I understand that there is tons of such videos out there. But most such videos are made by typical male gun nuts. Would there be any interest in an instructional video made by a transgender person who's in safety?

I'm thinking of a video where I show basic gun safety, how to load and unload a gun, how to aim, how to shoot, e.t.c.

I just want y'all to be safe. You need to arm yourselves, but you also need to be safe!

I know there's a million posts like this but I just need reassurance or some insight.

My period's going on 3 days late now, and I haven't had sex in over a year so it would be some sort of immaculate conception if that were the case. I feel like my stress levels haven't been anything super abnormal (maybe a little more than usual, but that doesn't usually affect it this much). I was sick and on antibiotics (amoxicillin, the normal stuff) for 10 days early in the month for a cold/virus I couldn't kick. My periods are absurdly regular, and the second my cramps hit I will start bleeding within seconds. My body is literally like clockwork. My cramps are horrendous so it's impossible to miss.

What's frustrating is I have all the PMS symptoms including being MILDLY crampy the last 3 days, but nothing. When my periods start my cramps are the worst thing ever, so mild cramps tell me it's not coming yet. I'm not sure what's going on but it's kinda just stressing me out because it never happens. Has anyone had this happen recently or know what's going on with it?

So it hasn't happened in awhile but I had a guy at walmart walk by and say "excuse me sorry I just wanted to tell you you're really beautiful". I just said thanks and was semi confused since he walked away immediately. I thought okay it was just an innocent compliment which is fine. I mean I'm wearing leggings, a shirt 3 sizes too big for me, no makeup, frizzy not fixed hair, so I'm not really advertising well here.

I didn't see him and thought it was over but turns out he waited by the exit, followed me to my car, and came up behind me when I had my back turned and was putting my stuff in my car. He said he knows I'm probably married but could he get my insta. I said I didn't have any social media. He said that's even better for him, and tried handing me his phone to put my number in. I said no thanks and walked away to put my cart up. He followed again and asked for my name.

I tried to be nice but like what?? Why follow anyone at the grocery store? Why ask for my name after I say no thanks? And when I look like a bum?? And why does it only matter if I'm married?

I don't say sorry I have a bf because it pisses me off that the only reason you'd leave me alone is because you respect some other man vs the fact I don't want you. If I was single I wouldn't want that guy. It's not because I have a bf, it's because I'M NOT INTERESTED. Sorry to rant but please don't cold approach women in places that we wouldn't expect that. If I'm dressed up in a club or bar, I probably welcome an approach. But not in my pajamas at walmart.

Why is there no talk about how the colleges recieve so many qualified female applicants that they have to reject women to make space for men to "equalize" the gender ratio.

Men are so concerned about women entering male jobs 'with unfair bias' yet "In the 2021-2022 academic year, women made up nearly 60% of all college students."

Women outnumber men in the college-educated labor force. 

In 2021, 39.1% of women aged 25 or older had a bachelor's degree, compared to 36.6% of men. 

In what way does this make a women a DEI hire if an overwhelming amount of the workforce is female?

In the US, Women hold 58% of government service jobs- this includes Teaching.

So in a teaching job, they could have 100 qualified women apply and 1 man, and they often will hire the male teacher to have a 'male role model' on campus. Even if the other 100 women were qualified.

Are men going to be considered a 'diversity hire' in 'pink collar' careers like Teaching and Nursing?

Edit: I apologize that my title got butchered. I'm too upset at US politics to type, haha.

Edit: People want better sources "to prove" myself. Here's a few:

https://virginiapolitics.org/online/2024/11/2/rejected-how-the-increase-of-women-in-higher-education-leads-to-admissions-discrimination

https://www.ivycoach.com/the-ivy-coach-blog/ivy-league/gender-differences-discrimination/

Do your own research ~!

Last edit: This post was meant to be a discussion amongst my peers, but it has only attracted angry men.

I won't delete it, but I'm not going to respond or check anymore. I don't want your hate ruining my weekend.

