Think I'm not gonna date ANYONE. I guess me myself and I will have to do 😭🙏

I applied to college as a STEM major (biology/biochemistry/whatever.) I love learning science, I do, and I’ve spent so much of my high school experience seeking out science and medicine related activities that I’m a great premed applicant. However.

The thing that really puts wind in my sails is theatre. It keeps me going through all the horrible school times and makes me happy. And I think I’m pretty good at it (or at least, according to my schools production staff, I’m pretty good… they’ve all been surprised that I didn’t apply to acting/musical theatre programs.)

Anyways, now that I’m waiting on decisions, I’ve realized just how much I don’t want to pursue the path I’ve been working towards for years. I have no interest in being a science girl and killing myself in labs and classes for years and taking on crazy debt for a degree/career/etc that I will dread.

I wish I had applied for theatre— yes, I know there’s like no job security, and it’s a hard life, but it’s truly the only thing I can see myself doing. I can’t imagine leaving theatre on a back burner or having to leave it behind completely.

I’m just feeling a little stuck and needed to rant :/ advice appreciated as always!

on the first day of the second semester i met a new girl (i’ll say H) and we had gym and lunch together, she seemed really cool and nice, i got her snapchat. we didn’t see each other over the weekend, on monday i saw her again, over this week i’ve realized she’s gotten more comfortable around me, she’s always dropping hints about the guy i like (K)RIGHT NEXT TO HIM (we’re good friends), pressuring me to smoke, asking me to walk everywhere with her during lunch, and asks for my food (which is very important for me to count due to a metabolic disorder), pushes and hits me in a playful way, it still hurts. likes a new guy everyday. calls me slurs. she left lunch for a few minutes today, and i broke down and cried to K about her, he told me that he’s seen this a lot, and she’s manipulating me, and i shouldnt feel bad for saying no, but i like her and she’s nice and cool and i like spending time with her, but idk it’s stressful. today was tiring.

I'm currently in the middle of a everything shower and I'm not even halfway done but I have hit the four hour mark !!! Is there anyway to cut down time for next everything shower??

I can’t think of one thing that teenage girls do that aren’t be hated. Damn that’s rough.

Edit: I think it’s because teenage girls got youth, health, time….they’re having fun and they’re not dating losers

I don’t know what to do anymore. Both my parents are absolutely horrible to me and I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m stuck here, and I can’t ask for help. They hit me since I was literally three years old (I’m taking slippers, pulling hair, pinching so hard it bruises and/or bleeds, spanking, even with a belt once, or breaking a wooden spoon on my arm in one occasion), yell at me every single fucking day and they want to take away all of my devices, which I need to study. They want to take away the little social interaction I get. They want to completely isolate me, they want me to be their fucking puppet and do whatever they want. They don’t care about what I want.

They hate my boyfriend (we’re long distance) and that’s why my mom is constantly threatening me with not paying for my phone anymore. They hate him because he has long hair, because he’s ”too feminine”, because he’s not Catholic, because his family arent doctors, because he can’t go to uni. They want me to marry a doctor and that’s it. Obv who i actually love and actually makes me happy doesn’t fucking matter, only appearances do. Im not my own person, I’m just an extension of themselves and they can do whatever they want with me obviously. I fucking hate them so much.

Not to mention how horrible they were to me when they found out I was bisexual (didn’t voluntarily come out). Of course they yelled at me, called a slut, a disappointment, a sinner, that I was gonna burn in hell. My “father” told me to go outside with a sign that read “Im a dyke” and wait for people to come beat me up. Who needs enemies am I right? They tell me to my face how they think queer people shouldn’t exist, shouldn’t have rights. My dad used to tell me he would kill a gay man if one flirted with him?? Like they would want his sorry ass anyway.

They’re only happy with me when I get good grades, that’s all that matters to them. But then they also yell at me and get mad when I cry and get panic attacks when I feel overwhelmed with all the stuff I need to memorise.

There’s so much more, I don’t even know what I want from this post. I guess I just needed to write this all down. If someone has some kind words I would appreciate that a lot.

