Reddit, this is my first post.

I don't think I am fully addicted to alcohol but, when I do drink the once or twice a month it is ridiculously hard to stop. The you can try your best but you can never leave really applies here. Not sure what to do. I'm young 28yr old male. Struggle to deal with the side effects of alcohol. I feel like alcohol.akes.me smarter and more on point. But it leaves me depressed... Literally not sure what to do.

… so I’ve got cravings and I miss the drink after being 18 months sober.

I quit to be healthy and due to me having a problem. Life was good all over. But lately I miss the drink, the socialising around it. Fuck.

Then mind starts pondering “hey, maybe moderate drinking is something you can actually finally do” … Or “just drink once when you see your buddies, and then not for the next year”.

Yes, when I’ve tried it in the past I did go back to a year one year binge.

I assume because my career hit a speed bump it ain’t helping or because I drank some medicine which contains alcohol triggered it again. Not sure. Just reaching out for help. Or the harsh reality and and and…

I’ve been together with my husband 10yrs, married 2yrs. I knew he loved to drink from the beginning. I didn’t know he was an alcoholic until after he moved in when I became pregnant. At the time we both our kids to previous relationships were 5yrs old. They are 15 now he has a girl who lives with her mum. I have a son living with us and we have a 8yr old daughter together.

Currently he drinks 2 bottles of wine a night. If someone gives him a bottle of spirits vodka rum whatever he’ll drink 3/4 of the bottle in one sitting. He doesn’t think he has a problem as in his words ‘I need it to sleep’. Also I think because he is a functioning alcoholic, he works he contributes to the family. He cooks occasionally, does washing, dishes etc. He drinks at home. I’ve stopped his friends coming over for drink ups, kicked them out of the house saying this is a family home not a place to drink/party. So I think he thinks well what’s my problem. Problem is his mood the next day. He’s flat, grumpy, irritated at everything. Irritated at the kids, dog any noise..f ing everything! Until he starts drinking again. He’s boring. He just watches tv Netflix prime apple whatever. Drinks. And goes to work. Doesn’t want for anything. If we go on holiday it’s cause I booked it, saved for it. Came up with the idea. I feel like I’m dragging a heavy weight as in him all the time. With little times of real happiness.

I have tried many many attempts talks of different angles. It’s bad for your health, your wrecking your liver. Look at your dad he drank he now has dementia. The kids are older they see the effects of alcohol. My son doesn’t respect him. They almost had a fight when he was drunk and I was arguing with him my son came downstairs ready to deck him. Asked him to please seek help go to the GP, do councilling etc. Deal with your stress, anxiety don’t just try drink it away. No he’s never tried to seek help ever. Not in the ten years we have been together and not for 22yrs before meeting me. He told me he first started drinking at 15 he’s now 47.

So because we’re married and kids are involved. I’ll give one last shot of asking him to get help - have been told from someone who’s been sober 11yrs only AA worked. I’ll attend Alanon and hopefully he’ll go to AA. Giving it one more year. Then me and the kids are out. Would love to hear from those who left. Or those whose partners sought help and life has changed. Anyone for there experience. Thank you for sharing in advance 🙏🏼

I’ve been drinking 5-7 days a week for nearly 5 years. Every once in a while I will take a break for a week or two. Just before my last bender that lasted just over a month I went 3 weeks without alcohol. I’m now 5 days sober and while I’ve been getting a bit more sleep I still feel very off and unsettled. I don’t want to relapse because I want to be done for good this time but everything feels so strange and odd at the 5 day mark. Will this wear off? If so when?

He died and since then I can’t live without alcohol. I tried to taper off but I realized I don’t wanna keep going without it, so what. I’m just posting to vent really. I don’t want advice since I don’t wanna get sober or go to a clinic anyway. Fuck. I cant live without him, or alcohol, consistently in my life. One or the other.

