Reflections on Being an Ahmadi

Growing up as an Ahmadi, I’ve often felt like we live in a bubble. Many of the people I’ve met in our community seem to lack basic logic when it comes to holding meaningful conversations. Questioning anything—be it traditions, decisions, or practices—feels like crossing a forbidden line. It’s as if we’ve been conditioned to avoid critical thinking, and the mere act of questioning is treated like a sin.

Because of this, I find it hard to connect with other Ahmadis. Most friendships feel shallow, and I’ve consciously avoided forming close ties. Even the concept of rishtas is a headache for men, and I can only imagine how much harder it must be for women in our community. Everything about our system feels overly controlled and artificial—like those staged North Korean posters where everyone pretends to be happy, regardless of the reality.

What I truly crave is to meet someone who shares a love for genuine conversation. Someone I can discuss art, politics, and culture with—someone who isn’t afraid to explore the good, the bad, and the ugly of life. Genuine connections are rare, and I hope to find a space where honesty and curiosity are encouraged instead of silenced.

A bit of a weird question, when did you find out there was a difference between Ahmadis and traditional Islam? Did your parents tell you? Was it in the jamaat? Were you oblivious to a difference at a younger age and found out later in life? How did you feel? Were there any consequences? I.e bullying, separation from friends?

Our existing rules don’t allow posts from people seeking relationships since our sub is not a matchmaking service, even though a lot of people come here to discuss dating and marriage. There have been a lot of posts in the last few days on this topic, so posts that are about finding someone to marry, someone to be friend with or, my favourite, how to marry your Sunni partner, will be removed for the next 30 days. We will reassess at that point.

Note that posts about seeking community or support are of course still welcome.

Hi everyone,

I hope you all are doing well. I am a male in my early 30s from Canada. I was born an Ahmadi muslim but don’t consider myself a Muslim anymore due to my lack of will to pray and attend mosque. I was hoping to meet someone and become friends with and possibly explore things with people who have same interest or what not. I hate to admit this but I feel lonely most of the time due to me suffering from mental illness. Please feel free to send me a DM. I look forward to making friends.

Thank you.

I'm a British Pakistani Ahmadi Muslim and Gay. Possibly the unluckiest combination you can think of. All aspects of my life is miserable. I have no motive to live, I've wasted all my teenage years living in fear, isolating myself and living the most miserable life you could think of. I've attempted countless times in this year alone. I have nothing to look forward too. I'm dealing with all this whilst being in the closet. However I'm certain I will pass by the end of this year because I simply can't go on like this. If there are any LGBTQ+ Ahmadis out there, what is keeping you here because all I can think of 24/7 is suicide. I've held on enough now I physically and mentally cannot go on. The damage has been done.

Hello everyone Bit of a long shot but why not

I’m early 20s, male, in UK, well educated. Getting to the point now where I keep getting rishtas but it would be nice to meet someone myself rather than go through the arranged process. You don’t need to be looking for marriage anytime soon but just having it on the table for the future eventually I guess is what I’m looking for.

I’m being intentionally vague about myself on this post on purpose but I’m happy to go into more detail in dms.

Career wise I’m doing okay, I’m a doctor.

I’d say I’m okay looking too lol, I’ve had lots of interest from everyone but ahmadi girls cos there weren’t any at the uni I was studying at 😅

With regards to beliefs, I’m not the strictest ahmadi, I find myself questioning bits of it here and there, but ultimately I won’t be leaving jamaat anytime soon. My family is very conservative though. I personally don’t mind if my partner doesn’t wear hijab etc as long as she does if we’re going out with my parents etc or going to the mosque ofc. I’d say I’m quite cultured too, a lot of my closest friends at uni were international students from Pakistan so that’s probably more my vibe. I’d be okay with someone who can’t speak Urdu etc but would prefer someone who can.

I’m happy to answer any questions in dms.

Only people who are in UK plz, or moving to UK is fine as well I guess.

