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If you can describe being an ambivert with a color, what would it be?

i came across someone saying this phrase and i felt it in my soul. haha i decided to make it a shirt, i wanted to get your thoughts.

and would anyone else want this shirt?

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When it comes to go outside, I am always confused that should I go or not??

What makes you guys an ambivert?

Here's what I feel makes me ambiverted:

I don't have a social battery, I don't understand it to be honest.

I don't understand wanting or liking "alone time".

I don't feel energised being by myself or with others.

I talk to everyone but and can socialise in groups but I prefer being in smaller intimate groups with my friends or one-on-one time with my friends.

I love chatting with my friends and want to do it often.

I always reach out to them and want to see them often.

I am however introverted around my family as I don't have much in common with them.

When I am around them I don't talk much.

I like to cook by myself.

I don't mind being alone, I'd prefer to be with my friends though.

I recently became 18 y/o male. Any life advices??

So I'm a ambivert and I like making friends only if I make then myself and not when people constantly pester me about making friends.

Do any other ambivert struggle keeping friendships or any romantic relationships? I feel like I'm messed up in the head when I see these two specific individuals at school and I feel like a monstrous freak and a moron when I see them.

(My experiences)

Person 1: I will call them Jason, Jason is transmasc and they were my best friend ever since middle school and in the 9th grade they came out to them as transmasc and I came out as transmasc or nonbinary idk (but I am nonbinary) and when my grandma noticed I was trying to transition to being nonbinary my grandma knew my best friend personally since my grandma knew their family personally he grew a huge hatred towards Jason's family and Jason himself, my grandma told me to stop being friends with them or my grandma will call cps on them. So I ended of and this hit worst than a boyfriend/girlfriend break up.

Person 2: I will call him Cole so in the 9th grade I met Cole in a special Ed class and he is a very silent introverted student, he never spoke to no one and social outcast and one day I gave him a note in class asking to be his friend and then we eventually exchanged emails accounts and we would emailed each other nonstop. Till next school year (in the 10th grade) rolled around he finally spoke to me but only when no one was around and then we eventually we fell for each other and he had a very intense feelings for me and things were going well.
In the 11th grade then he completely cut off all forms of communication towards me out of nowhere and it hurt like I got st@bbed in the chest with a sword and jammed it down my throat.

I feel like I'm the problem and I don't deserve to be loved or have friends because making friends for me is like me finding acquaintances then eventually becoming strangers all of the sudden a falling in love feels like I'm always holding myself at gun point and at knife point hoping I don't fvck up a relationship with a partner.

I have been backstabbed a few times, but many were just regular acquaintances back at high school, so it wasn't significant. However, when we permanently finished high school and entered our longest ever summer holiday, I lost my second closest friend, and even worse, after a fornight, my BFF backstabbed me (not going to enter detail).

Since starting college, I had a few introverted traits growing; I was a burden to others on my first days and weeks of college due to the trust damage, and whenever I am just by myself infront of several other students, I feel scared and uncomfortable.

Fortunately, I made a pair of good mates (one of whom has similar college ambitions and I mainly chat to when commuting) as well as seeing some other classmates from my school (they are not bffs but good acquaintances) so if I hang out with them, I feel so much better.

I was an extrovert before.

What about you guys?

I don't feel close to my friends nor do I miss them.

I had a friend who I saw every other week and when she moved away I missed her a lot.

I felt closer to her than any of my other friends as I saw her the most.

Almost all of my other friends are intorverts, one is an ambivert too.

They don't message me much nor do we see each other much so I feel like there's nothing to miss.

I'm almost always the one to intimate contact.

It makes me feel like we're not close at all which makes me feel sad.

During Covid I had a friend who I spoke to every day and we saw each other regularly, I felt really close to him and I felt like I loved him like a brother.

I don't feel like that with any of my current friends at all.

Does anyone else feel the same?

Instead of feeling energised when I am with my friends or get a message from them I feel happy and close to them, when I don't see them or get a message from them I don't feel close to my friends.

Does anyone else feel the same?

Ambiverts aren't born ambiverts, it's developed.

How ambiversion operates:

An ambivert character is adaptable in both social and alone situations. In social settings, they can be outgoing and engaged, enjoying conversations and interactions without needing to dominate. They feel energized at first but can become drained if the interaction becomes too prolonged or intense. While they enjoy being around others, they know when to pull back to avoid feeling overwhelmed. In alone situations, ambiverts appreciate solitude and use it to recharge. They engage in personal activities and feel calm during this time, but after a while, they might begin to crave social interaction again. Their energy levels fluctuate depending on the situation—socializing can initially boost their energy but may later deplete it, while alone time helps them recover and feel balanced. Ambiverts thrive by navigating both worlds, finding a balance between the need for interaction and the need for solitude.

