I feel so ungrateful for saying this: but I wish I never got accepted into Yale. I had two options. A full ride to my state school which I loved, or a full-ride to an Ivy. I loved my state school, but to my downfall, I let prestige get to me. Now, I hate my life. For context, in high school I took college courses to fulfill my general education requirements so that I could go to my state school and have an easy time studying just CS and be done with the whole "gen eds" bs. I even got a whole associate degree in the process! Now, I am stuck studying more liberal arts than CS. I don't really care about liberal arts. I wish I could dedicate more time to my true passion (CS) instead of liberal arts. I am not just homesick, it seems like an objectively better choice to have stayed in my home state. I lost quick access to my home (friends, family, and girlfriend), great food (I despise yale food), a big campus, and peace just for meaningless prestige. I blame myself so much for this. I can't stop living in regret.

If I transferred back I'd likely have to pay thousands. I really don't want to take out loans and I am not well off enough to pay. I also feel embarrassed to have lost a full-ride to an ivy, just to go back to my state school which originally offered me a full-ride that I turned down. I don't think there are good transfer scholarships that would match my aid at yale.

What hurts me the most is that I feel like I was so blinded by prestige I didn't realize this school wasn't a good fit for me. I feel like I threw away everything I cared about and am in an objectively worse position. I don't know what to do. I lost the sense of adventure I wanted for in college by going to a small school, I lost my connections to home, and I lost simple things like enjoyable walks across a big campus or even good food. I feel trapped.

I'm stuck between deciding if I should switch to a Mechanical major or stay with my Engineering Technology major, but honestly I'm unsure how they're even different. I've heard that they're both very broad, and I'm pretty confident I wanna major in some more hands-on engineering field, but I've heard that I should major in something more specific to ensure I can actually go somewhere with it in a future career too. Idk.

It's still my first semester so I'm not tooooo stressed about it. If anyone has any input on either it'd help I thinkkk

I’m a 2nd year undergrad and I just recently moved to a new school, away from my closest friends of 15 years. My uni friends (different from my closest friends) also moved to the same school I went to. I also stay in a dorm and get to go home during the weekends.

I dont know what this is, but ever since i started uni, I started to feel very alone. My closest friends used to be my whole world. We would talk about everything and anything, share all our stories/experiences. But when i moved away, we dont get to talk that much (understandably) and I came to terms with that already.

I figured that this would be a way for growth as I would branch out and strengthen the bond with my uni friends and get to know my roommates more. For the past few months, I did try to get along with them, but they seem to each have chosen their “person”. Like they seem to have chosen the person they would open up to, the person to accompany them somewhere, or ask for help. It’s like im the least important friend. And It’s not on purpose either, they did become friends first and I came on a bit later, but because of that, theres like this wall formed already.

Nevertheless, I chose to overlook that and start to bond with them more. However, i recently started to notice that i’m not sure i could ever be close with them. Their interests and personalities are way too different from mine and I know that having differences doesn’t mean you cant be friends, but I have it hard to relate with them.

On the other hand, i thought i would really get along with my roommates, and I do, but It’s a similar situation with my uni friends, different personalities and interests.

And the situation that really got me thinking that I was alone was when my closest friends invited me out to coffee and the whole gang was there + their significant other (s/o).

They seemed to be very secure in life, in a sense that they have someone to turn to and lean on in times of happiness, sadness, etc. Something you might not be able to get from friendships alone.

And, i think It’s because of all of these events happening in succession that really made me feel lonely.

Im not at that phase of my life where im ready to be in a relationship and i thought i was fine that way but with most of the people i know being in one, I cant help but feel like im missing out on something even though I know that we all have our own pacing in life. I dont have anyone to depend on anymore or to open up to.

What do you all think?