I'm signing off, debate as you will.

If you don't like Google AI, then feel free to post your own sources.

Thanks~!

I have not been here a lot. But I wanted to write this. Because I feel this is lost somewhere and there might be many women here who relate. I love being a woman. And I loved being able to create life. And become mom. I have always wondered that it’s just a miracle - I grew and gave life to two beautiful girls. And it was not not easy. But I still feel the wonder of them in me. I kind of thought I needed to say it here. It’s okay to want kids. It’s okay to appreciate the beauty of our bodies to be able to create life. And it’s okay to love being a mom. And I get all the ones who feel different. And I support you. But please support those who want and dream different.

Trigger warning for those sensitive to abortions

Posting anonymous for privacy. For background, I am a brown woman living in a red state while on a work visa.

I have just found out that I am pregnant. I had a “tubal” done 4 years ago. To say this is devastating is an understatement. This wasn’t expected or wanted, especially now in this political climate. But here I am 5 weeks pregnant. Now my problem is both mental and legal. I am having a very hard time coming to terms with needing to get an abortion. I mentally cannot go through with an abortion. Here’s where not many women will agree with me. While I don’t have a problem with others getting abortions, I personally cannot do it. The thought of ending a pregnancy is killing me.

This a big issue for me because I am now stuck in this situation, where being a brown woman in the US, and on a work visa (which can be canceled at anytime, in this administration) makes me fearful for my future. I’m not sure how safe I’ll be, even today. I’m not sure how my child will grow up in this world that is so upside down right now. Wow this makes me sound so selfish.

I keep hoping for a miscarriage, which sounds so cruel, but I would rather have a miscarriage at this point, than to have an abortion. This feels so sick to have to write.

My husband is super supportive of whatever I decide to do, but that doesn’t help me in this situation. I’m just rambling at this point. I don’t even know what I am looking for honestly. Thanks for reading.

I walk my dogs a lot and encounter a bunch of book boxes in parks along by way.

I’ve taken to leaving certain books there that I think will benefit people.

I think it’s today’s society it’s more important yet ever to spread vital information among ourselves .

For example, on the psychology subreddit, I’ve noticed anytime there’s a study that even HINTS that women face discrimination or have some sort of advantage over men, the comments are completely dismissing the results as “not scientific enough” or they accept the reasoning but justify it using sexism. Any comment that suggests otherwise is downvoted into oblivion.

It saddens me that these type of men run basically any subreddit that you would think would be neutral. They truly push us out of any shared space, it’s so disheartening.

Got this in my inbox today:

https://preview.redd.it/saqve267gdge1.png?width=862&format=png&auto=webp&s=340dfee11336c46940adc5de183fe82b3ad4181e

I'm a SAHM of two under two. I'm responsible for 99% of the house work. My husband works about 50 hours a week, and in the three years we've been together he has done the dishes about 15 times, and cooked a meal maybe 10.

I do all the shopping, but I don't really meal plan. I buy lots of different ingredients (a selection of meats, vegetables and starches) and just decide what to make day to day, so he has food to choose from.

He also cooks for his job, so I know he is capable.

Would it be unreasonable to ask him to cook and clean maybe once a week? If he would make a meal for us and our toddler AND do the dishes after I would be so so happy. I'm just worried it's unreasonable to ask him to cook when he's the one who pays for all the food in the first place.

Hello, I am making this post on behalf of a friend who lives in South Carolina and just found out she is pregnant. She is also in an abusive relationship. I'm trying to help her out in any way possible, and I am hoping someone here can point me in the right direction.

She cannot really afford to see a doctor and does not live close to a Planned Parenthood (I did call the one that is two hours away and they will not offer low cost/free prenatal care, and a consultation to discuss options is $190.) She does not have income, and her partner controls the finances.

She does not know what she wants to do yet but would like to make a doctor appointment to just find out how far along she is, discuss options, and maybe get some nausea medication.

