So my girlfriend and I have been dating for awhile and she wants me to sit on her face. I tested it out on my own and I was sore for holding that position for 30seconds🤣any tips or tricks,so she's comfortable but I'm also comfortable would be greatly appreciated 🌈

I am almost 40 years old. I got married at 19 to a man. Ive been through alot of sexual trauma so sex was never a big interest to me. After being in trauma therapy for a few years I decided that I want to have a better relationship with sex. I thought that I didn't like sex because of my past experiences. I am starting to think that i just don't like men. Just wanted to say this somewhere safe.

I’m not here for advice. I’m not here for solutions. I just need to scream into the void where someone might get it. Four years. Four years, and she left because she “needed space” . I quit my job because I hate it. My fridge is full of expired yogurt I can’t force myself to eat. My gym shoes are buried under a pile of laundry I haven’t touched in months. I’m a cliché of a lesbian post-breakup meltdown, and I hate myself for it.

Now I’m sitting here, hollowed out, thinking: What if I just disappear? Not that way—but like, pack a bag, ghost my own life, and drive until my GPS gives up. I’m so angry. At her. At me. At Trader Joe’s for selling the frozen meals we used to share. I’m booking a ticket tomorrow. No plan, no purpose. Just… motion. Maybe if I keep moving, the grief can’t catch up.

I don’t even know what I’m asking here. Maybe I just need to know I’m not the only one who’s unraveled like this. That another queer woman has rage-cried in a gas station parking lot at 2am, or forgotten how to feed herself, or tried to outrun the ache. If you’ve been here… ugh. Solidarity, I guess.

Hey everyone! I’m Akalia, a 24-year-old lesbian looking to make some solid friendships with people who vibe well with Aries introverts. I’m reflective, emotionally aware, and value deep conversations just as much as playful banter. While I can be fiery and independent, I also have a soft side for people who are patient, intentional, and can match my energy in meaningful ways.

I recently moved to Indiana and am focused on self-growth, fitness, and getting my life together, but I’d love to connect with other women (23-26) who are mature, emotionally intelligent, and down for honest, engaging conversations. Bonus points if you enjoy deep dives into psychology, astrology, or just figuring out life together!

If you’re someone who appreciates quality time, mutual effort, and a balance of teasing and thoughtful support, hit me up! I’d love to build friendships that feel natural, uplifting, and not just surface-level.

Looking forward to meeting some like-minded people!

Do any of you still joke around with your partner like this? I find it fun to do, and I should have played it out more. 🤣

I was with men for a long time, had children and lived the heteronormative life. I knew that I wanted to be with women but never had the guts to…until I did. And then the pieces finally fit.

So I met my now wife and we’ve been together for 5 years. She’s wonderful in so many ways and I feel like the luckiest girl in the world that she even gave me the time of day.

Her work requires travel and business type of social events. Here is the problem. While I truly believe she will be faithful, I am consumed with jealously. To the point where I will ice her out, start fights. I hate it and never have been this way before. I don’t understand it and it’s of course causing problems for us.

Has anyone else been through this?

I also have to say, we met while we were both in other relationships and had started an affair.

Hey! Delete if not allowed; I’m just shooting my shot! I’m a 27 cis female in the metro Detroit area and I am BORED and have little to no gay friends in the area. I enjoy video games, craft beer, going to the gym and I’m currently in school (social work or pharmacy) I haven’t made up my mind yet! If interested in being pals feel free to DM me or whatever and we can exchange snap or whatever the kids are doing these days idk.

i just want to know.

i broke up with my partner yesterday because 3 days ago we were on the phone and i got a sudden intense period cramping, it lasted for 20 minutes and he (a he/him lesbian) was hearing me in pain, after i made my way to get some painkillers and i started feeling better, he said “if i was there i would’ve raped you” he apologised for his bad wording and explained himself by saying he was just trying to distract me from my pain i feel traumatised and suicidal, im literally not okay

Sorry if my writing is bad im kinda rushing rn

For the past two years, I (14F) have been ABSOLUTELY in love with my homophobic Roman Catholic best friend who I'll call B (16F). She's not the type to outright disrespect the LGBTQ (at least not anymore), but she's still a "i dont support, but I respect". And yes, that is homophobic, because it's like telling someone "I dont support you for having brown eyes but I respect you for having brown eyes". She's also aware that homosexuality is natural but still chooses not to support it, I don't know her exact thought process. And she barely respects it either, she kinda just tolerates it being mentioned and has said some disrespectful things about it like "i ignore LGBTQ, i just pray and hope you get your sanity back someday".

