Hi! I was ready to get the procedure and then it said it was just going to be IV sedation and I’d be conscious for the whole thing. YOURE KIDDING ME? I’m 21/22 weeks now absolutely not. I know I don’t want to do it but it’s what’s best for me. I can’t seem to find a place in the USA that will put me completely under. Help?

Hi I need your help, I just got an unwanted pregnancy... I saw your post and comments and WoW, I'm about to make a donation of 70 euros (ph).

What happens after? I'm at least 6-7 weeks pregnant. any tips or suggestions how to this will be so much appreciated. ty for the respect and responses.

Hello. I’m 27 and 6weeks 3days pregnant. This week, I'll be getting my medication, and I intend to start MA right away. Hearing my baby's heartbeat has left me feeling overwhelmed. My partner is happy and unable to control his excitement, and he truly wants to keep it. However, for a variety of reasons, I choose not to keep the baby. I’m not ready yet. I feel sorry for my partner because I had to keep it from him.

I'm stressed and doing a lot of research on how to use the medications. Could you please show me your schedule? And your lists of necessary items before, during and after MA. Thank you very much.

Hi. For a bit of context, I had a MA on Jan 9th. I went in for follow up 2 weeks later and had remaining tissue so the doctor scheduled me for a vacuum aspiration which I had done 4 days ago. Me and my husband decided to have unprotected sex tonight (it's been almost 2 months since we last had sex) we both felt ready, but now I am full on anxiety because he didn't pull out and came inside. I took a plan b pill 30 minutes later but now I can't sleep and want to just cry. I am terrified to get pregnant again, I am also upset he put us in this position but I know it takes 2 to tango.. anyone been through anything similar?

i had a medical abortion on tuesday but im not sure when exactly i can have sex again. i am having the impulses to do so but i dont wanna risk infection or anything so how long should i wait.? mt bleeding has lightened up tremendously and it seems ive passed almosy all the clots. i was 6w so im just wondering when im clear to do so with a condom ofc.

I (21F) and my fiancé (22M) had an accident. I've always used bc. Can't get the IUD because my uterus is too small. We have our own place, I've graduated from college and make a pretty good salary but he is still in school. He works full time too but even with both of us, it's not enough.

We live in a MCOL area, both working in our careers, yes we're young and yes still planning a wedding but we have lots of financial support and familial support if we were to keep it.

I'm scheduled for a medical abortion on the 14th, on Valentine's Day, a day before our anniversary. He's taking the day off because he knows I'll be in pain. I'm very thankful.

I'm just so angry. We should be able to support a child off our income and with time management. We don't have want to go through with this but we're building a house in the next year, he has two more semesters until graduation... the list goes on and on.

Meanwhile, it seems like everyone I know is having a baby. Coworkers, friends, people from Highschool. There people age younger and more financially unstable than we are. I am just angry. Everything that's happening right now in the US is making prices go through the roof. I can't help but think that if this was 10 or even 5 years ago it would be feasible for us.

Now it's not. I am so sad. But I want to be a Sahm, for the first few years. I want to be present, let them do all the extracurricular they want, go on all the vacations they want. Have quality family time together all of us, instead of a parent always working or an older sibling having to babysit. Idk. I guess this is a rant. We can't move out of the country without taking a huge paycut and we both just want what's best for our future kiddos.

I've been crying everyday for the past two weeks and my first appointment is in 9ish days. I'm just so mad.

Hi! I just want to confirm if my MA was successful.

I took mifepristone on February 1, then misoprostol on February 2—4 tablets first, followed by 2 more tablets after 3 hours. I experienced severe cramping and heavy bleeding, and I passed a blood clot along with what I believe was the embryo.

I didn’t take the third dose of misoprostol since the instructions mentioned only taking it if bleeding was lighter than expected. However, I bled heavily even without it.

Given my experience, would this confirm that the MA was successful? Thanks!

Hey everyone, hoping someone on here can offer some help. I had a surgical abortion on the 24th of January. Since then, I have been dealing with the most severe anxiety I’ve ever felt in my life. It’s interrupting my sleep, and I feel like I just can’t get my brain to stop. I’ve had reoccurring anxious thoughts of death, health anxiety and existentialism. I have never had an abortion before, I’ve also never had an IUD (mirena) which was inserted when I had my surgery.

