Currently:

basically my daily routine is to sit on my bed and watch youtube/play video games/do nothing

basically been like that for 15 years (im 15 btw)

i don't even fucking shower and i smell (still brush my teeth)

i don't really care about myself or have any kind of self respect for myself (rlly hate myself ngl) i view myself as a horrible person who deserves horrible treatment and i think everyone secretly hates and mocks me even if it's a random guy on the street who glanced at me for half a second (writing this and looking at it i think i need therapy but don't worry about me) and always feel like i let everyone down

also I'm fat and eat 24/7 (i over eat and im pretty sure it's emotion based) (im bored = i eat) (im angry = i stress eat) (I'm sad = depressed eat) (Etc. but it's all the same i just overeat it's an addiction)

I'm super depressed

I'm anxious about my future if i am to keep doing what i am doing

I'm suicidal (but i think what's stopping me the the thought of the pain)(don't think a single person would miss me)

i got diagnosed with ADD recently which is awful not gonna lie

got some addictions that control my life more than they control me ( ex: porn , yt shorts , food)(no drugs or smoking/vaping addictions thankfully)

poor social skills + lack of awareness in social situations + lack of friends

i always feel dumb and unknowledgeable in everything and i always have this feeling of like my brain just always being empty and it's just air or something

shitty attention span and focus

poor fucking memory which makes me feel even stupider

Trying to fix it myself:

when i try to do things to fix my life i drop it within 2 weeks (maximum) so i can't build good habits and i always procrastinate

I'm unable to study or do school work or to even work on myself

I've tried to improve before and I've failed so bad my brain erased those memories and i remembered them because i went to grab a notebook and found it filled with the same stuff i was about to write

basically it's all a bunch of empty promises

I'm stuck in a loop of nothingness , lies , and sadness

if i stay like this I'm gonna become a homeless man or a virgin who still lives with their parents
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What i want:

i want a normal life

a good life

basically the opposite of what is current

i just want some discipline in life or maybe i need something else? please help me idk what to do

Hi Guys! Hope all of you are doing good?

As the title suggests I want to learn stock trading. I have a fair bit of understanding how the market works and what are the instruments and how to read the market, but I want to have much more deep knowledge about it and especially want to understand and earn from Futures and Options trading. I have had experience working in the FinTech industry and also an investor myself. But I really want to learn the trading part of the stock market.

I don't have much money to spend but I would love for you guys to suggest some YouTube tutorials or any free/cheap courses which are worth it or anything which you guys followed.

Thank you so much in advance!

I’ve always had a very hard time with communication. Growing up it’s something I really wasn’t really taught. I’m a bottle everything up and explode type person later on. I’d like to learn how to communicate properly. Mostly learning to communicate when Ive got an issue or in an argument with my partner. He’s very quick witted so he’s great at over explaining and talking in circles while I just sit there. Then he asks if I have anything to say and I literally can’t think of one thing to say…. It’s a real problem. I go into a freeze state when the argument gets heated which does not help. Any tips or books or any suggestions? I also want to set my kids up for success so they aren’t struggling with this later on in life also.

Thx!

Sorry guys a few months ago I was told I had a lisp been practicing a little and tbf I feel like people don't really notice nowadays but the other day I got roasted online for it which made me question were I am at. Here is how I sound currently. I want to know what I can do and which kinda lisp I have if so. https://voca.ro/1lU3HPa7yeD8

Help me read

Hi,

I want to start reading, but despite efforts over the past year, I haven't made progress. To give you context, I've never read a book outside of school textbooks.

I'm struggling to start reading and engage properly. Currently, I try reading articles and essays, but when I don't understand something, I get overwhelmed and stop.

Also, I'd like to know how you retain what you've read, as I forget about 90% of the material. I think this is mainly due to my limited reading volume. I also want to how do you guys engage with the reading to make the most out of it.

I want to be a voracious reader please help!!

Hi friends on Reddit, I am a beginner chess player with rapid rating ~800 on chess.com. I have been playing for almost a year now, and only until the past two months, I started getting serious at chess by trying to learn one or two openings for both White and Black, and doing puzzles books like 1001 chess exercises for beginners. I can feel I am getting a little stronger since I first played one year ago.

However, I think I still have a long way to go. (Btw I am pretty good at blundering my pieces T^T). And sometimes, I got a position that was very complicated for me to understand and I didn't know what to do, and only playing some random moves that I think made sense but turned out it was a blunder. And lost the game.

