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Long story short, anniversary in about a month. I have a nice hotel booked, etc.
Im trying to create a sex/intimacy game to spring on her. I have a broad concept of having a deck of acts and a deck of answers (no questions about exes, because stop asking those questions). The acts aren't "blow job". They're smaller. "Touch here with your tongue or finger tips" some of the answers are also require those small touches..."Heres a scenario, where do you want to be touched next"...and the other person has to do that.
I could use ideas to go in both decks. Also the acts deck can be cute cuddly things, not just sex things.
I could use ideas for a winning mechanic ( graphic design by trade so creating a board is very much on the table...I stand by that pun)
I could use name ideas
I have a full set of dice so anything with different types of dice I can do
Generally anything you all would like to have in that game if your partner sprung it on you
Thanks in advance.
Hi all. My long term partner/wife will occasionally complain of irritation around the opening of her vagina during/after sex. We have a healthy sex life, practice good hygiene, and this issue happens sporadically so it’s been hard to figure out the cause.
Last night, we had sex after about 2 weeks of not seeing each other and I put together a possible theory. Both of us groomed/shaved prior to sex. I’m one of the “lucky” guys who has pubic hair that runs up the base of my shaft and about 1/3 (maybe more 😬) of the way up my penis.
Neither my wife or I are afraid of pubic hair - in fact I tend to prefer her naturally. But historically, I’ve preferred to shave this hair (along with my balls) because of aesthetics and my perception that she’d probably prefer to not have hair in her mouth when giving oral. Neither of us are super consistent with shaving, but I tend to do it about once every two weeks or so.
But I can imagine how even the tiniest “prickles” could be causing her irritation during sex. Am I on the right track here? Not shaving seems to be the obvious answer. But I’m wondering if there’s a middle ground (waxing?! 😬) that may be worth looking into.
Thanks!
I’m a man looking for smutty book recommendations.
My girlfriend has a praise kink/ enjoys rougher sex. I’m looking for inspiration, a better understanding of what really turns her on emotionally, and to have better emotional foreplay.
She for sure isn’t really into being degraded and doesn’t have any darker rapey/violent fantasies. She read part of a book called Haunting of Madeline and couldn’t finish it so that one is definitely out.
I’ve never read smut or “smutty-ish” books and have no idea where to start!
Thanks in advance 🙏🏼
I am 26m and recently out of a 10+ year relationship, so never experienced dating/ONS before
I am travelling currently in a country (Caribbean) where I do not know the language.
At a bar last night a woman was making eye contact and eventually suggested I join her group, I could not understand her at all and we had to speak through google translate. It turns out she is 37 with a child and she said she wants to see me in my hotel.
I am staying in a hostel so said this wasn’t possible, but she asked if I would pay for a hotel for us.
This is a really unusual experience for me and I’m wondering if I need to be wary of anything? Why would she be interested in the only gringo in the lively Latin bar, especially with the age gap?
We eventually left each other but I have her number and she wanted me to message. I am open to meeting her and paying for a hotel for us but is there anything I should look out for or be cautious of?
Does my bf find my face/stomach area unattractive since he finishes in doggy about 90% of the time or does it just feel that much better? (Other 10% is mostly missionary or cowgirl).
Hi to the ladies.
I am looking for a little advice and recommendations.
I have met a lady (40yo) and we have quickly fallen for each other, and we will soon meet up.
Our circumstances are far from ideal, we are both going through a divorce, with kids, so our home situations are far from ideal and we are both trying to be sensitive to our soon to be x partners. We actually connected over this and started chatting to support each other, things have escalated from our chats. She is also my customer and we are acutally meeting up for a work event, so we are also trying to ensure it's not to publicly seen.
We both have high libido, and both seem very keen to be adventurous together, she is honestly a man's wildest dream come true, she likes it rough, she would like anal, and she wants to deep throat me. I am gentle by nature, so a little nervous about the rough side. I am super empathetic so I can normally pick up on moods quickly so I hope it can meet her rough needs.
The advice I'd like, is we will be meeting fairly late, and we will want to try everything, and it will likely be a long night of naughty fun, cuddles, and chatting.
