Hello moms, I'm a young mother myself, 27 F to a 2 year old little boy.

I wanted your opinions on how important money really is in the grand scheme of things.

I have a work opportunity in front of me that would yeild far more money than I'm currently making. The difference would be going from paycheck to paycheck & balancing which bills can be paid late, vs no longer having to think about money. Bills would always be paid and I'd have extra left over.

The cost would be selling my house and moving to the desert. I currently live on the east coast and I'm hesitant to move back to the desert. (I worked there for a few years in my early twenties - same career and opportunities)

I've been reluctant to make the move because I actually have a mortgage, and my whole childhood I grew up dreaming of the day I'd have my house, settle down, and spend the rest of my life there.

I also feel uncertain about raising a toddler in the desert. I spent most of my childhood outside, in the woods and in creeks. I've spent the last two years parenting my child this way and it feels incredibly natural.

But this opportunity is here now, and my husband wants us to take it.

Ultimately I want to know how important was money to you these last 20 years? Is this a no brainer that I'm just not seeing?

Thanks 🩷

My parents had very little access to parenting education, support, or mental health care. My mom sacrificed a lot for me, but has never been able to really nurture or emotionally support me.

She also has mitochondrial disease (which is chronic and progressive. She's had it for 24 years, since I was 14, and it's debilitating).

Anyway, she's a good person. But she's barely in my life at all, and when she is I play the role of the caretaker.

I end up in a caretaking role a lot. My daughter was diagnosed with OCD and autism a couple of years ago. My husband has just been diagnosed with OCD, AVPD, and is about to be assessed for autism.

Mothering energy is so precious to me and so rare and hard to find. I recently joined a private practice and felt a connection with a nurturing woman there in her wisdom years. Two weeks in, she had a stroke and died.

I feel so alone sometimes that I just shut down the parts of me that need a mom.

Finding this thread, I feel like crying. You offer something rare and precious -- just reading your nurturing comments to other posts has me overwhelmed.

Thank you for being here.

I’m working 40-60 hours per week so timing and time blocking tips are welcomed.

But I’m also looking for tips and a check list of sorts on what to do. For example, what all is entailed in the bare minimum of apartment maintenance and what all is entailed in a deep clean?

How often should I do what?

The catalyst for this post is that I found evidence of mice and have started truly truly deep cleaning everything. I am working on the mice separately as well. But as I’m deep cleaning I’m realizing that my apartment wasn’t just cluttered it really wasn’t that clean.

I’m pretty ashamed of that. Some of it was unavoidable because work/life was really busy this past month. But other pieces were down right shameful. Like I don’t think I swept my kitchen in a few months?

It took 4 years of a half time schedule to get my associate's degree, but I just took my last final and I'm officially graduating on Saturday. That final had me so stressed out, I worked so much harder towards that class than any other class so far, but I made it through.

Now just four (more) years until I finish my Bachelor's. I may be 36 by the time I have a BA, but a debt free degree is more than worth it!

Just wanted to share this news with my moms. Having major impostor syndrome and sometimes wondering how I had that confidence to apply for the job.

But for some reason, the new boss barely asked anything during the interview itself (mostly asked about my marital status and if I had transportation). I guess he trusts my resume? Either way, I’m excited and scared and hoping for a new and exciting future!

I got a job today. After 7 years of battling my mental health to get to a point I could work again without it getting in the way, I finally got a job

Nona graduated with her masters on Saturday at 80 years old. She was the oldest in her graduating class. She walked across the stage with her oxygen attached and I'm so proud of her. Please comment congrats so I can compile them and send it to her.

Hey mom! A year ago I posted on here for support on leaving my toxic 6 year relationship and since then I have changed for the better. I met my wonderful partner 3 months after that relationship and we’ve been together for almost 8 months, and honestly they’re an amazing partner I’ve ever had. They’re my best friend and I hope one day to have the honor of marrying them someday. I’ve grown so much as a person in the past year and I feel like I am able to be my authentic self again. I am so happy with the path I am going down, I might not have a lot of money but I am loving myself and loved by the people around me. I wanted to share this happiness to Reddit moms 🖤 need a big mom hug!