Even if none of this leads anywhere, just say hello,

I’m working rn and need entertainment, love a bit of procrastination :)

Hi, I am 20 years old girl from Pakistan, 5'5" tall, and currently doing my bachelor’s degree. I am Ahmadi, and because of this, I have to marry someone from this community, but I am not active and not following Ahmadiyyat, I only call myself muslim. Anyway, is there any boy from the Ahmadiyya community who shares the same ideology as mine, and who is supportive, sensible, good-looking, lovey-dovey, mature and not boring let me know. My type is someone who will be friendly with me, respects me and my opinions, has a good sense of humor, has clear goals and is proactive in achieving them, pays attention to good lifestyle and aesthetics in life, listens attentively, Investments, savings, and financial planning should be part of his lifestyle, values my thoughts and opinions, makes an impression wherever he goes, and to be honest, looks and behavior matter to me. I’m genuinely worried about my future because I need someone who is exactly like me. I know it’s difficult to find, but I’m at least trying. You can message me here I will check. If anyone is willing or knows someone who might be interested, please let me know. It would mean a lot and be a great help.

I was thinking recently how the jamat is always proud of its members for collecting 100% chanda at the end of every term. But how many ahmadis pay chanda honestly and true to their pay. Let’s just take the average salary in Canada is 45k, the mandatory chanada are am (6.25% paid every month) jalsa salana (10% of monthly income paid yearly, khudam membirship (1% of monthly income paid every month) khudam ijtemia 0,33% of annual income paid once a year, as well they are now forcing and telling their followers tahrik jadid and waqf e jadid are mandatory which they are not. Not sure if im missing any but total for 1 follower would come out to 3500 for the year. Now the jamat says they collet 80-100 million every year and praise the most high. Google says there are 10-20 million ahamdis, alislam says tens of million, for our sake lets stick to 10 million. I know not every ahamdi lives in Canada or the west so lets say 1 million. if 1 million ahamdis paid their true wage according to our calculations comes out to 3 billion $. accouring to this data only 4% of ahmadis pay their true wage and that’s only counting 1 million ahmadis. So 96 % of ahamdis directly disobey the promised messiah and curent khalifa.

I was going down the rabbit hole of the islamic model of creation of the universe where Quran says that God created universe in 6 days and divided the heaven in 7 heavens (Quran 41:9 - 12).

I wanted to dig into the Ahmadiyya interpretation of 7 heavens and I stumbled upon this audio: https://www.alislam.org/askislam/question/969/

I couldn't connect the dots on how KM4 interpreted number 7 to be equated to infinity.

He says that the 7 skies can be divided into 7 sub-skies indefinitely, just like a calander week repeats 7 days indefinitely.

I couldn't make a logic out of it. Help me if you guys find any logic here.

I am contemplating to attend the upcoming Meet and Greet event of Rishta Nata in London. I recently registered on Rishta Nata UK portal and wondering how it works, I and my parents haven't got much idea about rishta talks.

People who have been to such events, how was your experience? How do they arrange meetings and in what settings?

For context, I am guy 31M.

A personal observation. It seems many are given a script and talk off of those points. It's so cringe, I can't even explain it. They're not themselves. They're almost like robots or politicians. They're just given notes and that's how they speak.

Same with the YouTube channels. It's the same thing over and over. It's creepy.

Why is it that Jammat and in general, religious people, tend to be robotic?

It's fairly obvious. They're not taught to think! They're taught what to think.

Any thoughts?

One of the many unfortunate things about the jamaat outsourcing its apologetics to Very Online weirdos with poor social skills is that they think they just need to be better than the least presentable version of mainstream Islam out there. Or, in other words, they have basically landed on the same conclusion as many people on this sub: Ahmadiyyat is the least terrible version of Islam, which is objectively a terrible idea.

Enter the latest gotcha of the Discord crowd, which uses research and sources to explain these points:

1. Islam in its wisdom allows for adults to marry children because it just does, but it protects those children by not allowing for sex between this married couple until puberty
2. Islam here is implied to stand in for Ahmadiyyat, even though the poster goes on to explain that just about every branch of Islam in existence, as well as Muslim scholars throughout time, apparently felt differently
3. the 99% of Muslims who aren’t Ahmadi are supposedly okay with children as young as five having sex

I don‘t have a dog in this fight but really, in the year twenty twenty-four, I don’t think the Ahmadi positions that 1) a toddler can marry a man in his 40s (and yes, it’s always a man) is okay, and 2) sex between a married couple is okay at puberty, are something to be proud of. Unless, again, you are in such an absurd echo chamber that you just need to be better than horrifying and will settle for being merely terrible.

