i am socially awkward and never kissed a girl but i know it’ll only happen if i get on a dating app so like how do i say that because it always feels awkward telling people that and honestly kinda want someone to guide me too ??? like any tips on how i should go about it without sounding off putting and desperate

I have a really good friend who is somewhat recently out. I’m a bit worried for her based on her new online relationship, but also want your opinions, as I’ve been burnt very badly in online/long distance relationships, so I might be biased.

My friend met someone online on a discord forum about 5 months ago and she and the woman really hit it off. They talk every day often on FaceTime, became exclusive two months in, and started exchanging I love yous three months in. They both have had various issues come up that have prevented them from meeting in person, and live 5 hours away via plane, but are planning to meet up later this month.

For me, it’s impossible to truly say I’m in love with someone until I meet. I’ve been catfished and lied to one too many times to believe something is real until I get a vibe from someone in person. I’m really worried my friend is going to get hurt, but I also do have a friend who met her wife online, they didn’t meet for a year, and now are incredibly happy.

Is my cynicism about needing to meet in person to truly have a real and serious relationship ruining my own chance at love, or am I right to be worried about my friend being love-bombed and/or catfished by this woman? Should I warn her that she might get hurt and to be careful, or would that be pushing the boundaries too much?

Me (20F) and my gf (20F) have been dating for about 3 months now, she broke up with her ex of 7 months about a year ago but still brings him up sometimes. She tells me that she’s over him and would never pursue a relationship with him again and they have gone no contact however, there seems to be some lingering feelings towards their relationship such as despise. She additionally had pictures of them together on her phone but said she never deleted them because she likes the memories but later deleted them after I brought it up. She compares me to him quite often telling me that I’m much better than him and I treat her how she’s always wanted to be treated but I don’t like the comparison because it makes me feel like she’s constantly putting us side by side. Is it wrong of me to feel that way? Would this be a red flag?

I used to be close to a christian girl who liked girls too, we always had deep convos and we used to message or call each other, we shared a lot of our lives and our vulnerable things but in public she doesn't talk to me or she bursts at me and is agressive. I stopped interacting with her and she seems to want to reconnect but she treated me very poorly i can't come back.. Why was she so bad with me, like i know a lot about her as she knows about me, i just dont understand sometimes i really think she hates me but i never hurted her

So, my best friend of 7 years confessed to me about a few weeks ago, I don't know if she's serious or not because I am seriously stupid and dense when it comes to emotions and relationships.

But lately she's been sending several signs that makes it seems like she's serious, I don't want to play her into a situationship because if she's serious, I would also like her to be my girlfriend because she's very precious to me and I DO love her but I am confused whether it's romantically of platonically. However, I am very sure I will develop romantic feelings for her if we were to commit into an actual relationship.

However, if we were in a relationship and she wants to do something a bit more partner exclusive activities later on into our relationship--I am basically cooked. I have never held hands with another human being in a romantic way. Although I have had several confessions before from both guys and girls I knew, I was never so shaken and was quick to politely rejecting them. But I couldn't do the same for her.

The other day she was drunk and said more loving things to me, but I am the type of person that don't process things unless you're very direct(my friends words, not mine) and I am still questioning if she's serious or not. I don't want to go onto the relationship and figure out she was actually joking later on. She had said "I love you" to me several times but she did so too before when we're kids so there's a possibility she's saying it half-heartedly.

How do I go on with this?

(Also I am very sorry if I worded this post in a weird way, I just want to make this post real quick)

I (16F) finally figured out I’m a lesbian after talking with a friend of mine. I’ve always gone between being bi and lesbian. My attraction to women is definite but my attraction to men was always weird. The thought of having sex with a guy always grossed me out but I thought I had to do it to really know. The thought of having sex with a woman sounded enjoyable. I have always felt this insecurity with my sexuality. I thought I had to like men or that I was weird for being gay. I have gotten better with that but I still struggle. I was stuck in this heteronormative way of thinking. I just feel comfortable with women. I feel at ease with the thought of having a wife and kids someday. But the thought of having a husband scares me. I always felt like I would be missing out on something if I was in a relationship with a man. I finally feel comfortable with myself. Being able to say it out loud is freeing. I’m excited. I know that sounds stupid but I was fixated on my attraction towards men. I was forcing it. I don’t know why I’m typing this out. I just want to tell someone.

I recently went to college and here I feel like it is impossible to find other gay people, and I didn’t think it would affect me but it does. I feel like I can’t fully connect with my current friends, because they don’t understand this huge part of myself. They make hurtful comments and jokes about me being gay, like saying I stare at other girls in the dressing room, or telling me they’d out me to my parents, thinking that’s funny. They only say this because they’re ignorant, and they don’t mean it, but I’m just tired of dealing with it all the time. They just don’t understand me, and I feel like it’s preventing me from making meaningful connections in college.

