Hi all! I'd like to be super cautious in writing a story idea I had, and I want to be as culturally sensitive as possible.

So, the concept: an American girl who is fascinated by kpop studies and moves to Korea, where she (blindly) hopes that Korean men will sweep her off her feet (spoiler: they won't). At the same time, we see the POV of a Korean man around her age, and lead the readers to believe they're "soulmates". However, the end of the book plays out that the man has been rejected by so many women (due to his misogyny) and becomes enraged, killing the first woman in sight, who happens to be our main character.

I was inspired to write this after reading Flowers of Fire by Hawon Jung, but especially after reading about the Gangnam Station murder case. If you're unfamiliar, I'll post a brief blurb about it here: "The Seocho-dong public restroom murder case, commonly known as the Gangnam Station murder case or the Gangnam Station femicide occurred at the public restroom of a karaoke bar in Seocho District, Seoul, South Korea on 17 May 2016. The attacker testified that he was not acquainted with the victim and he committed the crime because he was ignored by women." (Wikipedia)

My concerns: I don't want this story to come across as some kind of white savior story, or a poor white girl story. Rather, I want the focus to be on women, and the issues women face in Korea to this day. I chose a white protagonist because 1. I am white and feel it would be fitting, and 2. To play on the emotions of people who glamorize and idolize Korea due to Kpop, kdramas, kbeauty, etc. and show that men are men everywhere in the world.

So, I'd love to hear the (respectful) opinions of others on this topic! :)

Im not sure if this is a feminist thing but I didn’t know where else to post this.

I hate the term “baby mama” and how it’s used to refer to unmarried women with children. I constantly see online people; mostly WOMEN bashing or going on about how “women are so quick to make babies but don’t wanna get married.” “ all I see is baby showers but no wedding.” I think there is genuine criticism to be had in this discussion but I think it always goes beyond that and starts to become hating on women for being mothers. Like literally it makes me feel like ppl only value mothers when they’re married.

Even when the mother is in a committed relationship with the baby dad people still getting mad cuz they’re not married. And yes there’s no doubt majority of these ppl are religious and pro life. I do not understand being pro “life” but at the same time gonna sit complain and bash women for keeping their pregnancies and raising their kids because they didn’t do it the way you wanted it. When did being good parents mean being married?

It’s not like I don’t understand. To an extent I see issue but I feel like the problems can be addressed without bashing mothers. Not everyone wants to get married. Not everyone needs marriage to show they are committed to their partner and relationship. I don’t get why that’s so hard to grasp I also HATE when ppl bring their religion into it like it’s a fucking universal fact that your god exists??

And by that i mean doing anything other than leaving them natural, like how most men never even pay attention to them.

An interesting aspect in trans circles is that one of the first advice a transwoman will receive is to thread/stylize her eyebrows, as if women are born with styled out eyebrows and its an inherent part of being a woman.

But that isnt true, there's women who have bushy eyebrows and clearly dont care about manipulating that natural part of themselves.

And the contrast to men, who dont ever think about eyebrows makes me wonder, why has eyebrow manipulation become such a "woman" thing, why is the natural appearance so inherently repulsed when it comes to women and more importantly, why many succumb to that?

Because its absolutely what happens when someone is raised in a more patriarchal society, but once more and more people understand that, you would expect more and more people to not obsess over such silly things like eyebrows

In the last few years there's been a lot more dialogue about the mental load women bear disproportionately, and it got me thinking about older TV shows/films which make reference to the concept, if not the name.

The only older examples I can think of off the top of my head are:

1. Malcolm In The Middle - an old episode sees the boys and Hal forget about Lois' birthday, and she storms out in anger. Later when they beg her to come back and she says she won't do so unless some changes are made. When they readily agree, she says if it's just that easy, 'Then why do I even have to ask?! If it's so obvious I need a little human consideration, I shouldn't even have to ask!'

With hindsight her expectations were almost laughably low, consisting of merely not needing to remind them it's her birthday, not having to do dinner one night a week and dirty laundry to be put in the hamper. But it stuck in my brain because it was so unlike any sitcom to even question this dynamic on even a superficial level.

2. The Break-Up (2006). I've never seen the full film, but the iconic argument scene that leads to the break-up happens because after a dinner party, Jennifer Aniston's character asks the guy to help her do the dishes (having done all the prep for the dinner party on top of her paid work), and he wants to relax with video games before doing them. Contains the succinct quote 'It'd be nice if you did things when I ask, it would be even nicer if you did them without having to ask you'

Does anyone know any other examples from 15+ years ago with women calling out boyfriends/husbands on them not carrying any mental load and that there should be an expectation of them doing some housework without needing to be asked?

