We are not super close, but we are friends because our kids are friends. I’d like to get her something for Christmas, but I’m not sure what to get!

Looking for advice!

I currently have the Uppababy Vista V2 travel system. I bought it for a great price off Facebook marketplace and am excited to have it (I won’t be using the used car seat, I plan on buying new)! However, after doing research and seeing some scary reviews I’m nervous to use the Mesa car seat and am considering the Chicco Keyfit 35 instead. Can anyone speak to either of these car seats? I have many friends you are currently using or have used the Mesa and have loved it and used it without an issue, I’m just torn on what to do based on some of the reviews I have seen of it.

Has anyone used a non-Uppa car seat with their stroller? Is it going to be a pain using the adapter if I get a different brand of car seat?

Going back and forth on this. I always wanted to get a professional Santa picture every year like my parents did with me but it’s also flu season, and having a stranger hold her when she’s so little even for a minute makes me nervous?? Should I just start the tradition next year? Is this just PPA talking?

So I have had some bad experiences with my once wonderful drs. First I started hemorrhaging out of nowhere this had never happened to me I had a history of Pcos and endometriosis but I have not had issues in 7 years. I had a surgery to remove the endo and I had my daughter no problem and I was fine after that. I have expressed to my dr multiple time I didn’t want to be on birth control I have never done well on any. After bleeding for 7 day she finally took me into the hospital for an emergency dnc. She called me on her personal phone when I had again contacted the office. She said I needed to come in Monday for a dnc and she needed to put an iud in. I was never told what the dnc was or why I needed it and I was very uncomfortable with having an iud put in. After a day no one called me back I then got a call on Saturday that I needed bloodwork for my surgery followed by a call from the hospital to schedule my procedure. Still unaware of what was going on she didn’t say it was surgery or that it would be done in a hospital. So I called the office back myself twice. Finally one of the nurses said something isn’t right let me try to call the dr. She said the dr would call me soon. She did call me back after the surgery was already scheduled to tell me about the procedure and basically told me I had no choice but to get the iud because of the bleeding. I have never had this type bleeding happen to me even when I was in the middle of my medical issues. My period was still normal coming same time every month for 5 days not too painful. They believe it may be my endometriosis coming back so the fix that with hormone birth control. When I had the dnc they said everything looked fine after the dr told me she removed a polyp and that everything else came back normal. I then found out after and emergency visit for pain and potential infection that I have internal stitches that I was never informed of. I looked at my dr notes from the surgery and it says she placed stitches but that I had no polyps? I have been having complications with the IUD and the pa I had to see in the office basically told me that I was fine and it’s unlikely it has moved. She the asked me if I wanted her to test me for an infection. Thank god I did because I did have an infection. I have also recently had a similar experience with my gi dr and they both work for the same network and hospital. I still have the iud after I asked for them to take it out and I am in extreme pain everyday more then I was before the surgery. Is it normal that my dr didn’t test my hormones before assuming I have a hormone imbalance that needed to be fixed with birth control that I was very much against. Is any of this normal to not be informed properly about medical procedures or medication or anything really?

Hello,

My son was waking up 2-3 times a night and staying asleep once I put him in his bassinet, but now everything has changed.

He gets up almost immediately after being put down. He needs to be held or he will cry. He fights me whenever I give him a pacifier. And he is waking up every 2 hours to eat. Nothing I am doing seems to help.

Any advice for a first time mom?

Sincerely,

Desperate and sleep deprived

Hello moms!

So every year since I've been a part of my husband's family, they've done christmas a little differently than my family. Every one of the kids (my husband is 1 of 5 kids) and his mom and dad provide a slide show with pictures or an itemized list with pictures of exactly the items they want.

I wasn't raised this way to provide these kinds of lists. My parents knew what I would enjoy and provided that info to other family members, granted I am an only child.

Now that I am 28 (husband is 27) and we don't live in the house along with most of his siblings, I suggested we do a secret santa drawing, and whoever you draw you spend $50. This includes boyfriends/girlfriends. Normally, we would spend $30-40 per person for everyone in the house, and I'm just not down with it any more. We also had our first baby last December and I've been battling a multitude of health issues this year. Money is flying out the window.

We are still doing gifts for the parents and the parents do still do gifts for all of the kids if they wish.

I was a little taken aback because my FIL, as usual, sent a 40 item list, itemized and with pictures of the exact items he wants, most of them over $100. Now, I AM USED TO THIS, but I was really hoping they'd get the hint that christmas really isn't about the gifts and that we are trying to watch her our budget.

Is this a weird practice? Just looking for some opinions. I can see how it would be helpful, but I also feel like it's a bit shallow/greedy.

Tyia!

Are all family calendars now paid premium?

