I (19f) really freak out while anal. My bf n I r in more than 2 yr relationship, we had sex s number of times. We both have high sex drive n satisfy each other very well. All is fine, untill its come to anal. I freak out, we tried but I can’t bare the anal pain, he doesn’t force me when I start to whimper. Once he did force n tried but i started crying he felt guilty n didn’t do. We did alot of things. Bdsm n stuff with ez. But idk whats prblm with anal. I want to try. Can someone give good position for it? Or how to slowly open up the hole? We both lost our virginity together before 2 yrs. We both were unexperienced, we learned slowly gradually with each other. We good at everything mastered everything but idk what happens with anal.

Any women or blow job givers, who had issues with this, how did you over come this? I feel so sexy having sex with my boyfriend, I’ve had great sexual experiences in my past as well but when it comes to giving blow jobs, my mind just totally panics and suddenly feels so so unsexy. I don’t know exactly where this comes from bc I’ve not had complaints the few times I have done it.

This is genuinely a rough question i have t been able to answer because when i try to use my tongue i get too aggressive and jf not im too calm, i just havent found the sweet spot if anyone could help i would greatly appreciate it

Ill be honest, i masturbate alot and i recently have been getting insane erections and when i masturbate it just doesnt work and i don't ejaculate hardly and im not fully pleasured when using my hands so i was wondering if there was a way i could masturbate without using my hands but cause i still live with my parents obviously i cant order anything.

any tips or advice would be helpful.

Hi guys, i think i need yalls help. I [17m] and my gf [17f] are together for about three and a half months. As all people our age, we slowly started to experiment with each other sexually. I gave her head a fex times and she really enjoyed it. She told me longer ago that idea of sucking a dick is disgusting and i am totally okay with that cuz from my past experience, I don't really enjoy head so i was okay with the fact that since we started doing these "things" the pleasure was purely on her side. My BC is 5, she is a virgin. Recently we started talking about sex. She told me several things like "i really want to fuck you" or "i prolly wouldn't mind getting roped up" so i thought that things will go well. I was wrong. As we got more in this topic, she started to say that she is not ready yet and we should just wait a bit longer. Today we had another of these talks (irl) and like an hour ago (through messages) she confessed, that she had been thinking about ours today's talk and its starting to give her anxiety. She couldn't really tell me more so i just comforted her that i am okay with her not being ready yet and i am okay with waiting. In reality it eats me up but i think i love her and a wouldn't leave her just for this. I am starting to get a little scared tho. How long will i wait? Why is it giving her "anxiety"? How should i help her overcome her fear? Is it me? Does she fear having sex with "me"? I don't really know what to do. I don't know how to talk to her about this. I miss sex. I can live without it but what if i will start pulling away because of this missing part of the relationship? I really want to help her, i dont want her to be scared but i have no idea how to do that. Any advice will help guys. Thanks for reading and yall have a beautiful day!!

I'm 25(f) and I am trying to find a casual relationship/FWB. I am in a major city on the East Coast (Philly) and I am overall good-looking, yet I am having a tough time finding someone. Personality-wise, I am easy to get along with. I am looking for a clean (hygiene and sexual health), good-looking guy who is respectful and consistent with adult activities.

The problem is whenever I go on dating apps, and say what I want, I get total creeps. I know that wanting a casual fling is, in itself, not "respectable" but that doesn't mean you can talk to me like an object. This problem also arises at clubs/bars. If I am NOT honest with what I want, it turns into a situationship and or I am leading them on. I just want to be respected, but also honest in my needs.

Where can I find someone who wants similar things that I do and isn't a total creep? This is a totally serious question and I really need recommendations to meet like-minded people.

My wife and I (both in our 50s) have become much more sexually adventurous and she's honestly a sexual beast. We want to explore this lifestyle and have done some reading on the other subs. For those wondering, it's bringing in a third person, a male in our case, but the couple remain the dominate ones. We had a female join us years ago and it was crazy!cMy wife and I want her to have a wild time but of course we worry about cleanliness of people, etc. Anyone have any experience with bringing in a third person into the bedroom? Thanks in advance.

My (19f) boyfriend (20m) lasts too long during sex. My boyfriend sometimes struggles to come meaning sex lasts longer, I’m not too bothered when this happens bc I know it’s not necessarily his fault, however, more often than not he choses to make sex last too long - I’m talking an hour long on average - and eventually it gets just a bit too much and sometimes boring half way through, I just carry on for his sake. Like I said it becomes just a bit too much when every time we have sex it normally lasts an hour minimum. Sometimes it’s also really slow, so not only is it lasting too long, it’s also not really doing much for either of us. I don’t know how to bring it up without sounding like I’m insulting him for “not coming fast enough” and possibly making it worse by getting in his head. Any advice??

