I'm thinking of proposing to my girlfriend as a promise kind of thing (not for marrying proposes!!) and I would like some ideas to make this incredible and romantic for her. I already have the rings 😉😊

Hi everyone! I’m looking for movie recommendations, my wife and really enjoyed love lies bleeding as well some of the classics like but im a cheerleader, fried green tomatoes, stuff like that. We’re super open to suggestions and also I’d love to just hear what your favorite movies are! Thank you! 🥰

So recently I’ve heard this term being thrown around a lot. The general consensus, that I’ve seen, is that people say it’s an unsustainable “way to love”. I see people saying you’ll grow out of it, that it doesn’t last, etc.

I am just wondering what the reasoning behind this is— I am a very affectionate person, especially if I like the person I’m around a lot. I make sure I know what they appreciate when it comes to expressions of love and I mirror that. I like being gentle, I like holding hands, I like cuddling. To hear that this is something that will go away with time is so disheartening.

So, for all of you who are maybe a bit older or have more experience than me, how has this gone for you or the people in your life? In theory, I think that any style of life (including love) should be balanced. Where there is gentle love, there are also boundaries and communication, but I digress.

What’s your opinion?

Hi! I struggle with being confident but now that I am 30, I'd like to rid myself of this burden! I've never really tried flirting with strangers before, and would like to give that a go as opposed to using dating apps. I'm a bit worried about coming off as a creep, since I am masculine presenting, but thats probably just some internalized bs... So! How do you like to be flirted with? How do you like to flirt with people? Any tips on being or at least appearing more confident? How do you actually ask for someones number!? Thanks!

For context, I usually dress pretty masculine and kinda have masculine tendencies while my girlfriend is more feminine. Okay so I was hanging out with my girlfriend in between classes and she told me that she kind of considers me the man in the relationship. Her statement kinda caught me off guard and I kinda felt weirded out when she told me that. I don’t wanna be considered the man in the relationship, I wanna be treated like a girl I guess? It just made me uncomfortable and I don’t know if i’m overreacting or not. Please give advice on how to approach this?

Hello everyone! Today is my birthday and I have one request..to make new friends today! I just turned 30 and I’m ready to start a new chapter in my life.

Honestly I wasn’t sure what I was going to put in here but back in the day of my Reddit era you could make new friends simply by asking so- hi! Want to be friends?

Some info about me; I live in Ohio, I enjoy video games, reading, art and hanging out with friends/family. I have two kids, going through a dissolution with my ex wife.

I have a lot of ambition but I sure am awkward.

This might be long…

In June of 2023 my gf and I broke up because she was going to her pastors for advice while we were going through some transitions (she had just graduated from college) and they were telling her that we weren’t going to work out and the generic being gay is a sin and that she should break up with me. That she loved me more than she loved God. She believed them and ended up using the story of David and Jonathan to break up with me. She told me a story before about how these same people cornered and interrogated her at one point when she was talking to a girl before and told her that she had to stop talking to her and she did. After we broke up she started fully committing herself to that church. She was on the praise team and she serves a lot. We were still talking things through because the way she went about everything really hurt me but she is my best friend. I wanted whatever was best for her and if she felt like breaking up with me was best for her relationship with God then I understood. I was still in college but she was only 3 hours away . I went to visit her but it was a weekend so she wanted me to go to church with her. I was hesitant of course because of some of the things they had said about me (didn’t even know me) but she told me that when she talked about me before she didn’t use my name. I’ve gone a few times and liked the people and they seemed to like me but I knew it was only a matter of time.

We got back together in June and I even gave her a promise ring. I went to visit her in July because her church was having a conference and she wanted me to come. It was really good. While I was there I helped out at the church, got closer with some of the people, and even went to a volunteer class so that I could play guitar for them because they were asking. But at the volunteer class I heard the pastors talking about me when I went to the back of the church. I had some heart problems and they were talking and saying that I was gay but my heart problems were God telling me I wasn’t gay (turns out I just have an arrhythmia). After that I was at Altar call and it felt like the person praying over me was trying to pray the gay away from what she was saying. I told my gf and her mom and they didn’t believe me.

