Sooo, due to some family/heslth situations I need to loose some weight and my LO won't stop feeding me. She's absolutely adorable and loving and feels rejected if I won't have food she's sharing. Since she's quite little it's quite difficult to reason with her.

Any advice? I'm not asking for dietary advice, I know what works for me, I'm not sure how to make her not feel rejected.

We talk a lot about our shitty MILs, but I’m curious how i can be a good MIL when I’m older? I would HATE for my daughter in law to speak about me or feel hatred towards me.

What do you wish your MIL taught your husband / what would make you love your MIL?

My husband recently commented that i am not as fun as I used to be.

I still go our, socialise, have hobbies but I am not as cheeky, my fuze is shorter and my spark is definitely dulled. I am doing my best to get back to being playful again but I am wondering if anyone else has experienced this? And how did you get your spark back?

My 14 month old has always woken every two, three hours for a bottle at night. When she was 6 months, I thought it was something she'd start to drop. But she hasn't changed at all yet.

I try to stuff her with solids during the day but she's not a great eater at the moment. We have been putting less formula in her bottles overnight to try and fill her up less so she eats more solids.

We've concluded that she is taking the bottles as a comfort overnight. She used to take a dummy but doesn't want it anymore. My husband sleeps beside her and feeds her overnight. She wakes the same amount if she sleeps in the same room or not. She has 1-2 naps during the day and only takes a bottle during the day before her nap(s).

I just don't know how long this will continue or if it's normal 😅 but I would like my husband to get more sleep soon!

Got pregnant when my child's paternal grandmother died n had my baby that same year... & I guess I wasn't aware of how grief truly works/never had or sought out grief support etc.... basically just rawdoggin it out here with sadgirl wounds in my chest & a baby on my hip lol.

Except the grief does not wholly belong to me, it belongs to my child's father. Having no idea how to navigate thru grief while newly pregnant made postpartum pure hell. He did not have the mental capacity to deal with a crying child waking up every 3 hours. My bitterness was born when I realized that instead of cherishing the new bundle of blessing, he was doing everything he could to suppress the grief of losing his mother. He became hyperfocused on things that kept his mind off of her passing... And because I didn't know how to deal with grief, I let him.

I figured, "since I know you're feeling really fucked up on the inside right now, let me just take care of everything baby related until she gets a few months old" ykno? Like a real dumbass. No village, no help, nothing. My oVeRlY uNdErStAnDiNg ass ended up on the backburner. I've always known how to take care of babies and newborns but I severely underestimated the physical energy and exhaustion of doing all of it entirely by yourself.... As I've stated....... No village, no help, no breaks, nothing. Postpartum truly did eat me alive.

Except 3 years later and that became the routine and dynamic: me taking on ALL childcare everything & him doing whatever the fuck he wants to do to make himself feel better about whatever bullshit situation is at hand. It became a pattern. & I blame myself more than I blame him because I WAS JUST sOoOoOo uNdErStANdInGgg smfh.

We fell into a shitty loop of:

• arguing
• falling out
• making up (9/10 it's me being the bigger person)
• he redeems himself until I feel better
• jumps right back into the bullshit wash, rinse, repeat

& after this last go around of him slowly going back to the same bullshit, I snapped. I've released everything I've suppressed all year about this lack-of-partnership shituation, and I'm just done. Sad that it's taken me this long to put my foot down but I finally did it & I don't even care anymore. I feel indifferent. I feel like a weight is off my shoulders.

I look forward to better days & I feel like I've cried so much I have watered myself with the tears. First step towards growth is pulling yourself out of denial 😏 the new year is approaching & I'd like to get rid of old bullshit, even if they are humans, and even if I love them.

Cheers to me 🥂 I've reached the other side of being severely dickmatized 😭

My husband is going out of the country by himself for a whole month. Usually he plans these trips once a year to go see his parents, but he never includes us. We have 3 children. We rarely go on trips together. We are from the same city in Mexico so my family is also there, but he always plans to go by himself. It’s so frustrating I feel like I’m not welcome in his parents’ house, and that’s why he prefers to go by himself. This is really creating conflict between us and I’m distancing from him because I don’t feel included. He has done this other years and I have communicated clearly how this make me feel and he did it again this time. He doesn’t talk to me before making plans, he just tells me “ I’m leaving certain date” . Our oldest daughter is also questioning why we cannot go with him? I told him briefly how this makes me feel again and he said “let’s go” Like how do you invite people until they tell you how they feel and very last minute when you know is not possible to say yes.

