Hi Mums. Just joined this subreddit, delighted to know you exist! I was invited over to a friends home for appetizers tonight. I didn't get the sense that my host was signaling me to leave but I didn't want to overstay my welcome so I excused myself after an hour and a half. Was that the right amount of time? How do I recognize the social signals for when your visit should conclude? I find myself so anxious about not wanting to overstay my welcome that I was nervous the whole visit. Conversely, if I am entertaining, how do I politely signal to my guests that the visit is over?

It's unfortunately been washed and dried already before he noticed it and brought it to my attention.

Is it a lost cause now or will hairspray or something work? It's blue on black hoodie sleeve 😞

Not to go into detail as they're very negative childhood memories, but my birth mother & father unfortunately taught me no life skills when I was growing up (with what they did teach being wrong in various ways).

I had to figure out things myself by trial & error (which was hard because my birth mother would intentionally not teach me, then gaslight me for not knowing or even when I managed to get it right by luck) or piecing together what I can find at the library or online.

I am transgender (MtF, about a year & a half now 🥰) and the few family members I revealed such to either are much older or the female friends I know aren't knowledgable in the skin care area. And the resources I've found so far online expect you know the basics already. v_v

I'll list what I'm currently doing and/or aware of, but any tips or suggestions for things I'm not aware of are very much appreciated! :)

After shaving and/or showering, I have a daily moisturizing lotion (for normal/dry skin) I put on my face/arms/legs. For my face & body I have a body scrub I use, but I recall seeing when researching about face scrubs --- is there separate ones for bath & daily use, or can the same product be used for both? And on that topic, is it better to go through the daily process in the morning after waking up, or in the evening before going to bed?

I had recently bought a nano-glass foot file for scrubbing dead skin off my feet, is there anything else I would need? Assuming the moisturizing lotion would be used here after using the file?

Not sure if nails count as skin care, but I have proper nail cutters, a file & buffer and nail oil (last is necessary especially as one of the medicines I currently take has a side effect of more brittle nails) I use for that.

I wanted to do it ever since I turned 18 but I've always been terrified of needles. Finally pushed all my fears aside today and did it! I feel so good and happy 😊

It's no big deal but I just wanted to share it with someone

I hosted my first Thanksgiving dinner today and it was perfect! I know Thanksgiving was last Thursday but we held it today as we were all free. I had been preparing for this evening for the past three weeks and it was definitely worth it. I couldn't get turkey from my local stores so I settled for a whole chicken. It was a good choice as it turned out perfect so easily. I also made the stuffing, cranberry sauce, dinner rolls, mashed potatoes and brussel sprouts. They all turned out so good. For dessert I made blueberry and pumpkin pies, and rocky road chocolates. Everyone loved them all and we had so much fun eating talking and playing cards. It was so nice and some of my other friends helped me out with cleaning my apartment beforehand and supervising my cooking and keeping me sane. I promissed them some leftovers if we had any. And I do have some, so yay for that. I just loved it so much and couldn't have wished for a better outcome.

I never know if im over thinking normal social interactions or made a bad impression.

How do i know which one is which?

Hi mums, its currently Saturday night here and my karate grading is on Sunday. I'm hoping to get my blue belt tomorrow (Kyokushin style so its the 4th belt) but I'm a little anxious about it. This is my third grading but I always get nervous before any grading. I'm going to be grading with some higher belts too so the grading will be a littel harder this year. Could I have some encouragement/support please? :) Can you tell me I can do this? That I've got this? :)

Thank you, have a wonderful day :)

A friend is bringing his toddler over to help me decorate my Christmas tree! I have hung out with them a few times and he’s a very sweet boy, I’m wondering what I can do to make it more festive? What’s a good child appropriate Christmas movie to put on? Is elf too mature for that age? Can 2.5 year olds have hot chocolate? I think he’s too young for a gingerbread house 😂 but maybe there’s some sort of Christmas craft he could do? I want to make it fun but still be responsible. I also have no idea what to avoid other than putting glass things away. I love kids but don’t have much experience with them, I don’t want to mess this up.

It’s something that I would really like but I’m afraid she will not like them and I’ll be crushed if so. How can I ease her into the idea or bring it up in conversation?