I remember a few years ago, downloading a Calendar app on my phone and having great features and it was free

I’ve just tried to download a few different ones about a month ago and they only work for the whole family if you’re paying about 80 a year! Order free features are absolutely worthless if you’re trying to do a Calendar for everyone to use at once

What Calendar is everyone using?

I’m torn on getting my kid a play kitchen or a functional kitchen like the new Lovevery one. We’re pretty much screen free. Pros of play kitchen: imaginative play, can go in playroom, mess free. Pros of functional kitchen: learn real life skills, help in kitchen, kid can get their own water and wash their hands, etc. However, I could also just get one of those helping towers and effectively turn our kitchen into one that is kid friendly. I know I’m overthinking it and this is totally a first world problem. But plz, those of you who have tried any of these, let me know your thoughts! For reference, baby will be 1 in Feb but everything is on sale right now so trying to purchase things on the cheap in advance.

I left an abusive man. Obviously if I stayed with him everyone will say I'm a bad mom. This is a 2nd shelter I've been to since being homeless after leaving my ex. I got a job but still don't have enough money for a place. I applied for several forms of government assistance and only got food stamps and medicaid.

All of the shelters are full and now I'm worried about being accused of child endangerment if and when me and my son end up sleeping outside because of all the shelters being full. I don't drink alcohol. I've never been on drugs and I dont scam people.

I can't do anything right apparently and now I wanna go back with my ex because I'm tired of the shelter workers constantly scrutinizing me and I'm tired of people asking me over and over if family will let me live with them. My family won't let me live with them. They don't care. They pretend to care but they don't actually care. They wanna be nosey and also complain about not being allowed to see their only grandchild (my child) while they are allowing us to be homeless. I'm trying my best and apparently I still can't do anything right. If I go back to him cause I'm tired of being homeless all of you will tell me I'm a horrible mom. But if me and my baby camp outside cause of nowhere else to go after leaving my ex then you still think I'm a horrible mom. I can't take it anymore. I'm tempted to put him up for adoption and then killing myself after I'm sure he found a better family

I also don't have child support either. I tried filing for it through the state months ago and they told me it can take up to 2 years to get it. The reason I filed for it through the state is cause I can't just ask him for it directly because there is a no contact order preventing him from being allowed to contact me.

I'm also tired of the shelter workers asking me if I can stay with family. After they kept telling me to keep asking my family if I can live with them they still said no. Even after I cried on the phone and told them that me and my son could be sleeping outside cause all of the shelters are full they still didn't take me in.

And before anyone accuses me of being a scammer or claiming that this is a fake post or "rage bait" no it isn't. This is real life.

Yes I am a USA citizen and yes I called every shelter in my state. I already moved to a different city multiple times to get to the shelter that I'm at now.

Ever since our 13 month old turned 13 months going on 14 he has not slept at all. We feel like we’re back on a newborn schedule. He has no trouble falling asleep but then he wakes multiple times and when he does he doesn’t want to be laid back down on his back or side and he’ll only allow us to hold him upright. He is on famotidine x2 daily and still mainly drinking formula. He used to sleep through the night but now nothing. He also does chew on everything and puts his hand up to his mouth in the “eat” sign but that maybe him saying “my mouth feels funny” but we don’t know what’s going on.

Where are your kids hiding places? My boys have lost my keys and I've turned my hpuse upside down and still can't find them

Mothers of Mommit, I'm planning on transitioning our almost 2.5yo from full crib to either toddler bed with partial rails or taking down one wall of his current crib. Main concern for me would be him rolling off the mattress onto hardwood floor. Do you use any crash pads/pillows, and what kind/brand?

Not a fan of floor mattress as we do have the occasional bug/creepy crawler stroll into the house, so ideally we would have a very slight lift off of floor -- hence either toddler bed with stubby legs or crib taken down a wall.

When you transitioned to a toddler bed, did you just go straight to like a full sized mattress for them to grow into?

Thanks in advance!

Has anyone had iron transfusions while pregnant? My iron is very low, and my options are oral supplements, which take longer to work, or 2-3 transfusions a week a part. I have questions for my doctor before I make a decision, but I'm wondering if anyone can offer any insight from experience.

I also have a 2yo at home, so I have to take that into consideration.

EDIT: I reread the email and I wouldn't need multiple transfusions a week, the wording was confusing to me.

I don't get what happened but my toddler gets up every morning and then is inconsolable for like 15-30mins. Sometimes toys/milk/ food/ water "snaps" him out of it, but not really, it's just don't get it. Can't tell anything else is bothering him

My son (7 months) sucks 2 specific fingers on his left hand all day and all night. There are only brief moments in time when these fingers aren’t in his mouth. His fingers are cracked, swollen, and raw from all the sucking but it is his only way of soothing himself. I’ve tried a million pacifiers, bottle nipples, and even positive experiences with other fingers but nothing works.. help! It’s great that he is self soothing but his poor fingers aren’t holding up and his fingers being in his mouth is also starting to get in the way from a developmental standpoint (it’s hard to balance while sitting and learn to crawl with 1 hand) Any advice on what to do or try?

