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This sub is dedicated to providing information and resources to those in need of abortion services. For direction to funds and other helpful information, please read the wiki.

The Auntie Network was established on May 16th, 2019, to create a network of Aunties and helpers throughout the United States (and beyond) who can help provide assistance in a handful of ways to nieces/nephews/niblings who need help with reproductive services or an abortion.

A Statement on Inclusivity

Please keep in mind that not all of the people we serve are cisgender women -- we do help everyone, and try our best to use gender-neutral terms when possible. It’s important to us that AN is always a safe and welcoming space for people of all races, sexualities, and genders. We ask that all of our community members try hard to use respectful, inclusive language. All aunties and helpers should be committed to helping nieces, nephews, and niblings without discrimination or bigotry. If you can’t make that commitment wholeheartedly, this isn’t the right community for you. Racism, homophobia, TERFdom, or other kinds of hatefulness will be not tolerated and may result in an immediate ban.

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Rules

No harassment

Absolutely no harassment of another user will be allowed. This includes: asking them why they’re doing something, judgement, questioning rudely etc. You will be promptly banned without warning.

No outright asking for money by niblings or aunties/helpers

If you need assistance, make a post about what you need, and a mod or another user will reach out to you. We offer absolutely no monetary funding, but can point you to resources. No links to funding sources are allowed (ie CashApp, Venmo, gofundme, etc.) If you are requesting needs other than those directly related to unexpected pregnancy or termination thereof, you will be promptly banned without warning.

AUNTIES/HELPERS ARE STRICTLY ADVISED NEVER TO SEND CASH DIRECTLY TO ANYONE. Auntie/helpers are never to charge niblings any for their help or services. Buy a test, a ticket, a medication, and send it. Scammers will always have a “special reason” they need cash. This sub strongly advises that you never send cash/prepaid cards/checks or money in any form.

No cross posting or sharing information

Sharing anything to or from this sub is not permitted. Privacy is of the essence. Do not share another person's personal information. This includes addresses and medical information that is not your own. We do not allow any pictures of, or links to, user-created maps, that contain personally identifiable information of others (such as username, initials, or addresses.)

No disruptive behavior

Disruptive behavior - argumentativeness, quotations of religious texts, or any other behavior found to be in contempt of the intent of this sub will result in at least a warning if not an immediate ban. This is at the mods’ discretion.

Additionally, we request that you avoid curse words -- not that we like or approve of censorship, but we've found that this language tends to incite and inflame, which is not what this sub is for. No flame wars here.

No requesting or giving medical advice

Please refrain from requesting medical help. We cannot advise about what medicines are safe or will work for you, we do not have your medical information nor a doctor on staff. We care about your health and that is precisely why we ask that you please see a doctor. If it is an emergency, go to urgent care or the emergency room. This includes banning the sharing of “recipes” for homemade abortives which are potentially very unsafe.

Additionally, absolutely no prescription medications may be shared through this sub. If you need prescription medication, please use proper channels to acquire it.

Press/Survey Requests: We do not allow press requests or requests for surveys to be posted to our sub looking for stories. As stated in our rules, privacy is of the essence, and we don't want our members feeling that their stories are being farmed for use by the press.

All rules will be enforced at mods' discretion.

Resources and valuable information can be found in our Wiki. We absolutely encourage and support the use of all of the resources provided. We support these organizations and in no way could ever replicate nor replace them. These organizations have been in this fight longer than we have; and we serve to fill in the gaps when their resources are exhausted.

On Minors: Because of legal issues with parental rights, we cannot assist minors, but we do have two resources that can help. Minors may contact JanesDueProcess.org, or Planned Parenthood, both of which specifically work with minors.

Aunties - Please add user flair distinguishing your location and the kind of help you are able to provide to nieces.

When offering assistance of any kind, please keep your personal safety in mind. Use caution, ask for references/social media/communicate thoroughly before taking anyone in. Consider using a buddy system if applicable and available. We are all adults and can make informed decisions about risks for ourselves.

Nieces/Niblings - If you need help, you are welcome to post directly to the subreddit with questions. If you are concerned with being discovered and want to remain anonymous, feel free to message one of the Mods and we will post on your behalf!

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Northern Indiana Auntie

I’m a 50F cis single mom of 1 who is willing to help with transportation and locating appropriate care anywhere from the Michigan border to Kokomo/West Lafayette. I can:

-pick you up and take you where you need to go. You can bring a friend if you choose.

