by Asma bint Shameem

You’ve been making Duaa to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala for a long time. You’re begging. You’re crying. You’re asking Him. But there is no response.

And you wonder “why”?

Why is it that your Duaa is not answered? Is Allaah not listening to you?

Well, sometimes it may SEEM like Allaah didn’t accept our duaa although in reality He DID.

Thats because the RESPONSE to the duaa may take different forms:

1. Allaah will respond and give you exactly what you made the duaa for

2. He will turn away some evil or harm from you because of the duaa, or

3. He will save it for you for the Day of Resurrection when you will need it the most.

🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:

“There is no Muslim who calls upon Allaah with words in which there is no sin or severing of family ties but Allaah will give him one of three things: either He will answer his prayer soon, or He will store it up for him in the Hereafter, or He will remove something bad from him that is equivalent to what he is asking for.”

They said, “Then we should make a great amount of du’aa’.”

He said, “Allaah is greater.” (at-Tirmidhi -saheeh by al-Albaani)

Our Deen encourages us to make a LOT of duaa, and we shouldn’t be hasty in seeking a response.

That’s because duaa is a most beautiful act of Ibaadah and is so beloved to Allaah Subhaan Allaah.

So we MUST ALWAYS make duaa and NEVER give up.

But the Shaytaan does not want us to make duaa and have it accepted. So he whispers in our head and puts doubts in our minds about Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala and makes us lose hope.

However, we can NEVER lose hope or despair.

Remember, NO ONE despairs of Allaah except those that are astray.

🍃 Allaah says:

[Ibraheem] said: "And who despairs of the Mercy of his Lord except those who are astray?" (Surah al-Hijr:56)

So have GOOD HOPES with Allaah and know that Allaah WILL respond to our duaas sooner or later.

If He’s not responding ’now’, He will respond ‘later’.

🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:

“The duaa of any one of you will be answered so long as he is not impatient and says, I made duaa but it was not answered.” (al-Bukhaari and Muslim)

🍃 Ibn al-Jawzi said about duaa not being answered right away:

“I think part of the test is when a believer supplicates and receives no response, and he repeats the du’aa’ for a long time and sees no sign of a response. He should realize that this is a TEST and needs PATIENCE.

1️⃣What a person experiences of waswaas when the response is delayed is a sickness which needs medicine, I have experienced this myself.

A calamity befell me and I supplicated and did not see any response, and Iblees started to lay his traps.

Sometimes he said : The generosity (of Allaah) is abundant and He is not miserly, so why is there a delay?

I said to him: Be gone, O cursed one, for I have no need of anyone to argue my case and I do not want you as a supporter!

Then I told myself: Beware of going along with his whispers, for if there was no other reason for the delay except that Allaah is testing you to see whether you will fight the enemy, that is sufficient wisdom.

My soul (nafs) said: How could you explain the delay in the response of Allaah to your prayers for relief from this calamity?

I said: It is proven with evidence that Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, is the Sovereign, and the Sovereign may withhold or give, so there is no point in objecting to Him.

2️⃣The wisdom behind that is proven in definitive evidence. I may think that something is good, but wisdom does not dictate it, but the reason for that may be hidden, just as a doctor may do things that appear outwardly to be harmful, intending some good purpose thereby. Perhaps this is something of that nature.

3️⃣There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful.

The Prophet Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam said:

“A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I prayed but I did not receive any answer.’”

4️⃣The response may be withheld because of some FAULT in you.

Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you said the du’aa’, or your punishment is being increased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely.

So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.”

Subhaan Allaah what a beautiful explanation of why duaa may not be answered right away.

So as Ibn Jawzi said, sometimes there may be reasons why Duaa may not be accepted.

For example;

• the person is not sincere to Allaah
• or he has haraam wealth
• or involved in sins
• or he is negligent of his obligations to Allaah like not being regular with the five daily prayers.
• or he has broken ties of kinship
• or he’s hasty or impatient in making duaa
• or it may even be a test of patience for the person.

-or Allaah loves to hear the person call out to Him and show his need for Him.

