I love hockey and I've been to my fair share of Chicago Blackhawks games. Every time I go, I see someone with an infant. I don't mind children, but babies and toddlers don't belong at something like this. It's incredibly loud, and the vast majority of the time the kid has no ear protection. The United Center gives out sensory bags with noise cancelling headphones and they even have a sensory room (as an autistic person I love this) but most people don't know this exists or don't care. The goal horn is very loud and the crowd gets very loud too, especially when Connor Bedard scores or during the national anthem (at Hawks games it's tradition to cheer during the Star Spangled Banner). I was 9 when I went to my first game and my parents brought ear plugs for me even though I didn't end up using them, it's a great idea. The team does this new thing called Best Day Ever games where they do more child and teen oriented activities during weekend afternoon games, and I went to one and it was actually pretty cool. But I would say it's geared towards school aged children and teenagers, not infants and toddlers.

Can't speak for other teams but at Hawks games you're not supposed to get out of your seat while the puck is in play, you have to wait for a whistle. Sometimes it can go half a period without a whistle. What if the baby starts crying and you can't get up to tend to them and they disturb everyone around you? Also you're not allowed to bring outside food and drink and they don't serve anything a baby would want. I'm a guy so I don't know if the women's restrooms have changing tables, but the men's rooms I've seen didn't. As far as I know children under 3 feet tall can enter without a ticket as long as they sit in an adult's lap so parents just drag their babies along with them instead of arranging for proper childcare. I don't know about you, but I feel like a child that young would rather be at a playground or napping in their crib than sitting in their parent's lap in a sea of drunk screaming adults. They won't remember it at that age anyway, it's just for the parents at that point.

I feel the same way about bring babies on cruises or other big expensive international vacations to be honest. They're too young to remember it in the long run and traveling with them will be a nightmare.

TLDR: Hockey games are too loud and too crowded for infants to be at.

I (23f) am going to be getting my tubes removed two months before my 24th birthday. This decision was not made lightly, and I have thought about it for years. What made me get it done now are the laws that are affecting women's health care (abortion, IVF,). Republicans are now coming after birth control. The overturn of Roe V Wade is what made me decide to get tubes removed.

I knew at 16 that kids would not be in my future, and my stance has not changed. I realized after working with kids for a while that I do not want them, and I prefer not to be around them. I have gotten comments over the years that I would change my mind, and that did not happen.

I live in a conservative state, and abortion is banned in my state. So, if something were to happen to me or if I accidentally got pregnant, I would be forced to carry the pregnancy. That is my worst fear, and nobody deserves to be forced to carry a pregnancy.

I found the doctor who is going to perform the surgery on this subreddits list, and she did not bingo me. She just asked if I knew it was permanent and I told her yes. I did not have to read my speech that I had written down the night before

This subreddit was a huge help with finding a doctor, and I love the community that I have found on this site. Big thank you to everyone. Without y'all, I would not have had the tools to advocate for myself.

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I (23m) and my girlfriend (21f) wanted a nice peaceful place to celebrate my 23rd birthday party. We chose a park near the Golden Gate bridge, because it has charcoal grills and scenic views. I had bought an (expensive) tomahawk steak and charcoal; the entire evening probably had cost close to $100 all said and done. When we were there, there were many other families at the park. Including one family, who were pretty intoxicated. They had several children (8-10 years old) riding around the grass picnic area with a loud (!!) gas powered dirt bike. Keep in mind, the kids were bobbing and weaving through the grass picnic area, at some points coming within 10 feet of our area. They would ride around for 15-20 minute intervals, stopping for 10, and re-riding.

The steak came out delightful, but my girlfriend could barely hear ourselves speak that evening. We planned on having an intimate evening, playing We're not really strangers that night, but we couldn't hear our own thoughts let alone formulate thoughtful answers. Safe to say, both of us are adamantly childfree.

Pretty frustrating birthday evening. We recouped the night by walking far from the picnic area and laying in a meadow though!!

So I like to watch crime shows as does my mom. Almost every episode that pertains to rape has the woman "choosing" (after being manipulated) to keep her rape baby. OR when a woman or young teen is pregnant the male characters are like: "she better not kill her baby for being lazy" (this was on Law and Order). Or it glorifies teen pregnancy with a happy ending of the boyfriend/rapist/random man's family taking the woman/girl in.

