/r/auntienetwork

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This sub is dedicated to providing information and resources to those in need of abortion services. For direction to funds and other helpful information, please read the wiki.

The Auntie Network was established on May 16th, 2019, to create a network of Aunties and helpers throughout the United States (and beyond) who can help provide assistance in a handful of ways to nieces/nephews/niblings who need help with reproductive services or an abortion.

A Statement on Inclusivity

Please keep in mind that not all of the people we serve are cisgender women -- we do help everyone, and try our best to use gender-neutral terms when possible. It’s important to us that AN is always a safe and welcoming space for people of all races, sexualities, and genders. We ask that all of our community members try hard to use respectful, inclusive language. All aunties and helpers should be committed to helping nieces, nephews, and niblings without discrimination or bigotry. If you can’t make that commitment wholeheartedly, this isn’t the right community for you. Racism, homophobia, TERFdom, or other kinds of hatefulness will be not tolerated and may result in an immediate ban.

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Rules

No harassment

Absolutely no harassment of another user will be allowed. This includes: asking them why they’re doing something, judgement, questioning rudely etc. You will be promptly banned without warning.

No outright asking for money by niblings or aunties/helpers

If you need assistance, make a post about what you need, and a mod or another user will reach out to you. We offer absolutely no monetary funding, but can point you to resources. No links to funding sources are allowed (ie CashApp, Venmo, gofundme, etc.) If you are requesting needs other than those directly related to unexpected pregnancy or termination thereof, you will be promptly banned without warning.

AUNTIES/HELPERS ARE STRICTLY ADVISED NEVER TO SEND CASH DIRECTLY TO ANYONE. Auntie/helpers are never to charge niblings any for their help or services. Buy a test, a ticket, a medication, and send it. Scammers will always have a “special reason” they need cash. This sub strongly advises that you never send cash/prepaid cards/checks or money in any form.

No cross posting or sharing information

Sharing anything to or from this sub is not permitted. Privacy is of the essence. Do not share another person's personal information. This includes addresses and medical information that is not your own. We do not allow any pictures of, or links to, user-created maps, that contain personally identifiable information of others (such as username, initials, or addresses.)

No disruptive behavior

Disruptive behavior - argumentativeness, quotations of religious texts, or any other behavior found to be in contempt of the intent of this sub will result in at least a warning if not an immediate ban. This is at the mods’ discretion.

Additionally, we request that you avoid curse words -- not that we like or approve of censorship, but we've found that this language tends to incite and inflame, which is not what this sub is for. No flame wars here.

No requesting or giving medical advice

Please refrain from requesting medical help. We cannot advise about what medicines are safe or will work for you, we do not have your medical information nor a doctor on staff. We care about your health and that is precisely why we ask that you please see a doctor. If it is an emergency, go to urgent care or the emergency room. This includes banning the sharing of “recipes” for homemade abortives which are potentially very unsafe.

Additionally, absolutely no prescription medications may be shared through this sub. If you need prescription medication, please use proper channels to acquire it.

Press/Survey Requests: We do not allow press requests or requests for surveys to be posted to our sub looking for stories. As stated in our rules, privacy is of the essence, and we don't want our members feeling that their stories are being farmed for use by the press.

All rules will be enforced at mods' discretion.

Resources and valuable information can be found in our Wiki. We absolutely encourage and support the use of all of the resources provided. We support these organizations and in no way could ever replicate nor replace them. These organizations have been in this fight longer than we have; and we serve to fill in the gaps when their resources are exhausted.

On Minors: Because of legal issues with parental rights, we cannot assist minors, but we do have two resources that can help. Minors may contact JanesDueProcess.org, or Planned Parenthood, both of which specifically work with minors.

Aunties - Please add user flair distinguishing your location and the kind of help you are able to provide to nieces.

When offering assistance of any kind, please keep your personal safety in mind. Use caution, ask for references/social media/communicate thoroughly before taking anyone in. Consider using a buddy system if applicable and available. We are all adults and can make informed decisions about risks for ourselves.