Idk if I’m an alcoholic i go to bar at night across from me have a few white claws. By a doctor standard i am an alcoholic. But there’s 18 year olds in liver failure? Blood work is always fine. Have i just been lucky genetically. I probably have some form of autism but like. I’m not waking up shaking every morning going to a liquor store. How much you have to be drinking? Like i remember stories from people getting their stomach pumped in college. I’ve never been that drunk

I am currently a 5th year student at a quite reputable university. I should have graduated in four years but the reason I didn't is because I am an alcoholic. I began drinking a lot my sophomore year of college (2021-2022) and during summer break 2022 I missed that feeling of drinking so I kept doing it by myself. It started off with two mikes harders from the gas station cooler but when that wasnt doing the job anymore I switched to liquor. Since Aug/September 2023 I have been drinking close to a pint of vodka a day and even though I tell myself I'll stop the next day I always find myself making excuses to drink. I just want to figure out how you deal with these cravings. I used to be a great student but now I just feel like a complete loser watching all my friends who I should have graduated with start working across the country and it makes me feel like shit. Sorry for the long post but just looking for any advice

I'm not going to drink tomorrow, and I'm going to try to stay sober for as long as I can The first few days are extremely hard for me. Would anyone be willing to message me here and there for the next day or two? I just need motivation. I only have 1 friend and he's in the same boat as me. I'm just extremely lonely and want to talk to someone who's been through this too that can maybe be here for me for a little. I'm also going to look for zoom AA meetings tomorrow as well.

Looking to start making mocktails, but all of mine just taste like juice! I’m looking for something that hits your throat the same way a strong cocktail does.

Curious if you guys have any good recipes I could try? My alcoholic drinks of choice were always wine, rum and coke, or fruity drinks (not a huge fan of citrus or seltzers, though).

Alternatively, are there any ingredients I could add to my current recipes that would imitate the taste/feel of alcohol? Or maybe a specific brand of NA drinks I could try?

Let me know what you guys think!

Hi guys. For a while now. Since about the end of November I’ve been drinking about a bottle of Jim beams on the weekends. Sometimes it’s 2 bottles or just 2 pints. And I usually drink on Friday and then Sunday. Recently life isn’t good and it’s very hard to go to sleep sober even before I started drinking a lot. Today is Friday but I’m not drinking at all Atleast until next Friday, cuz I’m going to get my optic nerves checked cuz I’ve been having eye issues for awhile. I don’t necessarily want to just quit but I’m just wondering on people thoughts and if I should cut back a bit. Also I haven’t drank since 1-24-25.

my mother is basically telling me that I’m an alcoholic. This is because I fell into a bad cycle of drinking daily for about a month. I knew what I was doing wasn’t good for me—I wasn’t drinking because I had to; I chose to. The reason I continued was that after the first few days, when I woke up sober, I felt extremely depressed. Eventually, I realized that drinking daily wasn’t in my best interest, so I stopped. I felt really depressed for about a week, but then it passed.

That month of drinking led my mom to tell me that I needed to go to rehab or she would section me. She also kicked me out of the house. So, my options were either being homeless, doing a 28-day program, or, if I got sectioned, ending up in a 90-day program. I couldn’t afford to move out, so I just sucked it up and went to rehab.

The whole time I was there, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I didn’t belong. Almost everyone else was there for hard drugs or had been drinking daily for years. Many had been in and out of jail or rehab multiple times. I had to sit through groups where I couldn’t relate to anything people were sharing. Since I was in rehab for drinking, I had to go to AA meetings, and I couldn’t stand them. But I stuck it out because my mom made it clear that if I didn’t complete the program, I couldn’t live at home.

I met some cool people and at least enjoyed the fact that I was basically getting a paid month off work. But I thought that after rehab, all this recovery stuff would be over. I was wrong. My mom informed my clinician that there would be “expectations” if I wanted to live at home, and I would have to do “aftercare.” Now I’m being forced into a PHP (partial hospitalization program), sitting through the same groups, and going to three AA meetings a week with my uncle.

I’m also being told that I’m “powerless” over my addiction—which I don’t even truly believe I have. My uncle was a heavy alcoholic, abused pills, and literally almost died once before getting Narcan’d. I understand why he needs AA, but now he and my mom are telling me I can never drink again. None of this feels real to me. It feels like this idea of me being an alcoholic is being forced on me, and it’s driving me crazy. I’m really starting to resent my mom.

I’m not trying to bash rehab, AA, or sobriety—I know they help a lot of people. But I don’t think I have a problem, and it’s frustrating to be forced into all of this because I drank heavily for one month in my entire life.

Sorry this post is so long—I just don’t know what else to do,

So I ended up starting with two buzz balls then next thing I know I’ve had 4 in the span of an hour apparently (after this I went completely black out) I then proceeded to eat the rest of my mushrooms so about 5g and down half a bottle of .5mg K-pin (benzo) I had 60 in the bottle next day maybe half that was left if that.

