Went for an 8 week scan two days ago and received the news that a heartbeat couldn’t be found. I had a chemical pregnancy back in June. Hubby and I were so hopeful for this pregnancy as we kept progressing.

We were given the options of waiting for it to naturally pass, medication, or surgery. We opted for the medication (although I had already read how grueling it can be) as I’d have to wait for the surgery and didn’t want the risks that came with it, also I just want this over with.

I started misoprostol this morning, have had 3 doses so far, and it’s been over 6 hours since my first dose, but nothing happening except some nausea (which I took meds for) and back pain and cramping.

I know the pain is likely yet to come but at the moment the hardest part is just the waiting… I really just want this part over with so we can slowly start moving on.

I send my love out to anyone in the same boat. It’s such an emotional, and physical, rollercoaster.

I got confirmation today of what I already knew happened yesterday.. I was 6 weeks. First pregnancy, first MC. It still doesn’t feel real I could go from finding out I’m pregnant almost 10 days ago to now grieving a loss. I don’t know how to process this and I’m actually pretty numb at the moment. I feel like my doctor dismissed my grief by essentially saying my body knew it wasn’t viable and that’s why I miscarried. Kind of like a “eh it happens”. Well that may be true but some compassion and advice would have been much appreciated. It made me feel like maybe I’m overreacting by going to the doctors in the first place. I’ve been so distraught since yesterday I didn’t even realize her comments until after the appointment ended. My heart genuinely goes out to all the mamas who have lost or are going through it right now. I’m not sure when this is going to get easier. I was so excited about this pregnancy, I ended up downloading a baby tracker app. I was absolutely gutted I had to delete the app so I didn’t receive any notifications. I checked it every morning to see progress. I’m not really sure what I’m getting at. I really don’t have much support outside of my husband and family. I feel like I’m a broken record with them at the moment.

I’m about 7/8 weeks pregnant and came home and noticed I started to bleed. That started at 2pm and it is now 6pm and I’m still bleeding and cramping. I have plans to go get an ultrasound on Monday at a free clinic due to nothing being open on the weekend. Will I be ok until then or should I go to a doctor? I’ve never been pregnant or had a miscarriage so I don’t know what’s going on in my body:(

I would be 7 months at this point. When I went for my 8 week scan there was no heartbeat and it turns out I had a missed miscarriage. This was also my first pregnancy. I never got an ultrasound picture or anything. I was doing ok for a long time, but now that it’s getting closer to when my due date was I’m having a harder time. I could have had a cute Halloween costume with a bump. Thanksgiving is coming up which would have put me at 8 months. And Christmas will be just a few days before I was due. We haven’t even begun trying again because my husband isn’t ready and I am which is also hard. I’ll be 40 in about 6 months and I just thought we’d at least be trying again at this point. Just feeling sad for myself the past few weeks.

So, I had a spontaneous miscarriage at 11.5 weeks. I have a midwife and I also went to an obgyn for an ultrasound a week afterwards. My ultrasound showed no tissue, just blood. The obgyn wasn't helpful and didn't do blood work to see if my hcg levels were going down. He gave a vague request of pelvic rest. I talk to my midwife. She had labs done a day prior to my ER trip for bleeding (which I regret going in some ways because they did nothing to help with the bleeding) and I had dropped 6,000ml of hcg in 24 hours. So, she was not worried at all about my hcg levels. Said to just take tests every other day and if need be, she can do my labs again in another week (2 weeks after my miscarriage). I have yet to get a negative test.It's been about a week and a half. My midwife said I could resume sex as soon as the bleeding stopped. Here is the strange part. I stopped bleeding around 5-6 day mark. I didn't bleed for 48 hours. We had some light protected sex (because I am very horny and ready to resume normal activities) and everything was fine! Then about 24 hours later I resumed spotting just when I wipe. Every 24-48 hours I will have very mild spotting just when I wipe. It's not old blood, it's bright red. I have no cramping. No discharge outside of the wiping. It smells fine. Ugh. My question is, has this happened to anyone? Did you have sex during this weird spotting period? Why is my uterus being crazy!?! I'm grateful to have had an easy experience with all things uteruses (periods, miscarriage, and birth have all been pretty normal and minimal bleeding). However,this weird spotting is driving me crazy! Just when I think I'm done and can get back to having some loving, boom! Spotting! Thanks for reading my ran.