I’m not going to touch the implications of believing in a religion where 99% of its adherents are pedophiles or what it says about the jamaat that its unofficially official social media team is writing these things. I guess if the eight other high school students on your Discord server are impressed, that’s good enough?

Dear Reddit user,

As you may be aware, the blessed institution of the Eras Tour will soon be upon us in Toronto. This tour was prophesized by Hadhrat Taylor (AS) during an interview with Jimmy Fallon (may Bhagwan strengthen his hands) in 2022. It is incumbent upon every subscriber of this subreddit to either attend one of the Toronto concerts, stream a song by Hadhrat Taylor (AS) during the month of November or simply repose on their posteriors and do nothing (cf Malfoozat, vol. 6, pg 69).

Allah says in the Qu'ran:

Allah has promised those of you who participate in fandom and strive against Ticketmaster that He will certainly make them Swifties in the land, as He did with those before them

However, there are many harmful innovations great innovations taking place in the city. Members are advised to avoid these unislamic activities do these things:

• there will be extra marquees available for both ladies and gents extra service available on the Toronto subway for the concerts
• please have your AIMS card and ticket ready for inspection by event staff
• parking downtown will be extremely limited so please take one of the school buses provided by concert organizers the subway or the GO train
• concerts on November 16 and 23 will have lots of white people there so be on your best behaviour, show up on time and don't eat the food that's meant for them

The following songs are recommended for listening 200 times each every day between now and the end of the blessed month of November:

• Anti-Hero
• Cruel Summer
• Shake It Off
• You Belong With Me

Young people ages 15-25 can listen to these songs 100 times per day, children should listen to them at least 33 times per day and young children should rehearse a few times daily with their parents.

Please share on your next livestream.

Here's a snippet from Tadhkirah

In the end God said in Urdu:

[Urdu] I shall lengthen your days also.^(1201)

This means that those of my enemies who say that only fourteen months of my age are left after July 1907 or prophesy my death within a certain time will all be confounded and God will lengthen my days so as to demonstrate that He is God and everything is under His control…. [Tadhkirah p. 1008 - 1010]

So, for this prophecy to come true, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad (MGA) was supposed to die only after August 1908. But he died on May 26, 1907. Thus Jama'at had to come up with a rather lengthy footnote explaining how this prophecy was not an utter failure. I'll copy paste it below, the reference is same as above.

1201 Note by Hadrat Mirza Bashir Ahmadra: This is a prophecy in response to ‘Abdul-Hakim Khan (apostate) who had made a prophecy about the Promised Messiahas. This is how it was fulfilled. Allah the Almighty kept extending the life of the Promised Messiahas until the time that ‘Abdul-Hakim himself withdrew his prophecies in which he had prophesied the demise of the Promised Messiahas within a certain period. But when he specified a date for his prophecy, Allah the Almighty falsified him in another way. The details are the following:

He published a prophecy on July 12, 1906 that:

Mirza is perverse, liar and deceitful. He will perish in the presence of the truthful. The period has been revealed as three years. (Kana Dajjal, p. 50)

In response to this, the Promised Messiahas was taught the following prayer in revelation:

[Arabic] O Allah, discriminate between the truthful and the liar.

Then he [‘Abdul-Hakim] wrote on July 1, 1907:

In response to his impertinence and disobedience, God has reduced the three year limit—which was to be completed on July 11, 1909—by ten months and eleven days. He revealed to me on July 1, 1907 that Mirza would die and cast into hell within fourteen months from today. [I‘ilanul-Haqq wa Itmamul-Hujjah wa Takmilah by the apostate mentioned above, p. 6]

In response, the Promised Messiahas published his revelation in the Announcement of November 5, 1907:

[Urdu] I will lengthen your days also. [Majmu‘a-e-Ishtiharat, vol. 3, p. 591 and al-Hakam, November 10, 1907, page 7]

Thereafter the said apostate announced on February 16: Mirza would die before Sawan] 21, 1965 [Bikrami] [corresponding to August 4, 1908]. [I‘ilanul-Haqq wa Itmamul-Hujjah wa Takmilah, p. 26]

The Promised Messiahas stated in response: In response to his prophecy, Allah the Almighty has conveyed to me that he himself would be cast into torment and Allah will annihilate him and I shall remain secure from his mischief. [Chashma-e-Ma‘rifat, p. 322, Ruhani Khaza’in, vol. 23, p. 337]