I am here to humbly learn from you the experienced player like what is the thought process going on in your mind when you play. How do you assess a complicated position? What to do when a position is so calm and both party are defending pretty well and nothing seemed to work to break through the defense? Basically, what are the questions you ask to lead you to make a decision in the end ;)

In the end, if you have any advices for a beginner like me, you can also share with me and other friends too.

Thank you;)

I am planning a three-week trip to Japan this time next year and would like to have a decent grasp of the language. I understand I won't be an expert in a year, but I feel there's plenty of time to be somewhat less reliant on Google Translate. At the moment I am a complete beginner and don't know where to start.

There is a big push for AI at the moment. All of the high-paying roles seem to be AI-related and I want to know more to be able to confidently talk about it and utilize it in daily work. I have done a basic ML module at university but it has been 3 years since then, and can recall very little.

ive always had problems with things like taste. i can tell the difference between foods but not things like quality, so when people tell me that things have too much sugar or cinnamon or if the ice tea is really good or not its something i cant discern myself, same if the food is moldy or bad. (this is something ive had since i was a child, it has nothing to do with covid symptoms)

my sense of smell is probably also related to it. i know i have one because our train station always smells like piss so i know its there but a few months ago i bought contact cement without knowing it was toxic. i kept it in a jar but the seal probably wasnt tight enough because flies kept instantly dying in my room. my mom however noticed it immediately.

its not something where you just get weirdly used to the scent i think, since ive had the had around for a month and obviously with me going out and coming back a lot i probably should have noticed something was off

sometimes i cook things and then i struggle to finish or continue eating it. i dont know if its because it tastes bad to me and i just dont realize it or maybe i just didnt have the appetite at the time but its been impacting my health and food intake a bit. i think id become healthier if i knew how to enjoy food like i often hear people say they do

I want to start a water crematory business without a funeral home. No funeral services, just crematory business! Do you guys think it would be possible?

As the title says.

I've never had the attention span to finish a book. And I often get bored after reading easily. It's probably related to our dopamine induced society where something needs to be flashy every 3 seconds to keep my attention.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I’ve lost work due to my health (both physical and mental) - I was denied disability (fighting it for two years now but I’m only in my mid 30’s so it’s highly unlikely I’ll be approved anytime soon). I’ve been looking for remote work, which I know will be easier once I pass my billing and coding exam, but remote work in general is becoming more and more elusive. Even though my bills are piling up, I temporarily gave up searching for a job that isn’t remote, at least until I’ve passed my billing and coding exam. But life is too expensive for me to put my sole focus into my course. I need to learn something new to bring in some extra cash but it really needs to be remote. I strongly feel like I’d be great at social media either with my daughter or by myself. I have no idea what to vlog or where to start… I know it’s best to have a niche or brand idea in mind (which I do) but I have no idea how to get started or knowing if my ideas are worthy of putting online and how much luck I’ll actually have… I’m open to hearing all ideas for remote work. If you don’t think social media is the way to go (including NSFW ideas) please let me know. I’m willing to do freelance writing, sales, cold calling, secret shopping, etc. As long as it brings in SOMETHING, that’s all that matters.

I write incorrect words in English because I have a problem with spelling. For example, I often write the word 'know' as 'now'.

I am in my 40s and have never taken a public bus (aside from a school bus). I would very much like to do so: it seems so freeing but I am very intimidated. I feel like everyone has access to info I don’t.

If you have taken as public bus in the US, could you tell me

• Paying: How does payment work? Do I need a special card or app? What’s the most efficient way?
• Routes and Schedules: How do you figure out which bus goes where and when it’s coming?
• Stops and Transfers: How do I know when to get off or if I need to transfer buses? Is there a way to track this without staring out the window the whole time?
• Orlando-Specific Tips: If anyone’s from Orlando, I’d love any city-specific details—like how often buses run or any quirks I should know about.

Thanks in advance of any help you can provide.

I see everyone else enjoying getting drunk or going to parties or enjoying loud music. Everyone takes selfies and pictures of themselves being drunk out of their mind or at deafening night club.

I am a quiet, timid person who doesn't drink, like loud noises or partying. However, I noticed how I generally just like avoiding things - I don't particularly "like" my personality either, it's just neutral.

I want to be like everyone else. Clearly these people are having fun and I want to be as relaxed and carefree as these people.

In 2025 I want to gradually become like these kind of people. Please tell me how to safely and gradually start drinking, partying and enjoy loud music and loud parties.

EDIT: I am OVERLY a prude. I even avoid people who I think drink, I don't even want to spend time with people who party. I want to learn to have fun with people like that. At least help me be able to enjoy myself with and around people like that, and I'll avoid drinking myself.

My conversations with friends always die often, i always respond to things with “that’s interesting” or “that’s cool” & then the conversation is over of course.

