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Weird lower belly sharp pain - do you have any explanation?

Today I'm feeling sharp pain in the lower abdomen. It's sharp, short, feels like pain from injection or something similar. It happens from time to time and often repeats for a few seconds. Feel pretty much "on the surface", just above pubic bone, somewhere on the middle between it and belly button. I'm 19 weeks and had a lot of different aches by now but this one is unique and feels weird. Has anyone felt anything similar?

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2024/12/01
16:01 UTC

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Itchy down there! Help

I got tested for a yeast infection, bacterial vaginosis, and trich. All were negative, as was my test for a UTI. All STI tests are negative (not that that would be a concern anyway).

I’ve been having itching, burning, redness, and swelling for 3-4 days now. It’s all external, the inside feels fine. But my labia and vulva are not happy.

I don’t use scented body wash. I don’t douche. My detergent is original tide, which I have used forever. I’ve been going commando for 3 days now and it’s only getting worse.

Urgent care says there’s nothing wrong with me. I see my primary care in 3 days and then I have an OB appointment the day after. I will bring it up with them also but I wanted to crowd source any knowledge for what tf might be wrong with me!

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2024/12/01
15:57 UTC

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Is a newborn stroller really necessary?

I am so overwhelmed by the stroller world. Are there any newborn strollers than convert to fit an older baby too?

My husband and I are quite tall and expecting a long baby that might outgrow newborn car seat, stroller and bassinet quickly

Are most people buying newborn strollers and newborn car seats and then upgrading after a few months? I don’t really want to have all this stuff lol

3 Comments
2024/12/01
15:49 UTC

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Where do I give Birth

This is going to be a very long and complicated story so I will apologize ahead of time. I’m currently 18 weeks pregnant with our rainbow baby. I got married this May, and immediately got pregnant, but within days of finding out about my pregnancy, I miscarried or in technical terms I had a chemical pregnancy. I got married in my home country of Uzbekistan. I was born there but moved to US at the age of 9 and am currently a US citizen; however, my husband is not. I knew when getting married that we wouldn’t be able to move to the US immediately since we’d need to get his documents ready and per our customs newlyweds live with their in laws 99% of the time and so I did. I knew what I was getting myself into and I knew the cultural expectation but what I didn’t expect was how much my MIL would hate me. To put it short in our culture the DIL when living with in laws is considered to cook and clean which I did and didn’t mind. When I lost my first pregnancy she acted like it never happened. Not once did she offer condolences but expected me to be jolly and back to work as usual. It’s fine since all the cooking and cleaning kept me too busy to think much of it but that did not stop episodes of just bawling at random times during the day. Anyway, fast forward 1.5 months later and I went almost a month with an untreated UTI and my husband forced me to go to the hospital. The doctor did all the workup and was very mad we didnt come in earlier because according to my test results I was days away from either going septic or having a kidney infection. Anyways this doctors visit took our entire day because she told me I needed to start treatment ASAP. So when we go back home at 7:30pm a huge fight ensues. MIL is pissed we went to the hospital instead of taking over the counter pills because according to her everyone gets UTI’s and they’re not that worrisome. She even says because I was at the hospital all day I didn’t cook for them. I was livid. This woman had no heart instead of asking if I was okay she was more concerned that I didn’t cook. Anyway, my husband and I decide I go to my parents house while i get my treatments since it required me to go to the hospital for 4hrs everyday for a week. After the treatment ends they run tests to see it worked and we find out we’re pregnant. At this point my only goal is the health of our baby so my husband and I decided I go back to the states since healthcare is far better and would’t have to hear my MIL yelling every time I go to the hospital. So here we are today I’ve been in the states since October but now my husband wants me to go back in January. I’m due in May and he wants be to give birth in Uzbekistan with him by my side which is something I want so much. However, given we’d be living with my MIL I’m not sure if that environment is suitable for a newborn. However, the thing that concerns me the most is the medical system back home. They pump everyone up on antibiotics bc they can be bought over the counter and kids there are always sick because they have no immune system since they’ve taken antibiotics from birth. I dont know how to go about this. On one hand I love my husband and want him to be there for the birth of our first child on the other hand my MIL and the medical system are horrendous. P.s my husband took my side during the fight but it made MIL more mad because apparently I’ve done something to my husband🤣. The reason we can’t live alone is because my husband does not have the heart to leave his mom by herself since my FIL is not there. This time however he says we will move out but I’m skeptical. Anyway what do I do.

Edit: I forgot to mention when my MIL had found out about my first pregnancy she told me “We don’t need you or the baby inside you”. That’s also another reason I don’t want to go back.