She lives in Cherokee County. Could anybody please recommend a low cost OBGYN or any programs/recourses that could help?

Also, if there are any local resources for abuse victims? Or if there is another subreddit I could post all of this to?

I would appreciate any help in this as I care about her so much, and I am concerned for her. I'm doing what I can from a distance but not having much luck.

Thank you so much.

My husband asked me what I wanted for Valentine’s Day at the beginning of the month. It hasn’t been a very good past couple of months (as we all know). Celebrating anything is the last thing on my mind. So I kept it simple and I asked for flowers. A nice bouquet.

I assumed he would pick some up on the 14th at a supermarket or one of the greenhouses nearby. I would have been very happy.

I checked the bank account and this guy has ordered almost $400 at a florist for me. I’m already giddy at the thought of what I’m getting.

But I should not be surprised. This is the same man that had a bouquet of flowers sent to me every other week, with a vase and everything. I’m so grateful for him. He is my safety.

I have a 32 inch underbust and a 36-37 inch overbust. So that’s a 5-6 inch difference between band and bust, about a 32 DDD US size, using a proper bra calculator that doesn’t subtract the band size from the bust measurement. When buying a bra I start at 32DD and go from there.

Of course, I learned about this over at r/abrathatfits.

But I’m 45. I’m just learning about this the last year or so. My entire life I’ve been cramming my boobs into tiny ass cups and wondering why shit was always so wonky and uncomfortable.

Why?? Why do bra manufacturers do this? How many women are and have been wearing ill fitting bras their entire lives because of these companies. It just frustrates me.

For shits and giggles I put measurements in to several popular bra companies’ calculators.

32/37 inches are what I used for my measurements.

Pepper: 36b

Understance: 32 D

ABTF calculator: 32DD

Victoria’s Secret: 32 DD

Skims: 36 A

Third love: 32B 1/2

Honey Love: 36B

Aerie: 36B

Shout to VS for actually not being terribly off. I was fitted by them years about and given a size of 36B, so I wonder if they’ve changed their conventions.

Old man held the door for me this morning walking into my local donut shop.. then walked up next me to tell me "chivalry is dead, and you know who's to blame? YOUNG WOMEN"

Sir.. it's a good thing I was not awake enough to reply, because I have so much anger this week about [gestures wildly] that he was dangerously close to learning about how many things men have fucking ruined.

Chivalry isn't "dead". Misogyny sure isn't. The fight for equal pay isn't. The invisible mental load isn't. The fight to have control over our own goddamn bodies isn't. Fear of walking home alone/having a drink in a bar without getting drugged/parking lots after dark/first dates/people knocking on our doors unexpectedly/turning someone down sure as hell isn't.

Edit: "mental loaf" lol

Edit 2: So, I guess I didn't specify, but I DID give a very gracious "thank you" in response to him opening the door. And omg thank you for the award! ❤️

hi everyone!! i've been on birth control for abt 2 years now and ive taken it at 10 pm every night. i take the mini pill but have 2 questions:

1. can i change the time i take it? i dont know if 10 pm will work for me when my life schedule changes!!
2. what time does everyone else take theirs?
3. thank you!!

What does “run like a girl” mean to me?

Run for your life.

I posted this elsewhere too (I hope that's allowed) but I wanted to have the opinion of women who might have dealt with something similar.

I'm a 30 year old transgender man and I have an issue at work. I work in a small team and there is a male colleague in his 50s who seems to be quite fond of working with me. It was okay at first, we got along and had nice conversations.

But he is the kind of person that is quite touchy and I am not. I don't like to be touched, not even by my friends. He is quite a theatrical and overly present person and often touches your shoulder or grabs both shoulders (if you're sitting down) to give a little squeeze. Or when you're having a conversation and you're zoning out, he redirects your attention by poking your shoulder or something like that.

I've probably not been clear enough gesturing I don't want this, and pushing his hand away or tensing up (assuming he'd read my body language).

