I had anal with my bf yesterday a since then I have a dull bruise like pain in my anus that goes all the way back to my tailbone and the feeling of pressure . We used lube and I wasn’t in any pain during the session the only thing that felt off was I could feel that he was hitting something back there which hasn’t happened/ I haven’t noticed before. I don’t have any bleeding the discomfort is mild to moderate mostly when sitting and I can do a normal bm with a bit of pain and feeling of pressure but no blood or discharge

Is this normal? How long will it take to go

let me start out by saying: i'm a very openly sexual person and before my current long term relationship i was very "fluid", but even so, i was safe and asked every partner get tested before we would commit to anything sexual, which included my current partner. we've been dating for four years and as far as i remember, he was clean on his screening, as was i (to make him feel more comfortable doing the test). we recently broke up for about a month or so then rekindled. due to past health issues, ive asked him to use a condom because i don't want to get on birth control again. we had sex a few times without condoms post break up but prior to this decision, and i initially thought i got a uti. but it is now a month later and i'm still having symptoms, those which align with a BV, which i've never had before. could this be from his activities with partners when he was single or could it be from the condoms (which i never used before now)?

i'm looking into going to a doctor but im so nervous, ive asked him if he hooked up with anyone during the break up and he said no. but over three years unprotected with no side effects now this, makes me worried.

has anyone experienced anything like this?

Are women inherently bi? Just as being an older male, I have had many girlfriends that have been interested in adding another woman to our sexual encounters but mostly for themselves.

Me and my boyfriend just had sex, I wanked him off and sucked his dick before I started riding him he last quite literally not even a minute. It was the first time we have had sex on a few days so I was looking forward to it but he just made me feel used and like he was only in it for his own pleasure after he had finished we simply said “sorry” then went on his phone like I no longer existed if I’m being honest it made me want to cry am I overreacting or was my emotions valid?

i'm 21M, im straight, i have never had sex and i'm afraid something might happen like not getting up bcs of porn (im not going to do it today or tommorow, i dont have a girl to do it with), idk if i am a porn addict but yes i watch porn(not daily)

what things will happen in first time and how do i deal with it?

Hi there, I'm sure there's many people with way worse problems but I don't know whom to ask and where. So here we go... I really really get turned on being the submissive part (involves many kinks aswell). But once the climax is over I feel terrible. Same is when I watch stuff and play with my fantasy imagining myself being submissive. It turns me, then there's the climax and then I feel bad.

Now you might say I should just stop it but it's like an addiction sometimes. I get horny, I scroll through stuff or I play the submissive role when having sex because it turns me on so much more than regular sex. And afterwards boom I feel bad. I don't have these bad feelings afterwards when I don't picture myself as the submissive part but I just can't stop thinking about being sub and hardcore stuff. I also create folders with the stuff that really turns me on and I keep deleting and recreating them depending on my mood.

Sorry if this sounds stupid but it's really bugging me. Where does this come from and what can I do?

Me and my boyfriend have tried having sex and he can’t fit inside me. It hurts so much to stretch the thin layer outside of the hole. I don’t know what to do. We do lots of foreplay and he turns me on a lot, so that is not the issue, the issue is purely my anatomy, I’m WAY too tight and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve had him try to stretch me with his fingers but it barely gets anywhere, I still end up being too tight to actually do anything. I’ve also bought 3 different sized dildos so that I can stretch myself, but afterwards the tightness always reverts back and it’s driving me crazy!

Should I have him just force it in so that it tears the opening? I’m willing to go through the pain, but I’m wondering if that’s okay to do or if that will cause more issues. I’m sick of the waiting and trying to stretch myself, I just want him to be able to be inside of me without this complication.

my boyfriend goes down on me all the time. like EVERY time, multiple times. i have no problems with that because he’s good at it and i love how he likes to make me feel good! im just wondering if he’s doing it out of obligation or if it’s possible that he actually just enjoys it that much??

i always return the favor to him somehow but im worried our sex life isn’t balanced and leans in my favor. is it possible he really does enjoy this that much? or is there anything else i can do to make sex more enjoyable for him?