Hello, I am currently a California community college student planning to transfer to a UC or CSU for Computer Engineering or possibly Math (depending on where my interests take me on my journey). I want to work for NASA and Apple on hardware stuff and programming, but I am also interested in graduate studies/ research in math and engineering and working for said companies on more theoretical topics. I am currently taking my first C++ language and it is hard but pretty fun, but I enjoy math more. I want to get into engineering because of the versatility of software and hardware skills, salary, and my general interest in computers. I also know that engineering majors require a lot more math than Computer Science which was another reason for me choosing this major. However, I am considering doing something more related to math than engineering, but I am scared of employment options and my future outlook.

Honestly I feel just confused on what exactly I want to do other than the above organizations I mentioned. I keep bouncing back and forth between something in math and engineering and whether to jump straight into the industry or continue with my education. I am currently attending a STEM conference more focused on advanced degree programs and research and being around these people are peaking my interest in graduate studies. I am unsure if I should go into engineering then to the industry or do math and graduate studies, or vice versa (graduate studies for engineering or math and into the industry). I want a degree that will get me to my destination in my career, something I am interested in, versatility, and longevity and Computer Engineering and Math are my options.

Here was a list of interests I correlated:

Electrical Components at NASA/ JPL

Silicon Chips at Apple

Quantum Computing with a top tech company

Something with the US Government

CTO for an innovative tech company

Something in Astronomy for NASA working with the study of space using math and/ or computers

This is my first time posting here, so I apologize if this isn't the appropriate place to do so or if anything is formatted incorrectly.

For context, I am a third year undergraduate student, and am setting up my schedule for the spring semester. My Academic Advisor is the professor for a few of my courses. Earlier this week, I brought up to them at the end of class that I wanted to have an advising meeting for next semester. They asked me if I knew what I wanted to take, so I listed off a few of them. They stopped me when I mentioned a senior level course for my degree, saying that it wasn't being offered in the spring because the Chair thought that it would have too low of enrollment.

Throughout the remainder of the week, my advisor learned that a number of students (5-7) are able to, and need to, take the course next semester. Because of this, they took it upon themselves to try and get the class up and running. Here is an email they sent to all of us and CC'd the Chair into:

Dear Favorite Students:

If we can offer [X Course] next semester, would you be able to take it on Tuesdays and Thursdays 12:30 - 1:45 PM?

If not, would you be open to taking it as an asynchronous online course?

Please respond to all. We are trying to settle this question as soon as possible.

Thanks,

[X Professor]

(This was sent at 6 pm)

A number of us then responded saying that the time and days listed work. The Chair then followed up in two emails:

X I texted you. Contact me. X

(This was sent at 8:20 pm)

Sent shortry afterwards:

It’s 8:45pm. No action will be taken on this matter until I hear from your professor. Absolutely no courses will be added to the schedule after tomorrow. As it stands, there is no guarantee that I will be able to get this course approved to be added. I will be at an event in teacher for most of tomorrow. In won’t have all day to deal with this issue.

You all would be wise to start thinking of alternatives unless your professor contacts me ASAP. [Chair]

I guess at this point, I'm just lost. I understand that this is all very last minute, and I do not know what things the Chair must go through to get a class approved and set-up, but it their response feels unnecessarily aggressive to me. At this point, I don't even care about taking the class anymore, there are alternatives that I can supplement with a textbook, but I just feel like the Chair's response was totally uncalled for.

I'm sorry if this is just me shouting out into the void, but I felt the need to get it out there.

Going to keep this short and sweet.

I went to college at 18, not knowing what I wanted to do. Settled on logistics and bs my way through college. Due to some pretty rough life events, I withdrew from college and have been slowly completing courses online while working in the logistics field.

I finally decided that I would actually like to study architecture. I have matured, grown up a lot, and believe I’m at a point where I could do well in school. The problem? My GPA. I have several average grades, a couple Ds and Fs.

How can I get into an architecture program with my terrible GPA? Do I retake classes? What if that’s not enough? Can I start from scratch? Can I not count the classes from online school I’m at currently and just use my transcript from when I left college in person and not receive credit for the classes I’ve taken online (my GPA was better when I left in person school)?

