I am only 22, but I already have diseases for autism, arthritis, and sleep apnea. I am 6 foot and 150 pounds, so I am not overweight. It just hurts to be so young and already have a ton of problems, especially when none of my ancestors have it. It sucks knowing I am on the rare group of unhealthy youths

Hey, Mom and Dad.

I’ve (19F) had a rocky relationship with my dad; and I keep going back and forth over forgiving him and being mad at him. It’s hard to know where the line is, since he apologizes, does nice things, tolerates a lot of my anger, spends time with me, and teaches me things what I need to learn.

At the same time, he’s threatened to kick me out (the last time being February); tries to blame me for the incident; ignores that we’ve talked about it; has tried to touch or come near me even after I’ve said no or physically tried to stop him; and had whined that I don’t hug him, twice within two weeks, even after we’ve had several serious conversations about it.

This is the more recent stuff, although there was a lot that happened before. There’s also the fact that I thought he was creepy when I was twelve—thirteen; and a few professionals said there was an actionable case, though most of it was in a gray area. But I don’t have any proof; and most of the incidents were in a gray area, so I could see them being an orange rather than a red flag. Also, they haven’t escalated, which is another detail keeping me on the fence, because if they escalated, I’d feel like I’d have a clear-cut reason to be done with him.

But, since he’s apologized for a lot of things and since those incidents were vague, it’s been feeling like I can’t count that right now, despite not ignoring that those things happened. It’s why I keep track of anything that “builds a case” against him, making him seem like the bad guy; and that’s caused a lot of tension. My parents say that holding on to past hurts are clouding my perception, although my mom also says she understands where I’m coming from and says it’s okay if I don’t want to repair my relationship with him. My dad says he tried his best to raise me. It’s a lot of mixed signals, although a lot of them are coming from my brain. One time he cried and said he didn’t deserve the way I was treating him.

I’ve tried to talk to professionals several times, but it hasn’t been very helpful. I’ve also had several important conversations with my parents, but it hasn’t resolved anything. My parents themselves initiated conversations with me several times in the past several months.

Since September, I thought dad had changed his ways; but the touching resumed in a conversation. We had a talk after, in which he said he can’t touch me since I don’t even let him near me. Then, he brought it up again. I told myself I’d give my dad a second chance, but I feel like he’s blown it, right?

Part of me knows/feels his current behavior is wrong, and I shouldn’t tolerate it. The other part of me has been constantly struggling and questioning things, especially since he seems to be a lot nicer than he was when I was a kid and since he’s apologized many times.

My main issue right now is that I’d like to permanently make up my mind. I’m tired of the emotional rollercoaster— have been for a long time. How do I figure out what to believe? I feel bad I keep going over this, especially when I keep bringing it up, but my mind refuses to settle it down, even after years.

Hi everyone, I’m 22 and currently have a mentor who mainly provides financial advice, so I typically bring up finance related questions with them. This is not “work related mentorship”, more about personal financial mentor I found online. However, because of a past with a controlling and abusive family, I feel I’m behind in many aspects of life. I feel like I need more than financial guidance more of a parental figure, since I don’t talk to anyone in my family, even though I still live with them. I don’t have anyone to go to for advice, I have absolutely ZERO friends as well, and I’m struggling with life in general, often repeating the same patterns without much direction. I do have a therapist that I see weekly but they don’t give me practical advice like a mentor would. So, Is it safe to open up about my situation and ask if my mentor could take on more of a supportive role, maybe as an “aunt” or “uncle” figure for me? How would I even ask them that?

I tend to communicate more like a child and ask questions that most people my age would already know, which makes me wonder how much I can truly share with my mentor. Would it be okay to ask for broader life advice, even for small, everyday situations, like a parental figure might provide? For instance, advice on what to do if I get in a car accident? I also struggle with socializing and forming connections, whether it’s friendships or romantic relationships. My mentor has mentioned that I seem a bit like a kid, and while that doesn’t bother me if they’re willing to help without judgment, I still feel hesitant and sometimes embarrassed to bring up non financial questions. Should I ask if they’re open to offering this kind of support?

My brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It’s moved into the liver. We know it’s terminal. What happens now ? Like realistically, what happens now. How do we prepare. What happens as this progresses.

How do we find hospice care for at home ?

How quickly will this happen?

I doubt there will be family drama. It’s just us. He has no kids. He has a fiancé. I want them to get married and I want her to have everything. He owns a home, he was in the military. I want nothing. She deserves everything.

He’s realistic . Dark humor. Strong. Everything a big brother should be.

I can still remember Trump was first president, and he absolutely did cancel visas of legal immigrants and revoked their status. I hate it when so many people tell me he won’t go after immigrants when he made it clear on podcasts and in speeches that he absolutely will. What do I do? There is not much you can do when the federal government wants you gone

I had a bad childhood.

The world is scary.

Economy, climate-change, school shootings, politics…obviously I could go on and on. Whether it’s valid or just anxiety/pessimism- I still feel guilty at the idea of wanting to have children.

Is it normal to worry that it’s selfish? Or to feel like they would resent me? That they’d have anxiety/depression like me and suffer?

I’ve done a lot of work on myself. Sobriety, therapy, working through trauma and practicing better relationships with others.

I love kids, I always have. But, I’m sad because I thought getting to the point in my life where having children was feasible that the world isn’t how I hoped it would be.

Let’s be honest here. Most people who work out never see any success from their work. Society expects us to work hard until we die. Anything good that happens is just luck. How do people manage to live through their daily life with this mentality? What is your secret?

I have a top load washing machine with an agitator. When I put my toddlers clothes in with lightly dried on baby food, purée, chalk dust, dirt from outside, it doesn’t get removed. The clothes come out with the baby food still dried on it or the chalk dust is still on the knees. The clothes are wet, but they are definitely not clean. I changed my detergent as well as the temperature that I’m washing things on and nothing helps. I don’t use a detergent dispenser. The manufacturer instructions say to pour the soap directly onto the clothes while they are in the tub and that’s what I do. Any ideas?

Hi! Like the title asks, my mother has been basically constantly demanding me to get Life360. If I actually liked her and trusted her, I would, but the way she acted all my life has made me not trust her. For context, I'm a grown adult who's in college and still lives at home, so her wanting me to get life360 just feels like controlling me not caring about me.

So, I know everybody here is an adult who could probably reason better than I can. Could you give me some tips on what to say and what facts about the app I could bring up to show her I do not want to be tracked?

I'm not hiding anything, so sure, technically I have nothing to worry about- but I'm a grown adult and cannot handle being treated like a child that she needs to know my every move, so any advice would be great.

Edit: thank you everyone for the advice! I'm probably gonna go post this in r/raisedbynarcissists who might have more specific advice on dealing with narc parents, but validating me in my belief that I'm an adult and my own feelings do not need to be justified is giving me confidence.

My father is giving me a large personal cheque to help me out. For reasons I don't wish to disclose, it would be better for me if I could just cash the cheque and keep the money in a home safe. However, he would not be comfortable with that. If I cash the cheque instead of depositing it, will my father be able to tell that I did it? Would it matter if I cashed it at a bank or at Money Mart? If I deposit it, I'll likely lose a large chunk. I wanted a safe deposit box but the banks don't seem to allow me to keep cash in that.

So after using the airfryer, I usually soak it for a few hours just to help clean the grease etc.

This time, someone put it away and we forgot. Fast forward 2 weeks, I've gone to use it and see it's still full of water, with some white murky film. I've cleaned it thoroughly with hot water and soap, as well as then running the air fryer itself for 10 minutes on 180c.

Is there anything else I should do to clean this? Or should it be replaced (as in the tray).

