Well, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 4 years , we opened up our relationship about a year ago and I can’t express how much I adore her, but ever since we have started dating we have had an issue: She is hermetic.

I don’t mean she doesn’t talk much about her issues, but she kinda keeps all her life without me practically private. In have understood her for several years as I have trouble talking about my family life in general. But it is kinda an issue because sometimes she keeps her problems hidden until they’ve grown and are a real nuisance; Even our problems as a couple, leading to me being hurt and her to be angry at me or not wanting to talk with me. Which I kinda have endured because yk… I fucking love her guts and maybe even marry someday

But lately she has closed up even more, not wanting to talk about her day, or work; Coming to my house with an attitude like "stfu, fuck me, hug me and sleep with me"

I mean… fuck I have told her I want her to open up, one step at a time. And I kinda thought we made progress…. But when I told her I needed her to be less harsh on me and to bond with me more she told me and I quote: "Yuh… you need some more company, and I don’t mean your (made a quotation marks with her hands) friends that come over frequently, I mean real company who can be with you at all times… Idk like a dog? You know someone or something who is not me". Well I told her that I wanted her, not a fucking pet. But anyways she bought mea dog. And I mean… I love Latte, my cute little goofball. But what I really want is her to tell me something, I can understand that she may need time/space but at least I want to know what is going on her head. Or even to know if she wants to close our relationship again because she is not getting much to it. I would do it for her, even if I love sex. I would kill for her to be happy but I am really clueless in what to do…

Any advice in how to approach her to tell me what is wrong with her or to understand her? I am open to questions and any suggestions. I am pretty nervous of this becoming a real issue between us.

TDLR: My gf is closing more up and when told she bought me a dog instead to keep me company. Want advice in how to approach her to understand/solve her problems so it doesn’t become a real problem

our anniversary was the 31st and she was my best friend of 10 years, i can’t remember not spending halloween with her. in fact, were spending halloween together this year and im making pumpkins at her house with our friends but im not going to get to tell her how special she is to me or how happy i am to be spending halloween with her. i am as over her as i can be and unfortunately i have a bad habit of self harming whenever i get hung up on the past. i don’t have people i can talk about this with bcoz its kind of personal and i don’t want to be a huge downer around my friends but i don’t have someone in my life who’d convince me to stop. i feel like a sinner every time i think about her i actually hate myself a lot.

Alright...so I posted here some time go about my gf being a bit weirdly obsessed with men and expressing it very enthusiastically to me specifically but I thought that we managed to talk it out and moved on. well, come to find out that as we somehow came around the topic of gender during our conversation, my gf confessed that she sees me as a guy. she told me she's been having a bit of a crisis lately and since I'm pretty masc and she's bi, she saw more of a guy than a girl in me despite me telling her that I'm not male multiple times. it's not like I even look like a dude cuz I don't - she just treated me like a boyfriend because to her I was just that. not only that but she also said that she wouldn't go for a woman and would rather want a man instead. I've been crying for hours now and I don't know what to do - I love her to death, I live with her in a studio apartment and can't move out, I've already been planning our future together for a while and got so attached to all of it that I just can't let go. I don't know if this is a vent or a plea for advice, I'm just lost, confused and really fucking hurt.

This feels REALLY selfish but I want to break up with my girl in a respectful way (still don't know if I should). The spark is gone, at least for me. I've looked up some of the signs of when you should and its matching to a tea. Even my friends think I should do it but maybe I'm exagerating my stories making it worse than it sounds. Anyways I feel REALLY shitty. She's a sweet girl and this is her first relationship so she's a little innocent which makes it even worse (claiming I would be her first love sounds a little presumptuous). So there's multiple factors. We're long distance (duh gay) and shes coming down for the holidays obviously we'll see eachother and it's for our anniversary. It's the longest relationship I've ever been in but I'm not sure if that matters. First off, I'm aware I have an avoidant attachment which I'm working on. In the past I've been selfish, breaking up with people up over the phone. THIS IS AWFUL I KNOW THAT NOW. One, I don't want to go back to my habit of ending things but then instantly regretting. Granted I've only had one big regret and she was my first love (my friends say to drop it cause its a lost cause and I'll admit its been two years and I'm still sprung on a girl who probably doesnt even like me much less think of me). I will say that it did not end well. I still imagine her when I think of the future but everyone wants what they can't have right? This girl is PERFECT on paper, she kind and empathetic and she practically worships the ground I walk on (sounds very narcissistic but maybe she's feeling the same and I haven't clocked it). It's the healthiest relationship I've ever been it but....I love her but I don't think I'm IN love with her. I asked her out which is crazy. I've never been in touch with my feelings so even in the beginning of the relationship, or any romantic relationship, I have ask myself what does love even fucking feel like. Sorry for ranting but my two main question are: 1. How do I know I'm not just self-sabotaging myself. 2. Does it have to be in person cause to me it feels more cruel to dress up and go on a anniversary dinner just to ruin the mood (selfishly I also don't have a car but I'd rather be stranded then ever rely on a woman I've hurt driving me home). ANY help is great. Call me an asshole, give me shit, I just don't know where to turn.