As much as I want to understand that he doesn’t see his parents that often what hurts is that if we are a family doesn’t we have to plan trips together? My in laws think it’s me who doesn’t want to go , our relationship is so broken and my husband not including us is pushing us away even more. How would you feel in this situation?

I have to add that I work from home and homeschool the kids so I’m always busy taking care of business, house, kids, school, our dogs and I feel it would be nice to also enjoy a break from the routine and travel. Other occasions he has left I had experience lots of mental health issues due to stress .

And that goes for anything really. We used to have a lot of play food but it all got slowly destroyed so I binned it. My three year old is “cooking” for me right now. She’s got a little container from the kitchen, a texta as her spoon and a magnet is the food. But she’s made me bacon, cake, nuggets, and chips. Children have amazing imagination! If you don’t have space for stuff, or can’t afford things? It doesn’t mean your child’s play will be stunted. Because their imagination is wonderful!

I am a ftm with a 5 month old exclusively breast fed baby. My son sleeps in a crib at night but it is near impossible to put him in his crib without him walking up from trying to lower him in the crib. I am having to put him down like 4/5 times a night and it takes me hours. Any advice other than letting him “cry it out”?

Also, I hold my baby all the time since he was born and I love holding him. This has turned into a problem though. I cannot sit him down, ever at all. He will scream no matter how many toys he has. I have tried swings, bouncers, jumpers, and tummy time mats. I am just at a loss. My house is a wreck, I have not taken a moment to myself since he’s been born and I am just really struggling. Has anyone been through this? What do I do?

Does anyone else get very overstimulated when their child won’t stop whining. I have issues with sounds like loud chewing, multiple things going at one time, and get very overstimulated quick.I do start therapy next week, but is this common? I feel so guilty for being annoyed by it. I know he’s not giving me a hard time he’s just having a hard time, but sometimes it just makes me want to break down and cry as well when he fusses all day long.

Okay, might be controversial, but this is the best compromise I've come up with so please don't judge, I just need outfit opinions.

I'm going to a wedding Tuesday evening for a long time family friend with my husband. We have a 4 month old who will be with us for ½ the night (exclusively nurse and bottle refusal, so we'd either have to do this, leave 4 hours early and I don't want to risk wasting the food they've bought for us, or forgo the wedding entirely. Baby is coming with the bride's blessing) and my parents will pick up our son at 7pm. My husband and baby will just be taking a walk away for the ceremony.

Wedding is black tie dress code. My husband and I are sorted, but for baby is it fine to just dress him nicely?? I have a very cute sweater outfit set with a little bear theme. I just don't have anything super formal for this age and I'd like to avoid buying one if I don't need to as he'll outgrow it before Christmas/New Years.

Thank you!

I’m doing some personal research. I was given an episiotomy for no medical reason, wasn’t given an option, the only thing my doctor said was “I’m going to have to cut you so you don’t tear”.

Edit: I was actively pushing and he just said that out of nowhere. In my chart there’s nothing noted of fetal distress, anything going wrong, by all accounts it was going perfectly fine and he just did it for no reason other than he’s “old school” and wants “a cleaner cut” vs a natural tear. Come to find out my doctor is doing it routinely, like 90% of his patients. The nurses all hate him for it.

Can’t decide on where to go and how comfortable I’ll be at 28-29 weeks pregnant in December. I have a week off… 1. 3 days in Disneyland with my 3.5 year old, husband, and myself, or 2. A week in Ohau…. 3. A long weekend in Tahoe hopefully with snow.

All options with my little family.

Just curious if this would keep a kid entertained enough while not overstimulating them or causing the usual dopamine drop when tv time is over.

About 9.5 months postpartum and really started trying to conceive about a month ago since starting my first period after not having one for 8.5 months (postpartum).

The last 2-3 days my nipples have been sooooo soo sensitive, almost painful when my LO latches. Also LO has been fussy at the breast has been slightly pulling and biting when she is upset. Also, the last 2-3 days have been extremely exhausted more than the usual. Taking a test tomorrow since it’ll be roughly 6 days before my next period.

