Pre-COVID, I used OkCupid a fair amount and would get a couple likes a week, and maybe a few matches a month. Did go on some dates from those, though nothing really panned out after 1-3. I tried again post-COVID and was slammed with spam from overseas. Contacted support, they insisted it was "normal behavior" but I got a refund for the Premium and closed my account.

I just recently thought about trying again, and it's the same thing. I get 10+ likes a day, mostly from Africa and the Philippines. Over three weeks, not a single like from anywhere in the US. Are these spammers, or just people looking for a way out of their current country? Not that I'm interested either way.

Does anyone else get all these "likes"? It's too bad, I still see some promising local people but I don't know if everyone is getting the same "noise".

I got a message from someone I had 1 date with from OkCupid before, 6 years ago. In her profile she said she really likes back and forth sarcasm, and witty verbal flirting. I've never felt really good at either of those things, so when she didn't want to meet again I figured I wasn't good enough at doing those things, I know I'm not good at and don't like sarcasm in general, so I moved on. Now I got a message from her again, she is interested in me and seemingly deleted her account and created it again during these years? The old message history is gone, but it's definitely her.

Anyway, how much to say about what happened before? I'd be willing to meet and do something like a long hike together if she's willing to do most of the talking. Kind of intimidates me how she's apparently got everything else well setup for herself in her life "All I need now is a partner to enhance my already fabulous life!" I believe that's what her profile said before also, and I didn't measure up. I feel like the less said about before is better, better to make a new start, but should it come as a surprise at some point?

Does anyone know how to get this app to stop buzzing like I've gotten a new notification each time I open the damn thing? I've gone into the app settings, turned everything off and it still buzzes and shows a new notification at the top of my phone. I've cleared the cache, nothing. Someone please help.

I've had 2 intros recieved for a long time. But when I click to view them, I only ever see the first one. Youre supposed to be able to see them one at a time. But Ive been passing in the same first person for months now. She never goes away and I never get to see the second one. Finally yesterday I blocked that person and today I can now see the second person. And I'm again stuck with her and I can't dismiss her by passing.

The fucked up thing is that these people didn't pop up in my feed when I'm normally scrolling. And I can't look at my intros in any normal, sane way. It makes me think, even more so then in the past, that all the intros I send to girls are literally just going right in to a black hole never to be seen again.

I know the site is broken but its supposed to be broken in a more high-level way, like its hard to actually meet people on there. Not broken like its actually broken. You also still can only see the first photo of each persons account, thats been broken like that for so long now.

So in conclusion, fuck you match dot com.

I got a match there and afterwards we lead to good conversation. Basically I’m confused we share some pictures there that lead to 18+ talks and video might be it can be any scam and all but when I told her my low phase as in check her and she heard my issue and she sent me money but I’m confused we just had 2 day today and why someone trust me like this does she sugar mommy and all? Might be it’s lead to any big scam???

Hello, I've met my gf on OkCupid. After we officialized our relationship, we agreed to delete our accounts. Recently I went through my old emails, curious to read our first chats. I noticed that her picture is visible in the emails. Then I happened to check notifications from other girls at that time, and half of them had their picture 404 in the email.

So why do my gf picture is still in OkCupid image cache after 8 months.

My concern is that her account may be deactivated, hidden or incognito. Which would go against our deal of hard-deleting our accounts.

Am I picky on details? I'm a dev, so for me, there is some non-senses about the fact that a lot of pictures from other people are 404ing, and not hers. It could be that people with active account changed their picture. But how come that someone with an active account would have pictures that 404, and my gf with a deleted account would have a picture that is still 200 OK?

I worry, and before testing by creating two accounts, I'd like others feedback.

Thanks!

Say I take a break for a week....a month....but I don't deactivate my profile. How long does it show up for others?

When OkCupid's founders sold the company to Match Group (which also owns Tinder, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, Match and more) in 2011, it marked the beginning of the platform’s decline. Like many acquisitions, the purchase seemed driven less by a desire to nurture and grow the brand and more by the typical playbook: eliminate competition, absorb useful technology, and poach top talent.

Its a shame, because it was, in its time, a standout dating site. Personally I found their matching algorithms to be a perfect fit, but today it is a hollow version of its former self, left to die a slow death while Match Group focuses on promoting their higher-margin platforms. It’s a familiar tale in the tech world—but don’t shed tears for OkCupid’s founders. They walked away with $90 Million!

Have you ever used a platform that went downhill more than OKC after being acquired by a larger company?

you'd think a small independent team could essentially duplicate the functionality of OKC at its peak, charge a reasonable fee for full access, and make enough to at least pay the bills/salaries. the market is screaming for a non-predatory serious matchmaking option. i have to think a group of reasonably-minded folks (ie. not hyper-capitalist maximum-profit types) could do it. i used to be in software development, i'd love to work on a product that helped people find meaningful connections, and just made enough to afford a comfortable lifestyle. there are plenty of talented people who don't have the desire to accumulate as much wealth as possible.

do the big players own a ton of patents that make it impossible or something?

some genius developer decided consecutive repeating words in profiles was a huge problem, so they automatically remove all instances of it in your profile. so like if you say your favorite movies are Kiss Kiss Bang Bang and La La Land, the app automatically changes them to Kiss Bang and La Land. or if J. R. R. Tolkien is a favorite author, it changes to J. R. Tolkien. or if you "really really like" something, sorry, now you can only "really like" it. not to mention all the grammatically correct instances of repeat words.

what a clownshow.

