i don’t like myself, so i don’t do anything productive to help make my life easier and happier. gym, eating healthy, reading, etc.

does anyone have experience with this? how do i stop this? i dont like this feeling at all, its bothersome. are there any good mottos? is the answer just to go through the motions and maybe i’ll end up liking myself one day?

I have this problem that everytime the alarm sounds in the morning I just can't wake up. It's like I fall unconscious 1 min after I turn it off . Im really tired and sleepy like it's not even normal. It doesn't matter if I wake up at 8am or at 11am, it's the same. I don't really go late to bed so I don't know what 's the source of the problem . Any tips?

I’m new to this whole situation and facing a bit of a dilemma. I’ve never had to work weekends before, but at my current job, there’s this subtle pressure to stay late or work weekends, especially when my manager says things like, ‘Everyone else seems willing to pitch in. Are you really committed to this role?

It feels like a guilt trip, and I’m unsure how to navigate it. I don’t want to risk burnout or seem like I’m not committed, but I also want to maintain my work-life balance. Has anyone dealt with this?

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Hey subreddit, I’m not particularly to well versed in ice baths but I had this idea to do one for 24 hours tomorrow at 6pm CST where all money and donations on the channel ArithmeticNik will be given to charity, and every hour the water will get colder. So to prepare I just wanted to hang around the Reddit and see how you all deal with these things

I wouldn't workout if i watched brian rot content and videos , like skibidi toilet or any other instant gratifications beforehand that will lower my motivation

I wouldn't workout if i didn't have the optimal phone setup for minimising distractions

I wouldn't have workout if i didn't had the optimal method to track workouts i.e app ( strong, hevy, alpha progression etc) or paper, i just spent life on analysis paralysis

I wouldn't have workout if I had done a bad stuff or habit before and fearing i wouldn't push my best during the workout, if i don't push my best ( before I even workout it's all in my mind) I wouldn't even do it

I wouldn't workout if I was stressed, or researching for the perfect how to do , common mistakes etc

I hate perfectionism

Conclusion: put any effort you can no matter how small, you wouldn't regret it than not doing it at all, do what you can in the now and don't put it off and say later or tomorrow

Hey guys, I am a highly motivated person (23M) that has grown immensely in recent years. I have finally overcome my mental health issues, accepted who I am, gotten a girlfriend, gotten a social circle, a job that pays well enough and I am committed to getting better at martial arts. I feel fulfilled in many ways, except for one. I do not enjoy the job that I do, and I will probably not be allowed to work there for another year. I don't know what job I want to do next year. I am not good enough to be paid for martial arts, and I don't really have an education that gives me a lot of options. I am decent at drawing, photography and playing piano, but I don't see a lot of job opportunity in these skills. I want to commit my life to 1 thing, and be the best I can possibly be at that thing, but I don't know what to choose. Any advice?

I lost my mom 4 months ago and in kind of bad shape mentally and physically. I'm trying to start my journey of healing this year. I have worked out sporadically here and there but have never been consistent because I get overwhelmed by all the information online and get burnt out trying to dive head first into all that fitness mumbo jumbo.

I'm at a healthy weight (160 cm, 48kg, 24 yrs, F), just a bit flabby due to poor diet and lack of exercise. I want to get toned up, lose the flab and develop a bit of muscle definition. I don't have access to a gym at this time but do have dumbbells.

I'm looking for a workout (HIIT, calisthenics etc etc) that is the most effective. Something I can do without exerting too much mental energy because I'm still kind of f**ked up from my mom's passing. What is a sustainable and effective way in which I can get back into shape, without burning myself out when I'm already kind of low on energy and will power?

I am a 22M currently living in an apartment for studies. This is my second and last year before going back home.

Last year went okay. I went to the gym 2 to 4 times a week, meal prepped, focused on school and social interactions.

This year has been a whole other story for various reasons :

• My classes are online, so I am home sat on my chair for hours a day.

• The class I take is infinitely easier than the one I had last year. For example, a competence « should » be taking 50 hours to do, but I have a pass with flying colors with ~10 hours invested. Downside is I need to be logged in my class for how long it should take me, so I play video games continuously.

• I have went to the gym probably less than 10 times since September.