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2024/12/01
15:31 UTC

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Baby gender-my daughters

My childhood friend recently asked to come over to visit from out of town. She has a newborn and I recently had my second daughter. When she came she immediately greeted and started comments such as she's so cute, but I'd never want a daughter. I'm fine with peoples opinions, however she said this not once but 3 to 4 times in one day in front of one of my daughters who's about to be 2 1/2. I thought the first time was a slip but the fourth time I felt uncomfortable and was starting to wonder what was going on? Am I reading too much into it. I made a comment at one point saying my firstborn was hard and wish for my second to be easier. At that point she said "should of had a boy". I'm 3 weeks postpartum so I may be more sensitive. It's fine if people have opinions but really don't want that said in front of my daughter who's starting to understand things. Let me know if you've had similar experiences/why people say these things if I don't say them to their kids?

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2024/12/01
15:30 UTC

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“Hidden clues” Facebook post ideas?

My wife and I just found out she’s pregnant with our 3rd. We want to do a complete surprise without telling anyone besides 1 friend. She wants to drop subtle hints on Facebook via posts, pictures, etc. but without being too obvious.

Extra points if it involves family pics from NYC or Philly.

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2024/12/01
15:19 UTC

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Joint pains during pregnancy

Hello, I’m a new mom to be here looking for some advice. I’m in the second trimester and I’m struggling to get good sleep. I’m a back and stomach sleeper and I’ve seen that it’s not recommended to sleep in those positions. I’ve been sleeping on my sides and have been experiencing the worst arm, shoulder, neck, hip pain from both sides every night. Does anyone have any recommendations or ideas to relieve the stress on the joints? Anything will help.

Thanks

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2024/12/01
15:10 UTC

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Baby night schedule

FTM in 25wk pregnancy here.

How long (weeks or months) does it take your baby to adjust to full night sleeping schedule? Do they need to be changing diapers every few hours?

How long and how many times do you need to do night breast pumping? When do you start to have full night sleep?

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2024/12/01
14:57 UTC

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It’s baby month!!!

Happy baby month to my fellow December mamas!! I’m 34 weeks and was originally due in January, but am scheduled for a c-section at 36 weeks and I’m excited to have our little girl here for the holidays. Wishing you all safe deliveries and healthy babes!

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2024/12/01
12:52 UTC

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Sleeping

My baby is 6 days old and I’m definitely tired lol My husband and I take turns sleeping and my MIL gives us breaks so we can sleep for a few hours (so grateful for her) but my question is how did you all manage to sleep with a newborn? I’m a first time mom so I have horrible anxiety about sleeping when she sleeps. She’s an excellent napper so I think if I can get to that point of sleeping when she does it would be beneficial for us all. I’ve been suggested the owlet sock, my husbands company was going to purchase it for us but they haven’t yet so we may end up buying it on our own. Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

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2024/12/01
14:50 UTC

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Am I crazy?

I have never posted anything about my pregnancy in IG or FB . I am not one to share bits of my personal life anymore on social media. Only here and there something fun I’ll share. All the people we told in the second trimester was told through us, via phone call or text. I am sure word spreads like wildfire. My mom has told some of her acquaintances which I am not too fond of but whatever. My dad hasn’t told anyone lol he isn’t someone to share stuff with others like that. My MIL and FIL have told their respective friends and siblings. Some of which I really can’t control, I am sure they’re just happy. Well, one of the people we told was my MIL brother who is battling an illness and I’m very fond of him but he LOVES posting on fb. Well i posted a thanksgiving photo with my hubby and our dog (you couldn’t see past any of our shoulders) and captioned it “my babies” with a little turkey. And my MILs brother says “❤️ and the baby that we can’t see yet I pray he’s healthy and strong !” Of course I love and appreciate the sentiments but then it unchained a slew of other comments :”omg you’re pregnant. !??” -I replied to the people privately and told them I’m not keen on sharing bits like that on social media. And my mother; starts replying to all the questions on fb yes she’s pregnant she’s 24 weeks.

She and my dad are calling me extremist and weird and telling me my life will be ridden with issues if I continue like this..

Please tell me there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting my pregnancy to be private and wanting to decide with my husband whether we want to share stuff like that? He doesn’t even have any social media because he doesn’t like the concept of it, which I empathize with. I appreciate my MILs sentiments and so grateful for the love and support but people need to think before they post stuff like that that doesn’t belong to them. Furthermore my mom has complained about her BIL sharing private things about my brother before to the point that my dad had to have a conversation with him and now she’s doing the same with MY news. 🥺

Rant over.