Sorry if posting in wrong place, but I thought I'd try asking over here for advice too: I have always made my partner a card every birthday, Christmas, valentines, anniversary, etc. For Christmas I usually make him a hamper of his favourite snacks, treats and a few little other quirky things I think he might like/find fun. But in a few weeks, it will be 20 years since our first date, kiss, etc. We had already spoken a few times in the 4 months prior because we worked at the same place. Usually, I can come up with some good ideas of what to get him, and I always like to make one gift from scratch, even if its something small and silly, because I enjoy putting my heart into it and he seems to appreciate those types of things the most. I'm not sure if its that I'm putting pressure on myself with wanting to make or find the perfect thing due to it being what we consider a big milestone anniversary, or what, but my mind is completely blank of ideas! :( We have both been through a lot of stress, especially this past six months and money is quite tight at the moment. I have tons of art and craft bits and pieces, and I'm usually very creative, so anything I can make or do with what I already have is a bonus! Other than that, my budget needs to be £50 absolute maximum. He likes gaming, English language and literature, history, tai chi, chocolate, red wine/port/whisky and being comfy lol And we both love Rock/metal, with rock bars and clubs being very significant in our early days of dating especially!

If anyone has any ideas, I'd really appreciate it! Thank you <3

I can’t ask my own parents this as I’m breaking a cycle here. My son will be 14 soon. Here’s some back story. My son has had the same girlfriend for close to a year. They hang out in friend groups with adult supervision. My son has been honest that they have kissed just pecks in the recent months. We have a good relationship (I do with my 9 year old daughter too) my husband says we are too close in how open he is with me. Anyways I’ve had many conversations with the girlfriend’s parents about the boundaries our children should have being young and dating and the rules we each set in our home and expect each other to hold up to. So the advice I’m asking is they have a movie night once in a while this group of friends at each other’s house in rotation some weekends. The boys have recently taken to cuddling with their girlfriends by laying together or being all arms wrapped up around each other. This sorta sets my chest into panic mode but apparently all the other parents. My husband included think it’s normally and the least of things they could be doing. Am I overreacting due to me being to focus on breaking the cycle from my own background or trauma childhood?

Hello all! I [23F] wanted some advice for what I can do to make my friend [24M] feel at home and less as a charity case, it was something I struggled with when I went to a friends place for the same reason of escaping. I felt like an intruder and I’ve thought of a few things like toiletries and made a lot of space for his clothing and shoes and things. I’ve also gotten a spare key prepared and got him a hooded robe and slippers like I have around the house. Another thing I did is write down some resources for free therapy and schooling as he’s basically able to start his life now.

Is there anything else I should do? My friend comes in a month or so! Thank you so much!

So I used trans santa last year to get Christmas presents for me since I'm transgender, homeless (I live in a room and board), and disabled. They use an Amazon wishlist and send stuff to you that way. Well I was slacking this year and missed the application window.

That means I won't be getting any Christmas presents this year. D:

I feel so stupid right now. I should've applied sooner.

I guess I can use r/assistance but they limit you to $150.

Gosh I feel like an idiot. A sad idiot.

I'm not very good at writing struggled a lot in school please try to understand what I'm saying I'm in a very dangerous/bad situation 7.5 months ago psychopathic brother 22m sexual assaulted (I know why he did it) me 19m in my sleep possibly raped me in my sleep twice I used to share a room with him lot of reason as to why but for the sake of time won't mention it so I started sleeping on the living couch for a year now my stuff stayed in the room I don't talk to my brother at all it's been 2 years but we live in the same house with our parents reason as to why he was an extreme narcissist but as you read along more of a psychopath and for the past 6.5 months he's been harassing me tormenting me taunting me Non-Stop couple months ago I ended up my dad about SA he told me he'll investigate it and every time I asked him how his investigations but he always get mad when I asked and the one time I asked him he exploded he starts with victim blaming me saying that why did I wait so long to tell him and how if I had told him it happened he would have found out sooner and how he hasn't slept in 3 days because the thought of his son being gay and how he's investigation 