Thanks for your time and responses!

I ask this in general but I'm a business major in marketing! I'm required to take a free elective in the spring/summer semester but I have no idea what to take. I know that some recommended courses are only limited to certain schools, school year, and major but I wanted to hear some of the great/horrible experiences everyone has took! I'd upload the list my school offers but it's REALLY long :') Does anyone have any recommendations from what you're currently taking/plan to take/have taken before?

Hello! For some background, I’m a freshman living in a dorm that I currently have to myself because my roommate moved out. I am diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and bpd. I also have a therapist that can back this up. I am wondering how I could explain that having a room to myself is beneficial due to my diagnosis’s. I know that it is extremely beneficial, I’m just unsure of how to explain why to the disability office. I’m planning to have my therapist write a letter that I can give to the disability office for this accommodation.

2021. I got into HKU engineering. Big whoop. I knew my family is crap, so I applied to dorm. I was hoping to go on nights out, then my parents said I had to come home every weekend (I live elsewhere in Hong Kong too, so commute was 1.5 hr back then). And, plus, I have a bunch of dysphoria so I don't think even if I went it'd be fun

Early 2022. COVID. no uni life there I'm sure. Then my egg started cracking.

Summer 2022. Pretty much just before I decided to transition. I worked a SWE internship at a tiny company that is honestly quite mid, but it put something on my resume. Home, office, dinner, home again. No fun to be had there, either.

big L for my freshman year. walked away with a 1.85 CGPA. Ended up in a major I hated back then.

Late 2022. Egg cracked. Got sent to psych ward, and the rest of the semester picking up the pieces (I failed to). No fun to be had there.

Early 2023. Still trying to transition. Still no fun to be had there, and I hate my major. At least I stopped failing classes.

Summer 2023. Engineering training. I would try to have fun, but transitioning is still such a bother (my family is transphobic as fuck and tossed my transitioning supplies several times) that I didn't have the time to.

Slightly smaller L for my sophomore year, still, no uni life and 1.82 CGPA (!) - I probably should've dropped out or took med leave, but I didn't

Late 2023. I'm getting more stable in my identity. Still, forced myself to do CS and tanked my grade. Went to a concert I wanted to go to, properly enjoyed a party I see held by the GSA, but nothing much more.

Early 2024. Finally, I felt at least a little confident in my studies, and I got used to the way I deal with my pos parents. Ditched my CS minor for gender studies for some bird classes. I don't think anything happened here actually.

Summer 2024. I did an internship, As a woman too. But again, it's an internship so hardly anything ever happens. I did stop hating my major, though

I'd say still an L for my junior year, but hey, CGPA is 1.94, and I got a 2.46 GPA for semester 2.

And now we're in my senior year. I wanted to make up for what I wanted to do. Joined the committee for a student body for my major, and I got elected as chairperson.... except I have *no time at all* to be running this shit, and it still isn't up and running, roadmap is that it will be running in the winter and start offering services for the students over semester 2.

Then we have the courses. The capstone. The shit grades (I just tanked a midterm earlier today, worth 10%, I'm expecting high 60s %). The everything. The 3rd class honours and the low 2.3 GPA in the best possible case. The cramming for a midterm and missing Halloween for it and still tanking it.

Realistically, what can I do? How do I do the parties or the dating life that I always dreamt of? It's my final full year anyway - I planned an extra semester to finish my minor in gender studies, but that's just 1 sem. And I was going to plan for doing postgraduate for the social scene, but my grades are so shit that would be quite a long shot

...So yeah, I'm at a massive loss.

For context this is happening in a really engaging journalism class at my uni. Awesome professor who assigns homework that’s fun to do + easy quizzes and assignments.

The young man that sits in front of me never does any homework, flunks the easy quizzes, and is unengaged during every class (on his phone or laptop fooling around). The prof will call him out in front of class about all his missing assignments, which he says he’s “getting to” or “doesn’t know where to start”. On top of all this he shows up late every day. Can anyone enlighten me to why some young people behave this way in college? Why go to uni at that point?