As for writing I see mostly lady writers having the woman who was raped choose to keep her baby and love it to a concerning extent. I know some women choose or force themselves to love the baby but that isn't realistic. There's articles out there talking about how women actually hate the kid but due to culture they put on a happy face.

Or the woman runs into the guy that harmed her years later and for some reason forgives him and loves him.

So WHY is books and other media like this?

Absolutely beyond done. My wife and I chose 15 years ago to not have kids. We have 40+ nieces and nephews and love them to pieces. We also love our friends children.

However…

Something has happened with parents the last 5 years where their entire fucking identity is their kids. Some of them are rotten little pricks and the parents expect you to accept that behavior in your house because “how dare you talk to my kid like you’re their parent.”

The last 5 years, we can count ONE time our neighbors with a 4 year old and 1 year old have been in our house socially. Because it’s easier for them, we always go to their house. Fine. Whatever. The entire time we are there we are forced to talk about their kids.

Our siblings with grown ass college kids follow them around like they’re still helicopter parents and never show up to our invites because they’re busy with their kids. My wife and I renewed our vows last year and her brother didn’t show because he had plans with kid college aged kids.

Recently we got a luxury suite to a minor league baseball game and we have been trying to GIVE the tickets away with a months notice and it’s been a constant…”thanks but we are busy with the kids events…” FUUUUUUCK OFF DUDE.

We are constantly giving in and going where they want to go and doing what they want to do because of their kids, while we are stuck by ourselves with too much food and drinks because they “can’t make it.”

I don’t know what happened to parents our age and them being made complete fools by their kids. We weren’t raised like that, our parents constantly had their friends over, with or without kids. But here we are, hardly any friends or a relationship with our own family because they’re just too busy. And when we do talk, it’s never asking how we are. It’s them…and their shitty miserable lives with their rotten asshole kids.

Ugh. Sorry guys, fucking annoyed with no one accepting our invite to the ball game. Just beyond done. Where do you meet friends with no kids?

I was talking with a (very eccentric) coworker today and she was very passionately going about her career and her past university studies, and then she mentioned that she has this fantasy of pursuing a PhD in "something absolutely useless" but that would be fun to study because no one else knows about it. She has a very unique style and super high energy so it was a little hard to match her level but I was very happy being lectured by her on random topics that she found fascinating. Her eyes were sparkling. Then, she brought up the PhD or further studies topic again and said: "I would looooove to start a PhD and learn more about random stuff like this, but... well... People have been telling me... Or... At least a lot of people think that I should have children, so that would have to happen soon so I don't think I could keep up with the studies."

It broke my heart. I think in this subreddit we're all familiar with being told how we MUST have children and nothing else matter, etc. The vast majority of my friends are childfree. Some of them are not sure if they want children.

But I had never before seen someone that was so excited and passionate while taking about something suddenly lose all life in their eyes to say that they shouldn't pursue the thing they absolutely want to do, because "many people think" they should have a baby soon. I don't even know if she has a partner or not, is she does she's clearly not passionate about family life cause she did spend a lot of time talking about her catsl, but didn't mention a partner. She's literally putting everything that gives her joy aside, just for the sake of considering having children that she cannot even say it's something she wants or even if she has someone to have them with. I can't stop wondering if she's spending her every day more worried about how she needs to get a partner fast so she can be a mom before time is up "like people tell her", when she has all this passion and happiness inside of her.

I just met her so I didn't feel comfortable giving her a speech, I just said "funny that you mention it because I'm getting sterilized at the end of this month, so if you'd ask me I'd definitely tell you follow your dreams and be happy, you don't NEED to have kids". She said me getting sterilized was "super cool" and kinda drifted away from the topic.

It was really sad.

I live in a 1890s townhouse split into an upper and lower unit. I live on the upper floor. I came home the other day to a delivery for the young couple that lives downstairs – a baby's crib.