Then the said apostate announced through a letter dated May 8, 1908 in the newspapers:

Mirza would fall prey to a fatal illness and would die on Sawan 21, 1965 [Bikrami] [August 4, 1908]. [Paisa Akhbar, May 15, 1908 and Ahl-e-Hadith, May 15, 1908]

The Promised Messiahas wrote in response:

Allah the Almighty will manifest who is the truthful. [Badr vol. 7, no. 19–20, May 24, 1908, p. 7]

Allah the Almighty so ordained that the apostate himself cancelled his three earlier prophecies. Thus Allah the Almighty falsified his last prophecy, because the Promised Messiahas passed away, not on August 4, 1908, but on May 26, 1908. . [Allah and his Messenger spoke the truth and Allah’s decree was bound to be fulfilled.]

The prophecies of the apostate were reverted upon him. He had claimed a revelation on October 30, 1906 the ‘Mirza has died of lungs disease’. But he himself succumbed to lungs disease. He prophesied that; ‘Mirza’s foundation will be uprooted’ and had stated about himself; ‘You will succeed’. [I‘ilanul-Haqq, p. 7], but he himself was so uprooted that he went into total oblivion. But Allah the Almighty has blessed the mission of the Promised Messiahas so much his devotees are found today in every part of the world. . [All praise is due to Allah for all of this]

Allah could have let MGA live a few more years so both his age prophecy and this prophecy would be fulfilled without a shadow of the doubt. Unfortunately, Allah was just keeping MGA alive just to prove this Abdul Hakim Khan wrong. By this footnote, it seems, that Abdul Hakim Khan tricked Allah into letting MGA die sooner. The prophecy was Allah would prove MGA right by lengthening his life and that prophecy was an utter failure.

I’m at a point where I’m seriously losing interest in the idea of marriage. Growing up, I always imagined marriage as a way to find a true partner: someone to grow with, explore life with, and share a meaningful connection in both faith and personal passions.

But looking at the marriages around me, it seems like so many people end up dealing with constant family drama and outdated expectations. For example, my cousin just got married, and she’s already struggling with her in-laws’ interference and having to constantly set boundaries. I can’t imagine dealing with such outdated household issues—it’s not what I envision as a fulfilling partnership.

What I want is a relationship where we’re both committed to each other and our shared goals, where we grow together, learn new things, and unlearn things that hold us back. I don’t want to be stuck in family drama that doesn’t add any value to my life. The typical saas-bahu nonsense, or emotionally incestous sisters. It just feels like a waste of time.

Is this kind of meaningful partnership even realistic in an Ahmadi setting? Has anyone managed to build a marriage that feels like a true partnership without getting caught up in family politics?

I just want more out of life. We have such a short time on this planet, and I don’t want to waste it on trivial matters that don’t bring real happiness or growth.

I saw an Ahmadi recently argue that the Lekh Ram "prophecy" is one of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad's greatest. Let's just assume that these prophecies are actually prophecies and not just random coincidences from a guy who said a lot of stuff, some of which may have actually came true. I still don't see how it's proof of divinity, never mind proof of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad's claims to being a messiah. In fact, the present-day analogy, being charitable, would be a guy on Twitter who's otherwise an asshole but somehow managed to predict Brexit, the Trump presidency and Covid in 2010.

Seriously, have you ever actually looked at what the supposed prophecies are? Just read through this one from a Masroor stan* website, predicting the death of Lekh Ram.

For background, Lekh Ram was a Hindu religious leader who got involved in a feud that must have been like the Razi-Adnan feud of its time, possibly with each side issuing regular pamphlets declaring the other one to be exposed, their hatred for each other surpassed only by their love of each other, because they complete each other and make the other relevant. But we're getting off topic.

Lekh Ram will die within six years of 20th February 1893

He will not die from an illness

He will die via a stabbing with a dagger or sword

He will die on the day following Eid

The day or the hour would be 6

His example would be like the Calf of Samri i.e will be destroyed on a Saturday

Just like plague came after the destruction of the Calf, similarly, plague will come after the death of Lekh Ram

First of all, why is it so important to predict the death of an opponent? What does this prophecy, and its centrality to the Ahmadi belief system, tell you about how that belief system regards opposition? As far as I can tell, Lekh Ram didn't do anything that Mirza Ghulam Ahmad didn't do, which is use some harsh language to criticize another religion and then predict the death of his opponent. Why doesn't Mirza Masroor Ahmad today go around predicting the deaths of Youtubers who criticize Islam?