Made clear there was no evidence of my brother SA me and I must have been dreaming or maybe a spirit came in and did that to me told him he doesn't believe me his response there's two sides to every story and how I must have been hallucinating it's all in my head and I need peace in my heart and how the reason I told him was because I must have a goal in mind because when you say something there's always a goal so we were arguing for 20+minutes pretty much he's doesn't care and doesn't believe me so couple weeks later I called my sister who I haven't talked to gave her a call she picked up told her about what's been going on she starts crying wasn't even done yet she tells me she wants to pick me up and doesn't want me to stay there and how she'll be there in 45 minutes I go running back home by the time I get she's already there see her give her my bag go inside get my things out putting them outside ask if she can give me a hand loading it in with her boyfriend I get in the car and we get take off as we get on the freeway my sister tells to turn off the Life 360 I did couple minutes pass by my dad calls give the phone to my sister she talks to him they start arguing some time passes by she hangs up tells me she's going to talk to my dad fully when we get to her place 

We arrive we go inside I sit down she sits down she's calls him they start arguing for 30+ minutes a lot was said she told that tomorrow me and her would have to go back to talk to my parents to figure what I'm going to do and how I can't be left alone and how she's my responsibility and that I have a condition (I have a intellectual disability don't see what that has to do with it something was off) tell her the whole point was to leave and not return and that's it a bad idea we both go back and forth she tells me she doesn't want to argue and how were going tomorrow later fell asleep that morning she woke me up we head there go inside (didn't want but had no choice) my parents are sitting there so to sum it they start insulting me slandering me so does my sister (what a surprise) then my dad start talking about the SA and if it bothered me so much that I should report to the police and how everyone is on board with it and my brother is and will clear his name and how a simple solution to simple problem and then my dad said he was going to bring my brother out he goes knocks on his door comes out I'm staring at him he's smiling at trying not to laugh he sits down I leave 

The minute I did that everyone starts insulting me ofc not him go outside my dad chases me to go back I hesitated but ofc had no choice we go back he tells my brother to leave now it's just the three of us they start telling me what I'm going to do with my life and all to go to police so this thing can be solved by the end my dad tells my sister he's going to get my things how he has to drop off my brother to college she says she'll bring back my things they all leave my sister tells my mom she'll text her when she comes so I can get my things 40 minutes later I get my things from her car don't say a word put all my things inside and I leave call every god damn hotline they tell me the same thing that I'm on own and no way to help called ever shelter all are packed and there is a waiting list and just for one night there's not many shelters where I live outside the city maybe but I have no car and have life 360 my dad has said that if I Left again he'll "hunt me like a dog" called every resources they gave me nope nothing devastated angry and confused had to go back home didn't want but had no choice now fast forward to what just happened recently so I had gotten very angry and threw away some food in the fridge later that day my dad questioned me if I did told him no he's says

 I'm lying and full of bs so I go to my parents room (because that's where I stay) they come in the room my dad tells me that why did I throw away the food you showing me pictures of it in the dumpster in the back me knowing that I was caught didn't answer him Stayed silent which angered him even more so as we were talking grabs my phone out of my hand nearly fell off the chair I thought he was going to assault me just by the amount of force to take my phone when he grab my phone he opened the docs which we revealed everything that been going on he told me if I did it I answered I did he told me why told because I was angry he told I'm BS insane and my head all fucked up he went to work took my phone dreading the fact he saw all the docs what I've been writing for what's been going on and will probably question me about it later that night went to sleep the next morning when I woke up went to my parents room to sleep couple hours past by my dad comes in the room and wakes me up tells me that I have to buy the food that I have thrown away after he's done talking to me he starts asking me about the things

I had wrote and how if it really bothers me I should just go to the police and report it and let the experts do the job and how my brother didn't SA and how it was another term just wasn't that and how reading through the documents he says I have a lot of trauma and pain but that that can be fixed once I'm healed he rambles at me for 10 minutes then he tells me to go by the food even though I was sleeping has no choice can't buy another phone without getting caught all the shelters in my area are full and a waiting list just for one night tho not many in my area maybe outside the city but don't have a car even if I did all the shelters are packed cuz of the homeless crisis and even if I were to leave I have life 360 on my phone and my dad has said numerous times "he'll hunt me like a dog" the fact my parents don't care/believe that my brother SA and potentially raped in my sleep I don't have any friends or family members that I can stay with I have nowhere to go don't feel safe at home I'm scared ASF and I have no idea what to do   

I’m newly 40 failing in my second marriage, came to the conclusion/realization that other than her I have my brother and one other buddy. I find myself feeling alone and while my relationship stuff is more than that I feel like if I had a solid group of people I might be better off. I’m not a veteran so veterans groups won’t work, I don’t really believe in god so church groups may not work either. Where else could I go?