My daughter still uses her crib (19m) but she’s is extremely tall for her age like she uses 4T for the length not for width. Her legs sometimes hang out her crib. Her dad and I think she’s ready for a toddler bed but I’m not sure if mentally she’s ready her room is safe for her, baby locks no small items that she can grab etc. should we just make the switch for her? Maybe wait till she’s older as she does move quite a bit in her sleep and I’m scared she will just roll out even with bed railings. Would love to get some insight from other moms thank you in advance

I desperately need a mommy makeover but without going under the knife or needle. Give me any and all your ideas! Working full time with young children doesn’t leave for much time, so I’m looking for ideas that I can easily incorporate into a hectic life. I would also like to know what was the most impactful to looking and feeling better. Best ROI?

I’ve only been 6 years with kids but feel and looked like I aged 20 years. HELP!

Baby's first birthday party was today, and we are so grateful for the toys and clothes we received. However, the great grandparents gifted us a cocomelon toy. We never watch cocomelon in our house, but we understand that the other grandkids watch it and they were just trying to give us something they thought our baby would enjoy.

I was thinking of returning it, but didn't come with a receipt or gift receipt. I know some places will still take it for store credit. I really don't want any cocomelon in our life. I just feel bad for wanting to return it though.

FTM here to 4 month old baby boy! Since becoming a mom, I have been so forgetful and ditzy.

I feel like I have so much on mind now. I will be having a conversation with my husband and I’ll think back to our conversation and can’t remember if we finished our discussion.

Other examples, I go to the grocery store and forget things I have on my list, to make stops at certain places and today as I was leaving the mall, I drove down the wrong side of the street because I was thinking how I need to get back home fast to my husband and baby😩…

I have been having a hard time adjusting with life with a baby, finding time to do me time, cleaning, work and etc;

Is it normal to be forgetful or sort of ditzy during postpartum..?!

And if so does it get better 😭

These first months, this first year. It can feel like torture. The sleep deprivation, losing yourself, your relationships changing. Utter chaos, existing purely on adrenaline. The tears of frustration, the tears of fear. Questioning yourself, the guilt...and in the whirlwind of it all comes moments where it also feels to fast. Here I am cleaning my kitchen. My little baby is scooting around on the floor almost crawling. Beside the bottles on the shelf are sippy cups. There is a messy highchair covered in chunks of food. Sometimes the last seven months feel like a lifetime and sometimes it feels like it's gone by in the blink of an eye. What a mind trip motherhood really is.

Mom of one amazing child, 14.5 months old. Lately I have been so short-tempered. Never with my child, but with my husband and my mother. With my husband, I just feel like he doesn’t get it, he has no sense of urgency and can’t be bothered to do anything unless expressly asked to.

My baby is current sick with a cold and has all 4 eye teeth coming in, is barely eating anything and is so clingy and only mom will do. I don’t get a break from 5:30 when he wakes up until 7 when he sleeps. Even naps are contact naps. This is weekends only. The kid is an angel at daycare, eats everything and naps for 2.5 hours like clockwork.

Usually these things don’t bother me, but this week has been hell. I have been snapping at him for all of the small things that he’s been doing (or not doing) that seem obvious to me.

Should mention that I thought I should have had my period last week (no possibility of pregnancy), still breastfeeding so my periods have been inconsistent at best since they came back 2-3 months ago.

Is this normal? Is it hormones? Do I just have no patience for people not doing what I think should be obvious?

Also, any tips for when you’re about to snap?

I rescheduled pictures for my 2 and 3, 3 different times to accommodate a nap for them. Which is totally fine with me. So my 3 yr old would not take a nap today and our pictures were at 6;45. I told my husband at 5, I’m just gonna drive them around til they fall asleep and usually a good hour is all they need.

We get to the mall at 6:20 and start walking there and my 3 yr old was ok just a little sleepy still. My 2 yr old was all about the Christmas stuff.

Soon as it’s time to see Santa my 3 yr old starts crying. So I just took the baby and figured I can just bring them again another time together because December just started. As soon as I’m done, my husband has an attitude with me and starts cursing saying “you should’ve just let her sleep! Wasting my f**king money.” Loud enough for anyone near to hear. I didn’t say anything because I didn’t wanna cause a scene. He said something else to me and ignored him because ofc I’m mad. Then I said “idk why you’re cursing at me and being so mean to me” then calls me a cry baby.

