After two losses a few years ago we took a break to just rest. And 6 months ago we decided to try again. And yesterday we heard our first heart beat of any pregnancy. Although the heart beat was completely normal at 122. The gestational sac was small. Baby is taking up a good 2 thirds of it. Given its measuring 6w 4days which we thought would be closer to 7. I’m just concerned about losing another. OB put wife on progesterone to help. Has anyone been through this?

Our little guy is going to show up three weeks early (scheduled delivery tomorrow). I’d planned to have him circumcised. What is the usual wait time for a preemie to get circumcised? Also, wondering if maybe we should skip it now but still leaning towards getting it done. I’ve been on reddit long enough to use a throwaway for this topic, but wanted some feedback and insight from others. This has been a useful forum for me. Thx guys.

Getting close to the 2nd trimester. Was dreading this visit because we had a loss around this time last time(stopped growing after 5 weeks and we had no idea for like 6 weeks). But everything is good. Heartbeat. Got to hear it. I think it's a girl!

Hi everyone 👋 we’re getting ready for our first little one after just passing the 18 week mark.

I’m looking at what my company offers for paternity leave (12 weeks 100% base salary) and understanding how I can take advantage of FMLA at the same time. I’ve survived several layoffs at this point and just want to make sure our family is taken care of. Has anyone else been navigating or navigated this part of prefatherhood yet? Would love any advice

Scared shitless, but I've never been this excited! Wish me and the missus luck my fellow pre-dadders!

i dont know what to expect, but i feel i am ready and excited, wish me luck, and any tips/pointers on how to navigate this successfully, Thank you 😊

I already do home calisthenics workouts but I’ve been missing the weights.

My wife just went for her first ultrasound at 8 weeks…

The nurse practitioner confirmed viability via phone today but upgraded us to high risk because she has two sacs: one developing and one that is empty. She wouldn’t answer any questions over the phone…

Has anyone experienced this, what should I expect, how anxious should i be (I would be anyway- agoraphobia is fun lol)?

First post here, I’m sure I’ll be in here again over the next 30 weeks

Hey guys my Wife is 9 weeks pregnant. She has been having really bad aching in her right arm. Then it will stop there and start hurting in her left leg. I’ve been rubbing on Icy Hot for her and that seems to help for a little bit. I know the first trimester is really hard and her body is going through a lot of changes and working double time. Unfortunately all she can take is regular dosage Tylenol. We can’t see the Doctor till next month. Any advice on what I can do to help her get through it?

Glad I found this subreddit. A lot of standard pregnancy groups are very anti-men. We're not all bad! New here and currently 8 weeks have a 9 week scan next week and quite nervous.

So Saturday I graduated to Girl dad at 11:14am she is 9 weeks early and is a micro premie.

Wife was complaining of some pain on the top of her stomach and had some high blood pressure, classic symptoms of preeclampsia. So off to the 24/7 birthing center to get checked out, labs show her liver enzymes where super high and her platelets where crashing below 100 so off to the hospital for more testing.

Guys, I can’t tell you how terrifying it is to hear a doctor say if we don’t deliver this baby both mom and baby will not make it.

She was born via c-section at 11:14 weighing in at a whopping 1 pound 11 ounces, measuring 13 and 3/4 inch long

They prepared us for the worse before delivery with every scenario that could happen due to her being the size of 27 weeks at 30 weeks and four days.

Good news tho, she came In to this world fully breathing on her own with little help of O2 and is eating up a storm! Sure she will be in the NICU for a while but she’s doing so good!

Yesterday we had our first OB appointment! Little later than we’d planned but our doctor is busy! Just wanted to post here since we’re not announcing it until we know the gender!

Did a TV ultrasound, baby’s heart rate was 174! I love this little olive so much it’s crazy. Just seeing the little arms and legs almost made me cry. This is such an exciting time for us and I’m sure all of my fellow pre dads!

How are yall handling the gender stuff?? At first I was dead set on having a boy, (it’s our first so I don’t actually care as long as baby is healthy!) but now my heart flutters a bit when I think of having a baby girl! My wife’s pre-mom Facebook page does some wild research and have all their theory’s and everyone has said girl. Just wanna know if any dads out here know much about it or not.

Thanks for coming to my post! Just had to get out what’s been on my brain for the last couple of days!

Hey all. My wife is 6 weeks pregnant with a very desired pregnancy. This is our first baby. Everything seems to be going fine so far, but I am having a hard time relaxing because I am hyperaware of the risk of miscarriage. I am not normally an anxious guy, but this is seriously distracting me from my work and stuff. It feels like all I can think about is the baby and if they’re okay.