Just curious what everyone else’s symptoms were like? You guys think I’m prego? 🤞🏼

I personally have really been struggling with insecurities and self esteem issues. I gained a total of 70 pounds between my 2 pregnancy’s and I just feel so ashamed and embarrassed about it honestly. I’m currently fasting, trying to eat in a calorie deficit, exercise more, and just attempt to be healthier while also juggling a 2 year old and 2 month old. I can’t even look at my body in the mirror and I’m struggling to eat much because I want to cry. I’m constantly worried about how much weight I’ll gain if I eat too much (which I know isn’t a good mindset but like I said I’m really struggling)

Last night I sobbed while trying to eat dinner because I was scared whatever I ate would make me gain more. I’m taking escitalopram for my PPD and PPA which causes weight gain as well plus I’m not sleeping well currently either. Like I said I know I need to give myself grace during this time being 2 months postpartum but it’s so hard currently. I hate the way I look, I’m so proud of my body for carrying my kids and feeding one of them. I just hate that it had to get destroyed in the process, my husbands lost weight recently (through diet and exercise) and as proud as I am for him losing the weight he wanted I’m so jealous.

He was a healthy weight to begin with but needs to be a certain weight for his job and reached his goal. Then I’m over here obese from carrying two children and gaining almost 50lbs during each pregnancy. He’s also made some comments about my body that have really just hinted he’s not attracted to me now so I’m just really insecure constantly. It’s frustrating knowing I carried his children in my body, which caused it to now be changed forever, and he has no change in his body but still makes comments about mine. I have no confidence anymore and don’t even know how to begin gaining it back. I just want to feel confident again but don’t even know how to begin. If anyone has any advice, recommendations, or comments all are appreciated (please no judgment) thanks in advance.

4yo had a virus all last week - fever, swollen glands, extreme fatigue. he’s got some residual fatigue but now has some diarrhea. has kind of complained about stomach ache (diarrhea, i think). at what point do i call the doc about? been a day or two. this is something we need to ride out, right? i gave him some yogurt tonight and am pushing liquids. this doesn’t seem to rise to viral gastroenteritis levels.

I need help!

Getting my 3.5 year old ready for bed is the most stressful part of the day. It doesn’t matter what we do to help prepare him when it’s coming up to bedtime, it’s pulling teeth each step of the way.

He gets so distracted when I’m trying to get him dressed, it’s just constant reminders of “Come get dressed… come get dressed…. Put the toys down and come get dressed.” Then similarly for brushing teeth.

The past few days I’ve been encouraging him to help with getting dressed. He’s fully capable and takes his clothes off all the time. He’s even gotten dressed successfully a handful of times. I’m even there offering to help him when he needs it! But bedtime comes around and he just repeats he doesn’t know how to do it. And it just turns into this battle of wills because I know he can do it, and I’m still offering to help him but he just flat out refuses and plays helpless.

I’m losing my ever loving mind! Any tips that help with your kiddos at bedtime would be much appreciate. We are exhausted, everyone is frustrated and it’s just created a terrible dynamic.

I'm looking for a dresser top changing pad that doesn't require a tray to stay in place. Any recommendations under $100? It doesn't have to be wipable, but I see alot of that kind in this style. This will be in the living room on top of a credenza cabinet. The nursery has a standard dresser tray style.

I can’t even make this up. I was with my MIL yesterday, she was holding my son and kept going on and on about how he looks like his father. saying “you look just like my son, yes, you do. you’re like my son.” like 10x. all well girl except he’s MY son! and he doesn’t even resemble my husband as a baby, he resembles his current features. she used to say he looks like a 50/50 of us but now she’s switched to just saying he is “just like her son”. then she said… “i think he has my eyebrows. he doesn’t have yours or husbands name’s eyebrows. i think he has mine and i think he has my pinky toe too.”… YOUR WHAT? your pinky toe. really reaching here girl. the kicker is he looks nothing like her. he really is a solid mix between my husband and I. another example, she has red hair. my husband has light brown hair. i have dark brown almost black hair. my son has my hair color, its dark brown almost black, and she goes “his hairs going to grow in lighter, i think it’s getting lighter it’s gonna be like husbands name.” CAN I HAVE ANYTHING? and everytime we’re there w my son and my son cries she says “ohhhh you want your daddy i know you want your daddy” then our son continues to cry because he wants me lol. i cant take it 🤦‍♀️ ok rant over i just had to talk ab it.

