My girlfriend and I like to use a shared notes on the iOS notes app, but it never syncs properly. Does anyone use a similar app where we can both type notes, but it syncs more frequently? Ideally it has both text and images. Thanks in advance!

Hello guys it was nice being part of this community for 3 months but I guess LDR is not something for me.
This is my history with my now ex-girlfriend:
We met in country A and dated for 1 month and then officially in Relationship for 2 months knowing that she was moving to country B for 1 year. We were both hesitating to keep the relationship the last time we saw each other since we didnt think we could handle it but at the last moment we decided to give it a shot since we were both sad and she's just leaving for 1 year (and the time difference is just 1 hour).

Yesterday, my GF broke up with me owe the distance between us, she didnt pick up my call on friday night and got upset because of that, then she told me the relationship was not working. The thought of breaking up was also crossing my mind for the last two weeks because I was starting to feel the drawbacks of LDR, even though I visited her just one month after she moved, and we said to each other "I love you" for the first time before I came back.

The relationship was good, no fights or big issues but she was having too much anxiety and problems with her new life, having issues at work, the language, etc. But the main issue was the lack of communication, we were just Facetiming, or calling each other 2-3 times per week, we both suck at texting so it felt like we were only friends. We talked last night for 4 hours just to say goodbye and we both realized that we needed each other physically, to be able to cuddle with, have sex, kiss, etc. So I guess we were both longing the relationship.

Even though she was the one to brought the break up first, I agreed with her reasons (the distance and ourr physical needs). I really wanted to fight for the relationship but I think it is better to step back so she can fix her life and we can think about the relationship. And from my side I think we could have end up hurting more each other if we keep this relationship.

Good thing is we both agreed that we are breaking up just because of the distance, not because we don't love each other, and we are willing to give us a second chance when she comes back and we can actually be physically together. We talked for 4 hours and even though it was sad we had some last fun and enjoyable videocall.

I am not gonna lie, I am devastated but I think it is for the best, if we are meant to each other we will meet again next year here. Meanwhile I will keep loving her (YOU), but a period of NC will help.

I am sad to not be part of success in this community but at least I tried and I do not regret it.

My boyfriend and I (both 21) have been super close friends for a couple of years and just a few months ago, we started to date.

One of my main concerns before getting into this relationship was specifically their mental health and at moments, can become very concerning (such as seclusion from friends and intrusive thoughts) and that I wouldn’t be able to provide as a partner. This isn’t all the time, just during periods of times.

This doesn’t include the long hours where I wouldn’t get a message and the days where only a few words are exchanged between us, making me feel lonely but also selfish for wanting attention during such an awful time.

I have three questions: 1.) If you relate to struggling with some form of mental issues, what would you feel you would need the most from your partner?

2.) If you are in my position, what has helped with the distance emotionally?

3.) When I decided to ask him out, I set a boundary for myself(he doesn’t not know yet) based off past experiences through our friendship that if he were to,, attempt,, while we were physically separated then I would have to break the relationship. Do you think this a fair boundary ?

New here and I wanted to share this because it’s kinda cute but creepy at the same time!(?) I (25F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (27M) for 5 years and have recently got engaged. I usually would send him random “I love you” texts an hour or so after falling asleep - I would wake up for a few seconds only to pick my phone up and send this and then fall asleep right after - but I would always remember doing this after waking up in the morning. I found it kinda cute and like a validation that I do actually deeply love this person. Lately, I’ve been noticing “I love you” texts sent to my boyfriend in the middle of the night while having no recollection of even doing it in the morning. It creeps me out thinking that my WhatsApp might be hacked but then, he is the only person a text would have gone out to and that too an “I love you!! In that case, shoutout to the hacker I guess?! For being a solid wingman! But it could also be me but I have zero recollection of doing it. Either way, it’s cute and creepy at the same time!

Tl;dr sends “I love you” texts to fiancé while half asleep and has no recollection of it in the morning.

So me(19f) and my bf(20m) are starting to think about moving in together a few months after our 1 year which is January 9th. I'm worried it would seem too early or something I always see people saying you should wait so and so time to move in and stuff so I'd like to know how soon some of yall moved in together and how it's working? I've already thought of what if things didn't work and it wouldn't be hard to move him back if need be but idk ig I'm just anxious. We've met twice but he will be here for a 3rd time in December for around 2 weeks. Did yall feel really anxious about this decision too? I feel extremely excited but i even stress bad about normal decisions so it's hard not to feel so stressed about it. (Sorry for the rambling idk how to put these thoughts together well ) and also I'll be 20 In December idk if that matters or not lol

My girlfriend and I have been in LDR for the past 2 years, we are both from the US but on opposite sides. Today she confessed to me that she caught feelings for her male friend from Uni. She said she also kissed him. She said she is missing out the physical part. After a long call, I thought it be better if we break up if she wants to be with him or someone who lives closer to her. She later texted me that she felt like she made the wrong decision and wanted to get back with me. I don't know what to do and how I am able to trust her again. I don't want to let this go to waste. She admitted her mistake and was honest with me about it. But I can't help but feel so empty and betrayed that she couldn't be honest with me about it. She kept our relationship hidden from him and he didn't know about me. Please help me out...should I try and find someone that isn't like this and worth my time? Or give another chance?

