walk. I had no bleeding since pregnant.

I wondered if any of you ever had a similar experience.

Thank you very much for your time.

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2024/12/02
18:37 UTC

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Reassurance 5w4d

I had positive pregnancy tests at exactly 4 weeks after trying for awhile. I’m so excited and normally like to share news with friends and family but agreed to not say anything to close family until Christmas when I’ll be 9weeks.

My doctor won’t see me until 7 weeks which is still earlier than most but I don’t know how I’ll make it that long. I have a little over a week left but everyday I wake up and check the miscarriage reassurance website and have to talk myself into believing that I’m actually pregnant and haven’t had a miscarriage.

I’m 25 and this is my first pregnancy and I’m so excited but everyday is a constant worry that I can barely focus on anything else. How did everyone else get through the worrying? It’s been a constant stress since I found out and I don’t know how to live a normal life without constantly thinking it’s about to end.

Guess I’m just curious how everyone handles the stress and worry especially before being in to see the doctor.

5 Comments
2024/12/02
18:09 UTC

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Slow HCG rise, stalled HCG rise, pseudo sac

Looking for some insights here. This is my first pregnancy. LMP was 10/21/24. Faint positive HPT on 11/17. Very minor spotting (brown) on 11/21 so went to urgent care at Kaiser. HCG was 114, nothing visible on ultrasound. Follow-up HCG on 11/23 was 226. Then, I went out of town but was still feeling nervous. I monitored HCG using home tests (slowly darkening) and scheduled an HCG test at quest on 11/26. It was 596.

I relaxed until the night of 11/28 (yeah, Thanksgiving :( ) when I had a small amount of bright red bleeding. I went to an out of town ER the morning of 11/29, and they checked my HCG. It only increased to 941. They didn’t do an ultrasound.

My normal OB said that it could still be potentially an okay HCG rise, and she asked me to come in to Kaiser on 12/1. 48 hours later, the HCG was almost exactly the same-940.

At this point yesterday I’m sure that the pregnancy is nonviable and I’m increasingly worried about an ectopic pregnancy. So, to go straight to the ER for an ultrasound. They checked my HCG levels again (3 hours later) and they’re 1101.

The ultrasound yesterday showed a pseudo sac that’s too small to guess a gestational age, no yolk or pole, no other masses outside of my uterus other than a corpus luteum cyst in my left ovary (which I guess is very common). Blood flow in ovaries. Endometrial stripe increased to 11 mm.

The ER Dr explained that sometimes an ectopic pregnancy can be accompanied by a pseudo sac that’s usually filled with blood. He also explained that it could still be a viable pregnancy that developing very slowly. He was reluctant to start MXT to get rid of a potential ectopic because of that possibility. He recommended rechecking in 2 days.

I was scared to go home yesterday because I’m so worried I will experience a ruptured tube. But, after reading some medical journals online it seems like pseudo sacs are most commonly gestational sacs. That was some (mild) comfort.

I’m trying not to let myself get excited at the possibility that this pregnancy could develop and be healthy. But I’m hoping that at least I might be able to avoid dealing with an ectopic.

I don’t know what to hope for when I go back in tomorrow. I’m so exhausted. Other than the 2 brief periods of light bleeding I have no symptoms. No pain.

Any thoughts or similar experiences?

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2024/12/02
16:47 UTC

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HCG rising, but on the “low end of normal”

So according to LMP I’d be 6 weeks today, had two HCG quantitative tests last week at 5w1d HCG beta was 1095, had another HCG quantitative on Thursday at 5w3d OB called today and said my HCG is rising, but on the “low end of normal”, she did not give me a number- probably so I don’t spiral. She asked that I have bloodwork today to check HCG again. I feel this is bad. I have had no spotting or anything.

Has anyone gone through something similar? TIA

5 Comments
2024/12/02
16:31 UTC

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Elevated AFP...

Hi. I am trying really hard not to panic. I am a FTM, 18w1d after a year of IVF. I had my AFP bloodwork taken last week at 17w4d, and my doctor just called to say it's elevated at 4.07 with a 1 in 24 risk...

He told me not to panic. That while we know when the baby was conceived bc of IVF, he is measuring not he bigger side, which could impact levels. He also said it's very common to see false positives but I am beside myself.

I just can't believe that we got this far only to learn this... has anyone had similar levels and a good outcome?

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2024/12/02
16:23 UTC

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Did anyone stop feeling consistent movements some days around 20ish weeks?

