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Is anyone in Scottsdale for waste management currently? And if so have you ran into any stings yet or how is freestyling

Hello everyone! So I engage in online SW on a different account. I wanted to keep this post away from the people that do view my content and I just wanted a place to vent and ask for advice. Does anyone else here have a partner? I’ve been doing online work for a couple of months now I feel like it might be taking a toll on a relationship. I’m so used to having sexual conversations all day with people online through video calls, making content and role-play that I feel like at the end of the day when it is time to bond with my partner and be intimate with him it is very draining. Whether it is sexual or just spending time with a conversation.

He’s so understanding and supports my job as long as I keep it online however, I struggle a lot with giving him any sort of energy because this job can come with a lot of mental drainage from sexualizing yourself all day.

Is there a way to combat this? He is so understanding and supportive of me as this job has provided so much for us financially, but it comes with so much guilt because I feel like I don’t give him enough time and energy like I should. The nights we are on the phone there’s clients begging for my attention for me to sell content to them that I usually have to take time away from spending time with him and I feel so bad.

I love him very much and I wouldn’t trade our relationship for the world, but this is all so new to me and I’m having a hard time balancing it all out. We are long distance so our phone time is very important when we don’t get to see each other. The only downside to that is a lot of customers are wanting to buy whenever our nightly phone calls are because it’s later at night.

I’m just very stressed out since it is a very new thing for me and I don’t know what to do to quit blending my work with my relationship and giving me my spark back for the person that I love and that loves and supports me so much.

Thank you ❤️

Hey sisters, please tell me which hotels in Sydney don’t require a key card for the elevator? Can I stay for a month and do in-calls there? Changing addresses is really inconvenient.

Is it because they can't just say what they want about us and get away with it? Is it because the reviews aren't jack off material? Is it because they can't rate our body parts like TER (Breast appearance, pussy appearance, etc)? Inquiring minds wanna know. 🧐

I'm 29, Latino and I've befriendesld my date. She told me about her past, and I'm sure like many here, it's not what she expected to do. She's expressed that she no longer wants to do it and why she started in the first place and then what caused her to go that route- Childhood trauma. She wants to fight for herself and get out. I've hooked her up with an interview at my job. Pay is ok. $20hr for starters, good benefits, raises every certain amount of hours and place for growth. I've told her that her first few paychecks aren't gonna be looking great, but she needs to endure for now, especially as a part timer. But she can always ask for extra hours and move around to other areas. If she fights and becomes a supervisor, she can then get the banging paychecks. I couldn't make it to supervisor because of a back surgery. But I believe in her. But where I need guidance is how do I get her to understand that she needs therapy? That her past trauma is still unresolved? It has to be a deisre that comes from her. How could I point her in that direction? I know that while she earns these lower income paychecks, she will still have to do sw to keep herself afloat - that apartment ain't cheap, and she has daughters. But I really, really want to help her out as much as I can. I don't think I've seen her as happy as she has been in the last week. We bought her new clothes for her interview and she looked gorgeous. She's expressed gratitude and is looking forward to working with me.

FYI! I'M NOT LOOKING TO DATE HER OR GET ANYTHING FROM HER, as I am ashamed of the thought to ask her for a session. What friend would do that? I care for her, and I am not looking to make her my gf or anything of the sort. I just want to help her.

Edit: Sorry if I didn't choose the right flair😔

EditEdit: She can get a job anywhere she wants. This is the best I can do for her.

Not working tonight. Super bored. Enjoy listening to other peoples lives in the things they enjoy. Btw, all interests are welcome. Even if people might think they are weird odd. Open books here!

Hi, 21M looking at going to a brothel to lose my V any tips/advice for a first timer would be greatly appreciated, Obviously I want to be as respectful as possible to the girl so if you have any do’s & don’t please also tell, I’ve got some question below 👇

•Will 30minutes be long enough or should I get 1 hour? •are brothels a good place for first timers who want to take it slow and kinda nervous? •How clean are brothels? •are the girls on a script they follow or do I get a say it what happens in the room

A provider I have been watching for a long time is coming to my city. On Tryst now there is a second profile for 'her.'

The original has been heavily modified content-wise and the new one is much closer to the way her profile used to be. Both have pictures of her. Both have old and new ones.

They have two separate websites and links to different Twitter profiles. The websites are the only way to make contact, but I have no idea if they are the same person or not.