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Hey mom, my wife and I had our first baby. I want to get her a custom jersey for her first Mother’s Day. She used to be a small. Right now she’s cycling because none of her clothes fit. I think a large will be offensive . Maybe a medium? Also I can’t decide between mom, mama, mami or mamma bear. We haven’t decided yet what we will go by. Baby is only 2 months. I have been overthinking this and it’s overwhelming. She’s Hispanic but her family really only speaks English. She calls her own mother “mom” I think mama is cute but when she’s older will she want to just be mom? Am I over thinking this?

Mom I’m so happy. After about six years of waiting, your son-in-law and myself have finally been granted a space to grow food. We’ve waited so long that it got to the point where it just kind of felt like a permanent wait in the background of our lives. Every few months, for about six years, we’d get an email asking us if we were still interested and letting us know we’d be taken off the list if we did not respond. But then last week we were emailed and we thought it was the usual at first glance. But after opening it, we were left shocked to see that they were asking if we want to arrange viewings as we were in the grouping of people next in line for placements.. I’ve been on cloud nine every day since. Seriously every moment since then has felt like a dream. We’ve waited YEARS. We went for the viewing of open plots a couple of days ago and I had butterflies the whole time. The plots available were so much bigger than what we were expecting. We needed to send a list of which plots we’d want in order from most to least. Today we got the email…. We got our first choice!!! I could sing and dance, I’m so happy! Should have the key within two weeks time. Then the real fun can begin. It’s all happening so fast! From a six years wait, to the actual process only taking about three weeks. I can finally be the Gardener I wanted to be when I grew up. The kind of gardener grandma was. Mom I am so happy.

Hi, mom! I finally managed it. I know the first time didn’t end so well, and even this time was… a struggle, but I’m finally graduating from college. My degree will be in biomedical physics, and I already have a couple hospital labs chomping at the bit because of my research. Things are starting to look up, and soon I’ll be able to live on my own ❤️

I have an internship review presentation today, need some kind words.

Hi, I have a situation I would appreciate some advice on.

I will be 21 soon and I plan on staying between my partner's home and an older sibling for a week or two as they live on their own and have space to do things freely.

when I mention seeing my partner and my friend I refer to them as my friends since I will be seeing 2 of them. both my friends and older siblings live relatively close to each other.

I know my mom will ask questions out of precaution and to know I'm okay but unfortunately can not tell the whole truth as I have a queer relationship. Nor does she trust me staying overnight at someone's house from high school. My siblings are aware of the situation and have both my friend's address and phone number. If need to be how can I reassure my mom that my friends are safe to be with despite her being unable to meet them? or to respectfully state I'm old enough to trust my own judgement of people and my personal safety with a backup plan in place.

I'm a bit paranoid about it because my gf is trans and I don't want to have to misgender or deadname her if she asks to speak to her. I however have no issue with her talking to my other friend if requested. I'm really looking forward to seeing them again.

Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thank you in advance <3

Hi moms! My friend is getting married to a man who has 2 children (he adopted his niece & nephew when his sister - their mother - passed away). So my friend is going to be an “insta-mom,” so to speak. The kids are about 4/5yo.

I thought it would be meaningful to mark this huge life transition by throwing her a shower of sorts. Not sure what to call it… a mothering shower? I’m also not sure what to DO at the shower, as it’s not a typical baby shower. But I like the idea of marking her new role as mother, imparting wisdom, etc.

Has anyone ever done this or have ideas how to make it special (and practical)?

I have very bad anxiety, and I was convinced this was going to be a nightmare. I felt sick, and was halfway sure I was going to fail and disappoint everyone. But I went in there and I passed - all by myself, and without a single mistake!! This is big for me, and I'm so happy!!

I would love some support and love as a trans kid. I won’t be able to transition medically until i’m in college, so maybe some encouragement?

