I’ve been sharing on multiple platforms I’ve even told myself I’ll become a scientist to help myself if these doctors fail me. I suffer from bv for two years it began as odor discharge and burning pee I used metro it would go away until it wouldn’t work no more. No I live with it. And the only thing I feel is odor and horrible discharge my underwear is always soaked with milky discharge I don’t know what else to do. I’ve done so much research on this. I just want my life back I want to feel like a woman again. I’m scared no man will ever love me. I’m 20 years old this mainly happens to women with menopause . I don’t get what I did to deserve this but I’m getting tired of living with this. I think I might just end it. Plz anyone does anyone have someone I can go to that will listen to me and prescribe me stronger antibiotics

Hi so I’m not sure if this is the most appropriate group for this kind of post but I searched up similar posts and they were under this. Also, sry in advance that this is terribly written and rushed, I’m just in exam period. I am 21F and this friend is 21M. We have been friends since about 2017 from HS. Also my friend is gay. I am getting really frustrated because I have told this friend multiple times that I do not appreciate insults/sarcastic jokes about my appearance or intellect or really anything to do with me emotionally/physically. I think they think if they make it into a joke it somehow makes it okay to say?? Ik that they have their own insecurities, and they keep making somewhat frequent comments to put me down.

They defs have an eq even though they don’t act like it towards me, because they talk about certain things other ppl would respond to and how they would come off eg. Typing a text & trying to accommodate another person w/o sounding inconsiderate. I know for a fact they realise these comments are offensive. Idk what to do since I have told him b4 that I want him to stop making comments cause it actually offends me, but they still do it. A few examples include making fun of my hair, making a joke saying ‘oh no you’re dumb you wouldn’t know that actually’ when asking me about smth, to which I responded ‘why would you call me dumb, you’re the one asking me so you must be then’ out of straight defence and shock (this was literally out of no where I still do not understand it and have left him on delivered since it happened yesterday because it was so rude for no reason) and then them saying they got better results in HS and in uni. These are vague and lack context because I’m paranoid about being too specific sorry.

Others include making fun of what I wear everyday and just generally how I look (Also I don’t dress up a lot and IDC that’s just how I am, I’m personally happy w how I look w/o makeup and not rly being put together. Also was in the chemist the other day and they made a joke about drugstore makeup and I said ‘I wear it there’s nothing wrong with it’, w them responding ‘yeah I know’ in a sarcastic way.

There’s a lot more, these are just some recent ones, (within last week). There are also other situations that I still think about that are rly not okay, but if anyone has any advice for now it would be great. I’m probably moving states soon as well, unrelated but for a job so will be seeing less of them anyway. I have spoken to my mum about this and she understands the comments but she knows how much I value our friendship. We share a very similar sense of humour and and we get along very well for the most part. They r the friend that I hang out the most w (rn). She defends him, telling me she understands the comments are offensive, but that he is just like that and just to tell him that they are so. And also that our friendship is worth more than that, and just to see past and try not to read into the comments since he is insecure himself.

Yeah. He believes that it's easy not to suffer from it because "all they need to do" is realize that it is "nothing real".

I'm speechless. Thank you for saving the world!!!! No woman has to suffer anymore!!!

Like most people I have my sexual preferences. But nothing really extreme.

I’m 33.

When I was coming of age, the most extreme stuff was spankings, things like that.

None of the girls I was ever involved with in my teenage years or even into my mid 20s were into anything too far “off the beaten path.”

They weren’t “vanilla” but it also wasn’t like 365 Days, either.

Sites like Fetlife existed of course, but they were a niche.

But in recent years it seems not only has extreme BDSM stuff become prevalent especially in porn, but it’s become normalised - almost a sense of social pressure. Where if you’re not a kinkster, you’re a prude.

But the porn and sexual culture of today dehumanizes women and sexualizes them beyond anything I remember seeing growing up.

And it seems to have taken root with women’s own selves too. I’ve met women who want to be spit on. Who want to be chased with a knife, quite literally. And that turns me off. It disturbs me. And then it makes me feel like a prude. Like I’m some male nun or something or I’M the weirdo for just liking typical stuff.

