I posted this on the 11th, but it was mostly ignored other than one comment on AITAH saying "I didn't read but...". Lol. Not much has changed since then other than finishing moving my things to storage yesterday (1/14).

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I'm not going to retype everything that's involved, there's way too much to go over. I'll try to be succinct but if you'd like copious amounts of context, you can check out the post I have linked. It also has links to other vent posts I've made.

TW: Suicide

Basically, I (25M) have lived with my mother for the past year and a half (since June 2023) after I chose to move home following a mental breakdown. I had others previously, such as one where I dropped out of college in January 2023, and another where I quit my job in March 2023. This  particular mental breakdown in May 2023 involved me shaving my head (I had long hair that went past my shoulders that I loved, I've spent the last year and a half regrowing it) and putting myself in the crisis unit for a week. I struggle with moderate-severe MDD (with concerns of ASD and ADHD on my radar to be assessed by specialists in the future) and I can say this was the scariest moment in my life. To be broad and general, I was struggling financially and mentally and didn't know what to do. The last thing I wanted was to ask for help from my mother, as after I left for college I swore I would never live in her house again and keep our relationship sparse. In my mentally-ill eyes, I saw two options: live with her again or death. And I, for a time, thought death was a more favorable option.

The next paragraph is not essential information to this particular topic as a whole, but does help one get a better understanding of my living situation. Feel free to skip for time.

My mother is a classic description of a narcissist. Nothing is ever her fault, any words that come out of her mouth are truth and anything that comes out of mine must be false. The only times I've heard her say sorry is when it is wrenched out of her, often in a sarcastic tone. She is judgmental, petty, and uncaring. We can barely talk without an argument arising. I've had to teach myself to not reveal personal problems to her as she has multiple times used it to hurt me in a vulnerable moment to win a fight. Trying to use the "I feel" statements with her only amounts to the response of "well, that's your opinion". She will say incredibly cruel things to me and forget them the next day, so when I try to bring them up to her, she will gaslight and say  "I never said that". She has zero regard for anyone’s schedule or lives, and will give out tasks expecting me to drop everything I’m doing at a moment's notice to help her. Saying “no” only incites more yelling. She will constantly watch loud TV shows in the middle of the house for hours a day, so loudly that I can hear it clearly in my own room a floor below with the door closed. I understand it is her house and she can do whatever she wants, but that does not excuse that it is extremely inconsiderate to my little brother and I who also live there. Any time there is a family event or gathering, I am given no more than 12 hours notice from her and am forced to change and cancel plans. For the most part, I have avoided her as much as possible by staying only in my room when I am home since moving back in. It is extremely lonesome and there’s not much room, but at least I’m not getting yelled at constantly (other than the times she stands outside my door and yells at me). The only times I go to common rooms of the house is when I go upstairs to eat, which typically amounts to some version of task dictating or snide comment. There have been many times I have skipped meals to avoid her. Two of my brothers have already decided to keep their relationship with her as distant as possible, only seeing her for Christmas for a few hours. My third brother wants to move in with our dad the moment he turns 18.  But, she has also sacrificed much for my family and there are as many good days as there are bad. That is what makes my relationship with her so difficult, because I try to find the good in people. What made me give up on finding the good in her, something all of my brothers have done long ago, was when she told me to kill myself in an argument, and then immediately tried to gaslight me into thinking I hallucinated a full, coherent sentence--something that has never happened before in my life, you can read full story here. Every time I try to bring up how horrible of a thing she said to me since this happened, she calls me a liar.

I have been planning on and working towards moving out for the past two months, using the savings I've accumulated for the past year and a half. This money was initially saved for a car, but I chose that placing myself in a better environment where I could have a chance at being happy was more important than a car with working heat or A/C. My plan has been to move to St. Louis, placing me closer to the friends I’ve known for the last 12 years, and fulfilling a dream of gaining independence. We met online through my cousin, whom the 5 of us, including my cousin, have become staunch supporters of each other and the best of friends. I am so thankful for them in my life, and would certainly not be here if not for them. I would finally be able to remove myself from my toxic environment and for once in my life make a decision in regards to my future instead of being stuck in the past or focused only on the present. My plan also included returning to and finishing college in the fall. While this was a decision based on getting out, it is also important to note my mom is also selling our house to move in with her boyfriend, and wants me out by March 2025.