Had college paid for, threw it away when I ran away from home at 17, in upper-middle class suburbia to get away from toxic parents. Did drugs for 10 years. Thought of myself as trash when the people that raised me died, and I wasn't there to say goodbye because I was too busy getting high. (Still haven't greived, ~10 years later, not even sure when they passed tbh)

Got sober. Had a kid.. Five years after that I decided to finish my degree. Completed my Bachelor's (paid for myself, 112 credits) in one year with WGU.

Within 6 months of graduation I'm working for a company that makes me question if I'm dreaming, daily.

There's no way I'm good enough to be selected by this company. Me? POS me? No way. And they like me?!?

I'm super proud to tell people what do...

I'm still figuring out how to actually be proud of myself though.

Instead always saying, "yeah, but you know you're smart enough to have been a Nuclear Physicist, Neuro Surgeon, or Astronaut... You done fucked up kid. Good try, but... Still not good enough."

...and sadly, I feel it never WILL be unless I fly to space or get hired by NASA as Launch Director.

:end crybaby time:

Haha so I was curious today thinking about the gentle parenting movement and wondering if those of you raised by a “Chancla Mom” or a mom not afraid to give you a whoopin’ or scare you a bit to make you behave… how y’all doing? Do you feel like that approach to parenting messed you up? How’s your relationship with your mom now? Cause a lot of people I know with moms like that adore their moms but of course know not to ness with her 😂 fill me in please I wanna know 🙏🏼

I learned the hard way that your teenage years is far too late to learn a new sport

I wish I had a dad ( or any guys in my life) that I would feel comfortable discussing this with but I don't. So dads or out there, any insight?

This guy in one of my classes has asked me twice if I’m his girl. I was trying to go to the bathroom but his friend was in front of me and he said” A girl is trying to get through”, then when I was walking away he said “my girl”. I thought I heard wrong but, then when I came back the whole group (5 juniors and I'm a senior ) was staring at me heads turned and everything and as I was walking towards my seat he asked me if I’m his girl. Other things that happened were that He told me he liked my costume on Halloween a couple days ago. Yesterday one of them came into a free period class I was in and as I was talking to my fiend he pretended to accidentally push my chair ( he didn't actually push it) and I don't remember what else but it was enough for my friend to ask me if he liked me. A couple weeks ago they kept throwing a paper airplane towards me until it landed very close to me. I heard one of them say aim towards her. (The rest of the guys) his friends are always staring at me and paying attention to me. Even when they are alone. But they are never rude and they never laugh at me. They also almost never talk to me. The few times they have spoken to me individually they each were pretty nice . But they all stare at me a lot all the time. So what the hell is going on here. Any ideas?

I know this sounds self indulgent and braggy, but I think it helps, I get approached a lot by random girls I don't know at school who tap my shoulder just to tell me how pretty they think I am, so I'm probably not ugly, but I think it helps with the context?

I get spammed with insurance offers/ quotes all the time after researching insurance options, now I’m just super overwhelmed. Havent had insurance in a couple years since my mom moved away but I have some things I need to get checked out

Hello all. I recently went on vacation and came back with some poison ivy rashes. I know the clothes I wore when I was exposed. I accidentally put them in my luggage with the rest of my clothes.

I washed them all together with cold water and have since put them away. I am now realizing this may not have been enough and I may need to rewash some of the clothes and any clothes that are hung up/folded near by.

Also, do I need to clean my luggage? If so, what is the most effective way to clean? Thank you all.

Ive been reading around and i cant quite find the answer to my exact situation with my father, call this my cry for help or whatever. Im 24 living in the UK. Here we go, sorry if this is a bit long winded.

