Hello, I keep on misgendering my friend, and I know I hurt her when it happened. I feel deeply apologetic about it. I just need to know what I should do to make up for it other than fixing this habit (I acknowledge this method btw). I’ve always seen her as a woman, but I don’t wanna keep pestering her about the fact that she could be thinking otherwise about how I see her. I’m bilingual, and I think in two different languages (malay and english), so when I text someone, sometimes i mess up my plurals, and pronouns. I don’t want this to be an excuse though, but I just want her to know that I see her, and that I never wanted to hurt her. I just don’t want her to be sad over what I said. Sometimes the stuff I wanna say never come across right.

I wanna have this conversation with her, but I don’t wanna make her uncomfortable. I don’t really know what to do. Is talking to her even the right thing to do? I keep seeing people saying it’s bad to keep dragging it, but I just want her to know that I didn’t mean ‘him’ when I said ‘him’. I just have trouble articulating speeches, and I feel even worse when she says its okay because its not, and I can’t stop dwelling over the fact that it keeps happening. I wouldn’t say I’m not good at english, bcuz I’m pretty fluent, it’s just the fact that my thoughts are so quick I misspoke a lot, even when I’m texting.

You guys can be honest. I just wanna know how to make her less sad. Or at least let her know that I see her without making it awkward or uncomfortable. Since we’re friends I really wanna make sure that everyone feels safe and heard. Please help me!

I had a conversation with three friends, one is right leaning the other two are more liberal who voted for Harris. The right leaning guy hosts a small podcast and had three of us on to talk about the election and why Harris lost. We're all cis millennial guys. Me and the two liberal guys agreed on like 70% of things and the failure of democrats to provide for people and Kamala's inability to define herself.

Near the end a lot of issues related to trans issues came up. Everyone, even the host seemed to have a live and let live attitude about trans issues and agreed that the "Kamala supports they/them" and probably didn't effect the election that much. They also seemed to agree that trans people should use whatever bathroom they want.

But after that, we shift to talking about trans women in women sports and trans affirming care (such as puberty blockers) for kids. They all thought democrats went too far in supporting these things. I disagreed and said I think even these things are distractions. I cited the half remembered studies I had read about how trans affirming care reduces rates of suicide, how puberty blockers are reversible, how hormone therapy is required in many sports. I did my best but don't think I'll come across really well to the more right leaning audience. My liberal buddies were insistent that kids go through so much in school and are exposed to social media so we can't take studies promoting gender affirming care at face value. They were insistent that puberty blockers were not reversible because you can't miss the window for puberty and still advance through puberty normally. Trans women will always have an unfair advantage, etc.

It was a little frustrating because it just feels obvious to me that these issues are just hateful distractions. I'm also surprised with my liberal friends that are so dismissive of these studies because of bro science and vibes. Are their some talking points I could refer to or any specific studies I can look up to try to convince people that aren't too far gone on this?

So I live in Texas (yay...), and I currently have bottom surgery scheduled for next November. Now I'm sure you all can understand why recent events have me, like everyone else, feeling pretty anxious. That said though, I really don't think there's much of a chance of something happening that would get in the way?

So thinking through things, insurance first. I have insurance with Aetna through the ACA, and my income is such that the premium tax credit covers 100% of my premiums. Since the PTC is federal money, could an executive order prevent federal funds from covering all trans care? I wouldn't think so since it's only for the premium, and the surgery will be charged separately and payed for by my insurance and me (thank god for out-of-pocket maximums lol).

Then there's the supreme court. Skrmetti will get a ruling this summer, and as far as I can tell, the worst case scenario would be a ruling that all bans on gender affirming care are legal, regardless of age. That would obviously be awful, but Texas doesn't currently have any adult bans on the books, and I'm not aware of any proposed bills that would change that. Seems like they'd probably wait until a Skrmetti ruling anyway, and by then the legislative session will be over.