However, I am madly in love with her. We were childhood friends but stopped talking during the pandemic, but I still had her email address. When my life got really bad in middle school and I had no one to turn to, I made the mistake to send a long email to her talking about my life. Once I sent that, we started talking every single day. Loads of texts and a minimum of 3 hours calling each other daily. She was without a doubt the closest friend I ever had. She was struggling, I was struggling, and we were the only people who truly understood each other. The connection I've made w this girl is supernatural. Like Madoka and Homura level connection.

In early 2023 when I realized how much I loved her, i came out to her. She didnt take it well and started telling me how there was no way it was possible for me to be gay and it turned into a fight which i cut her off over. Me cutting her off lasted like, a month, because neither of us could handle not being in contact. We stayed in contact for a few months until we got into another fight because she said she was basing a character in her book off me, and the character was a backstabber who fell into satanism? Like, it smelled some demonic flower and turned into a terrible, evil person working with the devil (I guess plants make you gay now lmfao). I was a little pissed and asked if she thought i was a satanist or whatever and she said yeah. So we stopped talking completely until November 2024 when I saw on her Quotev that she had gay friends now and was a little more accepting of it, so I sent a long email apologizing for trying to make her agree with the lgbt and for me being a bad friend. I have a lot of internalized homophobia I still can't work through, and i was just so desperate to have her back in my life.

I think I made a mistake. Our relationship is weird asf. We always tell each other how we're the only people on earth who get each other, how much we love each other, how we're soulmates, how God needs us to stay with eachother, how we want to live together in the woods and have cats and be famous writers. Yet then she says I'm just a friend. We both agree that we've never felt this way with FRIENDS. We're not best friends. Even if B doesn't see me romantically, our relationship isnt platonic. The way we function isn't platonic. She doesn't use labels (and shes against the lgbt) but shes said she doesnt feel attraction to anyone, and I'm fine with that, but our relationship is still more than platonic. We're somewhere in between. I know that I'm young, but I've never felt something with anyone else. I had a girlfriend last year who I really liked (up until she got addicted to Roblox e-sex to the point where she considered that more meaningful than our relationship and dumped me), and even though I really thought we had something, once we broke up I realized I was still in love with B.

This week, I really needed some support. But all my friends are emotionally unintellegent, so I got it from B. I told her that there was this (fake) girl named Jessica at my school who I was absolutely in love with. I said everything I'd ever wanted to say to B, all my feelings, all my confusion, except I said I felt it for Jessica. I literally quoted EXACT things B said to me about our relationship and said Jessica said it, made up stories about Jessica that were things B did, etc. B told me that Jessica was giving me mixed signals and that if she were in that situation, it'd drive her crazy. The irony.

I just don't know what to do. I would do anything for her, I love her so much, she's my fucking sun and I love her so much it drives me crazy. I'm so in love with her that it's making my depression worse, I can't get out of bed, I'm failing in school, and I can barely even talk to people. I can't slowly distance myself because I get all giddy and happy when she gives me any kind of attention. Shes like a drug. Shes just so amazing and funny and also stupid in a good way, shes so much more than just a girl, shes my other half and I cant function without her but I can't function with her. I keep hoping that when she goes to collage she'll meet people and eventually be more accepting but Im impatient as fuck. What the fuck do i do please respond ssksfskfjsakjdfhacnaksdcakjsdbvkavjfjkndsk

I'm just trying to learn here. I know I've never been easily frustrated by my partners or anything they do, but I've been with people who would always get mad at me easily or get sick of me being around often. But then i was a bitch if I suggested we break up? Idk

But now when I picture having a girlfriend, I can only imagine she wouldn't really want to spend time with me, so sometimes when I picture taking a hypothetical girlfriend on a date it'd just be me bringing her somewhere and then leaving her alone unless she decides she wants me around 💀

Idk if that would be normal? I certainly wouldn't love it but I hate the idea of bothering someone I love. Do people get sick of their partners easily? Should I expect more irritability in the future?

