I earn more, I clean more, I cook more, I care for our dogs entirely alone, I do the shopping, I do the laundry, I do the lawns, I do the vacuuming, I pay the bills, I make his coffee every morning.

But I don't give him blowjobs, and I don't initiate sex, and I work a desk job while he works manual labour. And therefore I am not performing the duties of my sex to a high enough standard.

I don't have a penis, so no-one sees my work or contributions as worthwhile.

I'm so tired.

Been married for 3 years and I was going thru the Amazon orders over the years. idk why tbh. I’m not having the best day and I’ve been endlessly scrolling.

Idk what I was looking to find but I guess I found it - before my husband and I met he bought a fleshlight off of Amazon. Idk why I’m so grossed out lol I think it’s the kind of toy that seems icky to me. I know everyone has sexual needs Im just surprised

How do we all feel about filming consent laws? On one hand I like two party consent because it better protects innocent people from being filmed, but on the other hand I feel one party consent is important in documenting harassment. Which one do conservatives hate? Will they try to make it easier to creepshot girls and women?

I was scrolling through another sub about a tv show and I recognised a user with a memorable username. I remembered the user commenting about a specific actress on other posts a few times, usually about how pretty she is, and I was curious as to why I’ve only ever seen them make comments like that and nothing else, so I clicked on their profile. Lo and behold, it was NSFW, the user is a guy, and other than that tv show sub, posts only on pervy subs. They were posting constantly about the actress I saw them mentioning, and on roleplay subs requesting people to roleplay as her.

I’m well aware of the nsfw subs on here, but I hadn’t ever looked at them properly before. I’m genuinely shocked by some of the stuff there - how is it even allowed? The way people (usually guys, I’m sure) post in them is so disturbing. I saw so many describing which celebrities they want to “breed” with, or how “breedable” specific women are. Then there are the various subs for different female celebrities’ body parts, especially the really famous ones. And don’t get me started on the “countdown til [actress] is 18” subreddits.

I also hate how these nsfw subs tag people’s boobs as “A cup” etc. purely based on size. Thanks, but that isn’t how bra sizing works, so it’d be great if you didn’t misrepresent it for your own disgusting benefit, and reduce the value of people on these subs to one single letter.

There were also subs this user commented in where they would obsess over one glimpse of a woman’s body, like zooming in on a nip slip, editing so you can see through a transparent piece of clothing etc.

I’m just so tired of being a woman. Sometimes I just want to wear a tarp and a mask because it feels like you’ll always be sexualised as long as you’re visible. I can’t think of anything worse than being a celebrity. The amount of members in these subs is so alarming, and I honestly feel so depressed that this is how society works, even if it isn’t everyone

For those with mental blocks or insecurities or a whole host of other reasons making it hard/uncomfortable receiving pleasure, how did you get over it?

I’m really self-conscious so it’s hard to be in the moment and just enjoy what’s going on when the attention is on me. I feel selfish, bad for my partner, unattractive, and exposed and I just can’t enjoy it. I want to get over this but I don’t know how

Thanks in advance

I just want to help out in the kitchen, complete my household chores, and go to work.

I know this is mean but these holidays are testing with family members.

I feel bad for being antisocial.

Some days I just want to be left alone . I am annoyed by singing, people's commentary on food

It can be anything to anyone.

I was reading an article a few days ago that reminded me of a post here earlier on how we are being desensitized. Everyday we hear a new story on how women are being brutalized, raped and murdered by men. The desensitization and dehumanization pushed today on women in our society is very very real.

Basically the article is about the methods used by extremist terrorist groups throughout history like the nazis as a prerequisite to implement mass violence, genocide, stripping of freedom etc. Aka "The 5 Ds of incitement".

DEMONIZATION- a figure with a platform targets a person or group to be blamed for real or imagined ills

DEHUMANIZATION- dehumanization is used by perpetrators to evoke feelings of loathing, contempt, and revulsion

DELEGITIMIZATION/DISINFORMATION- denying the existence of history of the other group, accusing the target of criminal acts. Presenting false or partial information with the intent to malign.

DESENSITIZATION- violent language and imagery is used in discussion of the target, and while no direct calls to use violence are issued, violent speech becomes and accepted part of discourse

DENIAL- when violence occurs, the stochastic terrorist denies a responsibility, pointing to their lack of direct involvement or instruction.

https://publichealthreviews.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40985-018-0106-7

I feel like the level of hate speech directed at women today online is something we’ve never seen before. And when confronted, we’re either victim blamed for the violence that happens to us, or we get “not all men, stop generalizing all men” and it all gets completely dismissed. The parallels in the article and the way women are treated today are scary, is it just me or are we seeing these things unfold before our eyes?

