Me and my man first met recently. We are in a long distance relationship. I was so happy that I finally able to touch him hence I was so kinky that time that I slightly massage his d and let it out. I was amazed that he already have lots of pre-cum. I wiped it off but there's pre-cum again. I can't help but not to dig in! I blow him so much that day. Is that normal?

I'm 21, about average for first relationships, but sometimes I think this is being a burden in my life. I'm not waiting for Prince Charming or anything like that, sometimes I even want to do it casually, but knowing that the first time would be something casual bothers me a lot.

I already had the opportunity to do it with a guy who would be worth it, but I couldn't do it, every time we got close my head would go off and I felt threatened with death. It's like a band aid that sticks more and more to the skin.

I feel like sometimes I don't generate much interest in guys precisely because I'm very clear that I'm a virgin, I don't send nudes, I don't steer the conversation in that direction and I also don't know how to act if someone does. I feel like I'm being left a little aside, like it's a losing battle because no one is going to fight for something that doesn't have the slightest chance of happening.

So I, 27m, haven't had sex in over 2 years, I needed to work on myself, I stopped drinking, trying to get my life back on track, yadda yadda

Now I'm trying to get back out there, but I can't cum, like nothing I do, touch, or watch can get me there and it's so infuriating, and the worst fucking feeling in my heart takes over and I feel like I have to stop or else I'll have a heart attack.

I need a fucking release but there's just nothing

A female 2 watch anime, grab a takeaway, get high n fuck, #FWB holding a serious vibe talking bout different topics, making sure thy get home safe and making sure she had a meal throughout the day n 10mims check calls, what happened to courting ?

I have always heard the relatively similar and repeated like that women really struggle to orgasm or finish from penetration. Which I know is true but like how likely is it. I have now had two girlfriends tell me that I can make them finish from it and the very very very few people I have hooked up with say I made them either orgasming or finish completely. (No I didn’t ask the hookups, the only one I’ve asked is my current girlfriend.) They’ve displayed the “signs” if you Like saying the area got really sensitive, like the good feeling was overwhelming, they’ve shaken, tensed up, etc. They also told me I made them orgasm.

However I see repeated on social media, hear in real life, see on Reddit, people saying things like most girls can’t/most guys aren’t good enough to/girls who think they can are just misinformed.

I don’t want to think I’m the exception to the statistic, because ultimately everyone thinks they’re the exception to some statistic (which they aren’t).

My previous girlfriend said I was the only one who made her finish in any way let alone penetration. I have my doubts with her because of trust issues within that relationship/surrounding some of her activity during that. But she said it was because I “listened to her and knew what made her feel good” she also said it had to do with my penis shape (sorry tmi)

However with my current girlfriend she claims I can make her finish with penetration. I have made her orgasm/finish other ways for reference. While I trust this girl with anything she is really not that experienced sexually. I’m her first everything, but she has made herself finish prior through let’s just say self exploration. So like she knows what it’s supposed to feel like.

So I guess my question is like how likely is it I actually make girls finish from penetration? Are they just misinformed? Lying to protect my “pride”? I don’t really care, it’s more of a trust thing. Or do I just have a knack for making my girlfriend and the few women before her orgasm?

My (m) partner (f) and I are in a happy relationship and really enjoy each other's company. We are building our lives together and are romantically very close. We have sex multiple times per week and each look forward to it and enjoy the experience. But, in a decade of being together I have never managed to give her even a single orgasm through penetration or any other method. We have tried lots of things. We talk about what we each enjoy, we engage in foreplay, I've gone down on her many times, I finger her regularly, we've tried different positions, etc etc. She can bring herself to orgasm on her own but just isn't able to with me. On the one hand she tells me she enjoys sex with me and that she feels very safe and comfortable with me. On the other I can't help but feel embarrassment and inadequacy that I've literally never made my partner cum. There are so many disparaging jokes in pop culture about guys that can't get their girlfriends off and I carry this around like a secret humiliation I can't shake that i've literally never made a girl cum, not for lack of trying. I feel badly i cant give her that and that shes never experienced that with me. The fact that to this day I also still struggle to last very long at all at actual penetration feels equally embarrassing. She assures me she doesn't mind and just wants me to feel good. But I still can't shake feelings of embarrassment over having a 0% orgasm-giving ratio.