The next day we have a busy day in work. I want to make her a little care package. I'll put some paracetamol, ibuprofen, some water and hydration drinks in it, maybe a red bull. Some sore throat soothing sweets, I assume they might help if she trys to deep throat me? That's kinda all I can think of that might be helpful? Do you have anything else you can recommend or you might lilike?
i thought it would be nice to post what happened here to get a bit more help about it
i am 19M and she is 18F we met on a dating app about a month ago we talked a lot got to know each other and 9 days ago we went our first date , everything went good and we loved it so we went on a second date 2 days ago
i took her for pasta in a restaurant and then for drinks in a bar everything went perfect we found that we have a lot of chemistry together and i had a lot of fun with her
around 2 in the midnight we left , we got in the car and i made the first move and touched her and we started kissing after a bit , it was so amazing and romantic cant describe it..she told me to take her to my place for the night because i live alone and she lives with her parents
We went had a shower together went to the bed started making out i went down to her we both orgasmed after 15-20 mins so we went for second round..she asked me to take the condom off and put it in her ass..it was a bit hard tbh because she is tight and a bit skinny but we did it in the end
we both were about to cum after some minutes and after am finishing inside her she screams “omg take it out take it out” and am seeing some poop coming out of her and on my dick
i had a weird feeling that time bcs it never happened again for me and i didn’t knew how to act…she stood up crying and her eyes got literally red , i tried to show her with every possible way that its okay i kissed her told her everything that came in my thoughts that time like “it can happen to all of us” or “i loved having sex with you and i was totally okay with what happened”
i took her to the bath and we got cleaned up after..i am lucky that i bought another pair of sheets 2 weeks ago so i changed them we went to the bed i cuddled her and we slept..i heard her a lot of times crying when we tried to sleep..i kissed her neck , massaging her and finally she slept after an hour
she told me a lot of times that we can stop it now if i want and that there are way better girls than her that i can find and stuff..but i don’t want to leave her and i told her a lot of times that i am so attracted to her and i really want to be with her..literally from our first date and our first conversation i was feeling so good and we have so much chemistry in everything and at sex
anyone got some idea on how to make her forget it and just leave it in the past?because ok i was feeling a bit weird and uncomfortable when it happened i cant lie but i have feelings for her and i dont want to leave her like that
yesterday i went to her place to pick her to go for a car ride i got the idea from another post i read to take her flowers so i did..i took her flowers a small gift too and we went to watch the sunset
she was so shy and embarrassed all the time , we kissed we talked about it but i am feeling that not a lot changed..i know it will take some time for sure but how can i make the things better?you guys got any ideas how to help her?
sorry if i wrote a lot but i wanted to get them out of me and get some help
My girlfriend (21F) and I (21M) are having problems with our sex life. She doesn't seem interested in participating. When I perform oral sex on her, she has an orgasm, but she doesn't make any sounds, move, or react in any way. It's like she's not really there.
The same thing happens during intercourse. I do all the work. She doesn't try to touch me, doesn't suggest different positions, and doesn't seem to care about my pleasure. After she has her orgasm, she rolls over and goes to sleep. She doesn't want to do anything for me, like oral sex or anything else.
It feels like sex is just a chore for her, and I’m just there to get her off. I’m starting to feel used and resentful. I want a sex life where we both enjoy ourselves equally. I want her to be into it, to want me, to be excited about sex. How do I talk to her about this? How do I get her to participate more? I need advice.
I had my first vaginal orgasm on Saturday. My boyfriend bought me a rose and a rabbit to play with . After we fooled around, he left me in the house to try out the toys. I was already turned on and had a few drinks down so I went for it with both toys at the same time. I came twice and soaked up his mattress. It was fun and exhilarating but here's the issue: I've tried replicating that awesome experience sober but I feel overstimulated when I'm about to come and have to stop. Is this something other women deal with and if so how do I get past that mental hurdle?
Hi, straight to the point- I can't make my wife cum by clitoris stimulation, while vaginal orgasms are easy. I'm trying by best, trying different techniqes, slow, fast, gently, rough, and telling her to guide me. She can feel great pleasure, she can't orgasm. Playing with her clit for 30 minutes can only get her to the point where she is close, but can't get it. I think I know her body and I can feel her, because giving her gspot orgasms every 30 seconds is fun and easy. But regarding clit orgasm I feel like she is somehow 'blocked'.
