I need to quit sugar because I am obese and want to be healthier. Everytime I go a day without it, I get nauseous if I don't have cookies or some type of sweet snack(by sweet i am talking processed, not fruit). I do eat fruit but still have cravings. I have eaten like ten chocolate chip cookies yesterday and ended up with diarrhea (the big chocolate lovers toll house kind you break off and cook in the oven).

I’d like to be able to predict people and how to adjust myself accordingly. I’ve never been able to predict the way people act/react and I want to change that.

i recently got anxiety and i started feeling i can’t breathe/ swallow, additionally when i saw i feel cracking in my ear when i swallow

"Actions speak louder than words"

I want to learn how to change my old habits. I do have bad habits that cause me to miscommunicate with others, as well as struggling to strengthen and maintain relationships and promises that I have with people.

It's not that I don't want to change, or stubborn to change. For everything, I acknowledge that I must change, and know that it's not beneficial and rather detrimental, to stay the way I am. I "autopiloting" with those bad habits, and often have a rough time integrating these changes into who I am, and into my lifestyle.

I'm tired of just saying I'll be better and do better without showing results.

I want to actively think to be better, but sometimes i get caught up and end up reverting, are there any practices, or tips that would help me have a more active mind in improving.

Recommend me Italian YouTube channels, or TikTok accounts, or shows that are fun to watch. Could be about news, vlogs, food, entertainment, cartoons, etc. If they have a strong community even better! And if it’s something that’s actually popular with Italian adults and children even better (so that I can actually learn about the culture)!!

I don’t want Italian lessons, I just want something that I can easily follow as I listen or watch so that I can get good at listening and pronouncing.

As I stand now I think I’d prefer a fun cartoon, or news channel.

So we have a small furniture selling business, we sell second-hand merchandise and so we rely on other people having furniture to sell to us, but it's getting increasingly difficult to find people looking to sell their stuff, that's why I was thinking I can maybe market myself somehow to broaden my reach. How can I do that ?

When I paint, make videos, make music, make drawings, or do anything I usually rush it. I don't like taking time with my craft apparently and that really impacts the end result of my artistic endeavours. Could anyone share tips or tricks or resources? Thank you.

I have close to zero experience in art but I want to learn how to draw characters I’ve designed. I’m not looking to learn anything complex like lighting, posing, detailed features or anything like that, pretty much just character references so that I can use them to commission art that’s actually good. I’ve been using Ibis paint X on my phone and bought a screen pen but I still can’t get it right. I’m mostly just trying to draw simple, stylistic characters but can’t get them to look good at all. The lines are jagged and I can never get a head shape that looks good. Where is a good place to learn start to learn this? It’s something that sounds so easy until I try it and just get nowhere

I love machine learning , as a computer science student , I want to get into it. My college course didn't help as it was very basic and focused more on numericals on which the question are gonna be asked instead of what's and whys of the maths part. I like to learn it while visualising what actually happens . It looks very vague to me right now. I love 3 blue 1 brown yt channel. Their one what is convolution video helped me understand most than what I learnt in a year. Similar recommendations will be very helpful. Thanks

I've the memory of a goldfish.

The importance of having information at hand at all times for reason nowadays is badly needed. And I want to develop some sort of daily habit that would make me absorb it like a sponge

IWTL how to improve my communication skills and be more conversational and less awkward with people?

People often read books and whatnot, but can someone recommend a bunch of conversations on youtube that show what is a great conversation?

hey there. i recently started working as a barista again (previously worked as one at other places for 2+ years combined) after working retail for a year. i thought i used to love coffee and making drinks, especially in the beginning of my last job. now, im working in a drive thru only place that’s not a locally-owned place like im used to.

im only 3 months into this job and i find myself dreading every shift to some degree, even if i like my coworkers. every time somebody pulls up to order im so ticked off that they’re even there. it makes me so annoyed when they don’t read the freaking menu and ask if we can make a caramel latte (yes, and you should really research what is in the drink you’re ordering and putting in your body). and when im the one to talk to the customers and take their payments, so many of them don’t even look at you and shove their card in your face. they don’t say thank you or specify the size, or if its hot or iced, etc. etc.

i know i should be the bigger person when people are rude or offputting, but it’s so damn hard to not match their energy. it doesn’t help that i have anger issues. obviously i never talk shit to customers, but i feel like i complain a lot to my coworkers. i know that doesn’t make for a pleasant work environment.

i wanna be able to have all the little shit roll off my back. i even wanna learn to have little conversations with the more receptive customers. please help : (

TL;DR: food service is making me jaded and i want to have hope in the human connection again

Hello everybody,

For the past few days, I have been overthinking about everything that may happen in the future. Right now, I am thinking about whether I will succeed financially and get a stable job. I am also overthinking which school I want to transfer to. This trend is not new. In high school, I used to do the same but for different reasons. I know that even if I do get a good job, I will still overthink about settling down and marrying someone which is another problem since I am closeted in a very homophobic family.

