/r/auntienetwork
This sub is dedicated to providing information and resources to those in need of abortion services. For direction to funds and other helpful information, please read the wiki.
The Auntie Network was established on May 16th, 2019, to create a network of Aunties and helpers throughout the United States (and beyond) who can help provide assistance in a handful of ways to nieces/nephews/niblings who need help with reproductive services or an abortion.
A Statement on Inclusivity
Please keep in mind that not all of the people we serve are cisgender women -- we do help everyone, and try our best to use gender-neutral terms when possible. It’s important to us that AN is always a safe and welcoming space for people of all races, sexualities, and genders. We ask that all of our community members try hard to use respectful, inclusive language. All aunties and helpers should be committed to helping nieces, nephews, and niblings without discrimination or bigotry. If you can’t make that commitment wholeheartedly, this isn’t the right community for you. Racism, homophobia, TERFdom, or other kinds of hatefulness will be not tolerated and may result in an immediate ban.
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Rules
No harassment
Absolutely no harassment of another user will be allowed. This includes: asking them why they’re doing something, judgement, questioning rudely etc. You will be promptly banned without warning.
No outright asking for money by niblings or aunties/helpers
If you need assistance, make a post about what you need, and a mod or another user will reach out to you. We offer absolutely no monetary funding, but can point you to resources. No links to funding sources are allowed (ie CashApp, Venmo, gofundme, etc.) If you are requesting needs other than those directly related to unexpected pregnancy or termination thereof, you will be promptly banned without warning.
AUNTIES/HELPERS ARE STRICTLY ADVISED NEVER TO SEND CASH DIRECTLY TO ANYONE. Auntie/helpers are never to charge niblings any for their help or services. Buy a test, a ticket, a medication, and send it. Scammers will always have a “special reason” they need cash. This sub strongly advises that you never send cash/prepaid cards/checks or money in any form.
No cross posting or sharing information
Sharing anything to or from this sub is not permitted. Privacy is of the essence. Do not share another person's personal information. This includes addresses and medical information that is not your own. We do not allow any pictures of, or links to, user-created maps, that contain personally identifiable information of others (such as username, initials, or addresses.)
No disruptive behavior
Disruptive behavior - argumentativeness, quotations of religious texts, or any other behavior found to be in contempt of the intent of this sub will result in at least a warning if not an immediate ban. This is at the mods’ discretion.
Additionally, we request that you avoid curse words -- not that we like or approve of censorship, but we've found that this language tends to incite and inflame, which is not what this sub is for. No flame wars here.
No requesting or giving medical advice
Please refrain from requesting medical help. We cannot advise about what medicines are safe or will work for you, we do not have your medical information nor a doctor on staff. We care about your health and that is precisely why we ask that you please see a doctor. If it is an emergency, go to urgent care or the emergency room. This includes banning the sharing of “recipes” for homemade abortives which are potentially very unsafe.
Additionally, absolutely no prescription medications may be shared through this sub. If you need prescription medication, please use proper channels to acquire it.
Press/Survey Requests: We do not allow press requests or requests for surveys to be posted to our sub looking for stories. As stated in our rules, privacy is of the essence, and we don't want our members feeling that their stories are being farmed for use by the press.
All rules will be enforced at mods' discretion.
Resources and valuable information can be found in our Wiki. We absolutely encourage and support the use of all of the resources provided. We support these organizations and in no way could ever replicate nor replace them. These organizations have been in this fight longer than we have; and we serve to fill in the gaps when their resources are exhausted.
On Minors: Because of legal issues with parental rights, we cannot assist minors, but we do have two resources that can help. Minors may contact JanesDueProcess.org, or Planned Parenthood, both of which specifically work with minors.
Aunties - Please add user flair distinguishing your location and the kind of help you are able to provide to nieces.
When offering assistance of any kind, please keep your personal safety in mind. Use caution, ask for references/social media/communicate thoroughly before taking anyone in. Consider using a buddy system if applicable and available. We are all adults and can make informed decisions about risks for ourselves.
Nieces/Niblings - If you need help, you are welcome to post directly to the subreddit with questions. If you are concerned with being discovered and want to remain anonymous, feel free to message one of the Mods and we will post on your behalf!
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Auntie and Uncle in our late 50s. LGBT+ family. We can help with transportation and funding. I will hold your hand the whole way. You're not alone, sweet thing.
Hi all! Trying times. I have a spare room if you need to come to the city for medical treatment. I am a single woman who lives alone with a dog and a foster, but sweeties who are great cuddle buddies. I’m offering emotional support, lodging, and help navigating the city. I hope you don’t need it, but I know someone will.
Ramped car, can transport wheelchair users who are in or out of their chair* and/or service dogs. Live in central belt.
As an ambulant wheelchair user, I have a ramped car. If we need to use the ramp for your chair, I can cope on my sticks.
(*I haven’t got transfer boards, bring your own if you use one).
Please remember accessible taxis are a thing, but if there’s a reason you can’t do that (rural location, your Dad works for the taxi company, energy limiting conditions, whatever) then I would far rather show up than see your choice eroded.
If you need anything, reach out.
Mid 30s Auntie, homeowner with both cats and dogs, I do have access to a vehicle, and a comfy couch. I am married to a large male ally and have a young pit bull mix puppy, both are great for discouraging anyone who would desire confrontation. If you do not want to have any contact with a male, I understand, and I will do what I can to find you an Auntie who can better suit your needs. I also have many contacts in Texas who I can call upon if your needs are based there.
