So I actually never anticipated this to happen.
So I'll go through the full story just because I want to vent it all out.

She is working as an intern at a hospital, and I am currently studying MBA. It all started when she started to lose feelings for me. I did not know how it happened, but her explanation was that she started to feel numb towards everyone cause her work stresses her out like anything. She said that she could not even express how she feels even towards her dad who has came to meet her after 3-4 months. Then the relationship was on and off, I tried so hard, to make her comfortable and everything. But she didn't even make an effort to save this relationship. She said I do not have the energy to put efforts into the relationship. All she wanted was completely avoid me and say "I lost all the feelings for you, I do not love you anymore".

I went crying, begging for her to talk it out and resolve it, but she was so cold that she didn't even care about me crying, standing there cold af. This did hurt me like hell, and I could not take it, but I could not give up on her whatever happened. I spend all days and nights crying asking myself "why did she leave me, why she didn't even give me the space to talk and make it work out, why should I deserve this and how can she be happy and do not even care about me, while I begged, cried and fell down in my knees to save her".

I have been studying about all the attachment styles, and she literally does seem like the "avoidant attachment person", who completely shuts me down saying I do not have feelings for you, and now is a lot more happy than she being with me. But avoidant people has some childhood traumas of not attachment with their family, but I think that she does not have any such traumas in her life (she might, I don't know for sure), and she doesn't come under the avoidant attachment style person. But all the things that she done to me literally felt like what the social media said "what avoidant attachment people would do before and after a breakup" so I don't know.

All I hope is for her to come back to me how much ever days it happens, and I will know that my love for her is true and I will keep on manifesting for her to come back realizing she shouldn't have treated me that harshly. If this universe gives me a single sign from her, then I will put all my heart and soul into winning her back, start fresh and lead the happy relationship that we were for 2 years and 10 months. The last 2 months was a rocky road. But I will always love her, and my life will always be a part of her. Even though she never asked me to wait, I will wait for her forever, while I will doing things that I like and will be moving forward with my life, waiting for her.❤️

As the title says, experiencing my first ever break up right now from a year long relationship with the kindest, most gentle, caring person in the world (M23). I struggle with OCD & depression and I have noticed a decline in my mental health this past year because I think I’ve been using the relationship as a way to push it off.

The entire time he has been nothing but patient with me but it’s gotten to a point where if affecting him too much and I don’t want to hurt him anymore so we broke up. I am at a true loss. I regret not getting help all the times he tried to seek out therapists or get me back on medication I don’t know why I was self sabotaging. I hate that it took us breaking up for me to see now that I really do want to make a change for myself, and for us. I don’t know if we will ever get back together but I am just so upset right now I’ve never felt sadness like this in my life.

Trying to maybe hear some success stories of couples who broke up for mental health reasons and got back together after working on themselves to try and lift my spirits. I know that shouldn’t be my end goal, and I’m not using it as that I truly do want to work on myself; but I love him so much and I truly feel like our story isn’t over.

TLDR; Boyfriend and I broke up because of my mental health issues, this is my first breakup and just looking for advice on that/any success stories of ppl getting back together after healing themselves.

Is it normal to still love my ex and struggle to move on after a year? I can't seem to get rid of my unfounded hope that he will come back. I constantly think of how what I am currently doing would impact him/what he'd think of it and that influences my decisions

Me(33f) and Jack(30m) were friends for a year through work and I was having a hard time in my city so he suggested I move to his and make friends, first night I stayed at his we had sex and he did butt stuff to me I wasn't expecting, I didn't enjoy the sex and wasn't interested. We ended up falling for each other a few months later and although he pulled back at the start citing that he didn't want to fall into "childhood trauma dynamics" again he soon started love bombing me. Presents, songs, Playlist, trips away you name it.

Things have been rocky the past month, I wasnworking away for 7 weeks and while I was gone he admitted to going to a strip club and also staying at another females apartment at an after party but "nothing happened" He also lied about getting a private dance at the club and it took me 2 weeks to get the truth Fast forward and the past 3 weeks have been so traumatizing, he became cold and distant and no longer showed the same affection, we had fights where I accused him of cheating and he would say he's not capable of that but also that I was " manifesting it".