So here’s where the story begins about 3 hours later, I “come to” smashing my face inside a cop cruiser (hit the “metal cage rod” with my upper nose that woke me up for a second lol) and managed to slip my cuffs, then everything goes black again, i was brought to hospital to see if I could be medically discharged to go into protective custody, I in fact was not, with a 160/90 bp apparently and talking about how worms were inside me as well,

They drug tested me but because k-pins don’t come back positive for most benzos along with a couple other kinds of benzo, because they become a different compound from what they are testing for after metabolizing, so they hit me with 200mg ketamine and i believe it was about 2mg lorazepam possibly 2.5mg, as far as I know this was after I was four point harness restrained and had IV’s in me

skip to 5 am: I ended up peeing in the hospital bed at some point while still black out (THEY WAKE ME UP FOR PEEING AFTER I FOUGHT FOR 3 HOURS STRAIGHT) , so while being four point restrained for trying to be violent with nurses and threatening them apparently (it’s happened before, this ain’t my first rodeo) so I believe what they said lol, but regardless, I either had a blanket on me, or my dick was just straight hanging in the wind because they wouldn’t put new pants on me since I still was restrained/ still kicking and slamming my head on the bed but I don’t even like taking my dick out around my GF’s when full flaccid, so that ended up making me even more mad cuz not gonna lie, I’m a true grower 😂 no joke like millimeter defeater then somehow morphs into a 6” “club” it’s one of my few good qualities so I always care about how it’s presented to people aka only hard 😎😂 “screw off if you’re judging at this point, I’ve lived enough for a few life times at this point” 😂 gotta keep things real/ interesting 😉

, anyway I’m kicking and screaming from about 5am after they take my pants/ shove a “bed chuck” under me so in case I pee anymore, but at this point I was pretty much awake and yelling and they thought I was gonna hurt myself while bashing my head, so they hit me with Droperidol 5:30 and I pass back out, I wake back up at about 8 am with a blanket on and my restraints off, a nurse came in like right after I woke up ( she was probably watching me since my restraints were now off) she tosses me a new pair of pants to put on and gets me a glass of water and a snack, everything’s still kinda sedated from the droperidol plus I was still a little drunk Id imagine since I don’t remember anything very clearly of how my morning went.

I knew I messed up and was really mean the night before to the nurses and other staff so I profusely apologized and tried to make sure they knew I wasn’t a total piece shit and actually a “normal/ nice person” I and others would say as long as I don’t touch alcohol. The second I start drinking I just become kinda “evil” and no one likes to be around me after I’ve started drinking. So about 9 am my family picks me up from the hospital and I get to go home with discharge papers (I apparently drank my own pee at some point that night too and I only know this because it was in my paperwork lol) I’m normally only in the business of peeing on others so I guess I was switching it up that night 😂

They ended up giving me 2 big IV’s of lactated ringers (electrolytes and other good stuff) so I woke up with no hangover which was also good but since I took in total

Atleast 4 buzz balls

k pins on that day total I think it must have been atleast 20-30 mg total according to the bottle and slight memory.

To wash it all down 5g worth of shrooms and a psychotic break down.

Then at the hospital I received 200mg ketamine/ more benzos about another 2 mg anti nausea/ sedative “zofran and droperidol” I forgot the exact dose. It must have helped that I puked right before I got in the cop car too or I may have stopped breathing because while my bp was going up my respirations/ o2 was dropping super low I guess two different times that night

For the week following this, I pretty much ate nothing but my medicine which would come back up 30 minutes after downing I was puking a total of about 3 times a day at least for 5 days, 7 days in was not needing to puke anymore, and I’m just now feeling mentally like me again but still have the regret, I just wanna stay sober off booze and every time I drink it, it’s never just alcohol anymore it seems. meditation I can take properly and behave myself but the second booze are involved I’ll clean your whole pill cabinet and I hate this quality about myself, I have come a very long way from were I was believe it or not lol but one day at a time one foot in from of the other, God Bless!

Sorry for any typos

Hi everyone! I (24f) and my fiance (27m) have a very healthy relationship life. Though, we are and have both been prone to substance abuse. When we first met it was anything, but nowadays it's just alcohol. I've got a lot of pent up, unresolved trauma that I'm pretty good at managing in day to day life. But as soon as alcohol makes me black out, I hear from my fiance the awful awful shit I've done and said to him, things I would never do/say sober. So, I'm putting my foot down. I've tried "slowing down," I've tried less strong liquor, I've tried quitting during the work week (which I've found makes weekends worse since my tolerance is down), everything but cold turkey (don't worry I'm not in a place where it's medically dangerous to do so).