It feels like porn has made sexuality become a race, to “who can be the most kinky”.

Even something like 365 Days being a mainstream movie that was watched by millions says something. You could say it’s liberalising, sure. But there are downsides to everything, too.

And going back to the porn of today, it creates really unhealthy expectations on the part of young men and also insecurities in them,

BUT it also creates insecurities and in the minds of young women, who feel they have to act such and such way, or look such and such way to be appealing.

I just feel it’s getting to an extreme point that is unhealthy for both women and men, degrading for both, dehumanizing to women, and it along with hookup culture is having a bad effect on relationships and society.

I had flown into a city for work. It was late, I was exhausted and ended up going in the wrong direction to the taxi rank, so I turned around. I saw a guy a few feet away from me do the same thing. I noted it but he seemed like he was doing his own thing and never looked at me or my general direction.

I get to a taxi and just as I was about to hop in, the same guy comes up to the car and signals to the driver that he's going to hop in aswell. He was so smooth about it. Nevermind the 15+ taxis behind this one. I realise he would have had to be walking closely behind me to come up so quickly.

Again, he never makes eye contact with me. It's like I'm not even there. The taxi driver shuts it down and tells him he can take the next one. He does.

What was his deal? Maybe I'm overthinking things but it was unnerving. It was almost like he was delibrately not acknowledging my presence so I wouldn't feel threatened.

Left completely speechless about these words of a court-determined rapist.

Please get out and vote (for those who this applies to), and try to encourage others to do so also if you can.

The short of it is: I was in a grocery store and a guy came up to me and started talking, asked if I had a boyfriend (I said no and I'm not looking for one currently), asked if we could still be friends, listed some hobbies/interests, then asked for my number. He was pretty respectful and it didn't feel that creepy, but I have a lot of questions in my brain right now.

The longer version (my memory is terrible so hopefully I got it all accurately haha): So, at first I saw this guy looking like he was about to go to the section of the aisle I was on, then realized I was looking at it, and it looked like he turned around to go get something else. I didn't think much of it until he came up to me (well, I'm not 100% sure it was the same guy but I'm pretty sure) at another aisle and said, from across the aisle, that I looked like an employee of the store and he was about to ask for help or whatever. I gave a friendly response like 'oh haha yeah I'm still in my work uniform from another job' and he walked over and wanted to shake hands with me (!!?? interesting...). Then he asked me if I have a boyfriend (ohhhhhh straight to it huh?!) and I said no and I'm not looking for one currently (which is mostly true). And then he basically said, well, we could still be friends, right? I had no idea how to respond and it felt rude to say no so I said 'sure'. He proceeded to list a couple of his hobbies/interests in a very soft spoken voice - in face, he spoke so quietly that all I made out was that he likes to skate (and possibly, that he is a car salesperson). And then he asked for my number (which...I'm perfectly able of saying no to, but for some reason I said yes), texted me his name, and then he left in a respectful manner. I have to wonder if he asks a lot of people for their number or if there was something about me that caught his eye. Was this something he tries to do often, or did it take some courage for him to come up to me? Did he have some hidden motive?

Weirdly, although I feel like this is something that some people would call unsafe (stranger danger!) ...for whatever reason, I felt... more energized than odd? Maybe deep inside I'm just desperate for any sort of human connection because I left all my friends behind about a year ago when I moved from the state where I had friends, and they're hundreds of miles away. I spend a lot of time with family so I don't feel lonely but like... the idea of a friend sounds nice. I'd be a lot more interested in a female friend, though - it feels awkward/unsafe being friends with even the most friendly guys. Also though, if someone is interested in me, it makes me more interested in them. I feel curious. I just have no idea what his intentions are, though....

