When I masturbate I usually start with fingers only and then introduce a toy. I have a collection of different dildos that I use. As I become more aroused, I inevitably feel that I absolutely need something hard and phallic in my vagina. I love how insertion feels at that point, and the sensation of fullness and being stretched when it's inside me fully. I find that if I just focus on my clit and don't have something inside me, it takes me way longer to orgasm. I also very much enjoy how penetration feels right after I orgasm. I would always prefer an actual erect penis (especially one belonging to a hot, naked man who is at least decent in bed) over a toy, but the toys are always available and accessible whenever I need them. I have read that a lot of women don't rate penetration that highly, or they just find it okay but not amazing. I guess I am wondering if anyone feels the same way as me about penetration.

My first partner gave me hpv16 and chlamydia. I know, terrible luck. For the last 14 years I've been dealing with frequent reoccurring yeast infections. I get regular gyno check ups and recently had a leep. Because of this I'm not on birth control, which used to destroy my sex drive. I've also been checked many times for other STDs or vaginitis, which are always negative.

Recently I noticed something weird. I had ended up with a yeast infection in one of my cuts after galbadder surgery last year and the surgeon prescribed me fluconazole once every 3 days for 3 doses. I didn't have itching or any signs of vaginal yeast infection at the time but my sex drive went wild! It was like I could feel my vagina again. I've taken it a few other times since when I didn't have the classic yeast infection discharge. It's the same each time. It's like the walls of my vagina were inflamed and I'm not able to feel until a day after taking the fluconazole, then everything is sensitive and my libido is up. I don't understand it. Has anyone else had this or know why this would be?

Also for context, I'm in my 30s, I eat fairly healthy, go to the gym couple times a week, maintain normal weight and hygiene, I stay away from doing anything that has caused me yeast infections in the past, like taking a bath instead of showering.

Me (20f) and my bf (26m) have agreed to have a threesome with a mutual friend of ours (25m) which is going to be this week. It's our first one and we hope to make sure it is as fun as it could be.

We have made a group chat and have started discussing boundaries (so far: if anyone isn't into it it is over for everyone, no kissing, no action between the guys, no anal) and sharing position ideas.

I know jealousy can be a big thing but honestly my bf seems really into it so hopefully it won't be an issue.

We have all done negative STD test and shared the results. I'm on BC so not worried about pregnancy. Anything else we should consider?

I'm excited since I was always interested in this and if it is good it could become a regular thing!

i made a post a few months ago asking for advice as i could never cum from sex, but i can cum on my own. well, ive been seeing someone new and he’s made me cum multiple times!!!!! i couldn’t bloody beleive it. im guessing the factors that led to this are:

a) i have a connection with him, so the sex is more intimate (i have been having a lot of casual sex prior)

b) he actually cares about me finishing and wants me to finish - he really took his time to do different things on me (still does) to see what would work

ah it’s great and im now dick drunk 🥰

As in assuming you did it younger but stopped once getting into a long term relationship.

not sure if it fits here But I think I might be hooking up with a guy soon and I'm self conscious about the color of my labia and anus... There's a waxing salon I've gone to for different services and I was wondering if it's safe to want to get this type of service? Has anyone done it before? I'm 24F

OK, so I am 34, no children, and no history of incontinence. I’ve had a normal sex life, but haven’t been too much into masturbating alone with a toy. Due to my husband schedule, this has become an alternative for me. However, the first time I used the vibrator alone, I felt like I was gonna orgasm but felt…”full” so I pulled it out, and I literal fountain arch streamed what I think may have been pee?? (it literally puddled 10 inches away) But it didn’t smell like pee at all, but wasn’t cloudy, and while I felt like I was about to have an orgasm, I think I was so shocked of what just happened! The toy was using without about an inch and a half thick, 6 inches deep. Has anyone else have this happened to them? Was I pushing too hard up on my bladder?? (I fully emptied my bladder before this as well)

Hi everyone.