I didn't see this movie before so I'm not sure if I can ship this couple? They look like a really couple in this poster. (Forgive me, I really like ship girls's love CP)

Guys I need to talk, I met a girl in August this year and everything went well, we met several times and things seemed to be fine between us and 2 weeks ago she stopped to talk to me, but without blocking me or anything. Today, I just found out that she blocked me everywhere. Everything was good between us, we didn’t argued or something like this before this happened. I’m just so confused rn about this situation. Everything was fine between us she even told me that she has started to have feelings for me but what happened in her head ? I started to get deeply attached to this girl because we were talking everyday about everything, she became a part of my life but she decided to disappear !

The proudest moment of my life, coming out and sharing my love with the world, has been stripped away from me. How did you not let it consume you? I'm having a terribly hard time, as I think my entire identity was wrapped up in this and my confidence and my strength.

You guys, I am struggling more than I can even convey through words. I live in a small town, too, and am freaking out.

My pics in here are getting downvoted 😭

oh my actual god. i desperately need queer or lesbian friends PLEASEEE. all of my friends are straight or bi with a husband and i just 😭 i’m so fucking tired of hearing my best friend deal with boy drama that could be easily resolved but i have to just sit back and observe. because obviously im not gonna tell them what to do, it’s their life. im just mad about my friends men bullshit that it’s starting to become exhausting. it’s so hard when i don’t relate to it either.

i genuinely crave a community in which i can relate to and feel comforted and safe in. i do not have one right now </3

i hope some of you guys can relate, and do you guys have any advice :( ???

Dating apps are actually horrendous, I’ve tried them since I was 19, I’m 26 now. Stuff like taimi, hinge, tinder, OkCupid, it just never works for me especially with the amount of straight cis-men on taimi who “press nb to see women” (I’ve had this happen to me a bunch and it’s actually irritating). My friend who’s wlw also said she has trouble finding other women and either they’re all taken or she’s just not their type so maybe it’s the same for me?

I’m not really big on bars because I’ve heard horror stories about girls bringing their bfs to lesbian bars and I’m not trying to deal with that. I just want a connection with someone but it also feels as if the dating apps are just hook up central and I’m not keen with being intimate with a person I don’t know. So I fear I’m all out of options unless I’m just unaware of places lesbians circulate or etc? I’m kinda worried I’ll be doomed to be alone forever.

Sorry this is kinda all over the place I’m not that great with this kinda stuff

Hi Guys! I hope this type of post is okay! I (20F) has had a pretty big crush on this girl(21F) at my university for the past month. I see her regularly, she’s a friend of a friend, and i’ve studied with her a couple times. There’s a lot i like about her but i haven’t been able to say anything and i have no idea how to handle this casually? I really wanna take her out on a date but she’s a little shy and i’m worried i might scare her off. I think im lacking a little confidence so any advice is truly appreciated! Thanks :)

So as the post says, I F14 just got my first girlfriend F19 and I'm really excited about it, she's so pretty and cute and nice and I feel so happy!

I'm posting because im not out to my family yet and she told me not to tell any friends so I just need to rant about her to someone (in a good way she's amazing fr)

So a few days ago she told me that she liked me, which was a big shock, so I told her I needed to think about it, we have been texting for a few months, almost a year i think. anyway! We texted like normal and then today, I brought it up and said I liked her too!

I was so nervous! But then I asked her if I could be her girlfriend and she said YES!! I'm so excited about this! She told me I was cute and hot and I feel so happy I could die I have never had so may butterflies in my stomach!

One of the reasons why I was so nervous was because she has been in alot of relationship and she has a job and she's so mature and pretty! Also because sometimes I feel like a child yk? And she told me how mature I was for my age and how beautiful I was. I have been struggling with self worth and stuff so it really helped me to see myself in a different light.

Like I feel like this is a shitty teenage movie, I'm laying on my bed kicking my feet and giggling like an idiot!

Sooo that's how I got my first girlfriend!

Hi! I’m currently a uni student in London and my only lesbian people i know are my gf, so really wishing I could make some lesbian friends atm especially since my uni friendships seem to only be straight women. Really interested in fashion, anime, cosplay etc and think it would be really cool if there were others in this sub who know more about the lesbian scene/ my interests in London!

My girlfriend and I are different ethnicities. I have moved away from my hometown to be with her. Her and I have been dating for 3 years now.

I have been missing my mom’s cooking but I don’t talk to my parents anymore (that’s a whole diff story.)

Today, my older cousin came to visit from Vegas. I picked her up from my aunt’s place because she wanted to stay at our place and we live an hour away. On our ride home, she was telling me how she can make some food like what our moms would make. I got so so happy because I have been craving them and was expressing to her how much I miss it and how my gf loves them too.

