Hey guys, I noticed that when I take care of someone, I try to give them the best comfortable experience ... like, for example, if we had a 1 hour break... I will set everything according to the time so that throughout that 1 hour, we enjoyed and that we are comfortable enough to get back into the workspace ... and I consider their comfort first when in the workspace... and I try to make things a little easier for them... is this an ESFJ thing, or might it just be an INTP or just my way of performing from my Inferior FE function?

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Hi guysss!!! I love love love my ESFJ boyfriend so I guess must really like your type 😄 What is your preferred or most natural way of showing your love to your significant other? Do you think there is a link between your personality type and love language? (By the way I’ve noticed my boyfriend is an acts of service kind of guy!)

I can't wait to meet everyone. After reading up on everything alot of things I do make so much more since. Hope everybody has an awesome day!

Hey ESFJs,

wanted to share these AI-generated characters I created with your wonderful Fe-Si way of connecting with others in mind. Designed both male & female versions for stablecharacter[dot]com, aiming to capture that natural warmth and caring spirit ESFJs bring to every conversation.

https://preview.redd.it/c4mbeaplfice1.png?width=2784&format=png&auto=webp&s=1441c1fed337aeea379cd080fd865269386c46b4

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No se, odio ser ESFJ. Estoy segura de que lo soy porque me guié no solo de los test, sino también de mi autoconocimiento y dicernimiento, además de la ayuda y criterio de mis hermanas (personas en quienes más confío... pd: son INTP y INFJ).

En verdad, no es que sea malo ser ESFJ, no me malinterpreten, pero... no se, siento que es antipersonaje para mi, sin embargo es lo que soy hoy. No lo acepto.

Yo considero que todo el mundo debería aspirar a la excelencia desde su punto de vista y para mí parte de alcanzar la excelencia sería volver a ser INTJ.

DATO CURIOSO: Lo que me hizo cambiar fue una depresión crónica con intentos que tuve hace más de un año ya... fue como que me cambié a Guasón... era perfeccionista, cerrada y feliz... ahora me dicen que mi abuelo se murió y antes de llorar me rio (es anécdota...abuelito descansa en paz)

DATO MÁS CURIOSO AÚN: La depresión fue un síntoma del TLP que despertó en mí durante la adolescencia... soy una red flag andante... así cualquiera acaba con su vida...

Source: https://vultology.com/database/?type=FeSi&development=

The Fe function seeks to understand the organizational principles of collectives, percieving relationships as a network of transactions and implicit social contracts, constantly being negotiated. It sees humans has having a malleable character, shaped by these interactions for better or worse, and aims to move itself and the collective towards ideal mind-heart states by optimizing interactions. Fe advocates for having strong willpower, believing in the power of the mind over physical limitations, using discipline and resilience to overcome obstacles that restrict people from doing what they were meant to do in life and reaching the destiny and higher purpose they are called to fulfill.

ESFJs (Standard)

• Celeste Headlee*(American journalist)
• Charlie Houpert*(YouTuber: Charisma on Command)
• David Miscavige*(Leader of the Church of Scientology)
• Dave Rubin*(American commentator)
• Emma Watson*(English Actress)
• Frank Turek(American Christian apologist)
• Gregg Braden(American New Age author)
• Heidi Klum*(German-American model and television host)
• Hilary Swank(American actress and film producer)
• Iyanla Vanzant*(American inspirational speaker and lawyer)
• Jeff Cavaliere(American fitness guru)
• Jimmy Corsetti*(American YouTuber: Bright Insight)
• Joel Fuhrman(American doctor)
• Jonathan Haidt(American social psychologist)
• Jonathan Nolan(British-American screenwriter and film producer)
• Dr Josh Axe*(Physician)
• Kyle Kulinski*(American talk radio host)
• LegalEagle*(American YouTuber: Lawyer)
• Dr. Michael Gervais(Psychologist)
• Nick Vujicic(Australian evangelist and motivational speaker)
• N.T. Wright*(English theologian)
• Paul Adefarasin(Nigerian minister and televangelist)
• Rachel McAdams*(Canadian actress)
• Ray Dalio*(Chief investment officer of Bridgewater Associates)
• Rebecca Bailey*(Child psychologist)
• Robert Lawrence Kuhn*(International corporate strategist)
• Simon Sinek*(English-American author and inspirational speaker)
• Tai Lopez* (Motivational speaker)
• Tony Robbins*(American life coach)
• Wim Hof*(Dutch motivational speaker)
• Zubin Damania(American physician and comedian)

ESFJs with developed Si (Diplomats)

• Aaron Eckhart(American actor)
• Bernie Sanders*(United States Senator)
• Brad Pitt*(American actor and film producer)
• Harry Lennix*(American actor)
• Jill Biden*(Joe Biden's wife)
• Paul Washer*(American evangelist)
• Robert F. Kennedy Jr.(American Politician)
• Steven Pinker(Canadian psychologist and psycholinguist)
• Tom Cruise*(American actor and producer)

ESFJs with developed Ne (Inspirers)