Hi! I've been a lurker on this sub for a while now and joined as I decided to explore my sexual identity and what I think I like. I've always had a feeling I was bi curious but never could be openly safely gay in the environment I was in. And this subreddit has been super helpful and relatable so far, so thank you!! This will be my first time posting so I apologize if this opinion is tiring or something you actually hear about all the time here, or even hate it. TW for venting about NSFW feelings, men and mentions of sexual kinks.

So, personally sex with men has always made me uncomfortable ever since I was a little girl. I always thought it was condescending, degrading, and really embarrassing. I hate the positions you need to get in, in front of a man while you're naked, vulnerable and probably silently being judged on your body at the same time just so he can penetrate you. The act of penetration from a penis alone disgusts me. I hate that they can have sex just by standing up with like the least amount of effort being put in. It feels like a power imbalance, and I feel like when they do want to put effort in - their suggestions for sex come from their porn addictions and are usually misogynistic kinks. It's just super gross to me. It's the quickest way for me to get turned off and never want to have sex with them again. Personally, resentment builds up and I begin to check out of the relationship. I also think men who are affectionate beforehand and kind, loving, understanding, and patient etc weird me out too, and I don't even know why, it's just off putting and I can tell they want something from me or will eventually use their niceness against me.

I started to really hate sex and I wasn't enjoying it at all, it didn't feel genuine. But, I do have a high libido. I am interested in sex. I actually do want and crave intimacy, and have sex with who I love!! I reached a point where I felt like to enjoy sex and actually get some physical pleasure out of it for myself meant that I had to succumb to these misogynistic kinks and fetishes under the pretense that because it was degrading and made me feel terrible was why it was a turn on and should sexually fulfil me. I feel like I fell down an unhealthy rabbit hole of convincing myself CNC was just the average sexual experience for women and that I just had to force myself to like it to stop feeling high and dry, and sexually frustrated after acts of intimacy where I truly only wanted to make love, feel good, and experience pleasure with my partner and myself.

After a long trying time of celibacy, leaving the dating scene, healing, and letting myself explore my sexual orientation leaning towards women, I finally feel so much better but also so much more confused now, which is another conversation for later.

I haven't dated women so far or actually been sexually intimate with anyone either because I'm simply not ready to go back to the dating scene. But when I do get turned on and sometimes .... To entertain myself, my mind easily romanticises a sexual relationship with women and what it would feel like. I think what I really like about it is that for me, women have always felt much more safer than men, and knowing that we're both women and that there is no power imbalance between us, that we're cut from the same cloth essentially is what really makes me feel fluttery and grounded and in the mood. The idea of embarrassingly vulnerable positions while I'm naked doesn't disappoint me anymore if I think about it with women instead of men, as it actually makes me feel less like an object and more like a performance that I really want to engage in and go the mile for. Just thinking about being sexually free with another woman makes me so excited because I believe we'd both be on the same page about everything - our experiences in the world as women, we'd simply get each other, it won't feel like a man towering over me anymore with more power and control over me and in life than I'd ever have out of the two of us. A safe and fair love and that embrace couldn't possibly embarrass me, or eventually lead to feeling disengaged and used to the point where it always felt so with men. It honestly feels like a huge personal revelation and sexual liberation that I've really never felt before.

Thank you for reading this. I don't really know what this is, I guess I'm just venting about my disdain for men and how I felt trapped with them around the time I was stuck with my homophobic religious family and couldn't entertain anything else. And I know that these may be high expectations and yes, anyone can take advantage of anyone and I also may be looking at this with rose colored glasses on. Maybe I'm overthinking and even have unrealistic assumptions that I'll realize after experience. But I've truly never felt more liberated and serene about sex like this before, and I really look forward to this next chapter of my life and trying new things.

