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Are you still worried about YAUMUL QIAMAH (the final day) 🤣. That used to give me panic attack in my childhood.

asper Islamic belief, God set an end to this world. he appointed his good another creature for this job. this angel guy is waiting with something like a trumpet. as soon as he get green signal from the Godish guy, he (the angel) will blow his Trumpet. and then there will be a hurricane in this world. Everything is over my friend, you have no choice, Allah doesn't answer your prayers anymore, he screwed-up. Surprisingly, you open the Quran and found the texts are despaired forever. sadly, Allah closed the door for us, you just left with your good deeds, nothing else.

Imagine the day with a hurricane all around the globe. Rocks and trees will be uprooted and fly through the air I want you to imagine this one more time. as a little boy, you are witnessing this horror with your own eyes, your father mother and everyone you love is fly up in the air with stones, trunk and bricks. I still remember the dreams I used to have about this. After everything dead including the guy who blow the trumpet the judgement day will start, you are accountable for you deeds. You will be provided with books about your own deed, everything is recorded. every bad deed, every wicked thought, every missing prayer.

2 Comments
2024/11/03
06:49 UTC

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Inviting 25 yo and up exmuslims to join our discord server

Hi, we have decided to lower the age bracket from 30 to 25. Pls message me if you wanna join. Pls note I may stalk your old posts and comments to verify you.

1 Comment
2024/11/03
05:30 UTC

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Is Muhammad the most influential person in history because of peace or violence?

21 Comments
2024/11/03
05:07 UTC

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NONE of you were ever really muslims. I can debunk ALL of your arguments against Islam. Throw them all at me.

All muslims know nobody actually leaves Islam. How could anybody????????? It is the truth, plain and simple. Obvious and selfexplanatory. You are just a bunch of westerner kuffar trolls hating on islam. Maybe a 5 or a 10% of this sub are actual exmuslims, but those are just the typical deranged people every society has.

I have been reading this sub for a long time and your criticism of islam is laughable, I can destroy each and everyone of your arguments EASILY. So throw them all at me, I will debunk THEM ALL ONE BY ONE AND DRINK YOUR TEARS.

Go on.

27 Comments
2024/11/03
04:41 UTC

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Reality of our society

Any body is from India please help this girl and please support on Instagram

I'd- @humraaaaaaaa

1 Comment
2024/11/03
04:37 UTC

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I’m a gay man, currently questioning. Looking for some perspective I suppose.

When I finally accepted to myself that I wasn’t straight a few years back I had initially resigned myself to a life of celibacy and controlling my urges cuz Allah said so.

But ever since the start of this year, Ive stopped praying to be straight cuz it would’ve happened by now and I’ve been doubting why Allah would make me like this and deny me the right to normalcy and family when the family unit is emphasized so much in Islam.

I don’t agree with the sex-slavery, control and subjugation over women, hate towards non-muslims, and extreme punishments.

But these are things that keep drawing me back:

  • Pre-marital sex is prohibited and that makes sense to me. Having lived in the west and in a muslim country, the rates of teen pregnancy and STDs and out of wedlock pregnancies are more common in the west.
  • Marriage and family is emphasized. In the west the divorce rates are higher and so many people come from broken families where they don’t keep in touch with parents, siblings and the distant relatives aren’t even known. Plus abuse in western families is also frequent. Not saying this doesn’t happen in islamic societies but it isn’t as common.
  • Then there’s prophecies. Two that I can think of right now are that man shall lay with man and woman shall lay with woman. Of corse I know that lgbt people have existed in every era throughout history, but it has never been this widely accepted and represented in media as it has been in recent years. The second prophecy is that women will be clothed and still be naked. It makes me think of fashion in the west but also in other regions of the world where mostly women’s fashion is becoming more revealing whereas men’s is still not as revealing and staying similar to the traditional suit and tie.

This is not a post trying to convince people that islam is the way. I’m just sharing my confusion. Idk what to really think.

