Greenlight card or something else!

Greenlight Card, Step, or something else?

Looking for help in what the best card would be for my 14 year old and 11 year old. I read up on Venmo and cash app but not too comfortable with those.

Thank you all

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Ok my wife got a message from his teacher. He was telling the other kids when they get old they'll die. He's been around one real near death instance with his special needs sister. Then this past month my mother got seriously ill. The other night we sat outside next to a fire talking about time, and life past on this earth. We talked about the stars and the millions of years. He's only 6, but I dunno. Another parent was complaining. Am I doing bad parenting? We told him not to talk about death to others because they don't understand. Edit: I read my post it's a rambling mess. Sorry

The other day my son (13M) called me into the kitchen, he was crying and in hysterics. I obviously rush in, and there is a huge pile of red foam all over the floor. It was disturbing, and even worse his sister and her friends were screaming and crying, probably traumatized. I rush everyone out while I clean everything up, and I see the deflated corpse of our family hamster, Manny. I asked my son what the hell happened and he told me he was letting Manny roam freely AGAIN, even though I’m constantly telling him not to. Turns out somehow the hamster got into our baking soda, and drank a ton of vinegar which ultimately ended him. Now here’s my problem, my son not only disobeyed me and let the hamster roam, but he also let the hamster drink the vinegar. He claimed that he didn’t think it would matter, WHY WOULD HE THINK ITS OK LET MANNY DRINK VINEGAR?!

A possibility that worries me is, there’s no way a hamster would actually eat that stuff on his own right? I’m worried my son my have been experimenting on Manny. I’ve directly asked him that but he denied that completely and got super pissed that I accused him of that. So what should I do? Do I punish him? Do I take him the a psychologist or something

My parents told me they had created a policy for my first child. When my second child was born four years later, they told me they were doing the same thing for that child as well. However when it came time to hand the policies over to the kids because they had come of age, my parents said they remembered doing no such thing. I called Gerber and they had no record of any policies in either of my kids names. One of the agents told me that if a policy had been turned in early, there would be no record of it after three years. Does anybody know anything about how this works? Is there no way for me to find out? I’m just upset that my parents are telling me they don’t remember. I thought the whole life insurance thing was a weird way to save for college when they explained to me how it would work over 20 years ago, and I know I didn’t make it all up.

I am embarrassed, but I will ask anyway.

Yesterday I was in our bedroom with my wife (just chatting). It was our 11 year old's bedtime, so he came in the room to say good night. I told him to come in and give me a hug, so he jumped on the bed, he was lying down with his head beside mine, and the lower half of his body across my wife's legs (we were both sitting on the bed). Then I noticed my wife had both hands in his pants, grabbing his butt from inside his underwear.

I gave her a "wtf" look, told my son to go to bed, but ended up having an argument with my wife about it. My wife thought this was ok (she told me that in China - she's Chinese - that would be perfectly fine), but I was thinking that at 11 years old, he is entitled to a bit more privacy than that.

I was trying to imagine that I had a daughter, her giving my wife a hug the same way and me grabbing her butt from inside her clothes, I mean that felt very wrong! Like if I saw someone else doing that to his daughter, first thing that would come to mind would be that "p" - word.

I started thinking about a couple of occasions were he gave my wife a pat on the butt as a joke, and I was thinking that he saw me doing it so he was mimicking me, but now I don't know what to think.

Now don't get me wrong, I don't think that this is a sign of the really "awful" kind of abuse, but I just feel this is so wrong.

What would you guys think? Is it me or should I do something about it, and what would that be?

I typically go with Common Sense Media's website for what my 5-year-old may or may not be ready for, but I find myself more and more curious about live-action movies and which ones he might like. There isn't any filter for that on their website, and most of the tailored recommendations for kids his age are computer-animated movies which are fine for him but ugly and headache-inducing for me.

We had a great time taking him to see Bringing Up Baby a few weeks back. Outside of the lightning-fast dialogue at the beginning it was actually fairly accessible to him and very enjoyable to all of us. He's seen and enjoyed The Great Race, Wizard of Oz, and The Court Jester. Curious about more recent live-action movies that are young-kid-appropriate, but from what I can tell it's like they don't make them anymore?

Anyway, what are your favorites?

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Anyone have tips on switching over to calling a kid by their preferred name? I know it’s so silly, but after calling her one name for 8 years, I forget nearly every time to use the right name! I’ve started trying to sort of overuse her preferred name to get it “in my head” more, but it sounds a little forced and awkward. I’m wondering if there are other tips?