Hi all! I can assist with whatever is needed. Driving on my days off, being an ear to listen, a hand to hold, or simply a judgment free space. I am East of Atlanta, but work on the North side of the city.
We are a married couple, both 30 (AMAB/NB and F) years of age. We can assist with driving. We come as a dynamic duo, willing to drive people up to VA or MI. I (NB/AMAB) will be doing the driving, as my spouse isn't licensed. We have dogs that will stay at home, but we may contain dog hair for anyone that has severe allergies.
We would be willing to make small trips (within a 1-2 hour drive) to get people as needed.
I apologize in advance, as I'm autistic and volume has to be set in intervals of 5. I don't get it either, but it makes me physically uncomfortable to see it at a different level.
I'm a doula, can help educate on birth control options, be a support during procedures, help navigate medical system and help you advocate for yourself.
40M willing to help however possible.
Please note due to schedule, road trips might be tricky but doable.
If you ever need assistance from AuntieNetwork, please make a post directly to our sub with information as to your needs. Aunties who are available at that time to help will then get in touch. Please make sure you are familiar with our rules and information found in our wiki. We’re happy to help as we can!
Newark airport is 20 minute Uber.
Walking or short transit distance to multiple health centers. Spare room if overnight needed. I (the Uncle) am a fit male so I will gladly volunteer to escort through picketers. Auntie (my gf) is a sweetheart.
Only limitation is no car, but that doesn't matter here. Walking, public transit, or Uber are all we need.
Auntie available for assistance and support. I am a fantastic researcher for those needing resources available or answers to questions. I can help coordinate transportation.
I've been through this before. I know firsthand how overwhelming it can be. You do not have to deal with this all by yourself.
I live 30 minutes from the airport and can provide a room to stay before a flight out, a place to park your car, and transport to the airport.
Auntie here in the Evansville area (37/F) - with our recent gov/LT gov choice it is even scarier! I am here to provide rides, coordinate “sightseeing” trips, buy Plan B or pregnancy tests (already ordered my stockpile since I am sterilized), provide moral support, etc. I had a choice back in the early 2000’s and will support you however I can!
Hi mid-Missouri people! I can offer a couple of things if you need them.
First, I can help you navigate things like ordering pills from AidAccess and will be your companion through the actual medical abortion if you don't have anyone else you trust. It's good to have someone to bring you soup and look after you.
I'm happy to drive you to Illinois for a surgical abortion if you need that.
Willing to recommend clinics, offer a bed.
Auntie here in SA, offering judgement free help in south/central TX. I can buy Plan B for you, go to doctor’s appointments so you are not alone, I can help with transportation, provide an ear to listen and safe space to navigate, as I have been in your shoes before.
I’m available for rides in the area (Spokane/Spokane Valley/Liberty Lake/Post Falls), moral support, Plan B if necessary. I know our neighbor to the east is very inhospitable and want to support folks there. My house and family unfortunately can’t accommodate overnight visitors, but I’ll help in other ways.
Just let me know if I can be of service. My dogs and I love road trips.
65F willing to offer emotional support, research, etc, via audio or video calls. Sending love and good thoughts to everyone across all identities 💞💖💕
Auntie in Cedar Park (northern suburb of Austin) able to assist with emotional support, rides, going to appointments, pharmacy or test pick ups and deliveries, whatever is needed. I am a mom of teens and our household is a safe place for the LGBTQIA community. Experienced in counseling on pregnancy options as, full disclosure, I am a former adoption professional. But have always been staunchly, and without exception, pro-choice as was the non-profit agency I worked for.
I don’t live in a very abortion-friendly state (IA), but the good news is that I am only an hour away from IL! I have been in your shoes and would like to help if I can.
Auntie who can drive you if needed. Can assist with contacting medical services. I know it’s MD but it’s also a woman’s healthcare desert down here, and I’m happy to help.
Auntie in the Portland metro area. I'm available to help find resources, drive you to appointments, stay with you, offer emotional support, and be incredibly protective of your needs and choices.
I don't have room for you to stay, but I can help you find somewhere. We would be very unlikely to meet hostility here, but if we do I will be fierce for you.
I can help research and find resources in your area.
Willing to offer a place to stay, accompany to appointments, go to a pharmacy for you, moral support.
I'm able to offer a safe place to sleep, travel to appointments, a hand to hold, and plenty of moral support.
44 year old child free woman with two cats. Had an abortion when I was 18. Here to provide moral support, I am kind with zero judgement, your body and health are yours to make decisions about. Can offer advice with obtaining morning after pill or accessing sexual health services in the UK which I have lots of first hand experience of. I also offer a listening ear and emotional support if nothing else.
On the avenue of the Saints and I-80.
Both my partner and I can help with transportation (driving) to get out of or thru Iowa to Illinois and Minnesota, to the safe hands of aunties in those states.
I am a mom of 3 young ladies myself (19, 19 and 22). I experienced myself at 24 and was all alone and terrified. I can help navigate the system, shield you from protesters, be there to hold your hand. You need Plan B but are afraid to buy- I got you. No one should be alone like I was. I can be there in many ways, just depending on what you need. Definitely open and wanting to help .
I can’t help with transportation to San Diego County, but once you’re here I can drive you around. I have a clean, modern camper on my property you can stay in. You’ll have as much privacy as you’d like.