I was wondering has anyone else felt like this after an abortion? I’m also at the point where I feel like I can’t function in every day life. I’ve seen a psychologist in the past but I’m thinking of seeking inpatient treatment at a hospital in Melbourne. I feel dramatic considering this over anxiety but I haven’t had a moment of relief from my anxiety since the surgery. If anyone has any insight on how to get admitted to a psych ward in Melbourne please let me know. Otherwise, any advice on how they got better would be so helpful. Thank you in advance

I just wanted to document my experience going through this process. Throughout everything going on I was utterly terrified and overwhelmed and tried my best to read as many stories online to try and prepare myself.

After arriving at the clinic, scared out of my mind, I had a lot of waiting and paper work to sign. I had gone in for an ultrasound, and they offered to answer any questions I had. I had declined, because even thought I was 100% certain about having this abortion, a part of me didn’t want to know anything so I had absolutely nothing to think about.

During the actual surgery I was on conscious sedation. I was up on the bed, and was giving an IV will some pain killers and anxiety medication. This part I thought was going to be the worst, I have had very bad experiences with weed and such so I was worried about being high. It was nothing like that, just felt extremely tired and a bit dizzy. I closed my eyes and just focused on breathing and it made the whole process easier. The beginning of the procedure wasn’t too bad, just a bit uncomfortable. I had gotten two freezing needles, but it felt about as bad as a bug bite. During the dilation part it just had felt like very small cramps, and was barely even noticeable. During the actual extraction was when the pain started, however it was just as bad as some period cramps, not the worst thing in the world. The whole process was barely 15 minutes, and I sat down in a recovery chair afterwards with a heating pad. The pain was definitely there after the procedure, but didn’t feel any worse than a heavy period. They checked my blood pressure a couple times after, and I was just trying my best not to fall asleep.

After I had gotten home, I immediately feel asleep on my couch. I definitely think this was just due to the drugs still in my system. I woke up after my nap, with extremely bad pains in my stomach, but they quickly disappeared after I had something to eat. (I believe this is because throughout my time being pregnant my nausea was so bad I was eating extremely little) But after My nap and some food almost all of my pregnancy symptoms had disappeared. My extreme nausea and headaches gone completely.

The day after I woke up feeling the best i’ve felt in months, I was able to wake up and go to school at 7am with no problems. It’s been 4 days post op, and i’ll get some cramping and sharp pains from my uterus shrinking back down, but they haven’t been bad enough for any painkillers.

Anyways. I hope this reaches anyone who’s as scared as I was and help to prepare them better for anything they are worried about :)

i'm 17 live in atl Ga i don't currently have the funds to get her a test or plan b but i doubt it would help her had sex on monday and it's currently monday again as of which i'm posting this and her period is 3 days late so i don't know what to do but there's no one i can go to about this and there's know way of knowing i'm nervous

Hi, Im 26 years old will undergo medical abortion and I’m planning to go to hospital if I’m bleeding. Will the doctor know that I took abortion pill beforehand?

Back in October I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. I chose to go the medication route. I cried more than I ever had that first day. I loved my baby and I had dreamt with him (felt it was a him). I spoke to him and asked him to forgive me.

I felt regret and pain. Two days later I took my 4 pills. I cried even more. The cramping and bleeding started an hour after. My pain wasn’t much worse than a bad period but the bleeding was much heavier. Two hours after I passed my child. I saw it and I’m sorry if it’s a lot but no one told me that would be possible. When I tried to get up I passed out. I was fortunately with my mother and she called 911 because I had stopped breathing when I passed out.

I went to the hospital and from that day they could tell it was likely successful because of how much my hcg levels dropped. Thankfully physically I was fine after.

Emotionally I have struggled. I cried for days, weeks, months. I started therapy which has been very helpful. I’m here to say I still think of my baby everyday, and it’s not something I intend to change. I don’t cry everyday but I think of him everyday. I still talk to him sometimes. And I cry sometimes. But it gets easier. I felt horrible about it. I still wonder ‘what if’ and I know my due date will be difficult. But it gets easier. Seek help if you need it. And I send so much love to you all 💕

I've recently just had 2 abortions. I'm.28 with 3 kids. My partner and I had been doing natural family planning the last 2 years successfully. Until October I found out I was pregnant. With our situation we knew we couldn't have a 4th baby. Went through the process of having a MA. At the clinic going over my ultrasound, i was told i have a huge bleed in my uterus meaning my chances of miscarriage was incredibly high.I was very sad but the process was fine.i kept telling myself it was for the best.

