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What is the term “successive authority” referring to in Quran 2:30?

Quran (2:30)- And [mention, O Muhammad], when your Lord said to the angels, "Indeed, I will make upon the earth a successive authority." They said, "Will You place upon it one who causes corruption therein and sheds blood, while we declare Your praise and sanctify You?" Allah said, "Indeed, I know that which you do not know."

I’ve recently seen some Muslims try to argue that this verse is referencing Evolution. That the humans are “successors” to our common ancestor. Now I’m pretty sure that the whole Adam and Eve story (Eve being created from a rib) contradicts evolution but I’m unsure as to why the word “successor” is being used here. Is it implying that there were some kind of beings on earth before humans or does it mean something else?

1 Comment
2024/11/01
08:42 UTC

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Saw this quote today

Never agreed with something more.

3 Comments
2024/11/01
08:32 UTC

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Even reciting Quran gives them boner. Women can't study to be doctors but they can't talk to male doctors either. These people should be sent to gulag.

3 Comments
2024/11/01
07:50 UTC

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Happy Friday Y'all Moslems.

Not sure what's the use of it.

Seems like a plug of sort to me.

It looks sexy, though.

Where do you guys put it??

🤔 😕 😐 😑 😮 😲 🫢 😆 😄

20 Comments
2024/11/01
07:49 UTC

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united forever 🫡

5 Comments
2024/11/01
07:09 UTC

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I don't care if I go to hell i just want sleep , losers

This story was very common when I was a child about a mother whose children would not wake up from sleep to do the morning prayer., so she went to the sheikh and asked him for a solution. Then he tells her what if the house burns down, will she leave them to death or Pull them or even hit them to get them out of the fire? Of course she replied the second, then he tells her what will happen when she leaves her children not praying and going to sleep 🤡I wonder how many parents beat their children just because they're afraid of going to hell. No problem, I'll go to hell if I can sleep in it without the sheikh screaming. Bitch let me sleep

4 Comments
2024/11/01
07:05 UTC

6 Comments
2024/11/01
06:35 UTC

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What is your thoughts everything prescribed in Islam is good for you and for betterment.

While being muslim and questioning the most frequent argument I got is everything Haram is Islam is harmful and everything good for us is halal in Islam.

Alcohol Drinking beer, wine, or alcohol of any type is considered haram. The Quran directly condemns alcohol since it impacts a person’s frame of mind

Specific meats Meats that don’t qualify as haram need to be blessed properly in order to be halal.[5] According to the Quran, Muslims aren’t allowed to eat: Pigs and boars (or any swine) Animals that eat other animals Poisonous fish Cuts of meat that still contain blood Amphibians Hawks (or any birds of prey) Bugs[6]

Doing drugs Like alcohol, doing any type of drug impacts your ability to think clearly.[8] An exception to this is a product like CBD, which doesn’t have any psychoactive (mind-altering) effects

Gambling Gambling is denounced in the Quran and is considered haram due to the many negative effects it can have on a person’s life, like:[10] Tearing apart families Hindering a follower’s reliance on Allah Encouraging deviant behavior

Idolizing others It’s considered haram to put anyone or anything on a pedestal above Allah.

Masturbating and watching porn Purity and chastity are important virtues in the Muslim faith, so masturbation is considered haram for both men and women.[14] Similarly, watching pornography for any reason is viewed as haram, and is an act that requires repentance

Smoking Smoking is well-established to be bad for the human body and is associated with risks like cancer, COPD, heart disease, and more.[16] Islam condemns any action that inflicts harm on others, including yourself. When one buys cigarettes or tobacco products, they’re ultimately purchasing something that has the potential to hurt themselves (while squandering money that could’ve gone to a better cause

Adultery Cheating on one’s spouse is extremely taboo in Islam, and is explicitly forbidden within the Quran.[21] In the Muslim faith the act of adultery is viewed as haram, as well as any actions or steps that a person takes prior to physically cheating on their spouse.[22] Adultery is considered “zina” within Islam. Zina literally translates to “immorality,” and is associated with inappropriate sexual acts.[23]

6 Comments
2024/11/01
06:10 UTC

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Fear = Good!!!!

Well my friends, we are all doomed as we are shameless heathens who have shook the only power Allah has. See yall in hell.

1 Comment
2024/11/01
05:27 UTC

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we're all good thinking about the same religion

#pizzlam

4 Comments
2024/11/01
05:24 UTC

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HOW MANY RAKATS IN WUDU/!?!>>1."?"?

istg its these people who are the reason why people leave islam, like actually get a life

5 Comments
2024/11/01
05:22 UTC

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How do you explain miracles ?

I know this is already a dumb question but I do need an explenation about something that is not usually talked about here ( at least I haven't noticed already ) It is about miracles Mohammed had . We all know how unlikely moon splitting was and how there are no historical records of this event. I am however interested in the event that Anas Ibn Malik said that HE WITNESSED how water flowed from Mohammeds hands and how the whole army then had enough water
Ofcourse , one could say , well why didn't he do it all the time then. My question is how could Anas say that he saw that ? Did he really see it ? How did Mohammeds friends in general see certain miracles which they claim they witnessed in person ?

