t3_1gp53d9

When I was pregnant I had a girlfriend have a baby before me and one after me. I thought since we were all friends our children would become best friends. 8 years later and that doesn’t seem to be the case. 

Now the girlfriend before my child, we are close and although the kids are different sexes and getting older now they still can hang out with each other. 

My second friend after is what is bothering me. I’ll ask every few weekends if they want to all hang out and she’ll say no, they’re busy. Then it’s let’s skip Christmas presents for the kids but she’s showed up for my kids birthday party and seems to want to just hang out as adults. 

Has anyone been through a similar situation. Is it best just to remain adult friends, leave the kids out of it? Maybe her kid doesn’t want to play with mines or has their own friends now? I have no idea but it’s been months of dodging and I want to move on but I guess not let it affect our friendship either? Did your friends grow apart once you had kids and you just made new mom friends? 

<div class="md"><p>When I was pregnant I had a girlfriend have a baby before me and one after me. I thought since we were all friends our children would become best friends. 8 years later and that doesn’t seem to be the case. </p>

<p>Now the girlfriend before my child, we are close and although the kids are different sexes and getting older now they still can hang out with each other. </p>

<p>My second friend after is what is bothering me. I’ll ask every few weekends if they want to all hang out and she’ll say no, they’re busy. Then it’s let’s skip Christmas presents for the kids but she’s showed up for my kids birthday party and seems to want to just hang out as adults. </p>

<p>Has anyone been through a similar situation. Is it best just to remain adult friends, leave the kids out of it? Maybe her kid doesn’t want to play with mines or has their own friends now? I have no idea but it’s been months of dodging and I want to move on but I guess not let it affect our friendship either? Did your friends grow apart once you had kids and you just made new mom friends? </p>
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Girlfriends and kids

t3_1gow0z4

I have a 14 year old daughter. I had a feeling that I should look at her phone this morning (she knows I do this sometimes. Not often.) And in her photo trash folder there was a photo of her leg with cuts on it. She has struggled a little with depression but this is new. How do I bring it up? I think her boyfriend has something to do with why she is doing it because I saw some messages between them. I am iffy about the kid but I'm trying to give him a chance. What do i do? Editing to add that we are in the process of starting therapy. We are really close and normally she talks to me about everything.

<div class="md"><p>I have a 14 year old daughter. I had a feeling that I should look at her phone this morning (she knows I do this sometimes. Not often.) And in her photo trash folder there was a photo of her leg with cuts on it. She has struggled a little with depression but this is new. How do I bring it up? I think her boyfriend has something to do with why she is doing it because I saw some messages between them. I am iffy about the kid but I&#39;m trying to give him a chance. What do i do? Editing to add that we are in the process of starting therapy. We are really close and normally she talks to me about everything.</p>
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Trigger warning!!!!! Cutting. 

t3_1goq3jn

To be more specific married a lady with 3 kids and an absentee father and my new sister in law has two boys who have never met their father. I am now raising them as a batch. Ages range from 8-11 with a 15 year old for when nobody has rolled their eyes at me.
Mostly everything is going great. I've actually been in the family for several years and we've spent the last year working out the logistics to get everyone together.
One of the goals was to get one of the 8 year olds a bit healthier. He is a bit of a chunk and was overindulged by grandmother. We aren't planning anything dramatic- just fewer 711 snacks and less idle phone time.  The problem is now he is getting healthy food and he has lost his mind. My initial thought was just.. well, what I said before and letting nature resolve it slowly. Instead he has gained like 10% body weight in 3 weeks. It's like I've got 4 prototypical skinny southeast Asian kids and then one who is secretly Samoan or something. He is a bit chubby but doesn't look fat- but he is like a bag of rocks! He is probably my favorite, but I grew up fat and would save him that experience...  But I can't let him be hungry... His mother claims his father was huge and he is massive compared to kids his age- he is larger than the 11 year olds. He is literally eating as much food as the other 3 close to his age combined.
Advice? Please? 
My new modified plan is just to limit him to like 120% what the other kids eat and then having some sort of low calorie filler item- raw veggies or whatever that he can have as much of as he wants... Problem is he ALSO was allowed to not eat vegetables so I don't want to undermine the retraining that veggies are good by making them feel like a punishment food.