I did double check what the rules were, but please delete if not allowed ☺️

I am a 26 (f) who only lost my virginity in June last year. And would love to see if there are any people who similar tastes and I guess you could say kinks as I do.

The person I lost my virginity to, was very gentle but passionate. They took the lead of course with being much more experienced than I am. But, there was an element of gentle dominance that I loved. I felt really looked after. I haven’t had sex since then, but I know rough sex is out of the question for me at the moment as it’s just not my cup of tea as of right now.

So my question is, are there others out there that enjoy gentle dominance? In a sense of I suppose being looked after? I definitely have a huge praise kink, love someone that would be a bit possessive of me in the bedroom, and to be lightly restrained. I’m definitely not big on pain or humiliation in anyway. This wouldn’t an all the time thing though.

I hope that all makes sense.

Thanks everyone!

28F, recently became sexually active after yearsssss. And it has been amazing. However, I somehow can't fully relax post-sex. I always, ALWAYS have sex with protection i.e. condoms. I am not on the pill because I am not currently with a partner, but I do have casual sex. I always get nervous after about getting my period for some reason, especiallh when I'm ovulating. I am sure my body is having some changes because I am suddenly active after a long dry spell.

Any advice on how I can be a bit more chill about this and not overthink this? How do you have safe sex while ovulating and still be relaxed? I overthink it until I get my period, which sometimes can be a day or two late and it freaks me out. Let me know what helps you relax and if there are any other tips and tricks to foolproof this.

Hey!

I can only vaginal orgasm while on top. Thing is, it seems to only be at certain angle and I can only find it sometimes.

I don’t know what to do, because it’s hard for me to climax any other way. I will usually know within the first 30 secs if it’s going to happen for me or not.

Any advice would be very welcome.

I avoided it growing up but in recent years I've watched it a lot more. Obviously it turns me on but it's also a great way to play out fantasties that you'll probably never do irl and you can get new ideas to spice up your sex life. I can't stand most professional made porn though. So much fake moaning, fake bodies and constant jackhammering. Also most of the time it's an ugly dude who's only redeeming quality is his huge dong. I love amateur homemade porn, it's much more real and you can tell that most people in them are both having fun and feeling pleasure. I browse a lot of amateur subs on this site often ;)

I posted this in another community, but I think this one will help more. Not sure how to explain this and sorry for the tmi, but every time my husband and I have sex, he brings up random non sexual topics?

For example, today he was going down on me and suddenly stopped and asked, oh how was your day? It completely stumped me because he was genuinely curious. Sometimes he'd do the dirtiest shit and then suddenly will ask what I thought about (insert TV show) or talk about some drama that happened at his workplace. I'm not mad he does this, but a little confused, especially when he continues with the foreplay/sex as he speaks.

Does anyone else's s/o do this? Or do any of you do this? Is this a men thing or no? I've asked him about it and he looked as confused as I am and that makes me even more confused 😭

My account is such a broken record with this stuff if you want the nitty gritty, so here’s the cliffsnotes version for now: I’m a 23 year old virgin who’s getting over purity culture programming, I don’t really have much of a life right now because I still live at home due to financial reasons and I won’t start grad school until Fall, and I’m scared that once I do finally start really dating someone that they won’t want to deal with my virginity.

One of my two relationships was like 2 months long with this 35 year old dude, and it just ended a few months ago. One night in bed after some things…hadn’t gone as planned (he tried fingering me but it hurt, and kept begging for sex but I didn’t feel physically aroused enough)…he was like, “You’re not a virgin, are you?” and sounded like he was recoiling a little bit. I lied and said I wasn’t, because he said that whether I was one or not would then determine “how he proceeded with [me]”. So now I fear that most men won’t want to deal with my virginity in this day and age so I’m just mentally preparing myself for whatever virginity-loss experience I have, and I also purchased a small lil 5 inch dildo to try and get used to penetration by myself prior to experiencing it with a man. I’m able to “take” about 2.5-3 inches of it now; currently a bit scared to take it further.