How ambiverts come to be:

Ambiversion develops over time due to a mix of factors including life experiences environment and personality development. People may start off more introverted or extroverted but adapt based on social situations or personal growth. Their environment plays a role as well where family culture or work can push them to balance between social interaction and solitude. As they mature their personality can evolve helping them find a middle ground. Ambiverts are emotionally flexible able to adjust their behavior based on the needs of the moment. While some people might naturally have ambivert tendencies it is often shaped by experiences over time.

Trauma can be behind it:

Trauma can influence ambiverts by affecting their social behavior and energy levels. Some ambiverts may become more introverted after trauma seeking solitude to process emotions while others might lean into extroversion as a way to cope through social interaction. Trauma can cause shifts in how they balance socializing and alone time making them more sensitive to certain situations. Over time healing and self-awareness can help ambiverts regain balance between their introverted and extroverted tendencies as they learn to manage their energy and emotional needs.

Some people in my life think I'm extrovert because I'm talkative and engaging and goes to events etc. Others think I'm introvert because I can go and rest in the middle of a dinner with guests. But truth is I'm in between the two, and that's what defines an ambivert. We exist. We're not more special than an extrovert or introvert nor do we try to be. It's just logic that if you're not identifying with introversion or extroversion an there exist a third option, you would explore if you identify more with the third option. Which I do.

Reminder: This is not a type-me post. Please stay on topic and if debating, debate with respect.

Well according to the test I am 1% more extrovert than introvert so I embraced being an ambivert.

But really, my social battery drains weekly. Like after a week’s work, I just wanna stay in bed for the weekend.. when I’m extroverted, I am friendly with everyone that they keep on inviting me on trips or dinners during weekends..but I just really want to lay in bed, sleep, and save money 😌

So, i don't enjoy being around too many people for too long, it often makes me feel overwhelmed by the noise and left out, I'm not finding anyone interested in the same things as me, leading me to be ignored, because I'm boring to them

Rarely my classmates will ask ne stuff and i answer them, but when i want to tell them something, they're not interested

But whenever i do get home, I'd sometimes play a video game alone or ask my friends to join if i can get myself to text them, i enjoy it more when I'm with someone but when they do join, i sometimes wanna go back to listening to a podcast, music or whatever ASMR script cuddle video i was listening to before

When I'm around people i wanna be in a quiet place, but when I'm home, in my room i wanna be doing that with someone else

(my dad bought a car that we use for off road driving)

Whenever I'm off road driving around on the way to get something like water i wish i was in a group of friends, each one driving his own car and we were all going somewhere i don't know

I'm 18, final grade of high school this year, soon i won't even have classmates anymore but coworkers instead and all of us will have much less free time to talk about this kind of stuff, i don't even have any friends who i talk to everyday other than people i met on discord through one of my classmates and my friend who I've known since 2017 from a PUBG mobile randomly made duo, when we discovered we're both romanians, and a few people i met because my brother or parents know their siblings, cousins or parents

Please explain what's happening, i can't understand most of my own life

For years now, I've been the kind of person who doesn’t really show things—whether it's emotions, empathy, or anything like that. I tend to think a lot before speaking. I keep worrying about how the other person might feel, what they’ll think of me, how I'll come across, and so on.
Because of all this, I end up not expressing myself freely, and as a result, I often don't say anything at all, which makes people think I’m weird. I spend most of my day alone. I do have friends, but they live a bit far away, so I can’t visit them all the time, which leaves me spending most of my day alone. Where I live, I haven't really found anyone I feel like making friends with, so I haven’t made any friends around here.
But I want to change. I want to be someone who can speak up without hesitation when I feel like saying something. I want to do all the things that a happy person does and live more freely. Please help how to get rid of it. I'm an Indian :)

I often feel awkward when I'm shy, especially when someone gives me a compliment. It's a really pleasurable experience for me, and I find myself repeating their words in my head, but I struggle with how to react. It's like throwing a glass of water on a robot - I feel overwhelmed and speechless when someone likes me for the things I do, especially if I trust and value their opinion.

Before Covid, I used to be very extroverted and I never doubted myself or the way I speak. Now after Covid, I struggle with feeling comfortable with speaking to others. I doubt myself so much, even if the person I am talking to is so nice. It’s so upsetting because the stress of talking to others makes me want to be alone to avoid interacting all together. I know if I listened to these thoughts I would be robbing myself of the opportunity to get to know wonderful people and learn from others but I am honestly so scared. I hate feeling so scared to be myself. It doesn’t help that I have been told by a loved one that I talk about useless info sometimes or that my way of speaking sounds like I am trying too hard. He really didn’t mean it in a mean way, but I overthink so much more now. Basically, I would like advice on how to be extroverted or how to care less.