I had a job offer, start date and an apartment picked out. I was to move Sunday, 01/05/25 and start my new job the next day. However, even though I submitted the application to my apartment on 12/20/24, it was not submitted to corporate until 12/30/24 due to the holiday. Due to my method of transport needing an alternator replacement, the apartment tour was pushed back 3 weeks later than intended, which then crept into the holiday season. Prior to, during, and after applying on the 20th I asked and was told a Jan 5th move would work, and was only informed the week of Jan 1st that it would not work despite previous communication. As I am writing this on 1/11/25, I still am in the dark if my application was approved or when I can have keys. Learning of the uncertainty of my whereabouts, my job rescinded their offer on Sunday, 01/05/25 in favor of someone who was able to start work immediately. I offered to crash on a couch with friends/family until I figured out my living situation so I could start work immediately, but I was too late and was told they went forward with another candidate. Because of these multitudes of issues , I lost out on my job offer, a job I was legitimately excited to start (this does not happen for me easily). 

So now, close to a week after I was supposed to have moved and started a new job, I sit here essentially back at square one. The first thing my mom told me after I had told her my job rescinded their offer was: “so when are you paying me rent for January”, since I pay her $300/month for utilities and car insurance. She then followed up with complaining to me that I ate some food that wasn’t being eaten. Apparently we had agreed that I would be 100% responsible for my own food, a conversation I believe we never had. Recently I have more or less been surviving off a few protein bars a day. 

The past few weeks have been some of the most stressful days of my life. If I had moved in when I expected, I would have used most of my $3000 savings to move and pay the first month's rent, with an expected $500-$1000 left over. But now, I really don’t know how feasible moving is. I have no clue how long it’ll take to find a new job. I currently live in a smaller town, and it is virtually impossible to get a full time job as employers will put out for hire postings despite being fully staffed. The last job I worked was the 2nd job to give me an interview or ANY kind of response after dozens of sent-in applications over the course of 6 weeks. Finding work in my small town has proven incredibly difficult despite all my efforts, which was another big motivator to move to St. Louis. My worry is that my savings have gotten to a point where moving is unreasonable, as I’m constantly having to pull from it to pay for medical bills, food, rent, and just recently another $800 to replace the battery and alternator in my car.

I’ve taken a few days to digest and process everything, and I am in a better state of mind than I was at the start of the week. I talked to a friend and mentioned the idea of a GoFundMe to help me get out of this toxic and emotionally abusive environment and they have been supportive and said to go for it, but I just feel like it's selfish and lazy. The words “just suck it up, get a job and don’t interact with her” ring constantly in my head. Especially with the fires currently going on in California, I feel like there are places where people have it much worse, and that there’s no reasonable person who would see my GoFundMe as anything but selfish, lazy begging. 

After writing all of this yesterday (1/10), I have a small update to the story today (1/11). I have been talking with my dad–whom I have not talked to since 2017, but after I was told to kms by my mother I decided, what the hell, he can’t be worse than her–and he has agreed to let me stay with him and his family until I figure everything out. He has been very supportive of my move and wants me to be happy. However, this is not a permanent solution as I am staying in my step-brother’s room as he is leaving to go back to college in a few days. They have no room for any of my belongings. I told my mother of my plans yesterday and asked if I could store my packed things in my room until I figure out where I’m going to stay within the next few weeks. After informing her of my plans to temporarily stay with my dad, she told me that my stuff leaves with me. I was told this morning that she and her boyfriend are leaving to go to Colorado today and will be gone until Wednesday, and my things should be gone by the time they return. My dad found a temperature controlled 10ftx10ft unit nearby with a $25 security deposit, $75 a month, and a 2 month minimum. It’s certainly not ideal, but at least I can get out and have my things kept safe. Still, I do not want to take advantage of my dad and step-mom and truly use my time there as a lily pad. I have a list of things I want to complete to ensure I have a solid landing pad to move, but I’m still essentially using all of my savings to move with no security net, and my car isn’t getting any better. It’s been having more and more issues lately and no longer having the money I had saved to get a new one is certainly worrying. Am I the asshole for thinking of starting a GoFundMe to help get me out of this toxic mess?