Hello everyone, I’m a woman working in a male dominated field and despite considering myself very feminist and critical of men I found a pattern keeps emerging where I find the men I work with easier to get along with.

It just feels very easy and low stakes to banter and get along with most of the men, while I find the women I work with there can be a little more awkwardness and tension. I do recognize that this reflects poorly on me and could be internalized misogyny. I also think I care more and feel stage fright almost when interacting with new female coworkers.

What do you think? Is this because of my internalized misogyny? Is it because men are just happy to interact with a woman at all so the conversations flow easier? Is it because of inherent tension and competition between the few women in these spaces? How do I get past it?

I have not watched the Snow White trailers. I have no idea if I will love it or hate it.

Will the story click or not with me? It doesn't matter. I do feel a good story is important. I actually think she looks quite like the original snow animated snow white despite not being Ehite but that doesn't matter either.

What does resignate with me is the back lash of hate against her and it. I am sick of that? How many actresses have faced that? Katie Zleung and many others. Actors face it too but the main anger here is she expressed her feminist opinions.

I also hate that she waa forced yo apologize to Trumplicans for saying she didn't like them

1:I am a Translesbian. I'm not sure if I can call myself a feminist because there doesn't seem to be a clear standard for it. Am I allowed in here?

2:I came across a Lesbian Feminism flag with an axe on it recently. Is this flag still in use?

3:It feels like it has more of a factional meaning, but can it be used simply to say 'I'm a Lesbian and a Feminist'?

4:AM I right in understanding that the Lesbian Feminism group itself isn’t inherently transphobic, but there are individuals within it who might be?

I love playing phone games but I've been noticing lately that some advertisment i get as breaks are really worrisome..

You'd get a husband kicking his pregnant wife and chosing another younger woman who apparently "takes better care of herself" and then you're supposed to make the wife pretty to make him regret!

Another game consists of giving a girl the perfect body to meet her boyfriend at the end..

I find these ads super insulting especially that alot of the games are played by kids..

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGdMt3hua/

I saw this movie pop up on my Netflix home page.

When looking at it and the description, I had assumed it was just going to be a really cute love triangle romcom. A woman finds herself stuck between this man who seems so perfect on the outside... And then she meets an old lover. Actually - the old lover is the one who took her virginity in highschool.

The story was beautiful and well directed. Every moment in the movie felt authentic to me.

The story became odd about halfway through.

Her perfect man slowly began showing signs of abuse. But the way the movie went about the abuse was subtle, slow... Realistic. Mind you, main character's.mom was in an abusive relationship while she grew up in that household. So the movie is showing the cycle of abuse, and how if your parent or mother accepted that behavior when you're a child in your home.. you are much more likely to accept it for yourself.

It starts with just one accident. A true accident. And that accident turns into another accident which no longer feels like a total accident. And then another accident happens, but this one wasn't an accident at all, and both of them knew it that time.

The cycle of abuse, and how the red flags are shown slowly, and how much they gave the abusive character such a good backstory, and how they chose to show and reveal that.

And then how they brought the baby in the picture. And the baby was the stepping stone to the main character's development.

She turns to the father, after everything... And she says plainly "I want a divorce".

He starts protesting with the baby in his arms.

And she simply looks him in the eyes, and starts talking:

"This baby... It's a girl. If she comes to you one day, saying a man hit her. If she came to you, saying a man pushed her down the stairs and pretended it was an accident. If he raped her... If he put her in harms way. What would you say to her?"

He looked at her for a while. And at the baby in his arms... His baby.

"I would beg her to leave him."

He gives the baby back to her, and looks at her for a good while before closing the door.

"It ends with us", she says. "No more".

It was the most powerful movie I have seen in such a long fucking time.

Hi everyone, my name is Kate and I'm a social media journalist at Metro. As part of our campaign on violence against women and girls, This Is Not Right, we have published an opinion piece by journalist and activist Chloe Laws on the language we use around the subject. I wanted to share it here to hear your thoughts.

Chloe argues that, despite using the term violence against women and girls being commonplace and girls, with it even being something she uses herself, this needs to change.

'It’s the passiveness of it. It frames it as some mysterious phenomenon – a violence against us that is hard to pin down, a violence that just is.

