Does anyone has this situation as well? I onow that INTJs like us are some very eccentric people heheheh, so I thought that... Maybe?

This is not a post to complain, I just wanted to tak with people about it because I find it... curious.

I cannot get romantically interested in anyone. It is not that I don't want to, I would like to have a romance. I am also pretty social and meet with different people, still, I cannot find anyone I am really into.

To be honest I did find two women I was interested in, but I lost interest on one of them after not getting much response and the other one was a person that I like a lot and that I think was probably interested on me as well, but who I would not try to have any relationship with because our current life situations wouldn't make it possible.

Two people during more than 20 years and I was never truly in love with anyone. Did not experience any sort of "crush", "butterflies" or whatever when I was a teen... and I don't even know how it is to feel it.

Anyone else with a similar experience? What are your thoughts?

I'll try to keep this brief (which is difficult for me). I read a comment on another thread about an INTJ couple (yes both INTJ) who get overwhelmed by their kids and the chaos they bring.

I am married to an INTJ and this has been a source of conflict for us over the years. He is impatient with our kids and very easily overwhelmed by them. He doesn't react in the best ways when this happens. As an ENTP, I am better at taking things in stride, not taking childish behavior personally, and going with the flow.

I'm curious. Is this a struggle for INTJs in general? I imagine to some extent this must be true given how much you value order and rationality (typically the opposite of what children are).

A feeling? Respect, encouragenent, validation, novelty, mutual understanding, thrill, despair, jealousy, hate, etc

Something to happen? Perhaps a complete upheaval of a paradigm, the eradication of something undesirable, an answer to a difficult question, etc.

Someone else? A lover, nemesis, student, mentor, an uneasy ally, etc

Material? Money, a particular vehicle, ownership of property, etc

Please elaborate your answer (what it is, why, how).

Happy to hear about a desire not listed if you have one.

I’m (F31) dating the sweetest man ever. He checks all the boxes. And still… I prefer being alone. I feel broken, like I’m an alien. Is this being an intj female?

After 2 hours of being together I want to go home and be on my own. The idea of someone sleeping over or moving in stresses me out. I just don’t like it. Like is this an intj thing or did I just not meet the right person? Is this some kind of trauma?

When I’m casually dating, I don’t experience it like that. I know it’s temporary and they will leave. Or when they stay, I know it’s a 1 time thing. I’m really annoyed by myself.

Which author writes most similar to the internal narrative in your brain?

I’m 30 and single and needless to say dating has been impossible. I found a lot of answers in discovering and researching my Myers Briggs type (which hasn’t changed since I first took the test in middle school!) and am wondering if others have found similar difficulties?

Remarked upon as being more of a “male” type, INTJs are loners and leaders which hasn’t helped me in dating. I get along well with everyone but I prefer to do things myself and being highly intelligent, find it hard to find people that can keep up.

Are there other INTJ women out there happy in partnerships??

how many of you are familiar with your c. functions? you know, the Xx-Xx-Xx-Xx instead of just XXXX.

Title <3

One of the MANY things that really gets on my nerves is when people complain about a perfectly solvable problem and don’t put any effort into solving the problem. I’m curious to see what you guys can think of because I can’t tell if I’m a bad person half the time or if it’s just part of my personality to get annoyed at odd things. (I also get really mad when people mess up “your” and “you’re” as well as “there”, “their”, and “they’re”, but that’s probably just the nerd in me).

Do you also look at your zodiac? If so, what’s urs? Chinese zodiac? What type of romantic are you: avoidant, co-dependent, etc.? What type of learner are you: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, etc? What’s ur favorite style of literature? Aside from INTJ, how else do you categorize yourself and identify? Just curious to get to know y’all. 💗 ✨

I you INTJs are introverted and stay composed but how often do you feel territorial or possessive and don’t show it?

TELL ME WHYY ?? Ain't nothin' but a heartache ?

Now I'm going to sit back, relax and watch people calling me names like edge lord lol.

I was told by an ENTP acquaintance that my 'Se blindness is showing.'

How does Se blindness manifest exactly?

Context:

I expressed to my acquaintance(ENTP) that it is really important for me to find friends who support my dreams in life. Some of his comments came across as devaluing so I was trying to gauge if he would be a supportive person or not.

He commented he disagrees about the importance of finding others who support your goals and it's more important to find people who support who you are. After expressing that my goals were a big part of my identity and I don't want to waste my time with unsupportive people he told me that my 'Se blindness was showing.' He also told me if I'm looking for friends who support my goals I wasn't going to find any. Anyways I cut him off.

I believe he was being a jerk, but if there is any truth to his statement I would like to improve myself. If someone could elaborate what he may have meant I would appreciate it. The reason I'm not asking him is because I really did not want to continue that conversation. Thanks for the insight. 🙏🏻

What's it like to be Si blind?

People often say it takes time to discover your true path in life, but despite all the free time I've had, I still feel lost and uncertain.

So, I'm curious to hear from you all—what is your life purpose, and how did you come to realize it? I find myself wanting to wake up each day with a sense of purpose, rather than just scrolling on Reddit.

Mine are the big bang theory and young Sheldon. The jokes never really makes me laugh out loud but it's somehow comforting.

Plus have meds been useful? I've done most of the things, turned every page of the book regarding productivity and efficiency so I'm quite familiar and they also helped w a lifestyle, but they can only help you do so much without meds by a psychiatrist. I'm happy that the treatment's finally begun but I'd like some input of you've been through the same.

