Long story short instead of raising like this _ ^i do this _ - its clearly not right i need to become the rock what do i do? edit: gg it wont even let me write underscores to demonstrate

I occasionally wake up and leave home in a great mood and maintain that positivity throughout the entire day or rest of the week (because there is joy in every moment). But every once in a while the universe will send some grumpy antagonist (whether in traffic, on the street, in the shops or otherwise) to test my will.

Most of the time the universe wins and my day or week is ruined (whether by something trivial or by some traumatic incident) and my ability to share positivity with myself or the people around me is compromised while recollection of the event ends up getting a lot more screen time in my mind than it deserves.

The events can range from things are simple as dangerous traffic maneuvers from other drivers to unwarranted abuse from an armed stranger - every week is simply something new where I live and work. The anxiety of potentially running into the same person again generally also plays a small part in my anguish.

I'm familiar and have read much on basic concepts of stoicism and such but I'm not at all capable of applying any such knowledge when out and about and put on the spot. A lot of people rely on me to be at my best and most positive so I'm hoping for your best advice on how to improve.

I am a recent computer science graduate with a passion for music and art. I’d like to dive into game development because it combines skills from all of my areas of interest.

I understand that game developers usually specialize in one area—art, coding, or music—but not all three. However, I’d like to excel in all three and want to know if that’s achievable. Also, I'm interested in each of these skills individually, beyond their application in game dev.

Im 21m and i lack discipline. My work ethic is terrible. I take off so much time from work i barely have enough money to pay my bills (I work at amazon so this is a lot easier than you may think) i can barely do my 40 hours every week. I just want tips on how to discipline myself to stay at work and work harder.

I'm currently trying to learn how to turn my ideas into images using clip art or cut out images from photoshop, canva or kittl to make a picture, basically I want to work on a tarot card deck and I need to be able to make a consistent boarder for all of them as well as the images inside, the way the pictures colors look doesn't really matter because I just need the outline and shape because I will be using it for crochet so the colors would change as I pick my yarn out anyway.

Not sure if this make sense what I'm looking for but I'm willing to clarify any questions, basically I need help creating digital images using these platforms and I am looking for ways to make it easier or faster or so the work doesn't look sloppy. Thank you in advance for the help.

So, to absolutely no one's surprise I have a long list of trauma from various people. Yes, I have gone/go to therapy and it's helped. However, something I can't seem to overcome is a fear that's rooted in logic. I have a heavy aversion to forming connections, because I don't know how to tell someone's character. You may say, "That's easy, observe them." No. Some of the "nicest" and most "moral" people I have met have been the most predatory and toxic. On the flip side, I would say everyone is guilty of some undesirable behavior and having a shade of something doesn't mean you're that type of person. So, in a world of complexity when an individual shows duality how am I supposed to feel cool with establishing connections?

i saw this phrase at a bill Burr standup. he said that he could sense that there is a big laugh behind it that he could reveal.. how to unleash it?

I want to learn how to love meeting new people and understanding the way they are and the novelty of new experiences that comes with it. I find that whenever I meet new people I'm either to daunted to take it on or simply don't have the energy to bother speaking to them and end up missing the chance. Anyone have experience with this kinda stuff?

I would say I'm pretty introverted by nature and definetly like my alone time, but I would by no means say I'm terrible at talking, I just don't seem to have the drive to do so.

Cheers

I (19M) have zero problem waking up early from my alarm. Problem is, the alarm clock could be a 4 hour flight away and I'd still manage to shut the alarm off and get back into bed and instantly fall asleep until like 11 or 12. I've tried everything that I can think of. I need help with staying out of bed even though it feels like torture to keep my eyes open in the morning. The only way I could ever accomplish a consistent early wakeup is when I actually have something to get to in the morning, whether it was work, school, etc. Without that, I literally see zero reason to not get back under the blankets.

Another related problem I have is reverse bedtime procrastination. It's all I do, staying up until 3 or 4am on my phone, it's a horrible addiction I want to break out of. Any help?

p.s. please DO NOT suggest me any of your subscription-based apps that I have to pay for.

Like, Idk I just use them too much and it makes you sound so dumb you know

Wherever I go I am always like this :|, and I don’t push myself hard enough, and people that are upwards hierarchically from me tell me that I don’t give a f, and that I don’t have the attitude for that activity, job, whatever. But this happens to me with absolutely everything, not just one thing in specific.

I love talking to other people and getting to know others overall, but I have really bad confidence issues; I am not sure why but as soon as I am not with another person I am close to, I just sink into myself and become extremely anxious/awkward. I really dislike this about myself and would appreciate any advice on gaining more confidence to help get rid of this.

Ok it seems like a lot to ask for but I'm 18f and I just leaned about planners a week ago my mom expects me to do all my own appointments and I make all my own meals which I like but I have no routine and I need to find a job fast and I feel like I'm not a real adult or I don't know how to do things that adults do I don't even have my license yet because I spent most of my teens in rehab and I just want to get into a good routine of work and college and find some routine but I don't know how

Hey, I am thinking of starting a newsletter what type of newsletter should I start?