<div class="md"><p>To be more specific married a lady with 3 kids and an absentee father and my new sister in law has two boys who have never met their father. I am now raising them as a batch. Ages range from 8-11 with a 15 year old for when nobody has rolled their eyes at me.
Mostly everything is going great. I&#39;ve actually been in the family for several years and we&#39;ve spent the last year working out the logistics to get everyone together.
One of the goals was to get one of the 8 year olds a bit healthier. He is a bit of a chunk and was overindulged by grandmother. We aren&#39;t planning anything dramatic- just fewer 711 snacks and less idle phone time.  The problem is now he is getting healthy food and he has lost his mind. My initial thought was just.. well, what I said before and letting nature resolve it slowly. Instead he has gained like 10% body weight in 3 weeks. It&#39;s like I&#39;ve got 4 prototypical skinny southeast Asian kids and then one who is secretly Samoan or something. He is a bit chubby but doesn&#39;t look fat- but he is like a bag of rocks! He is probably my favorite, but I grew up fat and would save him that experience...  But I can&#39;t let him be hungry... His mother claims his father was huge and he is massive compared to kids his age- he is larger than the 11 year olds. He is literally eating as much food as the other 3 close to his age combined.
Advice? Please? 
My new modified plan is just to limit him to like 120% what the other kids eat and then having some sort of low calorie filler item- raw veggies or whatever that he can have as much of as he wants... Problem is he ALSO was allowed to not eat vegetables so I don&#39;t want to undermine the retraining that veggies are good by making them feel like a punishment food.</p>
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Adopted a bunch of kids and one is insatiable...

t3_1gog1vq

I constantly feel like people are staring and judging me as a parent. My son is 3.5, soon turning 4 and he’s a handful. He’s rambunctious, can be defiant, and he’s just a lot. 

Out in public, what would you consider a “badly behaved” kid? Just curious…

<div class="md"><p>I constantly feel like people are staring and judging me as a parent. My son is 3.5, soon turning 4 and he’s a handful. He’s rambunctious, can be defiant, and he’s just a lot. </p>

<p>Out in public, what would you consider a “badly behaved” kid? Just curious…</p>
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What do you consider a “badly behaved” child?

t3_1goeyqb

When it comes to raising your kids, what are your rules and what happens if they do not follow them? If they are misbehaving, what do you do to address it? 

<div class="md"><p>When it comes to raising your kids, what are your rules and what happens if they do not follow them? If they are misbehaving, what do you do to address it? </p>
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Punishments / Disciplines / Consequences

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Problem Solving Sunday is one of the [/r/raisingKids](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisingKids) [Weekly Events](https://www.reddit.com/r/raisingKids/wiki/Weekly_Events).   These posts are made by rkbot every week at the same time.  The  general goals of these events are to stimulate discussion and promote  community.  The specific goal of Problem Solving Sunday is to provide a  welcoming space for anyone to discuss "problems" (big or small) they are  having in their families.  

This post is for readers who would like another perspective on a  difficult family situation.  Please be respectful and considerate of  each other.  Everyone's family is different and what works for one  child/family might not be the right decision for another child/family.

<div class="md"><p>Problem Solving Sunday is one of the <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisingKids">/r/raisingKids</a> <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/raisingKids/wiki/Weekly_Events">Weekly Events</a>.   These posts are made by rkbot every week at the same time.  The  general goals of these events are to stimulate discussion and promote  community.  The specific goal of Problem Solving Sunday is to provide a  welcoming space for anyone to discuss &quot;problems&quot; (big or small) they are  having in their families.  </p>

<p>This post is for readers who would like another perspective on a  difficult family situation.  Please be respectful and considerate of  each other.  Everyone&#39;s family is different and what works for one  child/family might not be the right decision for another child/family.</p>
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Problem Solving Sunday(November 10, 2024) Post a parenting problem you would like some additional perspectives on.

t3_1gnvqm3

My wife had a fling a few years ago, we split for a couple of years then reconciled. We have other kids and still love each other.
However my daughter goes to school with the other guys daughter and they are best friends.
They are always asking for playdates together and i have told her no, i do not want there family being apart of our lives.
I just cannot imagine dropping her off for a playdate, i would just feel like such a cuckhold.
Ive explained the ethical dilemma to my daughter and the bad blood between me and this guy and i honestly feel really bad for her as they seem quite close.
Ive told her they can be friends at school and play games online together, and when she is old enough and has her own car they can go hang out whenever they want as she will be a young adult by then.
Am i wrong? Cause i feel like keeping them far away is far healthier for my marriage. 