7 Comments
2024/12/01
14:26 UTC

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Baby shower at 38weeks

I’m a FTM (26) and have no friends or family who’ve been pregnant for me to get any advice. So We’ve been thinking of dates for my baby shower and would love as much family as I can around as I’ve moved to a new country and don’t really have a lot of friends and my side of family. There’s only my husband’s family and I would like my MIL to be there but her dates for being here are when I’m 38weeks+. Do you think it’s a good idea to do a baby shower then and what the challenges I might face if done so late?

16 Comments
2024/12/01
14:16 UTC

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Baby monitors?

Hey mum and dads What’s a good baby monitor? I’m a FTM and on the hunt for one. CuboAi of tweety cam? Or any others?

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2024/12/01
13:55 UTC

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PP muscle spasms

hey guys, i was just wondering how people coped with postpartum muscle spasms, i’ve had it really bad in my pelvic region every time i use the bathroom, no matter what i’m doing

this only started once the epidural had fully worn off and it’s really affecting me, i’m 2 weeks postpartum and scared of using the bathroom because of the pain

i will be seeing a physio from 6 weeks onwards, so hopefully that will help, but is there anything i can do in the meantime?

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2024/12/01
13:49 UTC

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Glider or Recliner?

Hi, all! I'm trying to decide on our nursery chair today to take advantage of Black Friday sales. I'm torn between a standard swivel glider and a power recliner. This is my first baby, so I have no real sense of what I will like and how things will be.

If I do a regular glider, I would get one from SixPenny - I like the look, that there are removable slipcovers for washing/replacement, and my sister has a very comfy couch from them.

For recliners, I'm eyeing some from Oilo and Babyletto. I am clear from other reviews that if you are going to do a recliner, it's worth it to spend money on the powered ones. But I'm just genuinely torn about whether this is a function I would use and love or if I would use it as a rocker 95% of the time, so I should just stick with a glider?

Open to any and all feedback/experiences!

6 Comments
2024/12/01
13:30 UTC

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Vava monitor stand with Snoo

Has anyone found any stands that work with the Vava?

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2024/12/01
13:26 UTC

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Anyone else experience numbness in their hands AFTER giving birth?

It’s super weird. Even when im just laying down, my hands go numb. I can still move them just fine and nothing else is numb, but it feels like I always sat on my hands or something. Has this happened to anyone else?

7 Comments
2024/12/01
13:14 UTC

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Poop in undies ?

Woke up for my 3am pee to find soft poop in my underwear 😩 I’m So embarrassed. It wasn’t alot but I can’t believe I pooped In my sleep !?? I’m 35 weeks 5 days. Is this normal??

8 Comments
2024/12/01
13:08 UTC

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Anxiety while waiting for first prenatal appointment.

Happy Sunday my lovelies! I’m 7 w and 1 day. I found out at 4 w and 4 days.

I did 3 home tests and my PCP confirmed it in her office.

My first apt is on 12/11 and the wait is killing me. I’m so anxious not knowing if everything is going okay.

My symptoms so far:

  • sore boobies (for 3-4 weeks now)
  • nausea off and on through out the day

-occasional morning sickness -weird cravings and food aversions -I am exhausted all the time -minor cramping.

This is my first pregnancy. I’ve not experienced any bleeding, severe pain or anything like that.

How did you ease your mind while you waited for that first ultra sound?

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2024/12/01
13:04 UTC

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Can Working Night Shifts Affect Fertility

My husband and I have been trying to conceive since July of this year, but so far, we've had no luck. We are both in our early 30s, don't smoke, and rarely drink alcohol. I work the night shift, and I'm wondering if my night shift schedule could be affecting our chances of conceiving.

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2024/12/01
13:01 UTC

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Libido..strong

I’m not usually someone who craves intimacy at all, but these hormones are driving me insane. Hubby is working for days away and I can’t get my fix 🤭 Any one else suddenly desperate for hubbies touch?

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2024/12/01
12:51 UTC

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Going stir crazy! What do you DO all day when not working??

24 weeks, due in March.

Not working at the moment because my pregnancy happened shortly after my endometriosis surgery so I was already off work and now I’m looking at not returning to the work force for at least 12 months.

However right now I’m BORED! B. O. R. E. D. I’ve been reading so many books (obviously parenting and pregnancy and birth books and child development), so many podcasts and documentaries and everything else. But if I wake up at 7am, the day just drags.

When chores are done, what then?! Twiddle my thumbs? Stare at the wall? God, March is miles away!

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2024/12/01
12:47 UTC

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Where to place baby for tummy time during winter

I'm 36 weeks FTM (due 12/30) and live in Chicago. I wanted to put my baby on the floor for tummy time some time but am afraid that it's going to be too cold. We have hardwood floor at our place. I thought about buying a foldable mattress and put her on it for tummy time, but I'm not sure if it's safe and recommended. What do you guys for tummy time with babies who are born during cold winter? Thanks!

