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Sister is a nightmare to begin with but she's trying to make a big deal that we are having our daughters 1 year old birthday party of which my family is very excited to have and fly in to to celebrate. My wife on the other hand is torn I think and is thinking about her sister even though she would never reciprocate this feeling and wants to almost cancel our daughters 1 year old birthday to be there for her sister. I'm not sure how to handle this besides feeling like all of this is in the air and a due date is just that, who knows when it's going to happen but I want to celebrate my daughters birthday way more than my nightmare SIL who only does us and the rest of the family dirty at every turn.

They were gone for 5 days and I was happy as could be. I never felt desperate or insecure or angry or depressed. I missed them a bit and enjoyed when they came home.

But within 12 hours my anxiety levels are through the roof! Every discussion, from breakfast to the kind of sandwich to who will feed the dog, turns into an all or nothing battle. Everyone is yelling at each other, nitpicking every word… “don’t do that… do this… stop that… next time do this…” All very condescending, demanding, aggressive. It is a pattern that is absolutely learned from my wife’s side of the family and it makes me SICK, literally. I’ve talked to my wife about it several times and I get the same response, that I am attacking her and being rude.

My digestive issues have flared. I can’t sleep. I literally can’t do anything but hide in my office and try to work. I’m on meds for depression that are also supposedly good for anxiety, which is probably the only reason I’m still alive.

I don’t know what else to do other than run away/separation.

So I'm laying on the floor peacefully playing with my 10-month-old, when all of a sudden my 2.5-year-old daughter appears above me. Her cheeks were puffed out, chocolate milk leaking from her smiling lips, and a look in her eyes that said "I'm gonna open mouth!"

And thus began the most frantic hostage negotiation of my life!

The problem is this girl knows exactly how to make me laugh, and is such a little ham! I swear she lives for it. So, I'm laying there, frantically trying to tell her to swallow her milk while laughing my ass off, knowing deep down I'm only reinforcing this behavior!

Good news: it worked out this time. Next time, I may not be so lucky. This girl is going to be the death of me, and for some reason that only makes me love her more.

...every single day?

Why can't they find their own food.

Good local artist at my hardware store

I was teaching my son to pee at a urinal without pulling his pants ALL the way down and I started wondering if everyone takes their balls out all the way, or was it just me?

I've polled a few friends and it seems 50-50 so far. Just curious about a fuller result.

That's all, homies. This show is fr.

I have a 1 year old that pretty much refuses to be soothed by me if they wake in the night (for whatever reason)

Every night I put them to bed, they were bottle fed for have done that since the begining, I'm involved in bath time every night. Feeding of solids is a pretty good split between me and the other half. We have play time together most days for atleast and hour, although in that time my wife is there too as we're both home from work.

I'm just feeling so helpless that I can't help out on a night if they wake up, no matter what I do the baby just cries on me and that's it

This week, my son got some money from family for Chinese New Year, and the timeline for getting a couple Lego sets suddenly moved up. As much as I have had fun doing Legos with him in the past, it was a struggle, trying to get him to focus and actually help do the activity while he got frustrated getting pieces together.

Things have changed greatly now that he’s 5 compared to doing legos at 3 or 4. Before, it was a multi day time sink that had to be paused and picked up over the week. Now I only need to help occasionally on a particularly confusing piece, and he was intensely focused for two days straight putting each one together. Super proud of my boy and seeing how much he has grown to do this practically by himself.

Side note: what the heck is a dark millennium falcon? Who is Jedi Vader and darth Rey or Darth Jar Jar? I didn’t realize there was an alt universe Star Wars setting.

We have a good relationship with our neighbors and we've gone to each other's house a few times. We don't do a whole lot of screen time but are not really stingy with it either. No TV really during the week but on weekends sometimes we do sometimes we don't. When we go to their neighbors house they seem to keep TV's on with shows playing as background noise and their kids just run are and play but like ours becomes a zombie and just wants to watch. I'm not try to debate about screen time. I'm just really curious how some kids can play with the TV on

My daughter decided to color these trolls like the Simpsons and it turned out pretty well

First time poster - my wife and I are expecting our first this August and in an ideal world would spend the holidays with family that lives about 8 hours away by car.

Logistically, what’s the play here?

All of us driving seems impossible because of the two hour rule for car seats.

An options would be that wife flies with baby, there are good direct flights between here and there, but it’s still an hour and a half drive once she gets there. I get a head start, drive, pick them up at the airport. This is nice because we aren’t limited on the amount of stuff we can bring, we’ll have the car seat we’re used to, etc etc. It’s just nice to have our car and our stuff. I worry about my wife flying alone with baby and trying to manage a 3 month old alone. Flight would be non stop and only an hour.