Okay- rationally I know I’m overthinking this. Babies are still small right now, she could be in a different position, etc. I’m just looking for some reassurance. I’m 20+4, I’ve felt movements daily for about 2 and a half weeks. I feel her basically every morning and every night for a bit. Started out like little flicks and thumps but they’ve gotten stronger lately. For the past 2 (going on 3) days, I haven’t been feeling her when I wake up like usual and pretty minimal throughout the day. I have felt her the past two days, but the movements are at weird times and don’t feel as strong. I had a scan at 20+1 (not anatomy, just boutique scan) and she was in there looking great. I feel like I should be reassured because I CAN still feel her, but I’m not because I started anticipating the movements at specific times and now they’re not happening. She moved last night for a few minutes before bed, they just felt lighter and she was much less active than usual- around 5 minutes of movement compared to her usual 15-20 minute dance party. This is normal, right?

7 Comments
2024/12/02
14:03 UTC

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Please tell me it can turn out ok….

Has this happened to anyone and things turned out ok?

I am currently 7w6d, but I went to the ER on Saturday (7w4d - bHcg 54,864) for some random but mild spotting. When they did the ultrasound to check if everything was ok, they couldn’t see anything inside my gestational sac that is supposedly still measuring at 6w3d, AND I supposedly have 2 new fibroids.

This really broke my heart because I just did a private scan when I was 6w3d (bHcg 6w - 15,602) and there was a gestational sac, yolk sac, AND fetal pole. I did an early scan because of my fibroids (which I was told their location should not affect fertility) and a previous early mc. I thought at this point my HCG should be rising (not doubling anymore) but the doctor wanted to see it double (~108,000) by today which didn’t seem accurate to me, but of course I’m no doctor.

I’ve taken all my vitamins, progesterone, and baby aspirin every day and have done my best to increase my water intake. I’m not even cramping AT ALL so I thought I was safe. I’m so so so scared and just really in shock. They want me to repeat my hcg either today or tomorrow to see if it’s still going up, but I’m PRAYING they’re wrong and my baby was just hiding. I haven’t even told my husband I went to the ER because I’m praying they were wrong and I didn’t want us to prematurely mourn. we still have a scan coming up on Thursday to re-evaluate. But for now I’m just praying everything is fine.

Has anybody had their embryo missed on a scan before and later everything was fine? Or any other similar story? What did you do to help your situation?

6 Comments
2024/12/02
13:05 UTC

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Would you be nervous????!

I had an ultrasound Nov 20th with my obgyn and I measured 7 weeks and 4 days with heart rate at 132bpm. Went into Er for pain and sickness and I'm only measuring 8 weeks 4 days when I should be 9 weeks and 2 days with a heartbeat of 171bmp. Do you think because it was ER they measure different. Just nervous 😓

5 Comments
2024/12/02
10:58 UTC

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In desperate need of positivity

Hi guys,

I got a squinter on the 19th of November. For about a week the line kept getting darker and darker, then a bit fainter for a day then slightly darker. On Saturday I unfortunately started bleeding. I called EGU after 24 hours they said I should be about 5w4d and that can be normal. They essentially said as it's just bleeding without any pain and lighter than my usual period it could be normal. There's nothing they can do unless I bleed for more than 7 days. At that point they can get me in for an exam and HCG blood test. The nurse advised to take another pregnancy test 2 weeks after the bleeding started. Anyway I woke up today, did another test and then line is significantly fainter...I'm so upset, I wish I never tested.

Please could anyone share any positive outcomes from similar stories? Or any positive stories of conceiving after a loss?

I told myself I wouldn't get attached to this pregnancy but was definitely easier said than done.

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2024/12/02
09:57 UTC

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First scan today

After a long wait, my first scan is finally this morning, in 2 hours. I’m really anxious, my last 2 pregnancies were MMC so I’m worried today will be another horrible day. I’ll update either way later.

Update: sadly more bad news for me, yet another twin pregnancy that hasn’t progressed, all they could see was 2 yolk sacs and they’re trying to get me to wait another week to be scanned before doing a d&c. I’m 9+3 and absolutely certain about my dates so I’m trying to just get the hospital to schedule the d&c as I don’t want to wait another week for nothing. Feeling numb and empty.

6 Comments
2024/12/02
08:18 UTC

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Symptoms at 5w3d

I am 5w3d pregnant following a MMC at 7w1d in July. I am so anxious about this pregnancy. We haven’t told anyone yet. With my last pregnancy I had no real symptoms, just some breast tenderness. This time I have only had fluctuating breast tenderness and a little bit of fatigue, no nausea. I’m concerned that I don’t really have symptoms. I have my first ultrasound booked for December 10th and my anxiety is getting the best of me.

6 Comments
2024/12/02
04:15 UTC

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How long can a heart beat with no growth?