Has anyone experienced their child just screaming and crying non stop at night? She is 4 months but I feel like she’s done this since birth. It just doesn’t seem normal to me and everyone just keeps saying to let her cry it out but how do you let something so small cry as if she is in pain and not do anything about it. I’m going crazy and it’s making me hate my husband and honestly everyone around me. I just feel like a failure and like I wasn’t meant to be a mom.

Have any moms developed diastasis recti and had luck improving it with at home exercises? I want to start exercising again and that's probably going to be the hardest thing for me to do.

Hey moms, I'm looking for an ipod type thing for my niece who is 9, ideally I'm looking for one that has straight access to Spotify so i don't have to constantly update the music for her but it seems like all the ones I can find also have regular internet access. We are trying to limit her amount of, especially "unsupervised" access. So i don't want anything that has a Browser or ability to download snapchat etc.

Does this exist? Or do I have to go with an old school mp3 and download all her music for her until she's older to have her own phone. (We are in Canada btw)

Thanks!!!

I know I know I know there have been so many posts about this topic (trust me I’ve read through so many before seeking out advice myself). My husband and I have 2 cats that are pretty well behaved. They were my babies before my human baby and I have never ever ever thought I would be sitting here feeling this way. Since I had my baby 8months ago things with my cats have been not so fun (for me). I love them but I hate everything that comes with them now. I never realized just truly how messy and dirty they are. I guess I am a clean freak because I HAVE to clean up any litter I see on the floor which makes me end up vacuuming at least 3-4x/day. I can’t just leave it or else I will go even more crazy lol My son is crawling around and it makes me feel like the floors need to be clean all the time and I just feel like I’m spending more time cleaning than I am with my son. I also have so many other things I need to take care of during the day (I’m a SAHM) and vacuuming my house multiple times really drains my energy. I hate their cat tree and their litter box and water being out everything just feels so dirty and cluttered because of them. I don’t know what to do because I feel miserable but I can’t give them away I don’t feel strong enough to. I know I have to toughen up but man every day I feel so stressed and overwhelmed and all I want to do is enjoy being with my son and go out but I can’t because I have to clean. Anyways this is more of a rant I guess thanks for reading this 🫶 Oop also need to add my husband does so much to lessen my load with the cats (he cleans their litter, he cleans their cat trees & vacuums the couch, he shaves them so there’s less hair) yet I still feel so ughhhh

I am pregnant- was not supposed to happen- but I am 2 years out from finishing computer science degree (online school), and want to be a work from home software engineer. Am I screwed now that I may have a child?

Hello! I have been asking my friend group about this, but I’d love to get some feedback from y’all about something I’ve been thinking about a lot since I hit 35 weeks yesterday (first baby). My question is:

How can I maximize the likelihood of having a good experience during labor and delivery and postpartum care in a hospital?

Background: I’m scheduled to have a hospital birth. I’ve had a pretty standard pregnancy without any problems (had a high BMI when I got pregnant, but I passed my GD one hour test the first time and don’t have high blood pressure, my OB seems unconcerned). I have a fair amount of medical trauma/anxiety stemming from some unfortunate medical care I received in the past, so I’m really nervous about the hospital birth. There’s just so much about it that’s out of my control, and my main fear is getting steamrolled or ignored by staff when I am so vulnerable. Luckily I have my husband, and he is not one to wilt when he feels like I’m not getting the help I need, but I still worry. The hospital system I’m planning to use has really mixed reviews both online and from moms I know have given birth there, and that reflects my own experience with the maternal fetal medicine appointments I’ve experienced there so far (most recently they had a trainee tech do my 34 week ultrasound, which resulted in fine measurements but no usable pictures for my husband and I to enjoy, which was really disappointing). I have a birth plan that my OB approved, and I’m hoping that they’ll follow it as much as they’re able, but my biggest fears are to be ignored, condescended to or brushed off.