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So I work as a vet in a clinic with one male co-worker. We have rooms at the back of the clinic because the owner provides free board for the staff. I've been working here for almost 3 months and I've noticed that he likes to call me by my nickname, Bei, (in the Philippines S/Os call each other Beh, which is kinda close to how you say my nickname) but if other co-workers from the main branch come to visit us or if its infront of clients he calls me doc. Whenever we hang around after a long day of work, he keeps placing his hand on my knee or leans his head towards my shoulder. I've constantly shrugged his hand or head off casually to not offend. He likes to sit on the sofa I'm on, even if there are two sofas available in the room. Or whenever we eat our lunches or dinners, he places his chair near mine even though I've literally placed my chair right next to the wall to be as far from his. I've been dropping hints that I'm gay and I've got a long distance girlfriend, but I don't think the message is sinking in. If anyone thinks I'm overthinking things or something else, let me know cause this has been stressing me out.

I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 7 months now, and lately I’ve stopped feeling those butterflies.

I know this is a silly thing to ask, but this is my first longer sort of relationship, and I guess I’m just a little worried about the future.

At the beginning, which I’ll assume is the “honeymoon phase,” whenever we would make out or do anything, I’d feel so many things in my body while doing those things.

Now whenever we kiss, I don’t really feel anything.

Should I feel anything now? Is it normal? Should I change anything?

My apologies if this is silly, I’m just new to longer relationships, so I don’t really know what’s normal.

hi so my mom and sister found my secret tiktok account and it has literally lesbian in the bio and wlw tiktok’s. everyone is homophobic in my family. my mom just told me to change my phone password so she knows what it is. what do i do😔

Basically just the title. Want to make friends :) I'm neurodivergent, which makes me feel a bit uncomfortable approaching people in real life. But giving a try, to see if anyone is from Costa Rica and we can maybe be friends or eventually more lol.

I’m partially plugging Xena Warrior Princess to any young queers (it’s on Amazon Prime now!), down for a chat just about Xena as this show changed my life ❤️, and mostly wondering if any fans will be attending in L.A. since it was such a blast last time! ⚔️

I am married to my husband for 10 years. It was always his fantasy a threesome with another woman. I was always bicurious as long as I can remember.

The problem is the more that we do this I’m finding my husband useless as we tend to ignore him, and I fully focus on my attention on the girl. Lately, I cannot even get excited at the prospect of having sex unless another girl is involved.

All day I think about my next opportunity to sleep with a woman. Desperately wanting to do it without him.

okay so for a little bit of background i do have a boyfriend, we’ve broken up once before due to me questioning my sexuality, but then we got back together. however once again i find myself questioning who i am. as of right now im bi, but i again find myself thinking i may be lesbian?? i should also add i am the most comphet person i know..

i don’t have many people to ask, i have 3. one who i dont know much, but she’s super nice, is in a class of mine, and VERY informed on almost anything lgbt+. the second girl is the one who i spoke to the first time, and i don’t want to particularly bother her again. the third one seems sometimes almost upset im not lesbian, and hates my bf. she also thought i was lesbian when she met me, so i think that gives her a heavy bias.

i just dont really know who to talk to, so i figured asking a group of lesbians on the internet would help!!

i really dont want to break my bfs heart again, because i saw how much i impacted him the first time, and it genuinely made me cry. however lately our interactions just feel more like ones a friend would have, and im kinda metally checked out of our relationship because of this dilemma. he also has his own stuff going on mentally, and i dont want to add to it.

female 26, how would i go about trying to find a 20- 30 yr old female? do you feel the vibe out and when you are both sorta vibing do you tell that person how you feel? or just keep talking to them until i think im sure they are into it for sure??

I won’t be moving out of my parent’s house until I’m 20 since that’s when I will get my RN nursing license and be able to support myself financially. I’m an 18 (F) right now, and as much as I want to date, I can’t fathom the idea of dating someone while living at my parents house. It’s too immature feeling for me, and I want to wait.