I need help figuring out who to go to for testing. I just had my 2nd MC. First one was a chemical pregnancy then a year later (now) I had a MMC at 9 weeks but I had to stop my hormone pill to let the miscarriage happen. Week 12 comes by all night I’m in pain and right before my appt to see if I still need the D&C I had the miscarriage. That was traumatizing but a relief. Anyways since both pregnancies/MC were out of the country I had to come back to the US and will need to get some tests done. I am confused on who will I need to go to… an OB/GYN first then get a referral to a specialist ? I know what tests I need so far.

My first miscarriage was last month.

SIL is due June 21 while I was due May 14. I was supposed to be entering my 2nd trimester next week and planned to announce to family then. I’m feeling a lot of feelings right now and most of them are negative. How can I outwardly appear happy when I want to cry every time I think about it? I’ve forced myself to dissociate a little and try to put it out of my head, but it still comes up.

We’re attending a big family celebration tomorrow and I just know her pregnancy will come up a lot, and I’m emotionally exhausted at the idea of putting on a happy face and hearing all the congratulations and happy wishes that should have been mine too.

My husband doesn’t understand. To him, it was just a clump of cells and not much to cry over. But to me, it was my baby and a future shattered. I feel so foolish for being wrapped up in my grief, like I should just get over it already. I’ve been told it was nothing, too soon, too early, not the right time, so small and better luck next time. I was 7 weeks along just like SIL is now, and I had the ultrasound photos too.

Yesterday was the worst day of my life. I’m now waiting for a call to come in for a d&c either today or tomorrow but I have to fast until I know just in case. I’m in pain, bleeding and I can’t even eat. This sucks so much. Any tips for recovering from a d&c? I also have a 10.5 month old so trying to navigate my grief and still caring for all his needs is both a blessing and exhausting.

Hello, I am just wanting to know if there’s any symptoms that can happen when miscarriaging or how do I know if I did? I hadn’t had my period in 2 months but I am irregular so I didn’t think too much into it. I got my period about 2 days ago and the first day it was the most painful cramps, I couldn’t even get up from bed. I spent about an hour in the restroom sitting on the toilet due to bleeding. After about 2 hours the pain went away. I have been getting very big clumps on blood and whitish/translucent blobs, I’m not sure if that’s normal or if it’s something more. I have a picture but not sure if I can post on here please let me know

After 6 years of failed fertility treatments and a 2 years of failed adoptions we concieved naturally out of the blue , it was the happiest I've ever been and my wife to , but almost 2 months later my wife had a miscarriage and we both took it hard , it was the worst pain I had ever felt . Losing the life we created was hard but sitting there watching my wife brake down more and more and not being able to do anything about it was the hardest part , completely helpless to her pain and suffering I cried everyday for weeks for the loss of our child but It broke me more to see the loss of the happiness in my wife's eyes and as a man I felt like I couldn't talk to anyone cause I'm supposed to hold it together for us both. To be some sort of normalcy in our lives but after several months I broke down to my wife one night , I held all my emotions back so that she wouldn't have to see me broken. I would hold the ultrasound photo and cry that I couldn't hold our child when I was alone , I wouldn't hold other people's baby's cause of it, I never go to hold our baby it didn't feel right to me. But we just started foster care so I hope I can bring some happiness to a child's life even if it's just for a little while

only made it to 5w0d and am experiencing a loss.

This was my first pregnancy. I was really excited (it was intentional) and also scared right from finding out just looking at statistics, etc. I am mid-thirties.

I was encouraged by the fact that I had so many pregnancy symptoms: my breasts enlarged immediately, I felt SO hungry, brain fogged, and emotional. I had light cramping that felt different from period pain: it freaked me out a little but since my back always hurts in a specific way before my period and it wasn't that, I was able to rationalize that it felt different and that some cramping is normal.

