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AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. As part of our commitment to that mission, the AskWomen subreddit is curated to promote respectful and on-topic discussions, and not serve as a debate subreddit.

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AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. As part of our commitment to that mission, the AskWomen subreddit is curated to promote respectful and on-topic discussions, and not serve as a debate subreddit.



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✓ Please be inclusive with question phrasing. Questions specifying majority demographics are not permitted.
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/r/AskWomen

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20

How do you feel when going to a strip club?

36 Comments
2025/01/02
05:07 UTC

5

Happy Thersday!

Thersday is a day for questions focusing on women and women's experiences only. No questions related specifically about men/male behaviors will be permitted on Thursdays. This includes questions about women's thoughts on men's words, appearances, actions, or anything else related to men.

This theme day is ENTIRELY focused on individual women and their experiences and thoughts outside of their relationships to others. This includes topics like children, motherhood, pregnancy, and friendships. Everyone is welcome to participate in Thersday regardless of your own gender, but questions should remain focused on women and their experiences and opinions. Thersdays will run from 12am ET Thursday to 12am ET Friday.

Examples of things we'll remove:

  • What do you think of men who x?
  • How does it make you feel when men x?
  • What are your best/worst experiences with men?
  • If a man does x, how would you react?
  • Everything to do with pregnancy, parenting, children, making new friends, and any other topic that involves a woman's relationships. Those topics are very welcome any other day of the week!

If you have any questions about these supplemental rules, please message the moderators and we will be happy to discuss it with you.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

0 Comments
2025/01/02
05:01 UTC

86

What happened when your significant other was great for you as a person but not a great partner?

"Not a great partner" could be that they weren't responsible, didn't prioritize you, couldn't handle household chores, crazy family, no career, etc...

Maybe they were great personality wise, all of your politics/religion lined up, etc

33 Comments
2025/01/02
04:27 UTC

4

What kinds of things is it okay to criticize your partner for? How much?

I understand weaponized incompetence is a big deal, and an insidious way of behaving which really doesn't leave any other options open except anger and criticism or leaving the relationship. An apology and a promise to do better doesn't really cut it, when it's a continuous state that doesn't go away. But what are the perimeters of that? I guess everyone will have their own line. E.g. if your partner and you are furnishing your new place, and they go out and buy crockery, but they don't color match the mugs and the plates, is that weaponized incompetence? (Is it incompetence?) I saw a post about how British people don't wash suds off their plates. I always thought it was strange when people don't do that. If you ask someone to do the dishes and they leave the suds on, is that (weaponized) incompetence? Does it change if they are British? What are the "biggest" things you don't think are worth criticising and what are the "smallest" things that are?

34 Comments
2025/01/02
02:54 UTC

1

When did you start "feeling" your age?

2 Comments
2025/01/02
02:22 UTC

76

What did you grow up believing that ended up being a complete lie?

154 Comments
2025/01/02
01:13 UTC

46

How would you feel if a guy only asked you out to the gym?

80 Comments
2025/01/02
00:26 UTC

4

How did you feel during your pregnancy, and what moments would you highlight as the most special or most challenging?

33 Comments
2025/01/01
20:44 UTC

30

Those who find themselves getting into relationships easily, what’s your modus operandi?

What’s your vibe? Your communication style? What makes you you that attracts people to you?

18 Comments
2025/01/01
19:19 UTC

59

Women who wanted to get married but refused to propose to your partner, why?

112 Comments
2025/01/01
17:00 UTC

404

How do you feel when men check you out?

When you catch a guy eyeing you, does it make you feel objectified, flattered, or a combination of the two?

340 Comments
2025/01/01
14:20 UTC

40

What are your favorite non-romcom romance movies?

41 Comments
2025/01/01
04:02 UTC

21

What’s your favorite beer?

65 Comments
2025/01/01
04:03 UTC

354

How often are you showering?

Is this a daily thing or a hair wash cycle thing

738 Comments
2025/01/01
00:10 UTC

96

What was your “game changer” moment financially or career-wise?

Was there a specific opportunity, decision, or moment that made a significant difference in your financial situation or career? Maybe it was finally having stability, learning a new skill, or taking a big risk?

48 Comments
2024/12/31
22:09 UTC

89

How is sex after kids and peri/menopause? Is it happening?

51 Comments
2024/12/31
12:46 UTC

1

What are you addicted to?

16 Comments
2024/12/31
12:47 UTC

118

What would your reason be for ever holding back an orgasm?

52 Comments
2024/12/31
09:38 UTC

0

In what scenarios is asking for alimony fair? How does one ensure that your partner might not misuse it before even getting married?

People have started to get scared to get married by the fear of paying dowry or the fear of getting to pay alimony on separation. How does one overcome this?

31 Comments
2024/12/31
12:06 UTC

269

How do you feel about taking a hot shower and having a good long crying session as a release while in the shower?

120 Comments
2024/12/31
02:07 UTC

158

What do you wear to go bar hopping in cold weather?

How do you look cute, stay warm outside, not overheat inside, and not have to carry around too many layers?

66 Comments
2024/12/30
23:42 UTC

67

Which core value of yours gives you the greatest satisfaction?

60 Comments
2024/12/30
18:55 UTC

33

What was your reason to cry on your b’day !! Were you able to cope up ?

78 Comments
2024/12/30
19:01 UTC

58

What is on your wishlist for 2025?

106 Comments
2024/12/30
18:28 UTC

0

What is your resistance to trying nudism?

42 Comments
2024/12/30
14:06 UTC

7

What if we can make a film on your life? What's the name of it and what's highlight of it?

18 Comments
2024/12/30
13:26 UTC

77

Not just roses… what’s a great way for someone to show you they appreciate you?

63 Comments
2024/12/30
06:22 UTC

0

Mate Free Monday

Due to popular demand, every Monday from 12am ET and (-5 GMT) until 12am on Tuesday, submissions related to dating, relationships, or attraction will be removed.;

Examples of things we'll remove:

  • What do you look for in a partner?
  • What does your SO do that you love/annoy you?
  • Are you attracted to [feature]? (Includes celebrities)
  • Would you ever date noted guitarist Slash?
  • Is [thing] a red flag/yellow flag/dealbreaker/white flag?
  • What do you think about men who eat muffins alone in coffee shops? How about the sexiest way for them to remove a jacket, or zip up hoodie?
  • Any question involving sex, attraction, or romanctic relationships.

If you have any questions about these supplemental rules, please message the moderators and we will be happy to discuss it with you.

~The AskWomen Mod Team

0 Comments
2024/12/30
05:02 UTC

422

What was the kindest thing said to you when you were engaged? Something that just stuck.

66 Comments
2024/12/29
23:00 UTC

30

How do you handle shame from past experiences?

40 Comments
2024/12/29
22:41 UTC

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