-give you a ride to the SouthShore train to Chicago and buy you a ticket.

-help figure out options that apply to you.

I may not be the best at emotional support, but if you need someone to take action and find solutions, I’m happy to help.

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2025/02/01
18:16 UTC

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Recent News/ NY Dr. indictment

Fellow Aunties, I’m wondering what your thoughts are regarding the news that Louisiana indicted a NY doctor? I suppose it will end up in the courts? Just wondering if this will scare away doctors. Praying for all women everywhere.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/31/health/abortion-louisiana-new-york-prosecution-shield-law.html

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2025/02/01
17:00 UTC

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Grunkle in Michigan

(I’m nonbinary but still want to help so Grunkle like Grunkle Stan 😎)

My name is Ro, and I have room at my house in Michigan for anyone who needs medical care from a less progressive state.

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2025/01/31
18:15 UTC

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Auntie in Ontario Canada

🔆Compassionate Auntie in Southern Ontario. Can give rides, care and even a place to sleep and rest if needed.

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2025/01/31
04:44 UTC

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Auntie in Albuquerque, NM

Hi! Auntie here in Albuquerque, NM. I have a guest room in my home that is open and I can offer as much emotional support as you need. I can transport you to and from your appointment as well as to and from the airport, train station, or grayhound depot. My household consists of myself, my husband, and my brother. Along with a guest room to stay and recover at, I have loving pups who will gladly cuddle for days. LGBTQ+ friendly.

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2025/01/31
06:17 UTC

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Uncle? Auntie? in New Mexico

I live in Albuquerque, NM. I am male, and work in the medical field. I can offer moral support and I may be able to escort someone to a clinic if they really like, if I am available. At this time not much else I can do.

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2025/01/31
01:16 UTC

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Any aunties in Albuquerque?

I will be flying in and have accommodations and a ride there. I’m just looking for moral support and someone to be there from time to time after the procedure since it is 2-3 days. I’m really scared.

Edit: I’m 21 weeks and am leaving an abusive situation so this is EXTREMELY difficult for me. I really just need emotional support. I will be there Feb 2-5

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2025/01/31
00:00 UTC

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Auntie in Utah

Auntie in Utah here!
I can't offer anywhere to stay (and I'm not sure why anyone would want to stay here tbh) but I can transport from point A to point B and/or back if someone needs a ride. I'm fine going to/from any neighboring states - so if, for example, you are in Idaho and need to visit Nevada and need a ride I may be able to help out. I can also get you to/from airports and such if that's what you need.
I travel all over the state and into surrounding states for kitten rescue work so long drives are not unusual for me.
I do drive a jeep so things may be a bit bumpy and uncomfortable but I do my best to keep things less crazy when I have passengers. Cat fur allergy warning though - because I do kitten rescue my jeep gets pretty fuzzy. I try to keep it clean and all but sometimes fur is unavoidable.

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2025/01/30
01:46 UTC

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Auntie Near Lafayette, Indiana

Mid-30's female here. Happy to provide transport or a safe place to stay while you are on your journey. I live near a municipal airport that offers cheap direct flights to/from Chicago O'Hare if traveling by plane. Or I can transport you by car to Illinois, Michigan, or Ohio and provide whatever level of support you would like.

I have a guest room with a pull-out couch in a safe, quiet neighborhood. LGBT+ friendly with LGBT friendly neighbors on all sides. There are no men in the house, but there is a big goofy dog. Can park your car in a closed garage if desired.

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2025/01/30
02:36 UTC

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Auntie in Alberta

Hi siblings, I'm an auntie in a major city in Southern Alberta with a large international airport.

I have a guest room with a comfy bed, a private bathroom, 5 cats, and access to (Canadian) legal services and advice.

As a warning if you have trauma related to men, I do live with my boyfriend.

We're a very LGBTQ2IA+ friendly household, and all races, colours, shapes, and lifestyles are welcome and loved.

No matter what, know that you're not alone. You have aunties standing beside you, and we all want you to be happy and healthy 💜

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2025/01/29
23:49 UTC

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Auntie in VA, near DC; can travel some

If anyone needs support in the dmv area let me know; also, virtually. Been there done that. Not scary. Not regretting it .

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2025/01/29
18:56 UTC

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Auntie in Paris, France.

Hello all, I live in Paris , France, a bit far from my American sisters but if I can be of any help, I'd like to. By sending some goods and comfort items, by welcoming you for your vacation and guiding you throughout our healthcare system.