Especially when it comes to trending topics or politics! i want to be able to have meaningful conversations but i always trip up over what to say and it ends up staying surface level.

TL:DR --> I struggle with mathematical/logical thinking when it comes to programming and it demotivates me a lot.

Hello my name is Ryu and I've been learning on and off how to program for some years now, started off with HTML when I was like 14, I know some people don't consider it a programming language but yeah, then went without learning for a couple years then at 16-17 took on python and gave up because my logic or my way of thinking in general feels off when it comes to solving issues related to programming, and currently enrolled in a online course to be a web dev since I'm unemployed.

Learned HTML/CSS, very basic introductions and recently finished JS, I'm holding off on starting bootstrap though, simply because whenever it comes to problem solving, which I believe programming is all about, I can't seem to get it right or get it at all LOL

Picture this: I need to build like a website structure with html/css, I'm fine with it, like the syntax part of it, I know most of it and what I don't know, I can always go to stack overflow, chatGPT or w3C or other resources for it.

But when it comes to an actual problem, like math related, f.e a farmer has a farm with chickens, pigs and cows, and I need to create a function who will tell me the total amount of legs with X amount of animals.

In theory it's simple but I just can't seem to grasp the "concept" of thinking like that or visualizing the problem the way it should be? I don't know if I'm making sense, I just really hope someone can give me some pointers, tips, hints, anything, I've been so demotivated to keep learning because I just hit walls and bumps consistently and then my head genuinely starts hurting from the amount of overthinking I'm doing trying to get to a solution and in the end I get like burned out?

But yeah, I would really appreciate it someone read this and could help me out, I'm desperate.

Hear me out, I'll start off by saying that I know this might be popular question. I've looked at some of them and maybe have an idea but if you care for a long read I'll try to be specific about my situation. Although this is generally about meeting people, I think I'm currently focusing a bit more on the dating aspect.

I'm a 23-year-old guy living in SoCal. The main reason for my lack of connections is the fact that I took a very untraditional path with my education after high school. After graduating, I spent most of my time pursuing education/work online and only spent a few months in a in-person college. After getting laid off my tech job I've spent the past year grinding through an online university to get my bachelors within a year. Most if not all of my friends are people I've known online for about 6-10 years. I've never really felt lonely until I started thinking about how I've almost unintentionally been chronically online. I honestly don't think I lack the social skills to keep a conversation going, it's more about the opportunities and approaching part. I've been complimented on my looks being even better than my pictures and I like to think I'm at least average in appearance.

I've been trying to put myself out there more. I try to study outside at cafes multiple times a week; I sometimes visit random smaller events like farmers' markets and have spontaneously done stuff like finally visiting a rave/bar for the first time this past year. Problem being is none of these really lead to any socializing and it doesn't really feel natural besides stuff like chatting to sellers at booths. I've heard of the site meetup and I figured there should be a lot of events here in Cali/OC but they seem to generally be for people older than me. For some reason I also might have a weird perception of people using meetup, especially the singles/mixers events (I know I can't judge though). I also don't think I'd connect really well with people at places like bars, combining the fact that I don't like to drink.

I tell myself that dating apps are probably the solution, but I've recently learned that it's probably not for me either. My view of dating apps has been mostly skewed into it being a platform for hookups which discourages me from trying to pursue something real from it. The whole experience just feels very empty. But the thing is some of the people I've strictly met for hookups were the ones I've actually connected to the most on a personal/emotional level. I think it's because skipping all the small talk and upping the pacing of everything just lead to a deeper connection. Experiencing this is what sort of changed me from only wanting fun to wanting something serious.

As a full-time student these are the options I have in mind with some following thoughts:

• Pick up a part-time job that might allow me to socialize at least a little bit (coffee shop, boba shop, trader joes, idk). This would really only be me socializing with coworkers though.
• The widely mentioned one... finding meetups or hobbies to pursue. This is honestly weirdly difficult for me. For meetups specific to the meetup site I can't find stuff that are interesting AND consist of people close to my age.
• Picking up a pottery/language/drawing/cooking class but these are all paid classes I'd have to think about. Probably would be done at a local community college.
• I'm not religious, but I also wonder if a more modern and social church is a potential opportunity too.
• Volunteering at an animal shelter or preservation garden.

My friends tell me that I shouldn't stress about these things and let it come to me, but I try to think objectively and tell myself that not having natural opportunities means I need to put in some effort.

tl;dr: school, work, and friends were all online which led to the lack of in person connections. dating apps are seen as a hookup app for me. meetups related to hobbies are weirdly difficult to find and have interest in. where do I organically make nice friends and find a potential partner? my growing age and lack of social opportunities is starting to daunt over me.