In the meantime, (the next two years) I want to work on myself so I can be the optimal girlfriend. Here are my aspects I want to try to improve: (not in order of importance)

1. Finances. Make sure I have adequate savings and spend my money wisely.

2. Education. Make sure I am doing well in school and that my career becomes secure.

3. Physical health. Make sure I don’t start smoking (which has been a big temptation of mine lately) and that I stay physically active (which I reallyyy struggle with)

4. Mental health.

I am currently in a mental health crisis actually with major depressive disorder, anxiety disorder, and suspected autism, and my parents are emotionally neglectful. Hence why starting smoking has been such a big temptation lately - I am trying to cope healthy though.

I think the hardest part will be mental health. Nobody wants to date an excessively depressed, sad, complaining person - and I fear that that is kind of what I am right now. I am so preoccupied by my own feelings and struggles that I fear if I had a gf right now she would turn into my therapist.

So, thinking ahead, I have scheduled a psychiatric assessment to plan an antidepressant schedule and therapy schedule to tackle these issues so my future gf doesn’t have to suffer as much with me.

Is there anything else I should work towards? I also have a list of my future dreams so I am seen as someone with aspirations and goals in life - nobody likes someone with no aspirations at all

Here’s a story time about probably the best day of my life so far (with some of the nasty details) and i hope this encourages any fellow loser lesbians out there to just go for it. put yourself out there.

I’m a baby gay in my first year of college. i never engaged in anything romantic in highschool so i decided to finally put myself out there by going on some dating apps. ive been super insecure my whole life as im a bit chubby, im covered in eczema patches, and i have acne and scarring on my back, but i felt i was finally at a point where i was at peace with myself.

I matched with this girl on Hinge in like 2 months ago. Let’s call this girl Ash. We had texted on and off for a couple weeks. Then my main texting situationship i was in exploded in a dumpster fire, and it took a week for me to recover. after that, I decided to stop wasting time with Ash and i asked her out on a date. it went super well, we both had lots of fun just talking, but nothing escalated from there.

Then i planned this 2nd date with Ash on a saturday night, just binge watching a tv show in my dorm. then i get a text from my parents saying they’re coming to visit me on that same saturday. I love my parents, they’ve always been super chill and fun. i had a great morning with them and at lunch, idk what came over me but i had the sudden urge to tell them i wasn’t straight. I always knew my parents would be chill about it because i had an older brother who came out years ago, but i just never felt the overwhelming need to come out so i never did, until that day. they took it rlly well, as expected, but the one condition they have for my brother and i is to have biological children 🙄. whatever.

after they left, i set up for my date! i put on some makeup and a rolled a joint for us to smoke. we watched 5 episodes in a row, cuz i honestly got too high to function. but then when i was sobering up, she asked to kiss me!!(AAAAAAAHHHHHH) and i don’t think i even answered, i just leaned in! i didn’t tell her that was my first kiss tho, but i don’t think i needed to, it just felt so natural. but then things started to escalate super fast.

NSFW:

i guided her hands to my tits, then shirts came off, then bras. i really felt no nerves about anything that was happening, i think it’s because i was still a little high, and years of watching amateur lesbian porn had prepared me. As she pushed me down on the bed, i told her it was my first time, and they were like “this is my first time with a girl,” and that was nice to hear.

then she started rubbing me over my panties while we still were making out. then i told her in between kisses “i’m on the last day of my period, i have a tampon in” and she was like “last day?” and i was like “yeah” and she just goes “im still gonna eat it” SO. FUCKING. HOT. she started traveling down, sucking and biting my nipples, kissing my stomach, and then she got to my pussy and said “u got a pretty pussy,” and i started blushing so hard. then she started eating me and oh my GOD. i was a bit scared i wouldn’t be able to cum cuz i thought i desensitized myself with how much i use a vibrator lmao, but i came so hard.

(side note: Before, when i would think about myself having sex for the first time, i always thought id be too nervous or embarrassed to hear myself moan or talk, but oh my god i was so vocal. i’m so glad i was comfortable enough with her to tell her what i wanted, and how i wanted it. id tell her to bite my nipples and eat me harder and it just made it so much hotter.)

then i wanted to return the favor, so we switched and i started to make my way down. But when i started eating her, she said “i want you on my face at the same time.” and i started laughing into her pussy and i was like “u wanna 69 rn fr?” and she were like “deadass” and i was like “ok” and i got on her face and we ATE EACHOTHER OUT. so fucking crazy. it was kinda hard on my shoulders and arms being on top, but it was so worth it especially, when i got to taste her cum.