He made me move out, said he needed space for 2 weeks... During these two weeks I was convinced he had cheated so I checked our shared ride account and he had been getting rides from the city to his house at 4,5 and 6am lots of different nights, I lined them up with texts he'd sent me and he always conveniently was vague those nights or morning after, never mentioned anything about going out or would say things like "phone ran out of juice for 2 days" but he had been using it to get taxis.

I then went further back, he had split up with me out of the blue before going away to work and said he couldn't speak to me till he got back. The ride account showed him amazing in at least 5 different addresses and leaving at 5 or 6 in the morning. His staff accommodation would have been in one place so it didn't make sense.

2 weeks ago he said we'd meet to talk and then ended the relationship through a text saying he couldn't love me in the right way and couldn't be with me. This was after a week of me saying I'd go to therapy and how much I loved him etc etc

Things he's said when confronted about cheating:

You're manifesting it Why do you need to know anyway I'm a scumbag None of them were you though

He says all this but denies cheating, won't go into any detail whatsoever about the rides he got and just ghosted me.

I'm now viewing the time I woke up to him having sex with me very differently along woth the time he slapped me hard across the face during sex and said shut up....something which wasn't normal for our sex life. I'm definitely a feminist and I noticed too that anytime I spoke on it or anything about women suffering he just looked blank. He told me too he had a history of using and discarding women while he lived in a different city, this would have been a year or two before me.

He was the most kind and caring man I've ever though until he wasn't and that's why I feel like I'm going crazy, I feel completely discarded.

Thank you in advance

I just cant fathom leaving someone and telling them "You need to let me go" when less than two weeks ago you were telling them you miss and love them.. What is going on with this generation istg i cant do this anymore. We were happy for about 3 years and he suddenly ended things because "He doesnt have it in him anymore".. First he told me he was not able to be the partner I deserve right now because he's depressed and needs to work on himself, then he changee excuses and made it a hundred other things to finally settle with " things were broken beyond repair" . Beyond repair? While I was the one asking him for months to tell me if the relationship was doing good and he always said yes and that he had no complain. And now its my fault.. The "things broken beyon repair" he talks about are noy even big deals, its me telling him about my problems sometimes and it makes him feel bad bc hes already overwhelmed. And that I understand! I changed my ways and have been very careful but he said its not enough.. I just dont understand how you can love and care so much for me then toss me away like nothing happened. I swear he was the sweetest bf i've ever seen and he's my first bf too (im 24) and im his first gf too (hes 23) . He gave me everything and I know he still loved me and I do too..

Just.. How can people say things like that one day and the other another thing?? I know were young and not sure what we want out of life but we were practically engaged..

There is nothing worst than a pretender.

I knew a guy, named Adebowale Babalola.

He was cheating on his girl of 10 years with someone at his job named Carlian Bartholomew in Connecticut. In their bed…While his girl had cancer. The affair partner knew about it, they were on demon time. He ruined his ex-girls mental health, her home, and her self esteem… all while pretending to love her.

She had to work hard to build her life up again. And get away from him. She is doing amazing now, and getting married soon, but it taught her a valuable lesson.

Cancer does not come out of nowhere.

Sometimes, people are demons and they bring sickness to us.

Watch who you keep in your life, always.

Anyone have any tips how to STOP checking social media on your ex? I’m feeling super pathetic , just wanted some advice

This girl approached me at my job a few days ago. we chatted for a bit and then she left. a few minutes later she came back in with this grin on her face, put a piece of paper on my desk and left again before I could say anything to her, it was her number along with a heart and her name on it. Most excited I've been in months. We talked and flirted for like 4 days consecutively to which she then asked me if I had insta or Facebook, so I gave her my insta. She posted an edit of her boyfriend today.

Can't say I'm heartbroken as I've only known her for like 5 days but I'm hurt. I was already in a interesting place questioning my worth and why I'm not good enough for anyone and this was the cherry on top.

I (31M) was dating someone (29F) and things seemed to be going well. We had talked about the future, including the idea of meeting her parents, and I thought we were on the same page. However, when the time came to move forward, she suddenly pulled away and ended things. I decided to block her on all platforms to move on.

Fast forward, I happened to see her by chance when I was out with some friends, and she went out of her way to try to get my attention. I didn’t engage, but it left me wondering — why would someone act like this after ending things? What’s the point of trying to get my attention now?