I'm (16M) and my girlfriend (16F) met online and have been dating for 5 Months. We have consistently called everyday for the past 4 months for about 6+ hours every weekday and 12+ hours every weekend day. I love her a lot but will it affect us in the long-term?

We stay up late for each other even though we tell each other to sleep and get rest. We make poems for each other, share little things, play songs, stay in calls although nobody talks, etc... I love her so much

There was student exchange in my shcool doorms and his guy said he thought i was cute and saked my sister for my ig and ky sister gave him my ig ant then we started texting and being closer in real life we were hugging and we kissed ( it was my first kiss) but he has to go back to his country he kefr ne his cigarete lighter and some gifts and a junper but now when we text he trxts like he has no emotiona and it takes him longer to respond but u respond immediately, we talked before he he left how we should give time to get to know each other more and then we will se if we wil be in a relationship but we both said that we want something in the future but i dont know if he even likes me This is just to say the sweet things he did: He hugged me all the time, i got drunk and he stayed with me all night and brought me water, he called me to be where he was all the time so i was almost always with him, he opened ig in front of me and texted and didn't care if i saw, and things like that, and he sent me tik tok that said i love you plus everyone says he is not like that and he deks not seem like he woukd two time but idk

But i am worried that he has other girl in his country, because he has multiple og accounts and i looked at his tik tok reposts and he reposted a videos that could be for or for some other girl im just worried because i love him and i don't want to lose him

Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship for a bit more than a month now. Everything has been going pretty well until thanksgiving. He started replying very slow(he used to reply in minutes and now it took hours) and would say he was busy but he would be online on other apps. Before that I asked if he had Snapchat and he said he didn’t but today my friend found his snap because he was using the same username and decided to add him to test if he was loyal. My friend asked if he was single and he responded by saying he was taken and gay. I’m female so I was surprised to hear this but my friend then confronted him and he confirmed to being in a relationship with me and said that him claiming to be gay was because he thought my friend was a predator(???). His snap score was also relatively high. A few other weird things happened and I am confused by his behavior, it’s my first time being in a relationship and I’m still relatively young so if anyone knows what I should do or what to say if I confront him that’d be helpful. (It’s my first time posting on this app, sorry for any mistakes)

I tried to keep it short but I think it's not possible, apologies for the long ass post

So there was this friend of mine who I knew from my childhood, we were schoolmates, she was really pretty and sweet and so was kinda the school crush, in 2017 we kinda started dating but things ended as we were not able to meet because of long distance and stuff and a relationship cannot survive just online, I was heartbroken but I moved on, after that we didn't speak to each other for a while, then in 2020 we connected again and we kinda apologized and owned up for our mistakes.

From 2020-2022 we were just friends but somewhere around 2022 I fell in love with her again, this time I fell pretty hard, even though we lived in different countries we managed to meet up once and speak at least once a week on calls.When I told her I loved her she turned me down, at that time I kinda was not able to accept that, I know I may sound like a jerk but in my head she was THE ONE for me, I didn't do anything forcefully to her, I didn't cross any of her boundaries, I did not emotionally blackmail her or anything, she said she wanted to be friends and I kept at that, only one thing which was kinda odd for me during that time was she used kinda ghost me once in a while, sometimes she used to call me up every Sunday and talk for an hour or two and sometimes she used to say stuff like she'll call me later but never did. I used to think she was busy and stuff, I used to think she may not be perfect at communicating but she's busy and let her be.

I did have relapse once or twice and expressed my feelings towards her twice, (I was drunk once) which created a lot of friction, but we managed to patch things up

After a while I was completely done chasing her, I know I should have moved on when she said she was not interested in me for the first time but I did not, it's my mistake and I accept that, but I finally told her, "I don't have feelings for you anymore, I know I've said I moved on once or twice before but still ended up falling for you again but this time I'm completely done once and for all and it won't happen again" those were not my exact words but I wrote it in the nicest way possible in which I don't her feelings in anyway, to which she responded positively, she said she was happy to hear that and we can be good friends. At this point I was genuinely done chasing her and only wanted to be friends and nothing more, I tried talking to her but she kept avoiding me, she called me once on my birthday and whished me, and she told me she'll call me later but she never did, I called her on her birthday and wished her, she told me she'll call me later but she never did! I confronted via text once and she told me she's going through some stuff and she'll call me once things get better but I see her enjoying with her other friends and making time for other friends, I got to know she was avoiding me on purpose.

