Thersday is a day for questions focusing on women and women's experiences only. No questions related specifically about men/male behaviors will be permitted on Thursdays. This includes questions about women's thoughts on men's words, appearances, actions, or anything else related to men.

This theme day is ENTIRELY focused on individual women and their experiences and thoughts outside of their relationships to others. This includes topics like children, motherhood, pregnancy, and friendships. Everyone is welcome to participate in Thersday regardless of your own gender, but questions should remain focused on women and their experiences and opinions. Thersdays will run from 12am ET Thursday to 12am ET Friday.

Examples of things we'll remove:

• What do you think of men who x?
• How does it make you feel when men x?
• What are your best/worst experiences with men?
• If a man does x, how would you react?
• Everything to do with pregnancy, parenting, children, making new friends, and any other topic that involves a woman's relationships. Those topics are very welcome any other day of the week!

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"Not a great partner" could be that they weren't responsible, didn't prioritize you, couldn't handle household chores, crazy family, no career, etc...

Maybe they were great personality wise, all of your politics/religion lined up, etc

I understand weaponized incompetence is a big deal, and an insidious way of behaving which really doesn't leave any other options open except anger and criticism or leaving the relationship. An apology and a promise to do better doesn't really cut it, when it's a continuous state that doesn't go away. But what are the perimeters of that? I guess everyone will have their own line. E.g. if your partner and you are furnishing your new place, and they go out and buy crockery, but they don't color match the mugs and the plates, is that weaponized incompetence? (Is it incompetence?) I saw a post about how British people don't wash suds off their plates. I always thought it was strange when people don't do that. If you ask someone to do the dishes and they leave the suds on, is that (weaponized) incompetence? Does it change if they are British? What are the "biggest" things you don't think are worth criticising and what are the "smallest" things that are?

What’s your vibe? Your communication style? What makes you you that attracts people to you?

When you catch a guy eyeing you, does it make you feel objectified, flattered, or a combination of the two?

Is this a daily thing or a hair wash cycle thing

Was there a specific opportunity, decision, or moment that made a significant difference in your financial situation or career? Maybe it was finally having stability, learning a new skill, or taking a big risk?

People have started to get scared to get married by the fear of paying dowry or the fear of getting to pay alimony on separation. How does one overcome this?

How do you look cute, stay warm outside, not overheat inside, and not have to carry around too many layers?

Due to popular demand, every Monday from 12am ET and (-5 GMT) until 12am on Tuesday, submissions related to dating, relationships, or attraction will be removed.;

Examples of things we'll remove:

• What do you look for in a partner?
• What does your SO do that you love/annoy you?
• Are you attracted to [feature]? (Includes celebrities)
• Would you ever date noted guitarist Slash?
• Is [thing] a red flag/yellow flag/dealbreaker/white flag?
• What do you think about men who eat muffins alone in coffee shops? How about the sexiest way for them to remove a jacket, or zip up hoodie?
• Any question involving sex, attraction, or romanctic relationships.

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~The AskWomen Mod Team