So - do you think this was this an odd/unusual occurrence or was it normal? Stranger danger? Good intentions? What should I do if he texts me now that I have his number - should I respond if I want to, or nah? I feel like I should also mention I am on the autism spectrum so I have less awareness and sense about these things and I'm very cautious...but I'm also ADHD so my brain is also like, 'oooh shiny, a new type of human interaction! Let's find out more!' or something...idk... and maybe I'll wake up tomorrow like, 'huh well...interesting. that happened. so anyway...' or maybe I'll keep thinking about it. I don't know.

Why is it when a women voices her insecurities, there are ALWAYS men in the comments saying "men don't care about that" , "men don't even notice those things" Etc, Like who asked?? Like why do men always have to insert themselvs in the convo... Like i don't know thats just something I notices since I was 13 and it always made me give a side eye, cause like who asked them? a womens insecurities can't even be hers without a man making it about himself.

for example a girl could've said she doesn't like her stretch marks and then a man would be like "Men don't care about that," or "men don't notice that." like who asked uuuuuuuu 😭😭😭

ok bye.

edit: whyyy is there so many mennnnn 😭💀

It gets pretty annoying for me because I know the new woman I'm talking to is beautiful and just makes me already feel bad about a choice that I had to make. I can just not say anything but I'm a social person and usually like talking about my life and theirs. My guy friends react very different and usually just agree with me that the woman is good looking or make jokes complimenting me.

Recently I have felt suffocated by the expectations of adult womanhood. It’s exhausting and restrictive living up to the standard of “having your shit together”. I’m sure I am not the only one feeling this way, especially right now.

I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions about ways to handle the pressure to live your life in a specific, restrained way or even just how to not feel responsible for other people’s opinions of you.

Or any other weird, toxic relationship theories Tiktokers keep pushing. I've been in two long-term relationships that have lasted 4 years and no, I am not in love with any of my exes. They are also not in love with me still. We all moved on and are in love with someone new. There is no use in looking back at a relationship that didn't work out. I don't want any of my ex boyfriends to still be in love with me and I alao don't know any men that I am friends with who are still in love with their long-term exes either.

I hate this new trend of making people, especially young women, insecure in their relationships. If your partner does this or doesn't do this, they don't love you. Like, relationships are not that simple. Maybe your partner can't buy you this or that because they don't have the financial stability to do it? Maybe they don't post you on their social media accounts because they like to keep their relationships private?

Please don't buy into weird relationship advice from Tiktok. Even if two people were together for many, many years, life happens. Things don't always work out, and sometimes you can fall out of love and easily move on.

Maybe the people posting these "theories" have very little life experience, but even in my early 20's, I never had or thought about any of these insecurities until I saw them on my reels.

Hi everyone, I'm a 19-year-old female, and I've been experiencing some irregularity with my periods this month. Typically, my cycle is around 28-30 days, but this month I got my period after just 21 days, meaning I've had two periods in one month. I haven't noticed any major changes in my lifestyle or stress levels, so I'm not sure what's causing it.Is this kind of irregularity normal, or should I be concerned? I'd appreciate any insights or similar experiences you might have.

so i'm a 26F and i've yet to have penetrative sex. no reason in particular necessarily, just hasn't ever been the right circumstances. i'm now thanking fucking god that i never did.

i went to the gynecologist yesterday for my annual visit. for context, i haven't been to see her in person since 2021 because of various reasons, so i have still never had a pap smear (until yesterday). i likely would have done it years ago but since i didn't see her, it didn't happen. she asked if i'd like to just get it out of the way this time and i said yes - mainly because i've had this running joke with my girl friends that i'm convinced i won't ever be able to have sex because nothing will fit inside me. i've tried using tampons a couple times in the past but it just really never worked, it was way too uncomfortable and i never wound up putting them all the way in. i've tried using sex toys, and same thing. always just extremely uncomfortable. i just chalked that up to being really tight and inexperienced and never thought too much about it.

so i say yes to the pap smear and right off the bat it is not going well. the speculum wouldn't fully go in so she just started with a finger and Holy Hell when i tell you we both had the same reaction at the same time when she got far enough in, i swear i saw the light for a second. it was so fucking uncomfortable and i had a second where i was like "damn i guess this is just what this is supposed to feel like the first few times" but then i saw her face and realized that i was experiencing an abnormal amount of discomfort.