When I was talking to another friend of mine, who is a family friend of that person I got to know about each and everything, why she did whatever she did, before I get to that part I just want to say I completely trust this friend and I do trust her information cuz she has been reliable all the time.

So the information this friend gave me about her was

1. she was dating someone else on the side when we were in that long distance relationship, she never admitted but she absolutely dated someone on the side

2. she was in a live in relationship during 2022 when we first started talking on a weekly basis but they both had a huge fight and were falling apart and that's the only reason she kept calling me once a week, I asked her once or twice if she was dating that guy but she always denied it so I thought she was single

I feel like whenever she and that guy started having issues and stuff she used to give me attention, and whenever things got better between them she used to push me away

Now, today she has left it at the " things are cool between us, I'm just busy and going through some tough time I'll call you when I can" stage but I know what's the reality

There are two choices,

1. I can let it be and delete that person from my life and carry on with my life

2. I can confront her about everything in detail but I know it will just create a bigger mess and she will get to know who was that friend who told me everything and it can create friction between their families ( they both are family friends)

The mature thing would be option 1) and I know many of you guys will agree I should go with it, but I know myself, I know I can't live peacefully if I do that, I can move on live peacefully for a while but it will come haunting me later sometime, how shitty she treated me and how I let it happen, I hate hate leaving without closure, one of my friendship ended in 2020 without closure and it still bothers me to this date

What I'm looking for here is an option 3)

I thought I'll end it in a nice way saying something like " we were good friends but sadly it has to end for reasons I cannot explain, it's not your fault, I'm sorry I can't do this anymore I hope you understand"

I want you guys to give me an advice, I know all of my mistakes and I'm aware of it, I know how I tried staying friends with someone I had feelings for was wrong, I know everything where I was wrong, I don't want you guys to point out my mistakes cuz I'm 100% aware of all the mistakes I did I just want some advice on how to deal with this further as I want to send a text and bid her farewell from my life.

I just want some closure, if not from her side, at least from my side.

Tldr: how do I end things and get closure from a friend of mine who I had feelings for, who said we can be friends but only gave me attention when her relationship had problems and pulled away when issues in her relationship started getting resolved.

Im M, Ftm 16 and my girlfriend is F 15 (my gf didn't know im trans when this all happened) We got to know each other first in tiktok, and under 24hours we got together (maybe a little dumb i'll Admit it)

Since im trans, and came out like last summer to My family, it's pretty fresh for everyone that im a boy now I've been in the same school for idk like 2-4 years? Which means all my friends got to know me when i was a girl, which is basically the reason most of my friends are girls. My girlfriend, Maria (fake name) noticed i mostly hang out with girls, my friends She hasnt said it out loud to me but i think she is a little insecure One day she said "i dont want you to talk with other girls anymore"

Im too lazy to do the math but i'd say about 98% of my friends are female If i stopped talking to them i'd maybe have maximum of 10 people i could talk to

That honestly was kind of shitty, but i get it that she might be scared i'd cheat on her (i would never)

I tried convinsing her that they're just my friends, and i got my eyes only for her

I tried convinsing Maria that they're only my friends and i'd never cheat on her for probably like 20minutes😭 Obviously i didn't wanna stop talking to my friends i've known for YEARS Eventually Maria was like "fine you can be with your friends" But she seemed kinda.. Idk Mad? After that converstations have been a little idk.. Dry? I think shes mad at me and idk what to do😭

If you have any advise how to approach this please tell me🙏

A long time ago I remember seeing some device that allowed partners to track the health (heartbeat, steps, exercise, etc.) of each other. But I can't remember what this device was nor what it was called. Only what it would show the respective partner.

Does anyone here know of such a device? And if so, where I can find it?

Hi, so i need some help on how to transfer and receive money from Mexico to Egypt. Me and my partner are trying to figure it out for a long whe now😭 So if anyone has any tips it would be nice🙏

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So, I have been dating this guy for 2 years now long distance, we have a very good relationship and recently decided to close the gap. I know this is something often celebrated but I’ve been so anxious. Am I the only one experiencing this? I know he loves me and things between us are amazing. His family loves me, he talks about our future all the time, etc. I’m genuinely excited for us to take this step but now that it’s so close to happening I’m terrified of the changes to come and the doubts that pop into my head. I’ve always been a little insecure due to past experiences and I always see people posting about their amazing experiences closing the gap but no one ever mentions how scary it can be. Please tell me I’m not the only one? Has anyone made the move that can offer words of encouragement?

