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43 [M4F] Jersey City, NYC, Online

Married, polyamorous, dating solo, no vetos. I sing tenor with a rock choir and cabaret in NYC, and love karaoke. You can find me walking in Jersey City, petting stranger's dogs, and making faces at babies.

Please be 33-53 years old. (My age ± 10)

I have a 4 year old weekly podcast with my best friend, about if old movies still work.

I can regularly spend 2 nights a week, and at least one weekend day.

I can even host sometimes! It just takes some planning.

Longer periods/trips/vacations are absolutely on the table, provided everyone can afford to pay for it. Rarely, I can foot the bill for such myself.

I'm more than happy to spend time helping with chores and errands.

I'm a pretty universal acceptor of love languages, but I speak acts of service fluently. Helping share the day-to-day is delightful to me.

  • Partners: 1 (as of 10/30/24)
  • 🏠 Jersey City, McGinley Square
  • 💼 NYC, Manhattan, Lincoln Square
  • 🏭 Utility, Technical, Supervisor
  • ⚖️ Anti-fascist, Socialist
  • ⚛️ Atheism (not a religion)
  • 💡 Humanism, Skepticism
  • 🎗️ Anti-Racism, LGBTQ & Reproductive Rights
  • 🎲 Veteran, Vaccinated, Voter
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2024/10/30
16:48 UTC

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27 [F4M] #houston looking for a dom/boyfriend

Hello! I'm a 27f near SE Houston. I have a partner I'm currently living with. I'm seeking a dominant guy for a relationship. Please be close to houston.

I am on disability for PTSD and am very much a homebody. I enjoy cooking, baking, coloring, Disney movies, reading, and crafts. For the time being, I cannot host.

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2024/10/30
14:51 UTC

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31 [M4F] #Poughkeepsie, NY #HudsonValley - Looking for my person!

Hi!

I'm a 31 year old man, looking to meet other polyamorous people in the Hudson Valley.

I'm 6' tall, a bit overweight, wear glasses, and I generally have short hair!

A bit about me! I'm a complete nerd, love sci-fi, all things tech, classic rock and more! I own my own house and work in the tech industry! Ask me how many instruments I can play!

As for what I'm looking for, I currently have two non-nesting partners and would love to find a nesting partner for myself and my person!

I'm a pretty kinky and a switch, though dom leaning as of late!

Happy to exchange pictures once we talk a bit!

Hope to talk soon!

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2024/10/30
13:24 UTC

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33[F4M] #Austin Texas #online ENM Asian woman looking for another partner

Hello, I’m Melody.

I’m in an ethically non monogamous/ Polyamorous marriage. What this means is although I am happily married and love my husband dearly I would like another partner to enhance my life emotionally and sexually.

A little about me. I post spicy pics on Reddit as I am an exhibitionist. When checking my profile please recognize my profile is NSFW. There are SFW pics there, but only a few.

I love board games(terraforming mars, not monopoly) , karaoke, music, and going to concerts. Dancing poorly at said concerts, music festivals, and raves. I love fantasy, fiction, sci fi, true crime, historical documentaries, historical romance and modern romance when consuming media whether that be books, podcasts, movies or tv shows.

I do not support trump and do not want any trump supporters in my inbox please.

I am open minded, but if I am not physically attracted to you it probably won’t work out, just as you’ve gotten to see me and know you’re attracted to me, please reply with a photo so I can see if I am attracted to you. I promise discretion. Tell me a little bit about yourself. Be older than 22 years old. Be a good, honest, communicator. It takes 2 seconds to text “I’ll be busy for a few hours” instead of being left on read.

I welcome other ENM/ Poly folk. I do not want to join an existing couple to date more than one person at this time, that is a little overwhelming for me. So if you are ENM/ Poly I ask that it just be a 1 on 1 situation.

When messaging me recognize this is an emotions and relationships and companionship comes first relationship I am after. The fact that I am an insatiable nympho is a bonus and should be taken that way.

In your message to me please put the word “intrigued” in your chat to me. Do not send a DM, send a chat request please.

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2024/10/30
12:47 UTC

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35 [M4F] #Louisiana - Nerdy teddybear daddy looking for his found family.

Hey there, I’m Mark. I am a 35, cis male/AMAB, and pansexual. I’m polyam and married. My husband (transmasc non-binary) is also polyam. He’s my best friend and my rock and fully supportive of my search for new connections. I am openly poly in public, but I understand and will cooperate if you need discretion. I mention this because I want to be upfront: I’ve had a vasectomy, I do not have, nor am I interested in children. I would prefer my partners be local or in a surrounding area. This is very important to me as LDRs are very hard for me. But if you find me interesting, please feel free to reach out!

I am not looking for a unicorn to fix our relationship, nor are we looking for a living sex toy to throw aside once we’ve had our fun. I am looking for a loving and long term relationship with someone who is open to kitchen table polyamory at the very least. We see each pairing in a relationship as its own entity and take care to treat each partner with the respect they deserve. If you choose to engage with me I will make it a priority to communicate fully and openly with you about pretty much any topic. I love long running conversations. I love to share and hear others share their passions. I’m more than happy to provide verification pics for both myself and my husband.

I also want to mention I’m not a big fan of piercings. Ears and nose I can handle but I have a visceral reaction that I can’t really control to other piercings. It’s nothing personal, and more power to those who have and enjoy them.

I do not smoke, and rarely drink. I am 4/20 friendly. I understand that’s not for everyone, and to each their own.