14 Comments
2024/11/03
02:40 UTC

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I find much of the muslim world to be creepily robotic

What I mean is, besides the robotic prayers that Muslims indulge in, I've noticed the increase in technology in Islam. In my family, cellphones make the call to prayer, it's a recording of a person and I highly doubt the all knowing God intended the call to prayer to be recited by s recording and not an actual person. It's actually really creepy. Often times at family gatherings multiple cellphones will go off in unison making the call to prayer. Unexpected and it's very eerie.

It's robotic and creepy. Why are so many Muslims using cellphones as additives to their prayer routine? I can understand the convenience of a device so sophisticated but it's not very solemn and gives off strange vibes. It's very inauthentic and makes the whole process very automatic and like my title says, robotic. How much longer before A.i. gets involved?

My thoughts. What are yours on this?

9 Comments
2024/11/03
02:34 UTC

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Unstable home and I don't go to school

I guess this is the type of post I have to make. An angsty one where I vent, because that's probably the only way anyone is going to look at this. Honestly that itself makes me seethe but I digress. I'm probably just doing this because I'm pissed that it took me months to ask for help and it went nowhere. Or maybe I'm just done in general and I'm just taking out my frustrations here. I'm gonna regret this later but I just need to scream into the void rn. If it's too much to read just please skip to the bottom.

What the hell am I supposed to do? What the fuck do I have to do to not have my entire being eaten away everyday. Everyday when I go to that stupid shit hole where I have to hear disgusting idiotic things all day that are ridiculously funny at best to horrificaly inhumane on average. Every single thing that people complain and criticize about on here is stuff I have to spend 5 hours a day listening to. Camel piss Hadith? Done that. Defending paedophilia and rape? Done that. Encouraging militant jihad and sex slavery? Done that. And the list goes on and on. FUCK madrasa. That place is also just in some small ass house so on top of it I have to sit in some random basement in burka, crowded in a small space with other people, on the floor where you can't leave and sit in any position besides the fucking Sunnah position. I literally get sensory overloads weekly.

Then I have to "respect" these immature braindead bigots and suck up to their sorry little asses. There's no one even my age in my class and everyone is older. Even if there was they all are also just as stupid and soon enough to be just as bigoted. I am also for some reason the only one in the entire fucking school doing hifz and alim course at the same time. And I can't even express myself because they always get butthurt and triggered whenever I question them. They turn respect and being a good person into some sort of fucked up joke. They think if they just pray to their nonexistent Allah that's good enough, and that's what constitutes a good person. Gosh I hate them so much.

Finally when I get home I have to come home to my stupid ass home in the projects where everything is falling apart and like 50 years old and theres no space it's so small I can't even breathe. I haven't gotten new clothes in 5 years my desk is from the street the heater is always leaking. I can't. then my parents are always fighting so I'm even more constricted. Then I have to be some sort of pseudo parent for my 3 younger siblings when my parents are fighting or not there like usual. I DONT WANT TO BE A FUCKING PARENT I JUST WANT TO BE A CHILD

The cherry on top is that even through all of this I couldn't even feel anything and I was all alone, I don't even know what I was feeling because autism!!!! I can't even recognize my own emotions, let alone regulate them. It got to a point where I felt so cornered that I seriously asked my parents for help two years ago, obviously it was awful and I was told it didn't matter and it was only happening because I just "think" it's happening (whatever the fuck that means), and was villified constantly!!!! So because I couldn't go to therapy I had to give it to myself and it was so hard and took so long, and I've only finished dealing with everything just recently. But in the end it doesn't matter, because I'm still trapped in this situation.

I can't even sleep at night anymore because my brain is too understimulated because I'm not learning anything and my brain is like some sort of monster or something if I don't feed it with enough information it won't shut up, but these past few months the usual hours I spend researching online isn't enough. All I can think about obsessively everyday is how much I hate madrasa and wish I could escape, and how my life is so meaningless. All I do is worry about how if I were to die right now it wouldn't even matter, and how theres nothing for me to even look forward to everyday. The only reason I'm here rn because I can watch anime as some sort of escapism. And maladaptive daydreaming.