Here's my problem. It's been since Monday morning since my last drink (1/27). The super bowl is coming up, and every year we go to his uncles to watch it. Every time we go to his uncles, we all drink exponentially. My fiance and I uber home, and I begin my emotional rampage.

I DONT want to go to his uncles this year, but I'd be very sad if I spent the super bowl alone. I don't mind if my fiance drinks at home, I just don't wanna be around that much liquor. Plus, I'm also ashamed to be around his uncle considering I drunkenly called him in a black out our last argument.

Would I be asking too much for my fiance to stay home this year? Aita for not wanting to go to his uncles?

Edit: my plan is to go cold turkey since Monday, and our last argument was also Monday morning (like 3am) when I called his uncle, so still pretty fresh shame

I have never considered myself an alcoholic, I used to drink almost every weekend. But this week I have been drinking every night, and even after such a short amount of time consistently drinking, I have found myself having chills and sweating because I have decided not to drink tonight. Can withdrawals really happen after just a week? I do not want this to become a problem so I have gotten rid of all alcohol in my house, wish me luck. I had no idea it could get bad so quickly and I need to stop it before it becomes too much. Edit: about 20 standard drinks within the week.

I was 60 days sober started thinking I could just have a few on dates, now by the end of the month I'm just pulling myself out of a 10 day bender. It was so bad I drink a whole handle of vodka by the end of my benders. Any tips my withdrawals are brutal. I don't sleep, I sweat, I puk ever up. Yesterday I drank 5 Gatorades, and some popcorn, a couple banana. I was finally able to fall asleep a little bit last night at 3:30 am like 5, 10 minute intervals. Then in the morning something scary happened, I sleep on my couch during recovery from relapsed. I feel asleep for like 30 minutes, I had the most realistic dream about me seizuring. It felt like I was jerking consistent. I woke up still on my couch in the same spot but it felt so real.

I drink around 50 to 60 standard drinks a week. I started drinking when I was 15, casually. By 16 I was drinking at school and work, but I managed. By 17, my girlfriend had broken up with me and I dropped out of school because of how bad it had gotten. From 2024 to 2025, all I've done is drink. I don't know what life is like without it. Where do I go from here?

I currently have Influenza A AND Norovirus and have had to go cold turkey from beer. I don't know which is worse or what is causing what symptoms.

Please pray for me, I had to make a pallet on my bathroom floor. Lol

In shadows cast by evening’s glow,
When laughter turned to empty woe,
I danced with spirits, dark and deep,
In bottles where my secrets sleep.

The nights were wild, the days wore thin,
A circus act I’d drawn me in,
With friends that faded, smiles that cracked,
The solace found was spirit stacked.

But one cold dawn, with heart so raw,
I faced the mirror, saw the flaw.
A voice within, a fearful shout,
"Enough," it cried, "you must get out!"

A storm had raged, the night was bright,
With love and life lost to the fight.
A phone call from a friend so dear,
A tremor in my heart to hear.

The words they spoke, they cut like glass,
A life once vibrant, fading fast.
“Your laughter dims, your light grows small,
You’re losing now, you risk it all.”

In that stark moment, pain took hold,
A choice to mend, a truth retold.
I gathered strength from sorrow’s bind,
And left the bottle, pain behind.

No longer shackled, I broke free,
From fleeting joy, to clarity.
Sobriety, a friend so rare,
With open arms, taught me to care.

I found a light, a path anew,
In mornings bright with skies of blue.
Each sober day, a chance to thrive,
To cherish moments, and feel alive.

So here I stand, with scars that show,
The battles fought, the seeds to sow.
Grateful for the journey wrought,
From darkness deep, to lessons taught.

In every tear, a story spun,
Of rising tides, and battles won.
Embracing life, I now can see,
The beauty found in being free.

I've got that "I don't celebrate the good stuff" character flaw so forcing myself to do this today.

214 days. But who's counting...?

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When did you know you had a problematic relationship with alcohol? Because I think I have. I like the feeling of being drunk. I'm quite young (I think) at the age of 27. How do I get another perspective on life? A perspective where alcohol isn't constantly on my mind?