Hey everyone, I’m an INFJ - 20 male, and I recently met this amazing INTJ women 19 who I really connected with. We share a lot of laughs, go on walks together, and genuinely have a great time. She shows clear signs of interest when we’re together, like positive body language, tilting her head with those “puppy eyes,” and being playful around me. In class, she always wants to sit next to me, doesn’t want me to leave, and actively seeks me out. Recently, I told her I liked her (not directly however through a friend she found out), and now she’s suddenly avoiding me. We had a good connection, but now I’m getting complete silence—almost like I’ve been ghosted. Is this normal INTJ behavior? Could this just be her way of processing? Any insights on why she might be avoiding me now, and how I should approach this?

I'm probably an introvert because I don't like parties, but I like spending time with people when there aren't many of them. Most of the people say I'm more of an introvert. I like spending time with my loved ones. I don't like being alone for too long, but I don't like being with people for too long either. I plan for the future and usually stick to my plans, but I'm a lazy person, and sometimes I just can't. But I do plan next day (and long term future), and I like to have plans. I think about future and I overthink things a lot. I think I am more logical because I think through most of my decisions logically. I love debate, analysis, exchanging opinions, and proving my point. I don't like it when someone speaks illogically. I am also emotional, but more on my own feelings, I prefer to give advice to others. Sometimes I need support. My room is a mess, but I think that apart from that I am an organized person who can organize my day, what I will do next, etc. (You can ask questions)

Recently went on a trip to 'unwind' and the entire time, I was told to relax because I was really just on my toes trying to keep everything within the agenda. Every spare time I had where we didnt have an activity, I planned the next things to do and where we would eat and badically created to-do lists.

Now, that got me thinking - how do you, as INTJs, relax?

Three things I have noticed;

Frist, there are many out there that speak on receiving different results even upon taking different types of tests.

Secondly, at least with the test on 16Personilities website, there are many questions worded in such a manner that I have found confusing for certain individuals which would lead to an even more incorrect result if I was not there to explain what the question was really asking for.

Thirdly, some of the questions almost seem traumatic in nature. Not to cause trauma, but to get one to think of trauma.

Which brings me to my question;

A person takes the test(s) and is consciously or unconsciously allowing past trauma to effect their answers in which they would get one result.

The same person however now takes the test answering the questions as if they either conquered their trauma or, as if they never had trauma to begin with and gets a different result.

Which "type" then are they?
Neither?
Or both?

I've struggled with this all my life. I was heavily depressed in high school, but managed to perform well and get into a really good university. Then it all fell apart. Now, I'm back in school, and working on achieving my goals, but every now and then, when I'm left alone with my thoughts, all I feel is sadness. I keep myself busy as a way to feel some sense of accomplishment day to day, but the moment the task is complete, I just feel empty. And I could go on and on about cause and purpose, and the meaning of life, but I'm just tired of it all. I can't even take a vacation, because I just get depressed when I have nothing to do.

And it's for the same reason why most people don't like us so 😭

Why does everyone have this borderline gothic serious dark aesthetic with a very calm logical demeanour.

I remember before i found out about mbti i dreamt of finding someone with these very calm confident quiet features and now this page exists filled with these people.

I usually received compliments from my family, friends, and even in my workplace for getting things done that exceeded their expectations. I have a hard time handling this type of feeling- I always see that something's lacking or something's unreached (you know what I mean). I need your advice. Thanks.

Hey my name is leah, this is my first time posting here. As you can see by the title I have been single for basically my whole life, I never even had my first kiss or had sex before and honestly I never really thought anything of it because I've always been alone, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. My sister thinks I'm gay and my bestfriend says I'm probably asexual but idk relationships confuses me

Hey all, I’m struggling with my friends occasionally on something so simple - just giving advice.

For context, I am in college, part of a friend group who have terrible sleep schedules and one of our friends suffers from a lot of anxiety and is weeks behind on his work.

The situation - I sat down at dinner and my one friend confided to us about his struggle maintaining productivity. I started off by saying his sleep schedule is probably the issue, (sleeping at 2-4 AM and waking up at 12-2 PM). My other friend said it probably wasn’t an issue, because his pattern is consistent, we kinda squabbled over it but i ended up agreeing that it’s consistent. To which i said there’s probably something else in his way, and he should pick up his hobby or find a new one to help him get his mind productive throughout the day. My other friend interrupted me and made a joke I didn’t hear, but i continued and said that it worked for me - my GPA was rock bottom dealing with relationship issues and life, but I got back on track by fixing my sleep schedule and picking up boxing / bodybuilding/ fitness in general.

My other friend retorted at some point saying “you’re a psych major who’s only taken 2 psych classes in his second year”, which threw me way off, I stated “I’m trying to help him and give him advice on something I struggled with too.”

My other other friend (3 in total) kept chiming in at certain points as i laid out my friend’s issues i noticed and kept saying that I don’t know what I’m talking about basically, and that my friend’s schedule is “fine”.

I’m at a loss for words. I’ve been trying to help him out but my friend group has this weird passive aggressive dynamic it feels like? And i have no idea why. I do have a problem with being sarcastic and I figure they probably think I’m just constantly “on” but I make it very clear that I’m not when I’m trying to help them out.

Hey y'all, really putting the "NT" into INTJ right now and trying to grasp some things together for some research. How did you improve your reading speed per minute and how long did it take you to get there?

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The only person I ever really loved and felt completely understood by was an INTJ. I still think about him often, he wasn’t perfect but I’m coming to realize he was irreplaceable. I will never connect to someone on that level again, he’s not the type to dwell on past loves