I'm 24 with a 3 year old daughter and just found out I was pregnant on Friday. That was the day my period was supposed to come, and i just had this feeling to take a test because i usually don't PMS until about 2-3 days before my period, but this time it started about a week before. the HCG line began getting dark within seconds.

I have zero intentions of going through with this pregnancy but I already feel so guilty. I have a Christmas Party this week as well as a company Gala that will both have open bars. and even though I will be terminating, the thought of drinking makes me feel like a yucky person. I know the abortion itself is going to take a toll on me because I can't stop thinking about how much i love love love my daughter and this one would be no exception.

I'm typically not an emotionally sensitive person, but these hormones are eating me alive. The dad is someone I've been messing with on and off for about 2 years. Not super serious, but i know we do care about each other in a friendly way. He's sending me money for the abortion on Friday, been asking general questions about the process and told me he's sorry that I'll have to go through this. but he hasn't asked me if i'm okay ONCE and it makes me wanna cry.

I hate it here.

Hi everyone. I’ve never made a post on here but I really need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month and even though we used protection I got pregnant.

He is a truck driver and I am shifting jobs. He doesn’t live with me and I pay rent alone. I don’t feel financially stable at all to bring a child into this world.

When I got a positive pregnancy test my decision was made, and he as onboard (at the time).

After spending days crying my eyes out, unable to tell my family. He starts questioning our relationship getting upset with me. Telling me he is not good enough, he can’t provide, and maybe we should end our relationship after the procedure. I tried to affirm him as much as possible that maybe one day we will have a child, just not right now.

Next thing I know he is at a hospital. Someone called the ambulance as he was sitting in his car with a knife contemplating hurting himself.

The second time was with his parents.

The abortion appointment is tomorrow on my birthday. ( Hurray 😒)

I’m scared if I should let him come or not. Will that cause him more pain? Is it possible he could hurt me? Will he try to hurt himself in front of me? If I push him away will he go through with his plans? Do I need to end the relationship because he is emotionally unstable? Should I try to make this work?

This has been the most stressful moment in my life and when I needed my bf to support me and be a rock I feel almost manipulated into going through with the pregnancy. I also feel that he is being selfish for planning on leaving me alone with this. Am I wrong for that? I feel isolated and cannot stop crying over it. My heart breaks for him too. We’ve been such a fun goofy couple and I never would have thought he was going through so much pain.

I just feel pretty lost navigating the whole situation 😔

I’m in a banned state, (OK) and I’m just over too far along for an MA. I don’t have the time or the resources to go to another state for surgical. I did do an MA before at 14-15 weeks, but I don’t want to do that again. It was a bit scary. Could I take the meds to start the abortion then go to the hospital and doctors finish with a DNC? Has anyone here had to go the hospital in OK since this was banned? Any and all advice is much appreciated!

Minor rant: I REALLY hate that we have to fucking jump through hoops now. I never needed an abortion until they were banned.

In states where the procedure is illegal… if the pills were inserted vaginally and you have to seek medical care and they see them… will they arrest you at the hospital? How does that work? It’s weird but I genuinely want to know. My pills are on the way and I considered inserting them but if I need medical attention I don’t want to get arrested 😩

Its been 2 days since my MA. I tend to overthink a lot of things and this was one of those. During my MA i only passed a few clots, around 3-5 in total used only around 3-4 maxi pads and bleeding was heavy but it was normal menstrual heavy flow. Im worried if the process was done properly. I followed with WoW instruction but still is very anxious. I couldn’t feel what they said “ feeling not pregnant anymore”. Although acid reflex has gone and i have more energy than usual since the situation. Idk what to do

im a freshman in college. i have met a nice, supportive group of people in my dorm, i even met a really sweet guy that i immediately connected with. he started staying over at my dorm about 2 months after we met, and we have done everything together since, from walking all around town to going on hikes, going to local shows and listening to shitty screamo, eating together, grocery shopping, we have had nice conversations with each other and hes so respectful. we had sex a few times, and every time we used condoms, so i dont know how this happened. i track my periods, and i was never sexually active before him, so when i saw that my period was 1 day late, i immediately knew. i went to buy a pregnancy test and sure enough, it was positive i havent eaten for over a week and just stayed at my dorm for this entire break, only leaving to use the restroom. i knew what i had to do, i just have nobody to talk to i feel i dont want to tell him because i fear he will be scared off, and i cannot tell any of my friends because i will break down and i fear being judged, i know they wont but i feel so disgusting, how could i let this happen to myself. i hate myself i have misoprostal on hand, because my ex best friend had gotten pregnant and i wanted to help her get rid of it. i have 6 pills left, and just placed 4 under my tongue about 25 minutes ago. ive done all the research i could, i plan on taking the last 2 in 4 hours. i just hope it will be enough to get rid of whatever is inside of me im about 3 1/2 weeks pregnant according to the start of my last period i am feeling so many things i am thinking so many things i dont know how to feel, who to go to, and if it doesnt work due to me not having 12 pills, i am scared of what i will do to myself after i cannot have this baby im so terrified i feel like i am the only person on earth right now i hope this kills me instead