• I feel the laziest I have ever felt. Super nonchalant, and unintersted in studies.

• To picture the lazy part, sometimes I skip meals because I am simply not feeling like cooking, I just eat some snacks instead to kill the hunger.

All that to say, I am getting desperate to get back on track. My motivation has disappeared, I feel like doing absolutely nothing at all, even scrolling an endless feed of social media bores me to death. I feel like I am in an endless doom circle of boredom, laziness and absence of motivation.

Anything you could advise me to do ? Ways to get back on track ? I feel like a slob

I’d like to take this time to reflect and be grateful for the accomplishments so far in your journey of self improvement.

Often times I found myself not really appreciating the struggles that I had to go through in the beginning since I’ve been so caught up in what I need to improve on right now.

It’s nice to just look back at the trials and tribulations that my past had to experience to get what me where I am today, and for that I am extremely grateful for.

Really makes this journey all the more worthwhile once you take into account for all the wins that might seem small now, but helped you get to where you want to be in the present moment.

So tell me what is one accomplishment that your past self has achieved that you’re grateful for today, it can be big or small.

I’ll start with mine, I am grateful that my past self was willing to quit on his 7 year video game addiction and instead focused on bodybuilding which helped kickstart my path onto self improvement in the first place.

The desire for playing video games is so infrequent now so I don’t have to worry about falling back into again. Rather I am able to enjoy the fruits of my labor since fitness is so ingrained in my lifestyle today.

I have been struggling maintaining any of the healthy habits that I have built. I used to be so disciplined about waking up at 5am, going to pilates, getting in a run, averaging about 10-15k steps a day, working, knocking out my tasks, and reading in the evening.

I am currently working a pretty demanding research job and I am in law school in the evening. Lately I've been logging on around 7am and working until 4:30pm. Then I would quickly eat something for dinner while doing my readings for class in the evenings and then I would walk to school and be in class from 6pm-9:30pm. School started back up a few weeks ago and for a week I fit in 4 work-outs while staying on top of things. Last week, I worked out twice and maybe averaged like 2k steps per day.

I have been gaining weight, breaking out, getting pale, eating terribly, picking out my split ends until my hair gets so oily and damaged, and just being sedentary all day. When I'm not working or at school, I just scroll through my phone thinking about how I should be studying or getting extra work done. I'll think about working out but then get so exhausted thinking about it, I just lie here.

Is there any tips on how people manage a hectic schedule and are able to fit in a workout/other healthy habits? I love working out and reading, or I wouldn't do it at all, but in the back of my head recently, I think about it as just another thing I need to do when I just want to rest.

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i hate HATE colour-coded planners and notion templates and all the other countless productivity tips and hacks that turn up on my feed everyday, i am truly a hater when it comes to conventional productivity but gamification is something that has actually worked for me in some ways, i did not go from being overwhelmed to being super productive but it has definitely helped me take control of my life in a lot of ways- i am currently writing a super simplified eBook for people who want to start gamifying their lives without feeling overwhelmed. i've included all the issues and hurdles i personally face with the system, but i’d love to hear from others too!

what are the biggest challenges, drawbacks, or frustrations you’ve experienced with gamifying your life/ any sort of reward system?

• what stops you from starting it/ sticking with it?
• what feels complicated or unnecessary?
• what would make it easier or more fun for you?

i want to make sure the eBook actually helps people get started without burning out or getting stuck, help a girl out, thank you sm in advance !!

For the longest time, I thought the key to success was motivation. I’d wait for the right mindset, the right burst of energy, or the perfect moment to start. I’d read books, watch inspiring videos, and feel fired up—but when that initial excitement faded, I’d fall right back into my old habits.

At some point, I had to admit the truth: I wasn’t making real progress because I was relying on motivation, and motivation isn’t reliable.

So I changed my approach. Instead of waiting to feel ready, I made it easier to take action. If I wanted to build a habit, I set up reminders or changed my environment to make the habit effortless. If I read something valuable in a book, I didn’t just highlight it—I wrote down one way to apply it immediately.

Over time, I realized that the less I relied on motivation, the more consistent I became. Now, I focus on creating systems that keep me on track, even when I don’t feel like it.