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I’ve never really done something like this before, so I don't even know where I’d start if I were to start a GoFundMe. It’s not like I can post to Facebook–there are far too many family members and friends who know my mom there for me to post there for it to attract all kinds of bad attention. I know that I need to get out, but I have no intention or need to destroy my mom’s reputation in order to do that. How would I draw positive attention to something like this? Any advice, suggestions or empathy would be very appreciated.

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She, 19f, will be kicked out and sent to another country by her family with her grandmother, who is on pension and can't work, so she really needs to raise at least some of money to go through it.

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The short version:

My fiance and I are stranded and homeless trying to get ID for him to work and me to have access to my bank account after my debit card was stolen over 10 times. The system is corrupt and not helping us get our birth certificates and ID because they're making money off of us being homeless. We REALLY need help.

The long version:

My fiance and I are stranded in Vegas. We're trying to leave so badly. We hate it here so much.

I came here for safety reasons because of stalking and rape issues. I thought the laws in Vegas for anti-stalking etc would protect me. They haven't. Vegas police don't make protecting conservative women like myself who aren't interested in being a prostitute a priority. I'm hoping that other parts of the country will be more conservative and protect me.

The problem is that the system here in Vegas is so horrible. My debit card was stolen so many times that it's locked and I have to get a new ID in order to unlock my card, because I have to send them a color copy of my ID.

My purse has been stolen over 10 times since I've been here.

We keep being told to go to "pop-up events" to get assistance to get our birth certificates to get ID's. Yet these are bull**** events that just give you phone numbers to call people who don't help you.

The whole process and system here is outrageous.

It's like they don't want to help you because they want to keep you stranded in homelessness so that they can make money off of you as a homeless person.

We learned that at the shelter we receive some resources at, they receive $500-$800 a head for everyone who sleeps there EVERY SINGLE NIGHT THEY SLEEP THERE.

They receive hundreds per person for receiving our mail, giving us useless referrals and charging our phones etc. They receive more money per service the longer we stay. That's why no one tries to help us. It's a huge, fraudulent hustle and we really want to leave.

They get money every time they provide a service to you so it's like they don't want to help you not be homeless anymore.

Nothing works in a timely manner and no one helps you in a timely fashion to get the things that you need to get away from this situation.

My fiance has skills in working construction including:

Electrician work (18 years experience), Painting, Sheet rock, Spackle and Concrete.

It's absurd that he can't get an ID and just work right now!

We would really like to leave here as soon as possible. We both have a strong feeling it will be much easier for us to live in the Midwest or another rural location. We're both conservative and this Vegas lifestyle isn't for us at all.

Vegas is very corrupt and they drag everything out so they can make more money by the hour. There's no excuse for us not to have an ID at this point.

Our birth certificates cost $28 per person and our ID's would cost another $28 or so per person. However I have no access to any of my money.

They stopped the "Vegas Ticket to Home" program claiming that they don't have the funding to send people to secured housing and other safe places if they need to get home anymore from this horrible place.

We need base level money of at least $56 to unlock my account and get money to pay for my documentation, then use the money in my account to get his documentation.

I receive a fixed income, so I'm not wealthy. So any additional money over the $56 will help and go to my boyfriend's documentation and our relocation expenses. We need to leave here.

If anyone is willing to help, my cashtag is $cici192021

I'm also willing to accept crypto that's reasonably accessible to us and convertible like Bitcoin, Ethereum, Monero etc. Just message me and I'll give you the crypto address you need.

Thank you so much, and God Bless You for reading this and if you do anything to help us.