I then got the process started for surgery to remove my tube's. I'd absolutely love another baby but coming from a traumatic family of 5 kids, plus seeing my sister in law struggle with 5 kids, I know my 3 deserve better. My surgery was booked for January 22nd. Great my OB said don't worry about birth control or preventing. So we didn't, and no normal period after the MA in October. Well I got a phone call saying surgery is now pushed to feb 26th. I took a test and found out I was pregnant again and with dates lining up I'd be over 12 weeks for the surgery which my OB said she could do a SA. But I very much contemplated keeping this baby. I go for an ultrasound and once again I have a huge bleed right where the baby is. And multiple doctors saying is very risky to proceed with the pregnancy. The chances of hemorrhaging with any future pregnancies is to high. I hemorrhaged bad after my last birth.

Also when getting the second MA through my OB needed a referral from my family doctor. He was on vacation so I had someone new. She refused a referral because of her religion and spent my appointment trying to talk me out of it. It 100% made things so much harder.

So I had another MA last Friday and I'm so sad, I can't stop crying at no longer having a choice. I feel guilty about grieving the loss of these 2 babies. And the recovery has been so much worse this time. I'm just an absolute mess waiting for time to help heal.

I took the first pill on Thursday and then took the four on Friday. I had horrible cramps all night and passed the fetus Friday night/Saturday morning at 3am. I cramped all day Saturday and I am still cramping so badly like my regular period today (Sunday) I have taken ibuprofen (2 of 200mg) twice today, drank water, Gatorade and resting with a heating pad. I go back to full sports mode tomorrow and don’t know if I’ll feel good, what do you guys recommend to stop the cramping or feel better?

I've been seeing this guy for about two months and we aren't official and I don't think it will get to that point but I just found out that I am a couple weeks pregnant and I am choosing to get an abortion. My friend told me to tell him so that I don't have to carry this emotional burden on my own, but I have a weird feeling that he won't be understanding. He's talked about wanting to have kids before and having a kid with me so part of me is resentful toward him and myself for not being more careful but I have a gut feeling that he's gonna be upset that I want to have the procedure. A few things to know are that we have dated in the past and we're re-trying to establish something to see if he could meet my emotional needs, but I'm seeing that is impossible for him. He also has a kid which I kind of had an issue with in the beginning. Any personal experiences of telling someone something like this or any advice? I don't really want to continue the relationship so is there a point in telling him?

Hello, this is my third post here after my abortion back in december 25th. Its been 5 weeks and 4 days since and I haven’t stop bleeding, pages have mentioned that bleeding/spotting is normal for the following weeks, i have not gotten my period, there was a day where i bled a lot, then its been just brown discharge followed by passing very dark colored clots occasionally, im not sure if im overreacting or not, bleeding normally stops after 3 weeks, but mine hasnt stopped since and i dont know ehat to think, im starting to feel scared that maybe it wasnt complete? I dont have any pregnancy symptoms anymore so im not scared of being pregnant still but more scared of something else being stuck inside, has someone else also experienced this?

Hi everyone 💓 I wanted to get on here and share my experience with a positive MA. I spent a lot of time on Reddit trying to get a better perspective of what I could expect from this process, so I know how it feels. I’m hoping my experience can ease someone’s anxiety , as I know how hard it is . Everyone’s experience is different and unique to them , so please remember this and be kind to yourself throughout all of it .

For reference , I am a 22yr old female living in Maryland . I found out I was pregnant after an accident with someone I had been seeing short-term . I was absolutely devastated. I yearn to be a mother , but not right now. I am still figuring my life out, have personal goals I want to reach, and simply do not feel ready at all .

