I had a miscarriage summer of 2022.. I had two cousins pregnant at the same time and thankfully carried healthily to term. I used to always love children and being around them. I of course love my niece and nephews now but couldnt help to feel a disconnect or numbness when it came to them and figured it was watching them have the same milestones my baby would’ve had. Fast forward to 2024 I’ve of course healed as much as I can and learned to accept what has happened and that it was not my fault. This year another pregnancy and baby was welcomed into the family. I have found myself both over consumed with happiness because babies are a blessing but also a deep sadness. I would of course never allow myself to show the sadness to anyone bc I don’t want to take away from the moments or have anyone think I am making it about me. I’m just worried something might be wrong with me if after two years later I can go back to the sadness out of no where. Has anyone else had this happen? Will it always be this intense ? I just feel so lost and have no friends or family who’ve lost a baby. It’s just moments like these I realize I’m so lonely in this grief.

Had a miscarriage at 7w+2d in October/November, it was my first pregnancy and the whole experience was really rough on me. Im grieving all of it but especially feeling angry that the timing and due date and all that worked out so perfectly and now it won't unless I wait a full year to try again which I don't want to do.

It's a minor heartbreak in all this, but I still feel so angry about it and I'm wondering if anyone else feels this way too?

I just suffered a chemical pregnancy this week and am actively losing the pregnancy. It’s my second loss, the first was a molar pregnancy last year. Our first cycle TTC in November we conceived but here we are unfortunately experiencing a very early loss.

Like many, I’m very eager to try again. I’ve heard many stories of women successfully becoming pregnant right after a chemical. I’ve already been thinking we for sure would try again once my LH surges hopefully in a couple weeks.

My doctor suggests waiting a full cycle. Meaning I would have to allow a period in January and could try after that one, but that’ll be nearly February!. She said this allows the lining to better support a new pregnancy and lowers risk this happening again. But I absolutely do not want to wait and I’m feeling really down. I want to listen to my doctors advice but I’ve heard orherwise that with a chemical it’s not necessary. Has anyone else been told the same?

… a full six weeks after my MMC.

I took three rounds of Miso and passed almost everything. At first my doctor said there was just a little bit of tissue left from the pregnancy, no worries, my body will expel it with my next period at the latest. Only my next period didn’t come. In fact I never stopped bleeding.

It’s been six weeks and I went back for another checkup. There’s still something on the ultrasound, only my hcg is so low that the doctor thinks it shouldn’t be from the pregnancy. She cannot rule out a polyp. In fact she cannot say anything definitive. She gave me two options: wait or Miso.

So im back at it with Miso. I just want this to be over, I want to move on or at least have the option of moving on, buuut my body won’t let me. Yay for me.

And now on top of everything else I’m super worried that there’s complications or a Tumor nobody saw before, or whatever. Isn’t the miscarriage enough on its own? Why does there have to be more??? Why?

I passed my baby yesterday. I had no bleeding at all before passing the gestational sac, and only mild bleeding since - way less than a normal period. It's already slowing down. The info my doctor gave me said I'd be bleeding for 2 whole weeks. Is this normal?

I found out I had a missed miscarriage about 2 weeks ago (I was 10 weeks, but baby was only measuring 8 weeks and 4 days). I found out on the 25th of November and took my first pill. On the 27th I took the second pill and then the bleeding and cramping started. I still have some light bleeding, but all cramping and pain has stopped. At my follow up appointment yesterday the doctor told me everything has been cleared out. I just took a pregnancy test and an ovulation test and both are coming back positive. The pregnancy test is quite dark meaning I guess my HCG levels are still pretty high even though it’s been 2 weeks already. The thing is, the LH test is also very positive. Does this mean I’ll probably ovulate tomorrow? I didn’t think I’d ovulate until my pregnancy test lines got way lighter, but this is my first LH test since being pregnant and I don’t even know if they’re accurate if you have HCG in your system? I have very irregular cycles and rely on LH tests and basal body temperature to know what’s going on, but everything just feels so out of whack since the miscarriage and my body feels out of control. I just wish I knew what was happening