Now, if that sounds like a good time to you, on to the bio stuff!

I live in Louisiana. I am 5’9, and a bigger guy who carries it well. Affectionately described by my husband to have a heavyset strongman build. Cool blue eyes and a salt and peppered beard. I love puns and cracking witty jokes to make others laugh (or groan). I’m a soft guy who loves to take care of others and wants the best for pretty much everyone. I am loyal to a fault and will do my best to take care of my partners at any distance in any way I can.

In between jobs due to downsizing. I do have a degree in history and taught high school for a few years, but Louisiana isn’t a great place to teach so I switched careers.

Nerdy things are my bread and butter. My house is decorated with comics, figures, models, and other nerdy ephemera. My all time favorite series is One Piece and my comfort show is Bob’s Burgers. I often will go on deep dives through youtube to learn more about different things I enjoy as I have an unquenchable thirst for knowledge.

On the kinkier side of things, I consider myself a soft dom/caregiver type. I love providing structure for my partners and giving them as much love and attention as I have in me. If you’re willing to discuss more in depth about kinks, go for it! I’d prefer we have some in common in that regard, but I have an open mind and I’ll try anything twice.

If you decide to engage here are some questions to start our chat, but feel free to ask me anything. I believe in being an open book. Please be willing to provide a picture.

What do you do for work? How long? What is your ideal first date? If you could live anywhere, where would that be? What do you consider your ideal poly relationship and/or living arrangement?

Okay! That’s all from me. I really hope to hear from you! 😁

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2024/10/30
06:53 UTC

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32 [M4F] #Las Vegas #Nevada #online Looking for a serious/romantic relationship.

Hello! My name is Taylor I also go by Tay. Thank you for checking out my post. Taking another attempt but this time in a Tuesday lol.

I am hoping to find someone who is local or close by that I can have a serious/romantic relationship with however if there's someone online that I really click with i don't mind long distance. Preferably this is both a LTR and kinky relationship but I really just want to find someone who I can click with and is consistent and interested. I am the type of person who wants to actually build a real and serious relationship with someone. I have never been for the whole if it's not easy it's not worth it mind set. Definitely would like the same in the partner I am looking for. I think the only things from me would be a cis/trans woman preferably within the 25-40 age range. I am not picky on looks but I would like there to be some level of physical attraction between us.

I am a 32 white male, currently living in southern side of Las Vegas. I am 5'9" tall with an average body type. Currently doing home workouts but planning on going to the gym. Could absolutely use a gym partner.

I am a big nerd. I love my video games, TTRPG and just board games in general. If you are curious I really play everything cause there's something to be loved. But I mostly play like WoW, Monster hunter, Diablo, Pokemon, Civ6, and total Warhammer 3. I love Catan and puzzles. I want to get into Warhammer. I work in IT it's the field that I am passionate about and work hard for. I was lucky enough to get a remote position so I do have lots of time to give. Personality wise, I am a homebody I find it relaxing and fun but I do enjoy going out. I'm an engineer at heart so breaking things and fixing them and improving them is a lot of fun. I think I'm funny but pretty dry humor that'll chuckle if someone shouts penis 🤷🏻‍♂️ what you gonna do.

I do ask if you message to tell me a bit about yourself and at least age, sex, location. Helps with moving the conversation other than hello. Feel free to ask me any questions as well. I do enjoy responding to more effort and questions about me.

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2024/10/30
05:08 UTC

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29 [M4F] West Virginia / Online - WV-based Creative Seeking Laid-Back and Fun Connections

Hey there! I’m a 29-year-old polyamorous soul from West Virginia, open to a bit of distance if it feels right. I’m looking for lasting connections with people who enjoy good conversation, laughter, and a mix of playfulness and real talk.

A little about me:

  • Creative at heart—I make music, craft unique vinyl creations (especially D&D-themed), and am slowly building my Etsy shop.
  • I’m a huge gamer! When I’m not diving into D&D sessions, you can find me gaming, watching movies/TV, or enjoying a good book.
  • Bonus points if you play Guild Wars 2 and want to team up for some adventures!
  • Personality-wise, I’m super chatty, honest, and flirty, with a love for banter and deeper conversations.

What I’m looking for:

  • Someone who’s kind, open, and down-to-earth.
  • Is creative, ideally a bit of a nerd at heart, and has a sense of humor.
  • Can handle the chatty, laid-back energy I bring—and maybe even wants to explore D&D, gaming, or crafting together.

Let’s grab a virtual coffee, exchange stories, and see where things go!

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2024/10/30
03:45 UTC

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32 [M4F] NYC - Big Nerdy Bear Looking to talk and more

That’s it! I love nerdy things. I love taking about them or things associating with them. I want to meet a woman who is excitable about some of the things I am or even partakes in some of the same hobbies. Of course, have your own life and interests but something like tabletop rpg's is such a big social thing for me, it would be nice to share for example some of the stuff I enjoy...

Dungeons and Dragons! I love it. I enjoy other tabletop rpg systems in general but it’s a big part of my life and it would be wonderful to meet someone who is into the hobby as well. I also try other systems as well like Cyberpunk Red and Call of Cthulhu. And so many more, I also really like showing people and teaching them.

 

I like reading. I’ve gotten back into reading since covid. It made it hard but I’m in a book club for less serious material. It’s once a month and I always look forward to it.

I LOVE Star Wars. Unfortunately i do, I can’t help it. I’m an Episode 8 defender but sadly most of the new shows aren’t kind of average. Andor is incredible nd I will love it for ever. Love the games, the TTRPG’s and everything about it. Someday I’ll go to Star Wars celebration.