She has this friend… and she really wanted to hang out with her and I’ve never really liked her. She’s not a good friend to her at all. She never has been. I tried to give her a chance and she seemed to really love and support me and my gf’s relationship. Right before I left to go home after the conference I told her that I didn’t feel right around her. Like I felt strong discernment and I felt heavy around her and I didn’t want to hang out with her again. She kept hanging out with her even though there were so many signs and just people warning her. The person that I mentioned earlier who was praying over me just so happens to be the mother of this so called friend.

She came to visit me in October and her pastors and just people at the church had a lot of questions as to where she was going and who she was with. She got a message on the first day of her trip from both the youth pastor and pastor saying that they wanted to talk when she came back to “clear some things up”. She was worried and was anxious about it the whole time she was with me ( I felt like they did that on purpose).

When she got back they had a meeting. Turns out that her “friend”^ had told them that one of the days we hung out with her, me and my gf were holding hands and calling each other pet names. That specific day we were mad at each other and were fighting so there wasn’t any of that. They interrogated her and kept asking her questions about us and about the things she told them last year. They told her that I’m toxic which??? These people don’t know me… and again told her that she loves me more than God. They said a lot of things about me and my character. They threw everything that she told them in confidence last year back in her face. They then proceeded to tell her that she needed to cut me off and stop talking to me. This made me feel like public enemy #1. I feel dehumanized and like I’m making everyone’s life harder. I was getting closer to God again and starting to go to church in my new city ( I grew up in church but had been through some previous trauma) and now I’m feeling like I don’t want to step foot in church again. I find myself being angry now when I’ve never been an angry person. I don’t feel comfortable in my clothes and I feel like everyone is judging me. I started feeling shame and started condemning myself and I know that’s not from God. I’m suicidal like I’ve never been before.

She still goes to that church. Although she stepped down from her position because she thought it was best she is voluntarily surrounded by people who she feels like she has to suppress herself with. She stopped wearing her promise ring because she doesn’t want to wear it around them. Her mom won’t let me come see them out of fear that the church and the people will find out that I’m there (they interrogated her mom too). If I went to see her it would be like she would hide me because she doesn’t want them knowing I’m there either and she’s scared. Now that they feel like they’ve “solved the problem” she’s telling me now they’re even trying to set up her and this guy in her church up.

I don’t know what to do anymore because I feel really alone. We’re long distance now and I don’t know what I possibly could do.

Hello from the frozen hell that is Canada right now!

So there's this girl whose company I really enjoy. They are funny. They are smart. And they are totally my type. We met a few months ago. But we clicked immediately. Finding out she was interested in woman too was like a jackpot for me. But then I found out she had a boyfriend so I laid off. After they broke up I was like "a chance," but was immediately let down as she admitted that she only is interested in masc women. I looked at myself and was like "damn." I lean more on the feminine side compared to her. I dress more feminine and I do my makeup almost every single day. I am practically the opposite of her ideal type. Honestly, I just want to share this because I think I might cry. I am fr about to give up tho since I don't want her to be uncomfortable around me and other shit. Plus I think it will hurt more if we stopped being friends to be honest. But yeah that's my life as a lesbian rn loll.

I've never dated a girl but I would really like to.... I'm demisexual/pansexual. I don't know exactly what I'm asking but I'll take any advice that you can give. I find myself more attracted to masc individuals and for the life of me can't find any masc girls into femme girls where I live. I guess I wouldn't classify myself as completely femme but I like to wear jewelry, makeup, and ,what I think, are cute clothes. So I guess femme haha. I have no idea what I'm doing though and could use some advice or a friendly nudge in the right direction, starting with.....where to find someone????? I tried mostly all the dating apps and they're just garbage. Thank you in advance!

I matched with a girl on Bumble while on a trip, but we only matched the night before my flight home, so we didn’t have the chance to meet in person. Since then, we’ve been talking, and it feels like we really click—we share similar values, interests, and even quirks.

Tomorrow night, we’re having our first virtual date, and I’m looking for creative ideas to make it special. I’ve thought about watching a movie together (Teleparty? Though I’ve never used it and wonder if it’s awkward without video chat) or playing a game like Google Feud. Any other fun or unique suggestions?