Bonjour, nous attendons une petite fille au Québec et nous adorons le prénom Ivy Rose. De quelle façon auriez vous tendance à prononcer ce prénom ? « Haivy» Rose ou bien «« IvI » Rose ?

Merci d’avance !

So I met this girl this past April on my vacation in South America. We hooked up multiple times very passionate with eachother this was for a very short time we were together but we made the most of every minute. I told her I thought we should just be friends while I’m gone and she wanted to be more but was okay with that. We continued to talk for many months very frequently everyday for the most part and FT often, but things were just kinda feeling like we knew everything that was going on with each other. I think we both just got a little bored and were on the same page telepathically about not needed to talk every day. A few weeks went by before I said anything to her and another few weeks before she responded, we continue to talk and conversations are rolling well then she will ask me something and when I respond she will ghost me for weeks, I started to feel sad like maybe her ex is fucking with her head. She knows I’m going back to see her in march and I will be around for at least 6 months this time. She also tells me she’s looking forward to it then ghosts. But just recently we were having a nice conversation and I told her I want to be more serious and use this next time around to really get to know her and put her first and not be going out to clubs on my own every week like I was last time and acting like it’s a vacation. But instead as to create a possible future for us. I think this made her happy and she was very agreeable. But after that she ghosted me again. I’ll be there in about 3 months so I would like to atleast pick up the conversation more as I start nearing. I would say things are going great sometimes and okay others not bad, I guess just my only question would be what do you think is going through her mind during these periods of ghosting?

My bf and I have been together over a year. When he met me I had a very public IG with a large-ish following. At one point prior to us meeting he even followed me. Once we got serious he started bringing up all the issues that he has with my socials.

He doesn’t like that I’m public. He doesn’t like that I’m “engaging with other men and giving them a piece of me”. He’s completely against any photos of me in a bikini, though there are plenty of those prior to him meeting me. He forced me to describe “what I’m on social media for” and then if I dare post something off topic he gets super upset. I thought I understood what he was saying about the talking to other men part, as in not engaging regarding anything other than the topic that “I’m there for” and told him I had stopped doing that. Turns out he meant talking to men at all. So now I’m a liar. And now he’s logged into my IG and monitors my DMs. Which frankly I think makes him even more controlling. I’m private and he gets upset if I approve follower requests that are men.

Is there any recovering from this? Is this just insecurities or is this wildly possessive/controlling? Is there a way to rehab this situation and fix our foundation/form a trusting relationship from here or is it completely broken?

For background, he was in a relationship with a woman who had a large following and ended up inappropriately DMing dudes, cheated on him and told him the positive attention she received from random dudes did something for her that he couldn’t. So there’s definitely baggage/scar tissue there.

‼️M21 😂 not 11 bad bad mistake on my end ‼️

So I’ll be graduating from college soon and have a full time job set up. My bf still has another year of school but we’ve always been distant and will be for at least the next couple years. I am fully invested in the distance and he has brought up worries before but recently it’s been really weighing on him. He said he doesn’t know what the future looks like or when we’ll be close and the thought of that makes him really sad. I have always reassured him and said I’m willing to do it so he has nothing to worry about there. We’ve taken a few days of space to figure things out, but I’m scared he’s just going to break up with me. I know he really loves me but sometimes can get too wrapped up in the “future”. Does anyone have any advice for what to say when we do talk? Edit: he’s 21 not 11😭😭

We just broke up. I (24M) believe we both knew what was coming. I’m doing okay, but I’m really upset that we’ve reached the end.

I can’t stress enough that what keeps an LDR alive is open, honest, vulnerable, and consistent communication. If both of you aren’t willing and able to make that happen, it just won’t work.