Curious—how do you stay disciplined when motivation fades?

this might sound counterintuitive, but i’ve realized that real progress isn’t about grinding harder—it’s about being so consistent that effort becomes second nature.

at first, everything takes work. waking up early, going to the gym, studying, building a skill—it all feels like a conscious effort. but if you just keep showing up, something shifts. discipline turns into routine. routine turns into mastery.

the problem? consistency takes you to perfection, but perfection kills consistency.

the moment you start chasing perfection, you hesitate. you overanalyze, second-guess, and eventually stop executing. you’re so focused on doing it “right” that you forget to just do it.

instead of aiming for perfection, aim for momentum. show up, even if it’s not perfect. over time, you’ll realize that success wasn’t about effort—it was about consistency.

im curious to hear, what’s one habit you’ve built that now feels effortless?

I started applying discipline to my daily workout and diet (while getting sober after almost two decades of substance abuse) and I’ve lost around 30 pounds in 6 months. A big part of it was getting comfortable with the pain and allowing it to drive my growth. I made a promise to myself in February that I would post a reel to Instagram every day, just to get comfortable sharing myself, my thoughts and my workouts. I am on day 3 and I just posted my latest reel. Not looking for self promotion or any validation. Just honest feedback. How does it make you feel?

Link here🤙🏻

I do my best to share the importance of discipline daily with my kids, and I figured why not share it with all of you? Tell me what you think. Again, just looking for honest feedback, nothing more, nothing less. Thanks in advance for any kind words you share. We’re all in this together. Let’s get better each day. Onward and forward, internet friends.

I usually sleep for 11-12 hours almost everyday which I know is extremely unhealthy but I have this preconceived notion that I only survive on that many hours which is bullshit. I just can’t give myself 8-9 hours of sleep no matter how much I try. I want to sleep by 11-12 and wake up by 8-9 at most but that’s so hard for me to do. Rn I tried to do that by calling my trainer at 8 am for workout and woke up in the middle of my sleep to cancel and sleep extra. It’s not difficult to sleep early but it’s the waking up part that I find most difficult.

ERP (exposure therapy) is getting rough, I know I can do it; but nonetheless, it’s exhausting— physically, emotionally, mentally. Could use some words of encouragement or some advice from someone who has been where I’m at 🥺

This dates back to when I didn't have social media. I just played with toys and played mobile games, as well as one computer game about pets that I loved. These days were way simpler for me. I couldn't wait to get on and play with my virtual pets. Every day I looked forward to it.

I definitely did have hyper fixations from a very young age. I'd only play games related to animals, and when I lost that one pet simulator game after getting a new computer, I missed it for years. I felt like I would never get over the fact that I couldn't play it again. Even as a teenager, I still loved and missed it dearly.

Multiple years later (in 2022), I actually managed to get my hands on the game again. I was really excited, and felt the greatest dopamine rush I've had in years. Finally I had it back. But due to reasons I won't get into on this post because it's a long story, I ended up deleting it from my computer. The excitement quickly turned into anxiety the next day.

I didn't bother with it for another two years, but I was starting to miss it again a few months after removing it from my new computer, then I got over it and thought maybe I'd play The Sims instead. Then eventually, I decided to get the game again two months ago.

I did not feel very happy or excited at all this time. Just nothing? Emptiness? I mean, I could say I was happy about it, but my brain didn't release any of those feel good chemicals that I would always get when I played that game. Maybe it's because I had gotten so used to other games, such as Gacha's and some games on Steam? But no. I think this may have something to do with my doomscrolling addiction that I developed two years ago. Reddit is a huge addiction that got in the way of everything, and made my procrastination even worse, if that's possible.

When I actually would feel real excitement and happiness, I wasn't on the internet all the time. The reward system in my brain was probably not screwed up at that time.

I'm just questioning whether I really have ADHD or not, but the massive hyperfixations I had as a child is a good sign that I may have it.

Does ADHD get worse as you age? Is that why I can hardly feel anything these days? Not to mention I have absolutely zero motivation to do anything. I always procrastinate, daydream, and scroll.

Getting out of my comfort zone is not going to be easy at all. You'll know that if you've seen my last post about my homeschool problem.