Hi. So… what do I even say? Um, I have shame. But it has no bearing on me at this moment.

Hello r/feemagers!

As we all know by now, several subreddits are banning all links to X (formerly Twitter) due to the controversy of Elon Musk giving a Nazi solute on Inauguration Day.

So, do you all think we should follow suit and ban all links to Twitter/X, or leave them open?

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18F i met this girl (also 18F) online earlier this month through our fan accounts and we instantly hit it off, we started talking daily and feelings between us grew. however the main issue i’m facing is our distance, she lives across the world and our time difference is 10 hours. i really like her, and she also really likes me but i’m not sure if i can do long distance since the last time i did i was miserable mainly cuz i didn’t like her but also i really love spending time with others. however with this girl since we’re technically adults and the career i’m working towards allows me to make a decent amount of money, i think i have a decent shot at meeting her. i genuinely like her and enjoy talking to her and she’s perfect for me tbh. i’m mainly scared about this all turning into nothing in the end so i think that is holding me back from fully committing but damn i like her a lot.

Look, I love a good deep conversation, but does it make anyone else uncomfortable when you’ve known someone for less than a week and they’re already telling you their deepest secrets? This happens to me a lot because I get told that I don’t seem like a judgmental person which I really appreciate, but it’s hard not to judge when I’ve met you once and you’re telling me how your dad disowned you. I was dating this guy and within three days he was telling me his most embarrassing secrets and when I say embarrassing, I mean things you shouldn’t admit out loud to anyone. And then he was pressuring me into telling him my secrets and I was like girl no. Within three days of dating he was telling me how deeply it has affected him that his past girlfriends haven’t liked him as much as he’s liked them and I understand how that feels but that’s TMI if this is a new thing. IDK it just makes me really uncomfortable when people start sharing hard things in too much detail when I don’t know them well heck even when I do know them well. Am I alone?

TW for suicidal ideation.

I'm an 18 year old giga-virgin who never had sex nor kissed to begin with and is incredibly socially inept I also have hypersexuality for context. I just saw a post that showcased my friends having sex and it led to me spiraling since

A- I'm a giga-virgin as described above.

B- I'm shit scared of being a virgin forever

and

C- I don't want to think about it as it may lead to self fufilling prophecy.

Now, I know what you all are going to say; "oh it takes time" or "its not everything" Well lemme give it to y'all straight

No matter how many FUCKING PLATITUDES one throws at me, it does not change the fact that it's extremely fucking alienating especially considering my age cohort. And the worst part is, so many people have given me social advice yet it just goes out one ear and out the other, leading to the conclusion that I am socially inept at a FUNDAMENTAL LEVEL, indicating I cannot be fixed. I'm not unattractive per se, but when I started college I was. And if you have unattractiveness + weirdness, then that's just a recipe for irreversible social disaster. No matter what I fucking do, I cannot change anything given that I'm fundamentally broken. it's gotten to the point I genuinely feel like I might just blow my fucking brains out and I hate that i feel like an incel for feeling this way.

EDIT: The comments, as much as I appreciate the good intentions and gestures are missing the point by a LIGHTYEAR. I know all the fucking platitudes. I know all the shit that people say and yes, I am working on improving my social standing, It's more so how to manage just how unbelievably ALIENATING it all is.

i want a boyfriend so bad, i want someone to love. whenever i say this to a friend they say i’m “boy crazy” especially my mom. i always have a crush on someone… once i’m over someone i’m onto the next person, am i shallow? i haven’t even been in an official relationship that wasn’t one sided, secret, or online. i hate having to date people who don’t even like me to feel validated, i just want a guy to love me.

For some context: I'm a "Trans boy"(You'll see why the quotes are there later) and a Therian (Past Life). I *believe* that I have had both gender and species dysphoria in the past.

So I got thinking last night and now I'm doubting everything. I thought I was a trans boy. I was sure of it, even. But now I'm second-guessing myself. I know I was a boy raccoon in my past life, so am I trans or just missing my past life and trying to "cope" by "swapping gender (if you will)" in this life?
What's going on.

please help me if you can!