Context: I am an emancipated minor due to abusive family

Hey moms of reddit, I am signing a full NDA and Contract for a position in a certain Cybersecurity and Software Dev job, I have no clue how to approach this, this is something I want to do but its extremely long like 10-20 pages long and the text is pretty small in some places.

Do any moms got any idea how to sign a contract, what to ask, how do I act like professional when signing it, any tips or anything that I should look at it when signing it. I have 2 weeks left before I have to give a yes or no (with my signature) and I'm stressing out because I have ZERO clue how to read a contract and like process it and understand what they want.

Google is too annoying and its overly complicated, i was hoping i could ask a mother who can give me advice that isnt gonna make me even more confused

I just moved to a big city away from where I was living for seven years and started a new job. I bought myself new clothes, got my hair done and find it hard to look in the mirror. I feel so much pride in what I've accomplished lately, but I also feel a lot of fear. I just look so much more put together and like a decent young lady. Where I once saw a little girl playing dress up I now see a grown woman.

I'm trans, and it's ok. I finally believe that it's actually ok now. I know when I first came out it was hard, but I'm so happy now.

I feel so lucky to be alive, I feel so much love for my partner, everything feels lighter and brighter. I care about my career, I'm so much more present with everyone, I'm not sad all the time anymore.

I'm even excited for the future for the first time ever.

I just wanna share this happiness with you.

I turned 24 today and I can’t stop crying. (Also sorry for bad grammar I’m kinda drunk) As soon as I got done with hanging with everyone. I got home had some drinks. We even went to the movies. I had a picnic, someone made cake. (It was amazing and I told them) we drank and watched my fav movie in theatre. And I’m crying over this day. It was one of the best bdays I had since I moved to this city with no friends. She got me a book, a lotion, a gift card to book stores, and a moisturizer! That I’m crying over I’ve been needing one. Didn’t g know any good ones. And I inviting a bunch of people only 4 showed up and this volley ball team was there and they sang happy bday but I had the most fun ever!!!!! Even tho she fells asleep at the movies. But I can’t stop crying. I just wanna ask is this Normal I never felt this loved in so long: thank you and I hope y’all have a great day ❤️

I’ve come to learn that protecting myself can also mean protecting my joy, and the things that make me happy. If all she’s going to do is drag me down, why tell her about anything that goes on in my life?

I applied for a job at a nursing home yesterday. I’m 18, and if I get this it will be my first job! She’s already told me how unqualified I am, why I can’t, etc. If it’s meant to be, it will happen! (Or so I tell myself)

I’m also in the top ten of my graduating class for GPA so far! I have to submit grades early, so it’s been crunch time at school. No matter how I try to gain my mom’s affection, she still gives me the same dirty looks and raises her voice, while also begging for my presence. It’s so off-and-on.

I have also been making a super cool popsicle stick and glue tower in my physics class! Mine was erected faster than everyone else in the classes, and the teacher was joking around. It was a fun time. (Whispering) my tower is the best! I also have a physics field trip on Saturday that I’m very much looking forward to! I’m going to partner with my close friend who has chemistry with me. He’s so funny and an amazing human. He makes me feel like someone.

This part is going to make me teary-eyed. Graduation is approaching, and I don’t look forward to saying goodbye to my teachers and friends. They have shown me what unconditional love is, and school has been my escape for as long as I can remember. I’m making thank you cards for them, but I will miss them all.

Thanks for listening, mom! ❤️

When I started college two years ago, I was prepared to spend the next 3.5 years all alone, with no friends nearby. I wouldn't go to any student events or gatherings as I wouldn't have anybody to go with. I would spend all my time alone and doing school work. But what happened next?

I've gotten a huge group of great friends. I couldn't have believed that I even could ever have such a tight knit friend group where I really truely feel like I belong. Especially this past school year their role has been so so important to me as I'm still learning how to adult on my own.