I'm really struggling this year, as unfortunately many people... I just need to make it until January, when I start a job as a teacher. I'm completely out of money and the stress of not being able to cover my meds is keeping me sleepless. I have ADHD, PCOS and Depression and my meds are my life line. I'm the scapegoat and my family has spent their entire life making sure I live in poverty and just hanging by a tread. Currently living with my nmom, under horrendous conditions and abuse, but it's either this or the streets. I'm hiding my medication intake from her as she will use it to try to destroy me, as she has tried to do in the past. I desided to sell my anatomy for artist books, which will cover the loan, but my prescription in due on the 7th and I just want to make sure I won't lose it, because I can't afford to go get another one. I live in Europe so my options are PayPal and Revolut, but I'm open to other suggestions. I can also offer custom artwork for anyone, I'm good at both traditional and digital art. As well as some aspects of design (logos). Thank you for reading this. Do not hesitate to ask me more or dm me if you deside to help! Wishing to everyone struggling luck and time to heal!

My debt is keeping me crushed. My debt is keeping me too close to my birth mother. If I am out of debt, I can get my own food and get the f out of here. I need 5k and can pay back about 100 dollars a month. With interest. Please just dm me if you can help and we can work something out. My bitcoin wallet is bc1qw9tupale0c83h8llalu795lug499ug4s2lxus0 (if you wanna help anyway)

I have a survey that I'm hoping people would be willing to fill out regarding narcissistic trait parents and their tendency toward different parenting styles. As it stands I need more replies to be able to finish it- so here I am in supplication, begging Reddit to assist me in my endeavors. It's a surprisingly sparsely studied topic that I feel needs more coverage.

This is the survey link for anyone who might wish to fill out the form.

I thank you all in advance.

Okay, this one is more needing gentle motivational help. I want to start doing my art and music again on the side for fun, even though i still live with my nparents and feel unsafe near them from past trauma resurfacing related to them. My thoughts also affected my studying to some extent.

How do i push through intrusive thoughts and just do my art and music, regardless of these thoughts in the past? Be aware that when i do my art and music, i ironically do better in studying and become more productive. My studying is affected to to some extent because of my thoughts.

Good evening everyone.

No one expected me to be able to do this. I don't expect much people to expect me to be able to actually do this. I know people will hope I will do it but will think I can't possibly be able to do it. I will do it.

I have the necessary political capital to get a bill passed to end psychiatric abuse in my state. This sounds odd of an anonymous account that was just created to say, but I do.

That means the Martha Mitchell Effect, that means the drugging up of children with apparent "personality disorders" or "schizo disorders" from parents who are abusive themselves and are silencing their children.

I was one of them. A few months away from being an adult, still couldn't taper off of those injectable drugs because of some "chemical imbalances". Psychiatrist didn't even want to talk to a psychotherapist who didn't agree with him. Hell, he didn't even want to look at evidence or hear about my trauma. Only reason why I was coerced onto them was because I told the truth. I will tell the truth from the mountains because I cannot passively take part in this machine.

Their power is being disbarred and stripped from them. I have the political capital necessary. I've shaken the hands. I have the words to say. I know the right arguments to say when the opposition lands from all of those people screaming that their power's been taken away and that they'll need to follow the golden rule when their masks slip.

The first tenet of the bill will be simple.

Bodily autonomy. Collaborative relationships, because mental help involves help from someone you can trust. A connection can never be forced. This means everyone, minors - those children who don't know any better. Those wives, those husbands who can't possibly know what's best for them. Those damned "schizophrenics" who we throw out onto the street and those damned "schizophrenics" who aren't abused and apparently just dream up their trauma. Those who have some sort of "brain chemistry" problem, some sort of "anger" problem. You want people to be helped - you want them to be honest, you'll want them to know they'll be helped and you want to make them comfortable and they aren't at drugpoint. Then building off of bodily autonomy, no threats of hospitalization, not even thinly-veiled ones disguised as help.

Then I'll look into other things.

1. Law enforcement (CT State Police, etc.) not being allowed to hospitalize minors or adults solely on the basis of them denying psychiatric medication or denying seeing a psychiatrist. Additionally, law enforcement not being allowed to hospitalize minors merely on the basis of their parents asking for their children to be involuntarily committed, which would protect children in Martha Mitchell Effects or with abusive parents.
2. Children who have been deemed “mentally ill” by school systems, schools, school districts, educational systems or IOPs being allowed to remain going to school - and their decisions to do so being respected regardless of if they wish to take psychiatric drugs or not, respecting their bodily autonomy and disbarring coercion loopholes.