Second, why is the prophecy so shoddily constructed? You can predict that someone will die, but only within the next six years. They will die on the day following Eid and with a sharp object, we're just not sure which one. The number six will be involved, but we're just not sure how. Oh, and for shits and giggles, a plague will follow that will likely kill many innocent people because Mirza Ghulam Ahmad was apparently quite the nihilist edgelord.

Lekh Ram was in fact stabbed to death. I feel like if you are a religious leader who predicts the death of an opponent and go so far as to stake your legitimacy on it, you're probably guilty of inciting violence more than you are cementing your status as a prophet if that opponent then gets mysteriously stabbed to death.

But, whatever, there are tons and tons of prophecies, such as the weird one with the eclipse or where Mirza Ghulam Ahmad told a distant relative that he would marry the relative's 14-year-old daughter because the guy apparently didn't believe in Islam anymore. It's unclear if this scene from Family Guy was actually inspired by the writers reading about the Muhammadi Begum prophecy.

Whoa, what a creep, he just wants to marry a 14-year-old . Who happens to be, uh, his relative. But don't worry, he's just trying to humiliate his opponent in the worst way possible according to this stan* website:

I do not know if you are familiar with the traditions of family customs in India or not. But those who are aware will bear out that to publicly demand the hand of a daughter of an enemy, particularly of feudal stock, is probably the most potent way to chagrin and humiliate an adversary. Hence, God Almighty, in His Infinite wisdom, decided to hit this branch of a traditionally noble family in a manner as would hit the hardest where it hurts.

Also, you definitely can't say that the guy is a bit weird for wanting to marry a 14-year-old while being 53 years old himself. Get your head out of the gutter. He was happily married! To a pious lady! Of noble stock! Noble stock!

Otherwise, it is inconceivable to imagine that Hazrat Ahmad would, on his own accord think of seeking a matrimonial union into a family so far removed from Islam.

At that point in time, Hazrat Ahmad was 53 years of age and happily married to a pious lady of noble stock, Hazrat Nusrat Jahan Begum, descendant of Nawab Mir Dard. It is clear beyond a shadow of a doubt that Hazrat Ahmad was not given to worldly pleasures. 

Anyway, then it all falls apart and he never actually married the poor girl because supposedly her dad repented or whatever and Ahmadis will argue with you until they're blue in the face white in the minaret about weirdness like what is the right age of consent and how this prophecy actually did come true if you really think about it. I just happen to think it's a pretty fucked up prophecy to begin with and I wouldn't highlight it in the year two thousand twenty-four if I was trying to convince people to join or stay in my New Religious Movement.

With this one, again, imagine the equivalent today. You leave the jamaat, get married, have kids and live your life. Then, a distant relative, perhaps the president of a local jamaat, goes on Tiktok and says that he's going to marry your daughter as a way of humiliating you for becoming an apostate. If you respond to that Tiktok, then Razi releases a video declaring that you're an enemy of Islam and you'll be dead in six years.

And then you do die. I just don't think Ahmadis would get that many converts as a result, because these prophecies are actually repulsive, awful things. They were also repulsive, awful things when Mirza Ghulam Ahmad was doing them, regardless of whether or not they came true.

^(*Since you can no longer claim that any website, event, or correspondence in the jamaat is truly official, I've settled on this term to capture how everything and nothing in the jamaat is official)

I know this might sound silly to some, but I (F 23 - Canada) need help convincing my parents to let me travel abroad for my masters.

I need help on how to convince them, preferably some islamic and ahmadi topics/discourse which supports it. I recall a video from 2022/2023 from this week with Huzoor, where he said its okay for mature girls to travel, but i cant find the video.

Any help would be amazing! And please don’t with the “you’re an adult, just go.” Because yes i can just go, but i want to go with my parents approval and happiness. Its taking me a long time to have a good relationship with my parents and i don’t wanna ruin it. I want freedom with their support not hostility.