Every time I go into my intros the same one appears, and every time I try to decline it to see the next one it simply doesn’t load; the number of unread intros goes down for a moment, then goes back up to the same number as before. If I close the app then reopen it, the same into I’ve declined is there again.

Not only is this generally frustrating but this intro left a transphobic remark so it’s awful going into there every time to delete it and seeing that, then it reappearing when I’ve closed the app. Someone fix this!

I forgot to cancel my subscription and automatically deduct the the payment to my bank account.Can I still get a refund? Or nah?

Nothing works anymore. I thought it was my account so I deleted it and recreated it. I have multiple intros. As a free user I can only see one at a time. I try to pass on the top one in the stack and I can’t delete it. It comes right back. I can’t see the others ever. I can’t pass users I’ve liked. I send users I’ve liked a message and it seemingly disappears and the user stays in my list of liked users I can send them another message if I want. Who knows what happened with the first?

It’s totally broken. What is going on? I emailed support and they apologized but offered no solutions or information, just said that I should standby for the new update.

Hello, in the last month almost every match I get when the girls likes me second is leading to a blank profile with 2023 description I don't know what to do, did someone have this problem and it fixed itself?

i've used the app for more than a month now. I matched with 2 completely different looking men on okc, one was Korean and the other Mexican. Moved the chat to viber (Mexican) and WhatsApp (Korean). But here's the catch, apparently both named Daniel, living in London, both engineers, mother has cancer and stays in Cardiff city, both visit their moms when they can and bring flowers, both dad died when they were young. I'm being delusional to continue hahahah but I like my fake boyfriend (mexican dan). The thing is he calls and we've videocalled once and whenever I ask for photos he sends some. I'm beginning to get confused because I want my fake boyfriend mexican dan to be real its just a stupid backstory hahahaha. can they not come up with a different story at least? I dont know what they'll get from me though. I have no money lol

Not only does it hide matches and intros, it automatically unmatches people you've matched with.
As soon as I match with someone. it automatically unmatches and hides the profile.

DO NOT USE THIS SCAM APP. IT USES YOU FOR ADS!!

DO NOT USE

I don't know if the intros actually get sent, but since 2 days ago everytime I send an intro and refresh the intro disappears and I can send another message. This happens to every person I send an intro to so I doubt it's me getting blocked or something.

I tried to create OKCupid account but there is no option to choose my country Serbia in the list. Why is that?

(country option for Serbia - typing error, sorry)

I am talking with this guy whom I met on OkCupid way back 2022. He is from China and I think he is currently in Netherlands. We only talked in Instagram and then my Instagram got disabled. Now I don’t know where to find him since I can’t remember his username as well as my convo with him in OkCupid got disappeared. If u are here please message me ~

I happen to have a match and we were just exchanging messages. I was writing my reply and after sending it, he was gone. Could it be that he unmatched me? Before that though, I noticed that our messages are sending repeatedly.. guess there‘s a glitch. This is the 2nd time it happened to me.

If it‘s the app, then I hope you can read this. If you really did un match me, then okay. Good luck! 😅

Both the site and app won’t open for me, they both just stay on the loading screen. Cleared browser, made sure app is up to date, restarted phone. Nothing is fixing it, while all my other apps and sites work. Is anyone else having this issue?

I'm an 18 year old trans male, my preference is set to 18-19 year old transmasc or nonbinary people, why am i getting femme presenting 26 year olds in my feed? Is it just me or is this also just really weird and creepy? Why do I have to pay in order to get matches I'm actually interested in?

I get quite alot of matches from intros but many of these girls dont respond to the intro. They see it, swipe right but dont message. And it says in the app “your turn” in the chat which I don’t really understand.

Do you usually send another message? Isnt that considered like a super early double texting?

Was having a long conversation with someone and I see their profile is now blank.

I don’t mean in a “this profile either doesn’t exist/ set to private” but all their info has gone while the profile is still accessible.

No photos, questions, preferences. Just the date they presumably joined the site and a match rate of 50% when it used to be upper 90s.

What gives, is this another shitty bug from the update?

This site seems to have purposefully driven itself into the ground.

I'm a young adult who set my age range 18-20 and chose the preference for non-smokers. Literally all I've been shown in the week of using this app is people aged 25+, the only two people I've seen in my preferred age range were heavy smokers. All of the people being shown to me I have to immediately rule out because they're too old for me. The preferences you choose mean nothing.

For those with more experience, which other apps let you set the age preference without paying premium?

I have a bunch. Can they be trusted?

"Someone new likes you!" "They are in your Recommended Stack." Thats not a like is it? but the email says its a like.

Whenever someone likes me first and I match with them then try messaging I receive “general authentication error. Unable to continue, try again”. Anyone else experience this and know what to do?