The following amendments may be harder to pass:

3. The process for patients who have been psychiatrically abused should be reformed. It should be *far* easier now for people to remove annul / completely remove past psychiatric diagnosis’s, or annul records of hospitalizations that were over abusive grounds or did not have proper context regarding the patients actual mental health treatment. Only harder to pass because I don't entirely know which specific statutes I should be referring to or what the exact names of previous legislation on this subject has been.

4. Allowing minors to see their current and past psychiatric diagnosis's and taking away infringement of those rights or coercion to stop those rights.

Additionally, I've heard about psychiatric hospital abuse. I would force this to be applicable even to psychiatric hospitals. To my knowledge, it is even in Connecticut - but there isn't as good enforcement of these laws, and again the "tapering" loophole.

This is why I'm posting, I need help.

I need to know exactly what I haven't covered. Any and all information, including past stories, even maybe ones not in Connecticut too. Legal advice, framing advice, etc. Let me hear you because no one else did. I want to completely destroy this machine and scatter it to the wind. I've never been effected by the troubled teen industry, but I've heard about even that - and I want to know how I could destroy the abuse in that even in legal form, and enforce those laws. I'll be logging off for now. If this doesn't go here, let me know.

Hi, good day to everyone. F, 27 here. Please consider helping me as I'm living with multiple Ns family members and most of them are sexual abusers too. $250 would really help me get prescription reading glasses so I can work again. I also have the worst case of blepharitis and myopia. I don't have a job anymore because they ruined my wfh job and tried to kill me. (Also, my deranged Nmom just told me to go kms just for existing) so I really want to move out soon. I would really be thankful if someone could help me buy new reading glasses. Thank you so much!

I know people are posting here with far more dire needs so I definitely recommend helping them first if you’re in the position to. And I understand that my request isn’t as urgent.

I’ve recently taken up biking. To say it’s been healing is an understatement. It’s helped me while I work to get out of here and also stay focused on the good things.

I got a hand me down mountain bike that I’ve been using for a few months. Recently the tires were punctured while I was away. The average cost for tires is 70. The average cost for a tune up for the breaks is 150. I think the tune up covers the tire repairs too.

If anyone can help, my links are in my bio. I’d be so grateful and can send you pictures and receipts to confirm so you know it’s not a scam. Just a girl trying to stay sane and healthy.

Appreciate it if you’ve read this far, take care and stay warm

Hello generous people of Reddit

I'm coming here, hat in hand, hoping people might be inclined to help. My life kind of imploded a few months back and I found myself about to be homeless and jobless. A friend here in Kansas offered to put me up someplace for a bit while I got things back in order, and after much wailing and gnashing of teeth, I almost have a handle on the situation.

I'm trying to get back home to IL because a friend is saving a spot for me at her job. I'd be working a pharmacy support line, helping them process perscription insurance claims so people can get their meds. To start working there, I need to BE there.

A train ticket on Amtrak from Topeka - Chicago is 110-130$ plus taxes and fees. Once I'm back, I need 45$ to renew my expired pharmacy tech certification so I can start work. Some helpful redditors have suggested some charities that might be able to help, and i've reached out to them, but the sooner i can get back, the sooner I can get to work.

I have paypal and venmo if any kind soul wants to help me rebuild my life. I'll be eternally grateful, and I hope to be able to pay it forward. Thank you. ☺️

Hi everyone, I'm Manuel and I live in Rome, I ask you for extreme help to leave home, I'm 21 years old and I can't stand being here anymore, I've suffered mental abuse for too many years and I need to leave far from here, my story is all written on this link: https://gofund.me/a7954cc1

please share.. I can't take it anymore and I'm desperately asking for help even from strangers to leave, I ask you with my heart in my hand.

