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Tomorrow I'll be going to flushing NY with my gf, and I would like her in the room as I get a massage. I'm not looking for full service. Is this feasible? Our current plan is to go into massage parlors until we find an extra service one. I have experience w sw overseas but not in the states. Any advice would be appreciated.

I've read the guide to find a safe provider.

In my 8 years I still haven't figured this out. I really hate when they don't engage in my conversation & try to rush and get right to it. & then finish 20/25 minutes into it and expect more. Like I'd rather they booked a half hour..because most of the time they'll want another round. but because i'm "selling my 'time' not sex" is how they see it i bet.

This 1hr appt guy finished in 20 mins then was cuddling w/ me but I had that bad feeling and I'm never wrong. Sure enough he's like can we go again? When we have 30 mins left. Im like sure.. So pounding away for 30 mins is always fun when you know they wont cum & they're just trying to get their $'s worth. Then one hour exactly after he arrived here I push him off & he's like I wasn't done... I'm like oh, what? you weren't done? He's like i was just about to be finished.... I'm like sounded like you were just about to be done for the past 10 minutes... see myself out to the bathroom come back and he's still laying there naked like he's expecting something oh jesus fucking christ.

I know I cant be the only one who this happens to. Do you charge more for a second round for an hour? I never wanted to do that, I thought my "time" was enough but they've been really abusing it. Obviously the 2nd time will be much more tedious and they never have the decency to leave on time, what to do?

Where y’all posting and getting good results?

I’ve been trying to get my new account approved for months and I refuse to give up 😩 I have friends that use this site and say it’s really consistent in my city. I’m only on TRYST right now and it’s been good for the most part but I need more exposure so I figured why not try PD but…. Have yet for them to approve me Anyone know how??

I have booked a hotel and I’m doing in calls tonight.

I haven’t done SW for nearly a year and the nerves are kicking in! How do I calm myself down? I guess I’m just looking for reassurance.

Also I haven’t got many bites on my ad I have a few lined up but that’s it. Should I lower my prices for the night for more responses?

I’m in a conflict right now with my bf about same day and last minute bookings. I stopped accepting them last year because it was taking a toll on my relationship/s but sometimes it accounts for half or more of my income (when I do accept them.) I don’t want to be a bad partner or choose $ over my partners and friends. At the same time, I’m struggling feeling some scarcity with pre booking appointments and same day /last minute can be really tempting. Last month over 70% of my income was same day /last minute. I’m wondering if you could share some of your tips and boundaries for keeping your relationships and work life in balance?

Maybe I am just not cut out for ordinary life and ordinary jobs. I always wondered if I had some sort of learning disability or tics. I also take frequent absences from work so it's hard for me to hold down a job where I need to ask for permission to be gone for a while.

I am applying for another vanilla job, but if I don't get one, oh well. I guess it's a good time to get a boob job and focus on therapy.

Sex work is so accessible and flexible. It's hard to not come back to it despite the downsides. And nobody can fire you from it or gatekeep you from it.

I currently have STD-proof spermicidal condoms on hand prepared for an escort I found on Tryst, then I remembered that I could see about getting HIV prep meds, despite the likelihood of the escort I’m meeting having HIV to be low (Especially when she’s said in her bio that she can be honest and blunt). Am I overdoing it by applying for HIV prep meds and the condoms should be fine or should I proceed with applying for HIV prep meds?

I apologize for being insulting and hurtful to any sex workers reading this, I am a painfully naive virgin and I just want to be good to the escort I’m seeing this weekend and be safe as well.

What do you tell customers to request certain outfits that you’re wearing in your pictures or certain nail polish, etc.

I have a business client that needed to delete a Bedpage ad because city didn't like some of the wordings. Bedpage deleted the listing but the ad itself still loads on the url itself.

Bedpage said it will be "disappear soon"... but this has been a long wait (ad started 4/9/2024). Unless the ad disappears on the internet city will not allow operation. Nothing illegal or criminal, just city policy and permit stuff.

Does anyone know how long Bedpage ads stay up?

sent in my profile application 20 days ago. messaged lola 3 times.

Let me tell you: I am old, ugly, and jaded, and I rarely get excited anymore about anything in life.

But she was a miracle.

She was like a shot of tonic or panacea or something ethereal. She was a perfect ten, great sense of humor, and she did everything right.

I told her I am booking her for the next two nights as well.

Ugh.

Am gonna miss her when I fly out of this country.

At least I got to meet her in this lifetime. Some women are healers. Like magic.

I didn’t think she’d see me. She flirts with extraordinary wit. Like Rosalind from a Shakespearean play.

You know she’s a heartbreaker.

My goodness.

Nap time.

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I always felt like sex was an unreachable goal for me, and now that I've turned 18, I have been thinking about it a lot more.

It's the same way that I thought about cigarets. I didn't like it, but after I smoked a few, it cured my curiosity about what it would be like to experience it and stopped me from thinking about it.