Its like I've been stuck in high school forever all the people (except few) in my class are just shit and it seems like time is moving slower than ever. I need a fresh start in terms of socializing and academics but I feel like its never going to happen at this point

Hey so I’m 17(F) and I’m actually terrified of kissing my bf. So it would be my first kiss and The thought of doing it not only scares but also grossed me out, like if I kiss him I’ll be like infected or dirty. Anyone know what I should do ?

It’s still rape if you were pressured into it

Just got a girlfriend and I'm so so happy :)

I have this friend who is, frankly, being a bad friend. If she has an issue with one person in the friend group, she has an issue with ALL OF US. On top of this, she just won’t communicate. She will stop talking to us, which we notice, but won’t say a word about why, or what has hurt her. And we fucking care too!! We all start to consider what we could have done to set her off again to the point where it stresses us all out.

Any time I try to explain the situation to my mum she desperately tries to change the narrative and fix it all. She does this with everything, no matter how many times I say, “I do not need your advice. I am handling it, I just need to talk.” She will continue and talk over me and act like I’m the crazy one when oftentimes I’m just telling her to forget it and she brings it up.

With this specific situation she has decided to treat my shitty friend like an underdog saint of some sort. She says that maybe she doesn’t want to talk in a group, but she didn’t want to talk to my one friend when they were at work together alone. She says maybe she doesn’t like that one friend. That’s fucking stupid, she wasn’t talking to ANY OF US. I say it bothers me that the only times she has opened up about what hurt her was when she was FUCKING DRUNK. My mum completely ignores it and blames the whole thing on my other friend.

My mum so desperately wants to solve everything but she never provided helpful advice. She just wants to butt in and shake up my “interpretation”. I wish she would just be normal or leave me alone once i ask her to stop.

What do I do? This is fucking killing me, I like never want to talk to her.

I’ve been feeling like shit recently. I just don’t feel like my family loves me very much. And I don’t have any friends really, never have. I’ve started uni but I’m still living with my family. I can’t seem to stop crying randomly and my sister won’t stop bothering me about it. She always does. I’m not allowed to cry, it makes my mom and sister nervous. My dad is sick ( lots of chronic illnesses) and it’s not like it’s ever gonna get better. I don’t know. Just needed to vent I guess.

I used to love drinking and then I drank a lot through the months of June to September and now everytike I drink I have a terrible terrible hangover it’s been a couple months since I’ve been able to drink any advice on how to overcome the stomach ache that come after drinking ??

i used to be so active here (on my old accounts) but since i turned 20 i kinda stopped posting!! just wanted to check in on u guys! hows things? i’m 22 now so basically a pensioner lol

i miss this place, i really wish there was a space like this for people in their 20s!

2 crab legs de-shelled

1 cup of cavatappi pasta, boil in water with a splash of olive oil and some salt

1 tbsp of black pepper

Pinch of sea salt, salt to taste

1 tbsp of butter

Sprinkle some old bay and garlic powder

Melt butter in the cooked cavatappi pasta with crab, top with parm cheese and melt it in microwave for 40 seconds.

I'm going to the pharmacy and need to be in a T-shirt but half my wrist is cut open with a razor blade (by me). How do I hide my wrists without looking like some weirdo?

I've decided, after a long period of questioning, that I am trans. (I prefer transboy instead of transmasc). My mom is straight ally and not transphobic but I'm scared to admit I want not to be who I have been for the rest of my life. Whenever I try to explain the non-binary side of the gender spectrum, she always argues that boys can be feminine and girls can be masculine but there are only two genders. She agreed to get me tight-fitting sports bras (She doesn't know what binders are) and that I can cut my hair short soon, but I can't do anything to change my body permanently "In case I change my mind later in life or regret it". What else can I do to appear more masculine? (I alr told my friends and they ARE accepting but I think that's bc all of us are queer XD). Also, if I identify as a boy, can I still be on Feemagers if it's for girls?