Good Rx and insurance won’t help either. I’m so sad. I’ve been skipping meals to pay for this. It was all worth it. I was so excited. These meds were really gonna help me. I was gonna pick up more hours after starting them. Finally move to a less shitty place. I’m sorry for rambling. I’m just so disappointed. I was so close. I don’t know how or when I can afford it now. I have next months expenses to save for too. I can’t afford it all. I was so embarrassed at the pharmacy when they told me the price. I could tell they felt bad for me and I couldn’t stop my eyes tearing. It just made it worse. They tried to help by telling me to sign up for Good Rx but I already have it. They checked and it’s the same price. How can it be so expensive? They recommended trying my insurance again. I had to leave because the tears wouldn’t stop. I was so frustrated and tired and hungry. I said thanks and ran out while they were apologizing to me again. It’s not their fault. I thought I could push through the hunger and fatigue but it was all for this. I called my insurance in the car and they said they can’t do any better either. Mistakes happen. Sometimes doctor’s and insurance miscommunicate. I know but what about the meds? I’m not mad at them, but why don’t they understand?

I’m sorry, I shouldn’t be rambling and crying. I had no where else to go or talk to. No one else who will get it. I’m desperate for help but I have no idea what else to do. My shirt’s wet from all the crying. I’m gonna go change it and try to cry to sleep so I can forget this for a little while.

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I’m unemployed but working on it. Without a phone, I’m pretty stuck. Not sure what other options there are. Any help is appreciated.

Venmo: AraVic88

Cashapp: $Kleio88

TIA!

It’s 89 degrees in here. My previous old portable AC broke. The central AC doesn’t work either. I’m melting in here and my PMDD is worse this week too. I don’t know what to do. I found a new one online that’s $200. I don’t have the money. I’m applying for jobs and trying to find one. I don’t know how much longer I can keep like this. I’ve been drinking a lot of water but I’m still so hot. The air is heavy and humid too.

Please help, even a small amount can go towards it. I’m begging for help. I can’t stand this.

My Venmo is AraVic88 and Cashapp is $kleio88

Please and thank you. I can provide photos for proof of the broken one and receipts to show proof of a new one.

As you know, narcissists are not like normal people. You can’t just tell them your boundaries and then expect everything to be peaches and cream.

Too many of us have turned red in the face asserting our boundaries and repeating ourselves trying to teach a narcissist how to treat us. Until one day, we take the leap of faith and go no contact forever.

What about the time in between? When it’s not yet possible to exit the relationship?

How can we keep our self respect with people who are highly resistant and antagonistic to our boundaries? How do we maintain our dignity with people who only see us as appliances to use?

By implementing meaningful consequences for boundary violations. Narcissists and their toxic ilk respond only to consequences.

The thing is not everyone knows how to set consequences with toxic or difficult people in a way that doesn’t make the victim guilty of reactive abuse.

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My story

When in my late 20’s I found myself living at home again with my narcissistic parents, it was a horrifying experience. I had my suspicions but they had seemed supportive. I never could have imagined it would become so unbearable.

What was privacy? They’d barge into my room anytime. Narc mother would barge into me in the shower, use (read: steal) my personal products, rummage through my things and leave my stuff in disarray. The more I communicated with them, the worse they got.

Narc father became increasingly violent using threats to beat me up and physical intimidation. He’d erupt in fits of rage, grab hold of me and refused to release me while I struggled. When I spoke out against this, they began to starve me.

I was starting a business (I guess this was my crime) and funds were tight. I found myself going into credit card debt eating out twice everyday for months because it wasn’t safe to use the common areas if I had the audacity to buy groceries.

Then the verbal abuse, drama, manipulation and chaos. As much as I kept to myself in my room, they just would not leave me alone. They wanted to argue and make crazy everyday, insisting I apologize to my narc father because it was my fault that he physically assaulted me.

What could I do? I was financially dependent ( well they cut me off financially but I lived in the home) living in a city that is notorious for its HCOL. It was an impossible situation. They figured they had me trapped. I would soon run out of money (read: credit cards) and they could really go to town with the abuse.

During this dark period, before I eventually escaped and went no contact, my saving grace was that I did not take the punches lying down. Every single abusive thing they did to me was met with a consequence. However, I did not abuse them, not even verbally.

As my narc father began to test the waters with physical abuse again (he used to beat me as a child and teen), it was imperative for me that he faced repercussions. I could not afford to do nothing, thereby reinforcing the behavior, and giving him “silent permission” to escalate. A mistake so many women make with abusive men.