Thank you all in advance !

12 Comments
2024/11/01
05:18 UTC

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Make this meme months ago when Kendrick v Drake beef was hot

Context: that 12 pregnant women emoji is Drake's album cover while the picture below Drake's preggo ladies is Kendrick's "Not Like Us" single cover.

7 Comments
2024/11/01
03:53 UTC

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so ready to leave this religion behind

as a person forced to wear hijab I am so sick and tired of people basing their perceptions of me on what they think my religion is. im tired of Muslim women approaching me to tell me what I’m doing is haram. I’m tired of men treating me like a freak. I’m tired of LGBT people assuming I’m homophobic. One more year, and I’m done with this shit forever.

4 Comments
2024/11/01
03:19 UTC

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After hearing this masterpiece I almost became Muslim MashaAllah 💀

9 Comments
2024/11/01
01:42 UTC

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Is Yoga Halal? Dr Zakir Naik

7 Comments
2024/11/01
00:49 UTC

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IMPORTANT HADITH for those who seek spiritual enlightenment

4 Comments
2024/11/01
00:34 UTC

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wanna hear something funny and a bit sad ?

so my islamic faith went through different phases , you got the young clueless me doing what people telling him to do, the there was my mid-late teen years were i was trying so god damn hard to please sky daddie so he would make life better, and then there is the depressed angry early 20s where i completely given up hope, hated being a muslim and hated everything about it but i did it because i never thought i had a choice.

So one time during my depression phase, i came accross a video, poeple in a limousine drinking and spiling their drinks everywhere, partying, one guy snorting cocaine off a girls tits, trully utter excessive debauchery and do you know what was the first time came to mind? i felt jealous, and thought "i Gosh i wish i wasnt a muslim so i can enjoy life for at least just once"

i remember posting about it in social media, and some said "if you are wishing not to be religious then you are not, you are just pretending"

that was probably the first real crack in my faith, it was already in shambles but i never thought about it that way, never thought about it at all.

2 Comments
2024/11/01
00:25 UTC

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Look at this clown

2 Comments
2024/11/01
00:23 UTC

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I am angry I don't know how to stop

Does anyone here gets randomly angry when you remember the shit you believed on, the lies, the struggles you have faced, especially because I am a woman. Little me would be so disappointed in god. Can you tell me how do you feel better after such feelings? I just want peace and move on thanks.

7 Comments
2024/10/31
23:47 UTC

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A Muslim friend trying to convert me (I think)

I have this friend who is constantly sending my verses/ passages ( sorry I don’t know the actual term). He also talks about how allah is the real ruler and he hopes everyone will follow him in the next few years as it will be the end of the world and allah will rule. Idk if he’s actually trying to convert me or if it’s just him talking about his ideas. Either way it’s kinda making me uncomfortable so I was wondering if anyone knows what to do?

6 Comments
2024/10/31
23:40 UTC

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Do you acknowledge Prophet Muhammad to be a genius?

I'm Muslim, but assuming for a moment what some say is true—that he was a liar/deceiver—wouldn't that make him one of the greatest strategists of all time? How could he have successfully "invented" a religion, inspired such loyal followers, lived in consistency with his teachings, performed voluntary prayers, fasts, and acts of worship with devotion if he didn’t truly believe? How did an unlettered man produce a text as complex and as the Quran, why did he endure years of persecution, poverty, and hardship without wavering in his mission? Why would he establish strict ethical standards and endure personal sacrifices if he didn’t genuinely believe in his own message? While some leave Islam because they encounter questions they can’t answer, they often end up with new questions they also can’t resolve, yet in that context, they no longer seem to care about finding answers. Who wrote the Quran? Who was Muhammad historically? (refrain from polemical answers like "warlord", "pedo") I'm actually interested in your answers. Let me know

12 Comments
2024/10/31
23:17 UTC

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Doubts abt faith

Hello everyone,

I’ve been browsing this sub for a few days now to get the perspective of ex-Muslims. I am Muslim, born and raised. I’m not here to criticize any of you for leaving Islam—that’s not my style at all. I’m here because lately I’ve been having doubts and questions and I honestly feel like if I asked Muslims around me, they would judge me or think I’m a bad Muslim (which I probably am). I thought I would try asking you guys instead.

Here’s my dilemma know that I believe in Allah (God). Atheism has never made sense to me. I definitely think that there has to have been some deity that has created mankind. However, despite my belief in Allah, I find some aspects of Islam difficult to follow and agree with. For example, this guy I’m interested in is a devout Christian. It makes me so sad that he and I can’t be together and even if we were to get married, it would be religiously invalid. Also, I used to love wearing the hijab. I started later than most girls/women in my family at the age of 16. I’ve been wearing it for three years now, and I constantly feel judged. I feel like I have to smoke in private, because I don’t want to expose my sins, seeing as how muslim women are the face of the ummah. That is a lot of pressure. Even though I don’t really like wearing the hijab anymore, I would feel weird taking it off. My family and friends would surely be upset or at the very least, disappointed; especially since I was so religious a few years ago. Another thing I find difficult is prayer. I think I’m consistent with praying five times a day. I’ve never admitted to anyone that I feel no connection to god when I’m praying. I think I used to, but at some point that feeling faded away. Honestly, now I view it as a chore that I dread but needs to get done.