Any advice? I would really like to experience her offering, but I'm terrified one is a scam or LEOs.

I met with a provider for a nuru session last week and I had a great time (even though it was on a massage table for the first half and on a sheet on the floor for the second half since her nuru bed was damaged). Scheduled another session plus some extras for yesterday at 430 and sent 50% as the deposit. She messaged me at 4 saying that she would be delayed until 530 because of traffic. Not a problem since I was stuck in similar traffic. At 515 she asked me if I would mind picking up candles and said she was taking a shower to not to come before 630. I bought the candles and showed up at 630 to see she hadn’t even showered yet.

I waited 20-30 min for her to shower and get ready. She insisted on taking a shot before we got started and made herself a drink. Then she would periodically stop to take a few sips and eventually left to go to the bathroom. I was worried after a few minutes but she came out laughing that the liquor made her need to shit. I should’ve left then but I had already paid the rest. She then spent 10 minutes ordering more liquor on DoorDash and when it got there 45 min later insisted we share another shot then she left to the bathroom again. After another long wait she said that she took another shit but “washed her ass”.

At this point she started grinding on me and things were looking up but then I noticed she had her drink in her hand and would keep topping it off with the champagne she got. To be honest I felt a little weird with how drunk she was getting and got soft. She stood up and I could tell she was upset. She went back to the bathroom for a third time and when she came back said “I’m not feeling frisky anymore. So what do we do?” I suggested we could finish the massage and she half heartedly slathered some oil on me then got teary eyed and went to make ANOTHER drink. At this point I was sure things were only going to get worse so I excused myself to go take a shower.

When I got back she was looking at herself in the mirror very upset, slurring her words about how she was about to get her period and how she was bloated and that was why I didn’t stay hard and how she knew she should’ve canceled. I tried to make excuses and say this stuff can happen but it looked like she was getting more and more upset so I just gave her a hug and left.

I drove home and the whole time was confused and irritated. I woke up today and I kind of want to ask for at least a partial refund. We had agreed to spend 2.5 hours together but between her drinking, repeat bathroom trips, and waiting around for more liquor I can honestly say I only got a mediocre massage for about 30-40 minutes total. The rest of the time I got to lay on a cold hard massage table by myself while she got drunker and drunker.

Should I just take the loss or ask her for some sort of refund?

I'm so fucking pissed I was suppose to go to Cali for my first stop on my tour my first TOUR(I booked before all of this shit going on) NOW I'm going to have to cancel I'm not going there to get arrested I have to cancel flights hotels EVERYTHING and worse things worse I was suppose to celebrate my birthday put there I'm pissed and literally crying

the main event drives me insane. I don’t understand what the obsession is. These morons have with touching the most dirty places on my body they can and then putting those dirty contaminated fingers on themselves to maintain hard on by touching the condom that they then expect to stick inside me.

I wish I had realized sooner that this could be a serious cause of BV. Either Fia or rubbing my feet and then putting that dirty hand on the condom transfers probably so much bacteria to me.

The amount of men I’ve had to ask not to touch the bottom of my feet is really fucking annoying. They really are that stupid and ready to call you a germaphobe just for having basic common sense and standard of hygiene. Touching the bottom of my feet and then touching themselves or me it’s not much different from wiping their hands on the floor and then trying to finger me. My shoes are not sterile, and neither are the bottom of my feet which I walk on the floor with.

Does anyone else experience this issue? Do you stop and make them wash their hands? The next guy to either try fingering my back door without asking or touch the bottom of my feet I will literally stop and make them go fucking wash their hands with soap so tired of their stupidity and how it affects my own health and therefore earnings.