I have noticed jamaat in general has gotten more modern, and many girls are travelling for leisure and academics.

According to Aḥmadiyyah, Mirzā Ghulām Aḥmad is the one to judge the authenticity of aḥādīth because he is the prophesied Hakam-o-Adal, and his divinely-guided judgment on aḥādīth cancels out all the other humanly-judgments of ḥadīth scholars on aḥādīth. But I seem to have identified a flaw in this argument: In order for Mirzā Ghulām Aḥmad to be able to judge the authenticity of aḥādīth, he must already be the prophesied Hakam-o-Adal in the first place, but for him to even be able to be recognized as the prophesied Hakam-o-Adal, the aḥādīth themselves that prophesy the advent of a Hakam-o-Adal must first be proven true, so that the advent of a Hakam-o-Adal could be known to have been truly prophesied. This creates a paradox then: Mirzā Ghulām Aḥmad's status as the prophesied Hakam-o-Adal is needed to judge the authenticity of aḥādīth, but the aḥādīth themselves that prophesy the advent of a Hakam-o-Adal need to be judged as authentic to recognize him as the prophesied Hakam-o-Adal. Essentially, it's a circular argument where he must be the very thing that itself needs proof, making it logically untenable. So, how can any ḥadīth be judged as authentic in any way by anyone under Aḥmadiyyah?

There was a great comment on a recent post about wearing the hijab from u/drobbor that I think bears repeating. I've copied it below:

I want every Ahmadi girl to know one thing I learned after decades of battling on things like this with my parents.. your parents are actually completely powerless.. they cannot control you. They cannot forcibly put the hijab on your head. They cannot forcibly marry you off or do anything else against your will. There is only one tool in their toolbox and it is emotional manipulation. Stand firm on what you want and if you need to do so for larger matters or if they get physical.. remind them that you are legally an adult and have the Canadian legal system behind you. Let their words roll off your back and stand firm on what you want. You will come out on top.

It is both incredibly obvious and powerful to remind people struggling with their parents over religion and how close they are to the jamaat that, if you're over 18 and living in a Western country, all the power actually rests with you. Your parents can't force you to pray, they can't force you to go to a jalsa, they can't force you to marry or not marry somebody and deep down, they know this.

That's why it's common for South Asian parents, especially those in the jamaat, to use emotional manipulation, codependence and a lack of personal boundaries from an early age. Your problems aren't their problems, but their problems are definitely your problems. You must be religious, you must have the right type of job, you must be attractive, but not too attractive, to a potential spouse, and you can't pull out of any of this because that would cause your poor parents' heart to fail. Your relationship is basically the movie Speed, where you move through adolescence at breakneck speed without time to think lest the ticking time bomb of shame explodes.

For everyone reading this who isn't religious and who doesn't want a future in the jamaat of raising observant Ahmadi kids with an observant Ahmadi spouse, it's important to create boundaries between yourself and your parents. It's important to try and defuse the power of emotional manipulation by being able to say that you love your parents but you won't have a relationship with them if every interaction is motivated by, or boils down to, you living your life on their terms. If they want to be religious, they can knock themselves out, but you don't have to do the same and you also don't have to have them in your life.

According to Ahmadi beliefs, Hellfire (Jahanam) will cease to exist and everyone, including non-believers, will be get out of it and end in Paradise (Jannah). What the arguments for that are isn't the point.

Which for me questions the use of Ahmadis preaching their beliefs:

If everyone will get out of Hellfire, even those who didn't believe in Ahmadiyya, why would people take the step to accept Ahmadiyya in the first place? It ain't matter because every super-hard anti-ahmadi critic will be even freed from Hellfire, so why would some random guy take the effort to believe in it? Yeah you gonna suffer a bit but at the end, you end up with the Mahmud and Bashir you were fighting online against in Paradise.

To make things more 'useless', Ahmadis (correct me if I'm wrong) believe that those that didn't heard about Ahmadiyya at all will be excepted from the Judgement of Allah. They will probably end in Paradise because it isn't their fault for not believing in it because they didn't knew it. So which begs the question that if Ahmadis make it their mission to see everyone saved from Hellfire (even if it is temporal), you would think twice before preaching to people whom you at 9/10 would know they wouldn't accept your beliefs nor would you see them ever again anyways, and so giving them the higher chance of them getting ended in Hellfire for not accepting Ahmadiyya.