So Mommit, if you did something that you felt helped you have a better birth experience, I’d love to hear about it. I’d love to hear anything your husbands/birthing partners did as well that helped and made you more comfortable! Any coaching you recommend I pass along in advance to help him feel more empowered is most welcome!

Also, while your experiences are totally valid, please refrain from posting horrifying nightmare birth experiences. I’m kind of a train wreck as it is and hearing a bunch of worst case scenarios would really mess me up. Also please refrain from “just do a home birth” or “you should try a birth center instead”. If you had a great experience with those, that’s great and I’m so happy for you but due to insurance and accessibility reasons I’m sticking to a hospital birth (even if it’s spooky).

Thanks!

I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. I have had 1 ultrasound which was done around 6-8 weeks. Everything was normal. My last visit was Oct 16. They checked the heartbeat with a sound wand (normal) and did a genetics blood test (normal). A week later we found out we are having boy from the blood test. My question to yall is how did yall find out you're having twins? Would I know before now? The reason I ask is because this is my 3rd child and ,while the nausea is wayyy better this time, everything else has increased 10x. I already have a fairly big belly whereas my last 2 didn't even begin to show till around 25 weeks. I have to pee literally every 3 min. My sciatic pain is radiating through my hips in a way that usually only happened close to week 30. I feel TONS of movement, which is great but it's the amount of movement I was expecting close to 30 weeks. I can even see my belly move sometimes. TMI but I also haven't pooped in 3 days. Help.

But yea, How did yall find out? Did you have a feeling before? Does this sound like a twin pregnancy or am I overthinking? Would any of the tests ive done so far have told the Dr's I'm having twins? If this isn't twins, should I be concerned about the amount of pain I'm in?

I'd call a doctor for these questions but 1)I'm on Medicaid so not exactly a priority unless I'm bleeding and 2) It's a long weekend so no one's there till Tuesday and I don't think this constitutes an emergency 😅 Thanks in advance to anyone who can help.

My Girl is soon 6 months. She farts a lot everyday, and she poops only 2x a week, but when she poops, it is aaaaaaaa loooot. The poop will come out of diaper, from the legs and on the back. Until now we were lucky because it happened only once in public when she was very 3 or 4 months. There was poop on my friend she took it with humor.

Do you have some tips and tricks to make her poop less? More frequently but less? Or any other advice will be greatly appreciated.

Thank you

any time i go out with my son (16 months) it’s a constant battle of screaming and throwing fits because he wants what he can’t have or wants to run around a restaurant we’re in and i don’t allow him to or screams because i won’t let him down and run into traffic, i get so frustrated and stressed out and it’s written all over my face causing the people i am with to notice it to. its a fight every single time i leave the house with him and it makes every trip out of the house completely miserable. none of us enjoy it, it doesn’t get better each time and everyone around me gives me the dirtiest looks for trying to calm my screaming child in the middle of Walmart or family restaurant. being in the house 24/7 is depressing, but going out is worse.

does this phase ever end? am i the bad mom for hating leaving the house and not doing anything? why can’t i be the mom who is easygoing and does all the activities out of the house and it goes seamlessly. why does it seem we are the only Mom/Son who can’t be in public without 6 meltdowns every time.

is there something wrong with me?

After having our baby a lot has changed (he is 14 months old). And somehow the feeling between us too. Suddenly everything feels a little bit less, and we just don't have energy for anything. We are both stressed, we don't have a lot of money so that is extra stress we have to deal with. Husband works a lot and I am a SAHM (for another year and a half). Bit we are having it really bad between us. We don't seem to understand each other anymore, we don't seem to even want same things anymore. We are 7 years together and married for 3 years.

I wonder did anyone go through anything like this? Did your marriage/relationship survive it?

If yes, how did you "fix" it? We don't really have money for couples therapy rn, so a DIY option would be great 😅

My 2 year old fell at the zoo today and broke his fall with his face. We ran to the hospital and they observed him for 3 hours. He never blacked out, nor threw up, and was back to himself for a while. He took a nap for 3 hours and was well rested. When he pooped it’s was pale yellow. Any thoughts? He’s really not eaten much today since the fall and had milk. Advice would be great. Worried mom. I have picture but this page doesn’t allow