So I had a surgical abortion 29/11, just some days ago. I was 9weeks pregnant and I regret having the abortion so much. I feel like I didn’t get the support I needed from my loved ones and I listened to other peoples opinions rather than myself. Now me and my boyfriend want the baby back. Now im just wondering when we can try again? I read that ovulation can happen as soon as 2 weeks after the procedure but is it the same if it was surgical? When is it safe to have sex again because I’ve seen so many answers so I don’t know. Thank you 😮‍💨

Im a breadwinner for a family of 6. I work as an Operations Manager for a start up company that does graveyard shift.

The pills arrived at the post office, they're asking me to pick it up and they need me to pay ₱1100?

Do I need a leave of absence or can I work?

Im at 11 weeks

my boyfriend and i just found out i am pregnant today and we have decided to terminate. we have talked about this before and neither of us are going to change our minds. we are seniors in hs and we want to continue our education, plus my mom would kill me if she found out. i don’t feel guilty for not wanting to keep it but i feel guilty for being so irresponsible and letting it happen. we have protected ourselves before but we got too carried away and did it knowing i was ovulating. he is purchasing a pill for me today and i am taking asap. i’m not too sure how accurate this guess is but i should only be about 5 weeks in. i’m so scared of it hurting and i am scared of someone finding out. i just nervous and i don’t know what’s coming. if someone could please tell me what to expect that would be greatly appreciated.

(MI, US)

Help please. I was suppose to do my 2nd dose 6am today but I slept and woke up 8:57 and took the 2 sublingually. Will that still work? Im feeling cramps like when im on my period but no blood in my pad yet. I peed and theres a bit of blood. Is it okay if theres no blood coming out yet?

Dec 1 3:00AM Took mife Dec 2 3:03AM Miso sublingually Dec 2 3:33AM Throw up a bit but managed to drink the remaining pills.

Dec 2 8:57AM 2 Miso under tongue

PS : I ALSO DRANK JUICE AFTER THE 30 MINS MARK BC IM TERRIBLE SWALLOWING SOLID MEDS. IS IT OK???

UPDATE AS OF 12:59. Im having diarrhea and im not sure why i havent bled yet. Is it bc im nkt drinking too much water? Do i take the 3rd miso?

I've been thinking/considering things. I decided not to have this baby since it is unwanted. I got pregnant by my fubu and ended our set up last month. I just found out that I am pregnant. I dont have a work to provide for this baby and I am just starting my career (just graduated). Please help me abort this baby, I knew that I can't provide and I might put traumas if I decidee to keep this baby and I don't want that to happen.

Hi, I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant, and the doctors have informed me that the baby has little chance of survival. The baby is under 300g, has a ventricular septal defect (hole in the heart), and the umbilical cord is not supplying enough blood. They’ve also said that if the baby does survive, it will likely suffer severe neurological defects. We’re considering terminating the pregnancy, but we’ve learned that private clinics are charging over $8,000 for the procedure. I’ve contacted several hospitals, but they’ve said they need to present the case to a committee before making a decision. I’m unsure where to turn in this situation—could you offer any advice on what options are available

Hello, I'm curious if I can donate anytime after consultation with women on web. Or is there a deadline for the donation for the consultation to continue and to get the pill? I currently don't have enough money to send and I'm trying to save for the donation.

I got my pills from aid access. I took the first one & then took the 4 miso 24 hours later. I was only about 5-7 weeks along. My question is.. I see where people got their pills from other websites and they took more than the 4 miso. Did I do something wrong?? I was sure I followed the directions but now questioning it

i took a pregnancy test last night after being 3 days late for my period, and found out i am 2-3 weeks pregnant.

i have a medical abortion appointment in a few days, and i have no idea how to process any of this. i have extremely strong maternal instincts and i do want babies, but i know i can’t have them yet.

this is the most heart wrenching thing i have ever had to do. how did you even begin to heal?

i am very scared of the physical effects of the pill.

My period finally returned 9 weeks after my MA. I’m so relieved and just happy everything is returning back to normal. It lasted 4 days and normally mine are 6 days long. Is this normal for it to be shorter after an MA?

