Thought this may be helpful for sisters with littles

Hi,

I registered for the Alimah English program from maryam institute. Will I get in ? Are there some people who applied but didn't get in? I don't have too much islamic background. How does the process work? I wanted to apply last year but unfortunately was late for the deadline. Anyone in the program who can give me some guidance? JazakAllah khair

I’m a man (16) and at work I was helping a hijabi customer and while I was inputting information on our computers and I looked up briefly and saw her adjust her hijab and her hair was out for a second or two. She didnt seem to notice as she wasn’t looking at me but instead at her friend. I feel bad. What do I do? I’ve heard that men aren’t allowed to see a Muslim woman’s hair. I myself am also not Muslim and am more of a non-religious Hindu since I was born into the religion.

Idk Im just thinking would it be safe. I might be driving in the city lol. And would my age matter too? (I am 18)

I was thinking of bike because I don't want to pay commerical insurance on my car as I'm not sure if that is halal.

Wdy girls think?? Lmk inshallah!

I understand that this forum is for hijabis but I did not know where else to go to ask advice, especially from sisters. I am 19, and a revert, of course my family does not know (I am indian so its much harder), I plan to tell them during or after University when I am a bit more independent. Also recently I have moved houses, so the only place I can pray is my room, and for that too I have to look for excuses as my mum keeps asking why i lock my door. I think due to these factors, It has become so much harder to pray and stay consistent and I am struggling. It hurts a lot as previously I was consistent and now I barely pray. I am also struggling with managing, studies (last year of high school, there's A LOT of pressure) and playing badminton 'just for fun' and deen. (I do not mean plying is more important than deen). I tried but it feels like a chore. I do love Allah and Islam but I am very lost rn. Any tips or help is appreciated.

Hi girls can you recommend me creams or something to help with my hyperpigmentation and bumps on my bikini line? please help 😢😢😢😢

have become religious lately and learned interest and mortgages are haram. I went to university and took student loans without realising it was haram until after. My parents did a mortgage for their house as well. My parents are not religious and don’t pray. I feel gutted and wish I was taught these things but I am learning myself as I grow older.

I am from the U.K. and the houses are not cheap at all. The cost of living is rising here and rent is another option I can think of. I don’t want a big family just one kid. However, I still would want us to have our own home. The other thing in Islam is a man has to provide. Now how is he supposed to afford all this in the U.K. not every guy is a top earner?! I wouldn’t mind helping out initially as his wife but even then I do not think it will be enough.

Other options I can think of is moving to a Muslim country that is cheaper and these haram ways of purchasing a house do not exist. However, that means starting a new life and adjusting. Learning a new language and finding a new job.

This has made me think a lot of Muslims in the U.K. have bought houses this way and don’t seem to feel bad about it or justify it. The only reason I’m serious about this is because interest is a sin repeatedly mentioned in the Quran not to commit.

I want honest experiences please from people living in the U.K./West.

Salaam, welcome to the weekly Sunday Social!

How did the week go for you lovely folks? Things looking up? Looking down? Don't be afraid to share what's on your mind, because that's what this thread is all about!

Hi, one of my family members has recently started wearing the hijab and is looking for online stores to buy good quality hijabs for not too much. Any suggestions would be appreciated. (she lives in canada so stores based in north america would be preferred)

I have a lot of clothes that I want to get rid of but they’re harami clothes.

I don’t know what’s the best option, because some of them are brand new and I could sell them but I’ve heard we shouldn’t encourage others in sinning.

Idk if donating would be better?

Or I thought about selling them and donating the money or buying halal clothes for myself because abayas are quite expensive.

I will be traveling throughout different parts of the country solo, (both west and east), what was your experience as a hijabi/non-hijabi? Did you feel unsafe / was there a lot of harassment? Transport difficult? Thanks everyone :)

Kind of a rant, but this is a wholesome one

I reverted almost 3 years ago and have always prayed at home. I used to live in a pretty congested area and there were alot of Muslims, which sounds amazing in theory but made even stepping foot into a masjid a very nerve wracking experience. What made it worse is that everyone around me was very competitive (not only the Muslim community, it’s just a rampant attitude problem in that specific area), everything was an “I have more money or more friends or a better job” and that seemed to be a thing even in the masjids around my house.