she starts to say that basically my hymen is really thick and that, in fact, nothing will fit inside me without causing an insurmountable amount of pain. by this point i feel myself about to faint and wind up almost fully losing consciousness and throwing up while i'm sat naked in the chair as my body's reaction to how fucking awful the sensation was. i actually cannot fucking imagine what would have happened if i tried to have penetrative sex before learning this. i think i would have easily vomited everywhere and most likely fainted if anything larger went in for any longer amount of time. probably would have been a funny story one day after a couple decades of therapy. anyway, the doctor starts telling me about how simple and easy and safe the surgery would be to fix this, and how afterward i could use tampons and have sex freely and without issue or threat of puking.

we didn't get a chance to talk about it any more than that because by then i was just not with it anymore, so i have a telehealth appointment set up with her for 3 weeks from now. one of the things i'm still unsure of is what the situation actually is with my hymen. i was looking it up and know that there are things like septate hymen, microperforate, etc., but idk what mine would be classified as.

anyway, i've just been kind of going up and down the emotional rollercoaster since yesterday with this new information. it really confirms a lot of my suspicions and affirms my experiences and my concerns which does feel like a huge relief that i know what's going on, but at the same time i feel a bit in shock that there is actually something that is physically preventing me from having any comfortable experience. i also feel really fucking excited about the prospect of this surgery knowing that i could feel so much more free on the other side of it, but then at the same time i'm feeling that rational bit of dread that comes with learning you have to be sedated while someone takes scissors to your vagina.

i'm mainly looking to talk to anyone else who has experienced this, all of my friends and my mom were shocked when i told them about it so i'm really curious about other's experiences. it's just a bit of a weird pill to swallow that i'm being medically advised not to have sex until i get surgery.

all in all, a weird fucking trip to the gyno.

I ordered some pills this last week. I’m going to start the first round Friday , second round Saturday.

Just looking for any advice or anything that was helpful for you , or what you wish you had on hand or would have done differently

So can I just say I vibe with y'all SO MUCH. and like ik a few of us here have got to be addicted to vapes/cigs and are looking to quit! Do any of you wanna be quit buddies? We could hold each other accountable and rant! (ik i need to rant so bad).

I am struggling. My best friend and I met in 2018 working at a business together and we ran it entirely on our own so decided we would start a dream of opening our own. We spent years building this dream together and getting close. We started sleeping together and running the business together. I stupidly took a loan out for him (which he has always paid and continues to pay) but I got nothing in writing as far as the business went so he is the only owner on paper (I know classic mistake, trusting a friend) and once we fully launched he hired an assistant who he basically started flirting with in front of me all the time. It was hard as we weren’t technically in a relationship and didn’t want anyone to know. He was treating me like shit all year flirting with her, it was terrible for my mental health and eventually I had to quit both the business and the friendship. I literally made him and our business everything. He was my only friend.

Now I’m 2 months from everything falling apart on me and I don’t know how to move forward. How to heal. What to do. I’ve bought books to help me through. I’ve been binging shows and crying and bed rotting. I had another main job so I’m financially going to be fine, I was barely making money on this new business. Idk how to forgive myself for letting myself be treated so poorly for so long. I was doing everything he asked of me trying so hard to show him how great I am and how he should choose me and honor our commitments and he basically just said we could be friends and still hang out and work on other business ventures together but it seems it’s just sex he wants and I don’t trust him to try and do any business with him. I know I need to walk away entirely but like what do I do. How do I do this?