Long story short I (27f) found out I was pregnant by someone who already has another child, wants to continue to have fun and party and be with other women and has no interest in getting married. Also a big red pill content fan. I immediately knew I was in a bad situation with someone who I didn’t want to be with. I also thought about the type of father I would want for my kids and I knew this wasn’t the man. I had a MA a few days ago and I feel guilty. I have never judged anyone who chose an abortion and I am pro choice but I always thought I couldn’t do it myself. Yet the situation became different once it happened to me. Was this the correct choice for me? Was it so early that it was “ok” to do such a thing? Will god forgive me? I have so many questions and no one to discuss this with. Sending love to all here.

hi, i'm 19 years old and i found out 2 days ago that i'm 9 weeks pregnant. i told my boyfriend about this on the same day (he's 18) and he is only sure on me having an abortion and won't accept me keeping the baby even though this is what i want to do as i'm feeling insanely attached. he's been very kind about the whole thing to be honest but he has told me that he wouldn't be there for me if i kept the baby so i told him i'll have an abortion as i don't want to raise a baby without the dad being in their life. booked an appointment for an abortion i'm just waiting for the date :(( i understand completely where he's coming from, we're both young (19 and 18) we both work minimum wage jobs and we're not living together. i know it would probably be the right decision to abort the baby but i just can't see me forgiving myself for a long time after it happens and i don't know how i'm going to look after my bf the same after it happens. he's told me that he doesn't feel sad about it because 'it's not even a baby yet' and 'it's not in his body so why would he care' need help and advice asap please!!! thank you

US live in FL unfortunately I found out I’m pregnant and obviously don’t want to be today I’m very early on but are there any websites that offer the plan c pill I could get that aren’t crazy expensive and trustworthy? I have family in NY that I could have it mailed to their address and still a valid NY license any help or recommendations on websites would be appreciated someone referred me to medside24 already but the website does look sketchy if anyone had anything information I’d be much appreciated.

i have abortion monday , this is my first abortion ever , first time being pregnant & all. been having panic attacks. i have no family . just would like some advice

I (F30) know that nobody can tell me what to do in this situation, but I've been consumed with doubt ever since I found out I'm pregnant (5 weeks). Even though I'm living happily with my boyfriend (M28, been together for 16 months).. It really wasn't my plan. Abortion is planned, but I'm sick with doubt.

Tldr; long ramble about deciding, mostly written to get it out of OP's head

I spent the last 6 months burnt out, working some odd freelance jobs but barely making money, living off my savings from my last job. I'm on depression meds, and I have pretty severe ADD. I'm in a creative field, and I always used to question whether I wanted kids. My boyfriend just started a new job in the industry he really wants to be in, but the pay is peanuts. We're both from families that are financially stable and willing (jumping even) to help.

My boyfriend loves babies, we've both expressed that we want to get married in a couple years (no hurry while we don't have the money for a big party yet), but he's honest with me: he thinks it's too soon for us to commit in this way. We moved really quickly: moved in together after 4 months, he told me he loved me after 2 months of knowing each other, we're basically a boring married couple now that goes to IKEA on saturday. A few weeks ago we agreed that we need more excitement and romance- this would be the oppsite. And he still has stuff to figure out about himself before he's ready for a baby. And I agree. But on the other hand, he admits that whenever he pictures us with a baby, he's giddy and excited. And I am too. But are we being unrealistic? every logical cell in my brain tells me that this baby would overstimulate me and mess with my future chance of success as an artist, and maybe even isolate me from my friends (none of my friends have children- i live in a big european city and all my friends are queer) and -sorry if this sounds really pretentious - dull the intellectual and creative hunger that always sustained me. And about the ADD: I can barely match my socks every day, I'm constantly losing items, and I'm a horrible multitasker. What if I mess up the kid's psyche with my chaos? Every time I talk to people about the choice, I get giddy and excited about a baby. I'll be the first one in my big warm group of artist/writer friends, and I feel like I might be able to build a village for the kid. But every time I mull it over by myself, I think I'd be ridiculous to keep it. I can barely take careof myself, and I'm just trying to find purpose after a burnout. Then again, today i walked down some train station steps, and suddenly felt so cozy- like I wasn't alone, like I was tied to something. Later, when washing the dishes, I thought it was crazy that I got my parents/friends hopes up about the whole thing- obviously I'm not going to keep it. When I saw my partner cradling my cat that night, I thought 'why would I ever mess up this perfect thing I have now?'