I feel I’m the red flag when it comes to my dating life. I’m involved with this guy, he’s lovely, treats me well. Conversations flows so easily between us. He calls me when he says he would, texts me when he says he would, sex is good. He is amazing in the bedroom yet something is missing and I can’t understand what it is!..I still find myself fantasising and thinking all day about the the guy who doesn’t want me. What’s wrong with me? That’s why I think I am the red flag because I have a green flag guy who’s all into me and all I want is that red flag man. WTF!

For context I'm a GNC person, I dress in a way men traditionally do, I have a lot of masculine hobbies, hell I even do the traditionally manly thing of liking women. I've always been this way and still am. I quite like existing this way as it feels like me, but for some reason I feel this weird pressure as I get older. Sometimes I have this weird fleeting thought that questions if all the stuff that people said about men and women as a kid was correct and if I'm somehow living life wrong. If people treat me like I'm the wrong one because I am wrong. In those moments I have to remind myself that I'm just existing as myself. I also often weirdly dont like being reminded I was born a woman and told about ways it should matter even if it's just safety stuff?? I don't really perceive that part of myself and feel as though its as non importance and often find myself fantasizing about a world where others do the same. I'm a bit confused as to why I feel this way because I felt zero pressure to comply as a kid despite the adults around me being marginally more sexist. I remember being told in childhood that a man has to take my last name or I'm not worth marrying, being banned from cutting my hair, discussing plans to have kids before understanding what that meant because that felt like the expectation, being forced into more dresses despite not wanting to, being told smugly id wear makeup once I got older, and all sorts of other stuff both major and minor I cannot remember. And yet I resisted,but I felt no pressure?? Nowadays people for the most part leave me alone, apart from the minor homophobia from time to time, so why do I feel it now?? Is it because I have enough life experience to understand the implications around me??

This isn't a man-hating post. I am a 39yo active, successful, financially stable woman with no children, no debt, a home, a great career, highly educated, and really wanting to find love.

I know I have so much love to give. I know I don't NEED a man. I know I should feel good on my own. But it is lonely and having someone to talk to and cuddle with and be intimate with and share details of your day with and build a life with sounds so....lovely. To be unconditionally loved and accepted by someone.

Why is it so hard to find this? I can find a boyfriend with no problem, but it is so difficult to find a responsible, financially stable man with friends and hobbies who is emotionally available and who wants to give love and respect to the woman he chooses.

Why is this so hard? After yet another breakup, my heart is so broken and I am just sad and lonely and I don't know if this is what I can expect forever.

Hi! So as the title said I've been having a hell of a time. My periods have always been super uncomfortable. Heavy and long (they used to be 10 twice a month) and I vet every symptom known to man too. They've been like this since I first got them when I was ten. When I was 16 I started birth control. I did that for like 4 years and it was awful I would try a new one and in like 6 months it won't do anything or make me go mental. The latest birth control I tried was the depo shot. I took 2 and then I got my period for six months. I'm still on it actually. My doctors have refused a hysterectomy saying I'm too young and all but is there anything else?? I don't want to try other birth control things I'm scared and IUD would just do the same thing and I'm desperate to get my period to stop

More info: I have a doctor a gynecologist seeing me, but after doing a bunch of test and a ultrasound they just told me everything is normal so they don't know what could be causing it. They've basically told to me to wait it out and hope my symptoms get better. That was 2 months ago. I've been pushing back on them but they keep telling me to be patient and not to jump to drastic measures. But I have been patient it's been 6 months of this and it hasn't stopped or gotten better! I'm worried now it will magically stop and the doctor will not do anything about finding out WHY it happened and what else to do.

So I've been a long time lurker on reddit in general but these past few days a story has circulated in Germany that definitely belongs on this sub. It shows how deeply misogyny is still rooted in some traditions until this day. (I apologise for any mistakes, I'm not a native speaker)

What happened? A few days ago the North German public prodcaster ndr and channel strg_f that belongs to German State media published research on a local tradition on the 5000 inhabitant island of Borkum. While small the Northern German islands are highly touristic. I don't think I know anyone who has never been to one of them before.

https://youtu.be/qYmUBjgEPXU?feature=shared

The fest of Klaasohm is celebrated yearly on December fifth. To break it down: it basically involves men who are members of a regional club dressing up in costumes of the Klaasohm and another creature. The people walk through the streets. There's also ritualistic "wrestling like" fights. The problematic aspect is that after the Klaasohms hunt the women of the island through the streets and then beat them up with cow horns. Yes, you read that right. The documentary states that the beatings are so bad, that some women aren't able to sit for days. Some of the women like the thrill of the tradition and don't mind it, but there's no difference between women willing to participate and those who are unwilling. There are reports of women being held by bystanders, as they receive the beating. The festivities have their origins in the time the sailors returned from whaling. While the men were at sea, the women ran the island. And the beatings are to take back control from them.