I moved to a new state in the fall, which, as a whole, has about the same population size as the single county I lived in previously (roughly 1.4 million people which is absolutely INSANE). This Friday I finally took the big step and went to the masjid for jummah prayer.

It was the most beautiful experience of my life, mashallah. There were maybe a total of ten of us, but I have never felt that way when praying before, surrounded by a bunch of other women who all looked genuinely happy to be there. My hands were shaking when I first walked through the door, it was gone as soon as I made eye contact with a woman and she smiled at me.

I stood in the last row, but was surrounded on both sides by a whole group of my Muslim sisters. One of the best feelings, I left smiling and still smile every time I think about it. The masjid smells sooo good too!

I know it’s sunnah for women to pray at home, and I plan to continue to pray my daily 5 prayers in my room as I’ve done since I reverted, however, this past Friday’s experience was so moving to me that I plan to go back for the next jummah prayer, and the one after that too, Alhamdulillah.

I don't really know where to post this, so I found about this subreddit and made an account. Everyone seems okay here so I was wondering if I could get some advice.

Some time ago I had the intention to and tried to sin against one of my friends, I tried to do something bad (I don't want to say so I don't expose my exact sins, so hopefully the wording doesn't sound weird). The thing I wanted to do didn't happen to them, so it was attempted but my intention counts. And after I realized my horrible mistake I remember all the similar things I've tried to other people in the past. but none of them including my friend did not actually get hurt in the end, and they don't know that I tried to do something bad because I never told them.

But still I tried to hurt them right, and I should tell them and ask forgiveness? but the other part of me says it will cause unnecessary stress and problems for them. If they weren't really hurt in the end or aware of it, should I tell them and ask for forgiveness? Because I tried to do really bad things to my best friend and everyone else, the guilt is horrible and I know I'm a bad person for it. I immediately repented for everything to Allah once I realized how shitty and hurtful my decisions were, but idk if that's enough 😭 I've been dealing with this guilt for a while and I've been more cautious and attentive to my behavior and how it could potentially affect others, but even then it feels horrible to not tell them.

I'm pretty sure I saw a video by Sheikh Asim Al Hakeem, where he said if the person doesn't know and telling them would cause more problems then you shouldn't tell them, just repent to Allah and make dua. Or he said that you can ask your friend to forgive you for everything, without specifying what they are actually forgiving you for and that seems kind of deceptiveish? Anyways I know a lot of people don't really like the rulings he makes though, so if there's any other source I can follow please tell me. I tried to tell my family about this issue and they just passed it off as me being young and making mistakes but I don't think that excuses it at all because I tried to do some really shitty things, so that's why I came here.

Don't care for what anyone thinks of you since they have no right to judge you and remember Allah SWT made us perfect and beautiful the way we are and we wear a hijab to preserve that and no one has the right to take that from you :)

I have been wearing hijab for about five years Alhamdullillah. I occasionally think about taking it off. Mostly because, for my career, it’s very rare to see people wearing religious garments in my profession. And I wonder how if it affects my work with clients. I would still always be modest. Just not sure about covering my hair fulltime sometimes. I also work with only female clients and mostly women colleagues and only like three males in my whole work building most of the time so I just cover my hair all day just in case one of them pops up (which I can’t predict). But honestly, some of the things I’d miss are just darn right practical: always looking put together even if I don’t have time to do my hair. My hair is kinda an unmanageable texture. Never being distracted by my hair. Never compulsively playing with my hair in public (which I used to do 🤦🏻‍♀️) Never having to worry about my hair going frizzy throughout the day. I feel cleaner and more hygienic because my hair doesn’t fall out in public places. I only have to worry about picking up my hair fall in my own home. I’d probably be having to fix my hair multiple times a day if I didn’t wear hijab.

Does anyone else feel like hijab is just darn right practical?

Salam ladies, this is my first time being pregnant and I wear hijab so I was wondering if I should bother packing any specific clothes like a more modest hospital gown or something for labor and delivery?

Or is it just impossible to control and I don’t need to worry about it?