And then I guess there's congress. But between the extremely close margins in the House and the filibuster in the Senate, I'd genuinely be shocked if any surgery bans managed to pass in both and go into effect before November.

Those are the only things I can think of that could realistically affect my surgery, other than something more mundane like a major delay from my surgeon. Does this seem accurate? Or is there something I'm not thinking of? It really seems like I'll probably be fine, but I still worry lol.

Just tried to shave and it took me an hour and a half and what im left with is a couple cuts and i only managed to shave ONE leg in that time, and it isn't even fully shaved.
I read a post that said to rub your leg with a wet towel first and then use shaving cream and then shave it in the bath and then apply moisturiser after. And I did all that yet I'm still left with this result...! Am I doing something wrong ?! I don't understand.. it shouldn't be this difficult/time consuming..

not even sure if i’m in the right place (lol the story of my life)

anyway, cis male-regular guy, handsome, decent physique-and i do like my body as male for the most part. buti have, for the past 40 years, since i was a teen and even younger felt like was really supposed to be born female. and, i have wished it away but it’s been overwhelming lately. have been feeling like need to move fwd in figuring this out.

any words of wisdom? i have sooo much more to talk trans about etc. been on top of all of it for 40 years lol!

sorry, not a great exciting story but joining a forum and posting about this a first step. a huge first step…and, honestly, i feel a huge weight lifted already!

Like, let's sayas a trans woman & you just passed a 1 year mark of hrt. What time will pass from this point till bottom surgery (on average), given you try to sign up ASAP.

Hi I’m Kelly, a closeted trans woman. I feel quite dysphoric atm. Do you have any tips to help while I am still mainly closeted?

Thank you so much x

I’m closeted mtf. I’ve had gender euphoria (and dysphoria😒) for years, and I’m sure I’m a woman inside.

Should I come out to my apparently female doctor?

I don't have a date yet because I just got my referral today, but I want to be prepared beforehand. So to all trans masc/trans men who got top surgery, what are things you wish you knew before you went in? And what things do you think helped you most during recovery?

Yes its a real question cause ive been beat doun a lot and miss genderd constenly by most cause i dont have any dresses and i prrefer pants to skirts onley cause of what i do for work (i am a welder and i build caustom Motorcycles) and cause of my facial features after 11 years of this its realy starting to get to me and hurt i found myself 1 night n my bathroom crying so hard cause of it happening for so long and feeling like i should give up cause no one will ever see me as me

I would like to connect with another transgender woman that was also born in Puerto Rico who also had her birth certificate modified to reflect her new gender and name. I was wondering if that’s possible?

I have legally changed my name and my gender here in the state where I live. I got a legal document from a court of law. I’ve changed my drivers license, and I’ve also changed my passport, my global entry card and my Social Security. But now I would like to change my birth certificate, and I believe that only the place where i was born is able to do this. Perhaps I’m wrong. I don’t know.

If you know how to do it, please let me know. Thank you!

I am hopefully planning to start T soon (no idea if it will be possible due to non-health reasons) but I was wondering if going on T will affect my current tattoos in any way

I have a small one on my upper arm and another on my thigh, and I know that with testosterone you gain muscle and such, so I was worried that would end up distorting my tattoos

36 MtF here.

I have been transitioning on and off for 3 years.

I am mostly attracted to cis-women and transfemmes.

I am a Trans-Lesbian.

If you identify as a Trans-Lesbian, Have you had cis-women attracted to you? Have you had successful relationships etc with cis-women.

How about Chasers? both cis-women and cis-men that are chasers! How do you deal with them?

All this talk about polarity and traditional Masculine attracts Feminine talk seems Old hat!

Cheers.

I am not feeling very trans today if you are supposed to feel trans I just don't know how to feel I don't feel male or female nothing

I just started HRT. I know it could not be effecting me yet but I feel so good. I think this is probably normal. How long will it last? I’m so happy.

