What is the situation like in Germany? What do you think of the state of feminism in Germany? What do German women think about things like age gaps and the age of consent? What are different problems unique to german feminism? Also when talking to German men online, they constantly defend predatory relationships (one defended a relationship between a 14 and 40 year old, said it ended a few years later after he cheated on her, and said that "she came out of it unharmed.")

I am in a back to work program for people with disabilities. We all have varying degrees of visible and invisible disabiltiies.

There is a guy in the program that from the moment I saw him I got a scary vibe.

In the last month he has insulted me twice about my intelligence and last week he asked me a lot of questions about my hearing aid feedback in a really condescending tone so I didn't answer him. I said I don't know.

I've already spoken to him once in front of the group and told him to be kind or stop talking to me. He doesn't seem to get it. I did also tell our supervisor.

Back to work tomorrow and ugh. I do get along with other male and female coworkers and eat lunch with them so I feel safe but still uncomfortable.

This subreddit is filled with people who have gone through horrible things and I myself know that even when some successfully gets convicted of rape, their sentences are terribly short and don't teach them anything. It only contributes to rape culture as it shows that they barely get any punishment. It's already way to hard to prove someone guilty of rape, and they barely get punished. People with smaller crimes get bigger sentences.

A guy rapes 50 underage girls. Gets 90 days in jail. A wealthy white man rapes a 5 year old girl. 90 days house arrest. A cop rapes a handcuffed woman. 90 days in jail. And when a 16 year old girl defends herself from rape? 51 YEARS IN PRISON.

This petition is specific to Texas currently. Although this needs to be changed all throughout the United States of America (everywhere over the world really), we need to start somewhere. If this is a success hopefully other states do the same.

If you would be willing and comfortable enough to sign, it would be extremely appreciated. I hope everyone has an amazing day and I'm sending so much love to each and every one of you guys. <3

Here's the petition: Petition

Does it ever just become too much for any of you guys like? I grew up with such a sexist father that didn’t value me in sexualize me and I’ve never felt like I really matter as a human being and then it’s like I just try to go to a bar to have a drink And just these men just yell at me almost every time thinking that that’s gonna make me wanna have sex with them there’s just only so much I can take like after years and years of abuse from these people. I’m fucking exhausted. I don’t know how I’m supposed to keep goingand I will because I’m not a quitter, but I just can’t believe that these men don’t have to go through anything like we go through and they still can find a reason to hate us. I’m tired.

I am currently learning about poetry, and I found a poem by Pauli Murray that I absolutely love. The poem is "To the Oppressors":

Now you are strong
And we are but grapes aching with ripeness.
Crush us!
Squeeze from us all the brave life
Contained in these full skins.
But ours is a subtle strength
Potent with centuries of yearning,
Of being kegged and shut away
In dark forgotten places.
 
We shall endure
To steal your senses
In that lonely twilight
Of your winter’s grief.

I also want to say how awesome Pauli Murray is. Pauli Murray was a civil rights activist, a pioneering feminist, a labor organizer, a lawyer, an Episcopal priest, and a writer of nonfiction, memoir, and poetry. Born Anna Pauline Murray in Baltimore, she earned a BA from Hunter College and a JD from Howard Law School. The only woman in her class, she was valedictorian and awarded a prestigious Rosenwald fellowship for postgraduate study–only to be denied admission to her first choice, Harvard University, because of her gender. She earned a master’s at the Boalt Hall School of Law at the University of California, Berkeley, and became the first black woman to earn a PhD in juridical science from Yale Law School. She also earned a master’s in divinity from the General Theological Seminary. She was a founding member of the Congress for Racial Equality and the National Organization for Women. In her ’60s, Murray was the first woman ordained as an Episcopal priest. She served as a priest for eight years. Murray was gender nonconforming, describing herself as “a girl who should have been a boy” and trying without success to obtain hormone therapy. Since her death, she has been named a saint by the Episcopal Church. 

all of the imformation is from: To the Oppressors | Poetry Out Loud

Hi there!

I (F23) have recently learned that one of my male family members, who I am very close to, follows this accounts on Instagram that really objectify and sexualize women and it has made me see him in a new light, like in a creepy/pervy kind of way.

Ofc everyone is entitled to like or follow whatever the hell they want on insta, that's what social media is for but I don't know if someone has experienced something similar (??) or even read something about realizing that men, no matter if they are your brothers/father/etc will also sexualize women.