The problem that I have with this decision is that I'm fat and ain't the prettyest to look at, and I'm scared that she'll be disgusted by me. I don't want to have sex with someone who's totally disgusted by it.

What do yal think ?

Hi. I'm new to onlyfans but I don't have a clear idea of how to promote myself in reddit. Like, I know that I have to search for my body type in this platform The problem is most of the subreddits are NSFW... My type is twink, femboy, petite guy, whatever And sure, there are SFW femboy subreddits But the other categories are insanely NSFW, in that case how tf im supposed to get subscribers for my OF when I will just show fucking everything in the subreddit?

Here is my idea: one account for the SFW shit and another account for NSFW stuff. What do you think? Any tips?

My first p was ☠️ a few years ago in a drive by. I stayed low for a couple years and decided to hop back in the game. Let me clarify how good I had it with my first p. He handled all the bookings and transactions through established sources. Money was good for 4 years. Every need I had were always met. Nonviolent with me. Now I’ve been with this p for like 6 months. 2 birds (as he calls us, he said we’re building his nest) got jammed in a op a few weeks ago. Now I’m paranoid cause I never had to worry about that. I came with a little, but they don’t travel frequently enough to leave today. I need any help or advice you can give me on independence.

I'm a 24 y/o Professional Dominatrix. I have been studying BDSM since I was 14. I have been in the lifestyle since I was 18 and I have been working Professionally on and off since I was 20. I get that vanilla guys don't understand the time, patience, practice, and effort I put into my craft, and that's okay. But I'm so sick of Lifestyle Kinksters looking down in me because I charge for my time and talents. I'm VERY good at what I do, I work in a Dungeon, I'm the youngest by far of the women/men I work with. But when I go to community events, and I decline to play with people who aren't offering to compensate me for my time, everyone is rude to me.

I'm not a Findom(Financial Dominatrix) I'm just a Professional Dominatrix. I'm not rude about it, I'm not arrogant. I don't hunt for clients. I'm just trying to meet people in my community with similar interests, but the moment I say, "Hey, look, I'm flattered you want to play with me. But I don't play outside of my relationship unless you're a client." It's like instantaneous, everyone is rude and no one will really talk to me.....

If I'm at a play party, sure I'll give a scene or two for free because I want to, or if I'm in a public dungeon and someone wants to play with me, I have no issues. But if I'm at a Munch and it is well known that "She's the Professional" and that people know I charge, you have no reason to look down on me when I politely decline to scene with you if you aren't going to pay me. Respectfully, if you approach me, you should respect my limits and boundaries. Not look down on me when I say "No".

Have you ever refused a customer for being really unattractive?

Anyone know if it’s possible to change your username on private delights at all? I’m currently trying to since obviously I have made some changes. I have older reviews that refer to me as “Ava” but my most recent ones don’t and I understand that can come off sketchy. I don’t want this to affect things for me as far as bringing in new clients but think it will and has in the past though I do understand men aren’t always willing to take a chance in a situation that seems skeptical. Of course I’ll have to deal with it if I have no choice but hoping that isn’t the case.

I needed a night like this went to an outcall for 1hr at a high end hotel my rates 500 he gave me 1000. Super sweet n respectful. He was a total whale like owns a private island flew here on a private jet. I wanted to stay longer and make him fall in love with me but I only booked my babysitter for so long n it was a school night. Probably won’t see him again cause he’s from out of town. He talked about flying me out to do an overnight but it could have been all talk plus no one will ever watch my baby overnight. N idk how comfortable I’d be with someone watching her anyway. I’m in the process of getting all my crowns and cavities fixed and the rest I’m saving for a nose job. I’m almost at 18 grand in saving this is the most money I’ve had in my entire life. Idk as much as being a worker is so lonely and isolating it’s also allows me so much time, time to do things I love , keep the house clean , I haven’t worried about money in years. But I’m still so lonely.

Not 'Guilt' and not really 'serious' either. But I find that after a particularly positive encounter, I get a real emotional crash - sort of like when you were a kid the week after Christmas when the tree comes down and the relatives all go home! Absolutely intellectually aware of and in control of all professional boundaries - nothing like that. But physiology is physiology and after such a huge rush of oxytocin, I do feel myself really 'missing' my provider once the date is over.

For background - very new to this. Will only engage when out of town on the occasional business trip - so these experiences are very few and far between for me. The whole thing still feels very new and exciting. The anticipation - scheduling - cute 'banter' via email and text - all the anticipation the afternoon of a date - getting ready. So much build up and then - the 2-3 hrs fly by in what feels like 30 min!

I like seeing the same 1-2 providers with whom I know there is good/comfortable chemistry. My favorite thing is GFE - which always is a big oxytocin rush. I've told both my gals during our GFE activity: 'This is the part that matters most to me. This is the part I cannot duplicate when I'm alone.'