<div class="md"><p>My wife had a fling a few years ago, we split for a couple of years then reconciled. We have other kids and still love each other.
However my daughter goes to school with the other guys daughter and they are best friends.
They are always asking for playdates together and i have told her no, i do not want there family being apart of our lives.
I just cannot imagine dropping her off for a playdate, i would just feel like such a cuckhold.
Ive explained the ethical dilemma to my daughter and the bad blood between me and this guy and i honestly feel really bad for her as they seem quite close.
Ive told her they can be friends at school and play games online together, and when she is old enough and has her own car they can go hang out whenever they want as she will be a young adult by then.
Am i wrong? Cause i feel like keeping them far away is far healthier for my marriage. </p>
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My wife had an affair but my 10yr old daughter is best friends with the other guys daughter!

t3_1glwg36

For context: My daughter is 8 years old. It's just her and I in our home. 

My daughter has behavioral issues and I feel like I am her venting center / punching bag when at home. As I was told by close people who are on the outside looking in, my daughter is very disrespectful towards me. My friends say "if my child ever talked to me that way, I would whoop their ass!" Although I do not put my hands on my child, I do take things away from her or make her do chores she doesn't like. 

Other than that, **what do I do**? I am working on trying to get some professional in-home services that can help me make home a better environment for her but staffing for that kind of thing is scarce around here. 

Advice? Tips? Words of encouragement? 

TIA! <3 



<div class="md"><p>For context: My daughter is 8 years old. It&#39;s just her and I in our home. </p>

<p>My daughter has behavioral issues and I feel like I am her venting center / punching bag when at home. As I was told by close people who are on the outside looking in, my daughter is very disrespectful towards me. My friends say &quot;if my child ever talked to me that way, I would whoop their ass!&quot; Although I do not put my hands on my child, I do take things away from her or make her do chores she doesn&#39;t like. </p>

<p>Other than that, <strong>what do I do</strong>? I am working on trying to get some professional in-home services that can help me make home a better environment for her but staffing for that kind of thing is scarce around here. </p>

<p>Advice? Tips? Words of encouragement? </p>

<p>TIA! &lt;3 </p>
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Single Mom with a Disrespectful Daughter

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Hello!! This post is for an Academic Requirement, and we would really appreciate it if you helped us out 🙏🙏🙏. Our group is doing a research on the impacts of gaming on parent gamers, and we would simply like to hear the thoughts and experiences of people online on this topic. If you would like to be a part of this research please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions in this thread!! You can use the following questions as prompts for your responses. Let us know as well if you’d be willing to let us use your responses in our paper and whether or not you would like to keep your response anonymous! Thank you!!

Some Prompt Questions:

1. How has gaming affected your life as a parent and your bond with your children?
2. How do you balance your gaming time with family time, particularly time spent with your children?
3. How does gaming affect your mental health considering the other aspects of your life that you also have to focus on?
4. What does gaming mean to you, as well as your personal life and hobbies?
5. Do you ever find that gaming cuts into your work hours or family responsibilities? If so, how do you handle this?

<div class="md"><p>Hello!! This post is for an Academic Requirement, and we would really appreciate it if you helped us out 🙏🙏🙏. Our group is doing a research on the impacts of gaming on parent gamers, and we would simply like to hear the thoughts and experiences of people online on this topic. If you would like to be a part of this research please feel free to share your thoughts and opinions in this thread!! You can use the following questions as prompts for your responses. Let us know as well if you’d be willing to let us use your responses in our paper and whether or not you would like to keep your response anonymous! Thank you!!</p>

<p>Some Prompt Questions:</p>

<ol>
<li>How has gaming affected your life as a parent and your bond with your children?</li>
<li>How do you balance your gaming time with family time, particularly time spent with your children?</li>
<li>How does gaming affect your mental health considering the other aspects of your life that you also have to focus on?</li>
<li>What does gaming mean to you, as well as your personal life and hobbies?</li>
<li>Do you ever find that gaming cuts into your work hours or family responsibilities? If so, how do you handle this?</li>
</ol>
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For Parents who are Gamers, how does gaming as a hobby affect your life as a parent, work-life balance, work ethic, relationships, and mental well-being?

t3_1gl4q40

wondering how others feel about their kids interacting with these new artificial intelligence products.

  
whether it's talking toys, something useful for school, or just random ai chat apps, 

  
do you draw the line somewhere? -- would love any tips or how others are going about this!

<div class="md"><p>wondering how others feel about their kids interacting with these new artificial intelligence products.</p>

<p>whether it&#39;s talking toys, something useful for school, or just random ai chat apps, </p>

<p>do you draw the line somewhere? -- would love any tips or how others are going about this!</p>
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