I just got dumped and need some advice about moving forward

Not too long ago, I got dumped and I saw it coming but it still completely blindsided me when I woke up the next morning, alone. Honestly it was my fault and during our last moments together I expressed it. I just didn’t think this would hurt as bad

Context: I’ve known this girl since the first day I stepped foot on my college campus (I’m a senior now), we’ve always had feelings for each other, some years more than others. There’s always been coincidental situations where I run into her after we take some take away from each other ie: The day after I met her, somehow on my huge campus I run into her after going to the gym, didn’t even get her name from the night before but I recognized her. I instantly fell for her but we had a fallout that same year. I reach out to her months later to wish her a happy birthday and she responds politely, so I ask her out on a date again. She accepts. After our date I walk her back and ask her where she’s staying for the next year, she tells me she’s living in the same building I would be living in just a couple floors below!

However, we tried it out but she had her eyes set on someone else who did her dirty. This was after I moved on, she wanted me back once again.

The next year we kept in touch regularly, she was my best friend but it was more a friends with benefits kind of thing. Couple months go by and she had strong feelings about starting a relationship. I panicked and called my older sister for advice, to which she blatantly told me “You don’t really like this girl.” I listened and I regretted it, so the last week of school we hung out everyday and it was probably the best week of my life. I wanted her and she wanted me, we talked over the summer. Every. Single. Day. We even took a trip to Berlin over the summer because we were both studying abroad.

When we got back to school, I asked her out on my 21st birthday, just like the first day I met her freshman year. It was the same day just 3 years later. We dated until last week when she broke up with me (I messed up) , our relationship wasn’t great honestly and our fallout was nasty. It just wasn’t the way i expected all of it to go. I’m seriously grieving, I cried for the first time in years, I mean sobbed. Then, I took a trip halfway across the country to get away for the weekend. Our relationship had just broken off into something special, and I just ruined it. I’m in denial, I’ve been writing in my journal things I have the urge to say to her but I just can’t right now. I’ve been praying and I recall one time I prayed for God to show me if this was the one for me. I thought it was meant to be but be careful what you wish for. I still love her and I don’t think I will ever stop. But this just seemed like it was the end of what we had throughout my college experience. I have polaroids she gave me for my birthday, I’m thinking of sending them back to her with a letter to close this chapter off. What do I do? I want her back, but after all these years of being so on and off and then actually dating, I think it’s finished

TLDR: Known this girl my entire college career, dated her my senior year to which she ends up breaking up with me. Thinking of sending her back some polaroid pictures she gave me for my birthday with a thank you note and a text for closure. Is this a good idea?

I want help here, my ex boyfriend and i brokeup the 1st time and i sent him an apology after maybe 2 weeks on no contact and we got back together, after that we broke up again due to an argument, i feel like i hurt him with nothing and argument. He brokeup with me on text and removed me from everywhere snap/insta, and deleted my number too. Now we classmates too, and this is only our 2nd breakup. Will he reachout? I have been cautious enough to not to contact him except one time after sending him a paragraph for “ sorry” he apologised his side too but when i asked him about breaking up on text he didnt reply to this day. What are his chances of rethinking about his decision and reuniting?

I truly feel I will never recover fully from this. All I had known before was abuse. I met the sweetest man who showed me nothing but love for 5 years. We had one (our first) argument and he LEFT. With no explanation other than he needed time to think and “recover” from our argument. He will not talk to me. How do you recover from this? I thought I found the one who would never leave, never hurt me. And he did. After all of that time!

We dated for 3 years and then we broke up earlier this year He went into a relationship with someone else and after 6 months again came back I tried to understand his situation and again patched up Now he broke up saying he isn’t sure about us and maybe he wants to go to that girl again Please help

Her family made her break up with me. 1,5 month later ( Yesterday) i traveled 4 hours to get in contact with her, i even knocked on the door to her house. Then her das opened snd asked who i’m looking for, i said his daughter. He said she is not home, but i dont know if it’s true or not bcus i messaged her phone number and he knew it. 4 hours i traveled to see her and get my questions answered, but no nothing is going as planned. It’s SO FUCKING FRUSTRATING, how tf can she treat me like this ?