I found out I was pregnant on Tuesday night. I had a strong feeling that I was . I had a dream about it and multiple “signs.” I was watching Gossip girl , and got to the part where Blair gets pregnant and I remember feeling oddly emotional, even though I had seen the show all the way through already… Lol. I had a dream that I was pregnant and woke up feeling super uneasy that morning . My best friend told me about a pregnant stray cat in her neighborhood, and my stomach dropped. Not to mention , I’m a nanny , and I felt oddly maternal throughout the whole week. When the kids I nanny for would cry or be upset, it would make me feel absolutely terrible, and when they snuggled me it felt extra comforting in a way . Not to mention I was experiencing early pregnancy symptoms like a missed period, fatigue , nausea throughout the day, changes in appetite, breast tenderness, etc. I just knew. My intuition was stronger than ever .

I took 2 tests on Wednesday night , both were positive . I knew what I needed to do. After crying on the phone with my friends and sister , I looked for an appointment . I decided to go through Planned Parenthood, as it seemed like the easiest and fastest way to start the process. I am very happy with my experience with them and would suggest it to anyone who would like to have a MA , or just for sexual health concerns in general . Again this is my experience living in Maryland , a state where abortion is legal.

The next two days were incredibly hard. I somehow made it to work both days and was experiencing a lot of nausea and just overall did not feel like myself . I was really looking forward to my pregnancy symptoms subsiding eventually . I cried a lot on and off, mostly because I had a lot of anxiety about the process and was just ready to begin it . I never had any doubts about my decision , but I know everyone’s situation is different . In fact I felt relieved that there was a solution and that I could be at home for it . A lot of my emotions were coming from a place of anxiety for what’s to come , not because I had any guilt or regret about my decision. If you are feeling guilt and regret, please know it is completely normal and you are not alone in that . Any emotions you are feeling at this time are valid and a part of the process, so just feel whatever comes to you . Cry when you need to. Let it all out fr.

Another thing that was super hard for me is that I decided not to tell my mom about any of this. She has a lot going on already and I didn’t want to put this on her, even though I’m sure she would have been supportive . I also just didn’t want to stress myself out by worrying about anyone other than myself during this time . I had support from my best friends and sister so that helped a lot .

I somehow made it through those 2 days at work. It was insanely hard but I did it. The anticipation was killing me and I was tired and sick . I knew going to work and trying to keep up with my routines would help distract me but please do whatever feels best for you during this time . Put yourself first . If you need a day to process and are able to take off from any responsibilities , you should .

I made my appointment online at Planned parenthood and would highly suggest doing that based off of my own experience . It was very easy and quick to get an appointment. They called me the day before to give some instructions and to let me know what I can expect at my appointment . I decided not to use health insurance as I needed to get a claim approved by my company and I simply did not have the time or patience to wait for this. The entire process was $600.

My best friend went with me to my appointment on Saturday. I know how scary this can be . If you can, try to bring somebody with you whether that’s a family member, your partner, a best friend, etc. PP actually encourages you to do this as well . This entire experience can be extremely isolating and difficult to navigate . Having somebody by my side eased a lot of what I was feeling . Lean on your support system during this time if you can . If you don’t have anyone to talk to or be with you, I believe there are hotlines you can call online .

Being there did not feel great but I knew I was doing everything I could and taking all the right steps so I was relieved more than anything . They called me back, and my nurse was an absolute angel . When she left the room, I immediately started sobbing , as it all felt very real in this moment . Not to mention , hormones are all over the place … She gave me a big hug and assured me that everything would be okay. She even shared her own experience with a MA which made me feel a LOT better .

Based off of the date of my last period , we concluded that I was about 6 weeks pregnant. I opted not to get an ultrasound because I personally did not want to see anything . If you want to have an ultrasound done to ease your mind about what’s going on inside your body, please do so. It can also help determine how far along you are. Since we were able to track my period and I was only having sex for about a month and was definitely not pregnant before this, I had the option to get the ultrasound or to not.

After asking me all of the questions and counseling me , I went to a different room behind a curtain where I would see the doctor . The doctor basically went over a few things with me , and gave me the first pill to block the pregnancy hormone (mifepristone) , which will stop the pregnancy from forming any further . I did not have any side effects from this pill and went about the rest of my day . I was then sent home with the second pills (misoprostol) , promethazine (anti nausea medication), and a packet which basically went over everything we had discussed at my appointment . They also gave me an emergency hotline number which I could call at any time . I had to pick up my prescription of the Ibuprofen from my local pharmacy but I was sent home with everything else .