Hey y'all, so long story short, my wife made a joke about bringing someone else in to the bedroom because I have some PE issues. I was way against the idea at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I feel I am learning a new kink about myself. Last night I told her that I might find it interesting to watch her being with another man, with a few rules of course. She asked for some time to think about it because she never thought I would actually be up for it. I too am figuring this out as we go along. I guess I am on here to ask if anyone can offer any advice? Thanks in advance to anyone that can offer some help!

I wanted to ask this question regarding my girlfriend. After exploring her body for quite some time, I try my best to make her go to orgasm and mostly it happens using oral with clitoral simulation by my tongue. She likes it a lot but after her orgasm, she doesnt feel much horny. And after that her clitoris is also very sensitive that I donot think I can make her come again using clitoral simulation. I want to know what can I do to properly warm her up for penetration as sometimes she can get dry really quicky in her refactory time. Also similar to guys, is it relatively hard for girls to come again?

My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. I was pretty conservative and religious when we got married, and never had sex with anyone but my wife. She had a more exciting past, and had slept with a number of guys before she became religious. The fact that she had slept with other guys really bothered me and was a difficult issue for us to deal with. As the years have gone by, we have become less religious and I have become far more open to sexuality and exploring it. My wife has always had a freaky side in bed although she tries to suppress it. The thing is the thought of my wife fucking all those other guys really turns me on. Now I wish she would share details with me. Was she wild? How many guys did she fuck? How did she loses her virginity? How freaky was she? (Just typing this is making me so hard) Did she have a one night stand? A threesome? Cheat on anyone? Suck their cock? Oh my god did she let them fuck her in the arse? Did they role-play? Did she like it rough? Bondage? Choking? Fuck in public? In a car? Did she pick up a guy at a club? Did she have a drunken fuck with a friend? Did she only fuck guys? I want to ask her about it? I want her to tell me what it was like for her to fuck other men...

I made her feel ashamed of her sexual past when we first got married but now I don't feel that way at all. She should embrace her past, be proud of even. Honestly I am jealous, I want to know what it is like to fuck other women, have a one night stand, fuck around, feel my cock in another womans mouth

Should I ask her to tell about her past, who she fucked, where, what they did? Who was good in bed, what did they did? Who she still fantasizes about? Does she ever think of them when we fuck? I don't know why but that really turns me on. I guess part of me hopes that it unlocks her freaky side and she wants to have a threesome, or allows me to fuck other women, or just unlocks the raw, animal, freaky sex I fantasize about. Should I ask her? Would it mess things up?

The other thing is that I really regret my religious past and constantly fantasize about fucking women from my younger days imagining what it would have been like if I was not such an uptight prick. I constantly fantasise about cheating on my wife and find myself planning how to meet women for a one night stand, hot prolonged affair or to find a fuck buddy. I feel cheated and like I am owed the chance to fuck around and explore my sexuality. If I told my wife do you think she would let me do it? Would it turn her on to imagine me fucking other women? Or should I say nothing and just go for it? I love my wife but I don't think I can control myself any longer. I know cheating is wrong but how can she deny me fucking other women when she has already fucked more than her fair share of other men? Don't I deserve this?

I’m male and I’ve considered putting a finger up or even using toys but I’m not sure if they would actually help me or not

I (20f) have only been with one guy (22m) he’s had a bit of experience before me but nothing past missionary I believe. Our sessions go on for about 20-40 minutes longer when he finishes. Sometimes we get into it and I can’t keep up and he finishes himself . I feel bad when that happens but he hasn’t mentioned or seemed upset about that. I’m still really new to it all that I still feel some pain when we get going but now he has mentioned trying different positions apart from missionary or me being on top. My long story short how can I help myself keep up with him and how can I get myself to finish as well ? Any tips for anything would help.

For people who use birth control, what changes did you notice? Which birth control? I heard that some people gain weight, get acne, and get “drier down there” due to the hormonal changes. I’m not having sex right now, but I’m curious for future reasons😂 I don’t think I’d want to use a condom or Plan B every time. (I’m sure Plan B has its biological and psychological side effects as well; isn’t it essentially “birth control”?) Are there any natural or holistic remedies? Thank you, people🫡

We’ve tried to have sex a few times now each time we have to stop because she’s in pain. I’m 90% sure it’s because of some muscles contracting and making it difficult for insertion but I’m not sure what to do.

Although, I don't have a problem with saving ourselves for marriage I have a serious problem... which is my sex drive, I'm super horny it's so bad considering that my bf looks good so it makes it harder for me. Does anyone know what to do so I can lower mine.?

Yeah as you read I sometimes wake up at 12 because an erection and sometimes I wake up two times in the same night because of that. But lately I haven’t got any morning woods maybe because someone wakes me up? Idk it’s weird.