The main issue is gender inequality. I used to always be confused on why a women’s testimony was worth half of a man’s. The “striking” of your wife, even if it is lightly, does not sit well with me at all. Hoor-al-ayn?

I went through most of the Hadith of the day series on here and I could not believe what i was reading, especially about women.

This makes me wonder if maybe hadiths are where it all went wrong. Maybe the Quran is true but hadiths are not.

Sometimes I wish I could be a muslim and believe in God but without having to follow all these rules. I wish Islam was a religion where you could practice individually. I do think it is a beautiful religion (most of it), but these things are hard for me to accept.

So then I think, maybe that’s okay. Maybe I don’t need to accept all aspects of Islam to believe in it. And maybe that’s true. But it’s hindering my faith.

Another problem that I have is that I do fully believe in hellfire and the punishments that God has describe. This is a huge reason why I am still practicing despite my doubts. I worry that if I stop behaving “islamically,” when I die, I’ll go to hell. That thought is what keeps me going. I don’t know how to reconcile with the fact that this religion that I simultaneously agree and disagree with can be so strict and controversial.

I feel like the sky is falling just thinking about the possibility that everything I’ve ever known could be wrong.

What was it exactly made you leave Islam? Do you still believe in God? If you do believe in a monotheistic concept of a God, how do you practice now?

I just would like to hear your input.

13 Comments
2024/10/31
23:15 UTC

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I’m so close to leaving

Almost every blessing has turned into a hardship

Friend to foe, job opportunity to misery, vehicle with problems, family to foe, and pretty much anything you could think of. At times it feels like I made a deal with the devil, I don’t want to say it like that but it’s seriously what it is. My iman is so weak right now, everyday I ask myself if I’m really even Muslim.

I don’t pray, I resent Allah and his ways. I hate my life, I hate how bleak and hopeless things are. And every time I get something I feel as if something bad is around the corner to ruin everything. IDK anymore, I’m so fed up with life and how disappointing I turned out.

I’ve tried doing everything right, yet everything has turned out in the worst way imaginable. They say you have a plan but Allah has a better plan.

If that’s the case then why does Allah give people trials that make them hate life, depressed, suicidal, leave Islam or end their life?

On the day of judgement we’ll be too scared to say how we really feel but the truth is some of us, no many of us, have been wrong by our creator.

He brought us here on this earth knowing we’d have destructive tendencies, struggle to find our place in society, be lonely, grow up in harsh environments and have bad hands. Yet he doesn’t care about any of that, he just wants us to pass his test. Which I don’t even care about.

Many people bring up the stories of the prophets but also fail to mention WE WILL NEVER BE LIKE THEM NOR COME CLOSE. They are the closest things to perfection, and why is that? Well that’s because Allah made them that way. And they all have happy endings written for them from the start.

What about us? Prayer, Tahajud, Sabr, therapy, self improvement, exercise, journaling and anything you could think of. Yet nothing. Still the same horrible person and dealing with misfortunes every single day.

It’s defeating to wake up everyday knowing no matter what you do you’ll have to deal with major inconveniences that setback your progress and make life difficult for you.

The nonbelievers are winners in a sense. As the people who walk away from Islam lose in this life and the next. At least the nonbelievers had it good here.

3 Comments
2024/10/31
23:03 UTC

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When did I decide to leave Islam and why?

I’m a Christian and have been thinking hard about how I just don’t think Islam is a peaceful religion and I want to grasp why!

5 Comments
2024/10/31
22:59 UTC

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What is wrong with today's society..

I worry about the immodesty of young men these days. Just this morning saw a man walking down the street with a loose tanktop and shorts that went well above his knees. You can literally see the form of his ass cheeks while he's walking!! I have to wonder who he's trying to impress dressing like this in the middle of autumn 😮‍💨. I wish men wouldn't show their hair so much, too. The man I mentioned had an afro that could be spotted from a mile away! It's so distracting!! All men should get buzz cuts tbh. If any young men are reading this, I say this lovingly; showing off your looks like this will only attract bad women into your life.

29 Comments
2024/10/31
22:54 UTC

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Linking music to homosexuality - Iman Ibn Mansur.

Muslim versus music.

3 Comments
2024/10/31
22:27 UTC

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Salam, o disbelievers. It is I, Isa, the Messenger of Allah

Ask me anything you wish, especially those of you who have converted to Christianity (which I absolutely reject)

(OOC: I’m hoping to start a whole series of AMA’s featuring Islamic versions of the Biblical prophets)

2 Comments
2024/10/31
22:25 UTC

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I wish I could ask hijabi women out (WLW)

I think I'm attracted to hijabis/niqabis partly because I'm so used to them. I just wish I could at least compliment one/ask one on a date without being looked at like I have three heads ☹️ I get weird looks because I still veil, so I think they assume I'm also Muslim.

9 Comments
2024/10/31
22:15 UTC

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