I love my gf, great relationship, and our sex life together is just getting started. That being said, I have a few kinks/fetishes that don’t think she’d be okay with if she knew about them. The first being anal, she already knows that i like butts and butt stuff, but isn’t comfortable with my touching her butt in almost any capacity due to past sexual trauma. That part is totally understandable, I want to respect her boundaries and make her feel comfortable, even if it’s unfortunate for my own sexual desires. The second one is a foot fetish, which is more of a mental thing for me that gets me going when i watch porn, i’ve never experienced in real life. The problem is she has expressed her dislike of feet and foot fetishes in general. So much so that she will actively hide her feet from me if they are ever showing themselves. In a sort of mocking/semi serious manner, which is very discouraging. In some of those moments, she jokingly teased me about it and i regretfully lied and said that i don’t have a foot fetish. Now i’m at an emotional and sexual standstill. This woman makes me the happiest i’ve been, but i don’t want to become sexually frustrated and build up resentment from not being able to engage in my two greatest sexual fantasies/desires

The first few times my boyfriend went down on me. He’s mentioned he enjoy it more when i’m refreshed, so probably just freshen up beforehand. Which is understandable. Although afterwards he said the taste is fine, but when he sucks on my clit he gets this taste in his mouth that takes over his whole mouth and it’s strong, but he said it doesn’t taste bad? Does anyone know why or how to minimize. Another thing, the day after we both lost our virginity’s and we had sex again he said i wasn’t as tight, anyone know why? was i just more aroused?

I need help figuring out what sex positions work with my gf and I. She has some trauma that’ll prevent her from doing doggy, and missionary is a no-go because of my size/shape and maybe the shape/size of her vaginal canal. Please help

I’ve been together with my (first) boyfriend for almost 8 years. We’ve explored a lot since we were both virgins at the start of our relationship. Ofcourse the beginning was searching what each of us liked, by now he knows what I like and he always made me orgasm quite fast (with his fingers), we’ve used vivrators as well, worked even faster. For some reason it now takes me more than half an hour to orgasm… I don’t know if this is a me problem or if he is doing something wrong. He can take me to the edge but I can’t seem to get there as fast as usual, and the feeling of an orgasm disappears when I’m almost there. It’s like taking 1 step forward and 2 backward. I have to really focus and push my body towards and orgasm rather than relaxing and letting it come on its own. Now I’m wondering if my vagina is ‘used’ to the feeling and needs more than before or if it’s a mental block (which I wouldn’t know of what) or something fysical I don’t know of. Advice is welcome :)

Hi everyone,

I’m in a 7-year relationship with someone I love deeply. We have sex, but I often feel it’s not enough, and when it happens, it feels like she’s doing me a favor rather than genuinely wanting it. I’m her first partner, and while our sex life is very vanilla, I’m okay with that. What’s harder is that I’m always the one making the effort—initiating, trying to get her in the mood, planning romantic gestures, and putting in the work—while she just follows along, if at all. Most of the time, she rejects my advances, which leaves me feeling not only unsatisfied but also unwanted.

Outside of this issue, our relationship is non-toxic, loving, and supportive. I truly care about her and see a future together. But this dynamic is starting to take a toll on me, and I’m struggling to figure out what to do.

The Situation:

• She seems to have a much lower libido than I do (she’s fine with sex once a month or less; I’d prefer every day).
• In 7 years, she has never initiated intimacy, made advances, or taken the lead. Our romantic and sexual life feels entirely driven by me.
• If I want sex, it feels like I need to orchestrate everything perfectly: making sure she’s not stressed or upset, cooking dinner, doing chores, setting the mood with candles and music, giving her a massage, and kissing her passionately. But even after all that, the answer is often “I’m not in the mood.”

This cycle of rejection makes me feel unappreciated and unloved.

The Problem:

I’ve tried talking to her about this many times, but these conversations often make her feel criticized or pressured, which isn’t my intention. She knows how I feel, but nothing changes. Sometimes, when I reach a breaking point, she’ll make an effort for a short time (maybe two weeks), but things eventually return to the same pattern.

I also feel trapped in a dynamic where intimacy feels like a reward. If I behave perfectly or meet all her unspoken expectations, I might get lucky. If not, she’ll just wait me out until I give in and do what she want’s again to get laid.

My Dilemma:

I’m at a crossroads. I don’t want to leave her—I love her deeply. But I also can’t see myself being happy in a lifelong relationship if this pattern continues.

The Plan:

I’ve come up with a plan, but I’m unsure if it’s the right thing to do or even morally acceptable.