In 2016 I ended my relationship with my narcissistic parent and also divorced my abusive husband so I’ve cut people out and moved forward but idk how I did it or how to do it again. I ended those relationships angry and it took a lot of work to end them but emotionally I felt so free and happy to put them behind me. This one I’m leaving deeply sad and wishing he would choose me. Im conscious of the fact that if I keep meeting up with him for it to end with sex I’m just prolonging my pain and being used by him. I guess I’m using him too clinging to what I thought we were and had. I’m 35 and I feel like I’m starting entirely over. It hurts. I hate it and it sucks. Can I get some mom/friend/gentle love and advice from this community please? Obviously no loans for others, everything in writing going forward if I ever did anything like that again, but as far as how to navigate the path ahead, what do I do. How do I prevent this from happening again?

Let me talk about the swing state that isn't making nearly enough front page news.

In the last presidential election, barely 50% of eligible voters bothered to cast a vote in Texas. Current polls for Texas are showing 51% Trump to 44% Harris. Those polls are famously inaccurate, which means it could be much closer than that. Women suddenly showing up in droves would be more than enough to turn the tide.

This article got posted at least twice in this sub today, where a woman died of a miscarriage due to restrictive abortion laws. That's more than enough reason for Texas women to be furious! That could be you. Or it could be your wife, or your

Don't forget the significant Puerto Rican population in Texas, who suddenly have reason to be angry at the Trump campaign.

And here's the real kicker: With 40 electoral votes, it would all but win the election for Harris. Trump would have to win literally every other swing state to make up for the loss of Texas.

The winning move is so close to our grasp! If you live in Texas, or even know anybody there, talk to them. Convince them to register and cast their vote. All we have to do is simply show up to the polls like we give a shit, and victory will be damn near certain!

https://www.instagram.com/p/DBuaCQCyatg/?igsh=N2dsazAwYmprZnF3

Edit: Taliban bans women from hearing other women’s voices

Nothing spectacular about this post. Just an amused observation. I’ll be the first to step up and admit that I’m incredibly lucky in the significant other department. I tell him all the time how I’m not letting him go!!! Anyways. He made an absolutely succulent chicken and dumplings for supper tonight while I built a fire outside, and our little one played in the dirt. Now, he’s inside getting the feral child in the shower while I’m eating a bowl of chicken and dumplings outside and watching the fire. (It’s a delicious supper by the way, perfect for a fall night and a fire!)

A new hire started in April this year and by May I had to check him regarding his harassment. He believes he is an empath and told me on multiple occasions that he could sense me, two floors away, and knew the thoughts I was having. Unsurprisingly his abilities did not extend to men.

I didn't want to put him on blast so I sent him an email describing the time and dates of his behavior and requesting he stop. If he didn't that email would have gone straight to HR.

He stopped the outright obnoxious stuff but without fail a few times a week would complain that I was not smiling for him.

Today... I was already on edge after reading multiple stories of women dying and almost dying due to Republican's total abortion bans... and when he told me I needed to be smiling I finally snapped at him in person, in front of other coworkers.

I told him that it is 2024, you don't go around telling women to smile. They don't need to smile for you. I asked him how often he tells men to smile.

He was dumbstruck. I didn't let him him reply and left with the door slamming shut behind me. Super dramatic and super satisfying honestly.

My coworker who works alongside him told me that the man spent the rest of the shift throwing slurs and lamenting that people always do this to him when he tries to talk. As if I did something to him.

I'm worried about how tomorrow will go. He's a bit of a loose cannon... but for now, today, I feel like I took a smidge of agency back.

I’ve got the costume all worked out, but I want a couple slogans to use that get laughs or get people thinking.

(Background, I work for an organization that has been working to address this problem, so my coworkers will love this.)

Would you be weirded out to see your partners Facebook marketplace history creeping women's apparel for them in their outfits/profiles?

Like "ripped jeans" "maid costume" "vintage shorts"

I don't think he even searches he just browses for women's clothing items he likes and to see it on them.

I know it's natural to be attracted to others but I feel like it's too close when it's regular people trying to sell their clothing items ????

He knows I'm uncomfortable with social media being a source for porn use.

I want to talk to him but do not want to shame him etc... It's weird to me to sit in the other room when I'm home and browse that or when I'm sleeping at 2am.