He was mostly always there to take me to football games, make me go to school and put the pressure on me to find a job… which of course are all great respectable things that I truly am grateful for. However, i never remember him saying he loved me or was proud of me (and actually meaning it anyway, he’d say it at the end of a phone call but it was said without any conviction or emotion every time) or even taking any interest in the things i enjoy, never compliments or says anything im good at, never asks how my fight training is going, never asks what hobbies i do and enjoy. I recently took a call off him and told him i was studying polish and another language to which his reply was “whatre you doing that for, immigrants send them all back, scrubbers” UNNECESSARY NEGATIVE COMMENTS!

It seems like all he asks and cares about is work and never supports me with the fact I have been diagnosed with ADHD, which explains a lot of my difficulties in my younger years with maintaining my attendance at school and focusing and also holding jobs down, i have quit every single one i ever had (the longest being my first at 6 months.) He says im just “lazy” “idle” “going nowhere”, its NEVER supporting words of encouragement, which i dont expect but hey it would be nice yaknow seen as hes my FATHER, the one supposed to be who i look up to and love and look for guidance and help. He says “we never had that in my day ADHD”. He knows i struggle with extreme social anxiety at times also, probably his presence and the facade he conjures when we’re out with family, my soul just doesnt like the deceiving behaviour… i literally had to storm out of a family meal once with a full blown panic attack in the blistering cold to which in fairness he did say after just once that he’s “here for me”, then the week after when i couldnt make an event due to bad anxiety he immediately switched back to his old ways and anger/dissapointment towards me, NO UNDERSTANDING. He said angrily “why can you see your cousins but you cant come to this event with us” LIKE I CONTROL WHAT SITUATIONS MAKES ME ANXIOUS AND FEEL UNWELCOME. I also missed a wedding on his side of the family due to bad anxiety attacks, there was no understanding from him, only saying he is dissapointed in me for not attending.

He is such a negative person, very racist and talks down of mostly everybody. I cant remember him complimenting anybody while i have been with him, we would work together sometimes in his business but he would pay me at most half of what a typical job pays (£40-£50 if i am lucky for atleast 8 hours work in £) his excuse is i should be grateful he is offering me “easy” and “no pressure work” but its high pressure because of him. Hes such a hypocrite for example if i go on my phone for literally 30 seconds one time! he has to make a comment such as “never working are you” or “get off your phone WHAT IF A CUSTOMER SEES YOU” like i havent been breaking my back for the last 5 hours truly putting effort in and being proud of myself! Whereas he will happily go on his phone or make an unnecessary call for 30 minutes a time claiming it is “for work” or some other shit that he couldnt put into a simple text or 5 minute call after work. I vividly remember one day actually timing how long he sat down to have a coffee and play on his phone + call his friends while we were working, 1 hour and 20 minutes he wasted while i worked continuously and had a 5 min dinner break… of course we finished the shift to which he said “its easy money isnt it for the work you do, always on your phone” yada yada yada. Actually unbelievable.

Its like i can just feel his energy and it drains me, clear pessimism runs through his veins. I have more or less cut contact with him and changed my number which i have not given to him and honestly i dont intend to. The last call we had he didnt ask how i was, he immediately offered me work to which i was busy on the days he offered, his voice immediately changed to a disgruntled and dissapointed “well fuck you then worthless son” kind of tone. Yaknow instead of asking me how i am or what i have planned… and i am not overeacting, he is like a baby throwing his toys out the pram with his emotions its frustrating! Oh and you can never call him out on it, he is ALWAYS right! He’s “tired” hes “stressed”, because he works works and works when he has more than enough money to live comfortably, buy a house and a holiday home and relax!

Listen i dont expect him to sing my praises 24/7 and coat me in love and rainbows but i just dont feel any love from him at all, hes different when other people are around he may actually smile and crack a joke but its all just a facade until he gets back home into his miserable cave where everybody must do atleast 70/80% of the housework while he does the (most) 20%, everybodys fault but his. He has issues with my older brother which he lays on me while we work or on the phone but he never raises these issues with the person in question in even the slightest diplomatic way, its like he has no people skills (yet thinks he can read people “so well” and walks around like hes so friendly and chatty with people!), he has no ability to empathize and ask nicely and figure a solution out to the problem at hand unless he has total control and everybody follows his commands. My god im just glad he isnt running a country or anything more serious than his shitty little business because the world would be in a lot of deceiving and hateful trouble!