Hello, I just wanted to take a pause from my silent scrolling to check in for a moment! I started my journey end of Oct 2024 of tapering down my drinking from maybe a pint a day to nothing in around 4 days and was successful on my taper. I have since remained relatively sober besides a couple days when I went on vacation in start of early Dec 2024 and s in early Jan 2024. Since Oct 2024, I have only drank maybe 7 days out of that time which is a vast improvement from my pint a day for nearly 7 years.

Since beginning this journey, I have a clearer mind and body with the added bonus of having even lost a couple LBs! I also don't really have a desire to drink anymore on a daily basis and am able to cope with my stresses in other ways. I also obtained a promotion at work which puts me on track with my career goals.

Therefore, I am proud of myself and everyone else going through the same battles. Thank you for reading. 🙂

Hey all, I wanted to write this as it may help some others.

35m here.

I had a DUI at 18 and didnt think much of it. Went to the classes, got my license back, paid my dues and was done with it.

I did not drink for a long time after that. But I got another DUI at 23 years old. I realized although both felt like bad luck, it was evident I was lucky to get lucky to be caught vs getting into an accident so I stopped again.

After these 2, I stopped mixing car and alcohol and taught my problems were over with alcohol.

I started to drink at home around age 28. I started a job where everyone talked about was drinking, I thought wow everyone drinks so what. I would work hard all day and then go home and drink, most of the time half a bottle of Maker's Mark at least. I would drink until I fell asleep. This became an ongoing thing every night essentially. I was working all day and then coming home and shipping things I sold online as I was getting shit faced.

This went on and on until Corona started. I started to drink during the days when it was slow at the job. Stopping to drink was always something I wanted to do and thought about as a necessary thing but that time never came. I decided to overemploy myself to stop drinking and picked up another full time remote job so I was now working 2 jobs remotely as project manager for 2 companies but the drinking stayed the same if not get worse.

I was saving money, getting praise and bonuses at work, had a wife, house, no financial troubles and life was good. Alcohol was always there though, sometimes from moment I woke up until I slept. I would never get black out drunk or dumb but I was drinking a shot here or there. I knew it had to stop, my body started to change when Corona started and my drinking got worse.

I became 310 pounds, gained weight, I was getting athlete's foot like crazy, more thirtsty, waking up to pee for long periods and fatigue. I knew something wasnt right but I was too deep in this hole I dug for myself with alcohol. I kept saying this is wrong and I need to clean up my act but I just didnt do it.

My wife got pregnant on our trip to Vegas. She went cold turkey right away. I was more hesitant, I kept drinking now for the stress of havign a baby and feeling guilty that I did not allow my wife and I to be healthy getting ready for this baby. Nothing made sense why I lived the way I did when everything else was going well for me. My wife started to push me to stop and then I started to drink in hiding. In my cold garage that is depressing as hell. I was making reasons to go there just to drink and then hide that I drank.

Our baby was born, very healthy, cutest baby I have ever seen. I was asking to God how I can even deserve such a wonderful gift. I felt like I was a second grade person because of my hiding to drink from people around me and having the need to do so. I kept drinking until my baby was a few months old and I decided this is enough and this cant last like this. If it does, the end will not be good.

The Change

I decided it is time. I havent been to the doctor for 10+ years and realized this unknown condition of my health is also the reason I keep drinking because of how stressed I was of it.

I quit drinking for good and 2 weeks later went to the doctor. I was optimistic since I was feeling amazing after stopping to drink.

Well, the reality hit me hard when my results came back. I had:

- Diabetes 9.3 A1C

- High blood pressure 196/110

Once the doctor started speaking and showing me possible complications and some things I am seeing on my body are related to the diabetes, overweight and my lifestyle.

I am not sure how I left the doctor but I started to cry when I got in the car. Asking myself, why? I felt like a dumb kid that just got smacked with reality, what kind of other results did I expect?

I felt helpless, cheated out of life as if someone else was guilty. I had to say it is ok that I made these mistakes and I am only human. I need to look ahead. I had more things come up on the blood results that needed work so I started.

It has now been about 4 months since i have been to the doctor. I have not touched alcohol since I stopped, the day I stopped.

My diabetes A1C number went to 7.6 and last test was at 5.6.

I lost close 40+ pounds, I was about 290 at the 1st weight in and now I am at 246. All my blood results, numbers, complications etc have normalized.

My life improved in every way imaginable. Please if you read this and in a similar boat as I was a few months ago, just remember it is never late and human body is strong. I think rather than thinking "I have been doing it for so long anyway, damage is done, who cares if I stop now" just remember there is light in the end of the tunnel and if you are willing to stop, good things will happen.