Sometimes I can make her cum by using clit vibrator, but it also takes a lot of time and patience.
Did anyone experienced similar issue? Is there any way to improve it or do we have to accept it the way it is?
Ps. she can't cum by clit stimulation also during solo play
I’ve been wanting to figure this out for the longest time. My partner and I have a not insignificant height difference and when we try to have sex while standing things don’t align properly. I tried wearing high heels but the ones I have are not enough and even with using the wall as support it’s not comfortable. Does anyone have the same issue? How would you go about having sex while standing in general?
I'm looking for some advice. I think I need to explain a little bit of my backstory first, to explain my physical and mental condition, relating to a problem I had recently.
I am a male, and about to turn 40 (tomorrow), and, a little embarrassing, but up to a few weeks ago I was pretty much a virgin.
Technically, I lost my virginity when I was 17. But it was my one and only time, until this August. Physically, I'm healthy enough. Pretty average all around. But I have suffered from social anxiety all my life. And I've also just never been looking for a serious relationship. So I haven't had many chances to have casual sex in or out of a relationship.
However, since around covid time, I've been experiencing a deep desire for sex (not that I'd lacked a libido before, but porn had satisfied my needs). So It was on my mind for a while, and eventually I decided to do something about it.
I met someone online and we hooked up. I was mildly attracted to her, so I definitely was into the experience, and she was very friendly, although I was still pretty nervous, obviously, due to my anxiety, and also my lack of experience.
To begin with, everything went well, I was already mostly erect before we even got down to business. The foreplay went great. But during the actual intercourse, my penis just wouldn't stay erect. My mind was very much into the experience, but I couldn't stay aroused. It's like there was a disconnection somewhere.
Now would be a good time to mention that this also happened the very first time I tried to have sex when I was 17. That was a fail too. Although a few days later, everything went great, and had no issues with maintaining my erection.
I came away from the experience, feeling ashamed of myself. Even though, I enjoyed the experience over all, and had no regrets. I had lots of curiosities and things I had wanted to experience, finally experienced.
But upon leaving her apartment, I decided I wouldn't try to do that again, and live out the rest of my days the way I had the last 20 years.
However, since, reflecting on it, I've decided to try again.
Maybe it was first time nerves and, I was also physically drained. I'd taken a wrong turn trying to find her place, and I was walking for nearly an hour, around her neighbourhood, trying to find her house. That, coupled with my anxiety, I really wasn't in my best shape.
Unfortunately, I tend to get in my own way and worry and overthink, and that probably ruined what was a good time.
That said, I wasn't worrying during the moment itself, so I'm not sure why I couldn't keep my erection. But I also don't think it's a physical issue.
I'm also wondering if it would help if I took a Viagra or something similar to help, next time. Any advice would be most helpful.
Thanks
I was abused a lot and she doesn't know. I think thats why I am afraid of it but it really kills me as I love her so much and she wants to do it. Is there a way to kinda ignore my past trauma and enjoy the time with my gf?
Im 25 and my girlfriend, who is 26 and will be my wife in less than 5 months, and i have been together for 13 years. We fell in love during our school days and started being physically intimate around the age of 18. Back then our sex life was exciting and spontaneous it was our first time and we were exploring alot of new things together which made it fun and thrilling. However in the past 1 year or so, I’ve noticed that things have been abit routine. Our intimacy follows the same pattern starting with kissing, switching to a certain positions ect and it feel predictable. Its gotten to a point where my girlfriend seems to finish around the same time, right after a certain position is done. Its almost like there’s a set of “script” we follow each time.
To shake things up i have tried initiating mild “drunk sex” to add some excitement, and while it helps, i cant rely on doing that all the time. Here and there is fine, but i want our regular sex life to be more naturally exciting and spontaneous, not just something we enhance with drinking. Neither of us has been with other people before, as we’re each other’s first love. Now that we’re about to live together in our own home we will have much more freedom and i want to make sure our sex life stays fulfilling. I sometimes wonder if im missing out or if there’s something different i could be doing differently.