Hi all, I was just recently put on cypro at 12.5mg once every 5 days (to coincide w/my 3ml of E-valerate injection).

Looked around & from what I'm seeing, typically 12.5mg every other day (or more) is way more typical. Is my dose rly going to do much of anything at all? My T is still within the normal male range (prior to getting the new Rx a few days ago)

Just wondering if anyone else has been similarly lightly dosed w/Cypro & yet got decent T-reduction from it?

Other info: I'm on dutasteride as well 0.5mg/d & micronized-progesterone 200mg/day rectally

My bloodwork directly pre-Cypro-Rx is: Total-T: 13.6 nmol/L Prolactin: 12 ug/L Estradiol: 493 pmol/L

I’m pretty nervous, I’m going from oral estradiol to injection. What should I expect? Is it going to have a stronger effect than the pills? I never really got bad mood changes on the pill

36 MtF here.

 I was on Spiro for couple of years! Dosage 100mg! It did not do much at all!

Then I changed to Cypro last year!

For a week I took 50mg Cypro by mistake not realising that I was meant to take 25 mg.

Boom within a week I had bigger more feminine Areolas and my Nipples were longer and more erect and so sensitive! Although I was in a mental fog.

I stopped Hormones after that as I was still questioning my gender. Within a month fog was gone and I was so horny! My nipples so sensitive!

It took ages to cum while me penis still stayed soft.

Erections and volume of cum returned within 2 months! Now I am thinking of transitioning and starting hormones again.

I feel Cypro is just too Strong! My Endo has given me option of both.

Which one do you think is better out of the 2?

What about Bicalutamide vs Finasteride?

My Endo never mentioned those 2 but I see them mentioned in threads on Reddit!

If you were to rate all for in order of effectiveness in Feminisation and also rate them in Order of side effects, How would you rate all 4?

Hi everyone, I really need some advice, so please don’t remove this post.

I’m a trans man and straight. I’ve been with my partner, a straight woman, for almost two and a half years. She’s been amazing—accepting me for who I am and helping me feel comfortable in my own skin. Recently, I felt secure enough to let her see my body, something I’ve never done with anyone before. It felt great, and during intimacy, she asked me to take off my shirt. I believed that moment showed she truly saw me as her man.

However, later, she told me something that completely shocked me. She said she’s no longer attracted to biological men and is now into trans men (like me). When I asked her why, she said she likes my chest. I was stunned and didn’t know how to process it. She’s even saving money to help me with top surgery, which she says is her way of supporting me.

But when I asked her how she feels when she sees women’s breasts, she admitted that she likes them too. She’s always been very straightforward, and she said she was just being honest with me. Hearing that made my heart sink—I felt cold and devastated. I asked her, “So, do you not see me as a man?” She insists she does, but her words have left me feeling confused and broken.

I don’t know what to do. I want her to see me as a man, fully and completely. I love her, but I’m struggling with this. I feel so sad and unsure of how to move forward.

Hello. This post is mainly just to ask how to stop stagnating when it comes to 'gender progress'? I've been questioning for just over a year now, and I've really made no progress since then aside from being maybe 60% sure that I might be trans or at least not cis... maybe... I hope.

I recently went back to counseling at my college, and I managed to tell the counselor about my trans questioning, but unfortunately it's not really the focus of our sessions, and not her expertise. I've kind of sidelined it mentally, there, so it's not really being addressed.

I've not really experimented much either in private, in part due to lack of financial independence or confidence to do things like buy feminine clothing or paint my nails.

All this is to say: do y'all have any advice on how to get out of this rut and make some progress? Thanks!

TW: trans sexualization mention

Sorry about this it’s just been on my mind for a while. I’ve been wondering as a trans woman out to myself for a little over half a year now. It’s been the most amazing half year with of course the pretty expected fears and worries and all that, but I want to hear people’s opinions.