I enjoyed being apart of this sub. Lots of great advice and perspectives in here.

me (21f) and my now ex gf (19f) had been dating for four years before they broke up with me the night before thanksgiving. we've been long distance (500+ miles) during the school season for the past two years. she said she couldnt do the distance anymore and that it was making her unhappy, and that didnt want to try and make things better. it ruined my entire week home from my uni in another state and ruined my time with my family on thanksgiving. she said she won't change her mind anytime soon and doesn't want to hear from me. I feel absolutely gutted and completely blindsided. earlier during the day she broke up with me we were literally talking about silly wedding and future plans. she told me she had been thinking about this like a month and a half, so everything she has been saying to me regarding our future has been a lie. I am so sad. I'm not sure if she's gonna want to see me again let alone talk to me. we used to entertain the idea that if we ever broke up, we would try to remain civil and stay friendly for the sake of our mutual friends, but of course we never thought this was going to happen.

does anyone have any advice or words of encouragement to help me get through whatever this is? right now I feel devestated and confused. I dont want to harbor any resentment towards her, she was the first Iove of my life and a part of me is still hoping she'll change her mind and call me. I still love her and she told me as we were breaking up that she still loves me.

im sorry for the long post. im having a hard time and hopeful that some strangers on the internet might be able to give me some kind words. thanks <3

I am Japanese and I have a French bf. We did long distance relationship for 7months and finally he came to Japan to see me.

I have felt the difference of values between us, about us, friends and so on. And I feel he’s a bit selfish rather than individualistic, of which I guess it’s one of French culture.

1. Alcohol and hanging out with friends

He has experienced some mistakes due to alcohol. Like, his drunk friend broke his PC and it cost a lot to both of them. He lost his phone on party but got it back later. So basically I, Japanese who sometimes drink but rarely do party, feel that he lacks his responsibility and he should improve his alcohol habit by changing his mind for alcohol. But he never tries to do that, and it irritates me.

2. Kinda neglecting me when I really need his support

I easily get sick, and I got very sick twice when we were on a trip in Thailand and France. (I was staying in Thailand for half a year so I welcomed him in my place and went on a trip for three weeks together) After traveling southern Thailand, I got 39.4 degrees fever in Thailand but he left me in my place to see his close French friend and surprise him, even though I told him I will miss him a lot and I was so sick. He left me with the word that I have a close friend as a neighbor in my place and it’s ok for him to go. I couldn’t say anything disturbing him so I let him go.

When I was in Paris, I got food poisoning and hospitalized.(I’m so weak 😭) and i got a big room to stay thanks to the insurance. Since he had told me it’ll be expensive to stay in Paris, I asked him if he can sleep on the couch and spend time with me. But he told me he didn’t wanna spend time in hospital in Paris and he went to his friend’s apartment and went for drink. I understood his feelings but I found myself feeling pretty lonely and sad looking back on the trip.

3. No responsibility to stay in my place

So he came to Japan for long term, and he told me he’s gonna find his own apartment in Tokyo cuz my room is so small. Actually I didn’t have a spare key of my room and he didn’t have SIM card when he arrived here, so we had to manage each other’s day schedule in advance. First Friday he came to Japan, he left to hang out with his French friends for 8y and he told me he will come back home around 10-11pm. Turned out, he never texted me after he left my place even at 9pm and I texted the friend by myself when he’s coming back. And he told me around the last train which arrives at 00:30, and I got mad cuz I was exhausted after studying, and wanted to sleep or spending chill time with him. On the chat of his friend’s acc, we argued a lot cuz he was like “you just have to wake up when I come home and open the door” “I didn’t say anything I’ll come back at 10pm” whatever, And we did fight after he came back and temporarily solved. But after that, he removed me on his close friend’s story on Instagram, which is intended to hide his stories of him and his friends cuz I got jealous, according to him. I told him we shouldn’t hide any secrets from each other but he said it’s okay cuz he needed that… Btw he doesn’t pay the half of the rent of my place and has been here for already 18days. He hasn’t made any contract for his place yet.

4. His close girl friends in France

So we’ve been doing long distance and it was fine between us, everything was going well. Before for he came to Japan, I found someone’s acc recommended whose profile pic was my bf wearing a tight pink shirt. I thought it’s funny and it’s his private acc with French friends. Which turned out it’s his close girl friend in France and took the pic when they (4-5 of hs friends) did drink alcohol. I told him it’s weird but he told me that’s just for fun so no problem. I feel scared and weird on this point. He took off his shirt in front of girls and wore some girl’s t shirt…? I don’t wanna imagine. I found this one and found funny one month ago, but when I look back bout it, it terrified me. I tried to find the same acc, but I could only find an acc which used to be that one but changed the ID and profile pic.

I’m Japanese and he’s French. So we have totally different pov, especially about friends and alcohol. Also about individualism ideas.

I have other things to talk about with him which I didn’t pick up to write here. I need any opinions how to talk about this pile of irritating feelings, and how to manage the difference of pov.

Thanks for reading!

Sorry for the unhinged title and post 🤭 but I'm sooooooooooo exciteeeeeeeeeeeeeed.

FLAIR: SAD!