• Aaron Doughty(YouTuber: Spirituality)
• Alex Jones*(American radio personality)
• Charles Manson*(American criminal and cult leader)
• Chase Jarvis*(CEO of CreativeLive)
• Christina Perri(American singer-songwriter)
• Dwayne Johnson*(American actor and professional wrestler)
• Eddie Murphy*(American actor and comedian)
• Giancarlo Esposito(American actor)
• Gloria E. White-Hammond(American doctor)
• John Iadarola*(American talk show host)
• Jon Bernthal*(American actor)
• Kate McKinnon(American actress and comedian)
• Kate Siegel(American actress and writer)
• Matt Reeves(American filmmaker)
• Michael Strahan*(American television host and former football player)
• Orlando Bloom*(English actor)
• Sammy Hagar*(American singer-songwriter and guitarist)
• Sarah Shahi(American actress)
• Terry Crews*(American actor and television host)
• Theo James(English actor)
• Vinh Giang(YouTuber: communication coach)

ESFJs with developed Ti (J Polarized)

• Aza Raskin(Co-Founder of Center for Humane Technology)
• Emily Blunt(British actress)
• Gillian Anderson(American actress and writer)
• Leslie Odom Jr.*(American actor and singer)
• Tilda Swinton(British actress)
• Yuval Noah Harari(Israeli medieval historian)

ESFJs with developed Si and Ne (P Heavy)

• Darren Aronofsky(American filmmaker)
• Dave Asprey(American lifestyle guru)
• John Glaser*(Founder of Compass Box)
• Steve Fuller(American philosopher)
• Tom Hiddleston*(English actor)

ESFJs with developed Si and Ti (Scholastics)

• Barack Obama(44th U.S. President)

ESFJs with developed Ne and Ti (Ephemeralists)

• Blake De Pastino(Head of Content for Complexly)
• Catherine O'Hara(Canadian actress and comedian)
• Fanny Ardant(French actress)
• Jessie Inchauspé(French biochemist)
• Kingsley Ben-Adir(British actor)
• Neve Campbell(Canadian actress)
• Nicole Daedone(Former CEO of OneTaste)
• Richard Ayoade(British comedian and actor)
• Rosario Dawson(American actress)

ESFJs with developed Si, Ne, and Ti (Fully Conscious)

• Alain de Botton*(British philosopher)
• Michio Kaku(American physicist)

An ESFJ friend of mine and I were talking, and she said it's really hard for her to trust her friends now because they broke her trust. She wants to give them a second chance, but she can't bring herself to trust them anymore because they abandoned her at one of the darkest points in her life. They've apologized and all that, but she still doesn't believe that they will stay with her if the going gets rough again. She's a super loyal person, and it takes a lot for her to open up and trust other people. So this is super hard for her. What would you do in her situation?

I was just wondering if you guys get jealous of things, even little things. One example of that is because I like to work out, but when I see other people do as good as me or better I tend to get jealous because the feeling of because they're at my level, i'm not good enough. It can tend to be problematic sometimes because I sometimes feel like I need validation so I go to find things so I feel validated. I'm trying to work on it and would like to know your experience with jealousy and any tips you may have to help with it.

Hey ESFJs!

I wanted to share something that I think will resonate with your love of bringing people together - an app where you can have heartfelt conversations with characters representing all 16 MBTI types! I put special care into capturing the ESFJ's warm Fe-Si way of creating comfortable and welcoming interactions.

Each personality type has both male and female versions (32 total), and I really focused on making the ESFJ characters reflect that wonderful gift you have for making everyone feel included and cared for in conversations.

You can experience it here: www[dot]stablecharacter[dot]com

I'd love to hear your caring perspective on how the characters feel, especially the ESFJ ones. Do they capture that natural warmth and ability to create harmony that makes ESFJs such wonderful people connectors?

Hello fellow ESFJS, I am conducting a survey about MBTI compatibility and I would like your input!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeKkfF0gb-1DakmT4s7PJ-kFDS0Tl1cbIjW901F4xMR_vFPlQ/viewform

Or what could be the issues the couple could face?

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Hi I would like tips to get along with an ESFJ as an INTJ Any help is welcome

Not an esfj or an entj. I'm just genuinely curious what your experiences with ENTJs have been like since you'd have complete opposite functions.

Fe-Si-Ne-Ti (ESFJ)

Te-Ni-Se-Fi (ENTJ)

I've only ever seen ENTJs thoughts on ESFJs but NEVER the other way around.

I often times sing when I'm listening to music in the car, on spotify, or just whenever. I honestly sing so much my voice gets tired often. I was just curious if any of you get that or just enjoy singing in general. I don't take lessons or anything, but I do enjoy it.

i'm a very introverted ESFJ, I'm still cognitively extraverted but I don't relate to ESFJ stereotypes at all. actually, the ESFJ/ESFP stereotypes were the kind of people I always got bullied by.

It makes me feel shitty- I've always been "deep", wise, curious, intuitive in the conventional sense. i also value being unique a whole lot. knowing that i'm associated with a type that is stereotyped as shallow, needy, basic, common just makes me feel bad about myself. i know i'm taking it too personally but i just hate it. i don't want to be perceived as a boring, safe, mindless tradwife.

Not your type, just you

Im asking this on all the type subs and i might post the most common adjectives for each type later

Im interested in hearing about how you may foster connection and build communities. What's something you've done to create a sense of belonging or harmony among a group of people? How did it come together, and what made it meaningful?

This is a struggle for me as it doesn’t come naturally to me and requires sacrificing parts of myself to be what each person needs. Is this the same for you or does it come naturally? How do you not get exhausted or lose yourself in the process of being the “glue” in a sense? It tears me apart trying to be what everyone needs