I'm betting if I got out of town every 90 days, I wouldn't feel this way, cause the next re-connect would be just around the corner. But when I've got 5-7 months on the sidelines between trips, it provides a lot of time to mope... and wonder if my favorite provider will even still be working or available or out of town when I can get another biz trip on the books.

Any other clients - or even providers - experience a bit of a 'let down' after a great encounter?

Thank you.

Hi, I'm 21 years old and unfortunately I've had some problems with school, so finding work is a bit difficult for me, and I have a situation that doesn't allow me to work eight hours a day. (I have dependents).

I would like to start with prostitution, I write here because I know that I will not be judged even if I feel a little embarrassed.. I know that some of you will tell me "don't choose this path but look for some job etc.." but I don't want this type of response, I would like some advice from you because I don't know much about it.

I thought about being a street prostitute but I suffer from TMJ, it makes me laugh but unfortunately I can't do blowjobs every day otherwise adios jaw hahaha, I thought I would only do hand jobs, do you think this is senseless? no one would pay me for this I think.. At the moment I don't think I'm able to offer a complete service...because being an introvert I wouldn't feel comfortable doing full service, you have to talk and make the customer feel comfortable and unfortunately I'm not like that, otherwise I would have offered massages with happy endings, I don't know... if any of you are introverts tell me your story, anything to clarify my ideas! Anyway, if there is a marketing for hand jobs only I'd be happy!

It's a bit of a strange post but I don't know who else to ask for advice :)

Curious about folks recent experiences with apps and social… don’t really want to promote much on socials but if I do could use some co tweeters on X! Trýst has been nice but I think ẽr0s is bogus at the moment & sold my data immediately. Other platforms do not seem worth it but let me know. Also how to best set up a tour in regional area such as Bridgeport, how far ahead would you book if at all? Thank you 🙏 💝

I had an appointment with a guy, head 130 quick 10 min. He wanted to feel me up then asks if he can feel me. I tell him that’s obviously going to be more. He tries to turn me around to penetrate me, NO CONDOM! I immediately stopped him and told him no. HIS GIRL then calls! I see the pic on the phone as he tells me to not say anything! The nerve of these men!! I’m so grateful to have security in my building with an intercom. They also take government I.d. I won’t be doing him again.

I was just wondering if anyone has gotten made business cards ? I wanna make these ones but is putting your picture on the card like a no no cause of discretion ? (Obviously blurred face- pro photo shoot) should I scrap the picture and just put contact info?

Sex workers in Australia, have you worked in regional NSW? Do you have any establishments you’d recommend working within?

Hello! I have planned a trip to a massage parlor for my husband and was hoping to get some insight/advice from SWs on this forum.

We are both very excited for him to do this and want to make sure it goes as well as possible. We are in Canada and the place we chose has a great reputation and reviews. I've selected a 60 minute VIP massage for him. We've read all the FAQs on the site and will be following their guidance on donations, respectful behavior etc. and obviously he will be clean and well groomed. The service is around $250. Here are my questions:

1. How much of a tip is appropriate?
2. What services if any are ok to negotiate for an additional donation? Any ideas on pricing?
3. He will be bringing his own condoms, is this acceptable?
4. He will be using condoms for the whole thing and is clean and tested. I guess I just want to know how safe (STDS, STIS) this is. I assume probably safer than a random hookup but looking for insight on this and how this is managed by the SWs in this industry.
5. I've read that gifts are also appropriate in some situations, should he bring something as well? Or just a tip?
6. Any other tips, dos or don'ts are much appreciated.

Thanks so much for your help!

I see a lot of posts how frustrating it is working with stubborn finishers, and I agree. It’s very stressful for the client and provider when he can’t finish. What I’ve learned over the years is that it’s about activating the 5 senses. When I first started giving sensual/erotic massage, I’d literally just be nude and give a massage then give a basic J/O. Sometimes that works, but often times, men need more stimulation than that. So now when it comes time to finish, I lay next to them my body up against theirs with my legs crossed over theirs, and I’m more proactive. I’ll take their head and place it up against my chest, I’ll crawl on top rubbing my body (not genitals) but body against theirs, leaning into their ear breathing heavy saying I want your c*m baby. I’ll squat over their face so my rear end is up against their face, not in a position where they can eat it, but so they can smell me (clean but sweaty, musty), I’ll take my saliva let it fall into my hand, use it as lube. It feels like they are being blown (several have said that’s the best bj I ever experienced - I’m thinking that wasn’t even a bj lol). I’ll use one finger to grip their hole, not penetrate but enough to make them feel that I’ve got them. I’ll then say Trump’s famous words “I’ve got you by your pussy”. The one thing I can thank Trump for lol that line works very well with men. But u see my point… all 5 senses are activated, it becomes much more interactive and intimate without putting me any risk for std. They will respond much better to this approach than just lube and stroking. Activate their senses and make sure your verbal game is on point. They’ll finish faster and it’ll be a much more memorable experience likely making them call u again. Only do what you’re comfortable with, this level of comfort takes time to build. But once you have it mastered, it’s so much easier getting them to finish.