Nieces/Niblings - If you need help, you are welcome to post directly to the subreddit with questions. If you are concerned with being discovered and want to remain anonymous, feel free to message one of the Mods and we will post on your behalf!

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Auntie in Fairfax Co VA, DC adjacent

I’m a 43f with a 49m husband in northern VA who can help with transportation and housing.

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2024/12/02
04:52 UTC

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Auntie in Philly area

I am a 41F Auntie in the Philadelphia area available to help with whatever you need. I have a flexible work schedule, car, spare room, and an open heart to take you to appts, the airport, stay over, or just be a listening ear or give hugs.

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2024/12/02
05:21 UTC

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Anonymous nibling seeks help -Arlington/Alexandria, VA

I’m asking for help please with connecting to an auntie in the area who wouldn’t mind driving me to my 8am on December 4 appointment and then dropping me off at the airport the same afternoon (DCA). Or potentially just returning to pick me up at the clinic so I can say my driver came to pick me up - and then I can Uber to the airport. Either one is okay with me. That’s really all I would need, someone kind enough to offer me a lift so the clinic knows I have a ride, allowing me to be out under for the abortion. Thanks!

(This is for approved aunties only, please message mods if you can help)

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2024/12/02
03:46 UTC

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Auntie in Mid Michigan Clare County

37f I’m available for all auntie assistance, can drive you to appointments, if you need to come to Michigan I have a spare room, and if push comes to shove I can drive you to Canada and back if appointments aren’t available here. I am also available just to offer a listening ear if that is all you need.

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2024/12/01
04:13 UTC

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Auntie in Chicago

I can put someone up, or be part of a car caravan to get someone where they need to go. I can hold hands with anyone who needs care here and help with recovery. I can also mail items as needed, if needed. After March my schedule can be flexible to help.

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2024/12/01
04:31 UTC

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Auntie in Northern OH

Not too far from anyone Columbus, Ohio and north. I’m able to take time from work, drive you where you need and pick you up if you’re there for a bit. Canada isn’t too far if the worst happens. Can help get you plan b and even still have some unexpired if you need it asap. Will go to doctor with you and help you advocate for yourself as well. ❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🖤🤎 Not a terf. Social worker by trade and can help you find resources. 🩷 Have a guest bedroom/bath with a snuggly dog, who is going into trauma therapy next year.

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2024/11/30
19:04 UTC

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Auntie in California, near the Bay Area

Hi ^^

California is a sanctuary state for reproductive rights, and, I know it's on the far west coast, but if you're coming here for care I can help.

I live within driving distance of 3 major airports (San Jose is closest) plus several public transport hubs (BART, CalTrain, Metro, etc). I have a small car and can help with transportation to/from the airport or bus/train station, and to/from appointments.

I live on a beautiful, peaceful property under the redwoods and close to the river- I have a small private space (RV) with an extra bed if you need a place to stay. Bathroom and kitchen are in the main house, which is shared with others, a very aloof cat with a prankster sense of humor and a neurotic cuddlebug of a dog, so it's not the most private- but we're all vehemently pro choice, LGBTQ+ friendly and supportive. It's rural, we get hit pretty bad by storms and power outages over the winter, but it's reasonably close to town/1-2hrs from the major cities.

There is at least one clinic in my town and they're accessible regardless of income level. Several more in my general area.

I love books and art, also love to cook and bake, so I can cook for you, listen to you, give hippie hugs, go with you to appointments, hold your hand and be emotional support if you want- or I can simply hold space for you while you do your own thing and we don't have to talk at all. Whatever you need.

I'm a full time student and I work night shifts on the weekends, so I keep odd hours but I'm quiet. I'm a blue haired millennial woman.

I can also help you with getting plan B or plan C.

Just want to do what I can, when I can. Let me know what you need, and if it's in my power to help, I will.

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2024/11/28
11:15 UTC

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Auntie in Northern Virginia (I-95 Corridor)

I can help with transport and Plan B. DCA is the most accessible airport for me. I also have flight benefits and am willing to travel to help out if someone further away needs a surrogate family member for medical procedures, or cannot trust the mail for one reason or another.