I (26F) returned to therapy a few months ago because of an incident, unrelated to the title. I am doing well nowadays and working on myself. During our latest session however, my doctor informed me that I'm unable to process emotions well and that it's going to take some time to unpack the traumas I have. My nightmares have come back, and now it's usually of someone sneaking up on me, threatening to touch me. I'm repulsed by physical touch especially when it's abrupt and I don't see it coming. I have a weird physical reaction to it, my body just tenses up. It's frustrating why I'm like this, so I'm trying to jog through the memories that I can remember to understand myself better. I remembered this one particular moment with an ex-girlfriend, which happened some 7-8 years ago already.

There was one night when this ex-gf (then 23F) stayed over at my college accomodation outside the uni that I share with a roommate (then 19F). My mom was staying over that weekend, too, as she sometimes does just to make sure I'm not killing myself with cup noodles and takeouts maybe. Lol. Everbody has gone to bed, lights are off. There are two bunk beds— Mom and roomie stayed at the lower bunks, while I and gf occupied the top bunk above roomie's. While we were cuddled together, I remember drifting off to sleep quite quickly, sleep deprived as I was. Idk exactly what time that was but it felt like it had only been a few hours because I could barely open my eyes and the sky was still so dark when I found myself woken up with her eating me out. I was so shocked and frozen in horror seeing her do this while my friend is just below us and my MOM is on the bed beside us. I couldn't make a sound. I wanted her to stop, so i tried pushing her away repeatedly but she wouldn't let up. I couldn't move too much for fear of waking everybody up so I let it happen. I thought since it doesn't hurt, I should be fine. But that look on her face, I remember now, it's unnerving. As if she's even happy, smirking at seeing me scared. I let it happen though, so it could be that I also liked it eventually. Or maybe I forced myself to enjoy it, since it felt like I had no choice but to let her have her way with me.

Have I been SA-ed or am I victimizing myself? How does a person process trauma healthily and is it really possible to heal?

Thanks.

ive only been dating them for a month but im already so happy with how our relationship is going!! she makes me feel like a better version of myself, and when im with them everything just feels right. shes so beautiful and kind and i love her smile and her laugh and her eyes are so pretty, and idk i just hhhhhhh I LOVE HER SO MUCH

sorry i just needed to rant about my beautiful awesome wonderful gf teehee

Okay so I will collect just about anything that interests me or makes me incredibly happy examples are: ‘pocket watches’ ‘rocks’ ‘keys’ ’buttons’ but one of my big big ones are knives of any shape, size and even colour, I have a little over 10 currently and am still adding more as I find them but many of my friends and even my ex used to and still do criticise me on the fact I collect them in the first place because it’s ’weird’ as they call it now I never use them to threaten anyone in fact they are in a locked glass case in my bedroom so you can’t touch them without me unlocking it and that’s for safety purposes and since I don’t want them touched anyways but I don’t see how it’s strange to collect knives? Or really anything as it brings me joy I’m safe about them and I don’t buy them for bad purposes just that I like having them on display because I find them unbelievable cool.

Now how do you ya’ll feel about girls who collect thing? Cause I would absolutely love a women who would collect literally anything with me just because we love it but so far most people I’ve spoken too find it weird or even creepy

I found this community and thought I’d give it a shot and ask people about this. I’m in my 20s, and recently, my mother accidentally outed me—or should I say she did it on purpose—to my relatives, specifically my aunts. I had no idea until my cousin told me.

This cousin was my closest confidant before I was out, and I always knew that if I told her I was a lesbian, she would support me. And guess what? She did. Now, it’s my turn to support her.

While my mother and aunts were busy talking about me being a lesbian, my cousin told me something that really stuck with me. When her mother (my aunt) found out about me, she said, “I would be so unhappy if my daughter turned out to be a lesbian.” What my cousin didn’t say outright—but I understood—was that she is also gay. She’s afraid to break her mother’s expectations.

She has always been a good daughter, always obedient to her mother’s wishes, and now she feels trapped, confused, and under a lot of pressure. She told me she doesn’t know what to do. Meanwhile, her mother is in denial about my sexuality, insisting that I’m just going through a phase—even though I’ve already had two ex-girlfriends.

She doesn’t have an account to post this, so I’m doing it for her. Please help me figure out how to support her. Any advice would be greatly.