I worked so hard on my mental health and to stay strong so I could continue to hope, but what's the point? Even when I become 18, will it even matter by then? At that point will I even be able to feel anything anymore? Right now I'm already empty, all I do is just use something else to fill me up and make me feel something at least. Whether that be writing, anime, or drawing. But that won't last forever and as time goes on it's getting harder and harder to still feel things. And I can't help it because no matter how many smaller problems I continue to fix within myself the main cause won't go away. I wish I didn't want so much I wish I cared less because then it wouldn't hurt as much. I wish I could just stop hoping already. But my brain feels so trapped I would give literally anything just to learn. Forget any goals or wants I had I just don't want this anymore I just want to learn. And I don't even like the school system.

I've been isolated my whole life because of this stupid fucking religion, I could never visit anyone or do anything at school because haram!!!! And my parents didn't even have the decency to at least be there, forget school events they didn't even care enough to go to parent teacher conference. Then things got worse and as everyone knows religion loves to devour people at their worst and this stupid fucking lady ruined my whole life and now I'm at madrasa. And she's supposedly my fucking hifz teacher, a teacher who didn't even care when I finished my hifz except to guilt trip and complain to my parents about me wanting to study at college. And she ruined my one chance where I almost got therapy. And even if I try to escape now she's probably gonna ruin it. why the fuck does a random ass woman have so much power over my life. and I can't even get help and she just makes everything so much worse, and she's the one who put me in this situation to begin with. It wouldn't even be as half as bad to deal with of it weren't for her.

So please, if anyone can tell me literally anything I can do to get out of this situation somehow, if not now then in the future, then just tell me. Even if it's small or unlikely, because if I completely lose to despair I'm scared I'm actually gonna kill myself. I don't want words of pity or empty words of comfort, so if anyone even reads this please help. And if pity or sympathy is all you can give then I'll say this in the most polite way kindly shut the fuck up.

2 Comments
2024/11/03
02:20 UTC

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Videos showing little boys as mahram are uncomfortable to watch

Ik its supposed to be a joke but it really weirds me out... theres NO WAY a fully grown woman who finished school is weaker then a 6 year old who cant pronounce his W's... 💀 whats Islam's obsession with treating young children as adults?

3 Comments
2024/11/03
02:07 UTC

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None of you were real Muslims

All the ones says they were ex Muslims most of them weren’t even Muslims just born is Muslim family which doesn’t make you Muslim memory of you were Shia which they aren’t Muslim in first place or the fact none you don’t know the simplest thing about Islam yet saying I was exmuslim I was debating with exmuslim told him what was his madhab he had no answer why? Cause he wasn’t Muslim in first place or bringing the dumest argument about why did you leave Islam like one of the ex said I left because why pork is haram like what?!

103 Comments
2024/11/03
01:23 UTC

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Any exmuslims who converted to German/Nordic paganism?

After I watching Vinland Saga anime, I'm interested in the German/Nordic paganism.

Moreover, in Nordic religion, it has one good'sharia' law. For any male who disrespects women, beating a woman, or even scolds a woman eventhough she is caught cheating with other man, that male will be ostracized by society. German/Nordic pagan religion are really respecting a woman's rights.

9 Comments
2024/11/03
01:16 UTC

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What are the experiences of those who took their hijab off?

I’m currently in a struggle of wearing the hijab. I’ve decided on taking it off this week, but am scared to do so. Mostly due to what others (especially my classmates) reaction will be. My parents are chill with it, it’s just my stupid brain overthinking again. I would like to hear what ur experiences have been, like what it was like going back to school without a hijab? I really just want to get rid of this cloth and feel free bro.

1 Comment
2024/11/03
00:50 UTC

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Are they gonna come after the christians next?