I've got an abortion planned for the 10th. I've talked it over with people that are very close to me, and all of them are supportive either way, and would love to support us if we choose to keep it. I'm going on a long beach walk tomorrow alone, and am planning to call some older women who became mothers unexpectedly to get some more perspective.

Questions:

• What questions made your decision clear for you?
• Any exercises to decide what to do? I've tried the flip the coin thing- it doesn't work for some reason. I keep oscillating.
• any people like me here who kept the baby and regretted it? Or the opposite?

Sorry for the long post, I'm not really expecting anyone to read it all, it just felt good to type it all out.

i posted about this once before but i’m even more scared. i got a SA on november 21. a week before that i had unprotected sex. well, the day after the abortion i took an ovulation test and it was positive. i’m so scared that the sex i had a week before the abortion turned around and got me pregnant again. i still have pregnancy symptoms (frequent urination and nausea) and i’m terrified that i’m pregnant all over again. what are the chances that the sex i had a week before my appointment would’ve turned around and got me pregnant right after my abortion? why are my pregnancy symptoms still there?

I live in Orange County, California. I have no friends in the area, the first day of my last period was 10/26 so I should be 5 weeks pregnant but honestly I feel like I could be more than that because it was an extremely strange irregular period and I just want a friend to come and hold my hand and maybe help drive me back home from the medical facility in case it ends up having to be a surgical abortion. Someone please be there for me. I’m really scared. 27F

I’m 31 living with family at the moment… separated from my husband for 8 months, he will be filing for divorce soon. We have 3 small children the youngest being 16 months old. He left us and is in a relationship with a co-worker. He also just got diagnosed bipolar. Just throwing these tidbits out to explain my unfortunate situation. We recently tried to make the relationship work and that is when I fell pregnant. I want to keep my abortion private from my parents. They would support the abortion absolutely, but it feels very personal and shameful for me. I’d like to maintain this privacy. My question is, will I be able to recover at home without them knowing??? I am doing a Surgical Abortion at planned parenthood, somewhere around 8 weeks. I heard it will be less painful, and faster. And more discreet for my current living situation. I am planning on faking the flu for why I am not feeling well. I will have a support person taking me to the appointment and then dropping me off at home.

Hi today I got my first period since having an abortion in October. I was wondering if I should be using pads still for this period or if I’m safe to use tampons?

I’m 35 years old. I found out I was pregnant last Sunday November 24,2024. I first was excited and optimistic. As I didn’t know I’d be able to ever conceive. I currently feel so lost, confused, and full of regret after aborting due to not having paternal support at all 💔

I purchased the medicine on fb, I thought they are legit. After, taking the medicines I bleed a lot and have chills and super bad cramps but after the 7 hour process I peed and there's kinda big tissue that comes out but after that I didn't bleed anymore. I mean I'm spotting only like for 3 days. I expect heavy bleeding after the process but that was not happened to me. So, I'm worried and confused if I was really successful. Any thoughts guys? 🥺 I just contacted again the seller on fb, she said I'm not successful and I should retake the meds with higher doses and need to pay again more and that time I thought I'm really successful because of the blood clots and it was there modus to let you pay again. After all, I do not have the money at all anymore. I'm really having financial problems right now.

I did PT today and sadly there's two lines on it, the other one was fainted line. Does it indicate that I'm still pregnant? What should I do? 😭😭😭 I try the WHW and WHO website but I'm 12 weeks and 6 days since my last period. I think they will not offer the medicine anymore. I cannot afford to have another child, I'm really struggling in financial right now. Can anyone suggest any help or any thoughts how can I solve this one? I'm really stressed and it's been days I cannot sleep well. I have no one to talked to, because my partner left me after knowing I'm pregnant. I always cry at night because I don't know what to do. 😭😭 especially I live in the Philippines, abortion here is illegal. What should I do? 😭😭

hi all. i am wondering if medical abortions are available to women with chronic kidney disease? i am also wondering if anyone with CKD has had a medical abortion and if it was without complications. i know this is pretty niche, but i am hoping there’s someone out there who knows more than i do. just scared & need some clarity right now

I had a MA about 5 weeks ago and am still waiting for my first period. I had a moment of worry a few weeks ago as stupidly had unprotected sex (my partner pulled out but I know the risks). Pregnancy test was negative a couple of days ago and no pregnancy symptoms felt. I don't feel pregnant and my body starts feeling pregnant straight away. Im just wondering when everyone had their first period and did you get any signs before?

Ordered pills via plancpills.org from a site called ybyc meds, didn't have any bleeding or cramping after taking 8 miso and I can't go to a clinic or anything..please help.if anyone has gotten pills from ybyc what was your experience like and was it any different