It’s Friday today. Wednesday I woke up and felt OFF. Like emotional not in a cute fun way but filled with dread. I took a test to try to assess if my HCG was going up, but it was a fainter line than i had seen before which sort of made me spiral. I rationalized that it was a different type of test than other ones, maybe my pee was more diluted, etc. I had to go see patients/ go to classes and all day it was like going through the motions and feeling like something might be wrong. No physical symptoms, just had a weird sense of “not ok.” I thought maybe it was hormones ramping up.

Woke up Thursday morning early for my Physical Therapy appointment feeling a different kind of tired. Took a digital test and got a YES which made me really happy and reassured. Did my PT, got home, and tried to convince myself to get off the couch for hours, but was almost magnetically drawn to it. My back hurt, and I wanted to think it was from PT but it felt familiarly like my PMS back pain. Forced myself to walk a block to the post office to get some air. Got back and saw some light brown spotting.

TW graphic descriptions:

I thought, ok just brown spotting, totally normal. Then I got worse cramps. Then the spotting turned a pinkish color, still in the “this is normal spotting in pregnancy” colors from what i read online. The cramps kept going, and I tried to take it easy and watch movies in bed. My partner is supportive, and was looking things up too. I told myself not to worry because the spotting was still normal and that worrying doesn't help.

Right before I got ready to go to sleep around 9pm I felt something and started seeing red blood in a volume like my period. One small clot while wiping. Noticed my boobs were less sore and kind of realized what must be happening.

Last night i kept feeling blood/ clots come out of me, all morning I’ve been bleeding heavily, like period volume but with so many clotted pieces, up to about the size of a quarter. They’re really dark clots, and more come out whenever I stand up. I took a pregnancy test this morning that has no hint of a second positive line.

My OB nurse is supposed to get back to me soon on whether they want me to go to ER, trying to assess if clot volume and my slightly left-side dominant continued cramping means I need additional care.

I regret telling a few friends so soon. They were all so excited for me. I was excited. My partner was excited. I mapped out my whole pregnancy timeline and was picturing myself getting huge in a beautiful way. I wondered if it could be twins as they run in my family!

Have been slowly texting people I told and breaking the news. Cried a lot. I don’t have much appetite.

I want to try again in a few months, but damn I feel like I want to keep it to myself until I’m showing. Or until the kid applies for college.

I think one of the main feelings I’m having over this is awe, in a way, that by the statistics so many people experience this pain and this level of sadness, and more. And they keep existing and healing, and many try again, and have babies and probably live though so much fear again in that process.

I hope I can be strong like a lot of the folks whose stories I read about here and in r/Pregnancy

Hi all, I had a missed MC back in September and had a manual vacuum aspiration procedure done. After then, I had mild cramping here and there so I got a repeat US (about 8wks later). The US read that there may be some retained tissue in the uterus. My doc messaged saying with time, it disappears for vast majority of ppl and will be resorbed. I am worried tho - how long is this supposed to take and when should I be worried? Can I still get pregnant now?? Anyone have experience with something similar?

My cramping is very mild to none. I have a follow up in a week to discuss.

My baby shower would have been in 2 weeks ..

One of my friends is 17 weeks pregnant.. same week I lost my angel 😔..

The pain comes and goes.. today is just one of those days..

Hey everyone, I had a misser miscarriage in August followed by a D&C and I'm about to have my third period since the surgery. Is anyone else getting absolutely awful mood swings/depression/anger in the cycles that followed your miscarriage? I'm usually a bit of an arsehole but right now I'm a monster 😭 we have been trying to concieve again and it's not working so that's probably worsening the situation but I was curious if anyone else is experiencing the same? (Or am I just horrible😅)

Feeling like i need to vent my frustrations. This Monday was our first OB appointment, should have been about 10 weeks. Fetus measured at 8w +5. OB couldn't find a heartbeatbeat, prints out a picture and runs out of the room claiming to schedule me for a stat ultrasound elsewhere. Husband and I sit in the room for 5-10 minutes, then we're kicked out by a nurse to go sit in the lobby. After another 10 minutes a different nurse gives me a paper telling me where to go later Monday night for another ultrasound. Second ultrasound they don't tell me anything, but I can hear them record the absence of heartbeat. Tuesday my ob calls, goes over options. I choose D&C as my body hasn't recognized the miscarriage, I've heard so many traumatic experiences with the pills, so I just want to get it over with and process/grieve. Ob says someone will call me Tuesday afternoon or Wednesday at the latest. It's now Friday, no one has called. I've called them only to learn she never put the order in for someone to call me (Learned Wednesday afternoon). I call them again Thursday, they say that urgent call backs take 24-48 hours. I've also sent messages on the health portal. At this rate it will be a week before I hear back. Why is Healthcare like this? I can keep calling, but it doesn't seem like it getting anywhere.