For some context, we were teenage sweetheats and both inexperienced when we got together. We grew up religious (particularly me) and we were each other's first long term relationships. We are very much in love but it makes me wonder how abnormal we are and whether I'm truly doing something wrong and letting her down.

By posting this I'm not looking for a how-to guide. More just a sense of how within the range of normal or abnormall this is vs how rare it is. Also please spare me the "well just send her here" type responses. Anyway, that's my confession for today.

Sunday morning, woke up and put my girl in her favorite side position. Real hip intensive, especially since this gets deep and taps her cervix when I really try.

Got soft after she came because I started to get uncomfortable in my upper thigh/hip area and it ruined my mood. Tried to push through for my nut but nope.

Monday it was a bit annoying, but as I’m typing this at 2am Tuesday HOLY FUCk this shit hurts. It’s my upper outer thigh. I don’t know if it’s the IT band, a nerve, muscle, no clue. I don’t know anatomy like that.

Has anyone else experienced pain from thrusting through? Gonna call it redline thrusting…pushing your poor hips past their limit. (At least she was shaking afterwards😭)

Paranoid about people I know reading this so no names or ages will be disclosed.

My boyfriend and I (early 20s, him a bit older than me, F) have been dating for about 9 months and I was his first time. I knew he had hooked up with other girls before me and dated a girl, but I didn’t know until recently I was his first. I have a few kinks (choking, praise, DDLG) and unfortunately, he is pretty vanilla and while he doesn’t say it’s weird, I know he isn’t into what I am into. He has expressed to me that he feels weird being verbal during sex because it is “embarrassing.” I’ve asked him to keep an open mind and, although he’s given into it a few times, he won’t continue. I feel like I can’t finish if he isn’t verbal, I get into my head and I then don’t enjoy it. I understand how trying to make him do this may be too much for him, but he said it wouldn’t be, he just needs to get past the “weird” part of actually doing it and he will be fine. I’ve brought up all of them explicitly except the DDLG and I don’t think I will in the future.

Let me start off by saying the reason I want to enjoy sex sober is because I am cutting back on my smoking habit for mental health. Whenever we hang out, we smoke together and I get extremely turned on when high. I also found that smoking makes sex a much more enjoyable experience for me because I’m not worried about how I’m looking or if he feels good. I also don’t feel like he needs to put in as much work or feed into my fantasies in order for me to enjoy myself. I like sex sober but I feel like I can’t get off now because I love sex high and have become addicted to the endorphins and euphoric feeling the combination gives me.

How should I enjoy sex sober? And also, how do I push my boyfriend towards accepting what I want to do during sex?

Hii, me and my bf (18m) of 1y 8m have tried having sex twice but it just did not work, he lost it and i was just a little embarrassed/shy lol. What can i do to help his performance anxiety? he is very attracted me (i think) and can get it up very easily when with me but when it comes to sex it goes, he thinks it was the act of putting a condom on, but i just want to be cleaner im on birth control (still extremely terrified of pregnancy) but i don't want the mess or an awkward waddle to the bathroom. like we can makeout and have practically have sex with underwear on, he keeps it up. so how i can keep that vibe. Plus i know its not me but what if it is? he practically worships me and is very respectful. What can i do to be more appealing?

I'm also pretty nervous about it hurting, like hymen is broken and i can fit a fair bit with lube, but ive been dry-er on BC. We tried with lube on our second attempt, i think no condom+ with lube would work best but its a fairly awkward conversation to have whilst in the mood. (we are very open with each other though.

Any advice is very welcome. Just an awkward teen virgin!

I pride myself in my blowjobs I’ve never had any complaints and I love giving them! I know I’m good but I still feel like there’s room for improvement or new tricks. Last night I gave my fwb head and almost got him to cum twice but we didn’t get there and I felt defeated so I’m open to suggestions for new techniques or tips for driving him crazy.