We were were discussing Air Crash Investigation and he said if he gets on a plane and see there is a female pilot he would disembark the plane immediately and never go back on even if it means that he has to catch a later flight, possibly lose money and cause a big hassel for everyone else. He doesn't trust female pilots as piloting should be the man's job according to him. He actually thinks there must be something wrong with the airline if they are hiring female pilots. I have also seen several people making snarky and derogatory comments when they see a female pilot involved in the episodes of air crash investigation, even some blaming the accident happening simply because there was a female pilot even though it wasn't pilot error that caused the accident or she wasn't the one flying the plane. Some of them are trolls I am sure but there are people who genuinely think this way.

Edit: I also want to add he doesn't care if the particular pilot is the captain, first officer, copilot, part of the relief crew or not even flying that leg. If he sees or hear a women in the cockpit who is not a flight attendant, air marshall or mechanic I guess, he would try to leave regardless of the consquences.

As I've gotten older, it's become more of a problem. When I first noticed it would happen, I didn't think anything of it, and it really didn't bother me much. I'm 23 and I've never been pregnant, I'm not currently pregnant or anything like that.

Anyways, last year I noticed when I would get cold, my boobs would hurt so bad. Like, my nipples hurt, my boobs hurt, it feels like a lighter is right on my nipple. I'd wear layers, I'd avoid foods that would make me cold, and nothing really helped until my entire body was warm again. If a cold gust of wind would hit me, I was done for.

It's not that cold where I am right now. It's colder in the morning and later in the afternoon, but nothing crazy. Light jacket weather. My husband and I went out for ice cream, and I got a little chilly. Halfway through eating, my boobs are killing me. I'm not even that cold, but I'm hugging a heating pad to my chest to try and kill some of the discomfort. What is with this?? Does anyone else experience this? I don't want to go too into detail, but I don't know if this is normal, something other people experience or what. I'm tempted to go buy a bulk box of hot hands and shove them in my bra.

Im 30F and I was seeing a 34M for 2 months. Things were great, we met many times, enjoyed each others company. I finally let my guard down, and poof! He ghosted me. To gain clarity, I texted him quite a few times, which now on reflection I find quite embarrassing. Im hurting a bit because I stooped quite low to sort of beg a man for attention. I’m a bit upset with myself because Average men like him can make someone like me , feel like..nothing. Someone so easy to get rid of, someone they can so easily forget. I’ve lost a bit of respect for myself. All I wanted to do was care for him and be there for him, but after he ghosted me, it just comes across as desperate. I don’t know how to get over this.

2 times in the past month, I’ve said something political and someone said something along the lines of, “I could tell you’re liberal, liberal women are ugly.”

Wtf. The way I look is completely irrelevant. But it isn’t to them. To them, my life, and therefore opinion, doesn’t matter because I’m ugly. To them, I’m doing something morally wrong. Because how dare I have the audacity to be a woman who isn’t nice to look at.

My mom watches Fox News all the time and they say the same on there. They always bring in gorgeous conservative women and make sure to mention how conservative women are hot and beautiful and liberal women look like ogres.

And it sucks that I can’t even prove them wrong.

I don't want to share exact details, but I feel the need to vent in a safe place. I hired someone to do work on my house and he tried to trick/manipulate me into going out with him/sex in exchange for free work. I'm gay, so I don't have a lot of experience with men, plus I'm autistic and didn't recognize his true intentions at first. He came across as a polite, hardworking young man.

He saw me in person once very briefly, and I'm not conventionally attractive. I'm old enough to be his mother and he didn't know anything about me or my personality. Our only communication was over text and consisted of me asking him when he was coming over to do scheduled work. No banter, nothing. Plus, I was a CUSTOMER.

I was really scared at first because I didn't know how he would react when I fired his ass. But I think things will be ok.

WHY TF do some men act like this? I mean, if you want sex, there are apps for that. There are plenty of women who are looking for hookups and casual encounters, so why not seek out a like-minded person? Why would you go after a freaking customer 20 years older than you who shows zero interest and try to manipulate her? It's so gross being objectified like that.