And Allaah knows best.

Hi all, I was just posting to ask if there were any companies that made garments that were rated for use in a lab environment? One of my design team members wears a hijab and Ive already provided a lab coat but Im having trouble finding masks and goggles that will seal safely in the face area. Any links or recommendations on products or methods would be greatly appreciated!

Hello!

Do any of you ladies use henna or any other nail stains? I've been able to find them in a lot of really bold colors, but I'm struggling to find something breathable that's in lighter colors. Pink would be awesome, but if there's pastel purple or blue or even like mint green, that would be awesome. Please drop me a link to your favorites!

I get it I'm clumsy and careless and forgetful irl so it's a possibility but wearing the hijab has become like a habit and I've only forgotten to wear it once(the second day of being a hijabi I left my room without the hijab forgetting that there were non mahrams in the house) but I've never forgotten it since then so why do I get nightmares every night about it🥲

Not sure if this can even be termed as Islamaphobia but I wanted to share this..

Alhamdulillah I live in the US, in a city that has a LOT of Muslims! The city I live in is very known to have the a lot of Muslims in the US.. anyways, we live in a court/cul-de-sac, and at least 60% of my neighborhood is Muslim. There are many nice non-Muslims too. Anyways, the other day at night around 10 pm, we could hear loud screaming outside. It was so loud that im sure it disturbed all the neighbors. From our bedroom window, we have a perfect view of the entire neighborhood court and can also hear everything. One of our neighbors, a white non-Muslim lady most likely in her 30s or 40s was walking around looking very obviously drunk. She was screaming slurs about Muslims and cursing all Muslims out. Saying the B word, F word, calling Muslims c**ts, and "Go back to your country" and so many more terrible things which I cannot even remember anymore. No one was outside except her but im sure all the neighbors could hear bc she was so loud. It was terrifying. The lady knows this neighborhood is mostly Muslim. All the while she was speaking, she was also randomly pointing at houses as well cursing us out.

Anyways, Isha is very late at the masjid now and my dad usually comes home late after mingling with masjid friends, so during all of this, we see my dad's car pull up into the court slowly. The lady approaches my dad's car and goes to his window. My dad is the type of person who is not good at reading the room, so I immediately called him to tell him to not say anything to the lady and be careful, but his phone was at home, not with him. Afterwards, my dad came home, and we told him that he shouldn't have said anything to her. All of us neighbors pretty much know eachother and we know she lives with her dad. My dad said something like "Go home and be good to your dad." Like I said, my dad is not the best at reading the room or knowing what to say when. Because why would he mention her dad so randomly? Also, our garage was like open about 2 feet up, bc my uncle and dad were finishing up fixing our car. All the other neighbors garages were closed. This is relevant bc this most likely made her think our family or my dad called the police on her. We did not.

Anyways, this lady's screaming kept going for a while, and she finally went back inside the house. Then, we see 3 cop cars pull into our neighborhood and 5 policemen go to her house. One of our neighbors called the police most likely. Or her father called the police. Apparently she and her father fight a lot, so this isn't the first time the police have come. Anyways, they obviously don't arrest her or anything, and about 20 mins later, the police leave.

Now, 2 days later, tonight at around 9:45 pm, we get a ring at our doorbell. When we open the door, it's that lady. Me and my mom both open the door. The lady says, "are there any men here?". My dad was at the masjid, and there were no men in the house. Only my mom, sis, and grandma. So I said, "No." Before I tell you the rest of the conversation, keep in mind, the entire time she talked to us she was cursing, constantly using the F word and just talking plain old rude. My mom later told me she was drunk again. The lady said, "Are you sure there's no man?" I said "No not now." She continues, "because the other day I was walking around the neighborhood and there was this man..", she also said something like, "because if I find out that you're lying then.."! At that, I clarified, "there's no man here right now, but yes, a man, my father also does live here." She accusedly points at me and yells, "So you WERE LYING?!" I said, "No, you asked if a man is here, not if a man LIVES here. That's why we said no at first." She says rudely, "Honey, no, what you're doing is putting words in my mouth!" She said some other things but it's all blurred bc it was so sudden and scary, and she's taller than me (im 5 ft!), clearly drunk, and starts pointing at me and getting wayyy too scarily close to me. According to my mom, she looked like she was ready to throw hands. At this, my mom quickly closes the door because we felt threatened. And the lady cursed again and went back home. The conversation was clearly not gonna go anywhere. I got upset that my mom closed the door though bc I said we could've finished the conversation off by just apologizing and that we will make sure my dad doesn't get into her business again. But before I got a chance to, my mom got too scared and closed the door.