Video games! Naturally I play video games. Currently playing Helldivers and Cyberpunk 2077. I enjoy Halo infinite and other co-op stuff. I’m trying to stream on twitch now even but I still feel awkward.

More important stuff

 

Look, I am fat. Not chubby. Just fat. I’m not ashamed of it. I have no health issues but I am working on losing weight because damn, since quitting my career (yes I have quit) I realized I really wore myself out. I was mentally and physically exhausted from my career and it made me just well get up in weight.

I like being with friends. I’m social but introverted. I like to call people. I like to hang out and watch movies. I like talking over a drink for hours. I have a great group of friends and we’re all a bunch of nerds. And some more stuff central to me. I’m Latino, progressive/liberal, vaccinated, and just assume i support BLM, LGBTQ+, women’s rights, and Free Palestine. I love my city. While I don’t have plans to leave anytime soon I would for the right reasons such as a new career, partner, or Nintendo calls me up and asks me to advise on the next Zelda.

  • I like animals.
  • I prefer calling over texting but will text
  • I enjoy music but I generally like it quiet near me if I am alone
  • I am 420 friendly, I do like edibles and some other stuff but it's not really a habit I partake in regularly
  • I'm mostly Child-Free, I am open to children but I am seriously considering getting snipped
  • Love Languages: Spending time together and physical touch
  • I generally don't like getting gifts (unless if the gift is food)...I just hate having too much stuff
  • I am generally a homebody but if you are outdoorsy, like to be out, I will 90% of the time join you unless if I am feeling socialized out

 

Anyway, that’s me. If you message me, please actually say more than one sentence, give me your age, location, and a selfie or I will not respond.

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2024/10/30
03:05 UTC

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34 [F4F] East Coast Central Florida - Looking to Let the Love Out

Heyo, heyo. Just a human on the hunt for a connection. Always sort of on the lookout for my people. Missing a bit of touch and somewhere to show love lately

Currently single. Usually single. If I’m honest, I have given the wrong people too many chances. Trying to be more selective moving forward. Hopefully a long term, deep connection can grow. Open to casual too as long as the affection is there

I love cartoons and anime. Not really a gamer, but I’d totally cuddle up and watch you play. Do love board, card, or dice games though

Beachy type. Gardens and nature trails. Anything where we can listen to the sounds of nature and trade cool rocks and sticks. Will totally penguin pebble my partners. Let’s touch some moss

Kind of a sparse post. I’ve made a few over the years that are still pretty accurate if you’d like to read more. At least one has a massive set of content with easy and intentional formatting

Open to DMs and sharing pics after some chat. Quite open, so ask me anything

Central Florida area. Prefer someone(s) local

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2024/10/30
00:50 UTC

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25 [FtM4M/R] MA/Online: Looking for someone who knows what "FTM" means

Hi, I'm Fern. I crack jokes that don't always land to make myself laugh, get way too excited about the mundane facets of life and am great at shoving my foot in my mouth at the worst possible moments. Nice to meet you!

In all seriousness, best way to describe myself would be awkward, goofy and optimistic (read: autistic). Nonjudgmental and actively supportive, I pride myself on being a decent-good hype man. 😎

I game and draw in my free time when it's cold out, I hike and camp when it's not. Casual enjoyer of music and a lot of other things.

...I also have a cat? That I can take pictures of for you I guess?

Feel free to drop in and say hi if any of that makes me out to look like friend material/you know what FtM means (preferably both but I'll take either).

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2024/10/30
00:06 UTC

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42 [m4f]bay area cali

I’m a nerdy goofy maker in the bay area of cali. My wife and i have been together for 24 year and ploy for 3 years now. I’m looking for a like minded partner nerdy artist or maker . I so wood working build and work with cncs , movie props and sfx. I love comic books and video games and have a large collection of both. I’m more of a stay in and chill then go out doing crazy things.

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2024/10/29
23:08 UTC

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32 [M4F] India/Anywhere - Seeking a Co-Conspirator ( Primary ) for Life's Grand Adventure

I'm a bisexual man who believes that end goal of relationship is to liberate, and that life is too short for small talk and bad coffee. Looking for someone to debate whether consciousness is an emergent property while trying to figure out why we bought so many houseplants.

About Me:

  • Professional: Into Engineering and tech, attempting to be a renaissance person ( just starting this journey though )
  • Can explain both quantum physics and why I cried during Pixar movies
  • Have been working on dismantling patriarchal conditioning
  • 5'8" of curiosity, look decent ( with cute dimples ) and contradictions
  • Actually enjoys reading the articles, not just the headlines
  • Will absolutely get excited about your passions

What Makes My Brain Light Up:

  • Trading book recommendations that will make our "to-read" piles even more dangerous
  • Exploring ethical frameworks for relationships while trying new cuisines
  • Finding joy in both structured learning and chaotic creativity
  • Understanding that sometimes the best conversations happen at 2 AM

Looking For a Partner Who:

  • Has strong opinions about Oxford commas
  • Understands that independence doesn't mean emotional unavailability
  • Gets excited about learning random new things (Did you know octopuses have three hearts?)
  • Values therapy and emotional growth work
  • Can laugh at themselves while taking important things seriously
  • Believes in dismantling systemic inequalities while occasionally binge-watching trashy TV
  • Understands that ethical non-monogamy requires more communication, not less

Green Flags I Look For:

  • Bookshelf ( or kindle or calibre ) is an eclectic mix of genres
  • Therapy and emotional intelligence
  • You've your own life, passions, and friendships

If you're interested in building something meaningful with plenty of laughter, deep conversations, and mutual growth.

