For those of you who have already watched Eternal Sunshine and understand cognitive functions better, tell me: in your opinion, is Clementine an ESFP or ENFP? And why do you think that way?

I've been typed as an ENFP for years and most of the characters I identify with are typed as ENFPs in the PDB, but I recently made a post "type me: ESFP or ENFP" and the answer "ESFP" was practically unanimous. Since then I've been thinking a lot about whether I might actually be an ESFP. But when I stop to think about the "characteristics" for which people suggested I was an ESFP, I realize that this character in question has all of those same characteristics.

She is the character I identify with the most out of all the works of fiction I have ever watched or read. We are the same in practically everything: impulsiveness, talkativeness, temperament, inconstancy, creativity, enthusiasm, lack of concern for social adequacy, random thoughts and ideas, carelessness, authenticity, spontaneity, the desire to live life intensely, irreverence, aggressiveness, hedonism, mood swings, emotional intensity, taste for risky and dangerous things, warmth, easily feeling trapped and bored, confusion and chaotic vibe, the need for freedom and new experiences, etc. The only difference I see between us is the fact that I have more reservations about showing my vulnerabilities and insecurities to people I have only known for a short time. If she can be typed as an ENFP, I don't see how I couldn't be.

people growing up liked to call me smart, or assume i’m smart, because of my demeanor, or my grades, or my major. but i also feel like sometimes i make or do really stupid decisions. like how when i was younger, i would text random friends on roblox and tell them about my day or what i was doing, and basically name-dropping family. or other stuff like talking to randos on the internet or saying stupid stuff.

i feel like it just makes me self-conscious cuz sometimes i feel like i just act without thinking. like my friends and i were on ome tv today (basically like omegle), and i lowkey kept forgetting to use their real names or to not swear sometimes and i lowkey felt like an idiot.

Would love to hear from ESFPs on the jobs they have and pros/cons to that work. My ESFP daughter’s headed for college but unsure what career may be good for her.

I think that most ESFP’s are secretly (or not so secretly) super big readers. Ik I am lol. Also if you are does it also piss you off when someone try’s to talk to you while you’re reading. Like hello?? I have the book open I’m not interested in your conversation currently. Obviously I wouldn’t actually say that and I usually just pause my reading.

Ik I posted this in r/mbtitypeme before but I also wanted people's inputs over here?

Hi, so I'm just having one of these random existential crisis in the middle of the night AGAIN!

I wasn't sure if I'm more of a Ne or a Se user tbh? So I'd thought I'd ask. I'm positive that my enneagram is a 4w3, so putting enneagram aside, I want to focus more on my MBTI instead.

I used to be typed as an INFP, ENFP and lately ESFP too. And now I'm basically stuck between an ENFP or an ESFP lol.

I'm confident that I'm not an INFP, because compared to other.. INFPs I knew, they're honestly more surprised at the fact I can be cheerful or talkative or maybe even loud when I feel like it?

But yeah!

Let's see.. What do I do for fun? Meh, cooking (mostly stir frys) and sometimes if I have the mood, I'd play some 90s or 2000s era games. Or I just watch pranksters or comedy shit on Youtube.

Uhm, I used to be a daydreamer as a child though. I used to be convinced I'd be an amazing artist earning like tons of grands, but now? I don't really care as much. I work in IT and what matters is that I'm comfortable with myself so. My teenhood wasn't the best and tbh, I really don't wanna bring up these traumatic memories of my life.

At the same time, I just don't do much but shop.. as a part of my "hobby" at the same time? Even though I don't wear makeup irl as much (I'm working in a hot weather), I do love looking at makeup tutorials, I love looking at those fashion color theory or seasonal palletes, and I even plan on making a handmade milkmaid styled top myself soon. I could probably even make a really nice dress or a shawl for a friend if I wanted to.

The music genre I listened to are.. very random, but it's also not something many Gen Zs in my country listen to. Not exactly niche but something like... Kylie Minogue, Sodom, and sometimes even Molchat Doma. So, I tend to listen to a mix of Thrash, Post-punk, and Dance Pop really.

When it comes to socializing, I usually don't talk as much surprisingly unless someone was chatting to me first and we vibe really well for us to vibe and I'd suddenly become very, very talkative or loud. It's not that I don't like socializing, but what the hell am I gonna chat about, you know? Sometimes I accidentally give off this "quiet kid" vibe that when someone accidentally ignored me mid convo or whatever, it makes me feel fucking pissed off lmfao, as if I wish I could yell and say, "Fuck you mean? You deaf or something?" But tbh, I also don't like being too confrontational which is why I always shut up.

I do regularly like giving candies and snacks to my colleagues and friends, sometimes the customers too. Idk why, it makes me pretty chill and happy. If they enjoy it then ig I enjoy it too. Like in my workplace, I did thought it'd be nice to have the customers get a pleasant experience by being given a candy right after they completed our survey, ya know? Idk. I just felt like it? Might feel a tiny bit memorable?