All in all, I feel really scared. After that, we were all shaking. I felt like crying. I feel frustrated because we could've easily had a conversation that ended all this tension by simply us apologizing by "going in her business", but now the situation is worse instead because she most likely thinks we called the cops on her. She also thinks we're liars bc we "lied" about a man not being there. She hates Muslims, and this made her hate us more. My dad should NOT have talked to her that night and should've minded his own business. She seemed most upset at that. Which i understand. Everyone should just mind theirbown business, and my dad thought he was being helpful or something, but that obviosuly triggered her since her realtionship with her dad isnt good. At one point she said something like, "and don't even get me started on your religion, because I have so much to say about that."

Anyways, I can't believe such people exist who have this deep of a hate for Muslims. I don't know what to do about this situation..

does anyone know what the hijab material that comes with Saudi abayas is called It’s soft and breathable and mostly in black . You can get bigger sizes in Saudi but not really common in the uk. I think this is worn in uae aswel Please help

I have been a hijabi for 14 years now (12 to 26) and for the past 8 years I keep thinking about taking it off but then gets too scared and don't do it. The reason I am mostly scared is because of the people's reactions (my friends for example) which makes me feel so bad that all I am thinking about is the people and not Allah. I wore the hijab when I was 12 and it was not forced by my parents or anything but I didn't understand much about it, it was just people did it so I was like might as well since it's the right thing.
The reasons behind this will is not to feel pretty because I know that beauty comes from within not from what you're wearing and I also don't have any intention to wear revealing clothes. I am just so tired of thinking about this, it has taken so much of my energy and time and I by nature am a very indecisive person. I am not writing this for you to give me an answer because I know the answer. I just feel like a hypocrite all the time and whenever I am around hijabis, I don't feel like I can relate to them. Also, I have moved to a non Muslim country, it's not that I don't feel safe, it's just I don't like to look different and I don't like that this is the first and only thing people see (here I am talking about the people again). I don't know how to reach peace of mind.

i have some events coming up and i am looking for some pakistani outfits (preferably anarkalis or similar). i always order my abayas at least 62” because i’m 5’11”. i haven’t found many sites that carry long enough dresses for me. when i do find them, they often have sheer sleeves or low necklines. i know i can always layer or line them myself, but i really would prefer to get a dress that’s already modest if i’m spending that much money. does anyone have brands or whatsapp aunties they can recommend?

Salam ladies!

I’m looking for loungewear sets ( long sleeved tops that actually cover the bum) but I’ve had no luck with even brands catered to Muslim women. For some reason, they always make the tops SLIGHTLY shorter than I’m comfortable with.

Please give me your recommendations for any brand that does these in good quality.

Thank you!

Salam girls!

I’ve always been interested in specialising in sexual health/sex therapy for couples. Human sexuality is very important and has always been a fascinating topic to me.

My intention with this specialisation is to help women become more comfortable within their bodies (especially in the Muslim community), help couples through problems, do premarital counseling, and help heal trauma.

The problem is, I don’t know what would be halal/haram. Especially when it comes to talking with clients, and taking courses like human sexuality (I feel it would be awkward being the ONLY hijabi/niqabi in that class).

I’ve grown accustomed to feel that sex is a prohibited topic. I know people used to not shy away from asking our Prophet(SAW) these kinds of questions, but I’m not sure what’s stepping over the line and what’s not.