Or do we all fly, and rent a car, most expensive option, and we don’t have all of our stuff. The family is willing to have a set of some stuff where we’re going and store it there, like a bassinet and pack n’ play, so we wouldn’t have to travel with EVERYTHING but it would certainly be a little more complicated.

I have zero experience for how to approach this. Anyone have strong opinions?

I've been following this group since the tail end of our pregnancy. I am now an 8 day old dad to a sweet girl. As I navigate the range of feelings from joy and love, to "did we just ruin our lives?!!", I'll be glad for the support and care that I have seen in this group from fellow dads who are down to share and receive support.

Thank you in advance, I know I'll need it!

Hey guys, this isn’t meant to come off as a depressing, or melodrama post. I’ve been experiencing a lot of guilt and anxiety lately over the birth of my daughter. She’s 3 months old, and I only just started feeling this way. I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life, and am concerned I’m going to pass these traits onto my kid. (I have read that they can be somewhat hereditary). I’ve been thinking on this a lot lately, as well as the state of the world, and what we are bringing her into. To be clear, I love my daughter and wouldn’t trade having her for anything. My question is, do any of you guys ever experience these thoughts and feelings? If so, how do you overcome them? Thanks in advance.

• A scared, first time father

Heya! I've been thinking about these like escape room and game show experiences and actually it would be really fun to do a "podcast experience" so think I'm going to surprise my wife with a microphone and do a little podcast with her. Might be a good idea for everyone else!

Dad's! What questions do you want to ask your partners? Lurking Mums! What questions would you like to be asked by your partner?

Thanks in advance! Really excited to see what people come up with

She put these two toys together, and said it’s an eggplant. I love this woman

As in I’m just not nervous. I’m not scared. I’m not sad. My baby is due any day now and I’m just excited to finally meet him. Am I being naive? Am I wrong to not be worried? People keep asking me why and I simply don’t know; I’m just so excited to finally have him here.

We’ve attended antenatal courses, I feel very prepared as I’ve done a lot of reading and talking with friends and family. I’m not naive in the sense I know raising a baby has its difficulties, but people keep asking why I’m not scared and I don’t have an answer.

It’s fine to feel this way, right?

It's wild how much she's grown in 84 days! My beard too lol.

Sitting at a sushi restaurant with my family while my 7 year old son is talking nonsense about noodles.

My 14 year old daughter pauses a second, gives me a sly look, & hits me with a "that's what she said". My wife and I almost spewed our food out, it was so hilarious.

My kids could solve world hunger & I'm not sure it'd top this moment lmao.

Hope all you fellas are enjoying your weekend!

3 years of fatherhood and I'm still not certified to say weeooo... Smh...

This is the 2nd time we took our daughter to the movies (she's 3). And both times she complained it was too loud. Even as an adult I feel like there are times where the sound is quite piercing and uncomfortable.

I get it for regular movies but kids movies should have reduced volume to protect the kids sensitive ears. If it's too loud for adults it's certainly too loud for children.

Anyone else feel this way?

Almost 5yo gave us 19 whole minutes of peace and quiet on a Sunday before 8PM

My boy just turned 2, and I finally managed to get him a gift that I like playing with more than he does. I could rain free throws on this thing all day, while he runs around like a feral beast in the backyard. Hope y’all are having a nice weekend too!

Hey Dads. So: not funny, or thoughtful, or profound. But I am in search of advice from The Daddit Hive Mind. I hate the bags I end up using when taking the kids out for the day. I’m convinced there’s a brilliant Dad Day Bag out there. Hit me with your favourites!

The contestants were my two oldest sons. The younger one was dancing more enthusiastically. The oldest forfeited by picking up the younger when he realized he was being out-danced. Will my oldest son look back for all time on the missed chance? It's a lot of money (even if it will be paid at an indeterminate time in the future).

I'm an international student/soon-to-be migrant worker on F-1 OPT/H-1B.

Just had my son in January. I love him and he's my world.

But the amount of time, money, and energy I've spent on caring for him is breaking my back. I don't know how much longer I can keep on doing this emotionally, financially, and physically.

Foremost is the sleep deprivation part. Then there's heavy course load and job duties. Not to mentional political turmoil in this country under the new administration (e.g. new executive orders threatening to strip children born to foreign parents INCLUDING students and skilled workers of their citizenship; hostile policies seeking to list medicaid among other aid programs under "public charge", meaning foreigners have to be cautious when applying for government aids or face possible deportation/deny of entry since "public charge" constitutes "ground of inadmissibility".) And to make things worse, my loving and caring wife's unfortunately still bedridden and recovering from her 3rd degree tear...

These layers of trouble and suffering stack up on top of each other. And I can't breathe.

If so, what's your set up?