When we got home and got settled, my cousin told my gf she can make food for us! And my gf goes “good! Cuz she can’t make shit” …

Just replaying that in my head as I typed that broke my heart all over again as if I was hearing it for time first time.

When she gets excited with friends she tends to joke around and can be mean towards me.

My girlfriend and I recently broke up. I'll go into the backstory further if anyone feels it necessary but briefly, she was reluctant to commit, we were long distance and she said all the right things in the beginning but ultimately admitted that she never wanted anything more than to see me once every few weeks and wasn't very interested in a 'proper' relationship.

Anyway, I was talking to my friend about it and he said she was 'punching' with me anyway.

I could agree, if I was an outsider and that was someone else's relationship. Because she treated me badly, she was very closed off toward me and had bullied me many times, lied about her intentions and hurt me over and over, done some awful things and was emotionally unavailable whereas I was very focused on our relationship and treated her kindly throughout, so 'punching' in terms of integrity and congruence levels, yes. I didn't string her along, hurt her or hide my intentions like she did.

However what he said had a different meaning.

I'm very feminine looking. Girly clothes, hair, make-up etc. He said she was 'punching' because she's butch. She's probably the most butch(looks wise) woman I've ever seen let alone dated.

She is very good looking, very well put together, great dress sense, tall, gorgeous face and smile etc etc which I did point out.

He said 'yes but you're the girly one? Men would fancy you'.

I asked 'so you're saying she's punching because I am more attractive to men?!

'Yes I guess'.

I asked so,even if I dated the most objectively attractive butch woman in the world, she'd be 'punching' just because most men aren't attracted to that aesthetic? Neither of us look the way we do to attract men?

It was an interesting conversation as I've said as I've never thought about it that way before however it was also infuriating in a sense.

That even to a gay man, women's value is placed on how much a man may find them attractive.

Edited to add my friend's definition of 'punching'.

Sorry. The reason I put it in inverted commas is because it most definitely isn't a term I personally use. But yes, he meant it in the sense of me being too good for her.

I don't agree that anyone is 'too good' for anyone based on looks, generally anyway. Some might. But this was a bit more specific.

If I was to say who was the most aesthetically pleasing of me and her, I'd say a lot of femmes are far more attractive physically than I am, and not many butches are as attractive as I found her.. but that is very, very subjective.

I came out officially as lesbian this year and turned off the men options in all of my dating apps. I'm used to the apps being less dry bc of that, I feel like I'm kind of a catch (lmao) but no one ever likes me on the apps? Is this a me problem or a universal issue?

I’m in a bit of shock right now and I’m not sure if my reaction is unreasonable. I’ve been on multiple dates (about 5 spread out since mid Oct) with this nice girl from Hinge, and we had another date planned for this weekend. I’m someone who usually takes a while to develop romantic feelings and kiss, be touchy, etc. however on the third date she initiated a kiss and I enjoyed it- so every date since we have usually kissed. Last date she invited me to stay over at her place and we kissed/cuddled quite a bit, and i thought it was lovely. She was definitely the initiator with a lot of the touching and kissing. I wasn’t 100% sold on our total compatibility but thought we were getting to know each other and enjoy each others company.

However, she told me today that after giving it some thought she hasn’t developed romantic feelings, and cancelled what would have been our 6th date. It hit me harder than I thought it would, as I thought we were just starting to develop something and felt we interacted quite intimately on the date prior. Am I just being prudish by thinking all that contact and time spent indicated potential romantic feelings on her end? I’m feeling a bit led on but that might just be my naivety.

!!!THIS IS REALLY TMI!! So I really like women, and I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian. But sometimes I have fantasies about doing sexual stuff with men, but I don't actually want a man to do that to me. I don't want anything to do with men, and I'll never date one. I don't know why I think about men sometimes. Am I gay?

I’m a 28 y.o. female and I’m horny and single. I’m looking for someone to sext / exchange sexy pics / etc. How can I find this?? Also DM if interested lol

5’4 and 115 lbs hehe

hiya there!

I recently confessed to my now girlfriend. I have had a crush on her for a while, it was one of the ones where she was always on my mind no matter how hard I tried to think of something else, in other words, I was essentially head over heels.

But now that I'm dating her, things have calmed down very abruptly, I don't think of her as often, I'm not sure if it's because I'm dating her, or if it's because my feelings have faded.

Another thing is that her parents are very very homophobic, they believe that lesbians/lgbt people are sins and that it's not right. The constant feeling of fear when I'm around her because of how her parents scare me can be very overwhelming. Is it normal to feel this way?

edit: Her parents found out and clearly told us that they weren't okay with it, but we still got back together

I've matched with someone on Her and we've been chatting for a few days. Their profile says the are a Top ⛓️ What exactly does this mean? Are we talking stone top? A kink thing? They are a welder? Please help a girl out.