As-salamu alaykum :)

I reverted last year december 2023 Alhamdulillah, but I've had issues with wearing the hijab. My family doesnt know yet and are very devout Christians so I know this will cause alot of problems. I first used to sneak out of the house wearing it during winter because I could hide it with my winter jacket hood but as it gets warmer outside I cant hide it and im scared of getting caught

besides the family issues, I feel so much anxiety about what other people will think. Maybe it's different for born muslims, I'm assuming it would be looked at as a happy occasion and everyone would be proud of you. For me, I feel like everyone that knows me will judge me for it. Before Islam, I was a party girl, dressed inappropriately, drank alcohol etc. I just worry that's the permanent image people have of me.

I tried to soft launch my new identity at the gym I used to go to 5x a week, but the way people would turn their head to stare at me and watch me the entire time gave me so much anxiety I ended up cancelling my membership and stopped wearing my hijab after 3 months.

Inshallah I really want to wear my hijab again. If you have any advice or words of encouragement, I appreciate it 🤍

Assalamu alaykum, I’m trying to pray sunnah prayers but I don’t understand when the time for the prayer begins. The sunnah prayers before the Fardh Salah are they preformed after the Adhan or before the adhan goes off.

Salaams! I remember a post by a new revert who said that she felt like her identity was being removed now that she has to wear hijab. I cannot find the post to comment on it but I recall her saying that she wore more goth fashion. I wanted to send you this link to show you that hijab does not mean you have to compromise who you are. Just be you…..modestly? Here is someone dressed in all black in a modest way. https://www.instagram.com/reel/C66w35fNxox/?igsh=ZWp6NWJ5b2Z5ZXRx

Salaam alaikum everyone! I have a question; my undercap keeps slipping and it ends up halfway off my ears. Is there anything I can do to prevent this from happening?

Asalamualaikum everyone. I hope you all are doing well. I have been wearing the hijab since one year now and Alhamdulilah I feel very happy and blessed that Allah guided me. The problem is that I come from a family where people think that hijab is ‘too extreme’ or ‘too modest’. Majority of the people in my country think like this. My own dad keeps telling me that I look beautiful with some of my hair showing so I should only wear a normal scarf/dupatta on my head without doing proper hijab. I really don’t want to take off my hijab. I feel so safe and protected in it and it’s the command of Allah S.W.T. I can never even think about taking off. I feel like crying as I’m writing this. Please pray for me that Allah gives me the strength to face these people. I’ve tried to explain but they don’t understand 😢

Assalamualikum

I am a born Muslim and currently 18, I struggled with my faith and belief for a long time in my earlier years, up until like 17 years old. Allah azzawajjal called me back to him thankfully and so my faith was reignited, that was also around the time that i started wearing the hijab. although my hijab isn't see through and covers my hair, chest and back, however i have just begun to discover many faults within the way i dress.

Although I am not a big fan of makeup, i still usually do a little makeup to cover up my dark circles and just use a light lipstick or lip tint most of the time, which i still felt kind of is similar to adorning myself, at least the lipstick part is.

I am relatively short in height, which never really was a problem for me, still isn't but probably due to being short, I got into wearing block heels, which i will admit is scarily a great confident booster, which doesn't seem like a problem on the outer shell but during the days of Jahilliyah, Prostitutes would wear bells on their feet to get noticed as they walk paths or even in movies of today's day, you may notice that heels are often portrayed as weaknesses for men (not necessarily all men), but if a women were to walk by and her heel would make noise, it would definitely turn heads, hence I don't think its proper, because it just attracts unnecessary attention. Not just speaking from what i have read but even in my everyday life, i have physically witnessed people actually turning heads and gazing towards my direction from the sound of my heels.

The clothes i normally wear are simple, with no complicated designs, just varying colors. My clothes are loose; the top is not small, has full sleeves and goes down to a little over my knees, and the bottoms follows suit. The problem i have with them is that a while ago, i went on to research about the conditions of hijab and tabarruj, and some people stated that the colors of our hijab or just overall clothes should not be eye-catching. I would love to know more about this specific clause if anyone could elaborate.