I posted the other day on whether I should go to my follow up. My current OBGYN does not take me insurance so I need to look for a new one. I found one that I like that takes my insurance but they aren’t taking new patients until January. I mentioned my miscarriage and how I just needed a follow up to make all the tissue has passed and the lady said all they would do is take a pregnancy test and make sure it tests negative and then I would be good to go and that’s how they would know the tissue is gone. I am on my first period now but I have heard stories how there is still tissue left over and people struggle to conceive again because of it.

My dilemma is I cannot afford the hundreds of dollars right now to go to a follow up appointment at my current OBGYN. And the other obgyns I found that take my insurance have HORRIBLE reviews. So I guess what are my options? I don’t want to waste resources and time going to the emergency room when my period is done to make sure all the tissue is gone. Should I see if a lab can do blood draws? Is that even an option?

I am currently miscarrying for the third time in 6 months. I have had no problem getting pregnant but somehow never make it past 6 weeks. This time around I was also taking progesterone pills to try to keep the baby but after 3 scans in 2 weeks they have diagnosed me with blighted ovum. I should be at 8 weeks 3 days but the empty GS is measuring 6 weeks.

I should be able to pass it soon once I stop the progesterone. If not, my doctor will schedule a d&c next week.

We are looking into doing tests. If you have been in this position, what tests have you done? I am so lost right now that I don’t even know what to do.

I’m sitting here with my MMC, awaiting my D&C in 3 days. After grieving on the floor in a pile of tears for a day, I started to feel a bit better. Now the straight depression has set in. So I’m making a list of things I can do (some that I couldn’t do before) to make myself feel better.

• Sit in a hot jacuzzi
• Drink a giant soda I’ve been craving
• Eat my body weight in deli meat
• Reschedule the Hawaii trip I canceled because I was too high risk
• Have some wine
• Shop a lot (but not for clothes, too depressing)
• Spend a lot of time in nature

Feel free to add yours.

I miscarried end of April 2024 at 11 weeks, it was a MMC. First pregnancy. I had a horrible cold and cough at the time which had been hanging around for a few weeks. That eventually went but I think I’ve had 2 more colds since that and one batch of mild Covid. It’s really unlike me, I’m almost never ill. I just got over a cold a few weeks ago and can feel another sore throat brewing. Has anyone else experienced this?

My first loss was a mmc, I opted not to test after the d&c because I wanted to bury the remains. This time I had a chemical pregnancy, there's nothing to test or bury. I see my doctor next week and I want to know what I can ask her. Is there hormone tests she can order or anything that could help us understand what happened and what can be done going forward?

I am 6 weeks 1 day. My blood work showed my hCG levels were going down and it was in the 100’s as of Wednesday. I’ve had mild cramping and spotting on and off since Monday but no sign of fully miscarrying or passing any tissue. And guess on when this could occur?

Finally went in to a new doctor and she did a whole panel of testing. Results came back today and everything for myself is completely normal and within limits. She had no concerns. I’m very very thankful and happy about it. Do you think I just accept that we just had super back luck with 2 MMC this year and keep trying and hope for better luck now?? It’s hard for me to accept that my body just “couldn’t do it”……

I lost my baby earlier this week. This was my first pregnancy. I never got to know the gender of my baby. I'm looking for ideas on healthy and healing ways to process this and honor my baby.

For some background, my mmc was complete at what would have been 12 weeks (heartbeat stopped around 8.5-9 weeks.) My period started 3.5 weeks later. I’m on day 3, bleeding seems like a normal period. I didn’t have any PMS symptoms before my bleeding started. The only thing that is abnormal is the amount of rage and anxiety I feel at times. It’s like PMS on steroids. Anyone else experience this?