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2024/11/27
13:18 UTC

115

Auntie in Southern Illinois

Can assist with transportation.

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2024/11/27
09:07 UTC

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Auntie and Uncle, Northern lower peninsula Mi until 12/20/24 then back 4/1/25.

Private camper with full kitchen, water/electric , pet and kid friendly. Retired nurse will be there for you for support. You are not alone. We’ll be in a Red state fron 12/20-4/01 but will have some plan B if needed. DM us ❤️

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2024/11/26
02:53 UTC

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Auntie in central Texas

Can assist with driving across states lines and back, or split trip with another auntie. Can also aquire plan B and pregnancy tests.

3 Comments
2024/11/26
04:31 UTC

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Auntie in Los Angeles

Hello! I'm in the Los Angeles area and I could pick you up at the airport, drive you to the clinic. I can also stay with you at the clinic if needed.

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2024/11/25
22:28 UTC

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Auntie in Davis/Salt Lake Counties Utah

If you need someone to purchase your Plan B or pregnancy test or drive you to a medical appointment (abortion or otherwise), I'm your auntie.

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2024/11/25
23:27 UTC

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Auntie, Uncle, and Cousin in MN

We live in West Central MN with access to both the Fargo, ND and Minneapolis, MN airport. I can pick up from the airport, drive to and from appointments, provide after care, and offer a place to stay.

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2024/11/26
01:42 UTC

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Maryland Auntie

Hi! I’m a 32 year old Auntie located in MD, 90 min within the 3 major airports in the DC/ Baltimore area. I can transport and/or accompany you to appointments in the MD/DC/Northern VA area. Could also make it up to southern areas of PA if needed.

Unfortunately I cannot host you overnight. 🤍🤍

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2024/11/26
02:15 UTC

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Queer auntie community in Portland OR

Let me know if you need assistance in Portland, there is a bunch of us who are ready to support trans/queers or anyone in need of healthcare related to this sub 💚🌈

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2024/11/26
02:48 UTC

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Helping distribute free Plan B pills (network of American women living abroad)

We are a network of US citizens living around the world watching with horror at what's happening to American women and girls (those we know and those we do not). Many of us can get Plan B pills for free in the countries where we live. In years past, we've been sending a few doses back with our visitors who may need them, but now, we've organized. We want to get these doses in the hands of low-income girls/women/ppl with uteruses who will be hardest hit. We know every state is at risk; for now, red state residents need this the most. We have a few people coming into Orlando in late December and January. ***If you or a trusted contact there can get these in the hands of our target audience, please DM me. If you are in other places where you can deliver these doses to low-income individuals, please DM me, and I'll try to find someone coming your way. Thank you so much!

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2024/11/25
15:06 UTC

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CA Auntie near San Francisco

If you need to fly from another state, I can pick you up from any Bay Area airport and drive you to the clinic. I’m a nurse and I’m happy to give you space or hold your hand throughout.

Unfortunately I don’t have an extra bedroom for you.

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2024/11/24
19:29 UTC

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Auntie & Uncle Offering Support in Long Island/NYC

Hi everyone,

We’re an Auntie and Uncle in the Long Island/NYC area, committed to helping anyone in need of reproductive care. We understand how difficult and overwhelming this process can be, and we want to use our time, resources, and experience to offer meaningful, compassionate support.

We can provide transportation to and from clinics, pharmacies, airports, train stations, or other locations in the Long Island/NYC area. If we’re unavailable to drive, we can assist you in arranging other transportation options or navigating public transit and rideshare services. I (Auntie) am available to sit with you during appointments, advocate on your behalf with medical providers, and offer emotional support before, during, or after your procedure. My boyfriend (Uncle) is available for backup in situations involving protesters, abusive partners, or any scenario where you feel your safety might be at risk, but he will only be involved if you’re comfortable with his presence.