Hey guys!! I (21F) thought I was ace for the past few years, I had sex with a girl once 2 years ago and it confirmed the feeling. Now i dont feel like that any more and would like to experiment in a fwb situation. Here’s where the problem comes in, since I thought i was ace for the longest time I haven’t actually properly had sex or anything before. I am nervous that the person I end up being Fwb w wont enjoy it cuz idk wtf im doing. Also, I have a person in mind but i dont know how to ask. Has anyone been in a situation like this before and how did u go about it?? Any tips appreciated🫶🏽

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I pretty much destroyed my knee on my first day with a new pacient. I finished the day and limped home.

I need some well wishes and lady kisses. 🥲💔

I went to a new gym recently and before, I checked their instagram to see their coaches. One of them caught my attention and I went on her Instagram and saw lots of pictures that seemed like she was into girls and she is also about 50% masc and 50 fem

She is also a model and I wanted her to be my coach

But when I arrived I only saw a guy coach and he is now my coach

Today I went to my training session and she was there sitting while training another student and she approached me with a strong eye contact and I was a bit nervous but she seemed genuinely interested to know what I was doing there.

She then asked me few questions and walked me to my actual coach even if it wasn’t necessary.

Then I started training on the other side of the gym and she came around behind me doing almost nothing and I could see her through the mirror, and kept being around and even forgot about her own student. And before she leaves the gym she waved and said goodbye to me while I was training with my actual coach.

I am wondering if she knew or felt that I had a certain attraction to her when she interacted with me ?? Or if she knew that I was into women too? Maybe from my outfit idk

What do you think ?

Me 25, and my girlfriend 36, have been together for 7 years. She pretty much has stopped having sex with me. It has been a slow decline over the years. Even when we used to take trips abroad she would never make an effort with me. The sec is great when it happens and it always keeps me feeling like things aren’t so bad? We are really close as most lesbian couples are, and I feel bad for feeling like she isn’t enough and over time I have become extremely detached and getting gratitude from watching porn regularly. I’m the past two years, we probably had sex three times. It’s hard to get advice from my friends because they just say, communication is key, but I am extremely good at voicing my needs. Whenever I do this, she gets cross with me. Recently, the excuse has been that she regularly wears tampons due to her PCOS. I don’t want to end things, obviously. But, I continue to constantly hit a wall with this. I want to be a better girlfriend for her but I don’t know how.

So like guys idk if this is the right place to do this but like I've known this girl on and off for a year now and we hit it off real well at the beginning so like she suddenly ghosted me twice and every time I asked her for the reason she would always say she needed some time for herself and stuff.

So like in October I was having this like really hard time and it was taking the toll on my mental health I was not doing good and she wanted me to like get into a relationship with her but I did not want that because it was too early for me and too fast it was too sudden for me and I just couldn't do it also the fact that she used to disappear every now and then made me scared that what if she does that again (I was in love with her ngl). So I told her to be friends and stuff but she was insistent on being more than just friends and then I was too stressed and overwhelmed so somehow we stopped talking.

I tried texting her yesterday so today her new gf texted me telling me to back off and that I was just embarrassing myself.

So like she got a gf in 3 months and all and I'm painted as the bad guy so is it my fault? Did I ruin a good thing? Also the fact that this was supposed to be ldr and I was only 16 I couldn't afford allat mental pressure stuff.

I have started missing her a lot recently prolly js because I'm too single but wtv I js wanted to know how she was doing and stuff but like idek what she has told her gf abt me.

She was too emotionally dependent on me and whenever we'd argue or anything she'd js smoke weed like too muchhhh, look I'm not against smoking weed (I do that too rarely) and all but it was too much for me bc i myself have mental health issues and the fact that I was new in college and she was emotionally dragging me to get into a relationship with her was too much for me at the time. I legit had crippling anxiety the whole time.

I feel like I ruined a good thing like things were js going good and I brought my critical thinking into it and ruined it?

Tbh I was just being honest with her bc we are both students with literally no money (like my parents got money but why would they give me money to go meet someone across the globe that too a girl?)

Also guys sorry this is kinda long I js wanted to tell this to someone but I have like noone to talk abt this so u guys gotta read this ✋🏻😔

Does anyone else find dating exhausting and complicated and almost emotionally scarring? Does anyone else feel like it's not even worth it?

Like of some girl approaches me anymore, I'm going to assume the situation is just going to make my life more stressful and worse, and I have no energy for it.

Hi, this my first reddit and I’m dying to figure it out what the fvck happened between me (femme, 26 yrs old) and the girl (soft masc, 30 yrs old) I was seeing.