Just wondering, maybe this isn't the right reddit or maybe I should mind my own business hehe.

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Hi ladies, I wanted some opinions on this topic! I’ll give a little context on my own life though I know this is something we all struggle with. I went to college for a career in a scientific field that involves a mixture of academia and outdoor work that honestly resembles many blue collar jobs. It is male dominated, and boy do they think they’re the shit. In my field, many people are know it alls to their core (maybe that’s just all academia), and they don’t take anyone seriously unless they’ve proven they know something more than the other person repeatedly. I’m a woman, and a recent graduate, and nobody takes me seriously at work. Recently at work, we started a new project which is incredibly analytical and time consuming. I work with two partners, and my managers will come to check in on our work every few hours. The other day we were analyzing the task and the manager came, I told him my analysis, to which he completely ignored me and asked my coworker who has more experience their explanation. Well what do you know? Their analysis was the same as mine, and in the end the manager took it as his own. As if he didn’t hear me say it first, or even my partner a second time. How on earth do I prove myself as capable despite not checking the boxes in their brains that make me experienced enough in their eyes? I want to move up and I don’t know how to do it without doing more work than I believe I should have to and clawing tooth and nail to get out from the bottom.

“I understand as an idea, it’s important that men behave, but I do really think it’s important that women behave, too,” the international actress, 80, exclusively tells Page Six. “I think how you dress, what your subtext is very, very important. It’s very dangerous and not to be played with.”

The “Day for Night” star opines that perhaps women are free of any blame if “you don’t know anything about men,” but adds that she’s “very unsympathetic to these stories, these #MeToo things.”

The above quotes are from Jacqueline.

I would ask her what responsibility I had as a 9 y.o. that was SA'd by a complete stranger while walking home from school?

The movie talks about how bad the patriarchy is and how big companies are run by men. I agree with its messaging but it falls kinda flat for me when it’s made/funded by a big corporation like Warner bros. Like the money the film makes will fill the pockets of those executives and so will the merch that came along with it which was really big that summer. It feels like the message the movie spreads is anti patriarchy but the money it generates is supporting it.

well idk share your thoughts on this i just watched it and it had me thinking

Hey everyone,

I’m looking for a feminist book recommendation for my boyfriend. He’s interested in learning more about feminism but hasn’t really had any exposure to it yet. I don’t want to give him a “Feminism helps men too!” book because I lean more towards radical feminism.

I’d love to give him something that really breaks down how deeply internalized sexism is, especially how misogyny is ingrained in women but especially men. Any suggestions?

It seems like a bit of a cultural blind spot even within the feminist community? Putting men aside, I also know so many women who seem to find our body hair disgusting even though they’re perfectly fine with how it looks on men. Not to mention the reluctance of period pieces to let women have natural bodies. Why are the ladies from game of thrones and Bridgerton fully shaved as if they had never grown hair there? The only movie I can think of with a woman with armpit hair is once upon a time in Hollywood and my goodness it caused a stir!!! It’s like our body hair is so taboo it’s an embarassing secret that we are even capable of growing it. I am worried that the next step will be that we are expected to shave even our arms or something. I don’t want to start feeling like I should be embarrassed by my hair everywhere that it is, it’s so much more freeing not to care, or to live somewhere with no stigma

I’ve been really excited to “read” (listen on audiobook while I crochet is more like it lol) this book but I’m nearly done with chapter 4 and struggling to stay engaged and enjoy this book. I was hoping for something… I don’t know but that feels more like a nonfiction history book. I feel like there’s so much jumping between time periods, saying something was good for women and then saying it was bad, etc I’m just struggling to enjoy it.

Am I missing something? Is there something wrong with me or my interpretation of this book? Or if not are there any other books that focus on women’s side of history that y’all have liked better?

I’ve really liked books like invisible women, half the sky, and communion and also plan to read the second sex. I want to keep reading feminist books, so if there are any recommendations you guys have or if maybe there’s a different lense I should view this book through please let me know!!

I stopped shaving my legs (and everything else) years ago. I’m lucky; my hair is fair and my partner is completely unbothered by natural body hair. But for all my intersectional feminists and adjacent thinkers, do you still shave? Stopped? Why or why not?

I’m so tired of all of these people telling me (26F) that I need to get a husband and start having kids to be fulfilled and if I don’t I’ll be a ‘crazy cat lady’. Why is that even an insult?! I love cats. I don’t want to settle down with a man because quite frankly I can’t think of a single man that is worthy of me and can bring what I do to the table or more.