Also, how should I dress? It’s a virtual date at home, but it’s still a first date, so I don’t want to underdress or overdo it.

For context: there’s an 8-year age gap; I’m in my 30s and a single mother by choice with a one-year-old. She’s very sweet and has said she loves kids, which gives me hope that this could become something meaningful. I haven’t dated in years—my last date was before I conceived my child. So… fingers crossed!

A lady and I had a date planned four days ago. Today I texted her to confirm. Luckily I didn’t go to the cafe. This is both a blow to the ego and also incredibly funny to me 😂

As a start, I turned 23 this year - I’ve had two serious girlfriends before but they were long distance and the things ended before I ever got to see them in person.

Anyway, I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that I’m not behind or something because it really feels like I am. I haven’t had sex before, haven’t had a real kiss yet either. I see my Cis-Het best friends and high school classmates are already having babies or getting married and such and I know I can’t relate to them but it still kinda makes me feel like I’m going too slow.

Excuse me if I’m rambling- but adding to that, I also feel like the window is closing on me before I get the chance to really peak. Am I going to miss my chance? I still live with my moderate homophobic parents while I go to school so it’s really hard to present the way I’d like to (which is Androgynous/masculine) and feel comfortable around here. I am strictly in my study so I don’t have a job currently either. Guess I’m just feeling stuck while time passes.

So I have a friend that I'm super close with and I like her a lot. But I can't tell if I like her more then friends. I have never experienced the butterflys in my stomach, but I have had weird feelings in my heart when I chat with her. I know that may sound cheesy but that's how I feel lol. Idk does anyone know why I don't aften feel butterflys in my stomach, and if you could let me know if what im feeling is a crush or not. Thank you in advance fellow redditors 😁

I didn't realize it until I was 13, All I knew is that they love is each other. Well, my mother is bi but yeah

I (24F) have been dating my girlfriend (27F) for almost 2.5 years, but my family doesn’t know we’re together. To them, we’re just “roommates.” Every time I bring my girlfriend with me to visit, it feels like they are unwelcoming and awkward around her. Whenever I mention her in conversation, they quickly change the subject, and it feels like they intentionally ignore me. They haven’t outright told me they don’t like her, but it’s clear from their behavior that they are uncomfortable when she’s around.

My therapist has suggested that my family might be acting awkward because they secretly know we’re dating but don’t know how to treat her or what to say. That idea makes sense to me, but I also feel like my mother, in particular, thinks I’ve abandoned her in some way. I’ve always been close to her, and I worry she’s struggling with the fact that I’m in a relationship that she doesn’t fully understand or accept. I met my girlfriend in the middle of my parent’s rough divorce and spent a lot of time at my girlfriend’s house during this period.

I’m really torn about what to do. I’m scared to tell them that I’m gay. One of my sisters knows and is supportive, but the rest of my family has no idea. My girlfriend has been nothing but kind, respectful, and loving towards them, and it breaks my heart to see her feel unwelcome. It’s so frustrating because I don’t know how much longer I can keep our relationship a secret. I feel like I’m living a double life, and it’s starting to take a toll on me. My girlfriend is the first person I have ever been able to rely on and who makes me feel completely happy and I am not going to let my family take that away from me.

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? How did you handle it? I could really use some advice and perspective on how to move forward.

I literally can't wait until I'm either a stay at home cat mom for my future wife or physician's assistant, I plan on doing both at some point in my life! Because you either get 1) to decorate everything, bake/cook yummy things for the both of you, take care of all the pets, get cozy at home while you wait for the minutes to count down until she comes back .. OR 2) wake up kiss your wife on the forehead before you leave, chill at work knowing that you get to go home after to a beautiful person and a lovely home that you've made together, and make every day so worth it. Does anyone else ever randomly get excited like I do? 🌈👭

my two friends (both 21f) and i (22f) are all wlw were having a conversation about body counts. they both said their body counts were 6/7. it made me a little concerned about my body count of 20. is that too high? i guess im just wondering what is an average body count for wlw?