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2024/10/29
20:11 UTC

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33 [M4F] New England- Exploring History, Ideas, and New Connections

Hey there! I’m a 33-year-old Chicano residing in New England. I am also a PhD candidate in history and I am deeply passionate about exploring the world—both through travel and in the pages of books. When I’m not buried in research, you’ll find me hiking, camping, or enjoying a good film or music session.

I’m a Marxist and a firm believer in polyamory. I have been polyamorous for over a decade. I am currently married and looking to add more meaningful connections to my life. Ideally, I’m hoping to meet someone between 25-36 who shares similar left-leaning values and is located in the US Northeast-although not opposed to long distance situations.

If you love cats, cerebral conversations, and a bit of adventure, let’s chat!

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2024/10/29
20:01 UTC

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32 [F4R] #Canada #Online - Partnered and looking for new connections in the community!

Hi hi!!

Happy Tuesday

I’m looking for people who are poly to get to know - if you’re close to me meeting up isn’t out of the question but I don’t have much interest in a long distance relationship at this time.

Getting to know people on a deeper level than just the surface “what’s you’re favourite colour” sort of questions is something I really love to do.

I really enjoy listening to what people are passionate about and having people to chat with throughout the day.

I’ve worked from home since the summer of 2020 and while I do have a fairly active social life outside of work, I still miss the chatter that happens when you’re around other people during the day!

A little about me:

  • I am an AFAB Enby Person - my pronouns are they/them
  • I am becoming an avid reader again. I’m currently reading The Prank by LV Matthews
  • I love to share music and am a serial playlist maker when I get to know someone well
  • I love to paint and write - I have been working on a drawing challenge throughout the month of October and I’d love to get some ideas for a project for November!
  • Food is one of my love languages and I love spending time in the kitchen! I do a big meal prep every week and it’s my favourite part of the week
  • I started playing Pokémon Violet a couple of months ago and I am a cozy gamer for the most part but I love hearing about what other people are playing!
  • I am poly and happily partnered - I am a firm believer than love multiplies and we practice kitchen table poly. We have great open and honest communication and I’d love to have that with others.

About you:

  • someone between the ages of 30-45 (I find that’s who I get along with best) from any time zone and of any gender
  • passionate about what you do or passionate about what you do in your spare time
  • emotionally intelligent with a good understanding of boundaries
  • willing to put in effort to communicate (one sided conversations are no fun)

If this sounds like something you’re interested in, feel free to get in touch with me! I’d love to hear from you!

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2024/10/29
18:22 UTC

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29 [m4f] looking for a long term relationship in indiana

Hello I'm from central Indiana and looking for someone to have a real and long relationship with. I love the outdoors, d&d, playing video games, music, and simply just hanging out. I love animals, own 3 cats, I play most games and am currently into black ops 6 probably until mario and Luigi brothership comes out. I love all music except for country and rap. I'm mostly into metal and also play drums. I've been married for 5 years to a girl I've known for 13 years. She's monogomous but is very aware of me being poly and is fine with making friends. If any of this sounds appealing to you feel free to dm me. :)

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2024/10/29
16:20 UTC

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36 [m4f] #phillyarea looking for an awesome partner to do cool things with.

Hey I’m looking for consistent, relationship. Someone I can actually be friends with I want us to to enjoy the time we spend together. It would be cool to go on little dates to coffee shops or go for hikes with. I would love a gym partner. It would be awesome if you were into martial arts as well but not a deal breaker. I’m into fitness like weight training, running and martial arts. I do kickboxing 3-4 times a week.I also have a pretty sick vegetable garden and i absolutely love my two dogs Buckshot and Frankie.

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2024/10/29
16:13 UTC

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34 [F4A] Neurodivergent from Texas Seeking a Deep connection with Fun and Positive vibes!! Planes are a thing I don't care where you are.

I am realizing that I am different than the collective. This internet thing is causing me to feel like I can't connect with people and I may just have to be brave enough to say F this lol and just walk in a crowded space and go "Does anyone want to flirt and have a great chill vibe with fun and adventure? I can bake cookies." (If you like oatmeal raisin you will have to bake your own 😂). I actually want to get off my phone and meet others. No I don't want to sit at home every single day and play Fortnite. I want to hang out and learn about each other's lives and have experiences that we go "oh man this is amazing!! We need to do this again!! Add it to the list cause we are already booked" lol. 🤣🤣 I ACTUALLY do stuff. Randomly went Boston last week just because I wanted to go to somewhere that looked like fall 😂. I'm not afraid to save money and go and do shit. My favorite quote "Just do the thing!!"