IDK, the woman downstairs doesn't appear pregnant, but maybe they're just getting ahead of themselves. Either way, I don't know what to do.. we're both very "professional" in our relationship, keeping to ourselves and only really talking when it comes to matters of the HOA. I don't know how to ask if they're expecting in a way that doesn't sound creepy or rude but here's the rub: if they're having a kid, I need to get the fuck out. I am extremely neurotic about my sleep. I've had several mental health episodes directly tied to sleep deprivation. Their bedroom is directly below mine. I suspect I will not be able to sleep the night if there's an infant downstairs.

This is so fucking unfair. I'm not ready to sell or rent my place, and I was here a few years before them. Why on earth would you decide to have a kid in a tiny condo in a dense urban area?? They already got a yappy little terrier a year ago and that's already been pissing me off. If you wanna play house so bad move to the god damn suburbs!

Today, it occurred to me that I’ve basically grown up into the sketchy, child free neighbor or uncle everyone’s parents said was a terrible influence, and life is fuckin awesome. I own multiple motorcycles, guitars and firearms, all of which I habitually fuck with to constant stream of metal while smoking as much weed as I damn well please. I have a Doberman and pit that bark at anything that comes near my house, and the first weekend i spent with my girl 10 years ago ended with her detailing one of my Harleys in cut off shorts in front of the neighbors. I smoke Lucky Strikes like it’s going out of style, served in the Marines as a machine gunner, and say fuck almost every other word. All the people who told me I’d be miserable or I was a loser for doing all that shit are now stuck with screaming brats and they look like POWs while I’m bombing around on my bikes laughing my ass off. Children are like most of the other social expectations: a fucking drag that leeches your fun and robs you of your individuality and joy.

My friend just said this and I am frustrated. I genuinely think people have kids so they have future caretakers. Also let's just say your kids die first. Or your kid has a disability. My brother is disabled, he can't take care of himself so how would he take care of anyone else.

I know people who only have disabled kids. So its not like kids can take care of her in the future.

If you’re a reader like me, there are spoilers ahead.

The bases of this book are enemies to lovers in college who play sports. The book ends two years later and the female protagonist is pregnant. I mean, I got through 420 of 425 pages without a baby and here we are. For a book that was extremely detailed, it glazed over her Olympic win and a Stanley Cup because BABY.

I’m so annoyed. I am trying to tell myself the story and spice are good, enough that I finished in a week. Maybe I can pretend the epilogue doesn’t exist? Damn it bugs me.

Does anyone know of an online community/group for child-free crafters? It would be great to connect with other child-free knitters, crocheters, and quilters. :)

ETA: Please don't say Ravelry.

My husband and I are childfree with a passion. We both wanted a fully childfree wedding but his rowdy nephews (4, 7) ended up being in attendance. We got pretty close to an arrangement for the children to not be there till my husband’s brother and sis-in-law decided to go on vacation(!!) and dumped their offsprings onto my husband’s parents. Oh his parents were hella pissed, and they pretty senior. So it came down to choice of a wedding without one of my husband’s parents in attendance, or with them + children. And they don’t deserve to miss their son’s wedding over a shituation.

Ultimately I chose to disassociate hard and be indifferent to the children’s presence rather than be upset leading up to our wedding. We regret not trying harder for alternative solutions but I really want a life free of children and that means that I won’t even let them take up space in my mind. Why the fk should WE be looking for childcare solutions for someone else’s kids??!

On the day of our wedding, I was high on adrenaline (and alcohol) and didn’t notice the children much except for one tantrum. As glad as I am that I managed to disassociate excellently, I only realized the day after the wedding that THEY PHOTOBOMBED ALMOST ALL of my important wedding photos and videos. The 4 year old is a major pick me narcissist sort - I should’ve had security be on him!

It’s been 2 weeks and I’ve been crying over it every day wtf. You can’t redo an entire wedding.

How do I stop feeling angry and hella upset over CHILDREN lawd I feel ridiculous they don’t deserve my tears!!!

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I have been a long time participant on this subreddit and I just wanted to rave a little about getting my hysterectomy! It was made possible by the guidance of y’all wonderful people and your suggestions. I chose a doctor from the Childfree list of providers, and I’m so happy that I was able to get it approved thru Medicaid. I had this surgery during the pandemic, so it was an interesting time, to say the last.

I decided to go in with my figurative guns blazing, and from the very start, I communicated to the surgeon that I had a family history of reproductive cancers, pcos, endometriosis etc in my family (it’s true, but I read a post on here that said to specifically add those things to your ‘application’ to have the hysterectomy.)