I really want to meet Allah azzawajjal one day but I don't want to meet him in a state of sin, and constant improvements is the only way to becomes a better version of myself. Help would really be appreciated, thankyou for reading the long paras :))

Jazakallah Khair

Atheists, Ex-muslims, christians jews even muslims themselves.

i looked up "muslim" in reddit and most of them were freaking P0RN.

and others talk about us in horrific ways.

that its a barbaric religion, that Muhammed (PBUH) was a ped0 (they ignore the fact how many religions also excuse marriage with kids + this was 1400 years ago and even people they adore used to do it, and it was normal in that time) and that its sexist (Islam highly respects a woman but they still wont shut up) and old-fashioned (to this day we can use it in our day to day lives) and how fake it is (scientific revolutions line up perfectly with Islam and Islam discovered this 1400 years before them) and they just go on and on and on about us

why wont they leave us alone? its horrifying on reddit here. i literally answered someones question on Islam (asking about the take of the buried infants and how they were mentioned in Quran) AND GOT -10 VOTES FOR WHAT??

its all "respect all beliefs!" "they have the right to do what they want!" till it comes to Islam. what the hell? its all hypocrites.

and the more annoying ones is the "Muslim" people who taint our name, like oppressive families using religion as an excuse to be abusive and so on.

why wont they leave us alone? im scared. im so so scared.

especially with whats happening in Palestine (May Allah help them).

theyre ENJOYING it. theyre SUPPORTING it. and they dare mock us for it?? and they think they're sooo right.

im TERRIFIED that they'd cheer and celebrate muslims being tortured. its just like what they did to the Sahabi long ago. NOTHING CHANGED. NOTHING CHANGED!!!! THEY TALK ABOUT HOW TIMES CHANGED AND HOW MODERN THE WORLD IS AND HOW ISLAM IS OUTDATED. NOTHING. CHANGED.

Update: thanks for snapping me back into reality. Pinterest is a wayy cuter place for me, filled with Palestine supporters and people casually respecting each other. r/feminism banned me and honestly im just laughing at this point. for a petty reason too, someone made a post and i refuted tryna explain that modesty isnt oppression and that it isnt Islam's fault if someone forced you. petty behavior honestly

Salaam ladies,

I used to be a sex educator and then life got in the way. After a traumatic marriage, I’ve realized that I have been blessed to be able to talk about sexual topics in an open, frank, respectful but sensitive way without experiencing any kind of shame or shyness.

It’s come to the point where I’m seriously considering creating content for Muslims (would be open to both genders or just women) to talk about sexual topics that many families or communities don’t talk about but expect people to just figure it out when they get married.

Right now, I’ve been thinking about:

• women’s pleasure and the fiqh of it
• emotional and sexual intimacy
• marital pleasure exploration
• creating sexual trust and safety
• porn and masturbation addictions
• things to consider for one’s wedding night
• pelvic floor dysfunction such as vaginismus and vulvodynia

What are some other topics you would find helpful? What would be the type of platform you’d seek this info for? Should it just be worded posts like on IG or would it create a human component to create short form (or long form) content where my face/voice is present? To be honest, this is a part I’m worrried about considering how many randos I already get in my DMs, but I trust that if my intentions are good, I’ll be able to deal with them eventually.

Assalamualaikum everyone, I hope you are all doing well in shaa Allah! I am making this post because I am a student in my final year of university who is scrambling to get all of her final assignments done and I feel like I’m collapsing. I took 7 classes this year and it’s been hard to focus on each one so now I have less than 2 weeks to complete 5 essays. Please make dua that I do well on them and finish in a timely manner. On top of this, I am going through the worst financial crisis and I have had bills declined. Please please please make dua that my financial situation improves. I am so stressed and I feel like I’m at my wits end!! May Allah bless you all and I will definitely keep you in my duas <3

I started wearing hijab for the sake of Allah, but because I felt unsafe in the eyes of the world. I thought if I reduced my looks and protected myself with hijab I’d feel different, but instead I just feel ugly and disturbed. I don’t feel like I belong anywhere any longer. I keep wearing it for the sake of Allah and newfound feelings of admiration for it, but I can’t even look in the mirror. I went from feeling like I was in a safety net to feeling as if I’m a bad representation. I get nausea during the days when it gets hot and I just feel guilty all day long instead of enjoying fardh. I feel like a bad Muslim, maybe I am. There’s so much judgment everywhere and I’m afraid to ask for help or advice.