Then i started FINGERING HER. i knew to do the whole “come hither” motion, but i was scared i wasn’t pleasuring her. My hands are pretty tiny and my fingers are stubby, but the way they were moaning for me made me feel more confident in what i was doing, and she eventually came 🙏.

At one point I asked her to use my vibrator on me, and i came so hard i started shaking and jerking, and she just goes “ur so cute” and that was sooooo hot.

now i understand how lesbian sex can literally last for hours and hours, it felt like there was no end, we kept going and going. eventually i felt like i actually couldn’t cum anymore and so we stopped and just started making out, even that felt like it would go on forever. i was like addicted to her lips, i never wanted to stop kissing them. but eventually we just started cuddling and talking. then she had to leave 😔 cuz we both had classes in the morning. but i got to kiss her goodbye!

and that’s pretty much the story of the gayest day of my life. thanks for reading. i got another date with them soon! wish me luck!

My girlfriend (18f) and I (18f) have been dating for a good 2 1/2 years and started having sex 6 months in because we were young and horny teens but it also felt right for us in that timeframe. When we first started having sex i was always the bottom as she’s a masc and she would say she didn’t want to be a masc bottom, which over time we talked about it and she said it was because she was insecure and didn’t feel comfortable to be on the receiving end. I understood all her worries and we just kept on going as me being on the receiving end until about 1 year into our relationship we started to get intimate and instead of me being on the receiving end, she ended up being on the receiving end and really enjoyed it and said she was happy because i made her feel special and loved, but ever since then it’s like she never wants to initiate anything or just let me not be top for once which kinda makes me sad because i still want to be given the same treatment that i give her when it comes to our sex life. I do enjoy making her happy during the deed but it’s like before she would initiate and be more dominant but now she expects me to always initiate and be dominant and whenever i’ve tried asking her if i could receive sex or anything of the sort she automatically shuts me down and it makes me feel undesirable and like she doesn’t want to touch me. We talked a little bit about it recently and she just said she doesn’t like doing the work and even stated “i’m a stone cold bottom i don’t know how old me did it before” which i understand she doesn’t want to do the work sometimes and that’s okay but idk it’s just tough because now i feel like she just doesn’t ever want to touch me in that way and i don’t feel desired like i did before. I don’t know how to bring this up to her because it’s just awkward and i feel dumb saying it bc idk if she can change that, which also makes me feel bad because i don’t want her to change for me or bc i told her to change that just seems wrong to me and i don’t want to be a shitty gf. I don’t want to breakup with her because i can see a future with her and i love her tremendously but i feel like our sexual desires just don’t match up and it’s getting to a point where i have like a lot of pent up stuff because if i do ask her she shuts me down so i have to either ignore the feeling or handle it on my own which is so embarrassing. Please give me advice on how to address this with her without it seeming like im asking for too much/ asking her to change her ways for me.

also sorry for bad formatted im on iphone and there might be some rambling since it kinda just became too much on me right now.

My girlfriend (18f) and I (18f) have been dating for a good 2 1/2 years and started having sex 6 months in because we were young and horny teens but it also felt right for us in that timeframe. When we first started having sex i was always the bottom as she’s a masc and she would say she didn’t want to be a masc bottom, which over time we talked about it and she said it was because she was insecure and didn’t feel comfortable to be on the receiving end. I understood all her worries and we just kept on going as me being on the receiving end until about 1 year into our relationship we started to get intimate and instead of me being on the receiving end, she ended up being on the receiving end and really enjoyed it and said she was happy because i made her feel special and loved, but ever since then it’s like she never wants to initiate anything or just let me not be top for once which kinda makes me sad because i still want to be given the same treatment that i give her when it comes to our sex life. I do enjoy making her happy during the deed but it’s like before she would initiate and be more dominant but now she expects me to always initiate and be dominant and whenever i’ve tried asking her if i could receive sex or anything of the sort she automatically shuts me down and it makes me feel undesirable and like she doesn’t want to touch me. We talked a little bit about it recently and she just said she doesn’t like doing the work and even stated “i’m a stone cold bottom i don’t know how old me did it before” which i understand she doesn’t want to do the work sometimes and that’s okay but idk it’s just tough because now i feel like she just doesn’t ever want to touch me in that way and i don’t feel desired like i did before. I don’t know how to bring this up to her because it’s just awkward and i feel dumb saying it bc idk if she can change that, which also makes me feel bad because i don’t want her to change for me or bc i told her to change that just seems wrong to me and i don’t want to be a shitty gf. I don’t want to breakup with her because i can see a future with her and i love her tremendously but i feel like our sexual desires just don’t match up and it’s getting to a point where i have like a lot of pent up stuff because if i do ask her she shuts me down so i have to either ignore the feeling or handle it on my own which is so embarrassing. Please give me advice on how to address this with her without it seeming like im asking for too much/ asking her to change her ways for me.

also sorry for bad formatted im on iphone and there might be some rambling since it kinda just became too much on me right now.