Thank you to all the super kind moms/individuals who come on here to reply and support. You are all extremely kind individuals and I wish you all the love and happiness in the world ♥️

My mother and I dont have a good relationship and im working on trying to shed the trauma and pain that has seemed to follow me around for ao long. Sometimes when things are dreadfully difficult, I just soo so deeply want to go “home” and be comforted by mom. Not by her, but a mom vibed person, I suppose. Sometimes I come on here and read the interactions and imagine that its my mom comforting me in the ways I see good mom/daughter relationship having people, and I get second hand comfort. As weird as that probably sounds.

EDIT: I erased to rewrite and left out the most important part. So I added it at the top.

I’m a medical university student, and every three years we have a huge exam with 150 questions covering everything we’ve learned. You get two attempts, and need to score at least 64% to pass. I failed the exam twice, and on my last try, I missed passing by 2%. Because of this, my mom transferred me to a more prestigious university this year, though I really didn’t want to. Some of my courses were transferred, but now I have a microbiology exam with a written test, oral questions, and practical tasks. Most of my classmates had their exam transferred from last year, but I wasn’t allowed to transfer mine since I came from a different university. They told me to try improving my old grade, and if I fail, they’ll transfer it. The exam is in 5 days, and I have 40 topics to cover with three open-ended questions each. With my ADHD and antidepressants, I don’t know how to prepare for this. I’m overwhelmed and anxious. Any advice on how to handle this?

I'm a 15 year old who isn't going to do GCSEs and I feel like an 11 year old trapped in a 15 year old's body. I need some support, I don't know, I can't ask anyone irl.

Mom I made thanksgiving for me and my husband- mashed potatoes, heated up the turkey breast (bought a fried one), made the green bean casserole and the family stuffing recipe. Gave the cats some chopped up chicken for a treat. I wish things were different and that I could host a big family for thanksgiving, but that’s not in the cards. But I wish someone was proud of my meal besides me, I worked really hard on it.

Hi Mum,

I (34M) have never been to a barber before and I have no idea what to ask for. Dad used to cut my hair and then when I moved out I started cutting my own. All I’ve ever done is a single grade all over and then when it grows out I’ll comb it into a side parting. I wanna try something different and I’ve got a barber appointment tomorrow but I have no idea what to ask for.

Do you remember last week when I told you that I had been crying for hours before and during the trip to the gym because of anxiety? But that I managed to book a trial class?

Well! My plan was to try Body Balance on Wednesday. But at the beginning of the week I got screwed at work and I was kind of giving up on everything. I had a hurtful therapy session too... Anyway. Those have been... pretty rough days.

But finally this morning I found time to go to the gym.

I prefer mornings because I sense there will be fewer people...? Being a freelancer, I have a more flexible schedule.

There was no body balance session, pilates instead. It lasted about 50 minutes. And it went really well!

The instructor was very friendly and most of the classmates were old ladies, with some old gentlemen too. It may sound strange, but I prefer it that way. I'm intimidated by people my age. I think it's because I have the preconceived idea that at a certain age you don't judge others so much for their physical abilities.

I found some exercises difficult but I was corrected kindly. I didn't feel judged and although a longer session would have been better for channelling stress, as a trial it has been comforting.

So I've signed up for three months! I'm going to try out the different classes, but the idea of ending the week with some light exercise is a relief. I'd like to combine it with doing some exercise on my own in the room where the equipment is, but I admit that I'm embarrassed... maybe when I get used to the place.

Thank you very much for your support! I think it will help me a lot to reconcile with my body and regulate myself.

A hug from a daughter who is a little tired (from good tiredness).

I've turned 34. It's the most peaceful birthday I've ever had. No one around. But it's also the loneliest one. And to worsen it, I'm sick with fever and sore throat. Just wish me ? Please? Like you mean it and not just for the sake of it like the other texts I'm getting. Thank you ❤️

Hi, mom,

My brother is talking to me again after almost five years of tense and awkward text exchange. He called out of the blue last night and we talked for an hour, and then an hour and 45 minutes tonight.

I'm so excited and overjoyed and happy. My husband says my eyes are more lit up than they have been in months.

I'm still stunned, we had a lot of terrible things happen between us, and I was so afraid I'd never be close to him again. But maybe everything will work out. Maybe I'll have my little bro again and we can be functional adults who support each other since our parents died several years ago.