So this is my first semester at college, and I'm taking the orientation seminar and three stem classes (plus their labs). Things are going mostly decently, but there's definently been a few fuckups that make me worried about how I'm going to do, and the increase in work is a adjustment. So when the super hard bio exam came up, I went ham studying. By the time I went to take it, I was p confident I knew the material, but I didn't expect was to GET AN 100!! Like!!! I can't believe it

As a college student how much is your rent? Mine is $1,050/ month. I live in a one bedroom by myself and it’s a 5 minute drive from campus. I really like the apartment and had to sign the lease for next year again because I couldn’t find anywhere else. Before you guys suggest roommates, it’s a firm no for me, I’m an only child and very introverted I just know I would suffer and absolutely hate it! I couldn’t stand as a kid if my friend was at my house for to long even 😭. I feel like it’s not the worst but it’s also not the best considering I’ve been getting less hours at work.

wtf happened to my documents.

Recently i was at a Halloween thing at my school and this group of girls came up to me and they really wanted me to join their club for some reason. They were being super weirdly friendly and pushy about it which was weird to me cause I have never had a club try to get me to join them so much. Is this some sort of scam or something? they said its some kind of business club.

I’m a freshman who’s graduating in 3 years. That makes me class of ‘27, but telling people that, putting it in my Instagram bio, etc. feels almost misleading. Is that what people normally do or is that something you’d roll your eyes at?

Side note: does that mean I’ll never have a senior year? Or am I already a sophomore?

It feels especially common in STEM. It's starting to lead me to believe that while STEM is difficult, a huge determining factor is family wealth and support. I wish I could be the guy to go to all the clubs and attend all the events but I have bills to pay. All I can do right now is make sure I get good grades and understand the material. It's kind of infuriating.

Can someone get a duplicate college degree?

Like MA in Art History from College A and a MA in Art History from College B.

college students, are you currently working? what kind of money are you making?

I am a freshman biochemistry premed student. When I went to one of the premed meetings in the beginning of the semester they really emphasized how important research experience is in getting into graduate school. So I found a freshman who had open research spots and he offered to let me do research with him. I had this idea that helping doing research was more like washing dishes and just pipetting different stuff that was previously measured out. I am expected to put in my own ideas on how he should perform the research. I am also expected to do my own experiments almost completely independently and know the equations and what each chemical does, etc. I am just so confused. I have spent over 5 hours trying to figure out 4 different equations for measurements that seem to come so easy to the research professor. I don’t understand anything about the research, all I know is that the subject of the research is like mosquito borne viruses I have no idea what each chemical does and what is actually happening on a scientific level with each step of the research.

I ask the professor for help and he does help me but it isn’t much to be honest. He says that in research mistakes happen and I am going to make mistakes. He has shown me how to do the equations a few times but I am just so confused because each time I do them and show him they are somehow wrong. I do enjoy the manual dexterity aspect of doing research and it is cool to see the effects of each process and step. I am just saw lost in pretty much every other aspect. However if I do quit the research he more than likely won’t allow me to come back and I do really find the subject of the research interesting and would like to continue doing research with him. I just genuinely have no idea what is going on.

You don’t get promoted into management. A college grad only makes 5k less than you and you have years of experience. Or when you get laid off a job and you have the experience but no credentials..

I know Reddit likes to shit on college degrees but everyone take your education seriously. After working for a few years In white collar offices this is how it goes. A 20 year old who says fuck school has no real life experience other than his room and TikTok.

Weird question but, any recommendations for finding sponsors for university / college societies?

The society in question has a predominantly international relations focus. Anything helps :)

I have very good grades and I dedicate myself to studying very diligently so academics aren’t my issue. I’ve always felt different when it comes to the social aspect of things. Whenever I go out I find myself just standing alone at the bar wondering why I am so different from everyone else. I feel lost in a crowd and wondering why I even go out if it just makes me feel miserable. Alcohol doesn’t even make me social either it just makes me feel sick. Anyone else feel like this? Not sure what to do I feel lonely but at the same time I feel like being alone is better then being alone in a crowd.