I think part of the problem is that we haven’t told anyone yet, and I obviously want to insulate my wife from my worrying, so I don’t have anywhere to “put” my anxiety and instead just spin my wheels and read stories online.

Does anyone have advice? I know about the miscarriage odds reassurer (and it is great).

Anyone’s wife have this? How was your collective experience?

My wife has been admitted into hospital (UK) with Hyperemesis Gravidarum. Is there anyone out there who have supported their partners with this? Would appreciate any tips or advice on ways I can love her well. Thank you

im a trans man and i want 2 kids. i want to be the only parent and then maybe find a partner, but i dont want them to have any legal rights to my children. my dad made my life hell with custody fights.

i want to adopt 1 because i feel bad for children without a suitable parent. i wont lie to them so they will know they're adopted.

and i want to have 1 biological child, i do want a surrogate but that is illegal in my country, does anyone know what i should do?

my main question is what should i do first. should i have a bio kid first or an adoptive kid first. i dont want the adopted child to feel like im replacing them, but i dont wand to go through all the bs about surrogacy.

i really want to adopt first, how do i have a bio kid after without making them sad?

My wife is 21 weeks pregnant and we just found out she has velamentous cord insertion.

For context, Velamentous cord insertion is a condition during pregnancy where the umbilical cord attaches to the membranes surrounding the placenta instead of directly to the placenta itself. This causes the blood vessels to travel unprotected through the membranes, increasing the risk of vessel rupture, vasa previa, placental abruption, and complications during delivery.

I’m freaking out, she’s freaking out, and I don’t know how I’m supposed to keep her calm about it while I’m internally freaking out about it.

She can no longer carry 5-10 pounds, yet we have a 2 year old who is way more than 30 pounds. I work week days, so how are we supposed to do this? I have a huge multimillion project at work that is relying on my work, and working from home is extremely difficult. Granted I’m fortunate enough to be able to work from home. My wife’s health and our baby are way more important than work, but I also risk getting fired and then the ability to support my family.

Any advice? Sympathy? Anyone have similar experience?

Hi gang,

My wonderful wife and I are expecting our first within about a month, so things are starting to get very real. As we get closer to meeting our little man, we've been doing the nesting thing together and getting everything ready, but I feel like we've started to diverge with our individual approaches.

Personally, I feel very comfortable with our level of preparation and I've been trying to get the house organized and keep it in order. (Not to say my wife hasn't been organizing as well, she's been doing a lot as well) My wife, on the other hand, has definitely fallen prey to the social media FOMO about not being ready which is majorly stressing her out. In response, she feels like she has to be constantly buying stuff to get ready. Almost every day this past couple weeks we've had one (or multiple) Amazon packages show up to the house with all kinds of different stuff. With the amount of creams and balms and lotions we have now, this will be the slipperiest kid on planet earth.

I've tried to gently reinforce the fact that stores will, in fact, still be open after the baby is born and we don't have to buy literally every last thing right this moment, but I also haven't pushed back much because I know this makes her feel more comfortable. Thankfully we are in a good financial position so that really isn't an issue, but it is starting to bug me because I feel like a good 50% of the stuff that we are buying won't ever get used or will be used once. I'm not trying to be a jerk, but it is also starting to stress me out because each delivery means something else I have to find a space for.

Have you all run into something similar and how did you handle it? Should I just keep my trap shut? Thanks!

Wife and I kept joking about having our daughter a week early this weekend.

Well, here we are. Wish us luck!

It's our first pregnancy, and we're at the tail end of second trimester. Ever since about middle of first trimester, my wife has been facing constant anxiety and all day morning sickness.

I think the symptoms are exaerbating each other to the point where she rarely has a good day. Good days are followed by bad nights when she can have panic attacks just about anything.

She was physically very healthy and mentally strong person before pregnancy, but both of us has been worn down and feeling defeated.

Her doctor thinks this is normal. Is this normal?

We just found out last night and got into the obgyn today and confirmed it! My wife is 5 weeks along! She’s 26, next month I’ll be 29, this is our first, and we’ve wanted a baby for a few years now. My wife is stressed (understandably so) I am on cloud 9 and am so ready to be there for all of it. Any advice you guys have to offer would be greatly appreciated and put to good use!

Any one else notice all the movie cliches really happen? Like you start noticing way more kids than before, you wanna scream “I’m gunna be a dad” from the rooftops, and a switch flips and you go right into daddy mode. It’s so neat.