Hi so im in the uk, i noticed pro palestine people are targeting jewish establishments/residences from outrage towards the palestinian war. I dont support war but at the same time it seems like innocent jewish civilians get dragged into this. Im scared after they do this to the jews, they might do this to christians who have nothing to do with it? Kinda wanted to know the general feel from UK ex muslims does your muslim friends express harrowing hatred for us christians too amidst the war? Make us the next targets? All this doom scrolling makes me a bit anxious when i go outside. Sorry, i hope this isnt offensive but i come from a nation thats war stricken from jihadis (christian nation they wanted to over throw the government but failed) and im scared to encounter that again here in uk as im still pretty traumatized by it.

Throw away account as i dont wanna be targeted by lurking muslims here

22 Comments
2024/11/03
00:40 UTC

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Feminism in Islam and provider

First of all I am not ex Muslim but have started really rejecting lot I been taught.

Anyways one of the things that really annoys me is when Muslim women talk about feminism and women’s rights.

It seems the mentality is that women in Islam have more rights than other religions or that women women in the West had to fight for their rights while women in Islam were given it. All of this seems to stem from the fact that men in Islam have to provide for their wives and women who work don’t have to share their money with her husband. Even now I see lot of Muslim women who are modern and not religious turn down men who ask for help with finances. Even for small stuff like couple of small bills etc.

Just wanted y’all’s thoughts on this.

3 Comments
2024/11/03
00:06 UTC

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Why do they need to be intolerable!! Just asked a question here and got this insufferable woman in my chat. 😒

22 Comments
2024/11/02
23:43 UTC

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Guess all the comments under this video.

This was such a cool video but i could smell the comments from far away. So i decided to open the comment section and i was not disappointed with my guessing power.

3 Comments
2024/11/02
22:29 UTC

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Debunking "fair" allah

allah is often reffered by muslims as "the most fair", one of allahs names is 'Al-Muqsit' which means "the most fair" and the Quran itself says several times that he is fair.

But that's just bullshit. There are many reasons for that but one of them is particularly funny to me.

Because according to several sahih (authentic) hadiths, allah does something which is the quite opposite of what you would call fair.

Abu Burda reported Allah's Messenger as saying:  There would come people amongst the Muslims on the Day of Resurrection with AS HEAVY SINS AS A MOUNTAIN, and Allah would FORGIVE THEM and He would PLACE IN THEIR STEAD the Jews and the Christians. (As far as I think), Abu Raub said: I do not know as to who is in doubt. Abu Burda said: I narrated it to 'Umar b. 'Abd al-'Aziz, whereupon he said: Was it your father who narrated it to you from Allah's Apostle? I said: Yes. (Sahih Muslim, Book 037, Number 6668)

Here is another one, also sahih, which basically confirms it all:

Narrated Abu Musa: Allah’s Messenger said: On the Day of Resurrection, my Ummah (nation) will be gathered into three groups. One sort will enter Paradise without rendering an account (of their deeds). Another sort will be reckoned an easy account and admitted into Paradise. Yet another sort will come bearing on their backs heaps of sins like great mountains. Allah will ask the angels though He knows best about them: Who are these people? They will reply: They are humble slaves of yours. He will say: UNLOAD THE SINS FROM THEM AND PUT THE SAME OVER THE JEWS AND CHRISTIANS: then let the humble slaves get into Paradise by virtue of My Mercy.

So, according to these hadiths, on the day of judgement, there will be muslims with many sins, who will still enter jannah, because their sins will be given to the kafirs instead... Wow, I mean, that is really fair and just. I don't know why the kafirs shouldn't be punished for the sins of the muslims, I mean, this is totally fair👏👏

Abu Musa' reported that Allah's Messenger said: When it will be the Day of Resurrection Allah would deliver TO EVERY MUSLIM a Jew or a Christian and say: That is your RESCUE from Hell-Fire. (Sahih Muslim, Book 037, Number 6665)

Another sahih hadith, telling us that instead of a muslim, a jew or a christian will be punished instead. I mean, SubanAllah this makes my eyes tear🥺 Such beautiful, such nice things allah does, elhamdulillah!!!