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2024/12/01
12:30 UTC

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Quick rant (how work)

How the actual F are we working right now? I want to throw a chair and people tell me their problems and I just stare at them because I do not care. Sciatica, nausea, pelvic pain, lack of sleep, I do not care about anything at work anymore. Praying for all my girlies working full time. Hang in there!

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2024/12/01
11:57 UTC

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Does anybody know what this is?

We got these pieces of a textile with snap fasteners in a box of worn our baby clothes from our distant relatives. We have no idea what it is.

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2024/12/01
11:37 UTC

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Introduction and Daily Picture Thread

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2024/12/01
11:01 UTC

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I feel useless around the house

My boyfriend does all the cleaning, cooking, he takes care of our dog and rabbit and all i do is sleep or vomit if i’m not at work. I feel so bad. I’m 8w 4 days today and I really hope i get some of my energy back soon.

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2024/12/01
10:06 UTC

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The nausea…

It started at the end of last week, when I was around 5 weeks 5 days pregnant. Sometimes, in waves, still very manageable. But since this week it’s all day, every day. I am unable to do anything at home, not even prep my own food.

My partner is taking very good care of me though, making trips to the grocery store whenever I ask for something I think might be edible for me, googling things that help, getting me b6 vitamins at 9 in the evening..

But this is so unbelievably frustrating, to feel sick all day. It’s napping/eating/drinking during the weekend. Yesterday I went down for a nap, woke up with an empty stomach and just from going down the stairs I was dry heaving/gagging for 5 minutes. And then you have to eat to feel better! It’s so bizarre.

We haven’t announced the news yet and are planning to do so around week 9 during our wedding. If this keeps going like this I don’t think I will be able to keep it for that long from my mom.

Just trying to survive the weekend for now and see if I can get a prescription from the doctor on Monday, because I don’t know how to keep functioning while feeling nauseous and gagging all day. Fingers crossed that that will help me feel better and help me be able to eat.

At least I feel pregnant now, I couldn’t really wrap my head around it in week 4 but with these symptoms it feels VERY real.

Also very grateful, yada yada, we want this…. but this part sucks man!

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2024/12/01
09:56 UTC

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So mad rn

Today, FIL was arguing w me a bunch about the car seat fit (I was saying she was too loose in it bc the straps didn’t pass pinch test and the chest clip was too low) and he was saying she (5 wk old baby girl) was too tight and loosened/ positioned the straps as he saw fit and before I knew it he said “see, she won’t come out in an accident” and put the car seat at a vertical angle and HER HEAD/ NECK FULLY SWUNG FORWARD to my horror then he put the seat back to its normal position. I am absolutely shocked. I have a background in neuroscience (currently finishing a neuro psych degree) and am so scared that he injured her. I know how serious that forwards/backwards mechanism can be for babies. We had a pediatrician appt right after and Dr said what happened wasn’t good at all (I didn’t explain the context, just that he was trying to install her and she tipped forwards/ backwards after) but she seems fine so don’t rush to ER unless symptoms show up (no x-rays, MRI’s or CT’s were performed though) since she’s eating normally, acting normal, reflexes are fine, etc. I didn’t rush her to the ER bc I really don’t want her exposed to illnesses, MRSA, etc with her immature immune system but absolutely plan on doing so if any even possibly abnormal symptoms show up. I’ve literally been testing her reflexes all day and monitoring her super closely, luckily 16 hours later she is acting normal which is reassuring.

I just am SO mad. I can’t believe anyone with common sense would TIP a newborn with no head control forward to prove a point, regardless of whether or not they are super educated in the risks of that. I am furious for the sake of my baby girl and thank goodness she is okay but I am SO mad about what could have happened to her. I also am mad at myself for not predicting this/ protecting her better in the moment before it happened. I’m just so upset and honestly just want to cut off contact, which isn’t really an option unfortunately.

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2024/12/01
09:55 UTC

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Can I still get pregnant?

Hi all, I wanted to ask can I still get pregnant even though we used a condom and I also took a plan B even though I bled after taking it? I have been exclusively breastfeeding my little one who is four months old. I still haven’t had period after I took the plan b and have been feeling dizzy and nauseous. I also took a home pregnancy test two weeks ago but it turned out to be negative. I’ve been stressed due to this because after taking plan B (no sex after this day due to bleeding ) I went back to my home country so that my family helps me with my kids and my husband is working abroad, but now these look like pregnancy symptoms and I’m really scared I have a 2 year old and a 4 month old and if I do get pregnant I will cry 😓

8 Comments
2024/12/01
09:02 UTC

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