For context: We were on and off for 7 years, disappeared from each others lives for 4 years (I COMPLETELY forgot about his existence and never thought about him during), he reached out after 4 years telling me that he missed me and asked me to get back together.

After 2 years of inconsistency and emotional draining, i (F) was the one who decided to leave him out of self respect after trying so hard for it to work.. communicated all my feelings and needs just for him to lie to me that he loved me and promise he’d make changes, but obviously NEVER fulfilled any of them.. I got tired of being strung along
As men, do you ever miss a woman in this case and regret not being honest? Also why did he come back if he’s not ready??? Like why was he doing this? He could’ve left me alone!

I need help knowing WHY.

We broke up for almost a week now and she was my first actual GF im 24 and the bad thing is that we still live together and idk how to cope with it (lease ends in FEB) we have two separate bedrooms (thank god) but walking past her like she’s nothing hurts she told me she doesn’t love me anymore when we broke up that hit me hard… then she said she doesn’t care about me is it a bad thing that I think she still kind of cares about me? but as I look at it she had her reasons I was a bad boyfriend and she wasn’t the best either she had her faults we had a huge fight yesterday over something so dumb Its hard…. she said a lot of hurtful stuff i did to it put perspective how maybe this relationship was never going to work out but acceptance…. its a hard pill to swallow but maybe it was for the best. any wise words to cheer me up would help lot I really loved her I really did and I think I tried my best at it….

So this is my 2nd reddit post ever, my first one was about the same relationship.

I've had a relationship with my now (24F) ex-girlfriend for 2 years.
We've had a relationship for 1 year, but then I broke up cause I could no longer deal with the mood swings + verbal abuse.
After 3 months of not being together, we eventually got into contact again.
I'm not gonna lie i was truly happy about this, cause despite all of the bad treatment she gave me our good days were absolutely glorious.
We hit it off again quite quickly, we talked about our past and she was telling me about how much she had learned from her previous mistakes and that there's nothing in this world that's worth it losing me over.
I was astounded, for the first time it felt like she took accountability.
I too, admitted that i could've been a way better (28M) boyfriend, and that she deserves a version of me that has a deep understanding for her reactions and the things the say/does to me. That she's not a bad person and that I (due to her past) should be very patient and forgiving with this person.

So yeah there we go, we decided to give it another shot. This was in december of 2023.
I truly believed we moved on from our mistakes and our bad times, and that from here on out things would all become ab-so-lute-ly perfect. Boy was i wrong.

At first everything seemed just fine, our different views and opinions and those certain things would suddenly not turn into arguments anymore.
I felt like my feet were finally removing itself from the egg-shelfs and that I could just be myself more often without having to think about how everything i do or say would affect her.
But then suddenly, after a series of good days.. There it was, the girl i remember breaking up with.
She would become VERY obsessive VERY quickly, trying to control me in every single way.
She told me te delete every girl contact that was on my phone including colleagues, all girls on snapchat and instagram despite me having them as friends since my childhood. (yet i still admitted to all of it, and even respected it. I felt like i was in the wrong for thinking it's okay to have female friends as a male person despite me not having done anything with them over the span of our friendship).

As i admitted to this, next up came friends. Male friends.
She told me that she thought i was too attached to them, and how I should focus my life more on us than on them.
I started thinking, maybe she is right.. I mean everybody builds a family and focusses on their future with their partner more than anything, maybe I'm delusional and childish for still talking to my friends so much and spending so much time with them.
Thus, i started to see my friends less and to spend most of my time with her. Eventually this would turn into her getting mad at me if I went to visit my dad.
Telling me that we had only spend so much time together and that she does not feel loved at all.

This is where i started to get cautious again, and not blindly respect everything she asks of me.
I started to think of my own feelings more and more, and the little arguments we had turned into rock solid abuse.

She would get angry at me for anything or should I say, even nothing.
She would get angry at me for the thoughts that she had, she would get angry at me for the silence, telling me I never started a conversation while we were just watching a serie or movie.
The way I would sleep with my back turned to her at certain times.
She would get mad at me if I didn't text her for several hours (while i was working), yet she never tried to text me neither and if i confronted her with that I'd get replies like " It's always about YOUR feelings, if you loved me or actually cared that much you would have texted me ".. Which was not the point, i just tried to show her that she gets mad at me for the same things that she does.