We can also help you access emergency contraception by purchasing and delivering Plan B, as well as assisting with arranging and possibly covering the costs of Plan C (medication abortion). If you need help with prescription pickups or deliveries, we can assist with that too. In terms of care, we’re happy to provide practical support like running errands, preparing meals, or supplying comfort items such as heating pads and over-the-counter pain relief to help with recovery. If you need someone to watch your children or pets while you attend appointments or rest, we can help with that as well.

Financially, we may be able to assist with costs like transportation, medications, meals, or even partial lodging expenses for hotels or motels, depending on our current resources. While we cannot offer overnight lodging in our home due to living in a small studio apartment, we’re more than happy to help cover or arrange safe accommodations when possible. Additionally, we can help with logistics such as finding clinics, researching funding programs, scheduling appointments, or organizing your care plan.

A bit about us: I (Auntie) work as a Recovery Coach in a Mental Health Residential Treatment Facility and volunteer with the NAASW and local activist groups. I’ve had an abortion myself and understand how challenging this experience can be, both emotionally and logistically. My boyfriend (Uncle) was incredibly supportive during my process, and together we’re committed to providing the same kind of care and understanding to others. We feel privileged to live in a region with safe access to reproductive care and want to use our position to help others who may not have the same resources or opportunities.

Your safety, comfort, and boundaries are our top priority. If you’re uncomfortable with having a man involved, my boyfriend will not participate, and I will assist you on my own. We’ll always respect your preferences and work with you to create a plan that feels right for you.

If you need support, please don’t hesitate to reach out. Whether it’s something small or more involved, we’re here to help. If we can’t directly meet your needs, we’ll do our best to connect you with someone who can. You are not alone.

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2024/11/24
20:34 UTC

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Auntie, Uncle and Cousin in Northern Colorado

We have a spare bedroom and can help with travel and appointments. We are a liberal mid 50s couple with a 19 year old daughter living at home. We live just outside of Fort Collins, Colorado.

5 Comments
2024/11/24
22:38 UTC

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MT Auntie

We have abortion rights in Montana and I have an extra room for anyone in need of an abortion. I'll drive you to the doctor and be with you every step that you're in my care. When I needed an abortion I was able to do it safely in the early 1980's. It makes me sick to see what this country has become. I'm here for any woman in need.

9 Comments
2024/11/24
15:59 UTC

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Auntie in central Nebraska

Can help with plan B or C and transportation to Kansas or to an airport.

1 Comment
2024/11/23
12:08 UTC

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Auntie in Southern Oregon 541

I have a spare room, a car, flexible work schedule, and all the hugs.

Even if you just need to be picked up from the airport and taken to an appointment. I am here.

If you want an escort to an appointment. I am here.

If you need plan B or over the counter contraceptives, I'll overnight them.

If you just need to talk. I am here.

1 Comment
2024/11/23
18:07 UTC

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Auntie in nj

Guest room, own bathroom, transportation, meals, etc. 5 minutes from PP.

1 Comment
2024/11/23
16:49 UTC

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Aunty in the 831 CA

Can provide a pickup drop off wether it’s you or a pre purchased item you need delivered discreetly

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2024/11/23
01:56 UTC

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Auntie 831 CA

Can act as transportation to care locations, pick up drop off prepaid orders.

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2024/11/23
02:05 UTC

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Northern Virginia Auntie

Some things I can offer:

  • A ride from IAD/DCA
  • A place to stay (queen size air matress in a guest room with your own full bath)
  • A ride to appointments
  • Help purchasing plan B/C

Let me know if you need something I haven’t listed and I will do my best to help

0 Comments
2024/11/23
03:14 UTC

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Auntie in NE Ohio

Can help with plan B or C. Can help with getting to and from an airport or somewhere in the general greater Northeast Ohio area that you need to get to.

2 Comments
2024/11/22
20:54 UTC

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Auntie, Phoenix AZ area.

Help any nieces with travel and an overnight stay.

2 Comments
2024/11/21
06:02 UTC

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Auntie greater Cincinnati

I am in Lawrenceburg IN. I am 2 minutes from Ohio and 4.5 hours south of Chicago. I have a full bedroom and private bath and lots of compassion.

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2024/11/19
16:26 UTC

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