The most important reason to have the hysterectomy was so that there was absolutely no chance that I could accidentally get pregnant. I have struggled intensely with tokophobia, and gender dysophoria all of my life. I also suffered greatly with every period, the pain and hormonal depression was so bad that I couldn’t get out of bed.

It also didn’t help that I was raised to basically be a ‘Trad Wife’ before it became a current social media trend. My mother kept a photo album of us kids, and in it was the most horrifying and traumatizing photo a young kid could accidentally come across. Smack dab in the middle of ‘cute’ baby pics, there was a photo of me sticking out of my mom’s bloody bits— it was like seeing a Chestburster from the Alien movies.

I was maybe 7 or 8 when I came across this absolutely gore filled picture of the reality of giving birth. It was such a shock, as birth was always described mildly, like having a cold or something. My very Christian mother further cemented my horror and disgust by telling me that the reason giving birth was so pain was because of the sin of Eve. With judgement in her voice, mom said that women were cursed to have painful births by God. I don’t know what she expected by telling me this, but it only increased my revulsion and subconsciously, I knew I’d never willingly put myself through that horrible event.

All that being said, I decided to bring my now-husband, and he was a wonderful advocate for this as well. I was privately furious that it felt necessary to bring a male parter to be taken seriously, but I wanted as little pushback as possible. I needed this done ASAP, I was so repulsed by the thought of an accidental pregnancy that penetrative sex was off the table.

As I expected, the doctor simply asked a few questions, we did some follow up appointments for the (absolutely hated) exams (I made sure that they understood my history with SA) and the surgery was scheduled. It felt like a dream that was too good to be true, but it was finally happening!

The surgery was rescheduled once, as it was difficult during COVID with all the safety protocols in place. But finally, I ended up on that surgical table, and before they put me under, I made sure to tell the surgeon that I did not consent to any students practicing pelvic exams while I was anesthetized.

After the surgery, I was informed that they did find scarring from endometriosis. I was so relieved that the hysterectomy was completed and that I’d no longer have to suffer so intensely. Recovery took a while, but it was nothing compared to the pain I previously endured all of my miserable life.

Now, I feel so incredibly happy and free from the stress and discomfort that accompanied having to deal with periods and the awful hormonal effects. My only regret is that I din’t do this sooner, instead of suffering into my 30’s. The absolute best thing about this though is that ‘fun times’ with my husband are so much more enjoyable without the fear of dealing with a very unpleasant fetal situation.

If you’ve read this far, I greatly appreciate you doing so! If you’ve been thinking of having a hysterectomy yourself, l hope this encourages you and strengthens your resolve. We’re living in a time where we uterus sufferers are having our right not be reduced to incubators taken from us. May this strengthen your resolve and give you the courage you need to nuke your own uterus from orbit!!

My brother had a child a year or two ago. We weren’t especially close and have gotten further now that he’s married. I have little to no emotional bond to this child. I feel bad that I don’t but I blame it on their reluctance to foster a relationship. Maybe the child will be cool when older but as is, I doubt I’ll have much involvement.

I’m closer to my best friends nieces if anything. Anytime I visit her family home, which isn’t often, her older brother always makes me feel welcome and encourages their children to call me aunty. I feel like that little gesture makes the child comfortable enough to interact with strangers.

I know it’s early but if this is how it’s gonna play for the rest of my life, I guess I’m willing my money to my best friends family if I die (assuming my parents are dead first).

Watched it with my partner and I gotta say...I think this movie really reads differently for us childfree folks.

! The actual horror was just the pregnancy and birth and when she killed the child it felt like a really relatable happy ending !<

I’m writing this as I’m sandwiched between a two and four year old in the back of a truck. I am child free by choice and have no plans of ever having a child. I prefer my dogs. :)

I am from a Midwestern family that is all child and family oriented. I am the outlier for not wanting kids and my family thinks I’m weird and “missing out on life” because I’m career and pet focused.

When I visit my sister, every waking moment is accompanied with a child in my face. From the moment I wake up (she thinks it’s cute to send the kids into my room to wake me up at 6:30 every day) to when I go to bed, there is a child constantly around me.