I dont have the greatest memory of my childhood but a few nice holidays we went on as a family before my parents divorced (and also a few bad holidays that ended abruptly in huge arguments) but i do remember just hating him with a passion when i was young, that i do remember. Always getting shouted at, sometimes a smack to the back of the legs. I wouldnt hate him if he was actually a decent parent right? IM JUST FILLED WITH SO MANY QUESTIONS AND DOUBTS AND SECOND GUESSING MYSELF.

My father has had a history of abuse mainly mental and verbal abuse according to my mother (often calling her a whore, slag, you name it.. all infront of little 10 year old me) (controlling what she wore and getting incredibly moody and dismissive if she went out with friends) a very jealous and sad man are her words (oh and he cheated on all his previous wives, but had the audacity to try and control my mother back then stemming from his twisted suspicions) And certainly physical aggression that i witnessed from ages 9-14 (grabbing and pinning her against the wall, throwing a belt buckle at her hitting her face, actually slapping her one night when nobody was around) (trying to push her down the stairs) so i know the man has his flaws. But i always try to see the good in him.

Hes close with my sister in law, it seems like she views him a lot more positively than i do (although my mother recalls whenever my sister would come round for my parents to babysit, my dad would often leave to go out with friends and leave my mother to care for her.. shes not even my mothers child!)

Also i recently just had a horrible dream/nightmare where he was really aggressively trying to hurt my mother in which i murdered him in the dream, horrible i know and of course i would never do that. But i dont control my dreams.

I’m sorry if this is long winded and a bit all over the place i just wanted to get these thoughts and feelings out, i suppose i just want advice as he isnt as bad as other horror stories i read on here about constant beatings and worse but the negativity and hate from him is more than enough for me to want to cut ties. I feel confused, vulnerable and hopeful for anything that can help me in any way people.

(also i posted this in here as from my research i believe him to be a “Covert Narcissist”)

Please, any help and answer is appreciated beyond belief. I have never really got this off my chest. Please.

Thank you 🙏🏻

I’m trying to get everything I need to adopt a cat. All I need to do is get in contact with the leasing office for my updated copy of the lease that says the fees for a pet is waived. I left a message 3 hours ago and I want to get the copy before the weekend. They close in 2 hours and haven’t gotten back to me. Should I go up there and ask for it or wait? I’m a new tenant and I’m still getting a lot of things straightened out. This is my first time in an apartment & I’m alone with no guidance :/

I'm on my own. I really need some advice for this son of a b im constantly worried about my means of stability.

I need a parents view on this that isn't my parents. TLDR I'm terrified of the thought of being independent

So I don't have the best parents. Not many do, and I know some have it worse. But because of recent situations both personal and political, I no longer feel like I can stay in my state. My boyfriends mother and I have already talked about me moving in with them once they find a new house. But now they're planning on getting me MUCH earlier. The thought of breaking the routine and life I know is terrifying. But I also really wanna go with them. I know I need to become more independent before I go anywhere and I don't know where to start. I'm an adult and have been told that they can only control me as much as I let them but its hard to do anything else when that's all I've known…

I am only 22, but I already have diagnosed for sleep apnea, autism, and arthritis. I got rejected from the military and border patrol after failing to pass medical. It sucks when all of my health issues aren’t something you could really cure

Hello everyone, I might be moving into a new place. I'm gonna check it out this Saturday. Is there anything I should keep an eye out for when looking at a new place?

(I mean I know I should be comfortable in the new place, but I guess any red flags to look out for. Like how to spot infestations or something.)

Hi there. Young adult here. As the title says I don't know how to shave and keep a bit of facial hair.

My facial grows quick and it's enough to call it a small beard. But I only know how to clean shave and not shave and keep some facial hair withouth it looking like just some ugly hairs sticking out.

I posted it here since I figured this is something your dad can teach you but that's not currently possible for me (don't wanna get into that).

If this isn't something that belongs in this subreddit my apologizes and let me know please.