I am afraid of missing out on my present moments because I have always been more occupied by my future.

Is there anybody that has the same problem and if they do, how did they address it?

Thanks!!!

I have a 2ds, a 3ds xl, and a wii that im really wanting to homebrew but i dont know where to start and what to trust. I letterbombed another wii before but i have no idea where to download the games from. I have these devices, i can get SD cards, and i have a PC. Anyone here familiar with that?

I'm in the midst of a tough chapter in my life, seeking guidance and support from Reddit because, truthfully, I have nowhere else to turn. My journey so far has been a rocky one, and I feel it's important to share where I stand.

As I approach my 21st birthday in October, I find myself reflecting on my upbringing that has shaped me. Raised within the Jehovah's Witness community by a single mother, I never experienced stability. Instead, my childhood was marked by constant transitions between foster homes, relatives' houses, or at a family friends. The concept of a "home" has always felt very elusive, leaving me yearning for a sense of belonging and security.

My relationship with my mother further complicated matters. Her strict behavior to religious doctrine led to conflict, particularly when I expressed desires that clashed with our beliefs. At 17, I faced rejection when she began pushing me away for wanting to celebrate my birthday (after celebrating my birthdays all the way till 9)– an act deemed unacceptable within our faith. This rejection extended to crucial documents necessary for employment, leaving me feeling adrift and ill-equipped to navigate the world on my own.

Despite these challenges, I've fought to carve out a path for myself. With limited resources and support, I ventured to a new city (sep 2023), lured by the promise of assistance from a romantic partner and her family. However, the discovery of her infidelity shattered my fragile sense of stability, leaving me questioning my worth and struggling to cope with the betrayal.

Returning home marked a humbling realization – that true change begins from within. I'm determined to rebuild my life and forge a brighter future, but the path ahead feels daunting. I'm grappling with where to begin, haunted by past traumas and uncertain of my own capabilities. Yet, amidst the uncertainty, there's a glimmer of hope and a belief that I can overcome the obstacles that have plagued me.

I'm reaching out for advice and guidance, knowing that I can't navigate this journey alone. If you've taken the time to read my story, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude. Your understanding and support mean more than you know, reminding me that even in the darkest of times, there's a beacon of light in the kindness of strangers.

I realized that I might be too broken to run a successful healthy relationship, I have been trying to better myself. But when it comes to intimate relationships, I seem to come up with ways to screw it up. I read about attachment style few days ago and found out mine is anxious/preoccupied.

I do believe in love even thought I never had a good motherly or fatherly figure growing up, but I did run into a couple of elderly figures that helped me to try to understand what a healthy mother-like or father-like figure could be, as brief as they were.

I want to learn how to run a successful intimate relationship or people who had similar issues but find way(s) to shift the situation.

I never had a long-term relationship, even the shorter ones, ALL ended abruptly.

Thank you in advance x

Short story time: I just had this pretty awful interaction at the gym. This lady was doing walking lunges up and down what is pretty much one of the only walk ways in this small gym. I was walking to the trash can to toss a paper towel which is in her path. I realized she was coming and kind of sped up to get out of the way and throw away the towel. She didn't have to stop or anything cause I passed quickly enough.

Anyways I keep walking and this guy, probably 45(M) like three times my size waves me down and starts laying into me. Something like this.

"How bout next time show some gentlemanly courtesy and wait for her to pass"

"I'm sorry I wasn't really paying attention..."

"Exactly, no you weren't."

"Dude...." (Cause I'm kinda like why is this guy yelling at me)

"Dude" (Mockingly)

Then I just said a super half assed sorry as I walked away. I couldn't really think of anything to defend myself.

Keep in mind this guy was being very aggressive so my heart rate shot up and I got shaky and couldn't really think of anything to say back at the time. So while yes this is partly just a rant cause that was pretty upsetting, it's also got me wondering how I can get myself to be able to respond the way I want and think clearly in a situation like that. Do I just have to get more experience under pressure? Are there things that help like learning a martial arts practice or something? Is it just a need for more confidence?