I (F, 26) have been occasionally having lust dreams with stranger men or women in recent years, which confuses me a lot. Is it normal?

Hello Reddit! Before I get into it, I know I’m gonna get a lot of messages about us being young and whatnot. So before, I’ll give some background.

We have been together for a bit over a year now, and we have had a lot of sexual experience together(other than penetration with a penis) so we are definitely both feeling ready and we have talked about it before. She is on birth control and I have condoms so we are all good there.

Ok so we have tried a lot of different things, including some fingering, and she has reported that anything more than one finger hurts quite a lot, and we haven’t even been able to get two in because of the pain. We have lube and use it quite generously(love that stuff) so lubrication isn’t a problem.

Recently, we have also tried a few times with penis instead of fingers, and once again, she said it hurts way to much, and was almost in tears after not getting very far in, so we decided it wasn’t a good idea.

That being said, do you, oh wise ones of Reddit, have any advice or ideas we could use to ease the pain? I know there is supposed to be some discomfort at first during sex, but it doesn’t seem worth it if it is going to hurt her that much, so any ideas or suggestions would help out. Thank you! Also feel free to ask any questions to clarify

as a woman I have never felt anything good from penetration. If it’s not pain, it just feels like skin touching skin. or maybe it’s because of my attraction to (solely?) women that it just hasn’t worked in the past w men. I much much much prefer clit and think it feels incredible. Is this an uncommon experience?

Me (23M) and my partner (24F) have been dating for a little over 2 years. We’ve always had good sex, but I’m ready for us to have great sex. More specifically I want her to feel incredible. Whenever we talk about our sex it’s always good conversation that usually ends with her saying she doesn’t know what she likes/wants. Whenever I ask her, either during the act or not, she says that she freezes and can’t think of anything. How can I help her get past this? Can I help her or is this a personal journey?

When we first started having sex she was very open about traumatic experiences she had had with sex in the past. Today when we talk she mentions that those experiences could contribute but that she’s not sure because she doesn’t consciously think about it. I want to make her feel incredible in bed and I’ve done some trial and error to see if there’s anything she likes but whenever I ask her how she feels she usually just says “this is nice” or responds by asking me what I want. I guess what I’m looking for is more constructive criticism so we can really pinpoint what she likes and doesn’t like. The last thing I want do is make her feel bad or pressured to “figure it out”. But when we have conversations and she says she wants to look around (masturbation, pornography etc. we are monogamous) and found out what she wants nothing ever seems to come from it.

It’s been especially hard lately because more and more she can only orgasm if she uses her vibrator. Don’t get me wrong I love when she uses it, it’s really hot and kinda feels good for me too, but sometimes I wish there was more I could do for her before the vibrator came out.

With all the being said my questions still remain the same, how can I help her? Can I help her or is it a personal journey?

I dont know maybe this question is a better fit for the “am I the asshole” thread because sometimes I get so caught up in it that I wonder if I’m just being impatient and dick or something. Also, this is my first time ever posting to this community so if there’s any advice around language or stuff please share :).

Its very difficult trying to get her in the mood unless she is drinking or smoking. I've got an incredibly high drive and she has literally zero drive unless she's intoxicated.

TLDR at the bottom of the post!!

I (20M) suffered from hypersexuality from a very young age. There are no remedies to lowering your libido online, and the constant intrusive thoughts ruined my quality of life. So, when I was 18 I decided to adopt a celibate lifestyle: if I can never get sexual with anyone again, I won't think of people as sex objects, and won't think of sex as much. And it worked. First year was tough, but after giving up on relationships, I slowly I started consuming less porn, I have learned to see people as individual human beings, and treat them kindly and respectfully, until I completely lost sexual desire.

All is well, right? Wrong.