Hi so im a 23 y/o aussie sw thats been in the industry since 18 and ive never experienced anyone like this before. So ive only saw this guy 3x and met him this month and off the bat he gave weird/fake vibes because without meeting me he was sending me all these photos of potential gift ideas every couple of days that all came to around $900 and i was like yeah right sure this guy is real but sure enough he was- he rocked up and bought me a honey b set, 2 video games, a honey b toy and a 1L belvedere and seemed lovely. After that, i would get a message every couple of days with gift suggestions and notifications that things have been bought from my wishlist. Quickly, he needed constant messaging and wanted videocalls every night which i thought more than happy to do for the gifts i was getting but he started after a couple of weeks saying he loves me and wanted to stay longer for bookings without paying. That made me a bit uncomfy but nothing i couldnt deal with but after our last incall (last night) he said he had talked to his friends about how im "seeing" him and that they wanted to meet me, said that i insinuated that i wanted to qoute "take the next step" (have no idea wtf that came from), started texting a "ex" telling her that hes found someone and sent a photo of me and the cherry on the cake texted me after the booking saying what my parents would think of him. Im super conflicted as i hate playing this much into a fanatasy and worried hes going to flip on me one day when he realises its just roleplay to me but obviously the gifts and money are amazing. So my question is what do you guys think of the situation, do you think it's dangerous and how do you think i should approach it? Thanks!

I am a switch and am pretty versed in recreational bdsm, I also have some experience as a pro dom, but I've never taken a submissive role as a sex worker. Subing feels a lot more vulnerable to me and I'm wondering how others protect themselves as pro subs?

I know basic things physical safety things like not doing bondage or sensory deprivation with a new client or without security. I'm wondering more how you protect yourself mentally from sub drop or feeling used or disrespected after sessions.

Any advice is appreciated!

With everything going on politically, and Trump ramping up ICE presence and arresting any Latino person they see at random, I’ve been seeing less of my clients from South/central America and Mexico. And hands down they’re the best above anyone else. They’re not entitled, they’re quick, and easy and very sweet. They pay what you ask and they’re very fun to hang out with. I’ve picked up some Spanish here and there and it’s built a stronger bond with this clientele. And they’ve become great friends as well. Aside from how this is affecting my income, it’s breaking my heart to see these communities in danger. And everything else that’s happening with our government going full blown fascist.

Hey all! I live in a pretty sparsely populated state, and not in a very large town. As a result, I have to travel quite far to get work, at least by most SW standards. If I made exceptions and charged people for my travel time, it would be pretty easy to track me down. Additionally, I'm trans and this work takes a lot of prep, plus is riskier for me than other SWers.

So, I don't charge hourly rates, people have to buy me for the night, but they are by no means forced to use me that entire time. It simply isn't worth it for me to put on makeup, deep-clean myself, and travel for 3 hours just so somebody can have me for 1 hour.

The problem is, clients are stupid. They see that nightly rate and assume that they should be getting less because they only want me for an hour. Should I just set my hourly rate to be high (I was thinking $200 an hour) and offer them a cheaper nightly option? This is not an ad, but I am $400 a night. I know this isn't that expensive but clients keep trying to badger me for lower costs because they don't want me for that long.

Do any of you have a payment system like this? Have you tried it before? Did it work out?

Hey gorgeous! I’m trying to find the perfect place to live as a SW, somewhere that has the best of both worlds:

💅A busy area (bookings) | 🌆 A fun, lively city with good energy and opportunities | 🌿 Easy access to nature: hiking, lakes, mountains (so I’m not just surrounded by buildings all day).

Where do you think a SW could really thrive while still enjoying life outside of work? Would love to hear your city recs and why you love them!💕

I’ve made my PD over 3 months ago, did everything I was supposed to & im still not verified😩! Any tips ?

Client here Due to some turbulent personal events i am finding my 100% “up” ratio to become a little unpredictable While i do not have the “i must get as much from this hour or two” mentality; i am contemplating to understand the sweet spot between giving enough effort vs becoming frustrating for the lady on the occasion johnny is being a metaphorical dick instead of being a literal one. Any inputs would be welcome and no viagara. The inconsistent ED issue is caused by the mind in my case.

I got a new phone and tryst will not let me log in. I have texted support a long time ago. Has anyone had this issue before ?

Hey I’m Chicago based and posting on MP has been really slow for me..any advice? better sites to post?

Hi! Im currently working in the bay area and have seen a couple posts about sting operations.. Has anyone heard about this and/or can give me more details? I work mostly in the san jose area but do outcalls all over. I just really want to be safe. I post on multiple sites so any information would be greatly appreciated!! thank you in advance.

Looking for other companions who have the ability to invest up front towards shared Incall spaces in above mentioned cities. Looking to rent upscale Incall where 2 providers per 2 week shifts rotate day/pm Incall while sharing expense of that Incall 50/50 and other 2 providers swap out to next 2 weeks, then can move or use same concept to next city. This allows more homey stays, shared expenses, companionship to not get so bored, etc. Shared laundry and cleaning of the Incall to keep it presentable.