I am just trying to figure out if I should get myself used to penetration on my own so that I can do it fairly seamlessly with a man when the time comes? I’m scared that if I don’t do that and if I tell any random guy upfront, they will not want anything to do with it because “been there, done that”. I Have no clue what to do…I want to have sex so bad but I’m so scared of being physically and mentally hurt. And it’s mentally exhausting trying to navigate this when it seems like nobody fucking else in 2024 can relate. Plus I want to date in grad school — literally everyone I know who was in my program was in a relationship at the time — and I want to be in one, too. I don’t want to deal with this scared virgin crap; I want to date and have sex like a normal woman.

So my question is…if I get into another relationship, should I physically prep myself prior to whatever could occur so there’s no awkwardness, or should I just …idk…hope and pray that I don’t chase guys away with my virginity? Help.

I had intercourse (protected) he didn’t prepare me though and just put it in (with consent) three days later it was hurting which is fine it has happened before but then my clit had these sharp pains and kinda burns I don’t have any other symptoms and I did pee after the intercourse not sure what it could be he did touch it rough but not a while. Any thoughts?

hi everyone! this is my first time posting here, so apologies if i mess something up.

last october i (20f) started seeing this guy (21m) at my college which i transferred to in the fall; he's my first boyfriend and the first man i've ever been intimate with. he's so amazing and i love being with him, it's been such a great time.

we have sex on a pretty regular basis, and i would say we're pretty sexually compatible, we both enjoy it a lot, overall it's usually a good time when we have sex.

my only real concern is with how i receive pleasure and respond to touch. i started masturbating at 13 when i got my hands on a vibrator, and for a long time that is how i did it, and that's how i've always been able to orgasm. there has been a few times when i've gotten close using just my fingers for clitoral stimulation. additionally, my partner has gotten me close a few times with manual stimulation on the clit. during oral, i absolutely love when he does certain things with his tounge, and there have been a few times where i felt close to orgasm when receiving oral.

with internal stimulation, either through PIV or fingering, i feel like i've almost gotten close but at the same time it feels like a strong urge to pee, and the stimulation gets to be too much so i have to stop. it still feels really good but i'm not sure what to do about it.

my partner does make me cum, he just uses a vibrator on me (either just vibe or during PIV) which he is happy to do. that being said, the goal of this post isn't to complain about my sex life; i'm pretty satisfied. i just want to know if i'm just not able to orgasm from anything that isn't a vibrator, or if i'm just too dependent on the vibrator. have years of vibrator use fucked up my sensitivity? is there something wrong with my body? i would really love to be able to come without the vibrator. any advice or suggestions are heavily appreciated.

also, vibrators and sex toys are some of the best inventions ever, so no matter what i'd never give up vibrators completely, lol, i love vibrators. i just wanna know what it's like to orgasm from another sensation. it might be psychological, because i start feeling like i'm taking too long to come when my partner is pleasuring me.

again, any help is much appreciated <3

I (18 F) can't really cum during sex like ever. It doesn't ever feel that good. Usually I'd rather just touch myself than have sex. My bf gets annoyed when I ask him to slow down and likes to have sex in a very fast way because he doesn't feel anything otherwise. It hurts but he says it's because I'm still too tight. I don't know what to even do about that. I gag during BJs and he has to push my head to get a good rhythm which I hate because it reminds me of my past ED and makes me feel unloved. He constantly reminds me of how I need to get better at sex and I think I'm just bad at it because it isn't what I expected it to be. he would rather watch porn than have sex with me. It's like my body shuts down when I get naked with him. No girl I know is having this much trouble with it.

This guy I'm seeing really likes to explore different sensations especially during foreplay. He loves when I bite him and scratch him up during sex, but I've been trying to think of some fun sensations to explore other than those two things. He really likes the pain, to the point where he's asked me to make him bleed when I scratch him. I don't think it's necessarily about being submissive for him, but more about the physical feelings.

Any ideas to help spice things up?