All through the documentary the reporters struggle to find interview partners. Island natives don't want to talk to outsiders about the fest, the major, the police and the equal opportunities officer refuse to give statements. Those who are willing to be interviewed stay anonymous. The little footage of the fest itself, that is available is mostly being filmed in secret.

It is important to note that the beatings are obviously not only illegal but they a) are carried out by a group and b) are done with a weapon, that means that by German law the police has to persecute them even without a criminal report. This has never happened.

The documentary went somewhat viral. And already had consequences. Several natives or former natives of the island have posted their experiences on social media. Apparently there's also a childrens version of the fest a few days earlier. Little boys hunt little girls(!) and beat them up. A woman on instagram reported that one girl from town was pulled from her bike to be beaten.

The island issued a statement that after several cancellations for the holiday season and a huge shitstorm the beatings will be removed from the celebrations. The whole thing is a nonpology and I will post a translation in the comments.

Hi guys, i'm really sorry if theres spelling mistakes in advance bc im really stressed out rn and typing this form my phone, but I was raped a while ago by one of my family friends, i dont want to go into it because it's still very painful to think about it, and today i found out i am 12 weeks pregnant, after i was throwing up and all for the past week, and my friend bought me a pregnancy test. i did not tell anyone because my parents are really strict christians, like the evangelical types and they would probably tell everyone and shame me for it.

Im 15 and Im a sophomore in south dakota, I need to get an abortion but I saw it is banned for no exceptions at all. I cant travel out of state at all because I don't have my driving permit, and I cannot tell my parents because even if i did, theu would not allow me to have an abortion. I thought about asking my friends to drive me but it would be a whole day out of school and my parents would find out, even if I went on a weekend they would know. I can't even say I'm going out with friends and then get someone to drive me to like Minnesota, because i'm not allowed to be out more than ~4 hours.

Im an honors student at school and I'm so scared this is going to mess up my life. I dont think I am ready to be pregnant and go thru labor I am so so scared. Because if I give birth to the baby, they will make me keep it and raise it and I dont want to do that I want to live my life normally I am honestly terrified. Please help what can I do? I really really need to get an abortion I dont think I can give birth to his baby as well I feel so dirty and hopeless I've been crying for the past hour

Come home yesterday after a long day to a beautiful poinsetta and xmas chocolates, and my husband had found the missing xmas lights and put them up in the window.

This was all without any prompt from me. The good ones are out there ladies, snag 'em if you find 'em and lock that sh-t down.

My OBGYN wants me to try pelvic floor physical therapy. She thinks my muscles are too tight and that’s why I have such a hard time with exams. It has gotten to the point where she has to give me medication to calm me down before she can even attempt anything but even then it still hurts. I also hold my pee for 12+ hrs bc of work and she thinks that is contributing to my pain. I want to be able to use tampons and have sex in the future.

For those of you that have gone, what was your experience like? I’m obviously afraid of the internal exam part. Did it help? Was it awkward? Did it hurt?

Any insight would be appreciated!

Stop Project 2025 Comic

This still explains what Project 2025 is about and it was done to help get out the vote. It can still be helpful now though to know what is coming.

Yesterday I asked if we are going to put the Christmas tree up. My daughters (18 & 16) were both busy with various things, and husband said let’s do it tomorrow. After lunch today, I sat on the couch and asked my youngest daughter if she is going to disappear to her room for the rest of the day. Yup. Said to husband later so no tree. Oops ha ha, was all he said. I’m done. I’m not putting up a tree this year. No stockings. Will probably save money as well.

Want to get a sports bra. Hunkemoller has a sale going on and I am looking at their HNMX sports bra pro level 3.

Does it provide good support? Is the material and fit comfortable?

Also, are their bras of good quality??

Do you ever have that one thing that is accepted in society that makes you feel fucking gross?

ISO a Reddit sub for mothers trying to get back into the workforce after an extended time away. Anyone know of a good one?

I'm in my very early 20s, and in the last 2 months I have been almost unable to orgasm when I used to have very strong ones. When I do it's never worth it and almost feels like nothing. With my partner I've tried toys and doing new things and it just doesn't work and it makes me have no libido. When I'm alone I can sometimes have stronger ones but I'm unsure what constitutes a hormonal issue versus mental.