Our arguments would turn into her texting me " Go kill yourself like your cousin (which killed himself just recently "
" You and your entire family are mental and you're feeding on each other, you're all narcissists. "
" I will send people after both you and your moms house "

It would also turn into abuse, where she hit me in the face to the point where she broke her own fingers. She destroyed my new car key by throwing it off the 3th floor just 2 days after i purchased it.
She smashed my phone, she locked me up so I could not get out of the appartment and so much more..

The question is.. Why did i stay for so long.. I feel so confused and conflicted with myself.
Am i the crazy person here? Is what I wanted a crazy idea in itself?
In my head, all I wanted was a relationship without the amount of control that she had over me and my life. I wanted to have an opinion too, I wanted the moods to be "somewhat" predictable and not expect an extreme mood swing like 1-2 times per day over small things.. I wanted our arguments to remain respectful and despite you being allowed to voice every feeling and opinion you have I think it's very important to stay respectful and not talk down on each other.

Yet my head keeps telling me, that all I've been doing is thinking about myself and that I could've done more.. I feel like I should not have abandoned her and I'm so scared that I hurt her or made her hate me.

Why do i keep going back to her despite being so afraid of her.
Why does she keep taking me back? She tells me in her world, her entire future and the reason she wants to "change". But she could start hitting me and yelling at me that very same evening over a minor conflict.

I'm so confused, the more I think of it and how i abandoned her just now for the 2nd time.. I feel like I used her, like I'm the narcissist and that I wanted to change her while i'm the flawed person here.

I've never struggled mentally before, my life was just fine.
Most of the friends that I have in my life are long term bonds of 10-20+ years, and I've never had any major conflicts with them. My parents are divorced but i have a good relationship with both of them, I've never had any major family conflict or anything.
I've always fought for any friendship or relationship that I had, as I feel like it's okay for people to make mistakes aslong as we admit and forgive.
I hate losing the people that I love or care about, it's the worst feeling in the world.

I feel like I've lost my entire future and that I'll never have a good relationship.
I feel like the victim and the problem at the same time.
I really wanted it to be her, the good times we had were truly the most amazing moments of my life.
She could be so sweet and so loving that I wanted to brag about her to everybody.
Did i not deserve to get this treatment at a consistent basis.. Did she feel like i gave her that little of my love and heart..
I swear I gave her everything I had, all my attention all my thoughts.. I would talk with her for hours if she felt bad.. Are those things not love? Do i not understand love?

I have so many questions.. Why could it just not be her..

I need like genuinely a therapist to hear me yap about my two years of trauma from just a UGLY guy.

I really don’t understand, I’ve talk to a lot of people saying oh you should move on and you should do this and that. I wish I could, I tried and I feel like I’m back to zero. Cry… ig I just need to cry or call someone rn? Just to feel less lonely.

I (26f) just got broken up with by my boyfriend (25m) of 8 years and father of my child. The 28th of this month would’ve been our 9th anniversary and now it’s not. He broke up with me last night because he doesn’t love me anymore. He’s tired of me. I fucked up by not letting this man love me right. I fucked up by not being affectionate enough due to not getting any emotional stimulation from the relationship. I always want to communicate when i should just shut up. I should just my mouth and never speak again. I don’t care about being loved again but i just want this pain and agony to stop. I can’t sleep properly. I can’t eat. It doesn’t even feel like the sun shines the same anymore. I’m hurting so bad i just want to die but i can’t.

I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago. We were taking breaks off and on, and I finally texted him to end things. I feel horrible that I did that, but it was the only way to avoid us going in circles. He never responded. He was my first boyfriend and my first love, but he kept hurting me.

He gave me Chlamydia a year into our relationship , but promised he never cheated. He met up with his ex behind my back because she had cancer and they needed to check in on each other.. After all of this, I thought couples therapy would help so I got us into that. Then when the time came for individual appointments, he didn’t show up for a month. We were supposed to live together this year, but he changed up last minute saying he would drive down on his off days because he couldn’t find a job (didn’t tell me thus until a day before signing a lease). I’m in medical school and I literally had to beg him to figure out what he wanted to do with his life.