Does anyone have any suggestions or advice on how we can make our sex life more exciting and keep the spark alive as we move into this new chapter together?
so yesterday night i was with my partner and we smoked up and were fucking , now i have had anal before when i was high and it was really good as i was actually feeling pleasured and none of the pain. yesterday when we were high my partner started fucking me in my ass and after a good 5 minutes i started feeling like it was too much and could feel the pain but i still kept going. he cummed soon after in me and i couldn't even feel that. but right after when we were done and i got up from the bed i started feeling dizzy and everything went black around me. it was at that moment i knew i was going to faint , and the next thing i remember was me on the bed and my partner on top of me calling out my name and trying to wake me up. when my eyes opened , it took me a while to realise what happened. my partner sprinkled water on me and i felt much better. we went to sleep right after but i still dont know what caused it? was it the weed and anal together like is it normal or should i be worried T_T
why does it seem like it’s easier to fulfill a woman versus a man? from my experience, it seems like the man is more willing to fulfill his woman’s fantasies and desires than vice versa. i (36M) have vocalized my sexual wants and needs multiple times with my partner over the years, and she (22F) seems to think i should be fulfilled simply because i get to have intercourse once a week.
what i seem to be gathering is that i don’t get to determine when we have sex (i prefer daytime) and i don’t get to have lights on, and i don’t get to choose what parts of her body i see or don’t see, nor do i get to talk about why i like her body and for what reason. i simply should be happy that i “get to have sex at all”.
9/10 we have sex when she wants to (in the morning right when we wake up, about once a week, with the lights off, how she wants it).
she and i need more of a compromise, right? i am feeling less and less fulfilled these past 6 months…don’t my wants and needs matter?
My boyfriend and I have been pretty vanilla in the bedroom. The most we’ve done is some choking and other things like that. He’s mentioned to me that I should try to be more creative with ideas in the bedroom because he’s down for anything. Obviously I’m wanting to have more freaky sex too but I’m not too creative about that type of stuff, I just don’t have any ideas.
He’s dominant and into tying me up, though we’ve never done that yet. I’m submissive and down for anything and I like a little pain
Does anyone have some recommendations on how we can spice things up? Like things that I can say to him, things we can do to eachother, positions etc 😊😊
for all the gamers out there, would you enjoy it if your parter teased you and played with you in the middle of your game? or is the game something serious and to not be distracted from?
asking to spice things up the “right way” lol.
Before I even start, please don't just tell me to leave my boyfriend. I want actual advice. Also sorry if the flair is wrong idk what fits best.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. When we first got together we had a great sex life and had sex very frequently. Though over time it slowed down and got worse.
I have a very hard time feeling aroused at all due to my birth control and I have responsive desire as opposed to him who has spontaneous desire and is aroused almost all the time and over time he stopped putting as much effort in. He also would never tell me what he liked or what I could do more and if I asked it was always "I don't know". So we started to get into a cycle where only he would initiate and immediately jump into things, then I would get sad because I wasn't enjoying it and it hurt a lot, and then we'd stop.
He would never get mad or upset at me for this and he would always comfort me after and he would always stop immediately when I said to. Though I still felt bad turning him down all the time. We had the same conversation over and over about him doing more and us trying new things and him telling me more of what he wants from me and nothing changed. Sex just got really depressing for me and I was under so much pressure all the time.
Kind of recently I told him I wanted a complete break from anything sexual and I've been so happy. I don't have to worry about turning him down or hurting his feelings or any of that. Now when I think of sex I want nothing to do with it. But in a way that's very upsetting cause I used to be a very sexual person. I loved sex and kink and the community and everything. Now it's all gone. It just makes me sad and disgusted. I feel like I lost a huge part of myself.
We've had problems with him in general and he's trying to improve himself and this got brought up again. He wants to start over and try again and I do too but at this point even the idea of trying anything sexual makes me sad and grossed out. I would love to have nice sex with him again but idk what could get us there again. Does anyone have any advice? Some way to get myself t stop thinking/feeling like this? Some ways to ease back into it? Or are we just screwed and it's gone forever?