Sometimes I hear about women complaining that their boyfriends stick it in when they're not wet. Which make me think a little, because that sounds really painful, but they don't talk about that. If I'm not dripping wet touching down there is painful.

Touching too hard is painful, knuckles bending while fingering is painful, the lips getting caught during PIV is painful, getting stroked with dry fingers is painful, touching the clit when it's not aroused is painful. Is this not normal?

A couple of days ago me (F18) and my BF (M19) of 6 months tried to have PIV sex for the first time. Note that he was my first everything, my first handholding, first kiss, first relationship in general. I genuiely trust him and want to have sex with him. That day everything was going great, we've been fooling around for a couple of hours at this point, we've done some oral. I was very aroused and felt like I was ready, so I asked him to put it in. He was gentle, klnda managed to slide it in, but it was extremely painful, although we used lots of lube. He's not huge (about 6 inches), but it felt like we were showing a whole fist down there. It was quite surpising, because I'm able to fit in three of my fingers and two of his. At this point I already felt my eyes tearing. So we called it a day. When I vent to peed, I've noticed minor bleeding as well. Came back, curled up on the bed and proceeded to ugly cry in front of him for about 15 minutes. I'm not sure what emotions I felt exactly, I just felt an urge to weep. But then I thought like It's just so pathetic that I'm crying in front of my BF for seemingly no reason, felt a wave of sadness and proceeded to cry more. I always knew that my first time wasn't going to be this special romcom thingy with rose petals on the bed, but I didn't expect it to be that terrible. Luckily my BF is a compassionate person who actually cares about me. He brought me some water, wipes and cuddled with me until I calmed down. He is a true gentleman. Not to brag, but I've still managed to make him cum 3 times that day.

This situation got me thinking. Yes, I'm aware about post-coital dysphoria, but if I understand correctly, PCD usually happens after orgasm. I'm still not sure about the reason as to why I broke down that day. BF suggest that it was a mix of pain and me being nervous about the deed and then being upset about not managing to fit his dick in. Anyway, I'd like to prevent this from happening again and I would also love it if my BF would be able to fuck me with his penis.

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So, have you ever cried after sex? Was there a particular reason in your opinion? How can I prevent crying? Maybe you have any recommendations about doing PIV specifically? Obviously, we're going to try putting it in again. I would like to read about your experiences. Thank you in advance and thank you for providing me an opportunity to vent. I love this sub.

Im 19 and ive been able to orgasm from masturbating before just clitoral stimulation but not its like i cant feel anything 😭

Hey there , do u guys have the PDF version of squirt, shake and scream by Sean jameson, I couldn't buy it cuz I am lil late on my money, it will be of great help if u share it...!

I’m an amateur when it comes to giving oral, I’ve done it like 4 or 5 times maybe? I have never successfully made a guy finish, and I really want to. I’ve tried 3 different times with my bf and nothing happened obviously. I was so embarrassed the last time I started to cry, and he felt bad because of it. He said it was fine and he enjoyed himself, but neither of us were completely satisfied. The biggest problems for me is I have a small mouth (said to me by my dentist), and I don’t want to trigger my gag reflex and have a mess everywhere. I have a really bad gag reflex so I use mouth numbing spray which works for like 3 minutes before I have to use more, but I don’t completely trust it. Any tips?

I have finally noticed that for years when i have intercourse with a partner and we are using condoms such as magnums or Trojan i can’t enjoy the sex for more than 5 minutes. It started about 5 years ago where in the beginning i would be fine and i wouldn’t need lube at all but after about 5 minutes of going at it, i start to dry out really bad to the point it burned if we continued. Once i got my serious boyfriend after a while we stopped using them and i never had that issue. But with my most recent ex we had the same issue with condoms. I searched up if it’s a sign of a latex allergy because i have that issue with latex making my hands red and itchy when wearing gloves. But i didn’t see anything about “drying up” during sex from latex condoms. Does anyone else have this issue?

Hi there. To start, thanks for taking the time to look into this with me.