I need advice please!! Yesterday I went for my appointment at 11 weeks & 2 days. They couldn't find a heartbeat with a Doppler, went for ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. Baby was measuring at 7 & 1/2 weeks to 8 weeks. I just today started spotting, it is very light and a brownish red color. My doctor said to go home and decide what I wanted to do. However I have never had a miscarriage before and I have no idea what the right choice is. He said I'm right in the middle of let it pass naturally, or have a D&C. I have cramping but very minimal blood or tissue coming out. I wish my doctor would have just said this is what you need to do... Should I just schedule a d&c, or wait on this to happen naturally. Saying it could take weeks is stressing me out. When I can't take off work and wait. The cramps are pretty painful but nothing is happening. I have an appointment with my doctor on Monday, which is 6 days from now. Just a follow up and see if I've miscarried by them. I honestly just feel very unwell and I want this to be over with.

I miscarried just over a month ago at 6 wks and I have just started to feel a little bit more normal until 3, yes 3 of my coworkers all announced their pregnancies this past week as well as old class mates I keep up with on social media. All due right around the time I was due as well and while I'm happy for them I'm also so jealous and angry. I dread going into the office and seeing them because It should be me too. I feel like it's just going to continue to keep ripping the scab off of the wound the further they get into their pregnancy knowing It would've been me too. I hate that I feel this way because i am happy for them and don't want to seem like a grouch but it makes me want to cry every time i hear about it. I've stopped looking at my social media for the time being and am just trying to protect my peace and heal as best as I can.

I had a miscarriageat 6w0d gestational age but only saw on the 8w3d scan with my first pregnancy, wanted it to pass naturally so I did and the bleeding stopped last week Thursday. Cramping gone and things seem to be getting back to normal body wise. But I have this residual colour coming out when wiping after a wee. It's not red and it's not pink but almost yellowish/brownish, I actually don't freaking know. But I was wondering if this is just the last bit of blood coming out?

It's watery discharge like, no smell, maybe irony a bit I guess. I have to take a pregnancy test for the Dr on Sunday to see if it is completely negative. Is it 100% necessary to get a D&C done or is that only for 10w gestational age and over? Dr said my lining is not thicker than a normal period so he doesn't want to risk damaging the inside with the D&C.

Then also he wants me to wait 2 period cycles before we can try again. Is this to be expected?

I was supposed to be 13 weeks this Thursday, but I started bleeding on Sunday morning. I just thought it was normal since I had sex for the first time since getting pregnant. It got heavier that night so we went to the er, the baby was only measuring 9 weeks. No heartbeat. Monday morning (my birthday) we were sent home and told to rest and only to come back if I’m bleeding through more than a pad an hour. We were devastated. We didn’t even get to hear the heartbeat due to insurance issues. I passed the baby last night and I saw everything. I’m traumatized. Any tips to get through this? Also when does the bleeding usually stop?

My last menstruation is Oct 25, 2024. Fast forward 3rd wk of november I felt so dizzy at all times. Dec 1-2 came then I have spotting then it stopped at dec 3, dec 4 I took pregnancy test and was positive. Dec 5 I had regular period flow until now dec 11. I have some blood clots and today I peed on the floor while showering and there is a gelatin-like size of a candy on the floor. It was opaque. Is it normal for period or did I have MC?

I got my results back this morning. Normal. Normal. Normal. Why did she not have a heartbeat at 16 weeks then? What did I do? Or what happened ?! 🥺😭😭I had a d&c so I can’t rule out if the cord was wrapped around her neck. I can’t think of anything else. Any ideas???

Hey everyone this is my 4th miscarriage as of a couple days ago I was wondering have any one else in here has had many miscarriages and if so how did you handle it ?😞

Looking for hope. I had a d&e 7 days ago after we found our baby did not have a heart beat at our first prenatal appointment. Baby was measuring 7 weeks 3 day when we should have been 8 weeks 4 days. We waited 10 days went want for a second ultrasound to confirm what we already knew and did the d&e next day. Feeling pretty low today and I ’m just looking for some hope. Pregnancy test line was pretty faint last night and barely spotting. We did get pregnant on the first cycle trying and we want to try again as soon as we can. Doc advised to wait for one period then good to try again. I’m 35 so already in that high risk category and panicking about the future. Doc said it was great we only tried one cycle and was hopefully the next time around it would be successful but I feel like I just need to hear some positive stories right now. Thanks

I had a D&C and found out that the doctor didn't remove all the tissue and said that I need another D&C within a month. Has anyone else experienced this - 2 D&Cs in a row? How did it affect your ability to get pregnant again? I'm worried about scarring, especially since I don't have any kids yet and I'm really hoping to have at least one.