I’ll stop initiating sex entirely and detach my loving actions from any expectation of intimacy. I’ll focus on being my usual, caring self and won’t reject her if she initiates. If she truly tries, I’ll fully support her efforts. But if nothing changes over time, I’ll need to evaluate whether I can continue in this relationship.

My Fears:

• I might get frustrated and give in, only to fall back into the same unhappy dynamic.
• She might adjust her behavior temporarily (as before) but eventually revert to normal.
• She might notice I’ve stopped initiating and feel something is wrong, leading to tension or a fight further escalates the problem.

I want to approach this thoughtfully, without manipulation or resentment. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you navigate such a deep mismatch in intimacy?

Thank you for reading—I’d really appreciate your advice.

Me (F22) and my boyfriend (M24) have been dating for a few months, but in the last few days during sex he has been acting differently, the first time it's normal, but after he cums and we go to the second round he takes a long time to the point of losing his erection.

This happened again the next day and I even noticed him looking at the ceiling while we were having sex. It's also happening that he doesn't touch my body or kiss me as much as he used to.

I'm suspicious that he's trying to control himself so he doesn't cum so quickly, but that's ruining the natural part of sex that I enjoyed so much.

I would like to know your opinion on what could be happening, thank you.

So I’m 29F married and have a affair. It’s completely discreet and my husband is still my king. Recently met a man in his mid 40s pretty high profile on am. Also married should I risk it with someone who is older married? I feel like it’s harder to sneak around no, also should I go for older or keep pursuing guys my age, he seems super sweet but his age has me on the edge about him wondering if he’ll be good in bed or not

So currently I'm doing kegal for like past 6 months and currently I, squeeze(?) for 2 to 3 sec and then do the reverse kegal for 3 sec, i would like to know if this is good, or are there any other variations better than I'm currently doing? Thanks

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Since I (21M) started have sex around 3 years ago, I had a problem that when I'm about to cum I can't pull my dick out before cumming and I cum inside. Even if I tried to, If I managed to pull my dick out I feel like I'm can't cum and I have to continue the intercourse as if I wasn't gonna cum. Is this a medical condition or something wrong?.

I’m not sure if anyone else can relate to this but when having sex with my husband sometimes when his penis is going deep in and out of my vagina it kinda feels like there’s two parts inside my vagina? Like the outer part is wider and half way in the canal gets significantly smaller?

It’s as if it’s coned shaped (the smaller end being the inside) and when he pushes in I can feel the inside stretch around his penis as if there’s a second smaller hole inside that he can penetrate. I only have felt this a few times does anyone know what im talking about? Or has experienced this? I especially felt this the first time we ever had sex. Both men and women are welcome to reply.

I'm (19f) kinda embarrassed to even ask this, but as a virgin who grew up in a strict religion, I'm just finally letting myself explore my sexuality a little. I've recently just really started to let myself explore my body a little which feels AMAZING. I'm wondering, when do I or should I not worry about getting a toy?

There’s no judgement or limits here so feel more than free. To share those thoughts that you keep to yourself! It’s just fascinating to me hearing other people’s turn ons and secrets like that. It just goes to show that you never really know anyone! :) also opened to long term

I've learned from past relationships and general advice to take things slow, focus on foreplay, and build up gradually. However, my current girlfriend prefers a faster pace and finds slow, romantic approaches less exciting. And she seem hard to arrive climax compare with previous gf.

She's also mentioned that traditional bedroom settings feel boring to her, and she seems more excited by the idea of less conventional locations. I've noticed physical signs confirming this preference.

Has anyone dealt with similar differences in preferences? How did you find a middle ground that works for partners?

I (19F) have been with 2 guys before my boyfriend currently (20M)and each time I went into doggy it was too uncomfortable for me and I didn't like how I queefed so much. I want to tell my boyfriend that I don't want to do doggy style but I'm afraid he will get turned off or it'll make it awkward. Whens and how is the best time to tell him?

I 19f was meeting my boyfriend 19m after he was done working for a little. Pretty much he works at a shopping centre with a cinema near, I was meeting friends at 5:30 to see a film and before for food and to chat, he gets off at 5 so I planned to go sit in his car and hang out for half an hour before meeting them.