Dressing more modestly is relatively new for me, and I’m trying to find my bearings. Right now I feel like most of the time I’m wearing jeans and oversized sweatshirts because it’s winter but also modest. I’ve felt really discouraged recently trying to look at clothes online. When looking at brands like Veiled or others, it seems like almost everything is polyester or other synthetics that I don’t feel like breathe super well. When I look at places like old navy online, all their long sleeve shirts are either button downs or just plain long sleeve tshirts. Where do you find clothes that are modest, fashionable, and made out of better materials? I would love any recommendations you guys can offer

Hi, I want to start running/working out but I find modest dressing for working out really hard especially because I’m not used to it. I was wondering if I could get some tips/advice/recommendations? Are oversized hoodies and joggers fine? I feel like they’re pretty normal working out clothes but because everyone these days wears such different clothes while exercising, basically less and less clothes (and I’m not judging them), it feels so out place, but maybe I’m just thinking too much about too hard. Being a hijabi in a very non diverse place, wearing the hijab is very rare, and that doesn’t affect me, so I don’t know why this gets to me so much. I’m also scared of getting stared at, at the gym.

Any tips appreciated.

Thanks in advance, xx.

Salam sisters. I would like some advice on an issue as I have nobody else to talk to about this so I’m turning to Reddit for help :)

Don’t get me wrong, I love my parents but I have realized they do not really listen to anything that I’m saying or they cannot understand. It’s not like there’s a communication issue or anything. I’ve told my parents earlier this week about my recent change and how I have decided to change my major. My dad especially wasn’t asking a lot of questions, he was assuming and would assume the worst. He pretty much accused me of lying about going to college and was adamant that I was simply pretending to go to school to impress others. Not true. I have explained that I have simply changed my major one time and that’s it. I haven’t been jumping from major to major to major. I begged him to ask me questions which he did. Even after I explained my plans and everything to him in a clear manner, he refused to understand and at this point, he wasn’t willing to listen anymore. My mom was at first understanding and I thought things were good.

Fast forward to today, I told my mom I had homework and she said I’m lying and that there’s no way I am in school. For background, I’m in community college right now finishing up my AA in a liberal arts major (I have about 9 more classes to complete) and inshaAllah I plan to transfer to a 4 year to complete my BA in the same field. That was what I was explaining to my parents when they asked. Well, my mom believed I had already transferred to the 4 year when I didn’t and you simply can’t just transfer anytime you want. I was getting frustrated and explained to her that I have already told her but she insisted I told her I already transferred. I never said those things. That’s when I realized my mom also wasn’t listening nor was she willing to listen, understand, or comprehend anything that I was saying and I feel like I wasted my breath. My mom then said I’m lying and this made me upset and I said I’m not lying.

This is just a recent incident but my parents ALWAYS do this with everyone and not just me and not just about school. They also are not aware of my job for the same reason. I tell them I work, they call me a liar even though I have many witness who were there during the conversation and they were all taken aback with my parents statements. My dad also gave me this long lecture regarding things that were extremely not true about myself. He lectured me on how I don’t work, don’t go to school, and in some cases, my mom will chime in and even go as far as to say that I don’t pray any of my salah or read Quran. I’m so tired of having to defend myself every time they ask me questions and every time we talk, they claim to understand but the next time they ask, wallahi it is as if they had 100% forgotten everything and we are back to square one with explaining things. They will even say “I understand” simply to keep us quiet. This is not their usual attitude and I am getting so angry and frustrated with everything. I’m trying to remain patient but how long should I be patient for? I’ve made dua to Allah and asked Allah to soften the heart of my parents and give them a better understand because right now, they are not listening to a word I’m saying and they are making things up about me to fit their narrative.

I’m so sorry for the long post but I really need advice and I have nobody to speak to about this matter. Anything helps.

I've been given the responsibility of organising and leading a ramadan workshop in a masjid - the committee have asked me to make it about god consciousness and taqwa etc etc but I really feel uncomfortable doing something i'm still working on myself

I also don't want to talk about perfecting a ramadan routine which i also fall short of myself when the time comes. Plus im a student who has the ramadan oeriod off (islamic science's student) so I don't think I'm in the best place to advise busy moms/working ppl

My passion is the Quran & I am leading some Quran focused sessions during Ramadan (any tips for this would appreciate too)

However this workshop is pre-ramadan & i'm kind of stuck for ideas. I don't want to make it preachy at all

They also want me to make it activity based to an extent and i suck at being creative like that so need yall help girlies thank youu

السلام عليكم

Ramadan is a month out and many use it as an opportunity to get their lives back on track in terms of their deen. While Ramadan is by no means the only time of year we should be prioritising sunnahs, it’s certainly an excellent time to focus on our deen and on good and beneficial habits overall.