She and her husband plan out every moment that my spouse and I are here and it’s all kid oriented. We don’t go to eat because the kids can’t sit long enough, we have to be home by a certain time because the kids need to calm down before bed, etc.

Today, my sister was talking about how dinner is at 5:00 tonight because of the kids something blah blah blah. I told her that my husband and I are going to do our own thing today and for dinner because I need a break from the kids. She starts spewing that I’m overreacting and being rude because I want a break from the kids and they never see me. I am from New York and visit two or three times a year. She then goes into rants about how she’s tired and needs a break but she doesn’t get them cause she’s a mom. I choose not to have kids on purpose.

I get so frustrated by them because it’s a pity party of how tired they are and how I should suck it up for being frustrated and annoyed. My visits are always turning into this and I’m honestly considering just not visiting as much.

I've posted a bit here before, but context I'm moving in with my boyfriend in August. He's going to help me get sterilized.

However, I don't have health insurance. My parents think it's a scam so they don't have any and I don't have the money for insurance.

I'm nervous.

How long will it take to get accepted for aca compliant insurance and get established with a doctor who will steralize me before the election? I'm worried something will happen with said election and I want to take care of this before then, but I'm worried it won't get done in time.

I'm moving hopefully early August, and obviously there's two months in between August and November. I've just realized that's not a lot of time and now I'm freaking out. Pregnancy is my worst nightmare and I'd do anything to prevent it.

This whole planning thing has been so stressful and I just want to get everything figured out as quickly as possible so I can change our plans if we need to.

Just a quick rant but I'm sure I'm not the only one.

So I was chatting with my best friend after not talking for a few months (we do that sometimes, doesn't hurt our friendship) and he decided to do a bit of trolling. He said he got a kid now. Showed me pics and everything.

I genuenly freaked out.. not positivly. I got scared I now lost my best friend to fatherhood. I know when one becomes a parent any existing friendship is basicly dead, since if you don't coo over the baby constantly there is no point anymore.

Thankfully when I told him "Please. /srs" he admitted it was just a lil troll since I'm a bit gullible (okay thats a lie, I'm very gullible). I see the humor in it and I was mad for a solid minute but no harm done. Though holy shit that was terrifying.

He got me good.. especially since it wasn't on April first. Toché

I have to admit, he knows how to troll CF people

And yet, they won't take it out of the bedroom directly above mine. All of our apartments are laid out exactly the same. After 10 pm, take your stupid screaming spawn into the living room so your sleeping neighbors don't have to listen to your screaming child. It's BASIC decency.

I can't wait to move to a house where I don't have to have nothing but a way too thin ceiling between me and someone's kid.

First time poster :) So I was raised VERY strictly religious, with the emphasis on how my only acceptable and expected role was a trad wife and mother. To the point that I received mothers day gifts as a child because "all women are mothers someday." Ew, right? I never wanted kids, EVER. I would cry and get so much anxiety because children were literally used as a way to trap women I knew (a common phrase was "if you want to tame a wild girl, get her married and pregnant.")

Now, I'm living my authentic life and have a partner that I adore. He's adamant that I get my higher education, pursue my dream jobs, and be an independent person. He's supportive, loving, and is very on the fence about children as well, as he is number 3 out of 12 and didn't have a great childhood due to the amount of kids. He said any decisions are entirely up to me, and I know he's never going to pressure me for kids.

The thing is, since I met him, I've actually felt safe and even some baby fever, because he'd be such a good dad. Now I'm wondering if I never wanted kids because I didn't have a choice back then, or if I actually don't? Any insight on this would be amazing. I don't really feel the need to make a decision now, but I do want to figure out my feelings.

I dunno know to flair it so like I guess personal So I'm staying in a town called rijeka for a gaming con I am visiting in cosplay. And I get a call from my apartment owner that he needs to move me if it's okay cause a regular with family is comming from the US. At first in like great another person with crotch goblins gonna fuck up my plan then he immediately follows with I will move you to our 5 star accommodation free of charge so like no additional expense and an upgrade. So now I am enjoying a panoramic view having a smoke and a coffee chilling and thinking I love being cf and what do you onow someone's kids came in handy lol.