Ultimately, I escaped. I know firsthand the devastation to mental and physical health being in the proximity of a narcissist can cause. But while I was trapped with them, and in a state of dependency, being able to stand up for myself by setting effective boundaries (through consequences) made all the difference to my self-esteem and my dignity.

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I’ve written a guide with frameworks and examples, specifically to help people with setting effective boundaries with toxic and difficult individuals.

Without learning & implementing the steps to setting effective boundaries with toxic people, you will continue to experience disquietude, pressure, annoyance and even severe suffering from interactions with these individuals.

The purpose of the guide is to help you become someone who enjoys freedom, harmony and safety in your relationships, because you understand how to set effective boundaries. And overall, it's to improve the quality of people’s lives and relationships.

I’m giving it away to anyone who is interested and would like to be a test reader. Just comment down below by Jul 02 11:59 PM eastern time.

All I ask in exchange is that you answer 3 quick questions and give your honest review or feedback within a 2 week time frame. (The book is 84 pages, ~ approx 2 hour read).

I’ll add the book below —

How to Set Effective Boundaries with Toxic People.

**Please only comment interest if you’re happy to be a test reader and will provide your responses within 2 week time frame.** Thank You.

Hi, thank you for reading. I have to buy my anti-psychotic medicine this week. Like, I have to. I get really strange and abusive when I'm not on it. But that's going to be the last of my money this week, and I don't know how to afford food. If anyone could help me out, I'd be really grateful.

https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tarengrant

or

$tristandeshazer on cashapp. The name is Taren Grant, and the avatar is a deer kissing a dog.

Thank you again

Work has slowed down a lot, and after paying the rent, we don't have much money left over. If anyone could spare some for groceries, we'd be really grateful. We're down to rice and bean, and not much left of that.

https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/tarengrant
or $tristandeshazer on cashapp. The name is Taren Grant, and the profile pic is a deer kissing a dog.

Thank you

Hello! My name is Chloe, and I'm a recent graduate of the GED high school equivalency program. I am now looking to pursue further education by attending an undergraduate program virtually, as I live in a very small town without many college options nearby. 

Throughout my life I've struggled with my studies. My father is in the military, so my family has moved all over the U.S.. I've been unable to make meaningful connections with my peers and teachers, in part due to moving so often, as well as untreated symptoms of my ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder. My education was further disrupted by the COVID-19 pandemic and a multi-year long mental health crisis that led to my dropping out of high school.

Applying for college is a big step for me in transitioning into adult life. However, I have no money to my name, and my family cannot afford to pay my tuition on top of the high cost of living in our area and taking care of my three younger siblings. This is why I am reaching out to you for a hand, my friend. I sincerely hope you can find it in your heart to assist me in my endeavor to educate myself. Every penny counts, and I am grateful for your contribution. If you can't or don't want to donate, sharing helps as well!

Thank you for taking the time to read my story, I hope you have a good day and god bless you.

This description is copied from my crowdfunding campaign, as it says all I need to.

My spotfund campaign can be found here: http://spot.fund/9zhttsc

My mom is still being abusive and I really just want to get out

Hello all, I made a go fund me ages ago to get away from my abusive mother but then I took it down out of fright and I felt pathetic. However today, after being physically assaulted by my mother for disagreeing with her about a coffee drink I am reaching out again. I am only trying to raise 350$ so I can stay at a very cheap hotel for the next few days while I have assignments and exams to finish, which is so hard to do when your in constant threat and agony.

This is the link to my story and my gofund me, even a dollar will help I just really need to get out.

https://gofund.me/f9a5b85b

I am a university student and I work a part time job it’s just not enough in this economy. I am just super desperate to get out!

Sad story. Guy posted fundraiser around he wasnt familiar with reddit community and was banned from numerous pages and they took it down. I even reposted myself and got banned from one page because he did it wrong. My mistake, none the less I felt bad and I am reposting for them. Also if someone can pay it forward for this family and repost in any social site it's the right thing to do. Click the link to read the full story!

https://www.paypal.com/pools/c/931j3RwCq5