TW: likely MMC

I’m not sure I can post this in the miscarriage threads yet as the embryo still had a HB at our 9 week ultrasound, but it was right around 100bpm. Our last 2 ultrasounds have shown slow then no growth, so baby is still measuring 6w4d. I’m basically in limbo waiting for the heart to stop because they can’t declare it MMC until that happens.

For those of you who have had a MMC, how long can the HB with no growth? I have another US scheduled for my 10w mark, but I’m worried it’s going to show the same and I’m going to be in limbo for a month or something.

17 Comments
2024/12/02
02:07 UTC

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First trimester ready to throw in the towel

I was always afraid to fall pregnant and come off my ADHD medication, my main worry was binge eating and symptom relapse. Weirdly enough, pregnancy has NOT gone how I expected.

Mentally - and I mean ADHD symptom wise - I feel fantastic. I have energy, I eat AMAZING, I exercise daily. Things I never thought I was capable of doing unmedicated.

Unfortunately, so far pregnancy has taken a different type of mental toll.

To my shock I fell pregnant fairly easily (3rd try) but so far it has been a mentally draining nightmare. I feel no happiness and positivity anymore.

My thyroid has just gone KAPUT. So now I need to take levothyroxine. It was hanging my a thread pre-pregnancy so I'm not surprised but it sucks.

I've had spotting every single day, had to go to the emergency department the first time, couldn't find anything wrong, everything looked perfect, HCG still doubling so went home.

Every time I exercise I spot. But I dont want to stop exercising because the exercise itself is whats playing such a huge part in mananging my ADHD and binge eating symptoms.

I got a dating ultrasound on Friday and although they saw Yolk sac, fetal pole etc no heartbeat as its too early. Measuring a week behind. OK, it makes sense as my periods are usually 35-36 days long and I ovulated late but going off last menstrual period the sonographer dated me as 7 weeks - if i had a 28 day cycle would have been fine but I don't but he basically spoke to me like shit and rushed everything and said it was all pointless and then told me I also had a massive fibroid. Fibroids run in my family but he was so rude and condescending about it "oh, I rarely see fibroids in women your age, usually the women are MUCH older' (I'm 30).

It also sucks because my partner and I had a beautiful day planned pre ultrasound and after seeing nothing i just went home and slept/cried the rest of the day

I also have thrush woo and some fungal shit going on under my boobs lol.

I went to go shopping with my MIL before, strained too hard to poop and saw a drop of blood. Its stopped now but the whole car ride she was yapping about how excited she is for her first grandkid and all I could think is "what if I'm miscarrying?".

I'm exhausted. I spent so much time freaking out over "what if I struggle to fall pregnant" and now im pregnant and it's like, what if I am completely incapable of carrying to term? What if I have to live this nightmare over and over? What if I have miscarriage after miscarriage.

Sorry for the rant.

16 Comments
2024/12/02
01:27 UTC

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Good/bad news before or after the holidays….

I am currently 5 weeks pregnant after a miscarriage at 9 weeks in September. I found out at the 8 week ultrasound that I was most likely going to miscarry (due to growth of fetus) so I find myself associating ultrasounds w/ bad news… For this pregnancy, I hit 8 weeks the week of Christmas. I can’t decide whether I want the ultrasound before the holidays or to wait until the new year…. If it’s good news, great but if it’s bad news, that’s going to ruin the holidays and I won’t be able to take time off from work due to my job being insane busy at that time. & even if it is good news, of course something can still happen later on, but also if it’s something like a blighted ovum I would want to know sooner than later… I’m so conflicted…

13 Comments
2024/12/01
22:42 UTC

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Recurrent cold sores

I am 27 weeks and lately have been getting a recurrent bout of cold sores

They will heal, go away for two weeks and come back again in the same exact spot

We did one round of valtrex and it didn’t do anything at all it seems.

What can I do at home to help prevent this! I’m worried for when baby boy gets here I don’t want to pass this to him!

1 Comment
2024/12/01
21:18 UTC

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Heading into my third chemical…

I truly wish my body would just keep a pregnancy. I don’t understand why this keeps happening to me. All I want is one child.

20 Comments
2024/12/01
21:13 UTC

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Bbt dropped

I now wish I'd waited to see if I missed a period. I tested yesterday 13dpo & it was positive! But this morning I took bbt- period due today and it had dropped significantly. Arghh I feel like an idiot if this is a chemical, getting our hopes up. 2nd cycle following miscarriage so I was kinda shocked but had been tracking everything,not drinking any alcohol & just trying my best. But I think I jumped the gun here.

2 Comments
2024/12/01
20:29 UTC

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