My (28f) brother (30m) and his wife (27f) are expecting their first baby in July and although I'm very happy for them, they've already gotten so obsessive about making sure their kid is smart that it's getting weird. Like, it's all my brother talks about in relation to the baby. He buys books that this baby won't be able to read for years (we're talking chapter books like Goosebumps and science books like Eyewitness) and all he ever talks about is how she's going to be a genius. Never happy, healthy, strong, funny, resourceful... I know it's normal for expectant parents to have hopes and dreams for their children, but I'm genuinely getting concerned about what will happen to this kid if she turns out to be an average student, or has a learning disability, or isn't into reading, or doesn't have the kind of intelligence that lends itself well to school. My brother really idolizes the way my parents raised us, and a cornerstone of their parenting philosophy was pressure to perform well academically. I won't go into details but their methods of applying that pressure took a huge toll on my brothers and me.

Idk, just a soon-to-be weird auntie worried for my future niece. I guess it's just going to be my job to love and accept her as she is, even if she flunks math or hates English class and her parents lose their sh*t over it. That's what eccentric childfree relatives are for, right?!

I live in a country where women can take up to 12 months of fully paid maternity leave and up to 18 months with partial pay. This is a great policy for women and families and definitely makes the burden of raising a family easier, which has positive benefits in society.

But the way that this manifests in the workplace, especially for CF people, can be very difficult to deal with. For example, there are three employees in my same position at my workplace, and one of them is about to go on maternity leave for 18 months. Because the company is still paying part of her salary (the government pays about 50% and the workplace pays about 50%), we don’t have the budget to hire a replacement and therefore the other two of us are stuck with a significantly larger workload for 18 months. This also has a terrible effect on our ability to ever take PTO since we will all be in survival mode for 18 months. And if she gets pregnant again while on maternity leave, she can take ANOTHER 18 months without ever having to return to work in the middle.

It seems like these incredibly generous leave policies only ever apply to children without any regard for the many other complex and nuanced parts of our lives that may necessitate time away from work. The government isn’t paying me a salary if I step away from the workplace to care for my sick parents, for example.

I do really support policies that make it easier to be a parent, but I’m left with these conflicting thoughts on the price that the rest of us have to pay to accommodate people’s insatiable desire to procreate.

I went to the store to buy one item. When I got to the checkout one person was finishing being served and next in line was a mother and her child who had a full trolley. The mother realised she had forgotten something and left to go and get it.

I would expect anyone in that situation to see me with my one item and offer that I go ahead. But the mother didn't, and the daughter panicked when she saw me and rushed to start loading her groceries onto the belt for checkout. I thought yeah ok. Great.

After all the items were rung up and bagged we all just kind of stood there, it was another 30 seconds before mother returned, on her phone, and messed around one handed with her purse trying to pay. How can you be so ignorant and inconsiderate?

I just need to vent. Why do people who can’t afford any more children still intentionally have them? Not only does it impact their existing children’s quality of life, but it’s not doing theirs any favors either. What’s the payout? Surely these people already know how depleting one or more children are. It almost seems masochistic. Being so cavalier and irrational about one of the biggest decisions ever is fucking insane.

So I’m child free. Don’t like kids that much. I also have a bunch of reproductive issues, PCOS, fibroids etc that have caused me pain. My parents have been supportive in my views and everything I’ve gone through. My issue is my brother and his gf. My parents have made it extremely clear they want them to have kids. They said “we would have pushed x to have them but she has an excuse, so we hope you both don’t fail in that capacity.” It honestly makes me think that deep down they view me as a failure. Anyone else experience this?

recently i was on vacation with my boyfriend. we don’t have kids and both agree we don’t want kids. the resort we were staying at was a luxury golf resort, not exactly a place you’d expect to find toddlers.

however, one day we were at the pool just lounging and reading. we were only there about 5 minutes before two couples with about 6 kids combined came stomping through the pool area and took over about half the lounge chairs. the kids were screaming, crying, splashing and running around. the parents practically ignored the one toddler who was crying in the pool in front of us.

i found it extremely rude considering we were there first, and they did not have their children under control at all.

i hate how people with kids think just because they have kids their entitled to consume public spaces like it’s their living room. why do people do this?