We end up making out and I think that’s all he had planned but he’s parked someone quite secluded so I started stroking it and sucking him a little. After a few minutes of this I get a phone call to say my friends are there and I need to start walking over to meet them. So I while still on the phone gesture with my hand for him to put his dick away before I open the car door, I tell him love you bye and go meet my friends

Later he mentioned his balls hurt on the drive home, nothing crazy like it wasn’t debilitating but sore enough he said and uncomfortable, when he got home apparently he finished himself and after a while then it went away. He made it clear and I don’t think he was he said he wasn’t trying to make me feel bad for leaving and also he himself always thought that was a myth because he’s never had that happen before. He was laughing and not trying to make me feel bad at all I don’t believe it was that

And I’m confused because he go for long sessions where he stops and starts to last more etc and I’m wondering like what actually caused the pain then?

so, my gf and i are planning to do raw sex soon. the question is, i want to do it with more safety. the plan is i want to cum 2 times before having raw(by using condom, so the sperm may become less effective). so, is it possible?

Hi I'm a 56 year old guy .divorced I have been alone for years and I would rather jerkoff rather than be with a woman..how messed up is that..any body got help for me

Me (19M virgin) and my partner (20F) were having a talk abt masturbation and she said something like "imagine beating your meat dry, would hurt like shit". I was confused and I told her that it's how I've always done it. She was shocked abt how I even do it. I didn't see what the problem was and asked her what's wrong with it. She said that you have to lube it up with something to beat it, dry beating is not the way.

Then it hit me, everytime I see a meme or joke abt masturbation, there's always a lotion/lube bottle involved. I never personally liked lubing it up and beating it so I never went that path. Am I doing it wrong?

All this stems from later the day when she tried to give me a blowjob and all it took was a single lick to get me to so close to cumming. I struggled a lot and kept it in. It only took 3 seconds for me to get to the verge of nutting. I felt so ashamed cuz she tried to do it again after letting my tool calm down and the same thing happened once more. She gave me a "wtf so soon?" after which I realized that this is very abnormal and doesn't happen usually.

I was so embarrassed and apologized to her cuz I gave her hopes of letting her do something sexual with me for the first time and I immediately stopped her cuz I was gonna cum, twice. She was consoling me and told me that I'll figure it out and that I'll build tolerance somehow. She brought up the "dry-beating" behaviour as a factor to why that happened. Even yesterday, as a joke she told me to wank off but then added the "maybe don't dry-beat this time".

What suggestions do you have for me? Does lubing and beating it make a difference? Have my dry-beating habits made me very intolerable of a wet BJ? Is there any way I can increase my tolerance? I'm a virgin so any advice helps!

Thank you in advance, have a great day!!

Would you go down on your wife or girlfriend if she hasn’t shaved? Would you have sex with her if she hasn’t shaved? Would you go down on her at the end of the day or only after she took a shower? I have become so insecure with myself as I’ve gotten older. When I was in my late teens/ early 20s I was so sexually confident with myself. Now being 30, I have become more shy with myself as my body has changed. I don’t like shaving the entire thing anymore, it hurts when the hair grows back. I do try and keep it groomed as best as I can and will get bikini waxes here are there. I feel so bad for my husband because I have become so insecure with myself that our sex life is basically non existent and I blame myself. My pH balances are normal but I still sike myself out. I know it’s never going to smell like roses down there. I just need help on how to get out of my head and bring back the sexually confident woman I used to be. I’ve lost that side of me and I want her back.

Hi all, I feel as though I am probably overthinking this, and have read about it probably too much. But was just wanting some advice. I’m 28f (turn 29 in two months) and am still a virgin. I am more at peace with that now than when I was younger. I grew up heavily religious and while Im not anymore I cannot seem to let go of the anxiety that always comes around when I start to get close to a guy. To give a little background I went to the religious grade school and graduated from the high school that was attached to our church. I think this comes from my mother constantly drilling in my head until I was 18 that even having crushes on guys in grade school/ high school were dumb because you “date to marry” so why even go down that road. And she constantly told me to stay away from boys. (There is so much more here I could get into but to keep this post somewhat short I’ll leave it out) I lived with my parents up until 3 years ago and while I have grown quite a bit, I can’t get over this mental hurdle. I really just want to throw all caution to the wind in regard to “waiting for someone special”. And advice?

After I gave birth Vaginally. The doctor said I had a first degree perineal laceration but it was approximated and didn't need to be repaired. Is this going to make my parts "different" from before? Am I going to feel loose?