I get affected by most of things I see or hear, like seeing people fighting in the street, seeing someone bullying someone in a movie, remembering a bad memory, etc...

maybe thats just sympathy and I'm overthinking it. What do you think?

Hello everyone,

I'm an 18-year-old guy who's been working a decent job for almost 9 months now, providing for my family with the good pay I've earned. In this time, I've grown a lot, becoming more responsible and acquiring valuable skills. I've even been honored as the employee of the month for four consecutive months, receiving recognition from our manager for my dedication and learning abilities.

However, despite my achievements, I recently faced a setback when I applied for a promotion to become a team leader. Although I was shortlisted, I ultimately got rejected. When I asked my manager for feedback, he pointed out that I lacked confidence in leadership. Reflecting on his words, I realized that perhaps I've been perceived as lacking authority because of my age or because I initially preferred to be treated more casually when I joined the company. Even after 8 months, my colleagues still tease me, and I feel powerless to change the situation.

Now, I'm reaching out to all the experienced men here for some valuable advice on how to improve in this aspect. I want to shed this perception of being treated like a child and be taken seriously. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.

I apologize if my question sounds naive, but I'm committed to making a change and no longer being the butt of jokes. Thank you for your time and understanding.

Can anyone tell me how I can take a sound clip from a video I took and make it into a ringtone?

im writing an essay about biases against immigrants in a court of law, but i cant find any good articles that talk about the topic. almost every article i come across talks about specifically immigration cases, but i want to learn more about how implicit bias against immigrants can lead to unfair judgement and sometimes harsher punishments than someone born in the USA would get for the same crime. any help is appreciated. thanks.

Hey everyone! I want to begin to learn to self-study science. For a bit of context about my science background, I was homeschooled within the framework of a fundamentalism Christian worldview, and I only realized about halfway through college that the science I had been taught going up was, in many cases, not actually factual (Earth is 6000 y/o; Big Bang & evolution are impossible; ya know, the normal Christian science denial stuff).

My breaking point came when I was reading Cosmos by Carl Sagan, and the chapter on evolution just made so much sense, it was like my worldview (at that point) had been flipped on its head. Since then, a good friend of mine had me read The Greatest Show on Earth by Richard Dawkins, which I thoroughly enjoyed.

That being said, I am not sure where to start with continuing my science-learning journey. I used to love science so much when I was little, to the point that my mom was always extremely worried that I would become an atheist and would not let me use any secular materials. Eventually, this killed my joy and I stopped trying to learn more for a few years, outside of what was required for my homeschool curriculum.

As far as my math background, my degrees are in accounting, finance, and software engineering, but I have never taken any math class higher than college statistics, so whenever a calculus concept would pop up from time to time, I would just learn what I needed for that specific issue at that time. I know that math will come in to learning science, but I figured that would be once I am getting more in-depth with a certain branch/learning more advance and complicated concepts, so I have a bit of time to catch up on it.

So, do you all have recommendations for any specific books/videos/resources and study methods for learning science on my own? Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you!

Hi, I am a college student majoring in Computer Science, but for some reason my college made us learn music, and now I have to sing to get an exam. Yes, grades are my motivation for learning music, unfortunately.

I have about a month and a half before the exam, and I don't really know how to go about this. I don't really need to be good or anything, I just don't want to sound like a garbage compactor when I hit not even that high of a note. Any tips and resource would be appreciated, preferably free resources if possible, but I know that vocal lessons are mostly paid, so I understand if there isn't any.

Hello, I started lifting my 8-pound neoprene dumbbells in my bedroom last week and I feel like I want to do it consistently for months. I don't want to end up stopping like I did for the past 3 years because that was a waste of time. I want to build my strength for a while until I see the the results and not make it go waste by sleeping or watching videos on my phone once again. How can I do it without stopping?

At work there's a boss that tries to get emotional responses from me so he can penalize me. He consistently jabs me right where he knows I will react. I'm super sensitive as a person and I want to be able to hold the line so I don't react and get fired. On top of this, he is loved by everyone at work so they have his side. I just want to be mentally strong.

I want to learn how to talk to people better, specifically how to modulate my voice to be clear and confident and also on how to fill up conversational gaps (to avoid the awkward silence), I've gotten a lot better with speaking socially (thanks to a brief bout of public speaking) but I struggle with charisma and one on one conversations sometimes and come off as awkward, is there anyone who has resources or tips on these things? Thanks for the help in advance