I’m stoked to announce I got a vasectomy yesterday. After seeing all the cringe stories on here about people (I believe almost exclusively women) have had trouble trying to get their procedures done without any hassle from bullshit providers… it blows my mind how simple it was for me. If doctors let their beliefs get in the way of helping us, then they should find a different sub specialty or find a new career.

During my physical earlier this year, I merely mentioned wanting to get it done, so my provider set up a consult with Urology. Go to the consult, I watch a video and the Urologist asks if I’m sure (she asked if I ever wanted to father children, which I laughed at), and then get setup with the procedure itself within a couple months. Then to yesterday; show up, ask me if I’m sure one more time, it’s irreversible, etc. Music to my ears (speaking of which it was suggested I listen to music or a podcast during the procedure. Some discomfort from said procedure, and I’m sent home with a few specimen bottles for the analysis in a few months.

Now I just hope the recovery the next few days goes well, and the specimens come out clear in a few months. So far so good, just uncomfortable downstairs atm, but to be expected ofc.

Get it done if you can gentlemen! It’s truthfully not that bad. To me, the worst part was the doctor gripping the vas deferens right before injecting the lidocaine. That “bee sting” exacerbates it, but that grip was the worst part to me.

I live in a townhouse setup, with a total of 6 units. One of the units has been vacant for about a month, and then I noticed a moving truck in that unit's parking spot on Saturday, and then on Sunday morning (Easter), I was woken up by screaming at 6am. Now, I have to be at work at 5am everyday, and with both my jobs closed on Easter, I was looking forward to sleeping in and generally being lazy with my SO and our cat.

I jump out of bed in a panic, not sure what was happening. There (were) no children in any of the units, so I was definitely alarmed by being jolted out of bed by the noise. I go downstairs and ask my SO what tf was going on, and he said that he wasn't sure, that it had just started, and he was getting ready to check on it. I look out to the backyard (it's an open backyard spanning the length of the building), and I see two kids, one about 4, and the other about 2, both boys, running around looking for eggs. I roll my eyes and just hope it's relatives of one of my neighbors over for Easter, and get on with the day, albeit earlier than I expected.

Monday morning starts with the new neighbor having trouble starting his diesel engine truck, waking me up 30 minutes before my alarm to the sound of the engine trying to turn over for about 20 minutes before it catches. New neighbor is in construction, and this has happened every morning since Monday. And every night, starting at 5:30 to about 8:00, the children are sent outside to run around (of course screaming at the top of their lungs), I'm guessing to tire them out before bed. Completely unsupervised, unless you count the older one watching the younger one. Oh, the parents must just be watching from the window you would think. Well if they are, they're distracted while doing it, because one of them has almost impaled himself in the backyard.

I forgot to mention that one apartment is a couple of meth heads who have taken over the backyard with their trash and homemade bird feeders. And by that, I mean large sticks hammered into the ground with bird feeders hung on them arranged in a giant circle. The older boy had shaken a bird feeder free and had leaned against the stick to break it, then chased his younger brother around with the broken stick, before the younger one falls and barely misses landing on the stick on his stomach. I go down to the new apartment, knock on the door, and tell the guy that his kids are about to kill themselves in the backyard and then just go back inside my apartment. The dad comes out and yells at the kids to be careful, and then goes back inside.

They haven't even been my neighbors for a full week and I'm already fed up. I really wish there were CF communities that weren't senior living communities, because I would do everything I could to move into one. Thank you for reading and letting me rant/vent, and I preemptively apologize for any future bitching about them that I do, because I fear it's goimg to be a long spring and summer smh.

One of my relatives is in her mid-thirties and recently announced her pregnancy. She’s spent the last couple of years undergoing laser hair removal treatment and paid about $5k in the US for the areas she wanted.

And now she’s been complaining about how her hair is growing back in those areas (especially the face) because of her hormones due to the pregnancy. I’m like, but you chose this life? She wasted all that money on something that now isn’t gonna be as effective. Like if you know you want children, why not wait to get laser done afterwards smh. It’s hard to feel bad for her. Esp since I can’t even afford laser and would absolutely love to do that and I would not jeopardize the results by getting pregnant.

Side note: some research I’ve done suggests pregnancy shouldn’t affect the results of laser, but maybe everyone’s body is different, who knows.