I ate some food, I would suggest a light meal just because you don’t know how your body will react . Eat whatever makes you feel good . I went to Target and bought a bunch of stuff I would need . I got snacks , Gatorade , peppermint tea, maxi night time pads , wipes , menstrual underwear, etc . It felt really good to be prepared and I suggest doing so if you can .

My two best friends came over the this night so I can take the second pill. They were my angels during this time, like really really really supportive . I recommend having someone with you while you are having your MA. It really does help distract you from what’s happening , plus it’s always good to have someone just to keep an eye on you throughout it all. The comfort made the experience a lot less traumatic to me . It felt like I was having a normal girls night with my friends .

I’m not a doctor , but if you smoke weed, I definitely recommend doing so during this time . It eased not only my mental , but my cramps tremendously . My nurse also said this was okay and recommended me to “roll up a J and get some of my favorite snacks”, so I did just that .

I took the promethazine and ibuprofen 30 ish mins before I planned to take the second pill. I chose to insert them vaginally , but you can also take them under your tongue or between your cheeks in your mouth. There were 4 pills and I inserted them one by one as far up as I could with my finger . I was told that I shouldn’t stress about getting them up “far enough” , as simply using your finger to push them up as far as you can and laying down for 30 mins is enough to let them dissolve and do their thing. This was around 7pm. I recommend doing it at night for some extra privacy from anyone you may live with, and also so you can rest and sleep as much as possible .

I did not feel much of anything until between 10-11pm when I had some cramping start . I was nervous about it working , but I let my body do its thing . I started bleeding shortly after . Cramps peaked from about 11pm-1:30am but nothing I couldn’t handle . It felt like really bad period cramps but they were coming in waves. I even fell asleep during it because I was so exhausted from the day. My friends were with me the whole time . The worst pain I felt was probably a 5-6 on a scale of 1-10. I was on the floor rocking from side to side with my friend rubbing my back but that was the worst it got . Around this point , I was able to take my second dose of the ibuprofen which also helped a lot. I did not experience any nausea or vomiting . I never got a fever, although I did experience some chills briefly . The bleeding was heavy but again, I was trying to think of it as a period . I did feel like I had to poop a lot throughout all of this so try to be close to a toilet if you can . Let whatever needs to come out of your body pass. I passed some blood clots while on the toilet or would see them after I wipe. Mine were not too big but they told me as long as they are not bigger than the size of a lemon that you shouldn’t worry. After the cramping peaked, I felt relieved. My friends ordered pizza and I was even able to eat a slice . Just do what feels right for you . Take it hour by hour and rest when you can .

I was able to sleep through the night , kinda. I woke up to take my ibuprofen and Tylenol just to be proactive about the pain. I would also get up and change my pad just to check how much I was bleeding and to feel less gross.

At around 7am I woke up feeling super relived, I was not nauseous this morning for the first time in a while, and I took a nice hot shower . I think I passed a few small clots in the shower or they were washing off my body from the night . It seriously felt so good like I could finally see it through . As for today, I’ve just been taking it easy . I smoked again this morning, my friends and I got some food and I took a nap . I already feel more like myself . Still bleeding , not as heavy, passed a few clots but they were not painful , and cramping has been very minimal . I feel like I have had a successful MA.

I’m going to share some things that really helped me throughout this all. ❤️‍🩹

• Have faith in yourself and what your body can handle. Us women are incredibly strong and our body knows what to do in this situation .
• Just let it happen. There’s no way to predict what your experience will be like . You just have to accept that it will be unpleasant. Whatever you feel like you need to do during your MA, do it as long as it is safe and not strenuous of course .
• RELY ON YOUR PEOPLE. This is an incredibly hard thing to go through and you shouldn’t have to go through it alone . Do not worry about being a burden to anyone right now . Seek the support. I promise you will feel 10x better with someone who brings you comfort by your side . They love you and care about your well being and will do whatever they can to make it easier on you. With that being said, I would only confide in people that you trust considering we never know what people’s beliefs are regarding abortion and I would hate for anyone to feel anymore stress or have to contemplate their decision.
• This is YOUR body. YOUR life. Do what is best for YOU. You’re not a terrible person for having an abortion . A lot of people get them for a lot of different reasons . My nurse said she already had one kid and that was enough for her and her husband at the time . Do not feel guilty for not wanting a child. You have your own reasons, and that’s all that matters . Trust the process. I promise you will be okay . Pain from this is temporary.
• My heating pad helped so much. Not only with the cramps , but just making me feel extra warm and cozy in bed.
• I would put some towels down to avoid having to clean up any mess later.
• STAY HYDRATED! I was so thirsty . I drank a lot of water and Gatorade .
• Same with snacks ! Eat what makes you feel good :)
• Watch your favorite shows, movies , etc . My friends and I were vibing even though I was in some pain . It helped me a lot to be with them in good spirits.
• Let your body rest. It’s extremely important . Don’t be afraid to fall asleep if you are tired . But also be prepared to wake up at any given moment .
• Have a good amount of pads on hand considering you might be bleeding for several days / weeks .