Does anyone else have a possessive kink (idk if theres a name for it)? I find myself thinking a lot about scenarios like this, in which there is a great affirmation of possessiveness in the midst of intimate moments, things like kissing or especially during sex, whispering and moaning things like "you are mine, mine alone, your body belongs to me" but in a much deeper and more sensual way, there is also something with marks, in being marked or marking someone, making all this possessiveness clear that you belong to me. The idea of ​​feeling so desired in such an intense and deep way, especially during sex, makes me imagine the night a lot, and also the desire to be able to make clear all your desire and possession in something is simply so Aaaaaaa idk

Anyway, I think this was more of a rant than a question, lol

a year ago, our lives changed.

we never thought we’d find love so beautifully like this. after being unlucky in love for years, we finally found true love in each other. destiny truly was so kind to us! even though we are far away from each other, everyday we grow closer. love knows no boundaries!

i love this human so much, and i can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with them. 💚🌈❤️

(pictured: our first picture together!)

Okay so I have been with my current wife for 4 years, she is 33f I’m 37f. About 2 years into our relationship she stopped having sex w me or giving me any affection at all and this literally started on our wedding day.. no kissing, no cuddling, no compliments, no sex.. nothing. It was literally like I was just married and living with my best friend. I would cry, beg and plead with her to tell me what was going on and to have sex with me, give me any attention at all, she would just ignore me and after a lil over a year I gave up and just stopped trying. Now all of a sudden a few months ago she wants to have sex with me again and I refuse.. she messed my head up so bad and made me so insecure the year and a half she rejected me. I’ve tried telling her this numerous times but it’s like she doesn’t care how I feel and she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. Don’t get me wrong I love my wife she is my everything but I am not “in love” with her anymore and now I’m not wanting to have sex with her again, I want to love her again and be able to have sex with her again but I honestly don’t know how. And it doesn’t help that I’ve been so depressed for so long idek what being happy is anymore. I’m not sure what advice I’m looking for.. just that I need fucking help.

I saw this girl on Pinterest who commented on one of those “me and who” things, and stupidly I decided to send her a dm😞Im terrible when it comes to socializing, and she already responded so I can’t take it back (also as someone who’s never had a girlfriend before, i atleast want to try??) I have no idea how to start a conversation with her, any tips apart from just “be confident”??

On Thanksgiving my girlfriend decided to book a cruise for my lonely, depressed 82-year-old grandmother. We don’t live in the same place, so having a week-long vacation with her means everything to me.

My grandma spent her entire life taking care of my severely disabled mom, my childish grandfather, and her grandkids. I don’t think she’s ever been on a real vacation. She used to say, “when your mom gets better, we’ll all go to Hawaii.” It never happened. She was never the same after my mom and grandpa died.

I’m so overwhelmed by this gift that I’ve barely even thanked my girlfriend. Every time I want to talk about it, a lump builds in my throat and I shut down. This will be the most important and beautiful thing that anyone has ever done for me and I don’t know how to verbalize it to her. I can barely even express how I feel in this post.

I’ll spend the rest of my life trying to wrap my head around this gesture, but for her, it was an ordinary gift. I’ve never loved someone this much and I hope I can be the partner she deserves.

Hi!

ive recently had a messy dating/breakup experience. apart of it was my fault because i got attached too quickly. i do have circumstances that contribute to me getting attached quickly that i’m working on in therapy. but i was wondering for those who do get attached quickly, what boundaries have you put in place when dating?

thanks

As a petite woman who’s into bigger bodied women, I’ve noticed that plus size lesbians/bi women often don’t seem as attracted to smaller women. This has been disheartening, especially because I deeply admire and find beauty in bigger bodies.

In my experience, some have even expressed dislike for my smaller frame. For instance, my ex once made me feel bad about my body, calling my boney back at the time “disgusting” and it wasn’t even protruding. (though that was a toxic relationship, so maybe not the best example).

I’m wondering if this is a common dynamic or if it’s just been my personal experience. Are there reasons why plus-size women might prefer partners closer to their own size? If I built muscles would I be more attractive to them? I’d love to hear different perspectives or advice.