If you are down for fun and positive vibes I'm your girl! I don't care about what has happened to you in the past. You are you and I am me.. and we are in this together! We are humans and we want connection. Hell sometimes need the connection. I need that flirty banter back and forth where we tease each other and make fun of each other for being all into one another.. yeah that, give me that 😂

I am not going to sit here and go 'my favorite color is this.. my favorite food is this'. I don't have an awesome resume for other humans. Infact... let's start off with "what is your biggest fear in life" message me that if you have read this far. I enjoy conversation but don't make my back hurt even worse than it already does..by having me carrying the conversation. If you have nothing to say, SKIP ME. I also seek a person with no drama.... even partners. If you can't be open with yourself and your partner(s) ...SKIP ME. I don't do APs! (Affair partners for those in the back lol ) Yes I am poly! If that is not okay with you, skip me. If you are trying to get me to date two people at the exact same time....Skip me. Don't try to trauma bond with me, Skip me. If you need to talk about sex right away, skip me. If you never ever want to meet in person, skip me. Lol. IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT....SKIP ME. Psss..1) if you are interested I would suggest looking up the word neurodivergent/Neurospicy and 2) dont just comment. I probably won't respond. Just DM. Just do the thing! 🤣

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2024/10/29
14:59 UTC

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40 [M4F] #Kansas City area, Warmth and comfort

Being polyamorous for about seven years now, I've had far too many come and go in my life. I'd like to find someone who would rather stay in my life than just pass through. I'm not a bad guy, just more chill and laid back than most would think. Granted, I have my exciting outings from time to time, but ultimately, I am mostly homebody, cuddle up, and enjoy my time. I can cook, sew, make good coffee and tea, woodworking, and a few other few crafting things as well as just have nice conversation. I'm hoping to meet a new best friend, but I'm alright with just a new friend to curl up with. I look forward to talking with you. DM me, please.

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2024/10/29
05:10 UTC

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25 [f4R] -southern oklahoma northern texas.

I f25 am looking for a partner or partners in southern oklahoma northern texas for a kitchen table or garden table non hierarchical relationship i like hunting fishing camping cooking and baking i am a bbw. I am hard of hearing and wear hearing aids. If u would like to know more about me my dms are open

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2024/10/29
04:17 UTC

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32 [F4M] #Illinois/Online - Married poly woman looking for long-term boyfriend/partner

Hi! I’m Emily, I’m 32 and live in the central east part of Illinois. I have quite a bit of experience with long distance relationships and as a Midwesterner, I love a good road trip, so I am open to people pretty much anywhere in the continental US. I’m open to online only if that’s how it works out, but I’m also down to travel and meet up with the right person.

I’ve been married almost 14 years and we have been nonmonogamous/poly for the majority of that time(started out ENM and then switched to poly after about a year). We date separately. I would prefer something long-term because I am someone who tends to get attached and don’t just jump from relationship to relationship. The two most important things I’m looking for though are consistency and communication. Almost everything else is negotiable.

I’m gonna do the rest of this in list form because that is the best way to do it without turning this post into a novel.

About me:

  • 5’2”, BBW, long dark blond/light brown hair, blue eyes, glasses

  • I love to cook a wide variety of food and feeding people is one of my favorite ways to show love

  • Horror movies are my jam even though I am a big baby when it comes to gore and will often end up watching some scenes through my fingers or over the top of the blanket I’m shielding my face with

  • I’m a gamer. Mostly cozy games because I use it as a way to de-stress

  • I’m a big football fan. Specifically cheer for the Pittsburgh Steelers.

  • Cat person, with two cats who I consider my babies. But I don’t dislike dogs either

  • As far left politically as you can possibly imagine

  • 420 friendly, very occasional drinker but no problem with people who drink more often

Who I’m looking for:

  • A man between the ages of 30-45ish(the lower end of that range is more firm than the upper end)

  • No specific physical must haves, it’s more about personality for me, but if you have facial hair you get bonus points, and you get even more if it’s well-maintained

  • Not a requirement by any means but I would love to find somebody who wanted to game with me, I play a lot of cozy games that support multiplayer like Minecraft and Stardew Valley so more bonus points if you would be open to playing with me

  • Someone who is not conservative politically. There are some things I will agree to disagree on, but I will never click with someone who feels that human rights are debatable

  • At least somewhat kinky. I don’t have any kinks that I would consider dealbreakers if a partner wasn’t into them, but at this point I don’t think I could do “strictly vanilla” either. If you are interested in/open to DD/lg, more bonus points. Since there are limits to what I'm allowed to say here, if you would like to know more, check out my BDSMpersonals post because it goes into a bit more detail.

  • Someone who has free time to commit to a relationship. Obviously I’m married and have other IRL commitments so I don’t expect 24/7 constant communication but I do want regular daily or at least every other day conversations. In the beginning this will probably be mostly text/chat because that is my comfort level but eventually I am open to phone/video calls as well

If that second list describes you and you’re interested in the first list, feel free to DM me. I’m looking forward to hearing from you!

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2024/10/29
02:28 UTC

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26 [F4M] Online/New York

Hello! I'm Mercedes, a 5'11 big girl who's looking for a new connection!

I'm with my long-term partner (NB27) and my boyfriend (M31) but I'm looking for some new connections.

Some of my interests: Board games (like a huge variety), cats, music, crystals, tattoos, piercings, unhinged memes, TikTok, coffee/energy drinks and reading.

About me: I have brown hair typically but I do love dying my hair. Hazel eyes that get called pretty often. I'm a hopeless romantic who loves to cuddle, go on cute dates, send sweet memes/TikToks, I'm loyal and empathetic (almost to a fault), I cannot stand dry conversations, I tend to wear shorts and t-shirts because they're comfy. I'm not religious and I don't care about politics. I'm also a mom!

What I'm looking for: I would love someone who will let me be clingy, respond in a timely manner (or let me know that you're away/busy), have a dark sense of humor, and is open and honest, I tend to prefer thick body types but I'm more into your personality!