I am not 100% sure that my MA was successful just yet, although I am very confident . I can give an update after my next appointment . I have an ultrasound on the 14th to confirm everything passed 🙏🏼 , which was also included in that $600.

Overall, my anxiety was the worst part of this all. Yeah of course I didn’t enjoy being at Planned Parenthood or the cramps and discomfort I was feeling but it was not NEARLY as traumatic as I expected it to be . You got this . You are a strong woman doing what is right for her . Be kind to yourself and give yourself grace … you WILL be okay.

To anyone going through this, I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am sending you a HUGE virtual hug. I know how hard it is, truly. But just remember you can do this . Xoxo 🩷🩷🩷

Hello! I am anxious and curious if my MA is successful or not. This is my 2nd abortion (first one was at 7-8 weeks) and I fear that this time it failed because bleeding wasn't as heavy as the first one, and the cramps were not as bad. Both times, the pills were obtained from a trusted group of underground doctors here in the Philippines.

I took one pill of mifepristone at 12 midnight, January 23. No side effects were experienced from the pill. After 24 hours, I took 4 pills of misoprostol buccally, and another 4 pills after 4 hours. Cramping started after the 2nd dose of misoprostol, and after 7 hours, started bleeding onto the maxipad. It wasn't as heavy as the first time we had MA, wherein I bled within only 3-4 hours.

I was able to fill 3 maxipad worth of blood, with a little amount in the toilet during the times I had to pee. There were clots on the 3rd one, as well as clots falling off on the toilet.

Although there is a decrease in pregnancy symptoms in just over a week after the MA, partner and I are just concerned that this time the MA was unsuccessful because the cramping and bleeding wasn't as heavy as the first one. Aside from ultrasound (because I had a very traumatic experience before) what can we do to confirm that the MA is successful, without waiting too much?

Thank you for all the help you can give.

I’m honestly ashamed and scared. Idk what to do, i told my mom that I might be and she told me that I’ll have to keep it if I am. My boyfriend and I are freaking out. I’m already looking into abortion pills with red state access, and I just feel messy. I’m a teenager who’s 16, I regret having sex and it was a mistake, but having a child is something I’m not ready for. idk my moms buying me test tmmr and even if she says no, I’m getting that pill. I want a baby in the future and I feel so bad cause this could be my baby. My child and i feel so much guilt but I’m not ready to be a mom.

(20F, 23M) For context the breakup was messy. We lived together and I fell pregnant, I'm around 12 weeks now. When he found out he told me he was abandoning me. That's exactly what he did. He cheated multiple times, threw me onto the floor and moved out. I went absolutely hysterical, broke a lot of things in my rage. I've been pretty withdrawn and depressed. I tried to reconcile, tried to apologise, tried to negotiate co-parenting and offered custody even to his family. I got refused, the baby is unwanted. I can't do pregnancy alone. I've been vomiting uncontrollably, fainting and waking up in my own vomit. I live alone now. The hormones aren't helping my mood. He doesn't really respond and he never initiates contact. He is done with me, I know that. We're over.

The problems for me begin with how I decided to keep the baby. He informed everyone and he chose to revoke legal custody, etc. I was accepting at first but then it dawned on me the true responsibilities of single motherhood and it terrified me. I changed my mind. He doesn't know. He didn't want any involvement in the pregnancy or baby so I didn't feel comfortable telling him, nor do I. I'm terrified to. I have termination surgery scheduled on the 13th February. I'm petrified. I want him there desperately to support me both physically and emotionally, but he does not have much empathy and he does not want to see me at all. I don't know how or IF I should ask.