Hello! It’s been a while since me and my partner have had sex but we’re back on it and I recently gave them oral But a problem I’ve always had since I can remember while giving them oral is the fact I’m tongue tied (not severely but enough to be troublesome) sticking out my tongue long is hard and the little tie itself always gets irritation bumps from where it rubs against my teeth Anyone have the same problem and any advice to navigate it cause it hurts so bad after but I love giving oral
My bed is too squishy for sex... Like, in girl on top, my knees squish into the bed too much to get proper lift to bounce. Any suggestions other than buying a whole new mattress?
I’ve had this issue from the beginning. I cannot swallow cum, can’t have it in my mouth, or even on my face. Makes me want to vomit or vomit. I feel bad but I literally can’t. It’s like my body is rejecting it even though mentally I want to. Any tips for overcoming this ??
Trigger warning SA.
I was SA’d when I was 19. It has obviously forever changed my life. My bf and I had a rough sex like for awhile now where I’d have a high drive then it would hit low to none.
I’m finally at a place where I can let him in. I’m feeling sexy again, confident and safe w this man. However my body gets this feeling of wanting to cry sometimes after sex.
I’m super experimental and I’m wanting to try new things. I’m scared if I go too far w new things I’ll go back to “low sex drive.”
What are some things I could bring up to my BF that would help him understand? He is sweet patience and supporting. It’s hard because I wanna do more sexually but I’m scared I’ll “relapse” and go back to that space.
Weird post but you’d only understand if you’ve been through something like this.
Thank you.
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Hi! So I (F) have this dildo that I’ve been trying to use (I’ve never had piv sex) and every single time it just hurts too much to insert it. I’ve made sure I’m wet and turned on and I’ve also lubricated the dildo. But it is so painful when I try to push it all the way in. Any advice from people who was in a similar situation?
Edit: misspelling in title *too
Girlfriend started bleeding midway through sex. It started as a light reddish brown color, which led me to believe it was residual blood from her period that ended yesterday. However, it has since turned into definitely fresh red blood. I would really appreciate some help with this, or if anyone has had similar stuff, we aren't able to go to a doctor right now and I'm kinda stressed about this. Thank you for your help.
And yeah this is a throwaway account.
The other evening, I got together with some coworkers for drinks, and I wound up hooking up with somebody, I went down on her. She was hairy and smelled sweaty and musky, but I was drunk and turned on and didn't care. A few days later, I developed a fever and sore throat. I went to the clinic to get checked out, and I tested positive for strep throat. They gave me antibiotics and meds to manage my fever. I was ok after a few days. Has anybody experienced this after eating pussy?
I’m a male, and this is a throwaway account The reason I’m asking is because I searched for this question and I couldn’t find any good answers
More specifically I would like to know how I could do it without making a mess in my bed or something
Me (M45) would like to encourage my partner, (M42) to endulge her fantasies by watching some lesbian pornography but she has been very much against the entire porn industry for years. She is a feminist, as am I.
Been married for nearly 10 years, sex life is good, she recently told me she was bi and more recently we have been talking about fantasies and the possibility of a MFF threesome at some point. This is probably a long way off, however I would like to spice things up with some high quality female friendly lesbian pornography, but I have to get her past the exploitation and objectification of women thing. I understand her perspective completely, however I know that there is porn that are made by women for women and which is made ethically.
I bought up the subject a few weeks ago during the day and when we spoke about it later she had already nipped off in to a quite room to investigate the idea of female friendly porn, so I am thinking she must be considering it/ The subject never went much further.
How do I encourage her? What should I say or not say? Should I download a video and surprise her with it to see if she will try? Bit lost so any advice would be welcome.
I want to experience being more dominant, and recently found out that me saying good boy makes me feel more in control and that’s hot. I want to find more example phrases that aren’t good boy, but I find most of the examples online are praises catered to women/ non-heterosexual men.
My mind kinda always wants sex and if it’s offered I go for it even if I haven’t regained my stamina. The issue is I have no clue when my stamina is actually back which could be minutes to hours or even a days. This usually ends up with not being able to climax and overheating from going too long. It’s embarrassing and I always feel so bad like I just wasted their time.