It's all messed up. I'm open for corrections.

I'm an 18 year old ahmadi from canada for context. For a while, I have started to dislike wearing the hijab, not feeling comfortable in it and just resenting it. One major reason i hate wearing it is the expectations my mom expects me to follow. the most innocent things are seen as disrespectful or inappropriate to my parents because of the fact that i wear a hijab - laughing in public, running, just normal things. I hate wearing it because my mom specifically finds it basically illegal to let people know that i exist as a female. The purdah rules in general in ahmadiyyat are so stupid - what is a coat gonna do? I'm not religious myself at all. I don't feel a connection with god by wearing the hijab, it just makes me hate religion even more. sometimes i wish i was never born muslim because of the fact that i'm forced to wear it. I brought up that i wanted to stop wearing it to my mom and she acted like i said i killed someone.

Is there anything i can do or say to my parents to be able to not wear it anymore?

I'm 28 years old, born Ahmadi, but over time, I've become more and more confused about my religion. There are a lot of things that my heart just doesn't agree with. When I got divorced, my ex-husband never showed up to the Jamat court, so I went through the Pakistani court system instead. Yet, his father still holds a high position in the community, and his mother has openly said, in a proud and threatening tone, that no one can challenge them. It really bothers me how people who are supposed to be leading and teaching can't even control their own families.

Now, after my divorce, I don't want to get married within the community again. But living in Pakistan, it's hard to convince my parents of this, and I don't have someone in mind that I can say I'll marry outside of the community either. I feel like I'm stuck in the same boat as many others, looking for a way out. Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you navigate this situation?

Salam

I (currently an Ahmadi) am currently trying my best to research and understand the beliefs of Ahmadiyyat and Islam more thoroughly before deciding where to commit. I'm in my mid 20s and need to find the right path soon, before I get married.

I'd really appreciate some pointers on clear and specific topics to look deeper into. Especially any clear mistakes made by khilafa, any contradictions in Mirza Gulam Ahmad's writings, any claims made by MGA or his khilafa that can easily be proven false. Any clear refutations to these are also deeply appreciated. Please include relevant Hadith or Quran reference if applicable.

(Please be calm, respectful and brief in the comments. We are all, no matter what faith, trying to find the right path and follow it to the best of our abilities)

Jazakallah

For the last few years, I’ve been reflecting deeply on Ahmadiyyat, questioning many of the teachings I grew up with. There are aspects I can genuinely appreciate—like the belief in Khilafat, which I find to be a well-structured system, somewhat akin to a presidency. However, beyond that, there are more aspects that, over time, have led me to question my place within this community.

I’ve made amazing friends along the way, and I’ll always cherish the funny and memorable moments we’ve shared. Those relationships are something I’ll carry with me for the rest of my life. But after a lot of reflection, I’ve come to the conclusion that this path isn’t for me.

I wish nothing but the best for those who remain part of the Ahmadiyya community, but for me, this chapter is closing. I don’t see the end goal aligning with my beliefs anymore. So, I’m stepping away—for good.

Signing Out,

Imran T.I.S

As someone who's not from the US, I’ve always assumed that most American Ahmadis would support the Democratic Party. A prominent example of this is Qasim Rashid, who has run for political office as a Democrat. Given the Democratic Party’s focus on diversity and inclusion, and the fact that Muslims, in general, tend to lean towards Democrats, it seemed like a natural alignment.

However, in the Ahmadiyya Discord server, I was surprised to find quite a few vocal Trump supporters among the community. Some members were very open about their support for conservative values—one even mentioned proudly owning guns, and discussed how a prominent Ahmadi also owns a significant number of firearms. Some expressed concerns about issues such as abortion rights and the LGBTQ+ movement, framing these as reasons for opposing Democrats.

This has made me wonder: Have American Ahmadis always leaned towards conservative politics, or is this a new phenomenon? I understand that religious communities sometimes align with right-wing ideologies, especially on social issues, but I didn’t expect this level of support for Trump, given his track record on issues like immigration, Islamophobia and other personal things.

Are we seeing a broader shift within the Ahmadiyya community, or is this just a few online warriors forced to become more conservative because of debates and discussions with others?