We had a phone call scheduled on Saturday which I missed and ignored because I panicked. I didn't know how to ask or what to say. He hasn't reached out to me. Please help me frame it in a way that won't make him angry and so that maybe he will support me. Or please be kind when you tell me that I shouldn't do this. I'm breaking down crying even writing this, I am terrified.

I (21 F) took the abortion pill today at 5 weeks pregnant.

At 10:30am, I took my nausea pill and a Tylenol 800mg as directed by the doctor. At 11, I placed the abortion pills in my cheeks. While still letting the pills dissolve in my cheeks, I began to experience what felt like severe period cramps. My periods are typically painful / heavy and this felt similar, but soon got much worse. I took a painkiller at this point. After swallowing the pills with water at 11:30, I went to the bathroom where I was stuck on the toilet for nearly 30 minutes with endless bowel movement (which I have read is pretty common although I did not have diarrhea) and the worst pain I have ever felt. The pain felt like period cramps on steroids - I was writhing and moaning and holding a balled up towel to my chest for any kind of relief. I was shaky and extremely nauseous where I did feel on the brink of throwing up. I had my boyfriend bring me another painkiller and then got into the shower where I lay in the hot water for a while and let the painkillers set in which mitigated the pain a bit. After this (12:30ish), I went to my bed where I lay with a heating pad around my abdomen and eat a bagel provided by my boyfriend. I had no bleeding at this point and still had cramps, but due to the painkillers fell asleep for about an hour so. Upon waking, I go to the bathroom where my pad is lightly stained with blood but as i sit and pee the toilet bowl is bright red and I have a tangerine sized clot come out. At this point, I am in and out of sleep most of the day with the heating pad still on and the pain is manageable. I change my pad every time I wake up and when I use the bathroom have several large clots (tangerine sized or smaller) - I recommend overnight pads as that’s what I’m wearing now as opposed to my regular ones which I wore at the start and bled through multiple times. For me, I bled a lot and constantly with several blood clots. I finally get out of bed around 6:00pm where I can heat up food on my own and have light / moderate period cramps. It is now 9:30pm and I feel the worst of it is over, but I am still feeling crampy and tired and am bleeding heavily.

I know it sounds bad, but YOU CAN DO THIS! I hope this can help someone who has any questions or anxieties the way I did.

Everything is going to be okay.

Hi everyone! I had my MA on January 19TH 2025, so tomorrow (Feb 3rd) will be 2 weeks post. I was having heavy bleeding 2 days after, and after that it was just spotting dark blood. Yesterday I woke up with a heavy blood flow, and needed a night time pad. I’m confused if this is my period, or what is going on. The flow is still pretty heavy today so im a bit concerned at the switch up. Any knowledge or information is appreciated!

I had a MA 10 days ago and I am still bleeding, some days heavier than others.. the blood smells fishy. I had sex only about 2-3 days after the MA. My cramping went away about 3 days ago but now it hurts to have sex. I’ve had a MA before and this didn’t happen. I live in FL and got the pill online so I am worried about going to a Dr.

How long did you bleed after MA? I took my pills December 27th and I’m still bleeding. Is that normal? It’s like a heavy period at times but no cramps, pain, or fever. I haven’t taken a pregnancy test but I believe it was successful since I stop having symptoms afterwards if that matters.

I f (22) found out that I was pregnant by the end of november. I told my partner m (22) and he didn't want the baby. I told him that I had mixed feelings about it because I realized the pain it would cause me emotionally was going to be much worse than struggling as a mom. He told me all the reasons why he doesn't think its a good idea to keep the baby but still said that the choice is up to me. We talked in person and he said that he'd be there for me during and after the abortion and that we can even try out activities together afterwards to overcome my emotions. I thought about the reasons he listed so I decided to get the abortion for him with the risk of dealing with my mental health later on. Now over a month later after the abortion I've been wanting to meet up with him but he's accepting the plans but always ends up not showing up or cancelling. Even suggested another date on his own and even then he didn't show up. And now he's texting saying that he's not doing well either, that the whole situation triggers him, that he's afraid of a face to face conversation with me, and that he doesn't know what to do or say to cheer me up? I've been literally texting him trying to fix this somehow but he doesn't even answer to my messages or listening to my voice notes. I literally don't know how to feel I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because I know he's not doing well either but I literally need him right now like I don't even expect him to help me but I need his presence. I literally feel so dumb that I trusted him I don't know what to do

So I took a plan b January 15th hence I always get my period every 3rd of the month but now we are the 2nd of feb and nothing yet.. I’m getting super worried in case I need to take abortion pills are the ones online safe and does it hurt a lot?