Hi,

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 18 months. We started off hot and heavy but things tailed off after around 6 months. I brought up our lack of intimacy recently, and she said she wanted it to feel natural and not forced. I have never tried to force her into anything/make her feel bad when not in the mood etc but the discussion ended there. I asked why and she said it’s something she needed to get out of her head, but nothing has really change. We feel more like friends at the moment and it’s really starting to bring me down as I love her with all my heart and want us to work romantically. I know she has had bad experiences with men before so I’m not sure if that’s playing a part, is there anything anyone can suggest to help me through this?

I (20F) can only get turned on with older men. I can’t find men my age (or anyone “young” tbh) attractive at all no matter what and I can’t imagine myself fucking any of them. Now even with the porn I watch, I can only get turned on if the there’s a big age gap between the guy and the girl, and the guy is clearly much older. This kink isn’t doing me any harm right now, but when it comes to dating for example, I know I most likely will not be dating those older men and I am worried that if I date someone around my age I won’t be able to get turned on by them. I really don’t know what to do, is it possible to get rid of a kink? And if so, should I try to?

Like. You don’t even have to be the one giving them anything just like. Oh yea, they’re getting that thing they want, they’re enjoying that. That’s hot.

Its compersion ?

But maybe more than that. Help me find the word and honestly why you think that’s even a thing/kink? I think it’s the only thing I like, it’s not anymore specific or anything

ever since my evil ex broke up with me on thanksgiving, shes been sending me videos of her and her new bf having sex through fb messenger, they really screwed with my head to the point of thinking of them whenever I have an orgasm, how do I get past this? its driving me nuts

I (22f) hooked up with my boss (40-something m) last Friday night. I know that it’s not super ethical or professional for a boss to sleep with an employee, but I don’t feel taken advantage of or anything. I definitely feel I played an equal role in making it happen. What kind of grossed me out was finding a note on my desk on Monday with a substantial gift card in it. It made me feel like a sex worker and it kind of ruined the memory of what was otherwise a fun experience for me. I’m not sure how to respond. Usually, when someone does something to me I don’t like, I usually just tell them, but I’m kind of afraid to bring this up because I’m afraid he will double down and say he thinks of me in terms of being able to buy sex. I guess this is more of a job question than a sex question, but any advice you have would be appreciated.

Hello, I was wondering if anyone has any advice. I am an 18F and have struggles with orgasming through penetration from myself or others whether it’s from a penis or hands. I can orgasm through clitorial stimulation but do not from sex. Does anyone have advice?

So recently I(F23)met this guy(M22) online we found each other mutually attractive we didn’t really have much conversation besides making plans to meet up and hangout. So the day comes I come over to his place it was awkward for the both of us because we both expressed it was our first time meeting someone off an app and we were both kinda nervous. So we’re talking getting to know each other in his bed then we end up cuddling and I’m like hinting at him to make the first move because I never really do it but I could tell he was nervous so I go in and make the first move start kiss him and he gets on top and we’re kissing like things are going okay. After like a 20min make out i feel he’s not hard but he’s still like trying to make things happen so I just go with it, we did a lot of foreplay so I’m thinking he’s good, but no as we’re literally about to fuck he’s still not hard and he just starts jacking off so now I feel embarrassed because he couldn’t get it up to me(I know it could just be a him problem) we took a break and he still couldn’t get it up so we called it a night.

He was actually pretty cute and I would give him another chance but idk if he’d want to see me again after everything

I’m recently divorced. We had issues in the bedroom for a VERY long time prior to the divorce that led to essentially no sex for quite a while. I’m now single, no kids, still in my 20s and in good shape. I have no doubt that I will find another long term partner eventually once I have healed from the pain of the divorce.

In the mean time, I don’t really have any intention of sleeping around or having meaningless flings with people. When I get back into dating I intend to be relatively serious about it.

So for now, I’ve started bouncing around the idea of getting a higher-end sex doll for my own usage and to blow off some sexual steam and repression that built up through the years of a sexless marriage. However, my worry is that maybe that’ll have adverse effects on how I perceive sex or the accessibility of it? I’m not sure. I’m sure there’s research on this, but I was curious if any of you had any thoughts or experience in this realm.

I’m not dead-set on getting it. I only want to if I can know that it’s not gonna F me up in the long run (and I will note, I’m well aware that anything CAN become a problem if you allow it to become a problem. But there’s a difference between, for example, smoking weed and running the risk of that becoming a problem, versus trying heroin and running the risk of that becoming a problem. Just want to make sure I wouldn’t be playing with fire here)

I know this is a common topic, but I can’t find anything specific to my situation.