TLDR: Used to be very extroverted, now I am too scared to talk to people. How do I get over caring about what others think?

So I’m going to a party and I’m trying to make new friends, but usually I’m not the one to spark up conversation and I wanna try but I don’t know how

All of my going out friends have settled down and just don't go out anymore. We might go out to dinner sometimes, but I want to go out to bars or clubs. I've tried a few online apps and groups, but the women on their that are close-ish to my age all seem to want to do chill things, like brunch, or outdoorsy things, which. I like to do by myself. It doesn't help that I'm in my late 30s, somewhat large, and, from what I've been told, a bit intimidating (I don't try to be, I'm pretty light hearted). Any recs on where to find going out friends?

Trying to see the difference between introverts, ambiverts, and extroverts

I’m 18, I asked my auntie does she believe in shy extroverts and outgoing introverts, and she responded with well I’m an extroverted introvert, she said she’s shy and that she doesn’t like people like that but she loves to be out and have fun rather than be at home which confuses me, at social events or gatherings you’re more likely than not going to be around other people and isn’t interacting with people basically one of the main points of going out, like if you’re at a party you can’t really have fun if you are the only person there, can any of you help me understand better ?

Are you a quiet person or someone who likes to talk ?

Are you a shy ambivert or an outgoing ambivert ?

When at a social event, are you the type to introduce yourself first or do you wait for others to introduce themselves first ?

Does keeping a smaller friend circle decrease one’s chances of being backstabbed ?

I'm 26m working full-time and taking online classes but I am having trouble making new friends in adulthood. Sure I keep up with friends in my hometown through gaming, but I haven't found any friends in the 2 years I have relocated. I chat with classmates and coworkers but i'm not feeling like the vibes are 'Let's hangout sometime'. Is it a chemistry thing? Is it me and I should initiate hangouts more? It just seems like it was easier to make friends in HS. Any suggestions would be helpful.

When I was younger, I used to be an introvert. Keeping to myself and doing things on my own, even though I had friends at school, I liked being the quiet girl.

I think I craved attention to be honest and have people come to me to say hi. I don't want them to feel sorry about me being quiet but to ask why I am alone. I used to say that I like to write and draw it makes me feel at ease. Once people get to know me, then I open up.

I, at one point, felt like a loner back then but now as an adult, I am in some ways. I think it's a complex. I needed to learn how to love myself despite my unhealthy mental attitude and physical body. I am a big girl but I have a big heart when I share what I love to do, I come out as a true ambivert.

Now, I excel in those qualities and have come to love who I am inside and out. People see my niceness and outgoing personality once they get to know me and I am more upfront on sharing my story and life. It's not all bells and whistles but because I have friends and strangers who embrace my unique personality, I work with what I know and do.

I see both sides, like the half glass full and half empty. I sympathize and love. I emanate to others personalities and I still like being by myself. There's a fine line but I enjoy being an ambivert. There's nothing wrong with that. Try it and maybe you'll like it too!

To give a brief prefatory statement, I have been burnt and taken advantage of people who were supposed to be close to me e.g friends and family. I am looking to metamorphose my approach to life in regards to people. Although I have an introverted pensive side, I have a propensity and penchant for extroversion. I.e I have tended to be far too open and trusting and only see the good in people. This is a drastically naive approach in life. To be candid, trauma has turned me from a mostly bubbly extroverted person to a near cynical misanthrope. To be concise and to the point, I want to filter people out, attract quality people and only allow a few good people in my circle and detect red flags early on. In short, I would like some advice on building trust gradually and not sharing to much even when I really want to. I cannot for the life of me help it. But I think I’m doing a lot better comparatively. Please I would really like some advice.

I just read this article, https://geediting.com/people-who-are-genuinely-difficult-to-be-around-often-exhibit-these-8-behaviors-without-realizing-it/, and I recognised everything. This can mean lots of things, but I've found other stuff that might help. Hug loved ones, eat together, make more eye contact in conversations, and pet the pet when facing busy times.

The issue would be that people like us are unlikely to do all this. It's like when a therapist says that for a certain treatment you need support from family and friends, you need sports, and keep busy. Everything that some/most of us dread. So how do you do that?

So my weekend means one or two bags of junkfood, think Lay's chips or something like that. I sit in my apartment, and if I don't have any things to go to, I stay inside. Usually I have nothing that would make me go outside, do I just enjoy some stuff on tv, while sitting in a chair or on the couch. But I'm a bit overweight. I'm 177, more or less, and a little over 80 kg. I've had a depression that was mainly solved with anti depressants, but they make your stomach larger, and you eat more. So I'm looking to quit old habits, but what brings an introvert/ambivert/some 31 year old with autism (7 on a scale of 1 to Rain Man) into the healthier lifestyle?

Thanks in advance.