I (20M) am disabled with hydrocephalus and spina bifida. I do boxing 3 times a week and park volunteering twice a week . My brother and sister both have autism , which affects my mums stress levels and then we end up falling out . I have energy to do fun stuff but I can’t find the motivation to complete tedious tasks in life. Family life has been getting me down lately and I keep falling out with my family . I’m unemployed and not sure where I fit in the job world. I wish I had more motivation to help my household function better . I’m on a downward spiral of self hatred , frustration, stress, anxiety and possibly depression . I can barely function day to day or be motivated to do household tasks or basic self care . Does anybody have any explanation or ideas to help fix my problems. I’m just the biggest letdown ever at the moment .

I (20M) used to be so happy when I was younger. I’ve got two siblings with autism and my mum suffers from chronic stress which can have quite an effect on my mental state . I used to be ok but lately the stress of life has molded me into a stressed out , hateful person who u can only describe as a shadow of my former self . I feel like I’ve got no enthusiasm towards life , everyday is a mental battle. I also have spina bifida and hydrocephalus. I want to find happiness again .

This is in order to be better informed and to be able to form an opinion. Please do let me know if this is the wrong subreddit

Idk if it's a trauma or whatever but if someone tells or is having a conflict in my vicinity. I blame myself, ik that's dumb but I feel this way and I've tried to change but it doesn't go away. The gut wrenchfimg feeling. Same way I can't handle conflicts or when fights break out I just shut down.

So I want to learn how to handle these feelings. Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi, I’m looking to learn a digital skill that can help me offer services online. I’m interested in things like copywriting, video editing, or something similar.

I’d love to find a mentor who can teach me not only the skill but also guide me on how to get my first client. I’m willing to put in the effort and follow advice—I just need some direction to get started. Any help or guidance would mean a lot. Thank you!

I’m 27f, never took drama, never participated in a play but a small part of me has always loved acting and wanted to. What’s the whole process of auditioning for parts like? What should I know? How should I prepare?

I’ve had my BS in computer Science and Technology Graduated with a Bachelor of Engineering. Overall good and coding but I just never understood the math we learnt. ( Calculus, Algebra etc)

I would like to become a better problem solver. Especially when it comes to life problems.

I’m constantly in conflict with the people I love , they drive me mad . I live in a high stress household. I found out today at leat 4 people think I’ve got an attitude problem. I’m not motivated by much anymore, I’m miserable, snappy . Just a shadow of my former self

I don’t seem to have anything to look forward to, my happiness is low and they say gratitude fixes all your problems but I don’t see how it does

I have this worst habit of not undertaking works until the very last moment. Right from getting up to not studying until the exam date. Now not undertaking office work until the very end deadline. Now overnight I'm working on my report as tomorrow is the last date.

I never realised this became a part of me. That I struggle a lot every day to day life to be precise. But can't let go of this habit of mine.

I will be clue less till the due time & work with full energy at the last moment. The exact problem is I strongly overestimate me & do not do needful in that free time and believes there's ample amount of time. But the very minute the clock ticks, I know I'm cooked & I can't complete anything in that time.

How to overcome this it's ruining my every day life, meetings with friends, getting travelling on time, studying anything and office work to any simple to complicated work.

Hello! I have noticed when recording my videos, I tend to have this slushy, saliva ish sound when I say something like "change". It turns into "shaange".

The air goes out of my sides and I don't know how to fix that.

If anyone has any advice that would be great.

Few things to take note of:

• I am in school, any jobs that require me to go outside for long periods of time is a no-no.
• I don’t really mind the amount of money I’ll be earning, I just want to gather work experience while earning some extra change.
• I want to be flexible with how I do this, so having a strict schedule with this is also a no-no.
• Suburban work (Yard Work, Walking the Dogs, etc.) is also a no-no as I live in a country where a suburban area is rare.
• Preparing for a part-time job is also a no-no as it contradicts with the first note.

Financially, we’re doing alright, but I noticed I’ve been slacking off recently and I want to be productive while making my time worth. And while yes, while I don’t need the money, it’ll take some burden off my parents from buying me ra ndom stuff I want.

I’ve been thinking about freelancing since I have some experience with editing, digital art, and coding, but I don’t have any experience with how to profit over them, and that’s what I want to learn, and I also want to hear any suggestions and/or advice from you guys!

I might be on the wrong sub, if so, my bad. :P

Edit: More things to note :P

Hello, I need your wisdom to help me find online resources like videos, books, and podcasts to guide me in self-therapy. I currently lack the financial resources to see a professional, I don’t have health insurance, and in my country, there are no public services that provide therapy for people without money. Thank you for reading.

I’m always underwhelmed by life in general. Surely there has to be more to life than this? I always do good things in hopes of good things happening to me and yet nothing ever happens. I’m a lot less happier than I used to be . I’m peed off a lot because I expect more out of life than what it currently is . Nothing I do ever pays off. Is this a common feeling?