I (25F) have a much higher sex drive than my boyfriend (25M) and I’m trying to find out ways to remedy this. We’ve been together for nearly 2 years, living together for 1 of them. I love this man so deeply and am positive that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. The only issue we’ve come across is our mismatch in libido. We currently have sex 3-4 times a week and it is amazing for both parties. I know this may be a lot or seen as normal, but there’s a decent amount of times where I want it multiple days in a row. He has let me know that doing it everyday is too much for him, which I totally understood. I’m a very very sexual person. 3-4 times a week was a compromise we’ve made because I honestly want it everyday. He has told me that while he definitely has a sex drive, it’s about average or a bit lower. But if we go like 2-3 days without it, I find myself getting irritable which I’m trying to get better at.

I know that I could masterbate, and sometimes that helps (although I have trouble taking care of myself when he’s home. I feel embarrassed.) but a good chunk of the time, I just want to feel him and get a good creampie. Sex is a major connection thing for me. It’s honestly gotten to the point where I question if I’m a sex addict or have wayyy too high of a sex drive. There’s times when I feel like I need to have a quick orgasm before I could be productive and get antsy if my horniness doesn’t get addressed.

I think it’s worth noting that both of us are on antidepressants and he lost his virginity to me (he has done other stuff with past girlfriends, just not PIV sex). I also have an IUD and adhd. Even though this is an ongoing discussion we’re having, we both are certain that we want to spend the rest of our lives together (we’ve talked about marriage). I just want this to get sorted out.

I know mismatch in libido is common, but is anyone in a similar situation as me or have any recommendation on what I/we could do? Tips or solutions? How have you fixed this issue in your relationship? I can’t stress this enough, everything else between us is absolutely perfect and I couldn’t ask for a better partner. If I could, I would love to find a way to lower my sex drive but idk if that’s possible. (Sorry if this is all over the place). Any advice appreciated!

So I have this weird kink where i like to eat my own cum when a woman tells me to. Whether it's out of her or off of her or she watches me on live and tells me to eat it. Is that weird?

Hi. I (24F) have multiple issues with having sex with my partner (F26). The problem is me feeling shame about pretty much everything.

The biggest problem is my obsession with hygiene. This morning my gf initiated and I told her that I wanted to shower first (I had showered last night before going to sleep) and in the shower I had time to think about everything that could go wrong this time. To clarify, last couple times we have had sex there's been issues with concentrating because I worry about taking so long to cum, needing to use toys, needing to use so much lube, my gf's arm getting sore, how I look, my hygiene (I shower everytime before having sex). When I got out the shower, my partner sensed the energy shift and knew instantly what was going on and we didn't have sex.

The hygiene obsession has always been a problem for me but it has gotten worse. I have this almost ritualistic need to get everything squeaky clean, scratch every part of my body with soap multiple times to feel clean enough to have sex, even if cunnilingus isn't involved and we're just using hands and toys. We can't have extempore sex because of this. I don't initiate unless I can plan this ritualistic shower beforehand to be ready to have sex and to be fair, it's not worth it if I'm not 100% sure we're going to have sex.

What can I do? Has somebody been in similar situation and gotten over it? What did you do?

Hi, I'm not sure if this is where I should post this but here goes anyways. I (30F) just recently started a relationship with my (29M) partner. We started taking things slowly and in the beginning there was lots of slow foreplay and intimacy before sex. I feel like now that we've had sex that slowness has kind of disappeared. I am autistic and can be very blunt and it can come off as rude/angry. I want to talk to him about slowing down and enjoying eachother more before going right to sex. What would be a gentle/less blunt way of talking about this? I have communication struggles and have a really hard time bringing up things like this in person, but don't want to talk about this in text with as I feel like it's something that needs to be in person. I appreciate any advice anyone might have! Thanks (Edit: I have an anxiety disorder and PTSD so trying to tell people what I want/need is hard)

Me ha pasado que me han estado mirando más las mujeres porque me dejé crecer el pelo, estoy yendo juicioso al gimnasio hace ya 2 años y me he preocupado por cómo me visto. Siempre he sido un parche y muy tranquilo y abierto entonces con mi progreso siento que hasta mis amigas me han estado mirando más. La verdad es que me votan señales que siento que hasta son muy obvias y me da mucha pena, me siento re mal.. Siento que no debería seguir en esa corriente así solo porque si y pues como uno de hombre tiene que dar los primeros pasos pues la verdad termino en nada.

He tenido momentos (pocos diría) que me decido a hacer algo pero como que ya pasa el tiempo, el mood como que ya pasó y no es indicado, no aprovecho la situación cuando está realmente yendo bien, me sienta mal y termino haciendo el intento mal, como que hablo en vez de actuar y se vuelve en una situación incómoda.

¿Qué recomiendan para dejar de ser tan agüevado o para pasar así más fácil a yo sentirme relajado con la nena y besarla? La verdad una vez las beso y están a gusto me relajo.