The whole ride home he’s literally lecturing me about “I should’ve known better!” “You get tunnel vision and still wanna do things and don’t care about anything else.” But I can tell the future! Usually my 4 yr old loves Christmas stuff and being outside so I thought she would’ve been ok.

From what’s supposed to a happy moment to now feeling so crappy about myself. Now I literally don’t wanna plan to do anything else.

help me. any recommendations. the infant tylenol is helping with her fever. she congested. no wheezing while breathing or anything concerning. we’re going to the doctor tomorrow. but anything help your little one with the discomfort.

Psa. I also have a common cold. Im staying away frim her as much as i can. my bf is taking take of her. I want to help her but im sick too

My daughter 1.5 just had a really bad case of HFM, blisters everywhere, especially on her hands mouth and feet. I usually clip her fingernails weekly because they grow quick, but since the HFM she won’t let me touch her hands. I do notice that her fingers have been peeling since the HFM, but she won’t even let me get close. Only hand holding when she is walking. Any advice to getting back to nail clipping or how I can get close? I’ve even tried Ms Rachel and she won’t let me touch her fingers. Help!

TLDR I moved his tools and he told me to start contributing half the mortgage with money.

We have a 2.5 y/o we both agreed I will stay at home with until school. He makes good money, enough to take the winter off if he chooses.

He has taken this winter off and moved all His tools in the house. Left them in my kitchen for 3 weeks now.

When I went to mop, I moved the tools to the closet where the rest of his work stuff is. And he started barking at me that he can’t leave anything out and my junk is everywhere (not true) and that I need to pay for half the mortgage like he does.

I thought staying at home with our child was my way of contributing to the mortgage. I got really upset and removed myself from the situation..we can discuss later when baby is in bed…

If this is because he no longer wants to provide me an “allowance” (for my Bills & household expenses) then no problem I’ll get a job.

But the thing is my daughter still doesn’t sleep through the night…I haven’t had one full nights sleep since she was born. I don’t think it’s fair to be up at night then go to work All day just to quit my job when he goes back to work in the summer. looking for others take on this…

My daughter, 9, has very thin and fine hair. She’s only ever had maybe 2 haircuts (trims) her whole life and I just feel like her hair doesn’t grow. She hasn’t had it trimmed in at least 4 years and when I look back on pictures, it isn’t much longer now than it was then. Any tips on what I can do/use to help promote growth, strength, thickness?

My husband and I want to start trying for #2 in the new year but I’m a little ashamed to say I havent really lost the baby weight. I’m still 7ish lbs heavier than I was pre-pregnancy with my first, and I’m 15 months postpartum. Its so much harder to lose weight now, and knowing I’ll be pregnant soon makes me think whats the point in killing myself to lose weight but I really had wanted to lose it before I got pregnant again :(

Has anyone been in the same situation?

I'm not going to pose it as "I'm watching you and I'll rat you out to the big man in the North Pole so don't fuck up!" But more like "I'm your fun little elf friend who comes to play every December." But my kids are 1 and 6, and my 6 year old has autism and isn't quite at a typical 6 year old's level. So I think this year since it's just an introduction I want to keep things very simple. Maybe just little notes every day and occasionally some candy or a small toy or something. But no crazy scenes since my 1 year old won't understand and I think it'll confuse my 6 year old/he will want to recreate it and won't understand why he can't cover the house in toilet paper or bathe in hot chocolate.But I'm really not creative enough to think of 25 things for an elf to tell the kids every day. Does anyone have any websites that have any prewritten elf messages? When I looked it up it was all fun different scenes.

We’re looking for a new home and the area we’re looking in has a lot of split level houses. I don’t like not having all the younger kids on the same floor as me but we have such a small selection without split bedrooms. My kids are 14, 6, 3 and 1. My oldest would be fine but my 6 year old sleepwalks sometimes and it makes me nervous to have her that far away. Some of the bedrooms are a little too small for them to share comfortably because they’re on different sleep schedules and one would wake the other up. Does anyone have their children on a different floor than them? Does it bother you?

My beautiful girl is 5 almost 6 and we have always bumped heads :( I guess it’s because we both have attitudes and are catty? I really don’t know. My husband and I discipline her the exact same way with the only thing that’s different is that he’s able to come back from it so quickly where her and I can kinda take a little bit to get over. Is this nature? Ugh it sucks. I want my daughter to feel safe and relaxed but I feel like when I have to teach her to be a good citizen i jjst end up hurting her feelings. :/

For example, my husband and i actively teach her to not interrupt others while they’re speaking and tonight at dinner I had to scold her for continuously doing it and her throwing a major fit because I wasn’t able to tend to her right away. She started to act really nervous and weird but I don’t think she would have done that with my husband.

Wtf. I love her with my entire being. Am I ruining her?