At the end of my second year of celibacy, I have met my girlfriend (19F). I was fascinated with her speech and academic knowledge, and I really wanted to be friends with her and her to model for my paintings, as she's very beautiful. Even if I weren't commited to celibacy, she is miles above my league and had a girlfriend, so I never thought of us being a couple in the future. Yet it happened, and it happened fast. I confessed my feelings for her to let her know she's loved, and she made moves on me... which, I couldn't reciprocate. I couldn't bring myself to place my hands on her or kiss her. I froze.

All is well, I was just shocked by how unexpected it was, right?

Because a week later, I could allow myself to kiss her and we even had sex. The problem is, that I wasn't turned on at all, I had no desire for sex. Not leading up to it, not during it, not after. I just did what I felt was right in the moment, and she was very enthusiastic about that. I felt horrible after. I told her about my past hypersexuality and the way I corrected it, and about insecurities I've had. She comforted me, and I thought next time will be better.

Another week goes by, we are kissing and she is flirting with me, and for a brief moment I got turned on. I wanted to keep going and take initiative, but my body froze again. There was a voice in my head telling me not to, shaming me; a voice that was useful and life-saving before and is heartbreaking now.

I thought I have gained control over my body. Turns out I Pavlov dog'ed into playing dead when I have the urge.

I don't stop trying. Once, both of us agreed to do it, and when the time came for it, I misread her signals and thought she was too tired. Despite our agreement earlier that day, I thought we are going to just cuddle and sleep, and she understandably got mad at me for it. "Who gives a fuck about Chrismass stuff and decorations sex, but I still have to do it, right?" So I did it. And I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to, if I was actually into it.

We talked about my problem, but it seems she doesn't understand, and I don't want to push it, as I know she wants to be desired. I want to believe I can regain my libido. I'm only 20, I work out, eat meat and greens, take care of myself, try to gain weight, don't have a depression. Please help.

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TLDR: I suffered from hypersexuality, overcorrected myself and now can't experience sexual desire for my girlfriend, and when I do, I freeze. This is an issue, since she has needs and I want to do my best to satisfy them. Please help, what do I do to regain my libido?

My gf of 1 year mentioned that she really likes when a guy has a little bit of precum on the top of the dick while she plays with it. Not much, just a droplet or so. She seems pretty disappointed I never have that. Does anyone know if I can develop the ability to precum or dribble a bit during foreplay?

If I have been celibate for quite some time now and use my brand new dildo will it stretch me out?

So my gf(f21) has said that she wants to dom me (m24) in the bedroom. I’m generally quite masculine and always dominant in the bedroom. As she’s generally submissive. And she’s made a deep remarks here and there. And I subtly encourage her. But when it comes down to it she never ends up doing it. Honestly I think I would love to try and be submissive and have her femdom me. I have a bunch of things I would like to try. Like feet worship, edging, ruined orgasms, etc .. prob more I haven’t discovered. Have any ladies wanted to dom their man or who have how did u go about it. What kinds of things did you do. If you have any tips on how I can communicate this with my gf or maybe subtly tip her off so she knows I’m okay with it.

My boyfriend and I are each others firsts for everything and recently we started going down on each other but I’m not really satisfied when he goes down on me.

He asks me all the time if he should change something and if he’s doing okay and I tell him yes every time because I’m not sure what to suggest he do instead because I’ve never had someone else down there before. I feel terrible for lying but I don’t want to tell him he’s bad and not give a way to improve

So what should we try to improve this area in our sex lives?

(Throwaway account by the way)

My brother (Todd, 36m) is going through a brutal divorce. His soon to be ex wife (Molly, 34f) is an unstable character with a variety of issues, and honestly they should never have been married in the first place. They were married three years and have no kids, so I am hopeful that they can get on with their lives.

On Saturday Molly called to tell me there is something I should know. Long story short, she said that when she and my brother would have sex, they would occasionally discuss and fantasize about others, and that she would at times indulge taboo fantasies that he had. Some of which included sexual situations involving me.

I was blown away. I know she is telling me this to hurt my brother, to destroy my relationship with him. And it is entirely possible that she’s making the entire thing up. But, it’s also possible that there is truth to this.