With all of these things, I decided to leave him, yet I feel guilty and like everything ending was my fault. I still love him. He was my first love, and I told him that. I miss him and think about him everyday. It’s hurts that he never responded, not even a thumbs up or anything. I wish that leaving him felt empowering, but I just feel hurt and lonely.

My partner (32M) recently dumped me (29F). We were just shy of our one-year anniversary. We both have some struggles with mental health in our past (anxiety and the like), and much of his anxiety and mental strife centers around relationships. He has an ex from years ago who he said treated him badly and left him with a lot of mental blocks, but I always thought we could get over any hurdle as long as we faced it as a team. When he left he said that he loved me and that I was perfect and that I didn't do anything wrong, but he was tired of being in pain and struggling through all of those challenging feelings. I can't get his voice out of my head saying "maybe it isn't meant to be"

I have my own struggles with anxiety, but it never would have crossed my mind to walk away. To throw away something so wonderful - and a lifetime of good memories to come - just to avoid being out of my comfort zone. I genuinely thought I was going to marry this man. I'm so hurt and angry and I wish I was able to hate him but I know deep down I still care about him.

He hasn't reached out since he left a few weeks ago, not a word. It's killing me. I still have so many questions. Does he still care about me, did he ever care? Does he regret throwing it all away? Does he know how much pain he's put me in.

I have all of these questions and all of this hurt and sorrow, and nowhere to put it all. It's taking everything in my power not to reach out to him, but it doesn't seem appropriate considering he's the one who left.

Hey gang , Currently going through a breakup with my girl of 3 years and in a weird spot emotionally and situationally, I know some of yall are going through breakups as well and I think it would be nice to create a group chat to vent to and give each other support.

I know it’s weird at first cuz internet and strangers but I lowkey think there’s a beauty in having vulnerable talks with people going through similar issues but never met and probably will never meet, we can all share our stories and perhaps give advice from completely unbiased viewpoints.

I chatted to some friends but none has been in my specific situation so would love to get some unbiased insights regarding my ex and our situation, would be good to hear from a girls perspective as well

Let me know if anyone’s interested could be on telegram or Instagram so we don’t have to reveal sensitive info like numbers, unless WhatsApp is preferred by people, everyone is welcome, in the clurb we all fam, im 25M for context

Thoughts ?

My ex and I have been broken up for almost a year now. He just recently unfollowed me from instagram, but I can still follow him and we are still friends on Facebook. Why would he have done this? Is he completely done with me? Why would you unfollow instead of block? please no mean or negative comments

Dear “S” my dear,

It’s me again, You still haven’t reached out since May. I know you need your time to heal. I just wish you could let me know you are doing okay.

I did feel some comfort seeing some photos of you at your new workplace. You were smiling and looking happy in all of them. You new colleagues look nice. I’m happy that I think you are happy. I’m so proud of what you have accomplished this year. It hasn’t been easy for both of us. I’m glad you have done what you needed too.

I hope you are looking after you mental health and physical health. You are looking fit so you must be eating healthy, unlike us back then. I’ve also lost weight and have been eating healthy.

Sorry for reaching out through another. I just wanted to know you are okay. I hope you family are safe & doing well. Did you ever get a dog for your apartment?

As always I really look forward to hearing from you & hearing your voice & wisdom. I want you to be proud of me for how I’ve come since January this year. I’m sorry this got abit crazy there for a few times.

I really did smile and feel warm in my heart when I saw those photos of you. You were the best thing that happened to me in a long time. I smile and laugh about the things we got up to.

You are a bright sun shining in the sea of darkness. You keep on trucking “Dora” I hope You have found your back pack by now.

I’m still waiting for you,

We will speak again when you are ready. I have not blocked you & never will.

Your Sincerely “Boss Baby”

To my Ex

Dear Lady “S” I hope you are doing well. It’s been to long since we have talked. I miss you everyday. Those 1.5 years i wish continued. I know you said to someone “you have a lot going on right now” which I understand but you always forget to look after you self when you are working a job you love. Don’t forget to eat and drink & have some time for yourself. Listen to some Ed Sheeran and relax.

Why can’t we still be friends? We were the best of friends before anything. Can we Talk & know what’s happening in your life. I know you need time to heal & I did too. I’m in a much better place than I ever was. Mentally & financially. Can we try to fix it?