I am 26 and have PTSD from childhood sexual trauma. I am currently in the healthiest, happiest relationship I've ever been in with a wonderful man who is attentive to my needs as someone with PTSD. We've been dating for over 5 years, living together for two. I love him, and I honestly love having sex with him, but more often than not it's really, really painful for me!

I've worked with a pelvic floor physical therapist who taught me to relax my muscles so they won't contract and cause me pain. I bought a vaginal dilator that helps me stretch before we start which helps a lot. Sex has gotten less painful since then, but it still hurts when he moves. He's very patient with me and will sit and wait for me to get more comfortable (or we just end sex and masturbate together if it takes too long), but I really want him to be able to enjoy himself, too (we've talked before, and I know that it's friction on his penis that he likes the most).

A few days ago I got an IUD put in, and the pelvic exam hurt far worse than the speculum. I was thinking about it afterward, and I realized that the doctor's gloves were extremely textured. When she touched me it felt like the area was burning (before you ask, no, I'm not allergic to silicone as far as I know). The vaginal dilator is smooth plastic, but another toy I had bought when we first started experimenting has a texture similar to skin, and that also caused me pain, so we stopped using it.

The more I think about it, the more certain I am that texture (or friction caused by texture) is what's causing me pain when we have sex, and I'm trying to figure out ways to get around it, or train my body to accept that it's not harmful. I don't think my vagina's particularly dry ... and we've tried lubes before but it hasn't helped (often, it makes things worse ...).

Has anyone else experienced this before? Do you have any suggestions?

would love any tips you all have on how to have more exciting orgasms!!

I (24f) can get myself to orgasm pretty easily just with clitoral stimulation in about 5 minutes. the orgasms are good, but nothing to write home about.

when my bf fingers me or goes down on me (again just clitoral), the come up lasts longer and is more pleasurable and the orgasm is (sometimes) better but again nothing that’s ever made me want to scream or anything like that.

both my bf and i have explored internal stimulation through fingers and piv and i just can’t get it to do anything for me even though i want it to! i’ve also never had multiple orgasms in one session - i get too sensitive. not sure if that’s a feeling i should push through?

any tips on how you guys have those insane mind blowing orgasms? really just want to unlock what my body is capable of and have a better time with my partner :) tysm!!!

Hey everyone! I have never been able to have penetrative sex because I have a microperforate hymen, where my hymen is essentially blocking anything larger than a tampon from going inside. I’m working on lining up a surgery date to have my hymen removed but I am not sure when/how long it might be until I can have it done. I’m in a really great relationship with a guy who has been happy to wait, but we haven’t really been able to have a reciprocal sense of sexual intimacy because of my condition.

Do you guys have any tips for good “sex” / intimacy in general that’s not PIV? I’m really not into receiving oral (it’s just okay), but we haven’t really explored much else because not much else is possible. I would love to hear some other ideas and I’m really open to anything. Thanks for any tips and for non-judgment :)

I had sex for the with my boyfriend last night, and that was the first time he and I were together. But he came after less than 20 seconds. We made out first which he was good at (not mind blowing but I enjoyed it). And it felt okay when he was inside, but I’m serious, It was over before I could even begin to get close to anything. Less than 20 seconds. He didn’t seem embarrassed… which makes me worried it’s normal for him. Is this a bad sign? Or is this normal in your experience? Thank you!

literally what is it ?? how do you know you had one ??? how do people normally feel if they’re going to orgasm ??? can girls even control when they’ll orgasm ???

edit : i deleted most of the tmi stuff but i still have questions. how fast can you orgasm again after orgasming once ??? i tried to focus more on the feelings after reading the comments but i’m still not sure if it’s exactly an orgasm.

i’ve been seeing this guy since like december. i always have quite an issues with orgasming, but this is the first guy where i’ve felt super comfortable and cared for, so i feel like it should be easier with him. it can sometimes feel really really good but i still feel like i have to focus so hard to cum. he’s only made me get there once and i’ve also only been able to get myself there once around him. does anyone know what i could do??