The issue is that he's also come up behind me and (absentmindedly?) put both his hands between my arms and rested them on my waist. He seemed to "correct" his mistake quickly and pulled his hands away. I almost felt like he was gonna lean his head/chin on my head or shoulder too.

Another day he was on a phone call and needed to ask me something and he also stuck out his arm and came up to me sideways and laid his arm around my waist/belly again. I felt paralyzed and stepped away and ignored him.

Another time we had to work behind a computer together and we each sat in our own deskchair. He slapped my knee/upper leg once. And then remarked how soft it felt (or that it was jiggly or something I don't remember exactly) and put his hand on my upper leg again, this time longer. I said: "it's not soft" and I wheeled my chair away a bit further. But he always does all of these things in a "joking" matter.

I feel highly uncomfortable. And unfortunately I'm an introverted person who is not very vocal in standing up for myself or confronting people. I find myself tensing up and flinching, expecting to be touched, even on days when he is not at work. I feel kind of gross and icky and unclean in my own body, but I feel like such feelings are only reserved for victims of serious sexual abuse. Which causes me to feel guilty again "because he probably doesn't mean it like that"

I'm wondering whether I'm imagining it all to be worse than it is? Is this innapropriate touching? Am I overreacting? I would love some insight on how to handle this.

(As a transgender man (passing. Nobody knows at work) somebody touching me near my waist/legs etc makes me feel dysphoric because those are the "soft" "feminine" parts of my body that I often have trouble with already. Not to mention that this straight(?) man is touching me and that makes me feel afraid I look "too feminine" and causes lots of self-doubt)

Okay last summer I went on a hinge date with a guy. Felt insecure as I was a lot heavier (I’m overweight) than him. He rarely talked but kept saying he liked my body type when he asked about my type and I asked him back.

Also, he reveals he’s talking to six girls rn including me, shows me them and judge them oml.

“This girl is too tall, this girl is boring, this girl is a catfish…”

At the end of our date I fizzled out but he couldn’t tell, tried to kiss me but I lightly slapped his cheek in a joking way bc I didn’t want to get hurt in the dark st in a city I don’t know.

Finally ended the date and got home. Afterwards, like late at night he sends (I wish I have it)

“Hey Op! I really enjoyed our date. Out of the six girls you are most my type. I want to talk more about….and hope you know I will stop talking to the other five and only text you!”

It was so egoist and fucking on a high horse.

Told him I didn’t really see him romantically and he got very upset, called me fat. I didn’t care, his personality was way uglier than any of us 6 girls.

Usually, during the first two or three days of my period, I involuntarily wake up in the middle of the night once or twice to check my pad—kind of out of anxiety (afraid of leaking and staining my bed), even though most of the time, one night isn’t enough to completely fill the pad. Does anyone else have this crazy habit?

And why do some people do not find this scary? It’s unbelievable to me that a majority of voters wanted this. This will all cause so much suffering, especially among the lower classes.

As Europeans, we are basically screwed as well for different reasons. Our alliance to the US made us strong and vice versa. Now it’s supposed to be US versus Europe (and the rest of the world)? We all need partners, even a strong nation like the USA. Gosh, we had it so made. The West was pretty much unattackable, no there will be division which was the only way to make us weak.

What makes me ultimately sad about this is how only the rich will benefit from all of this, there are almost no countries left in which the general public is doing ok. The masses remain poor, are forced to bear a bunch of children as future workers and the oligarchs benefit. Why are so many people so heartless and cruel? Why is the human condition like that?

But having not had a cycle for years because of being on the depot I have to say I had forgotten how awful cramps are. Not loving life now that the initial meds I took wore off. Ouch!

I know there are quite a few other posts on this but I really need to vent. Have been in really bad pain for last couple days. I'm 29M (trans man) and have gotten these since my late teens but rarely are they this bad. Been having hot baths a few times a day for some temporary pain relief, plus finally got epsom salts last night, hoping they will help it drain, but no such luck yet.