That's all. It's supposed to help me, and I'm sure it will, but it's scary. Could I please borrow some encouraging words? Thank you ❤️

Edit: thank you so much 🥹

My brother’s best friend and his girlfriend just had their first baby, and I wanted to do something nice for her because (without going into her situation) she doesn’t have a lot of support outside her bf and his family. I imagine it’s kind of isolating, and I want to do something to make her feel seen?

I’m going to focus the gift basket as something specifically for her, since I know that most of the things she’s been receiving so far have been just for the baby, but I just have no idea what sort of things someone newly postpartum might want or need? I thought about some self care items like maybe a candle or face mask but I don’t have many other ideas.

Any suggestions would be really appreciated :)

Hey mom, i'm autistic+adhd (diagnosed since pre teen), and i struggle to do the simplest chores, today i woke up and i finally was able to take a shower, and i cleaned my room by myself!.

i still can't brush my hair by myself, because of poor motor skills, but i'm really trying to get better at this, i also struggle to cook because of it.

i need help to know what i can easily cook, at least so i can eat something once a day. I need to be more independent

Hi Mums, I'm looking to buy some duvet covers (I live in the EU and the whole sheet-blanket thing is driving me nuts!). I've measured my duvet, it's roughly 225cm width by 252cm length but I can't find any size charts which match. Is it a Queen or a King? How do I find the correct duvet cover size? And how much bigger should the cover be? +5cm or more or less? Thank you :)

Hey mom,

I finally decided to move in with my partner after we've been together for two years now. She's the most beautiful woman I've ever known, and I'm the luckiest guy in the world being with her.

I told my mom that I've made this decision, and she said she didn't approve of it, but she wouldn't stop me from doing what I want. This isn't like my parents. Usually, they're the type to kick and scream against me making a decision I don't like. But yesterday I just told her that we'd "agree to disagree" and that was that. Interactions with my parents have been so tiring as of late; I've wanted to be more authentic with them for months now, and refusing to be the least inconvenient version of myself with them has caused so much friction between us it's been taxing.

I feel so weird now, though. It's a weird mixture of fear and pride. Don't get me wrong, I'm elated that I'm gonna be moving in with my partner. I've imagined living together for YEARS now, but just the feeling that my parents will always resent me for this is eating away at me. Not to mention I have to still fight my dad about it before we sign a lease. On the other hand, I've never been able to make decisions against my parents' explicit wishes, and this was the first time that I was able to make a decision they didn't approve of. I feel proud of myself for finally standing up for what I want after years and years of not being able to do so.

It's hard because I feel like I don't have anyone to share this with. I can't tell my parents (obviously), and my friends don't know about this at all. I told my partner, but I don't wanna have to stress her out with my family drama any more than I have to. So I guess I just wanted to talk about it on here.

I'm one step closer to being happy, mom. I can just feel it. It's gonna be a long road, and it's gonna be tiring, but I'll do my best.

Everything I prayed would happen for us is happening. In December I graduated nursing school, in January I passed my nclex on the first try, in March I scored my dream job as an oncology infusion nurse, and now in April we’re moving into our dream house. A house big enough for my son and his son to live with us full time. Everything is coming together. 7 years ago I left a bad marriage with $1200 to my name and a 4 year old son with ASD, to move back into my parents house. They’ve helped raise him while I went to school and worked two jobs.

My parents are not happy for me. The entire time it was “well we don’t know if you’ll make it through that nursing program” “well that house is too expensive you’ll never be able to get it” “you won’t find anyone who will want you with your son, so don’t bother, you should stay single until he’s in high school.”

I wish they would see that I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. In an amazingly fulfilling career, able to take care of my son with one job, about to be engaged to a man that loves us both.

Anyway some people can’t be happy for others but I’d like all of you, if you would, to please celebrate with me.

Thank you to all those who mothered me along the way and believed in me when my mother wouldn’t.

This feels so weird because i just closed my laptop on a random Monday afternoon and suddenly I am done with college. Feels very anticlimactic, and I feel lost and confused. I am scared of the rest of my life honestly. :( i am happy but i feel so weird. Mom how am i supposed to be feeling right now? 😭