I just completely bombed my chemistry exam. I had an hour to do it and I didn’t even get halfway through. It won’t be graded for another week or so, but I’d be surprised if I got over 50%. I don’t know what happened. I just blanked and completely forgot everything I knew despite studying, doing the homework and paying attention in class. The material is what I would consider easy, science courses are my strongest subjects, I really enjoy chemistry and this professor, and I’m pretty smart and I have a good memory. I have a 95% in the course and I was doing so well and feeling super confident, but now I just feel deflated and like I’m going to fail the entire course. I feel horrible about myself and fearful for the next exam.

Also; I have ADHD and autism but no accommodations so maybe that contributed. I figured I wouldn’t need extra time because I felt so prepared for the exam, but obviously that’s not true.

How can I prevent this from happening again? I really don’t want to fail this course. How can I stop feeling terrible about myself? I’ve failed tests before but only once or twice and never this badly.

so basically its like a communication class where we have to give five minutes of talk for random topics that we will be given, one of it is social media and unrealistic standard. so how can i basically generate idea or write down content for it?

I’m starting to think about going to college in the US and searching through what i need to apply I realized that the kind of essay needed is completely different from what I’m used to, I have no ideia on what to talk about, all I’ve seen where super elaborated essays and it is kinda scaring me a little. Any advices and tips of what to write about and how to write ?

So I (20F) am a sophomore aged out of the foster care system and I have no living parents and I have no knowledge of any family members. My rent is due in 5 days and there’s a chance I’m gonna get evicted. I’m trying to find a second job in risk of my social life but I don’t care at this point, I need money.

I take out FAFSA but they come on an annual basis, and I don’t know if I have to change my status to homeless now. I’m just really scared and I don’t know what to do. Can someone give me any advice???? Any?????

Update: I have Emergency Housing approval, God is Good. Thank you so much for the advice everyone 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

So after reviewing my transcripts. I have completed 29 out of a possible 64 units across 4 different community colleges since 2018.

Ik im a horrible student but I want to clean this up. It looks horrible. What recommendations or advise do you have for me to get all the Ds, Fs, and Ws off my records. I was facing some hardships. That’s all I got for an explanation.

I wanted to hear from other’s experience on night classes, specifically biological sciences I or chemistry. What was that experience like for you and do you regret it at all? On the days that my BioSc class has labs as well it runs from 6:00 PM - 10:30 PM and I guess I’m a little anxious about how that will be.

hey guys just wanted to put this out there because i'm confused if im the problem or if its my school. for some context im from new york and im going to college in arizona. this is not my first time being away from family and friends but the first time being away for so long. so i moved in end of august and after my mom left i was only sad and homesick for 1-2 days and then i was able to make friends and figure my way around. after that i was not homesick at all and was LOVING it so much. I made a bunch of friends, joined clubs, and went to school events (i was not isolating myself in my room i was actually going out and doing things). my school had family weekend 3 weeks ago and a week before my mom came i felt this intense anxiety every night before bed with my heart pounding. my mom came and i had the best time with her but since she's left ive been doing horrible. everynight my heart pounds 160-180 BPM while laying down. I get incredibly nauseous and i've been losing sleep due to everything. I go home for the first time in 3 weeks for thanksgiving and right now all i want is to go home but thinking about going home brings even more anxiety because of the fear of planes i have and the fear of homesickness getting even worse after going home for the first time. im wondering at what point do i call it quits and possibly transfer or check other options? this school is my dream school, has my program and high accreditation, i've made amazing friends and love all the resources and opportunities here however i just feel so lost since my moms left. i don't know if it's the school or me? also i know if i did online or transferred home it wouldn't be any better for me because all my friends are away at college in different states so id be all alone. how do i fix this weird anxiety nausea homesickness thing and why is this happening?