Being single sucks especially during the holidays. On another note Happy Halloween 🎃

Hi,

So i am in my first semester and i have a crush on a girl i have a few classes and lectures with.

I already have somewhat of an established friendgroup (that i dont know that well since ive started studying a few weeks ago) . I have had one quick conversation with her where she told me her name while we were both searching for the lecture hall.

Since i already have somewhat of an established friendgroup, it feels weird sitting myself beside her instead of them in lectures. I just dont really know how to find oppurtunites to talk to her and get to know her. Also im pretty sure shes also queer.

Any advice? :)

hi. Well I’m just looking some sort of opinion since I don’t really know any lgbt people in real life I guess since I live in a not so great place anddd everyone is quite bad to gay people.

. Well I ( 18F ) have been feeling super confused recently. I know it’s normal ish but it genuinely feels like everyone’s ahead of the curve and I’m so behind in just about every single way and I knoww in reality it’s really probably not like that but I am feeling like, stressed in some sort of ways.

I used to get bullied for being gay when I was like 12? Even by my brother and I used to cry a lot about it . But I never said I was gay I never did anything you know ? And at the time I did actually get stressed abt the thought of being into the same yk sex I guess bc I was like crushing on this girl so hard and we were quite good freinds and she treated me nicely and it was just silly like flutterly feelings I guess but I never told anyone so I just never broht up any kind of relationship like ever to any of my family. My mom stopped asking me when I was gonna get a boyfriend when I was like 16 and I just was like oh. She made fun of me for not kissing a boy and being like behind and stuff but I did kiss girls but idk maybe it doesn’t count bc I’m suppose to be into men ?

Basically I do feel kind of idk. Embarrassed bc it seems like all everyone does at the minute is either a have a boyfriend or b hook up with a boy which tbh does kind of . Make me feel uncomfortable the idea of doing that, and it always sort of has, and I know if I want to fit in sure I should do this but I really have been trying since I was like 12? To do that but it feels so wierd. Like I’ve had multiple boys try and yk. Kiss or just get touchy or flirty and I feel like genuinely upset and I don’t want to be near them at all anymore and like idk. And I don’t really feel anything nice. I used to think butterflies were fake but I think I’ve come to the conclusion I’ve just never got them for a boy? And just girls I guess but I keep thinking abt how it’s just a friendly thing bc I think they are so pretty or something I don’t really know.

The idea of even kissing a boy has rlly freaked me out since I was younger I literally stopped talking to a boy bc he tried to kiss me and I felt so like bad. Like genuinely sick and I basically have thought my whole life that this was something that will go away, you know? People always say oh puberty oh you’re young you don’t have to have anything figured out which absolutely! But i jusr am not sure am I supposed to start feeling stuff? Like idk. I am 18 now and I rlly am like kind of nervous for myself bc it just never happened if you know what I mean. And I’ve like never found a man attractive like in any form which like my mom used to joke when I was younger my boy best friend we were gonna date and I was like literally disturbed and I said no everytime and she was like ‘ oh one day ! ‘ but maybe this is how it feels..? Bc it feels horrible.

I’ve pretty much alwyas found women or girls attractive likee in every way but I do feel like maybe that’s normal for girls ..? I think idrk. I did use to like ‘ mess ‘ around with girls since I was like idk 14? and like kiss/makeout and like I wouldn’t say date per say but I definitely had friends with benefits and it felt rlly different for me and I like wanteddd them to kiss me I wanted them to touch me yk it felt so good and like warm and tingly and stuff like that. I stopped doing that stuff bc I was getting scared that I was yk into women which I guess idk. I sometimes think I make it up for attention but I’ve never ever told anyone so I do wonder why I keep thinking this.