'It doesn’t say the quiet part out loud: that male violence is at the centre of this emergency. That it is men who are overwhelmingly perpetrating this violence against women and girls.

'That, even when a man is not the direct perpetrator, violence against women and girls is rooted in patriarchy and misogyny – that the dehumanisation of women globally leads to us being harmed in a unique way.

'We must engage men in conversations about gendered violence, patriarchy, and misogyny. They are vital to these conversations. We must hold space for the fact that this will be challenging and uncomfortable.'

Do you agree with Chloe's argument? Should we be using language that engages the root issue behind the problem more?

You can read her article in full here: https://metro.co.uk/2024/12/10/want-think-twice-saying-violence-women-22104268/

https://www.newsweek.com/birth-rate-population-timebomb-education-project-2025-1998690

They believe education policy discourages Americans from starting families in favor of attending university and also suppresses religious beliefs that encourage high fertility rates.

In Japan, investigations into voyeurism and CSAM are not actively pursued, and undercover investigations are non-existent. However, it seems that undercover operations will soon begin to address the issue of "dark part-time jobs." This refers to the growing problem of illegal job postings that involve criminal activities, including cases that have led to murder. Of course, I understand that murder cases are more serious and require greater investigative efforts. However, this has shown me that undercover investigations are possible in Japan. In that case, I believe investigations into voyeurism and CSAM should also be strengthened in the same way.

Why is there no effort to strengthen investigations into voyeurism and CSAM?

I often see people responding to posts by women speaking out about being victims of voyeurism with comments like, "Men get filmed too!" Yet these same people say, "Don’t spend money investigating voyeurism or groping—it’s a waste of taxpayers’ money." They’ve previously shown strong opposition to providing sanitary pads at evacuation shelters, so it seems they dislike any form of support for women that offers no benefit to men. But sexual harassment can happen to men too.

If they genuinely believed and were concerned that men could also be victims, they wouldn’t see spending money on investigations as a waste, since those investigations could potentially help protect them too.

My grade 9 class is covering case studies of discriminatory policies–including women's suffrage.

Each week, they do a socratic seminar debate on an opinion article which is loosely tied to their topic.

I would like to give them a misogynistic POV article to discuss but I'm having trouble finding one that fits the bill I'm looking for.

I would like:

-Biological essentialism for why women should(n't) do x, y, z.

-Nothing too radical–I want students to feel conflicted, like they might agree, in order to reveal biases.

-Nothing containing explicit dealings of assault.

-Relatively short and simple.

I have worked in a few different organisations by now, from startups to big tech, and have the impression that a woman, to achieve the same position a man has, needs to be at least ten times as good.

The men at Senior VP level in the company where I work now are very good, but the women at the same level, are kind of perfect, they are so intelligent, confident, witty, even better looking and more stylish.

That's unfair, it puts so much pressure on women, as if it wasn't already hard enough for us to be respected and build a career, we also need to be utterly perfect in every aspect.

I go to a public high school (I’m in eighth grade), and have never been very impressed with its treatment of sexual harassment. This year, it hit a new low. I have a friend who was told many times by a male classmate that he was going to rape her, and he made these kind of comments all over the school, going as far as asking a friend who he would rape if he got the chance. I don’t know how no one has caught on to this, has heard him, has reported him—I’m disappointed in my classmates as well. Not only this, but he said the N word countless times with no repercussions. A report was finally filed on him for his comments toward my friend, and what was the punishment? Ten days’ suspension. He’s coming back tomorrow and I am honestly terrified for my friend. The thought has crossed my mind to bring it up directly to my principal.

(My friend gave me permission to post this. Sorry, I just wanted to rant.)

TikTok

TikTok is, in my eyes at least a goldmine when it comes to finding misogyny. Back when I still used it I noticed that it was enough to post a slideshow that should raise awareness about rape and sexual abuse against women etc., just for the comment section being flooded with comments like "What about boys" or similar comments. And all the posts that were like about a "Men's mental health month" and something. Yes I know men's mental health matters as well, but men should not act like they are the victim, when they are like the absolute opposite of that. They should not complain about them being so poor and scorned, when they behave like they are the rulers of the world who can just treat women as objects, made to rape and exploit. But now I'm going to move on to Young people on social media in general

Young People on the Internet

I Just needed to search up Feminism, click a short and open the comment section just to find a bunch of dumb misogynistic kids writing hate comments. It's just sad that kids now act like that as well.

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