I told my husband, and he is in shock as well.

Should I tell my brother what happened and see his reaction? Or keep this a secret forever? I am so torn and confused.

I am a virgin still, but I want to know if the type of condom I use will matter. Do women feel pain if I use the wrong one or is there certain types that they tend to enjoy more?

i was at a party with my boyfriend and most of his friends, who i rarely get to see and we started playing some card game with some truthsdares involved, which at first was talk about kinks/porn and what not, but also about preference and the guys talking about sizes, i ended up doing a few minor things (like sitting on the lap of one of the guys) and ofc answering some question

now afterwards, some of his friends has texted/dmed me, but i can tell my bf is a bit insecure about it, unsure if i am in the wrong, even thru nothing went too wild

Hi! I’m a male, and I have found traditional condoms incredible uncomfortable, I’m not sure why, but something about the tightness around the base immediately kills an erection and I can’t stay hard. I’m wondering, would it be safe for me and my partner if I were to put a female condom (without the extra ring) over my penis, would that still be safe? I feel like it would be the same, just with a wide base that isn’t tight. Assuming it stays in place, should be equally protective, right?

So 21F and I went out with my sugar daddy whose in his 40s this weekend. Weekend trip to Canada to enjoy some casinos, good time. The last night after we had sex he goes I can’t believe I have to spend so much on you when you’re such a whore to everyone else. I really don’t think he meant to say this out loud so I didn’t flip on him. Thoughts? It kinda shows a lack of respect and makes me want to leave him and find another thoughts? He knows my entire sexual life with other

18f have started dating this guy 18m he’s a virgin

I’ve had sex before but it was this one hookup with this guy and he just didn’t cum, sucked it a bit before hand and he went for ages and just didn’t finish. He had a bit to drink if that had anything to do with it but it makes me worry there’s a problem there, idk maybe mine just doesn’t feel good, like it lacks something. I even sucked him again for a little after and nothing. Maybe I’m just not great.

I spoke to my boyfriend about it, because he asked how it was when I mentioned I had sex before and I said well I came twice (from oral before then when we were having PIV) but couldn’t even get him to finish and I explained I’m a little nervous because of that and my bf says it was definitely a him thing and honestly if anything now he (as in my bf) should the one nervous.

We’ll be having sex or doing something at least tomorrow. My bf says there’s a 0% chance that was on me but I want to know for sure so I know what to expect

1(21F) am not looking for anything serious atm but I like having sex and I'm on tinder. Is it weird that I don't just want to pull up to their place and have sex and leave? I prefer to grab food, or go do something and then naturally go back to theirs and have sex. This is how I feel whether it's a new guy or a regular fwb, but how do I explain that without sounding like im interested in a relationship? I want to have sex but I just prefer to not just meet up fuck and then leave? Please give me some advice and input?

We all know that the only true way to avoid STIs is to abstain. With that out of the way, I’m trying to ascertain the risk factor for a guy receiving a rimjob from a female?

My ex and I decided to be fwb 4 months ago we were having sex regularly up until last month he stopped initiating sex and got irritated whenever I touched him in a sexual way. The only thing he does now is make sexual jokes or he touches me but every time I touch him he tells me to stop and his reasoning is because it feels weird and he’s watching tv or something on his phone and he can’t concentrate on what he’s watching because I’m touching him. in the past he has never had a problem with me touching on him while we were watching tv and now he rather masterbate than have sex with me. I went to the store today and he was in my room masturbating he asked me to get out because I was distracting him but I didn’t leave so he went into my bathroom to finish instead of having sex with me does he find me unattractive now I don’t really understand why he’s acting like this. When I tell him I won’t initiate sex anymore or touch him he gets mad and tell me I’m overreacting that’s not what he meant

I can only seem to finish when I use a vibrator or some sort of toy. I’ve never been able to finish by just having sex with him. It feels great still and I do like having sex but I just don’t know why I can’t finish. I’ve heard that some girls can’t finish off just penetration alone. I’m worried that I’m alone on this. Can anyone relate?