Also, if your child has decided to go by a different name, I’d love to hear about changing it at school and such. We are obviously in the middle of the school year, so many it would be easier to encourage the change at school over the summer?

My kids enjoy watching animal videos on YouTube, but sometimes they’re not educational and honestly they are full of crap. Any tips? I want them to be educational while also still being fun and related to animals, but not useless information, you know what I mean?

They are 2 and 5, both boys. Just trying to do this right. Thanks in advance

Hi! I'll dive right into the situation. I have a younger brother (5yrs younger) and this year he started struggling with school a lot. Just to give some context, he's in 6th grade and where I live, 6th grade is where school gets a lot harder suddenly. He used to have just one (very nice and lenient) teacher for every subject, now he has a different teacher for every subject -> more work than he was used to, lot less nicer teachers.

He started bringing home bad grades, which leads to our parents constantly yelling at him, being overall mean and not knowing how to deal with the situation (both parents only have ever experienced daughters, that are successful in school). This leads to him experiencing a lot of anger and sadness. He's starting to act more aggressive not only towards us, but towards himself.

Whenever I'm doing schoolwork with him and he gets something wrong, he'll start degrading himself and it breaks my heart that he thinks of himself so lowly. I just don't know what to do. My parents punish him by taking his phone and forbidding him to go outside. While I don't think they're necessarily bad punishments, I think (hope) it could be done better.

My brother isn't all that innocent, he is lazy sometimes and he would rather run around outside and play games on his phone, but he has the potential to have good grades and to do well.

I'm trying to think of ways to somehow encourage him to do good. There has to be a better way than constant yelling and blaming him for everything. His mental health is slowly deteriorating and I'm worried for him.

Has anyone here ever dealt with a similar situation? Having an unmotivated kid? Any tips? I'm literally clueless. I'd also appreciate any recommendations on books, articles, videos... on this topic.

P.s. excuse any mistakes, english isn't my first language and I have no idea how english interpunction works :d.

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Single mamas how do you handle days you need to rest or you might not be feeling well?

I have a very wild 6 year old who won’t really play on his own he needs me to help guide him with any activity or game.

Anyways I’ve been traveling for work was out of town for 3 days and he was with his grandma, I’m back and my first day off in a while I feel exhausted beyond belief and maybe like I’m coming down with something. I’ve been wanting to stay in bed all day or just lounge.. read and take it easy. he’s been on his iPad all am and now is watching a movie. I feel awful but am I alone in this?

He’s so active normally and we play soccer, he skateboards and he does karate during the week. So it’s not like he does no outdoor activities.

I just don’t know what else to do when I’m feeling so exhausted. My house is already a god awful mess and if I get anything else out art stuff etc then i dread it adding to the mess and cleaning it all up.

I feel guilty letting him watch tv all day but just looking for confirmation that other moms have to do this sometimes too lol

Hello!

I have a 3 year old boy and he is ALL BOY. The kid doesn’t like to sit still to color or read for longer than 1 min. Doesn’t really use imaginative play with his toys. All he does is bang things around and he LOVES to knock things over all day long. He will knock over his ezell, chairs, you name it.

I feel kind of lost as to how to be productive with him through the day when he really has no interest. I’m guessing it’s just a phase because since he turned 3 months ago he has been non stop energy.

Any ideas as to fun activities to do? Toys? Need some help here

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Kids (21, 15, 12) listen to/accept love and feedback from my wife more than from myself. Wife says I’m mean and hateful toward them and they’re afraid of me. Wife speaks just as angrily but she explains she’s built stronger relationships with them that’s why they listen to her and come to her for help. I think that is not excuse but as to me, I don’t disagree about my attitude and tone and have been trying to take down my anger. Advice to build the relationships with my teens?

My friend wants to start one and has come to me for name help.

Names she likes of businesses/ blogs/ ideas but dont work

Something Small

The Sartorialist

Net a Porter

She likes that they all evoke an obvious message while being cool.

Any creative ideas for her?

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I am currently babysitting 3 children. One is 12, one is 9, and one is 5-6. The 5-6 year old (youngest child) is a bit clingy. Whenever I am in conversation with another of the children I am baby sitting, the youngest is always wanting my attention.

This youngest child is very fond of me. So much so I find it hard to give the other two children attention because the youngest child is always wanting me to play with him.

How do I balance out the youngest child so I can give enough attention to the other two children as well?