And uh, used to get myself to drink before. Not the most fun moment of my life. I dealt with that as a way to cope with my stress with my schoolwork back then. I certainly don't miss the hangovers. I also smoked a pack for a week to also cope with my stress. The Menthol ones, if I remembered. I stopped because it was pretty expensive and it didnt do jack shit to me tbh. I didnt get addicted. Also over my parents being mad over it.

I'm doing a lot better now, and I've been working alright in my job, have been sober for more than 3 years already too! Sometimes when I did think about drinking, I would get sudden flashback of that hangover feeling and shudder. Like, I would feel like I would never touch a shot of any alcohol ever again?

I don't know if there's anything else I should say about myself? Feel free to ask anymore questions tho!

We are very extroverted, but how do you feel, do you feel yourself lonely? Damn I do, even though I have friends.

You can answer this in detail or on a scale of 1 to 10 or both. You may also answer this question in general and ignore the situations altogether.

1. You are casually going by and a person bumped into you. They didn't say sorry and just moved on.
2. Out of the blue, an acquaintance shouts at you. You didn't do anything. Later on, they come to you and say sorry. They don't seem genuine.
3. Same as above but this time they do seem genuine.
4. You have a really, really close friend; like 'someone who understands you' kind of friend. You find out (from a genuine source, i.e. what you heard is 100% accurate) that they were actually manipulative. They lied to you. When you confronted them about it, they ignored you.
5. Same as above but here they seemed shocked that you know about it. After a while they come to you and say sorry. They apologized multiple times and said that they didn't mean to manipulate you and that they'll not do this again.

I asked this on the ENFP sub and I'm curious about what you guys think.. Also, I wonder if it has any correlation with MBTI, so I'm planning to ask this on the other MBTI subreddits.

My ESFP seems to tolerate me pretty well, despite my "INTPness" which can seem grating to most people. We both see things from different perspectives (she's glass-half-full, I'm glass-half-empty), but we're able to come to the same conclusion on a lot of things which I think is a huge part of why our friendship works so well.

Outside of my friendship with her, I feel like my ESFP is generally more tolerable about other people even if they have disagreements, and she's able to find more positives in her relationships than I do in mine. She told me she feels like it's just a her thing.

Do any other ESFPs do the same thing?

Do you like Coldplay??what's your fav coldplay song? I think Coldplay has some of the best songs to energize our mood and dance our heart out

Sincere question, absolutely no judgement will be passed.

...yes, there's fi too...😭...

Go Irish! Heck of a season!

Either this type flew completely under my radar, and could trip on it and not notice, or the environments I'm in aren't common for ESFPs to be in. Only met a few ENFPs, up until now.

So, tell me, how do you spend your free time?

Before you drop your idealistic view that both act the same (ik what app im on lol), lets just be real.

My main difference is that men present as less expressive than women. Men might shy away from the bright colors and opt for subtle shows of attention drawing. What else is there

How easily do you cutt people off of your life? I feel I do it too easily. I remorse and there are moments I feel so sad and mad what I've done. But I'm too proud to go back.

As ESFP I do..do you too?

Te is your tertiary function. I’m wondering if you tend to get along with them.

Anything you would tell yourself if you were just entering your 20’s?

Hey so, I wanna give a trip regarding avoiding repeating mistakes. It worked out for me and it may work out for you.

So here's the thing: I may acquire an experience with (X) and even if the experience is slightly negative but time passes on, I'll think: ''Hey it could be different/better this time.'' Then, I keep repeating a mistake. Because it is in fact not different that time even when my brain wants to believe in that possibility. This has happened to me so many times. Maybe you can relate to this.

So...I started to make notes on things. If I had a kinda meh or unsatisfying experience with something, e.g., a restaurant, I wrote down why I didn't enjoy it, in detail. The next time I though about that restaurant again, the memory of writing about the bad experience was strong enough and convincing for me to not fall for the same shit again.

So yeah, maybe you can give it a go if you face similar issues in your life.

Hey, So I’m on the fence about whether im a ESTP or ESFP. Definitely a sensor. I’ll just list traits from both that I relate to

ESFP: -I’m very playful and unserious in professional environments UNTIL it gets down to the actual work in which I’ll outdo a lot of people

-I was always a class clown type figure but not as much as a select few others.

-When people get insulted online I’ll come to their defense unless they deserve it

-I sort of enjoy being late to class cuz the spotlight is on me for a bit (cringe ik)

-I can identify what I’m feeling at a surface level (anxiety, sadness, happiness) and I orient myself to do things to feel the better feelings

-I’m not afraid of looking dumb to others by asking hella questions or saying dumb things because I know that I am competent deep down

-I HATE overly logical thinking that ‘scares the hoes’ pretty much

-One of the most ecstatic experiences I can feel is to be in a car with friends, driving fast and blasting music

-I don’t mind Frank Ocean and softer music like lil peep and stuff, but I do like upbeat music like rap a lot

ESTP: -I used to bully people when I was younger

-I started weights when I was 14 consistently and systematically, and got very jacked as a result

-I take charge of groups usually unless I know I’m incompetent

-I’ve always led friend groups of boys when I was younger, but when I hang around girl (friends) I don’t lead like I do with men