I just moved to a new city and we matched through a dating app. 1st date was quite good, casual dinner and then we hit the bar but we didn’t sleep together. My impression is that this girl asked so many questions about my past, my family and love life. I thought it was just her way to make sure I’m not catfishing her.

After the 1st date, she texted me a lot, saying she is having a huge crush on me and really wanting to know about me more. However, she disappointed because I was just looking for casual dates/ONS while she was looking for serious relationship. She said she had traumatized experience with exes in the past which caused her mental health so she is really be careful with her feelings. I respected her choice and happy with being just friend.

The problem was she kept hitting on me 🤔and telling me how bad she wanted to sleep with me. I shut it down as I agreed to be her friend only and I didn’t want to be the one who end up hurting her. We continued to talk and she shared her tragic past, I grew the connection sympathies with her.

We texted all the time and she asked a lot of questions about sex again and about my life values. Every time I asked her why she kept asking questions about my sex life, she said she wants to know as a friend. But then the next day, she decided to do casual date with me instead of the serious relationship as long as I follow her rules: no cuddle and I can’t touch or kiss her on the lips, because she said that makes her fall in love with me. Stupid and horny enough, I said yes 🫣😭😭

But she ended up breaking her rules on our 2nd date. She kissed me first and we cuddled (no sex because I was on period😂😂). After that, we spent all night talking, literally all night. I couldn’t help it and fell in love with her. And again, stupid enough, I considered to be in serious relationship with her.

However, on the same day, she sent me a long text message saying she was scared of falling in love with me because I don’t have the same life values as her (her judgement from my past relationships). She wanted us to be only friends while I refused to do so because I know if we hang out more, I would fall for her more. Eventually, I unfollowed her and removed her from my IG. She again texted me saying that the way I just unfollowed her, hurt her 🤦‍♀️

Now we don’t talk anymore but this is still a big puzzle for me. Did she manipulate me?

Hi hi. Long time listener (lurker).

This happened this evening and I’m still wound up over it.

My wife (37f) and I (41f) are away on a vacation.

Tonight (night 1) we were in one of the resort lounge bars playing trivia, and there’s a loud group of drunk men behind us all in tee shirts that say ‘ain’t no party like a Diddy party’. Gross. I’m immediately on guard and uneasy, but pay them no mind.

I order drinks for us and sit down, taking my wife’s hands in mine. Again, we are minding our own business and not engaging with them, only each other.

The trivia MCs were saying to the crowd that if we see people cheating in the trivia to point and say ‘shame’ loudly (ala Game of Thrones - Cersei’s walk of shame scene).

So this drunk bald guy behind us shouts ‘oi’ to the MC, points at my wife and I and loudly says ‘SHAME SHAME’.’ cackling loudly.

Sir, this is fucking family place.

I promptly gave him the finger, and suggested he take a leaf out of his hairlines book and take a step back.

He didn’t say anything further, but I have to wonder what the actual fuck is wrong with these people and where the fuck they get the audacity. I wasn’t doing anything that would warrant such an aggressive assertion - but apparently I attract dickheads like this thinking they have something to prove.

Has anyone had something similar happen? Or repeated instances of this type of thing?

/endrant

Hi all if anyone is interested in dating im 17 masc here if u live in germany its better 🫶🏻🫶🏻

I just want to scream I love her so much!! She came over to spend the day with me Wednesday and I made her food and chocolate fondant for dessert and we cuddled and talked and made out and she is so sweet and gorgeous and funny and so smart even though she doesn't think she is and she's lived in so many places and she builds furniture herself and she has dogs!! And horses!! And she's just this super gorgeous, amazing, supportive person and she loves me??? And when I tell her something shitty happened she immediately offers to help?? I got the flu and she came over and brought me food and yesterday morning my bedframe broke while I was sleeping in it and when I told her she told me she has parts lying around at home that she can bring to fix it?? Y'all 😭 What did I do to deserve this goddess? It can't possibly have been enough

I am a lesbian and 38 years old. Now I am so desperate and sad. She dumped me a week ago, because I didn’t come out to my parents. I told her several times I wasn’t ready yet and scared of the responses from my parents. However, she kept saying that if I did not come out, it meant I did not love her. But that’s not true. I really love her and I still do. I am still waiting for her contact but I know she won’t contact me. I am really sad now.