I have had 2 SAs over the past several years but am considering an MA this time because I am very early (5 weeks). I have severe medical anxiety and a phobia to all things related to medication due to some past trauma. The reason I’m considering an MA this time is because I don’t have $700 to throw away on an SA with sedation and I can’t ask my partner for help because if he knew he would harm me. Can anyone provide insight on what it will be like if I take the pills at 6 weeks? Also should I be worried about ectopic? Like do I need to get an ultrasound before trying to proceed with the MA? It’s mainly the pain and side effects of the pills that I’m petrified for, especially knowing it will last so long. I wish I could just get an SA again but I don’t think it’s an option for me right now. :(

So like it says i am in the US and the 4 state area. I am 9w6d i work for a school full time so getting paid one time a month put a barrier for me. But I will be paying for the pills tomorrow. Why I'm here? Long story short- I found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me all year with his crazy ex, who stalked me during my first pregnancy. So of course it ws hard for me for him to admit to it. I had gone to my sister's for a vacation and Christmas. I came back and found out he went to her house again, and I was going to pack my daughter (not his) and I up go to her, she said it's okay. Then I find out I'm pregnant. Not even 6 weeks and he picks a fight over the dumbest things. The typical- I'm stupid, I'm a idiot, for someone being so "smart" your so stupid, you do this for attention, slamming the door, yelling and screaming the whole time. Called me every name in the book and would intimated and scare me knowing it would. My one and only boundary that he hit and ran through. When my daughter wants to sleep with me, I will get her and do not yell cuss or scream. (She doesn't co sleep) just when she needs me. He came in calling me every name and cussing me out, when she was in bed with me and how it was internally. Im tired of the fights, through text and when he gets home. I'm tired of him controlling everything. He watches through yhe cameras, hacks my phone constantly. He has a tracker on my car. I told my mom what I plan on doing she said she'd help my daughter and I move. Shed help us leave. (I've never wrote this out or told anyone in the full length)

Edit: I left out some things im sorry. When i told him we were pregnant, he was excited and happy. He sent me a text while i was morning before lunch saying his mom wanted a paternity test. Which of course, me being Hormonal cried and cried and cried. That was another fight hown I can go do better and find better. And another reason why I want to leave, just recently he took over laundry because I couldn't for the smell of it. I found her license. After him saying they have nothing to do with one another. I guess I just need advice. A friend or someone to tell me what im wanting to do is right. My daughter in under 5 years has watched me get hurt in many many ways from her father. She has now watched me get yelled at scared by another man. And of course she doesn't trust him or want him around.

I am pregnant again. I first had my successful MA last 2022 and for some reason, I will be doing it again this year. So frustrating and depressing.

I wonder if it will still be effective this time around??? Considering it’s not my first time and I already know what to do. I secured pills from WoW and will be doing my MA tomorrow, if you can give me few advices I’d appreciate it.

Also, is a urine test to confirm pregnancy already accurate? Or should I still go to an OB to confirm? The last pregnancy, I went to the OB. This time, I would prefer not to… but what should I do?

Thank you for your kind words. I really need assurance again during this challenging time.

I have a MA abortion appointment coming up on Thursday and I’m struggling part of me want this baby so bad it was planned but then I found out he’s married and want to work on his marriage and he won’t speak to me unless she is in the convo. It’s all too much. I’m feeling so guilty and sad I know this is the best thing to do but I don’t want to. But I also don’t want to and can’t afford to be a single mother. I’m raising my older cousins two kids and they are a lot. I don’t know how to cope with feeling of dread/sadness of what I’m about to do. I feel like I hate myself. I’ve alway wanted to be a mom and I know I don’t wanna be a single mother on purpose. I can’t stop crying I feel so bad. I know this is not a good situation to being a child in to but I still feel soo guilty