I was around 7ish weeks pregnant with my first baby and have been miscarrying since Friday and passed the sac in the early hours of Monday morning. I’m still dealing with the physical affects of it but the emotional pain feels so huge and overwhelming. I cannot stop crying and feel like I am so stuck in the darkness. I’ve never felt pain like this. My best friend who lives in another country has just messaged with photos of her baby who was born today. It has sent me into another emotional spiral and I cannot bring myself to message just yet. She doesn’t know what’s currently happening with me. I know it’s not her fault but these emotions feel too big to process right now Any advice on how to navigate this would be much appreciated ❤️

So I have birth Dec 2023. Feb 2024 i had a D&C due to tissue left behind (infected and necrotic) had heavy bleeding with big clots July 2024 I got a positive pregnancy test Oct 21 first ultrasound (no HR found on fetus) Oct 28 pill to induce abortion since my body was not doing it itself, large clots again for 24 hours Dec 2 I get my first period Dec 8 - 6 day of my period - huge red clots (think golf ball and bigger) with heavy red blood. Bleeding thru a S tampon in less than an hour for like 5 hours.

I have a STAT ultrasound and bloodwork this week.

But has anyone had this experience? Is this normal?

I had an early miscarriage at 5 weeks. The whole ordeal was quite traumatic in the hospital where I was left bleeding on a&e floor for hours and then they were checking me and pulling blood clots from me in a room where the curtain didn’t close properly for all to see.

When I got home there was still some light spotting but I really needed the intimacy and comfort from my partner and we had sex before the bleeding had fully stopped. I know it’s irresponsible. I either wanted to have sex or cry.

I now have a lot of watery milky discharge to the point it feels like it’s coming out in huge amounts at a time. It’s itchy below and my inner labia feels a little rough and sore. There’s no smell.

I have an appointment with sexual health tomorrow but have been waiting a couple of days for an appointment. Does anybody have any idea what it could be? I’m terrified I’ve had an STI for months and not known about it.

How long did it take you to get your period after having a miscarriage? I went in for my what was supposed to be 12 week appointment and the doctor told me there was no heart beat and the baby was still measuring at 8 weeks and 5 days. My doctor told me all my options and when I get home that day I started having some light pink spotting, this was on October 28th. I then am scheduled for a follow up ultrasound to get some precise measurements on October 30th. As I am driving home from the ultrasound, I have very bad, labor like cramps and start passing the tissue, after this I had pretty bad bleeding for weeks. On November 22nd I have a visit with my doctor and she runs a blood hcg test to see if everything is returning back to normal and my levels were still at 11. I have lots of spotting leading up to thanksgiving day and decided to take a urine pregnancy test and there was still a faint line. On December 1st and 2nd, I have some heavier spotting and go in on December 3rd for another blood hcg test and the next day my doctor told me my levels have returned back to pre-pregnancy. I have been a little worried that my period hasn’t come back yet, but me and my husband have been using protection anytime we do have intercourse because we want to wait for my body to heal a bit. On December 9th, I decided to take another urine pregnancy test that came out negative. Just want to know how long I should wait until I get my period back. I have been super stressed about it not returning yet. Also not sure when I start tracking my cycle, after the bleeding has stopped or when the miscarriage happened?