I considered going to A&E last night when my sister came round to drop off pain meds and an antibiotic cream since I don't drive myself but the thought of waiting possibly several hours, and then all the horror stories I've read about getting it drained really put me off. Plus I've been able to manage on my own several times before but this one is just...so painful.

Usually I am able to actually squeeze it and pop it myself which always gives immediate relief and it feels like it definitely could pop at any moment but it's way too sore to squeeze quite hard enough.

I just feel so miserable. Been essentially bedridden for the last few days. Finally had a good cry yesterday. Not religious but I am PRAYING it goes away on its own soon enough.

We work together as well and it is a very busy time. But it still hurts. He has never been big in the thoughtful gift department but it’s reached new levels. And if i mention that it hurts me he tells me I’m superficial. I’m not sure how to feel. How would you feel?

I’ve never really celebrated Valentine’s Day romantically this will be my first year🥰

What is it with these people being so judgy when someone posts boudoir photoshoot images 😂

Yes I have a fiancee. No, he doesn't give a fuck I'm posting this shit online. He'd take pictures of me if I wanted to try OF. Yes I also have a job, two actually. No, neither give a fuck what I'm doing online because it's after hours.

Just let a girl post ✨️spicy✨️ photos because she feels good about herself. Gawddamn!

I had an experience recently that got me thinking deeply about how rape culture is perpetuated—not just by those who commit sexual violence but by people who dismiss, trivialize, or deflect conversations about it.

Here's what happened: I (F) opened up to a former "friend" (M) about my experience with sexual coercion. Instead of offering empathy, his response was, "What's new in this? What can one expect from Indian men?"

He brushed it off like it was no big deal, as if sexual assault is just a part of life we should accept. (Mind you, before this too, his response to a sexual coercion experience of mine indicated he himself might be unclear about consent.)

It made me feel like my experience didn’t matter, and it highlighted how normalized violence against women has become in this society.

His casual indifference reflected a deeper issue: the way rape culture is upheld by people who excuse or minimize harm rather than addressing it. When I brought this up and told him how his response was (not the first time he had a response like this), he didn’t reflect on what he said. Instead, he deflected by saying, "But you’ve also been rude to me." This kind of whataboutery was infuriating.

Not only did it shift the focus away from the issue I was raising, but it also made it clear that he wasn’t willing to take responsibility for his dismissive attitude.

This is the problem. Rape culture isn’t just about the perpetrators of violence—it’s about the people who enable it with their indifference, their lack of empathy, and their refusal to engage with the realities of consent and accountability.

By brushing off assault as “something that happens,” by deflecting blame when called out, and by possibly overlooking the importance of clear consent in their own actions, people like him contribute to an environment where survivors feel silenced and predators face little resistance.

His deflection—turning the conversation into a grievance about my behavior—felt like another layer of invalidation. It showed me that he wasn’t even interested in trying to understand the impact of his words or actions. Instead, he made it about himself, completely missing the point of the conversation. I’ve since cut contact with him because I realized I can’t keep engaging with someone who doesn’t understand the problem.

I have had other experiences where people—men, in particular—asked me questions that further invalidated my trauma. For instance, some have casually asked, Did you go to the police? as if reporting an assault is a simple, straightforward process that guarantees justice. Others have asked, Why didn’t you fight back?—completely ignorant of how the body’s natural response to trauma often includes freezing.

These questions, while seemingly innocent to the asker, are rooted in rape culture. They shift blame onto the survivor, subtly suggesting that the burden of preventing or stopping assault lies with the victim rather than the perpetrator.

It’s made me think about how common these attitudes are. How many survivors have had their experiences dismissed in similar ways?

If we can’t even hold basic conversations about empathy and accountability, how can we expect to make any progress? Have you encountered similar attitudes? How do you deal with people who perpetuate these harmful ideas, knowingly or unknowingly?