Because of that, I thought there might be people looking for resources and might be too shy to say something. For those of you who that’s applicable to, here’s my list of resources

For those who don’t know how to pray:

1. ⁠⁠Salah app - https://apps.apple.com/app/id875280793
2. ⁠⁠Easy Islam - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1599987273
3. ⁠⁠Salah tracking - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1602490524

Quran - Memorisation, listening, recitation, tracing

1. ⁠⁠Golden Quran - https://apps.apple.com/app/id852497554
2. ⁠⁠Quran Hive - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1388348602
3. ⁠⁠Kalaam - https://apps.apple.com/app/id6446328873
4. ⁠Tajweed - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1547696689

For those who want to pursue knowledge - basic resources:

1. ⁠⁠Seerah - https://apps.apple.com/app/id6450714911
2. ⁠⁠OpenArabic - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1594031029
3. ⁠⁠HadithCollection - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1563527366
4. ⁠⁠HadithCollection (different app) - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1511696610
5. ⁠⁠Talib (online Islamic courses) - https://apps.apple.com/app/id6478276273

Ibadah

1. ⁠⁠Everyday Muslim - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1546578729
2. ⁠⁠Dhikr and Dua - https://apps.apple.com/app/id1561598617
3. ⁠⁠Sabha (tasbih) - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sabha-tasbih-and-adhkar/id6494202531?l=fr-FR

For those who want to pursue knowledge - more advanced levels

1. Kalamullah (English Islamic library including Arabic textbooks)- http://www.kalamullah.com/

I’ll continue to edit with more resources as I get time. Happy prepping everyone!

To all my Muslim sisters, whether you have been a hijabi since childhood or are trying to start wearing hijab, happy world hijab day 🤍🤍 may Allah reward us for our intentions and sincerity and help us stay steadfast on our deen!

When I think of hijab and the hardships it comes with, I remember these verses from the Quran:

He will ask ˹them˺, “How many years did you remain on earth?”

They will reply, “We remained ˹only˺ a day or part of a day. But ask those who kept count.”

It reminds me how short our time is here and how blessed we are to have this opportunity to please Allah SWT. Im so grateful for the hijabi and Muslim girl community!

As-Salaam-Alaikum Sisters 🤎

I started birth control for health reasons a little over a month ago. I had my regular menstrual end right before starting birth control but then once I started the pills I had spotting. At first it was continuous and red, so I refrained from prayers and anything not done in impure state.

Now a little over a month later I have random moments where I’ll get spotting, sometimes red and sometimes brown, and I’m unsure. I’ve had a tough time trying to find a clear answer. I have been trying to make dua for Allah SWT to guide me and lessen my frustrations. Especially as Ramadan comes and it’ll be my first one as a revert.

The randomness of it is that I could have nothing in the morning then have spotting in the afternoon then nothing again in the evening. So all in one day. And I read that it could take 3-6months for this irregular spotting to stop. I’m not sure if anyone else has experienced this while taking birth control, but I’d love to hear about your experience as well.

Alhamdulillah for it all! I thank you for any guidance you can give :)

As salaam mu alykum sisters

I was talking with my mum earlier and she brought up applying for university for next year. I want to go to study but just not next year. I want to take a gap year and become a hafidha. I know that if I work hard enough I can complete most, if not, the rest of the Qur’aan next year. However I have no idea how to approach this subject with my mother. She has been talking about university for two years. I won’t be able to manage a job, university and hifdhs classes all at once. How can I persuade her to let me take a gap year?

I don't really know why im typing this out or where to channel my thoughts towards but I have a friend whose character is beyond anyone ive ever known

This girl is the most genuine person ive ever met, she's in her late twenties but her personality is so pure like she's still a little girl (not thats she not mature) but i feel like she's not living in the same world as me, bcos how can yoi be exposed to such fitna in our time and literally live your life like a female saint

And its not just her. Its her whole family. I don't what her parents did but Allah granted the whole family such religiousity that is unfound in todays day and age. I mean we both went to school in the west but she turned out so diff

Its not even just religiosity. She excells in life beyond that too & not that she shames me but i feel shamed just being in her company sometimes because it reveals how pure hearted she is and how much stains i have on my heart

Regardless i feel so lucky to have been shown the human form of an angel & god i wish we we're family related so that she never leaves my life or that she could be my SIL or me hers lol

Salamu alikum, sisters please, if you ever wronged someone or took away something or a right of someone ask for forgiveness even if it was one time 3 years ago, you might and probably will look like a fool but remember judgment day please

I just hope we can all enter jannah إن شاء الله and I don’t want any of us to have our good deeds if we have any at all to be taken away. Don’t let it for another day and if you feel like it’s embarrassing or something just time the message to be sent tomorrow so the embarrassment is for the you of tomorrow you might even forget about it.

May Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala forgive our sins and give us the opportunities to seek forgiveness and remember all those we wrong, may Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala make us return to Him with no sins and with all our scores settled, Ameen.

Narrated Safwan bin Muhriz Al-Mazini: While I was walking with Ibn Umar holding his hand, a man came in front of us and asked, "What have you heard from Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) about An-Najwa?" Ibn Umar said, "I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying, 'Allah will bring a believer near Him and shelter him with His Screen and ask him: Did you commit such-and-such sins? He will say: Yes, my Lord. Allah will keep on asking him till he will confess all his sins and will think that he is ruined. Allah will say: 'I concealed them for you in the world and I forgive them for you today', and then he will be given the book of his good deeds. Regarding infidels and hypocrites (their evil acts will be exposed publicly) and the witnesses will say: These are the people who lied against their Lord. Behold! The Curse of Allah is upon the wrongdoers." (11:18)

Sahih al-Bukhari, 2441 In-Book Reference: Book 46, Hadith 2

This is soo silly but let me explain.

Like I go out in public and meet a male classmate and I say hello because I’m friendly and because we’re classmates I get on well. Obviously we’re right in public and I’m not doing anything haram (it’s not like I’m flirting lmfao) and I’m wearing my full hijab but I just have this feeling in the back of my head like… wow, people are seeing me be friendly with a guy.

Or I’m at work and I’m friendly to a male client because that’s my job, I need to be friendly and kind and reassuring. And in the back of my head, I’m like ‘oh, what if he thinks I’m flirting with him? What if other people thing I’m flirting with him?’

Insult to injury is that I’m not even into men, I’m asexual. So obviously my intentions are clean, I’ve got no interest in attracting the guy, I’m not into him, and all my bases are covered, because I’m hijab, I’m being polite. I don’t eveb like friendly touches. But I feel like my politeness and friendliness can be mistaken for being flirty (i’ve been told i’m very bubbly and smiley) and it makes me feel uncomfortable

I don’t want to be less friendly. I laugh easily and smile a lot because it’s what I do with everyone. I smile at trees, or at fat pigeons. I smile and laugh to myself when I’m alone. And I know my intentions are clean— I know, brought in front of Allah on the day of judgement, I’d be able to say that no, I wasn’t trying to attract him, I was being nice, he probably thought I was being professional or friendly, no boundaries were crossed. But I just feel like other people are looking at me and thinking these things. And as a hijabi, shouldn’t I be doing better? But does better come at the cost of me being happy to see people?

Any help? :00

Let me explain, I have clear skin with some dark circles and rosy cheeks cus I have rosacea. Alhamdulillah it’s not bad. The only makeup I wear is eyeliner, mascara and lipstick but these days it’s just lipstick cus I feel like I can do without eye makeup.

Let me be clear, I don’t consider myself beautiful just meh looking 😂😂.

Normally with Eid I’ll make an effort to wear makeup so I look good in pics with family and friends so I’ll wear foundation, blush etc. I’ve realised lately that I actually look better with minimal makeup as I described in the first paragraph.

Foundation never did anything for my natural redness unless I wear colour correction, but realistically I’m gonna have to do wudu a few times for salah, and I don’t wanna have to hold in my need to for the loo and reduce my intake of water and hold in gas. It’s too much and I wanna enjoy my day and not have crazy thoughts, all in the name of looking pretty for pics.

So this year I’m just gonna do simple eye makeup that I can easily apply after salah and maybe concealer, unless I’m Insha Allah, able to reduce my dark circles by the time Eid comes around.

I always get compliments on how healthy my skin looks, it’s supple, fresh and glowy.

I’m gonna make sure to keep up with my water intake and including fruits and veggies to avoid any possibility in have dry, dull skin. I have dry skin in general.