I'm currently looking for online and long-term, but I'd love some new friends, and would be interested in-person if we hit it off, shoot your shot ☺️

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2024/10/28
23:22 UTC

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42 [M4F] Michigan/Online - Active and energetic dad looking for virtual partner

Hello! I hope this message finds you well. It is spooky season, aka the best season, and I would love to try and find a fun and loving connection. I love the good mornings/nights, I love to hear random thoughts and share random pictures. I don’t fear the feelings, nor should you. Having your partner’s blessing is huge as that seems to cause troubles from time to time. I don’t mind sharing pictures early to see if you have an attraction, no rush for you, but mutual attraction is important.

Me: I'm married to my best friend who dates separately. A fun and energetic dad of three humans and 2 cats. I live an active lifestyle so always on the move. I love to bring on the HYPE! I enjoy being outside, especially the beach. My look: Above average height, muscular but not beefcake, a few tattoos, rock the backwards hat, enjoyer of t-shirts and gym shorts. Love all sorts of rock music and will happily share my playlist or song that makes my booty move. I enjoy Lego, board games, D&D, I have a switch and play PC games from time to time.

Who I'm looking for: Preferably another parent since there seems to be a bit of an understanding there. Ideally EST. Someone who also enjoys being active, I'm not concerned with the numbers on the scale or what type of workout, I just love hearing about it and your goals. An overall positive outlook and vibe. While I don't mind a bit of "Black Cat" to my "Golden Retriever" energy, this should be FUN! Bonus points for being Alt/Spooky, piercings and tattoos.

Shoot me a chat and let's see if we vibe! Happy Halloween Everyone!

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2024/10/28
22:36 UTC

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36 [M4RR] Texas - Nerdy guy seeks LTR with couple or single for potential triad/throuple

I'm making this post in the hope of finding a partner to be my person for a LTR or if you are averse to something serious, we can talk about any other labels/avenues/ideas you have or are open to. We don't have to be alone lol. Let's enjoy all that 2024 has left to offer while we decide! Only 2 months to go sadly. I'm down to grab a cider or hot chocolate in some quaint small out of the way town. Who doesn't want to enjoy some hot beverage while browsing through some old shops (sample some fudge in a general store and grab some old-fashioned whatchamacallit) with some light hand holding? Ooooh maybe a kiss? Maybe try a corn maze or pumpkin patch if it's cool enough outside? I'm always down for some adventure. lol

To start I have to disclose that I mainly like women, but I also like a very, very, very specific type of guy and certain trans men as I'm partially bi. (I'd rather be upfront about it as it's been a dealbreaker for most women in the past for some reason) Chances are you aren't that type but feel free to ask if you are. (Didn’t want to offend anyone so I’d rather say in private) Just throwing that out there as it's a deal breaker for most women in general. Which why would it be? The number one reason I get is I'm going to cheat on them with a guy if we were to date. As if being bi has any bearing on cheating and not the person's character.

I'm a 36-year-old guy living in the middle-ish of Texas looking for a female partner. Partner as in LTR. That's Long-Term Relationship meaning boyfriend and girlfriend and holding hands type of stuff. You know, adult things? I had someone comment I was too vague, so this is me being specific. I'm gonna be honest and kinda sad so bear with me.

So, I've spent the past two New Years alone. Rang in this one just like last New Years in bed staring at the ceiling listening to fireworks go off into the night. The next day I cried randomly while browsing for a movie to watch on TV. At first, I didn't know why as I'm not much of a crier/feeling's person, but I realized for the first time that I genuinely felt alone. I have no partner, no family that I speak to, no friends just acquaintances, really no one there for me. That's my own doing which took years to accomplish through me being closed off and just shutting people out, so I figure it might take just as long to fix. I'm not complaining as I got myself into this predicament. It's gonna sound dumb but I wanted a New Years kiss. I'd never had one and it seemed like a fun dumb silly thing to do. Eh maybe one day. Ok well back to my spiel. (I'm not depressed or anything or wanting attention) Some of my hobbies and interests are movies, reading, cooking, kayaking, records, video games, board games, snorkeling, bowling, swimming, escape rooms, puzzles and antiquing. I would describe myself as more goofy and dorky than nerdy. I like to go out and do fun things but also stay in and cuddle and relax. I guess it depends on my mood and the weather. I prefer the cold and would love to live in a state with actual seasons and snow. I'm 5'10, stocky AKA fat and open for adventure and new experiences.

I posted in this sub looking for a throuple/triad because I'm curious about being in one. I've never been in one nor have I ever been in a poly relationship. I've been 100% monogamous all my life. I'm merely curious about it. Apparently merely being curious about it disqualifies me from even talking to a fair number of women. So be it, I guess. This doesn't mean I'm solely looking for anything poly related. Just means I'm open to exploring it. I'm mainly looking for a partner. If she happens to be poly then that's ok. If she's not, then that's ok too. I keep getting people judging me for posting in this sub as if I'm only looking for that. I'm not. Just thought I'd clarify my experience and what I'm looking for in that regard. (For the record I'm 100% ok with being monogamous)

Here are some random facts about me:

Some of my favorite bands are: The Black Keys, Kings of Leon, The Beatles, Creedence Clearwater Revival and The White Stripes.

Christmas is my favorite holiday, mainly because of the cold and festive activities. (Seriously let's go do some festive activities!)

I come from a medium-ish family.

I'm exceptionally patient but every person has a breaking point lol

I like traveling a lot. It's a basic thing that lots of people like. But I've found lots of people hate to leave their house, town or state so if that's you we probably might not be a good match. I also enjoy the mountains. But I don't like roughing it (give me that sweet AC in the summer). Hiking is so hard on my knees, and I haven't done it in a while that if I were to, I think about doing it I'd about die or twist a cankle.