Is it good or bad change to be seen primary through the lens of porn rather than not at all? Because when I was younger, trans people were damn near invisible. I didn’t know what it meant and never heard the word. Now people and even younger kids will hear about it but the usual perception of us is either through porn which is obviously not a good lens or they just point to masculine features on women and sometimes they’re right when they say it’s a trans woman (i can’t say I see much of that in the media around trans men but I’m primarily on trans women subreddits and areas because… I’m not a trans man lol).

But I wonder if it’s a topic for debate as to whether being seen like this is purely bad or if it serves some purpose if not only to show trans women don’t look like men like other media might lead you to believe or any other reason.

I’m a 64 yrs trans and I’m going for consultation for BA. I‘v been on HRT for over 3 yrs and my results are a 38B. I’m not the big a person, 5-6 1/2, 154 lbs. My boobs are ok and the look pretty good with a “push-up” bra, but when I look at myself in the mirror, I see that there is a good space between the “girls”, along with the wider chest, it seems like my boobs get lost. This has made me seek BA. So with my physique I’m not sure whether I should get saline or silicon, but I need something to feel better about myself.

What is the main difference between saline and silicone and does age come into play in this decision on which one to pick? I don’t want anything big, thats not me. I am looking for a full C-cup, or D-cup cups. I would love to hear from you on what you think or experience is for BA. I have to get this right as I don’t have a lot run way left and in these years I want to feel good when I look at myself or as good as possible.

Well now that Donald Trump is president elect and promised to ban pediatric trans care, I have some concerns to say the least. Given that several states, primarily those with more conservative legislatures, have already enacted similar laws, I’m wondering if it’s realistically possible for such a ban to be implemented at the federal level. The Republicans have a very slim majority in the house and not anywhere close to a super majority in the senate. Would there be enough resistance to have it fail if they tried to do a national ban?

Additionally, how are trans youth navigating the current state-level bans on healthcare access? Are there effective ways for them to seek care in states where these laws are in place? Or are they just SOL? It's something that's been on my mind a lot since the election.

Hi everybody. I'm Chelsie. Just finally coming out at the ripe age of 37, despite having cracked my egg over two years ago. Deep down, I had always known, but through denial, gaslighting sibling, drink and drugs, I have perpetually forced myself into believing I was just "confused" or fetishizing women. Thank goodness for the GenderDysphoria.fyi book - literal lifesaver!

The reason for my post is to share that as of 3 PM CST, I have begun the probably long process of transitioning, at this point only planning on HRT and T-blockers. After denying myself and what's happening inside my body, I finally called my physician. I was disappointed to hear back that their hospital/clinic does not provide Gender Affirming Care, but they didn't even flinch to consider writing me a referral. My plan is to start on E and T blockers for a short term (as the doctors prescribe), and go from there. That's the good news...

The bad news is that I am essentially at square one now with an eventual new doctor, but worse, I need to discuss this revelation with my wife. She was "less than enthused" when I admitted to "suspecting" I was trans last year (an error on my part, but I do truly love her and worried for our future), and while I worry this may be the end of our relationship, I have somewhat come to accept that.

Anyway, I just wanted to shout from the roof tops, and welcome anyone's tips or suggestions for the first 6-18 months of transition.

I'm genderfluid and have been going by a new name socially for years. (Besides my non accepting family) I plan to get married in may 2025. What's the best way to go about this. I'd like to be married in my name and not dead name. I'm not sure if itd be easier to change both names at the same time or do my dead name first then later get my last name changed. I know virtually nothing about the process other then I most likely will need to see a judge for atleast the dead name (I have no felonys or actual debt besides a small medical bill) For refrence I live in Oklahoma. Any and all help is appreciated:).

i’m not exactly a transbian since i am bisexual but i currently have a (cis) gf and i’ll probably marry her and i was wondering if any transbians here had bottom surgery and how it impacted their sex life with their gf/wife

Im a m20. I'm not a sure if I am trans I wear women's clothes and I do think about being a woman and I feel like a woman but I'm not sure.