And I keep thinking abt how if I date a girl I’m gonna feel like an attention seeker so I’ve been feeling like my life will be sad and lonely bc I do want love but idk I just don’t think it’s gonna happen for me if I can’t just stop feeling like this . And like everytime I think like oh I’m probably a lesbian I start to think about how I’m lying for attnetion and everyone feels like this and it’s wierd that im feeling like this wierd that im denying yk the normal I guess thing which yes I know isn’t normal but the thing ppl expect I guess sadly. If that even makes any sense. But I’ve never felt anything for a boy or whatever and I just idk I keep feeling like im supposed to but I am starting to feel like it will not be coming .

Soo basically just loooking for some advice if anyone else felt the same way? Or like honestly anything really I feel so confused I was so fine with being ‘ nothing ‘ and letting people assume but I know people assume I’m straight and I just idk i feel .. idk different and i just yeah. And if I wanna continue being allegedly straight i probabky should cut all the shit out with girls but I’ve legit never felt a drop for a man and if this is how I’m supposed to feel fuck this sucks. :), and I know yes it takes time and stuff but I’d just like an outsider opinion I suppose and I don’t really know much about being yk into women so anything would be helpful or like if there’s a way to tell if I’m for real?. Or like if I’m straight and just want to be different . So yeah thank you :) < 3

Title says it. I (f21) just broke up with my girlfriend (f24). We had been seeing eachother for 4 months on of which was official. Throughout this we had not kissed, held hands, or had any type of physical affection. (we have however had like sleepovers) I know I should’ve done more to try and initiate but I was rejected for a kiss early on and got scared. I had been dropping hints and flat out told her that I needed more, nothing happened. I feel genuinely awful not that it’s over but that I hurt her. She was so upset and I was the first girl she ever dated and I fumbled. Any advice on how to not feel so bad about it would be greatly appreciated.

those girls who only ever take relationships seriously when it's with a man. will kiss women when they're dating men because it's not considered cheating. say they're gay but treat every women they date like fucking shit, but actually treat every dude they're with like a real person. i'm so sick of these girls and they're everywhere. i put "bi" in this notation because it's definitely not every bi girl. but it seems to be an increasingly large portion of them. it's really upsetting too because you think you meet someone who gets you, but they just invalidate women. it's eo bad to be friends with them too, because you hear how they speak about women vs men behind closed doors. but it also upset me when i thought i was bi because it perpetuated a lot of negative stereotypes about bi people. they need to just stop treating women like this, we're real people not an experiment or a game.

and when i say a lot, ive met at least 25 girls like this. it's a lot because my circle isn't big.

the apps specifically. i don't want an actual answer, i know why. im just venting because it gets frustrating overtime. i feel like being lesbian requires having very thick skin.

I often hear it’s a typical experience for mascs to experience “penis envy” or gender envy. But has any other masc just never cared about that stuff? I rather enjoy my anatomy. Even though I understand that having more masculine traits would make me more appealing to bisexual women or straight women. Even so, I’ve never thought “I wish I was a man, or I wish I had XYZ like a man has”

I think the female body is beautiful and I like having one. And In society female bodies, vaginas, literally everything is often scrutinised and ridiculed.

I just think it’s great. I love loving women and I love being one, for me, I feel like me being masc is directly linked to my womanhood . But Do you ever just feel… not uncomfortable in your, womanhood but uncomfortable with how uncomfortable people are with womanhood?

I'm in DESPERATE need of rock/metal/punk/goth girl bands. If you have any good recommendations, please be kind enough to list them below!

Where in heavens are you? Here? Under my nose? In the great wall of China? In space? Such a mysterious girlie she must be. No where to be seen!

hey guys,

someone said there’s male predators on this /r so posting a few tips that may help! (hopefully)

1.reverse google search images sent to you 2. use ai checkers to see if image was made by AI 3. look at the metadata of the image (this will save you a lot of hassle! ) 4. ask for a video call (a live one) excuses like my camera is not working is a red flag 5. ask to see a social media profile and talk to them via there ( green flags are : long history, real friends that post - always see what their friends are posting and whether their friends engagement is family members etc. not just the same 20 people liking things over and over again) 6. if you are still unsure i would recommend you just politely explain to the person you feel like there’s something wrong and discontinue communication or block 7. if things are still vague after all these , then there’s definitely something off with the person - trust your gut

hope these help.