Edit: thank you to everyone for their responses. I’m going to continue to wear the hijab in different styles and fabrics to adjust easier in sha Allah. There’s definitely mental blocks in place, but feeling like I didn’t have a community was a huge factor, but these responses made me feel very safe. I’ll take every response into deep consideration when I’m struggling but also believing in the mercy of Allah. Thank you again everyone <3

First, I'm proud of you!

I've discovered a fantastic app called everyday muslim pray tracker (I have an android, so I don't know about ios) that has lots of cool features, among them is tracking your prayers individually and/or in a group, it offers challenges on completing all your prayers (on time) a number of days at a time, so at first there's a three days challenge, then a week and so on. It has a quran radio, a translated quran with tafsir and a meditation tab on each aya and even a community wall where people can share their own meditations on certain aya's ! it also has a qibla included.

Am I rambling? oops (but really I loved the app) So if anyone is interested in joining my group so we can track together and encourage each other, my code is: 89693178,, thank you for reading :)

I was shamed and criticised for not wearing hijab at home because my uncles came over. I didn’t know they were coming over, anyway I thought uncles are mahram? It made me annoyed but of course I’m not allowed to disagree because they’re elder.

Salam, I’m a new revert in the US.. and the first in my family. I don’t really have any Muslimah friends, and I’m wondering if there’s any apps or platforms where I could find girls my age (13-17) to talk to?

My older sister and has always been better liked than me. All my friends who are my age are her friends too. And they all talk to her more than me. She's smarter than me and never had trouble with school like I do. She's a better daughter than me and has a better relationship with our mom. She does'nt cry when our mom yells at us. Anytime we go anywhere im known as My sisters little sister. She's prettier than me and gets compliments constantly even though she wears full hijab. People act like im invisible when im next to her. Im not my own person. No-one see's me as me they see me as my older sisters little sister.

Any tips on how to accept that ill be in her shadow forever? Anybody else experince this or is it just me.

Any Colombian sisters know of any mosques or groups that I should take the time to visit while in bogota or Medellin? I speak Spanish if that makes a difference. Thanks

Alsalam alaykom my name is rania im a teenager and i wore hijab when i was 13 and i feel like i shouldn't have wore it because seeing all the girls my age free not wearing hijab . I'm now 14 and i have a chance to go to another city alone and remove it is it like halal okay like my hijab isn't even done properly cuz I'm starting to hate it and wear tight clothes and my neck is showing?

Hey guys! I have a few ninja undercaps I don’t use as I prefer the regular ones. I was wondering if anyone knows how I can turn/sew them into regular caps?

Assalamu Alaikum

I am requesting dua’s for a new job and barakah in my rizq. I am stressing out because I have bills increasing and I have applied for many positions. I am steadfast in my salah and dhikr daily. I wake and pray daily tahajjud as well. I’ve tied my camel and now I have left it in Allah’s hands.

Please remember me in your dua’s.

Hi, I'm a convert and have been wearing the hijab since November. I haven't removed my photos of pre hijab/convert since it feels like I'm erasing part of me and it's a reminder of how far I've progressed and since I've recently started to upload pictures of me in hijab since I'm officially comfortable and happy with the hijab and how much I've progressed since then. Ive taken down any photos that could be considered inappropriate by the amount of skin showing and most of my accounts are private. But I don't know if I should take them down or if it's okay since I wasn't veiling then and want to show other girls that it is okay to convert and change without having to compromise yourself or past. Any advice is appreciated. I don't know if I should, and if I should, I'm not ready to and I want to make sure that is also okay. I don't want to disappoint Allah, but I don't want to forget where I came from if that makes any sense.