I was thinking about the time we were laughing at fortune about my bed collapsing. And you not believing my story. The way those big eyes would peer into my soul. The 10 hours we would spend talking on the phone during our Covid time & made sure we are both surviving . We went through a lot together and probably wouldn’t have made it without each other.

Those times we would spend watching movies & me dying laughing to the terrible acting or edits. All the grab food we would order and eat. The way you would always clean & leave me love letters before work. Driving to and from the office. Talk about our dramas & let them go. We had some bad times. But mostly good.

Watching you on excel and PowerPoint and how you brain worked was so amazing. You are so smart & good at what you do. Way too good for that place we were stuck in. In all my years you are the only person who truly understands me.

I miss the way you would always fall asleep & I would put the blanket on you. Your laugh & smile. The way you would dance in the bathroom for your workout. Your singing voice, god you sounded so good. Miss your smell & your soft skin. When you would accidentally talk to me in your own language.

I’m sorry things happened the way they did. It was a big change both us leaving that place. I never wanted you to hurt so bad when we split, I wish I could just hug you and tell you everything will be okay. You have the most pure heart in the world, You were trying to find something new. I went into self deconstruction mode. Then we ended and I went into a mental health breakdown & lost the plot. I am home & I am healed through family and going back to my roots.

I really hope time will heal and our paths will cross again. I would do anything for that. I will wait for you. What I would do just to speak to you & have you in my life.

I will always love you & only wish you the best.

My door will always be open to you no matter the situation.

Your sincerely “Boss Baby”

We have been talking and dating exclusivly since august. I study abroad so in september I went back to polen for my last year of medicine. He is a artist and its never really been for me. Although he is good, i just never imagined myself being with an artist, and he is muslim also. And i am christian, we decided not to talk about it and see how it goes. I have been feeling for the last month that he has been distance, he used to want to talk to me all the time, recently i felt like it was a choir for him. And then my mother is visiting and he has told me before, he doesnt like to be bothered when he is with family/friends and doesnt do that either. So i didnt expect to talk to him everyday, anyways I called him twice and he didnt anwser, the third time i call him, he doesnt anwser, this is all in a time span of a week more or less. Then i msg him on snap, why are you ignoring me, it goes 5 min and i block him on snap and delete him off of ig. H calls me and is happy and tells me why i am acting wierd i say nothing and then henkeps asking, i didnt want to talk about it, then ny father calls so i tell him that, and while im talking to my dad he keeps calling me, so i anwser him and he asked me is it anything u want to say i say no and he askes if im sure and i say no. Then he says okey bye. Then he calls again, telling me if i dont want to talk to him i can tell him in a mature way instead of deleting him. And that he thought i was disrespectful and that it wasnt going to work! Then we end the call and i call him again for the next two days asking him if he doesnt want to see me, if he is seeing someone else, if he doesnt want to cuddle with me, and how we havent cuddled for 5 months. And he tells me i havent had sex for 5 months either, but that its not smart. And he tells me he likes me but i dont believe him because how can he break it off after this. I told him its not a big thing and he told me it can turn toxic, and that he has told me to stop being childish before which is true! I dont know how to get him bacl... i am obsessing over him now

Does anyone else feel anger towards their ex for breaking up with them? I realize this may not be the healthiest emotion, and I don’t feel it all the time. My (29F) ex (26M) broke up with me 6 months ago due to his issues with depression. While I understand his reasoning, I find myself angry at him occasionally because I dealt with so many of his problems that caused his depression and tried to be there for him, but it simply wasn’t enough. I guess I’m just bitter because I was there through all the down time that affected our relationship and was still willing, but he couldn’t handle it…therefore, he left. He’s claimed since then that he wasn’t just giving up and throwing me to the side, but it certainly feels like that at times. I’ve done a lot of reading and research on depression and have tried my best to understand. We are still in communication as he has said he doesn’t want to date anyone else and doesn’t want to lose me. I still want to be here since he’s been going through a hard time, but it adds to my complicated feelings. I’ve been trying not to let it get to me so much and just trying to focus on me most of the time which has been beneficial, though difficult.

Anyone else going through a similar situation?