I have a small flat but the couch's got a great mattress. One wonderful husband and 2 mischievous cats.

My heart is with you.

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2025/01/29
19:11 UTC

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Auntie in Cleveland, OH

I can provide a comfortable place to stay, food, and transportation while you're here. My basement is set up like a little studio apartment with a bed, couches, a projector hooked to a firestick, and a small shower. I can pick you up from the airport or bus station and transport you to your appointments. My husband and I are always cooking something good and never let a guest go hungry.

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2025/01/28
07:17 UTC

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Auntie in Jacksonville and Daytona beach, fl

I have a few places and live in both throughout the month. I can help with a clean warm place to stay overnight on your travel to and from home. I can also help pick up and drop off at local airports and bus stations.

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2025/01/27
03:54 UTC

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Aunties near Denver, CO

I’ve posted here before, but I just wanna reiterate that my wife and I would be happy to help anyone who needs to come here. We have a guest bedroom with a bathroom attached that you can stay in and we also have a little chiweenie named Maya that loves people. My wife works mostly at home and we have a car to take you to appointments. Feel free to DM me.

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2025/01/26
22:48 UTC

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I'd love to be a helper in Southern California!

Hi all! I live in Orange County CA and can offer some help. I don't have a room but I can provide reliable transportation and bring you a hot homemade meal or two while you're here. Maybe you 'need' a batch of brown butter chocolate chip cookies all for yourself? At the very least I can provide occasional company or even just a willing ear on the phone if you need it. I can launder your clothes and/or keep watch over you at your room if you're sleepy or scared after a procedure. I can bring you a pile of great books to help you pass the time. Heck, let's go do something fun if you're feeling down and our mutual time allows!

I can provide transportation between your hotel/Auntie's house and your procedures, but I cannot drive out of state or more than an hour or so. You'll have to be close, but that isn't so hard is it? I may also be able to pick you up from and take you back to an airport.

I do have two kids though so a kid-induced monkey wrench is always possible. But I will do my best! Located near Disneyland. I am a 45 year old woman (if that matters.) My DMs are open. <3

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2025/01/26
07:28 UTC

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Experienced Auntie in Portland, OR

Can provide transportation and a safe, cozy home. I live within minutes of the airport, bus/train station as well as planned parenthood. I’m willing to drive a few hours (for ex. Seattle, if it’s easier to fly there than direct here) and provide emotional support, attend appointments, etc, should you need me to. I’ve been through it myself and I’ve also sat with a friend for a couple days who opted for the medication option. I’m not a medical professional, but I do have an actual auntie who lives close by who is. (She is a wfh advice nurse)

My home is pet free these days, (besides fish) but if you brought yours I wouldn’t mind. Childfree. However, it’s not brother free haha. He’s 27 and respectful, he also voted for Kamala if that tells you anything 😂 He might even cook for us if he’s home and feeling generous 😂 But if you are (understandably) nervous around men definitely something I wanted to make known.

Also worth mentioning that we’re LGBTQ friendly in this house. And I won’t speak to ICE, or the cops, either. Feel free to reach out if I’ve missed something 🤗

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2025/01/23
03:06 UTC

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X: Just in case you were wondering

As a general practice, we don’t post outside links to pretty much anywhere. We will not be posting X links, YouTube, Facebook, Insta, Snapchat, TikTok links, etc.

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2025/01/22
14:28 UTC

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Resource Sharing

Hi friends,

I went to the internet archives today and pulled up the resources from reproductiverights.gov after they were taken offline. I printed off around 40 pages of information and sent it to myself as a PDF. If anyone would like a copy please let me know the best way to get it to you.

I'm trying to figure out where to host it so it can be easily accessible so if you have any pointers there I'll take them!

ETA: https://drive.proton.me/urls/3KMC1R5CCM#ZUar0JyNmzRc

Many many thanks to u/1xCodeGreen for making this into a shareable link!!

And also thank you to u/sugarintheboots for the award 🥹

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2025/01/21
23:19 UTC

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Auntie near Boston, MA

I can help with transportation in the Boston area (to/from Logan Airport, Amtrak South Station, Amtrak North Station especially) and local food options. If you think you''ll be up for it I make fudge and homemade bread, too.

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2025/01/21
18:48 UTC

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Auntie near Boston MA

I have a guest room (with it's own bathroom) and car (willing to pick up from train station/airport/drive reasonable distances including to clinic).