Everyday I am noticing a different improvement in my life and to people that are struggling, you deserve to do this for yourself. It is hard to stop but give it a try and after 1-2 weeks, the changes really start to take shape.

Good luck yall!

Evening all, over the past year, my dad (51M) has developed a serious drinking problem. Some background—he runs a successful business and only needs to work 4-5 hours a day, which isn’t demanding. He travels often with my mum and is at a stage in life where he should be able to relax, free from major stress.

Despite this, he’s started drinking heavily, and the problem is, he’s not a good drunk. At times, he’s insulting, at others, he becomes a show-off. But the worst part is the self-loathing. He constantly brings up his parents' divorce from when he was four and how much it affected him—something we, as a family, believe is ridiculous, including his own two siblings. In those instances, he'll always make his life out to be harder than it was when the reality is he didn't have any setbacks but rather wants to make everyone in the room feel like he struggled.

Because of his business success, he has the money to fuel this habit—mainly wine and, above all, scotch. We have over 200 bottles at home, and every week, I notice a few disappearing. The worst part is that he tries to hide it. He leaves empty bottles in their boxes, stashes them behind others, or claims he’s only had a couple when, in reality, he’s had the equivalent of eight drinks.

I don’t know how to stop this. In our household of five, I’m the only one who speaks up. When I do, my dad becomes defensive, sometimes threatening violence or taking things away from me. This makes everyone else stay quiet.

I’ve had enough. I resent him for it—because when he’s sober, he’s the best version of himself.

I don’t want to stop but many of my friends tell me I need too. I look forward to it alot if the time. I drink pretty much every night now. I like it and don’t want to stop. I am drunk currently, am I an alcoholic?

I am curious to hear what have been anyone’s experience when quitting alcohol? Did you go cold turkey or slowly cut down.

I know everyone’s experience is different. For the past 3 years I have drank almost everyday. The longest I have gone without alcohol was 12 days, due to medication I was taking. I’m a business owner in a small city and attending AA meetings has not worked for me in the past. I want to change and know that I could; I just get anxiety in thinking of not drinking at least one drink. My problem is once I start drinking I don’t know when to stop. It doesn’t help that I own a restaurant that serves alcohol and used it to help my stressful life.

During my 20s I had a meth addiction for 3 years and I was successful been sober for 6 years! Now I’m overwhelm because I feel being sober from alcohol is much harder. Sorry about the rant, I just feel that I can’t freely express myself and I don’t want to disappoint my love ones.

Heavy emphasis on the quotation marks.

Of course, these days people call themselves “high functioning”…I guess that’s an American thing where we have to make it seem like we’re as productive as possible.

I guess if I’m fair enough with myself I could call myself “highly functioning”, but I’d rather not. I think “functioning” is about the best I deserve. In fact it be more than I deserve.

The thing is even when I function I function at a compromised capacity when I’m drinking, so it’s difficult to call myself anything more than functional.

Anyways, while I seriously rely on alcohol to cope in life, it doesn’t really affect my day to day life in any overt way. No fights or work issues to speak of. Never had a DUI (knocking wood), no prison or major hospitalizations. You get the picture. I wouldn’t be a memorable speaker at any of the AA meetings.

And maybe that’s what sucks about it. It’s so much easier to be in denial about all of it. There’s no big bang, it’s just death by 1000 cuts.

Anyways idk what the point of this post is. Just wondering if anyone feels this way too I guess.

For a couple of years now people at work have been calling me an alcoholic (I'm not insinuating I don't like alcohol a fair bit, more than the layman) but from my experiences, growing up with alcoholism, alcoholism is when you die (have severe withdrawal) if you don't drink. I've drank almost everyday for ten years but I don't have the crazy withdrawal that I've experienced in others growing up. That being said, I still get very anxious if I don't have access to the magic juice. What is this? Borderline but not drank enough to alter my biology or?

I’m 25m and my mom is 63. She typically has at least 2 drinks a day and that can be closer to 8 depending on the day. I’m worried about her health wise and have tried to talk to her about it but she’ll just brush it off. How do I convince that she needs to cut back on her drinking or even stop entirely?

I live in a place that’s not very well connected to the main town and even then meetings are sometimes at times I cannot attend due to work. Longest I’ve gone on my own is 30 days at which point I decided to try moderation. We all know how that goes. Any advice?