I renovated my kitchen this year. It’s the first get together since I renovated. I’d really like to share this with my mom but she’s not here anymore. It was a huge success. It was 72 and sunny and I opened up the French doors to the backyard so we could eat outside. I made the family recipe for stuffing and baked rolls and made some sides. Friends brought some turkey. It was a delightful time. It’s so hard to not have her here to share this with. But I’m so proud of how well it went.

So my boyfriend met my family for thanksgiving and went really well! Everyone seems to like him a lot. Yay!

Hey everyone, so I really need some support rn, I was studying (I study at night) and I was about to go to sleep half an hour ago 1:30 and then my classmates and I received a gmail with the calification of an exam we did a month ago, more than 75% of us have failed it, I studied a lot for that shitty exam but still nothing.

I am crying a lot while typing this honestly, I feel like a failure, I pass other harder exams but this one no, and also the fact of receiving the grade at 1:30 am does not help, I am not able to sleep and I have to work tomorrow.

I roasted a turkey today. Made Thanksgiving dinner with my family by ourselves for the first time.

To start, I had a great thanksgiving! My husband and I cooked all day for us, our son, a couple that is as close as family, and three newer friends. Everything turned out great- yay!!! I am hoping to develop a better friendship with our newer friends, but I am really anxious around new people and really uncomfortable in new places. We talked about a group cookie bake next weekend, and I am super nervous about venturing out to a strange place to meet new people and make cookies. I am a pretty good cook, but I get really nervous about new places and new people. I really want this to work in spite of my hang ups. Any advice or kind words?

Hey mom. Just hubby and I this year and we danced around each other in the kitchen while making this spread.

Ribs. Mac n cheese with bacon. Creamed spinach and peas with bacon. Green bean casserole. Sweet and spicy sweet potatoes and not pictured is a blackberry habanero jam and marshmallow fluff sauce to dip them in.

Support please... or even just, having someone know what it is I'm going through.

I've got cataracts in my eyes and I'm seeing three of everything. Driving is hard, but I'm a substitute teacher. I'm trying to work as little as possible so I can keep my benefits. Reading someone else's sub plans is a nightmare, with the tiny font.

I've been teaching temp jobs for ten years and I've been working my ass off to just find a school that I can call home. Wondering if I'm the reason I keep getting passed over for permanent jobs. And now, I have to suppress all that ambition and turn down work and it's driving me insane.

I have additional eye issues (narrow angles and ROP, blindness in one eye) that's making the surgery process even longer and I don't know what to do to keep going. I feel so alone.

So yeah, that's what's going on with me... thanks for reading this far.

After pushing everything aside and studying, I got my tests back today, 97 in all my subjects except for mother tongue, where I got an 89, bio-mom just said it was expected so I was hoping I could get some kind words here :)

Hey all - mommas, big sis’s, & kiddos, if you don’t have any one to tell you happy turkey day, I’m saying it here.

Love & hugs to all y’all from a momma/big sis

Tried to tell my own mom and, yknow, never got a response. I'm not surprised she won't talk to me today either, like she didn't on my birthday.

So I just want to be excited with some other people. I finally got my top surgery (ftm) done on the 19th, and I've been so happy ever since. I've felt so at peace, and like I can actually start living my life. I wish I had a relative I could celebrate this with, and someone to visit during the holidays this year, so despite my happiness I'm just. Idk. Kinda really bummed at the moment. I'm glad I'm away from those terrible people but I still wish I could have some mom hugs :(

Hey mum (sorry Australian here). I did it. I got into that law degree! I finally got that acceptance into that law degree.

happy thanksgiving and thank you especially to all of the moms here who show us such kindness, support, and nurturing love. y'all deserve so much more credit than you get, and i hope today you take a moment to give yourself that well-deserved credit, allow yourselves to rest, and eat good food. thank you for being a beacon of hope for so many of us. lots of hugs 🧸🤎🍂

Hey mom, I'm getting married tomorrow and I am over the moon. Bio-mom has tried to talk me out of it- not because there is anything wrong with him she just doesn't like that I stand up for myself when he is around.

Its the second for both of us. We found love when we weren't even really looking. He is my other half and I am grateful for him every single day.

I had to tell you because I feel like I am going to burst with happiness and excitement.