First pregnancy here. Was totally over the moon. Booked for a reassurance scan at 6w3d just to see a big black gestational sac, no yolk sac no foetal pole. The mean sac diameter was 14mm and they said they can’t diagnose a miscarriage unless it’s >25mm or no change after 7 days so I’m going back next week. How do I survive this week of limbo (torture)? I want to grieve and move on but they said there a small chance it could develop? I’ve done some googling and looking at papers- it seems almost impossible or even if it does develop it’s likely to fail later on. Firstly, has anyone been in this position? I know there’s a long way to go, the management of the miscarriage, getting periods back and trying to re try. Seems like a timeline of hell ahead of me. I hadn’t announced pregnancy to anyone really so feel like I have even less support. My partner is amazing but he’s heartbroken too, I’ve never seen him like this. I’m a realist, I know it was such an early pregnancy but it’s all the hopes and dreams it represents. Here really looking for people who have made it out the other side to tell me it will be okay. Thanks so much 🩷 It’s funny how your social media algorithm changes so quickly from ‘first trimester’ to ‘miscarriage’…

I went to the clinic due to my headache and nausea, the Doctor asked when was my last period and I told him it was on October, the Dr suggested for me to take pregnancy test just in case. I didn’t think too much of it, even dismissed the idea to the Dr stating it’s normal for me to skip a period.

Nevertheless, I did the test and a few minutes later the Dr congratulated me and my husband for my pregnancy, I was stunned and cried, I kept looking at the test to make sure it was real. We had been married for years and this was our first positive test. I told my parents, in laws, close friends. I was over the moon. Little did we know, our happiness would be short lived.

Two days later, I was bleeding with blood clot, and I was too numb and in denial to believe it was over. I went to the same clinic, but a different Dr. I told her about the bleeding and we did an ultrasound. It was nothing, I had an empty uterus and the Dr asked me to take another pregnancy test. It was negative test. Empty uterus and a negative test.

The Dr told me I was never pregnant, and I’m having my period. I was too numb and I asked her “but what about the positive test?” She told me it’s false positive and a faulty test. I was too numb, too devastated to process her words afterwards.

I refused to believe it was a false positive, and I came across the term “chemical pregnancy” and the symptoms fit my symptoms to a tee. I believe I had a chemical pregnancy, this was not a mere period, I know my body and the bleeding I had was different. The next day, I passed big clots almost the size of my palm, I looked at it and realised my pregnancy had come to an end.

My emotions was mixed up right now, I am grieving over my loss and I felt like a fraud because the Dr’s words kept replaying in my head, was I ever pregnant? Should I even grieve over a positive test? Reading the posts in this page has been cathartic and I felt so connected to each posters and commenters. The loss was so early and the only proof my baby existed was a positive test, and I felt like a fraud because of it. Do I deserve to even grieving over my baby?

Last year I became pregnant for the first time. It sadly was a complete molar pregnancy that developed into choriocarcinoma. I went through a few months of chemo and was cleared in October to TTC again.

I purchased Mira and my cycle returned November 11. I started tracking and my hormones looked great. I confirmed ovulation on CD 15. This past Friday, I got a positive on my HPT. I was so happy. Couldn’t believe it happened first try after everything I’ve been through. Yet I did remain cautious and didn’t allow myself to be too excited.

On 12 DPO, I got a beta done. My doctor and I discussed that should I get a positive home test, I would go in for labs (I have a standing hcg order). To track what was going on and keep an eye on it. I was really upset to see my beta was only 6.

I held on to a tiny but of hope as my test was faint. My tests have slowly gotten darker these last couple days. I went in for another beta today around 48 hours later. Came back at a whopping 8.

I’m so numb. Best case scenario this is a chemical and I can start my period soon. I can’t imagine this developing into an ectopic or anything remotely close to what I’ve already dealt with.

Im happy I am capable of conceiving and having cycles. But I feel like a joke and that this will never happen for me.

I heard it was rare that I miscarried in the second trimester (16 weeks, 3 weeks ago)😔 I miss her so much. Just curious when did you guys lose your precious angels? 🥺 I also had a 8 week and 12 week miscarriage years ago.

Had a miscarriage on Mother’s Day. My doctor told us to come back if I didn’t become pregnant within 6mos to a year. We scheduled the appointment at least a month ago.

Appointment day comes, we got there on time and we are told my doctor was on call and would be late. Approximately 1 hr and $50 copay later we are informed she’s been called in before making her way to us for a delivery and she is not coming back.