Hello!  I’ve found myself in a somewhat fortunate but awkward position.  I work as a Media Specialist at a local high school for the last 4 years and my boss who’s worked here for 30+ years is retiring at the end of the 2026 school year.

We’ve talked together with the superintendent and the plan is more or less for me to take over for him when he retires. But to be honest I am not the most confident in my abilities to do what he does, and I don’t want to just utterly fail.  I’ve tried to ask questions and learn where I can, but he’s not the best at teaching or taking me along to fix things, often.  He’s also been pretty stingy about divvying out things to me to ease his own workload.  This is not from lack of trying on my end, but I digress.

My background is mostly in IT support, library science, and computer technician related things.  I landed this job because I worked as the head IT Administrator at the local library in the area for 5 years, but all of the networking things there were done by an outside company with me only having basic access to it.

Where should I start trying to build up some networking experience, and what would you suggest I focus on?  I don’t have time to go to a formal school, but I can take classes online and earn some certifications if possible.  Things like Coursera or any other things like that.  I’m fine starting at the very absolute beginning and working my way up.  I’ve also heard Cisco certifications don’t go as far as they used to, but I am unsure how true that is and am willing to pursue that route as well.

Even some home projects or just questions to ask my boss while I still have him as a resource would be fine.  I just don't want to utterly fail when the time comes.

Thanks for any and all advice.

Hello!  I’ve found myself in a somewhat fortunate but awkward position.  I work as a Media Specialist at a local high school for the last 4 years and my boss who’s worked here for 30+ years is retiring at the end of the 2026 school year.

We’ve talked together with the superintendent and the plan is more or less for me to take over for him when he retires. But to be honest I am not the most confident in my abilities to do what he does, and I don’t want to just utterly fail.  I’ve tried to ask questions and learn where I can, but he’s not the best at teaching or taking me along to fix things, often.  He’s also been pretty stingy about divvying out things to me to ease his own workload.  This is not from lack of trying on my end, but I digress.

My background is mostly in IT support, library science, and computer technician related things.  I landed this job because I worked as the head IT Administrator at the local library in the area for 5 years, but all of the networking things there were done by an outside company with me only having basic access to it.

Where should I start trying to build up some networking experience, and what would you suggest I focus on?  I don’t have time to go to a formal school, but I can take classes online and earn some certifications if possible.  Things like Coursera or any other things like that.  I’m fine starting at the very absolute beginning and working my way up.  I’ve also heard Cisco certifications don’t go as far as they used to, but I am unsure how true that is and am willing to pursue that route as well.

Even some home projects or just questions to ask my boss while I still have him as a resource would be fine.  I just don't want to utterly fail when the time comes.

Thanks for any and all advice.

How do I deal with this? Thinking of a hole in the mantle to run cables down, covered with plywood that can be painted the same colour as the wall...but then what!? Image in thr comments.

English is not my first language but I live in the US now and even if my English is not perfect, I consider myself fluent. I speak very fast in my native language, my friends and family always ask me to slow down. I’m just very passionate about what I’m taking about, and I feel like if I do not speak fast, they will not listen to the whole thing I’m trying to say. This also makes me cut off people when they’re speaking (ik it’s annoying) bc I probably feel like if I don’t, I will not have the opportunity to speak about my thoughts. Now that I am comfortable speaking English, I do the same thing. I am aware that it is bad and I have to work on it but none of the things I tried worked so far. Any tips?

To give a little context, I am 18f with a lot mental health issues like cptsd, depression, adhd,anxiety etc most of which caused due to extremely abusive parents.

I know a lot of people have it much worse than me but all i see is people who have it easier than me and that's a lot more than the former ones. Like no gets me. Everything is difficult to me, everything that's trivial and easy to others. I have accepted this telling myself these are the cards I have been given and I gotta deal with them and that in the bigger picture, maybe it's all worth the fight.But the problem is, since most people around me don't get my struggles, I wish they had struggled too. so they would understand me better. so that they would know I am making not a big mess out of nothing. so they would love me even when I am unable to do things that most people do or say. It's from this intense desire of wanting to be understood and loved. I don't really have any friends or supportive people in life. I have a little sister who is 13, she is the only one I love and although I wish the best for her, A part of me don't wanna help her. she doesn't wanna be there for her when things go wrong with my parents and the only reason is that if she struggled too like I did with no one's support like I did, she would understand how harder it is to go through it all alone. Then, maybe she will love and cherish me more. And I feel guilty of it. Do i really love her? Why am I thinking like this if I love her? this is how I feel with everyone in my life. I wish all my friends had shitty parents too so that they would get how hard it is for me but at the same time I am happy for them. This makes me feel like I can't love anyone.If I love someone,I wouldn't want them to struggle,right? Even if it means they would understand me better! A part of me don't wanna help people in anyway coz I want them to suffer in one way or the other for the earlier mentioned reasons. It's like I play victim in my head all the time and I want to be seen to putting up a strong fight..for which they need to suffer themselves.