This is a long story but I’ll do my best to keep it short. Growing up my parents provided financially for me but in terms of emotional support / love they were completely absent. My mother is a covert narcissist and growing up I never felt safe, secure but rather deeply insecure/massive people pleaser.

When I was 14 I was severely bullied in my class to the point I was fearful for my life and by the end of that year the stress became too much and my body literally shut down and I was diagnosed with severe “Chronic Fatigue Syndrome”. I never told my family what was happening at the time because they were homophobic and that was part of the bullying and I felt shameful and scared about the situation.

For 3 years I was completely housebound but year by year I made slight improvements in my health and eventually after 10 long years I made a full recovery. I got to the point where I was able to work full time, go to the gym 5 days a week, got down to 10% body fat, ice baths every morning, eating whole foods, completely locked in, started a business, running 6km every week, no social media usage. Through living like this I found God and had a spiritual awakening. I experienced complete inner peace for 6 months.

Basically, my work environment became toxic and mirrored my high school situation. At the same time, I was guided by God to accept myself fully and come out as gay to my homophobic parents. I sat down to write a letter and this brought up a massive wave of emotion that is indescribable. I re-traumatized myself from when I was 14.

Basically, my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome was actually Complex PTSD. It’s been 6 months since I re-traumatized myself and I can’t fully explain how messed up my life has become. I’m mentally fried, for a few months I was looking in the mirror and not knowing who was looking back, complete dissociating, isolating myself from my friends, I can’t work at all, I’m housebound but some days I’m able to go for a walk, I’ve put on 20 kg as I used food to cope. Excess social media. Can’t sleep.

Basically my nervous system is in severe shutdown. If you search up Complex PTSD I literally have every symptom of that. I feel like the biggest loser and I can’t have my life like this. I’m currently seeing a therapist and have read all the books on CPTSD and understand the techniques on how to get back

I have bad perfectionism and turns out, this fuels me to procrastinate tasks, even small things. Recently, I feel that it’s been getting worse, and although I’m aware of it, and tell myself it’s okay to make mistakes, I keep freezing up and delaying tasks.

I have a tendency to actually be very “productive” and compensate my negative feelings with other short term / low priority tasks.

How do I beat this? Who has beaten this?? Honestly feels so silly, but I think it is tied to anxiety and how I manage my emotions in some way. Still getting out of it.

Would like to hear if anyone has protocols or quick strategies that’s worked for them that I can do today.

I’m struggling to stick to my Google Calendar as a solo entrepreneur. I plan my schedule and fill it with tasks, but since I don’t have to report to anyone or face external pressure, I often end up ignoring it. Has anyone else in a similar situation found a way to consistently follow their calendar and get things done?

I am looking for women who need a disciplinarian ti help them improve their lives. We can do this with no sex. I travel around the southeast for my job. I’m not going to go into too much detail but pm me if you would like to learn more.

Hi, I was conditioned and abused for long and now that I have cut them off - I still can’t keep stop thinking. Every morning I wake up with their thoughts first and go to sleep with same. It’s consuming my life and the problem is that I can’t speak up about my abuse. It’s pains me that they can get away with what they did peacefully.

I masturbate nearly every day instead of having sex with my wife. I get really high then masturbate and then when i orgasm it is the most intense mind blowing experience. Doesn’t happen with sex.

Hello, I have been on my self improvment journey for 1 year! I have made progress but I have realized that even though on short bursts I have good days, on most days I revert back to old coping mechnisms and I am not going fast enough as I would like. I set a goal, then I try to make it my identity but I also never go fast enough to reach the goal! I would like to fix it. SHould I get an accountability buddy who is rude to help me? I don't know?

im about to enter my senior year of hs. meaning that my time will be limited now. i want to consistently go to the gym and maybe even start a new sport in order to lower my body fat percentage which is quite high rn. im also an ib student which means my school workload will now be even higher. another thing is that i live a bit far from my school, which means i wake up earlier that most and get home later. on previous occasions, i would get home tired from school, sleep all afternoon and then wake up to see it was to late for me to go to the gym bc i needed to do school stuff. i was always tired. this ended up turning into a horrible cycle of completely wasting my time, losing all ambition and not really doing anything to actually achieve my goals. what can i do in order to stop quiting and make a productive use of my time?