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My fiancee and I like to engage in MFM threesomes and have a question with regards to safety/risks.

My fiancee and I do not use protection with each other but we do with all additional partners. Should we engage in double vaginal, does anyone have experience with one partner wearing a condom and one not.

Does it drastically increase the risk of tears to the condom?

Does anyone have tips or tricks regarding minimizing tears? Other than ensuring proper lubrication?

Hello everyone,

I grew up with strictly religious parents who always told me that premarital sex is one of the worst things you can ever do in your life. This also means that I did not really receive a proper sex education other than some articles I read online, so please help me if I am asking something obvious. Not being so religious and finally having a girlfriend that I trust, I decided that I wanted to try it. Girlfriend is not religious so she wanted to do it as well.

I tried to be as safe as possible. I put on condoms every time. I made sure my hands were always clean before fingering her (like I even went to wash my hands after ejaculation level clean) and also I never came inside her, I always pulled out. This last month we met twice where we were together the whole day and had sex one or two times each time.

Yesterday she told me that she is 2 days late. After waiting for one more day, she is now 3 days late and I am starting to freak out. She said her period is always very regular and this is kind of the first time she is 3 days late. I think we are gonna try to have a pregnancy test today but I don't know what is gonna happen and I am freaking out really really bad.

Considering we used a condom each time and I also pulled out and never came inside her, how can she be pregnant? Is it normal for women to be 3 days late? I am freaking out and there is literally nobody around me that I can talk to who would not directly start blaming me for having premarital sex, so I turned to you guys. How can this be possible? Is it possible that a bit of cum landed on the bed and then she lied there and they sneaked in or something? How can this be possible? Did any of you go through something similar and it turned out to be okay?

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TL;DR : I had sex with my girlfriend a couple of times this month. We used a condom each time and I never came while inside her. Her period is always regular but for the first time she is 3 days late. I am freaking out. Is it possible that she is actually pregnant?

Today my mate turned 18 so my friend group is going to go to some brothels to celebrate. The brothels we are going to visit though, are dirt cheap (10 euros for 10 minutes) and they let u have unprotected oral sex, so I don't feel very safe. Do you guys think it will be safe if i just ask for a handjob with a condom and nothing else?

I don't really understand exactly how condoms work. Are the sizes on the box how large the condom starts out or how long they can stretch to?

Would love some help to settle a discussion.

Person 1 says that all barrier-less sex including oral sex between vulva owners is risky in terms of sti's, but that there's higher risk when ejaculation is involved.

Person 2 says that although all barrier-less sex has risk in terms of sti's, oral sex between vulva owners is less risky than other barrier-less sex (eg oral sex involving a penis, penetrative sex involving a penis, etc.) but that in penetrative sex with fingers the risk of small tears increases the risk somewhat.

So far, am finding conflicting info.

Can anyone help point to some concrete reliable resources to help settle this?

Much appreciated!

I’ve haven’t hooked up. But if I did, what can I do to ensure that I’ll both be safe? I’m clean, but what can I do to ensure the other person is clean (and not lying). And what precautions can I take, in case they aren’t.

The main symptom of orgasmic dysfunction is the inability to achieve sexual climax. Other symptoms include having unsatisfying orgasms and taking longer than normal to reach climax. Many women find they cannot climax during penile-vaginal sex. If a woman has never climaxed in her adult life, we call it primary orgasmic dysfunction. If she had been able to climax in the past, but now finds it difficult or impossible, we call it secondary orgasmic dysfunction. Learn more here at https://www.thehartcentre.com.au/difficulty-orgasming-how-can-i-experience-more-pleasure/

Is there some kind of sheet that then penis can penetrate to prevent STDs from skin to skin contact?

Astroglide X premium silicone waterproof liquid personal lubricant is erroneously listed in Amazon and Walmart as “not condom compatible”. This is wrong.

Astroglide X premium silicone waterproof liquid personal lubricant has only two ingredients : Cyclomethicone and Dimethicone, both silicones which are known to be totally condom compatible particularly latex.

On the other hand, the Astroglide Diamond Premium Waterproof Silicone Gel Personal Lubricant also contain both Cyclomethicone and Dimethicone and is listed as “condom compatible” on Amazon!

However, Walgreens website correctly says Astroglide X Silicone waterproof liquid personal lubricant is latex safe.

My question lies not if I should wear a rubber, I know that one, but if one is necessarily needed if they wanted to perform fellatio on me. Ultimately it's a moot point as I'm not that big on receiving fellatio, but the throughts crossed my mind that they might like giving.

I'm absolutely a subscriber to the notion of safesex, so the idea of wear a rubber for everything is more or less instilled in my brain

I can't find any info on whether it's safe to allow non-latex condoms be out in heat? I'm talking polyutherane rubber here, no lamb skin. Thank you!

Hey! I am M( 25) my girlfriend (21) we had so called sex about 48 hours ago but never intercourse as it was pain ful for her , but my glans penis was in her vagina ,seeing we were not able to do it, i then mastubated in bathroom. I then urinated . Next morning i tried again but failed as it was painful and only glans penis was there . My penis wss lubricated with the natural fluid . Can she get pregnant . I literally dont want it . Plss give advice

My understanding of the bleeding when you're on 21/28 day birth control is that it is not proper menstruation and is unrelated to the breaking down of your uterine wall due to a lack of implantation, and is rather withdrawal bleeding due to the hormonal changes. If you are pregnant while on birth control pills (due to skipping a pill, or taking pills at odd timings), will you still get withdrawal bleeding? If you do have withdrawal bleeding, is that a sign that you are likely not pregnant?

So i made a dumb decision and had unprotected sex.12 hours later(the morning after lol) i took a plan b this was the Jan 28

My last period was on Jan 19th maybe a week after taking the plan b I had very light spotting for maybe a day or two (The nurse told me I could get period early .so I assumed that’s what it was, but it didn’t last long at all) I haven’t really experienced any symptoms except a bit of gain in appetite but that’s usually a sign my period is coming

The day after the spotting stop i had unprotected sex again (I know BIG mistake) and the pull out game was non existent

Long story short I was expecting my period on the 19th or at least somewhere close to it Well today is the 28th and no sign of my period and tbh I’m getting a little worried

Is it normal for plan to delay your this much. I don’t want to freak out my out but I can’t help but wonder wth is going on .

Hi, I've posted this on a few subs already but I'm asking here as well so that I can get as much input as possible!

I'm on 21-day birth control pills, and missed my penultimate pill. I skipped it entirely and just took my final birth control pill for that cycle the next night. 3 days after my last pill, I had sex - we used a condom (checked it after and it seemed to have no breaks/leaks) and I took an emergency contraceptive pill (levonorgestrel) around an hour afterwards. It has been 3 days since that - I am supposed to get my period today/tomorrow but have not yet. Additionally, I am due to start my next set of birth control pills tomorrow. My questions are -

1. What are the chances of my being pregnant?
2. What is the likely effect of the skipped birth control pill on this?
3. Do emergency contraceptives act efficiently even in the luteal phase (assuming that was the stage of my cycle)?
4. Even if the emergency contraception has delayed my period, am I unlikely to get a period at all once I resume my birth control tomorrow? In that case, will I have to wait until my next period to know about possibly being pregnant?

Any help would be very appreciated! Thank you so much!

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