My last period was the 13th of September I had a confirmed miscarriage the 21st of October I was wondering can you still get pregnant without your period or does it have to be after your period I still haven’t had mine yet we had been trying for a year with only one positive test and I’m just worried that it might take another year I was talking to some family members and they said after they miscarried they got pregnant immediately afterwards but I don’t know if they had trouble getting pregnant to begin with for a bit of background I was on the bar BC for 6 months and advise would be great

I went to an ultrasound yesterday, and it was confirmed that my baby has passed. I'm about 13wks, and have not had any bleeding at all... But I DO feel some super light cramping- similar to gas pains, and a need to poo regularly. This is the third time I've gone to the restroom today, and I've only been up since 8.. so probably once each hour.

I have also been feeling some perennial (vaginal) soreness, especially when pushing to poo.

Supposed to be going to doctor to schedule a D&C this coming Monday, but was told to go in for cramping or bleeding, etc.

Do I go in to the Emergency Department for this, or wait it out?

I had a d&c 5 weeks ago (14w mmc) and every day I cried.

Every time I think about it, see a pregnant woman, see a diaper commercial on TV, I instantly cry, I can't control it.

I worked from home for those 5 weeks, but I can't hide all my life, I'll have to go back to the office. I have colleagues who are pregnant, one of whom has the same due date as me, and when she announced her pregnancy on teams last week, I turned off my camera and cried. I'm really scared I'll start crying in the office and have nowhere to hide.

When did you stop crying all the time? I don't think I'll ever stop being sad about my baby, but I'd really like that sadness to be less apparent...

Thank you

It’s been 3 full months since my miscarriage and I feel like the grief will never end. My husband is wonderful and tries so hard to help, but his grieving has come and gone. It just feels like I will never feel better. I’ve cried every single day for the past 3 months. I want to hope for a healthy pregnancy but I’ve always had terrible luck and I’m honestly terrified. All in all, just a jumble of emotions that I don’t know what to do with. Any advice for dealing is greatly appreciated.

I found out I had a MMC on Monday. Everytime I feel like there is blood, it’s discharge. It’s more watery. Is this a sign that things are starting to move?

I’ve posted a few times but for the sake of the full picture, I lost my first child at 11 weeks on 6/20 of this year and had a D&C on 6/24. My hcg was slow to drop and I was bleeding constantly. When I wasn’t bleeding I was spotting brown ever single day for 4 months. I begged my doctor to do an ultrasound several times but was denied and sent for more bloodwork (I got it done 5x times). I got my first ultrasound in September where the tech saw a mass but I didn’t find out until 3 days later when my doctor called me. She had me go in for another scan in September and confirmed the mass was still there. But didn’t tell me what it was. She suggested it was a fibroid but wanted a 3rd ultrasound to confirm (WTF?!) By this time I had 2 hemorrhage events which were absolutely terrifying. I called my doctor, her assistant called me back 8 hours later admonishing me for not going to the ER and prescribed me transaxemic acid to stop the bleeding with no follow up call. At this point my hcg was 1, which was considered negative.

I was so fed up and scared by this point that I reached out to 5 different OB offices in my area with the help and encouragement of my therapist (God bless her!!) only 1 took me seriously and got me in the next week. She took one look at my ultrasound screenshots and said that it looks like RPOC and I went in for a hysterocopy the next week (10/23) now I feel so much better. My new doctor listened to me, took me seriously and had an urgent sense of care. It was confirmed that I had RPOC. The tissue left inside me was placental tissue. Luckily I have no scarring and no calcification, my new doctor is very pleasantly surprised and disgusted by my first doctor’s negligence. I can’t believe my first doctor never took me seriously even when I suggested it was RPOC. She felt that since my hcg was technically “negative” it couldn’t have been RPOC. I’ve been on this road for 4 months and can finally start to heal.

I’m sharing all of this to say, DO NOT second guess your gut. Seek a second opinion if something doesn’t sit right. Ask for help. I wish I did sooner but I was so traumatized that I didn’t, I was frozen with fear. I’m so thankful that I was lucky enough to find someone to listen to me before it was too late.