Why does the father of the bride say "qabool hai" on the bride's behalf and why isn't the bride nowhere to be found usually in Ahmadi nikkahs? Also, when the father says "qabool hai," he only says it once and not 3 times like the girl is supposed to. How is this kind of Nikkah accepted because the girl didn't say it. What if the girl never agreed to the marriage but her dad just decided to turn up. And what if the girl never even signed the papers, it was done by someone else? There were never any witnesses so you will never know. I've always found this really strange.

Ahmadiyya Muslim Jama'at Inc. does not have anything going for it. Absolutely nothing. They are no different that any other religious group out there that believes in God and thinks they are special.

In essence, Ahmadis are banking on WWIII to happen so they can prove to the world that their Khulafa have been right all along. Mind you, a prophecy that their Khulafa keep pushing forward and its date keeps getting adjusted. According to Mirza Tahir Ahmad, WWIII was supposed to either happen in the last 10 years of the 20th century, or in the first 10 years of the 21st century.

It was based on this prophecy that Ahmadis were pushing so hard the idea that a nuclear war was inevitable in the early days of Mirza Masroor Ahmad. They were hoping for disaster to happen up until about 2012, when their dreams were shattered that they world did not burn down. But these shameless people did not pause to reflect on how wrong they were. They continued business as usual, as if nothing happened.

Now, again, according to the present Khalifa of the Jama'at, WWIII has already begun. But, it is business as usual in the world..just the Middle East burning down. Ahmadis will ignore this blunder too and make it a memory hole, and continue to peddle their hopes of seeing the world burn down so they can take over. Unbelievably psychopathic.

Ahmadis are hoping that post-WWIII events would see them as the leaders of the world. There is nothing else to keep them driven. How depressing.

If WWIII does not catapult them to claim the world, the other element that Ahmadis are banking on is to see them as leading the world is their grand 300-year prophecy. A prophecy so vague that it does not necessary mean that it will be Ahmadis themselves who will rule the world. But, of course, Ahmadis are the masters of the Texas Sharp Shooter fallacy. They will manage to do some damage control when the time is right.

Aside for the above two hopes, there is nothing special about the Ahmadiyya Muslim Jama'at. Their leader is just a lame duck and nothing more - a person who just keeps peddling world destruction (while trying to "save" it...how ironic!) in order to have bragging rights that they prophesied the destruction of the world. There is nothing else that they can offer the world - just to warn the world that Muslims are the boogeyman, and to stay away from them.

Even if, a big if - let's say that a third world war does break out, how will Ahmadis show the world they were any different than the people, who, since the end of WWII, have been talking about a nuclear disaster. This is the whole idea behind the Doomsday Clock. Or, others who have voiced similar concerns and who have been working tirelessly to trying to preventing a world disaster.

Neither world war three will happen nor will Ahmadis rule the world. But, that will not deter them to push the agenda and keep raking in billions of dollars in chanda money for a cause that is meant to enrich the Mirza Family only.

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• The group is focused on a living leader to whom members seem to display excessively zealous, unquestioning commitment.

• The group is preoccupied with bringing in new members.

• The group is preoccupied with making money.

• Questioning, doubt, and dissent are discouraged or even punished.

• Mind-numbing techniques (such as meditation, chanting, speaking in tongues, denunciation sessions, debilitating work routines) are used to suppress doubts about the group and its leader(s).

• The leadership dictates sometimes in great detail how members should think, act, and feel (for example: members must get permission from leaders to date, change jobs, get married; leaders may prescribe what types of clothes to wear, where to live, how to discipline children, and so forth).

• The group is elitist, claiming a special, exalted status for itself, its leader(s), and members (for example: the leader is considered the Messiah or an avatar; the group and/or the leader has a special mission to save humanity).

• The group has a polarized us-versus-them mentality, which causes conflict with the wider society.

• The group’s leader is not accountable to any authorities (as are, for example, military commanders and ministers, priests, monks, and rabbis of mainstream denominations).

• The group teaches or implies that its supposedly exalted ends justify means that members would have considered unethical before joining the group (for example: collecting money for bogus charities).

• The leadership induces guilt feelings in members in order to control them.

• Members’ subservience to the group causes them to cut ties with family and friends, and to give up personal goals and activities that were of interest before joining the group.

• Members are encouraged or required to live and/or socialize only with other group members.

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