1 Comment
2024/11/02
21:57 UTC

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Need Advice || Strict Parents

I’m 15 yrs old and I have 4 other siblings in my household. My parents are divorced so it’s just my mom in the house. I see my dad sometimes and he calls me often. I grew up very religious and my parents were strict. Eventually, my mother lessened her strictness due to stress and amongst other reasons. My dad, however is still the same and doesn’t allow music, social media, and a lot of other things. Growing up, I’ve always worn a hijab and very modest clothing. Up until last year, I’ve realized that I don’t wanna be muslim anymore. The idea doesn’t appeal to me and it has never benefited me. Something I love is music and it has helped me throughout the years. I didn’t (still don’t) have much friends or anybody to rely so that’s what I’ve turned to. I love music and it has helped me greatly. More and more each day, I find an urge that I want to pursue it. Although, I have no absolute way to do that. It’s not like I can tell my siblings how I’m feeling because they would try to push me back into Islam. I’m also very distant from my parents and they’ve recently been trying to get me to pray more. Telling them all of a sudden, “I don’t wanna be Muslim” would drive them crazy. I feel so trapped and it’s starting to affect my mental health. I can’t bring myself to want to live the way they want. What should I do?

2 Comments
2024/11/02
21:38 UTC

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Idk just read it

Can y’all give me the strongest evidence of islams falsity ? (Im not muslim i just need it for something)

8 Comments
2024/11/02
21:07 UTC

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Family and religion

My parents are so religious to the point that they love me only if I worship their god.I haven’t seen people like me in my country so I can feel relatable about the situation, only one who eventually got sentenced to death after 3 years of being locked up back in 2019 to 2022. I’m still closed ex Muslim and I can’t continue with it. I’m afraid that they will get hurt or getting a fatal panic attack, my mom always giving me hard time about leaving the country because they are kaffar out there so imagine after I say I’m one of them, of course not while I’m in the country because everyone including my family will be against me and they will turn me in and be accused of apostasy (ردة) I’m afraid for my life and also for theirs and I really want them to not disowned me because I wanna help them and do what a son should do. What should I do and feel about this? Do you have a similar situation like mine please share

1 Comment
2024/11/02
21:02 UTC

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every debate its the same stages

13 Comments
2024/11/02
20:26 UTC

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Worst surah of the Quran

After Surat at-Tawbah, what would you consider the worst surah of the Quran?

6 Comments
2024/11/02
20:13 UTC

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What has islam got against dogs??

Same as title

5 Comments
2024/11/02
19:36 UTC

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As ExMuslims what made you leave Islam and what religion are you practicing now ? And when you were Muslims, what was your denomination (Sunni Shia Sufi etc) ?

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21 Comments
2024/11/02
19:33 UTC

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Hijabis and muslim men in clubs

7 Comments
2024/11/02
19:24 UTC

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What can I do in my current situation? This is the only place I can ask for help.

I don't really know how to start this off? I'm a 15f who left Islam somewhere in may this year, I don't remember properly tbh. I don't go school anymore, I go to a madrasa (that's illegal lmao) and I haven't had any proper education since elementary. I'm in NYC at least but I don't think I can go back to a normal school.

And even if I do I don't really want to because I'm not ready and there's no way I can get support. Plus I doubt it's even possible for me to get into a school that can support my special needs anymore (I'm autistic, and I'm gifted in the 99th percentile, I used to go to a school that had support measures for that). I'm also too old to take the shsat because I'm in 10th grade this year. I don't know what to do for college since I don't have an education and my family is low income and I live in the projects.

I don't know what to do and I don't where to go and I don't have anyone to ask. I keep trying to solve things on my own but I know it's impossible since I'm just one person. I can barely talk to people let alone ask for help, I've been meaning to ask this on here since August but it took me that long just to get the courage to ask on here. I don't want to get into personal stuff but my home life is also really unstable and always has been, with my parents also fighting and leaving and stuff, and there's really nothing I can change about the situation currently unless there's something I'm not seeing. Is there anything I can even do right now to change that or at the very least do something starting from now for my future?

2 Comments
2024/11/02
19:08 UTC

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