-I am cocky sometimes and I’m trying very hard to eliminate that from my trait list, cuz I know it’s objectively unlikeable

-I used to get into fights a lot as a kid until I matured

-I got in trouble for selling lead-pencil projectile things in elementary school

-I used to be a major pothead until I quit

-I dont typically trust easily and I sure as hell dont talk about my feelings with others

-I was talking to this cute girl who complemented my nose or something and I literally did not say thank you 💀 many such cases where the arrogance comes out with girls and I literally HATE that about myself

To summarize,

Reasons for NOT ESTP- I feel, I care about others (at a guarded level), I joke a lot, I know how to let loose and have fun, I dont need to always ‘gain’ from a situation to join it

I journal and meditate and stuff of that sort (all for personal tangible benefit), and I have a soft spot for the weird kids of society and really value when others have core values

Reasons for NOT ESFP- I used to fight a lot, I can confront people very easily, I have a pretty loose fuse, I can be logical and objective when observing the situation, I can listen to other perspectives and adjust according to what makes the most sense

No need to specify just in general

Imagine that you were still a college student.

I'm curious how many of you are fiction writers? I would absolutely love to know more about how you write fiction stories, what your hurdles and struggles are, and I'd love to read what you wrote!

I've been looking for friends for like 2 weeks and nothing has clicked T_T. I feel like no one is extroverted anymore?! Being an ESFP feels so isolating....Please tell me I'm not the only one. Even when I find people to play with THEY DON'T TALK and I'm like loney as fuck T_T

To be fair my hobbies are gaming and anime which really does attract introverts but gosh do I need a friend who is an extrovert and is willing to yap and let me yap. I'm 26F in EST timezone I prefer a female please but lmk

It is well documented how as social beings our external environments greatly affect us. Regardless of type.

However, I was wondering in what ways do you guys feel your environment affects you? Particularly as a person with ESFP type preferences. (Other types on here are welcome to share as well. The perspective is always nice to have)

I for one notice considerable natural differences in myself when I am at home, at work, or out and about. The changes aren't conscious choice, but rather subconscious shifts mostly in mood and openess based. For example: home-reserved, work-hyperactive/social, that sort of thing.

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INFJ here, was previously married to an ESFP for 12 years so i have a reasonable understanding of your personality. Went on a date today and she exhibited all the things that made me think she is also an ESFP except she says she doesnt like being the centre of attention. So wondering do you all like being the centre of attention or do some of you not want to be?

And do you think you’d like it?

Our biggest stereotypes have always been that I “need to be needed” and ESFPs need to entertain or love to put on a social performance.

So I seemed to buy into this when I was young even without knowing about mbti yet. Then it reinforced my behavior of doing menial tasks for other people without them asking and expecting things in return. Which is incredibly selfish and dehumanizing to them. It made me a very conceited and judgmental person.

So after getting more mentally healthy, I naturally started to listen more to people I cared about to hear what was truly important to them. I also realized that people deeply appreciated my genuine advice when they were going thru something difficult. I didn’t bs them or just try to make them feel better. My relationships improved and I started to see value in being an optimistic and positive person.

This is where it gets interesting for ESFPs.

I feel like deep down I am not optimistic and positive because it is some sort of important “philosophical” idea I believe in. Maybe to a small extent. But in reality, being positive and upbeat makes me “feel good” so it is almost like a necessity. I hate feeling bored and I especially hate feeling dead inside. It legit hurts when I act negative for too long. I have talked to ESFPs before about this so I know many of you might relate in some ways.

Back to my “need to be needed.” Well now I know my real gift is to listen intently to people and give them genuine, heart-felt advice.

And it feels really really good.

Like crack entering my brain.

Now I realize I am no different than anyone else. I am trying to get that novel source of dopamine that makes me feel good about myself. I wonder much do I truly care about helping people and how much of it is because it makes me feel high lol.

Then I see ESFPs who love and enjoy being social and the center of attention. Which some people might say is selfish. Except for the fact that you are the best at it. You have a gift for entertaining people and making them chill out or laugh. Like I have a gift for listening and then using all the memories of my personal experience to give people honest advice. It is literally just as selfish of me because I know my brain will reward me lol

Then I hear about you guys wish you didn’t overshare all the time. Or that constantly flirting often gets you in trouble. That you might feel horrible or express regret if too many people call you annoying and loud. Currently I am trying very hard to help my parent with their declining health. Even though it gets on their nerves. In this case, I do actually care about their quality of life but that also makes the drug-like sensation I feel even stronger.

Now I am starting to see that in reality, I actually want to experience less of that. I want to be with someone who will let me speak my mind and be genuine, but just considers that me being me. They appreciate that I care more so than taking my advice seriously. I am not a genius lol. I would rather forge a bond with someone because we can make each other laugh, smile and have fun.

Now I wonder if this is similar for ESFPs. Do you think you really love entertaining people and being the center of attention because of how much they enjoy it and like you for it? Or is it because it is simply who you are and what makes you feel most alive and like yourself?

Deep down are you as selfish as I am?

Lol