I don't eat seafood, mushrooms, artichokes or pineapple on pizza (Who cares about this? Doesn't mean I won't go to a restaurant with you that has these things)

Never went to college as I'm horrible in a classroom setting and at taking tests. (I'm slowly bettering myself)

I used to have probably the most boring job imaginable (Ask me about it)

Overweight but trying to work on it and make better choices (Get healthier and lose weight together maybe?) Slowly getting there!

Non-religious but no issue with what you believe. (If anything)

Looking into sterilization. If you are already maybe you can give me some info or tips?

My own red flags 🚩

I work too much and oftentimes can't talk.

I send selfies often. I'm a visual person and like receiving photos. Apparently, it's a generational thing. Hopefully you think pictures are neat as well? Is it really that weird to want to see you and your life and show you mine?

I sometimes speedily become attached to people, not in a weird way, but if I like you and we have some kind of connection, I will enjoy talking to you and want to do it often.

I'm a very organized person and will plan out pretty much anything from a vacation to a road trip to a birthday. This makes being with a go with the flow type of person hard at times I've learned but still very much doable.

Due to childhood trauma I'm secretive which can be annoying.

MY own "HELL YES" 🏁

I know how to cook.

I will always drive if you want. (Within reason)

Great at escape rooms and jigsaw puzzles.

Can read a map and follow directions.

Decent at reading backwards upside-down writing.

What I'm looking for:

Is my age or older. But I'm willing to go quite a bit lower if you are neat and we have stuff in common. But super young isn't my goal here.

Mature, considerate, responsible and funny (Dorky wouldn't hurt)

Someone who never cheats, honesty and trust are important to me.

Someone who is open-minded, willing to try new things, be adventurous, funny and nerdy.

Someone who believes in sharing household chores equally because we are both adults.

Be open and frank about issues you or I are having. Not pushy or jealous. Won't yell or argue about stupid things, I've had enough of that.

Willing to push me to become a better version of myself (Can you turn me into Batman?)

If this sounds like you then feel free to reach out and say hi or challenge me to a game of Scrabble/Pictionary/hand to hand combat maybe? Maybe Wordle or some online vidya game?

P.S. I realize my post isn't for everyone but if you're seeing red flags from my post then I'd say trust your gut and please don't message me as we probably aren't compatible. I honestly don't mean that in a mean or hurtful way. I've just been messaged quite often with women saying they pushed aside red flags to get to know me. Please don't, it never ends well, and you end up wasting both of our time. Wouldn't you rather spend it finding your person with no flags?

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2024/10/28
20:52 UTC

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34[F4F/NB] #Connecticut #NewHaven Playful geeky transfem looking for cuddles/high enmeshment/NP!

Hi!

Yes, everyone should have free healthcare, but you should have free cuddles! I'm a single programmer and fantasy author who enjoys a quiet life in the North East. You can catch me:

  • Cat napping in the autumn sun with tea I steeped but forgot to drink
  • Putting peanutbutter and pickles on my burger
  • Dancing till I smile (doesn't take long)
  • Catching the winds of imagination (sounds like a clacking keyboard)
  • Pining for someone to do each other's makeup with
  • Crying over silly shit
  • Shit-talking poorly designed studies
  • Savoring the complex notes of human authenticity—mine and others!

I'm open on ages >26, and long-term I'd like someone physically connect with most days of the week (same house optional). I'm very experienced with polyamory and the communication therein. I'm childfree, but good with kids, and have a touch of the 'tism. For games: social games and RPGs (burn me, Karlach! Kiss it better, Shadowheart!). I love to sew and co-create!

Lost in my world & longing to be part of yours,
FF

P.S. If you're opening line is a story about you being an idiot / a list of your "must haves/can't stands"...

🔥hot🔥

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2024/10/28
20:33 UTC

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25[f4m] #online - looking for a loving and silly dom<3

hii hi my name is trysten! i am a hopeless romantic submissive/little/pet and i would love someone to share that with and have a dynamic and relationship with.

about me: i am very short and have a v chubby body type. i’m also neurodivergent. i would say im really feminine n girly but in an alternative way? like i have dyed hair, piercings, tattoos and what not! i change my appearance quite often ! so you’ll never get bor ed cx outside of kink i am really creative and enjoy doing artsy things of many kinds and i jump around from hobby to hobby a lot.

about you: you are 20-30, dominant but not just in the bedroom, preferably not straight, funny/silly, likes to give rules and also tasks, can talk often and match my energy, open to alternative relationship styles, doesn’t mind/likes if i baby talk when i get comfortable

my kinks are more on the extreme side so pls be open minded! but don’t immediately jump into that please!! i will stop talking to you❗️

send me an intro with your age n alittle about you!

can’t wait to meet you <3

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2024/10/28
20:26 UTC

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35 [M4F] #Fort Worth, TX HSV2+ looking for Long-term(Open on Age)

I don't know where else to look, just looking for someone and excitement again. I am HSV2+, asymptomatic and on antivirals. Haven't had an outbreak in years either. The risk is extremely small but I want you aware that it’s there. Im seeking others like me and/or those that are understanding of it. Also, don't be shy, age, size, color, or whatever is welcomed.

Now that is out of the way, I'm a normal down to earth kind of guy. I have various interests and open to yours as well. I'm white/hispanic, 5'10", shaved head, 185lbs, and brown eyes.