We do have cats if you have allergies.

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2025/01/20
05:03 UTC

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Auntie in NEK Vermont

Safe, private home in the country in Northeast Kingdom, Vermont on several acres. We live 15 minutes away from Planned Parenthood of New England. Our house has a spare bedroom and bathroom. We are able to provide lodging, transportation, food, and (if wanted) emotional/social support.
Can pick up/drop off at the Burlington or Manchester Airport or at any Amtrak or Greyhound station within 100 miles. We WFH and have flexible schedules.

We are staunch supporters of reproductive rights and a woman's right to choose.

We are a family of 4 (2x >40Y, 2x <18Y) and have two large, friendly dogs and two cats. Neurodivergent-friendly.

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2025/01/20
02:16 UTC

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Auntie in NYC

New Auntie in NYC with a pull-out couch to crash on (if needed) and PB! I don’t drive, but I am happy to accompany you to any place you need, and be your emotional support person 💜

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2025/01/20
02:27 UTC

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Auntie and Uncle in Twin Cities MN

We can provide a private room and bathroom. Transportation to appointments and in the city including the airport. Potential to travel further depending. Must be ok with dogs 3 ladies under 30lbs.

2 Comments
2025/01/15
23:25 UTC

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New Mods Application Process is Open!

Hey everyone, auntienetwork needs more folks to help us monitor posts each day. We absolutely will train you! This is a labor of love, there is no pay or any special glory. Most especially, we are trying to recruit POC mods and/or LGBTQ mods here. (We will consider anyone, regardless!) We are accused frequently (although we strive to keep the mod team diverse) of having a "white savior complex" and nothing could be farther from the truth. We strive to ensure that everyone is welcome and feels safe and accepted here, as echoed in our Statement on Inclusivity, found in our sidebar information.

If you are interested in Modding

Please send your information to the mods using the Message the Mods button. You will need to already be a vetted auntie or helper to mod, as well as provide us with a statement of interest which tells us about your interest in modding (why you want to mod, what experience you have, any jobs or volunteer positions that might contribute to your experience, etc.). Applications must be submitted no later than January 21, 2025.

We look forward to having some new faces on the team!

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2025/01/13
16:53 UTC

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Auntie in Portland, Oregon

Can provide transportation and a safe place to rest. Plus the benefit of over 6 decades of womanhood and personal experience with this process. I understand and I’ve got you.

*if you’re allergic to cats or dogs, I’m probably not the right auntie-I have both.

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2025/01/12
20:30 UTC

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Auntie near Seattle WA

Can provide transportation to and from airport and a bedroom suite with attached bath and parking as needed too. Also any before/after care (although not a medical professional I am a “Mom” professional!) Empty nester and available to help any way that I can.

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2024/12/31
06:26 UTC

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Auntie in the Inland Empire, CA

Hey there! Auntie/territorial big sister here in Riverside, California. I'm happy to help get you from Ontario Airport and point A to point B, feed you all manner of comfort food, and provide lots of affection from a large orange cat and his companions (who have various degrees of sociability).

I'm a college writing instructor, so my schedule tends to be a little more pliable than most. And I promise to not correct your grammar. 😉

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2024/12/31
03:27 UTC

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Auntie & Uncle near Boston, MA

We are an auntie and uncle willing to help niblings while in Boston. We can offer a place to stay (private room and bathroom), transport to/from Logan airport, help with appointments, etc.

We are a lawyer/medical scientist team and can utilize those resources as well. We also have a hypoallergenic dog, and he can be cuddled with or kept away if necessary.

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2024/12/30
23:08 UTC

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As Of 12/23/24, This Goes Into Effect

Hello,

I didn't know where to post this, however, I feel that its relevant to this forum. As of 12/23/24, under HIPAA, all requesting parties wanting PHI must sign this affidavit stating that they cannot use medical records pertaining to reproductive health in the list prohibited purposes.

(1) To conduct a criminal, civil, or administrative investigation into any person for the mere act of seeking, obtaining, providing, or facilitating lawful reproductive health care. (2) To impose criminal, civil, or administrative liability on any person for the mere act of seeking, obtaining, providing, or facilitating lawful reproductive health care. (3) To identify any person for any purpose described in (1) or (2).9

I don't know how it will play out in civil court or crossing state lines. Just wanted to share.

69 Comments
2024/12/30
17:51 UTC

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