I have a degree and I’m working toward my graduate now. I have a career. I am self sufficient and I have been my entire adult life. I may be getting a house soon, plus I already have my own vehicle and a few other assets. I clean up after myself. I take care of myself. Adding a man into my life sounds like somebody I’ll just have to take care of and clean up after.

I’ve yet to meet a man that can actually comprehend what 50/50 in a relationship actually means. They think modern day means they pay half the bills while the woman still maintains all of the household chores and child care. That is simply not something I want to do, nor do I intend on giving up my career. I’ve been working very hard for my education so I’m not giving it up for a fucking man.

Hi everyone,

In my shared house, someone recently put up a poster of the Mona Lisa, but she's been drawn topless with bare breasts, and a hand pinching her nipple. Everyone in the house, including guests, seems to think it's super cool and edgy.

I, however, find it problematic and objectifying for a few reasons. It feels like yet another example of how women are often depicted nude or turned into objects of visual consumption without consent. To me, it doesn't feel like #liberating or #freethenipple-it feels reductive and disrespectful.

Am I overthinking this? Do you agree that it's inappropriate, or do you have other thoughts about why it might not be okay?

I'm considering bringing it up in a house meeting, but I know it'll likely label me as “the angry feminist," which I honestly don't care about. What frustrates me more is how people, even some of the women in the house, can't seem to understand why it's provocative in a bad way.

Would love to hear your thoughts and advice

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today we went to the fish store and witnessed a guy take a picture of a girls butt while she was in line….we went outside told the girl, and then waited until he left the store- he was with his wife and kids and my boyfriend confronted him. it did not turn out crazy but i hope his wife decides to check the phone. feelings so weird !

When I go to a party, I see at least half of the guys just sitting at the counter or barely moving while holding their cup and no one says anything to them. But when I, a woman who doesn't like to dance do the same, I always get people telling me "why don't you dance more?", "come on, dance with us" or I get lots of pressure to just dance, mostly from other girls. I get how maybe you want to help someone who isn't to have fun, but I generally don't like it. It's my personality and that's it. What is there that is so hard to grasp?

When I actually feel like it, I might dance, but it's usually not for long. And the worst part of it is that you're not only expected to dance, but to be really enthusiastic and really look like you enjoy it too.

It's exausting. I don't live in the USA and I don't know how common this is there, but I needed to vent.

Not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I had an encounter with an incel at work today. I (23F) work at a movie theater, and today there were two men in their mid to late 30s that came in to watch a movie but one was very flirty with me. He asked my name, said my name was beautiful, introduced himself, but I wasn’t interested so I just kind of smiled and handed him his popcorn and movie ticket.

Fast forward about two hours… he and his friend come out of the movie and stand at the counter (not too far away from my coworkers). He starts crying and turns extremely red. My manager overheard him whimpering saying he wished that he was my age, and something about being more attractive. His friend was patting him on the back and encouraging him to go ask me out.

Luckily, I have a great manager and a great team so I got to stay in the back for a while. The movie had been over for an hour and a half and they were still in the lobby. They ended up buying tickets for another movie, but lots of people do that.

I know incels are not really new concept, but this was my first encounter where I’ve felt unsafe at my job. I guess I’m not really looking for advice, but looking to vent about how uncomfortable I felt when I was just trying to do my job. Seeing the man cry over that made me feel so anxious. I was honestly worried that he would say or do something else unhinged, but luckily nothing else happened. I know I’m probably overthinking, but I can’t stop replaying the interaction and crying in my head.

Married for 2 years, pregnant with our first child and a Christian. Unsure if I’d ever admit this publicly, but I deeply admire women who choose to be single and child-free for life. Women who resist societal and religious pressures to forgo autonomy over their bodies and allow their bodies to be used to serve the urges of men - and become incubators for their growing seed.

Don’t get me wrong, I do not regret my life choices. I am deeply loved by my husband and I’m excited for this child. But everyday I’m painfully aware of the fact that he’s just a man, and by having this child - I’ll pretty much have resigned myself completely to caring for both his needs as well as our child’s - in exchange for love, safety and provision, things I’m unable to give myself.

Anyway, with a ring on my finger and a growing life inside me - I conclude this rant with this: resist the patriarchy.