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2024/10/28
15:38 UTC

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33 [m4f] #online #Colorado Seeking Someone Special to Connect With

Hey there! I’m Jeremy, a 33-year-old guy from Colorado looking for someone to flirt with and share some fun conversations.

I've lived all over the U.S., but Colorado is home. I’m passionate about hiking, hitting the gym 3-5 times a week, trivia, and traveling. I’m currently in school for business while working full-time, so I have my busy moments, but I’m eager to find someone special to make time for.

I’m super flirty and love chatting about anything! If you’re open to exploring our playful sides and maybe diving into something new, let’s connect! I appreciate honest and open communication and want to get to know each other beyond the surface.

I’m looking for a woman who shares my interests—someone who enjoys trivia, hiking, cuddling, and taking care of herself. I believe in self-improvement, and I’d love to find someone who feels the same way so we can help each other become our best selves.

If you’re interested in sharing fun stories, trivia, or having chats that might get a bit spicy, hit me up! Can’t wait to see where this goes! 😄

Recent photos of me: https://imgur.com/a/7iaUskT

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2024/10/28
14:14 UTC

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36[T4M]#Florida/online trans boy for male

Florida trans boy iso friend turned boyfriend open to LDR

FACTS ABOUT ME: •36 years old •Female TO male transgender, have had top surgery and on testosterone •Married, with twins •Florida born & raised •5’4-Average Dad Bod-Dark brown hair and eyes-Glasses-Tattoos-1 ear piercing •Always working on my mental health and finding better ways to manage depression, anxiety and stress.

HOBBIES/INTERESTS •Watching movies and discussing(tried to make a podcast…) especially Horror movies •Reality TV or old shows that have been off the air •Music, concerts •Escape Rooms and yes I’ll take all the clues please •When inspired I write poetry have even been published •Road trips and camping •Reading •Trivia and in general knowing things that probably aren’t that important

WHAT IM HOPING FOR I’m first hoping for responses lol then to find a cute guy who’s interested and interesting to talk to. We don’t have to necessarily talk all day everyday, I know we have lives and I have been working evenings when I do work, but definitely frequently. I want to make a good connection on the regular stuff so when 🥵 comes up it feels comfortable. It’s hard for me to be flirty when I don’t know you at all and have no idea if I’m actually attracted to you…. So….

I’d like to share face pics to see if we have a mutual attraction, if you send one I will too. Would love to chat with you here to start and then find a better place to continue the conversation.

Hope to hear from ya!

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2024/10/28
12:14 UTC

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32 [NB4R] Southern California - Insert clickbait title here

brag about self here: 

  • exaggerate good physical characteristics, downplay the ugly
  • nonbinary so convince potential partner I look exactly as feminine and/or masculine as they like
  • highlight positive traits, don't mention mental illnesses
  • embellish or outright lie about size of [insert potential partner's preferred organ here]
  • exaggerate income and convince person I'm a temporarily embarrassed millionaire. 

Set unrealistic expectations here:

  • someone physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially, academically, socially, environmentally, figuratively, literally out of my league. 
  • someone with only green flags who will ignore my red flags
  • demand they send pictures, provide none myself
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2024/10/28
00:20 UTC

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32 [M4F] #Ireland #Dublin In person/Online/long distance seeking a new connection.

Hi I am Matthew usually go by Matt happy to exchange pics in dms.. I am looking to talk to new people to chat with and potentially date or form a connection and see where it goes well and very open minded so the only thing I am not looking for is someone who wants kids with me ( if you already have kids that's fine ) as I just don't desire that. I am open to any kind of poly dynamic. I currently I have 1 partner in Canada Quebec LDR over 3 years which I plan to close the distance and become nesting partners but atm no timeline for it due to many reasons right now. I am looking to date solo but I am open to other possibilities if it goes there.

Currently looking for someone who that has some overlapping interests like gaming (I'm play pc and love a lot of genres but specially rpgs), going to the movies (special soft spot for scifi/fantasy/stop motion/puppetry) watching anime (most genres but my fav is iseika/fantasy/scifi) / shows going to concerts (love metal concerts they make me so happy for ages after going) exploring new places/nature/history/art/technology and a smattering of other stuff. Its no fun if we have nothing in common to talk about at all haha. I am great at listening to others too I really enjoy learning more about people I have a curious mind. I am comfy with voice and video chat and do like them when the trust and comfort level for you is there. I also like going on walks and museums and other interesting things like old buildings with a lot of history and other things like that I am very curious by nature so expect me to ask questions often haha. And I am more then happy to share the history of Ireland and our political history as that seems to be quite common with people i talk with online you guys love Ireland for some reason haha.

Personality wise I am honest, open, caring, empathetic and nerdy. I can be a bit shy/distant until I know more about someone and their personal boundaries/comfort level with me. I treat others how I expect to be treated with that is understanding/honesty/open mind/dignity/kindness and the ability to be able to disagree and not take disagreements personally. I am very easy to excite about stuff I'm passionate about and love to share that with the people I'm close too. I respect all kinds of people and walks of life I might not agree with but as long as it isn't causing harm to others it matters not to me. I hope that people can match my energy and interest to chatting and responding. My top love language is quality time so there needs to be the ability to organize time together to keep it going long term like voice or video chats and date nights etc and being able to do so reliably and consistently how ever often it feels and works out good for.

Thanks for reading and feel free to ask me any questions.

2 Comments
2024/10/27
18:18 UTC

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