I get that the focus is and should be on my wife. At the same time, when I ask a question, and then the doctor turns to my wife and answers as though she were the one who asked the question, it bothers me just a bit. (I've also only had one doctor out of the half-a-dozen we've seen explicitly ask me if I have any questions.) Considering that I am the father of my two girls, even though they are in my wife's belly, I appreciate it when they treat the visit more like I expect a pediatrician will. My wife and I are the parents, so please talk to both of us?

Anyway, that's the end of my rant. It's not a big deal, but I thought I'd share and see if anyone has experienced something similar or if their experience was very different.

just wanting any nuggets of wisdom you’d like to share

i feel like nothing else in life really matters except that i ensure that my daughter grows up feeling loved and is happy, i feel a sense of complete devotion which i assume is normal

please share your wisdom!

The Mrs and I have agreed to save money this year with the baby due soon, that we wouldn't buy any presents for each other, but we would each spend up to £50 on a gift for the baby. Something that we don't need but we think the other parent might enjoy. We're both big nerds, but aside from a babygrow that makes them look like they're going to Hogwarts, I'm stumped.

Our first baby is due in March. My in-laws are asking me what I want for Christmas, and I’m honestly stumped.

I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions for, not necessarily baby items, but things that they either found really useful or good to have as a new parent - or something they wish they had. Doesn’t necessarily have to be an item, could be anything.

If it helps, I’ll also be taking 6 months parental leave.

Bit of a vague question I know, but worth a shot!

Hi everyone, as the title says first time dad, we were planning, the twins part is unexpected. But asking for advice as she 12 weeks in. Looking for advice, either books, podcast, audiobook, and/or just tips on how to be helpful during her pregnancy, how to prepare for her, the kids, even the house. And also financials, like planning or budgeting tips you guys had to adjust. Just want to be as prepared as I can

I just found this sub and truthfully I don’t exactly know why I’m posting except maybe to vent or get all of this out.

This is our first pregnancy. We found out a couple weeks ago. She’s currently almost 7 weeks and tbh I’m pretty stressed about it. During the day it’s fine. I run through what I imagine are general concerns like “Will I make a good father?,” “can I meet this challenge with grace?” and “will i be the best partner I can be?” And I conclude that I can never be fully ready but I always show up ready to do what needs to be done. At night is another story. After she goes to bed I’m up late worrying. It’s affecting my sleep. I can’t stop projecting into the future with various anxieties and I keep waking up “out of breath.”

Every day I clean the house, get groceries and snacks that my wife needs to stave off the morning sickness, make sure that when she gets off work there’s nothing to be done except relax. And i don’t verbalize my anxieties. I’m not sure that’s a good thing but honestly it’s fine. I don’t want to plant fears in her head or make this about me in any way. My wife is my best friend and we get on incredibly well. We always have. I’m extremely lucky, but afraid that our dynamic could change.

And on the upside I feel a sense of purpose again. For reference I’ve been depressed for years now, or something like depressed (let’s say “treading water”) but the cloud has lifted for now.

I’m not sure what I need to know. Or how I can prepare mentally and spiritually for this. I keep reading stuff online (I know I shouldn’t) about miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies and the trauma of childbirth. I don’t want my wife to go through this. She’s incredibly resilient but I’m afraid I never considered how intense this experience is going to be. And because we’re just shy of the ultrasound, we have to live in a kind of limbo of not knowing if our baby is healthy. It dawned on me a few days ago that this is just the first worry of an endless stream.

I really hope Im ready for this. I hope my wife is healthy, and everything goes okay. I’m worried for her and, selfishly, I picture myself in the delivery room with her, feeling helpless, while a host of potential tragedies befalls us.

Hi all, sorry I’m sure this is a common question but we’re due in June and I want to get my wife some leggings for Christmas, PJs as part of my anniversary gift, and then a matching set of mom and baby PJs as part of her push present. I am totally lost with maternity clothing sizing. I’ve seen online that maternity stuff is mostly TTS, but literally half of her pajamas and casual/lounge wear is Small and half is Medium.

What do you guys think? Should I just ask her? I kinda want them to be a “surprise” but I also want to get it right. She doesn’t really care about surprises so I could ask but I was curious about input here. Also, is there a considerate way to broach clothing size questions with a first time mom adjusting to her (imo sexy) new body?

Thanks!

My wife is 10.5 weeks pregnant. By noon everyday she looks (not exaggerating) 25-30 weeks pregnant. She’s not eating crazy amounts of food or anything like that.

Did anyone experience anything similar?