If you are seriously interested, you have to have equity to invest in the shared Incall ( likely 1k or so per provider for the 2 week stay that goes towards the home rental per month etc) Two providers per Incall can likely do more appts daily from larger space and rack in more money with privacy etc.

Please DM me if interested. Have to be established provider with online presence and be Willing to be interviewed via zoom to weed out any serious mental issues to not make sharing space a good idea ( on drugs, for ex)

No one with nothing to Contribute up front will be considered seriously as renting a monthly Incall costs money up front. I am not an agency, but a provider myself. You do all if your business your way and keep your money. This is a rental shared opp only.

Thank You!

How do I find a hotel that doesn’t take 100 pounds ,when I check in. (For room damage) (they do return it) but does anyone know any hotels that don’t do it in London and in the uk

I keep seeing posts about busts & I feel like one very critical detail is being left out, the part where the cop got the providers to incriminate themselves just by "proving" he wasn't a cop. If you never agree to perform specific acts, and you never engage with their sexually explicit questions, the cop will literally hang up. Even answering "no" to "Do you offer anal" implies you do other things but not that. You have to say "I don't offer any sexual services..." and hang up. Yes you'll miss out on money not taking these guys, since some legit clients act like cops trying to build a case when they really just want to make sure they get what they desire, but it's the only way to avoid creating probable cause. You can't screen to determine if it's safe to incriminate yourself. Cops will pass screening, send a deposit and an Uber.lol. Stop talking openly and soon, guys will stop trying to talk openly, leaving only cops fishing for incriminating statements & it'll become easy to tell the difference between cops and clients. As of now, they're too much alike because too many providers are willing to speak openly once convinced a guy isn't a cop. This is what cops count on. Their stings would produce no results if this wasn't the case. We must tighten up.

In Canada a sex worker who has had multiple arrests, pleaded guilty to stealing > 100k from clients, charged with man slaughter then dropped and got arrested again for armed robbery in Toronto suburb last week.

Our criminal system is a joke so she will probably be out on probation again soon till the next time she gets arrested/into trouble.

Old issues in Vancouver - https://globalnews.ca/news/10643643/jessica-kane-guilty-theft/amp/

Recent arrest - https://torontosun.com/news/local-news/sex-worker-among-two-accused-of-knifepoint-robbery-in-vaughan

YouTube story - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MCsCWGBlc_E

Hi!

I have the worst razor bumps and ingrowns... I have been tweezing so it looks like a disease when they are inflamated... how can I stop this habit?

How can I get rid of it fast?

Do clients care if u have a lot of razor burns?

https://www.reddit.com/r/SexWorkers/s/76xcjtqPtj

So, remember my post about the client who admitted he was going broke? Well, today, he called me and threatened to kill me if I didn’t refund him all the money he ever spent on me. Then, as if that wasn’t enough, he went to the brothel I worked at, snitched on me for seeing him privately, and got me fired.

I went straight to the police, and they arrested him for intimidation and demanding money with menace. Not even an hour after being released, he contacts me again- and gets arrested again.

So now I have no job and a violent, unhinged man obsessed with me. I’m stressed out of my mind and scared for my life. This is the reality of sex work that no one talks about. The entitlement. The danger. The absolute lack of protection.

I did everything right- I cut him off, I went to the police, I reported everything, but I’m still the one suffering the consequences. Meanwhile, he’s out there thinking he can intimidate and control women like this. I don’t even know what to do next. I just know that I’m exhausted, furious, and scared.

Luckily, the police have been extremely supportive whereas the brothel receptionist sided with him. He told her I stole his money which is not true and she encouraged him to go to the police, which he stupidly did and got arrested lol.

ETA: I’m located in Aus where this work is legal

I've been retired several years now, have a regular vanilla job I really like and a much more stable life than I did when I was in the game full time. I used to not give a fuck about having my face posted online across several sites and posted ads regularly. But with the way my life's set up now that just not for me anymore. Was thinking of picking up a few clients again to supplement my income and was wondering if there are any sites better for posting relatively non publicly or anyone's experience with not posting any pics or no face pics and still getting hits? I know there's nothing I can do about hose damn forums but any advice/DMs are much appreciated!