I felt the way I was told was kind of dismissive. “Oh you are not pregnant therefore not important. You are obviously wasting everyone’s time being here.” I’m aware this is my brain cooking some nice toxic juices for me to drink and drive me to more self destructive thoughts and actions. Maybe the news could’ve been delivered, funny word, in a more considerate way and attitude than a “yikes-sucks-to-be-you-come-back-another-day way”.

My husband, trying to keep me from feeling worse, is adamant that we must reschedule and is upset we were scheduled for a day she was on call. I calmly agreed with him, but my mind was just coming up with my next steps. We got rescheduled and left the building. As soon as we stepped out of the building I broke down crying and told him I didn’t want to come back ever again, that I was done. My husband suggested we go somewhere else since this doctor doesn’t seem to give a crap about people like me. I spent the rest of the day in a shitty mood.

Come morning, I was in a worse mindset. I canceled my appointment and decided I’m avoiding medical professionals altogether. I’ve been playing Russian roulette with my mood swings. I want to get away from people, which is impossible I know, and just destroy everything of mine I can. Yes, I’m like a child throwing a tantrum.

No need to respond.

What has everyone done to remember your baby? I’ve tried a few things and I just don’t think I’ve found the right way yet. I’ve gotten a birthstone ring recently. My MIL is getting me a name necklace and I considered a birth flower necklace until I found out she’s getting me a necklace already. I’m considering a tattoo. I just feel like I want something more permanent or maybe something to feel more a part of me. Any suggestions? Anyone feeling similar? Or anyone who has a tattoo- what’s your experience and what did you get??

My D&C was August 2. My first period was 9/19 had one in October and November. Each period lasted a bit longer than normal and had long spotting after but once spotting stopped I didn’t bleed again until next period. Well I’m currently in my “fertile” time, should be ovulating maybe tomorrow (we’re not trying) and I’m spotting lightly, once yesterday and once today. I just had my pap a few weeks ago and everything came back normal, I also asked doc about longer period she said would be normal for up to 6 months. I was curious did anyone else experience spotting during ovulation post miscarriage?

Getting procedure done this Wednesday. I forgot to ask the sedation cocktail if anyone has insight on this. Also how quickly did you become coherent? I am most anxious for the feeling after waking up

Long story short, I’m in a week long waiting period to go back for a rescan to see if my baby made it or not. The doctor can’t tell me right now if my intense bleeding is from a MC or from my SCH. The bleeding paired with a low fetal heart rate and tracking a week small has them concerned about viability.

I’m a mess—I’m mad, I’m sad, I have a slice Rod Hope. Waiting to know if the baby is still there or not feels like torture. I feel huge, my stomach is extremely bloated and I have constant cramps, my bleeding stopped today. I’m fairly confident I know the outcome, I need closure.

Is the bloating and feeling big typical? Does this go away?

I had a miscarriage in September at 14w, and since then I've had a really hard time moving on.

What hurts the most is seeing how insensitive and selfish people are.
Today, my sister-in-law announced on our family whatsapp group that she was 5 months pregnant (she lives abroad), putting a picture of her ultrasound, and that her due date was in April. Which was also my due date.

I haven't stopped crying since I saw that announcement. Why didn't they think it would hurt my feelings? Why did they put the ultrasound? Why didn't they tell me before? Why didn't anyone think of me?

This isn't the first time this has happened since my miscarriage, and I really don't understand why people are so insensitive. It makes me feel like nobody's paying any attention to me. To my suffering. It's so painful.

The fact that they don't acknowledge my grief invalidates my feelings. I'm so sad.

I had my 3rd natural miscarriage a couple weeks ago. I've had a fever (99.? - 100.?) every day ever since. Fever and occasional back pain / nausea. That's it. Still seems concerning??

I've tried contacting a couple OB's but none are willing to get me in for a follow-up. The ER wasn't willing to do an ultrasound or even a pelvic exam. Primary doctors are telling me if I had retained tissue / an infection causing the fevers I'd "look like shit."

I still haven't had a single pelvic exam, ultrasound, nothing.

I'm really hoping this daily fever issue isn't a sign that something's seriously wrong after the miscarriage. What is the actual deal with doctors nowadays.