So, my question is...how to stop feeling like this and genuinely wish the best for others,help them without feeling like "oh,they need to suffer coz I did too, and especially all alone ...so i shouldn't help them".

I’m launching a YouTube channel focused on educational content about new science discoveries, using motion graphics and animations in under 10-minute videos. I've got my first topic and script ready, but I'm struggling with ideas on how to visually present the information to make it engaging and easy to understand. So my Problem is that i cant visualize the information in a engaging way. Any suggestions or inspirational resources you can recommend for creating compelling animations and visuals for scientific topics?
Thanks in advance!

I (f18 if that's relevant) have made a few posts previously about stressing over small things and wondering if I was overreacting. 9/10 I was and I just don't know how to stop. I'm not the type to overreact in an angry or explosive way but I cry VERY easily.

I've always been a highly sensitive person and its starting to be so exhausting. I can't make any sort of mistake without crying my eyes out over it and I'm wondering if something is wrong. I pray a lot and I know God forgives me but I never can forgive myself. Even the worst mistakes I've made haven't been catastrophic and are considered pretty small by most people I've talked to. I feel everything 10x deeper than I should. I still feel shame around a mistake I made over 5 years ago. And I'm dwelling on one I made yesterday.

What are some ways that I can forgive myself and feel better? I really need help. Thank you. <3

whats the easiest way to get a lot of karma? and how? because i need 100 for a sub im in pls help tyyy

I want to learn how to run fast without stopping for a long time. Like cross country running or long distances

Here's the incident that made me reach out for help

Today I attended an interview for an internship and I messed up big time all because I couldn't express myself better, use the right words (I kept repeating the same thing cause I forgot what to say next), forgot a lot of things about myself (yes literally) and I was trying to think faster (I know I should take a pause and think slower that way my mind is clear but at times it is necessary to be quick). I am confident about my skills but when I sat down in the interview all my confidence just disappeared all cause I couldn't remember what I need to say.

The past 3 years I had depression, anxiety and low confidence. I decided to change it all starting this year. I used to speak fluently in high school, I used to find interesting stories online and narrate them to my friends (helped me make more friends) in school and people would come sit with me to listen to my stories but those 3 years were harsh for me and I stammer while speaking now unable to remember what's the right word to use at that time and by the time I remember it the topic changes to something else and not even able to keep people interested in what I am saying. I am not street smart, I'm quite dumb actually even I'm surprised sometimes.

I started talking to a lot with people, making friends, started reading books, started writing a novel that I thought of writing from a long time, started teaching people, handled workshops, events, ted talks. I will say I have gotten better but the issue is I still cant reach the point where I can be confident enough without having done any of these within 24 hours(almost like I need to charge my social battery by talking to people and yes I tested this out). The next 6 months are very critical to me and I cannot mess it up at any cost. I want to learn how to be confident, articulate, get my thoughts across properly, express myself to the other person in a way they can understand and be quick witted.

You know when you get that random burst of motivation in the middle of the night or when you’re doing nothing? I basically want to learn how I can use that to my advantage to become more productive in life and to possibly keep that motivation going rather than having it fizzle out soon after

Hello all, as the title suggest, I want to learn atleast these stuff.

tldr, I am in my late twenties[M], as someone with views to do right, just and be honest. Was in a burnout rut for over a decade and was a shut in, but got myself a job in big company. The corporate world I joined was not something I was expecting at all, cunning strategies and tactics are at play just to make certain people look good and others look bad, powerplay, etc. Even the ones I considered as friends had used to for their own advantage and boost their own ego, yet being someone with low confidence and timid, I am unable to do anything and just stay silent. I accepted this job with barely making above minimum wages while handing stuff at jobs and becoming unofficial supervisor and scapegoat for my team who are making way more than me while doing way less than me. I am unofficially made to do overtime everyday including most of the sundays while not being paid overtime premium and what not. Old friends specifically mentioned that I am not made for the corporate at all.

How do I learn to atleast tackle these cunning tactics while being gentle and respectful and to see things through? How do I also assess my self worth and upskill and negotiate inorder to get a better paying stuff?