Hey, so I have something important I want to share and get your opinion on.

So, my dad has a daughter from his ex-wife who lives with us. Everything’s fine, alhamdulillah, and we all get along well. But the thing that’s been bothering me is that my dad often compares me to her, even if it’s indirect—especially when it comes to how she interacts with him.

I’m not trying to put her down or anything. I love her, respect her, and wish her all the best. But what bothers me is that sometimes I feel like these comparisons make all the effort I put into my relationship with my dad seem normal or just expected. It feels like he doesn’t realize how much I’m genuinely trying to be there for him, spend time with him, and take care of everything he needs.

My sister is out most of the time, either at work or with her friends, and even when she’s home, she sometimes acts like she’s not there. She’s even told me herself that she finds sitting with my dad boring and doesn’t enjoy it, but when she’s around him, she acts like she’s the only one who cares about him. And honestly, that’s fine—it’s her choice to act however she wants. But the issue is when my dad sees her behavior as perfect and then compares it to me being with him all the time.

I’m with my dad almost all day, especially since it’s just the three of us at home. And because I’m around him so much, he sees every side of me—the good and the ordinary. I’m naturally a calm person and don’t like to put on an act, but sometimes I feel like he expects things from me without really appreciating them the same way he values her more obvious or performative actions.

It hurts because I want my dad to see how much I genuinely care for him and love him—not in a temporary or fake way. I just wish he’d notice the things I do for him without comparing me to anyone else. These comparisons make me feel like no matter what I do, it’s never enough.

So how can I bring this up to him without hurting his feelings or making things uncomfortable? I want to balance expressing what’s on my mind and keeping our relationship the way it is.

Look ladies, I’ve had a few yeast infections, and they mainly come right after my period since I guess your vaginal PH changes so rapidly you’re more prone to them then.. but oh my goodness never have I ever had one this severe. I may be crazy, but right before my period I went on a cruise to Nassau, Bahamas, and Coco Cay, and I’m thinking maybe being in a foreign country, wearing the same swimsuit for days, and being from AZ, going from a dry climate to extreme humidity a long with different waters more than likely upset my friend from down under. Anyways, I get back and me and my bf start getting back to the devils tango. Well, a few days later, I start experiencing some discomfort right after my period. Of course, my discharge is the usual white clumpy discharge you get from a yeast infection. It even smelt like yeast (i was curious..) well, we were still trying to do it while I had a yeast infection and I guess it made it worse before it fully healed. I wish I had known it would. So now, here I am with genuinely the worst yeast infection of my life. My Vaginal opening is sore and swollen, I have cracks and sores on my inner labia (which makes it burn really bad when i pee). I bought the 7 day Miconazle from walgreens. I genuinely start crashing out when I try to insert the applicator bc it hurts so much. I lost my job two months ago, and im not sure if my BCBS from FL will work in AZ, so going to a doctor is my very last option since my yeast infections have always gone away on their own.

Anyways, has anyone ever had one as severe as this? It started getting really bad yesterday and then thats when I started using the Miconazle. Anyone know how long it takes for a severe one to go away? Live, love, Womanhood 🩷

I am 31F and ever since high school I have been seeking validation and attention from men. I didn’t realize that’s what I was doing when I was younger but around 25 I became fully aware of what I was doing and it has basically been the motivator for everything I do in life. I have plenty of hobbies and interests, I am successful in my career and it’s something I enjoy but I still can’t ever fully focus on myself and I feel like I will always seek out this one thing. I’ve only had one serious relationship and in hindsight, the only reason it lasted as long as it did was because I liked having someone paying attention to me. I poured everything I had in me into him to keep his interest in me but it was never the right fit and I really forced it to keep him around. Every other man I have been with has been a fwb type relationship which I have always actually sought out because I liked having several guys texting me and wanting to see me. I’m constantly swiping on dating apps with no intention of actually meeting most of these guys, I’m just doing it for the validation. How can I stop this? How can I really just focus on myself and be happy without a man?

As a female AI computer science student, I’m getting more and more worried about male-dominated teams (often 80% male) deciding what GenAI content is "appropriate." We know AI can reinforce harmful biases, but who defines those biases? Shouldn’t users—especially women—have more say in shaping these systems?

GenAI will shape the next generation’s worldview, and I’m concerned about its impact on young women. How much do you trust GenAI, and is there a need to advocate for our own voices as users or am I just overreacting?

Some examples of bias:

• Generative AI Bias Analysis - Bloomberg
• AI Avatar App and Consent Issues - Technology Review