/r/problemgambling

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A resource for individuals who have struggled - or know somebody who has struggled - with a gambling problem.

A resource for individuals who have struggled - or know somebody who has struggled - with a gambling problem.

  • Individuals who are concerned with their gambling behavior
  • Folks who have seen others suffer due to their gambling
  • Persons in recovery
  • Treatment professionals
  • Prevention professionals
  • Educators
  • Students

All are welcome to participate.

If you have any questions, comments, information, or advice for others regarding compulsive gambling, please share here.

FAQ

This is not an alternative to treatment and we cannot provide professional counseling by means of this community.

Posting Guidelines

It is to be understood that this is a community to which people sometimes turn to seek advice, opportunities to vent, and other situations where they may be left emotionally vulnerable. While this is not a place to get treatment or other professional help, the conditions above require a safe place. As such:

  1. Reddit content and spam policy: All sitewide Reddit content policies will be upheld and enforced. All posts that are determined by the moderators to be unsolicited links and “spammy” by nature will be removed.
  2. Interpersonal respect: All good-faith users are assumed to be of equal value and worth, and are expected to treat others as such. Therefore, disrespectful comments will be removed at the Mod Team’s discretion.
  3. No Promoting gambling: Content which promotes or encourages gambling behavior, methods, or strategies are prohibited and will be removed. URLs (hyperlinked or not) related to and discussions about gambling-related sites are prohibited without exception. Such material will be removed and likely result in a permanent ban!
  4. Discussing wins: Please refrain from discussing winnings: this can be terribly triggering for other people in recovery to read, and can be triggering to the writer. If you are discussing losses, please consider doing so carefully and only if it will be beneficial to both the reader and the writer. Tag all posts/comments with the "Trigger Warning!" flair as a courtesy to others.
  5. Discussions on financial bailouts and chargebacks are prohibited: An essential part of gambling recovery is assuming responsibility for gambling losses. For problem gamblers, this constitutes a bailout which erodes responsibility for gambling behavior and very much enables the compulsion. Out of respect for this facet of recovery: requesting money (including but not limited to links to GoFundMe, Kickstarter, or other crowdfunding sites) and discussions on chargebacks will be instantly removed.
  6. No Gatekeeping: This community was launched with the intention of being a safe place to learn about problem gambling, for any and all people to participate. Academics and treatment professionals can share knowledge, lay people can learn, and people seeking recovery can find resources and support. Sometimes people approach the community with genuine questions because they do not understand problem gambling and addiction. Users here are expected to inform, educate, enlighten, but not shame or abuse others for their questions. If you believe a user is posting here in bad faith, report the post immediately so that the moderators can judge the appropriateness of the post/comment.
  7. Research, Survey, and Interview Requests: All people looking to submit a post requesting participation in research or interviews for a journalistic piece must review our Research, Survey, and Interview Guidelines.
  8. Offers to treat, coach, or otherwise resolve a gambling problem are prohibited: Posting advice, recovery suggestions, and helpful comments are fine, but claims to be able to assist with gambling recovery without substantiated evidence of being a qualified recovery professional are tenuous if not harmful. Licensed professionals, peer recovery support providers, and/or other certified gambling recovery experts should message the mods or reply to our Monthly Resource Post and request that you be added to our Resources Page, but please do NOT comment (comments will be promptly removed) or DM users to solicit services.

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8 Days and 16hrs Free

Every morning, I express gratitude to God for giving me another day of life and guiding me on my journey to overcome this challenge.

I’ve fully surrendered myself to His will.

For anyone seeking an extra layer of support to break free from gambling, especially online gambling, I highly recommend downloading Gamban. While I recognize that it’s technically possible to access gambling through other platforms or devices, this app has been a tremendous help in my recovery.

There was a time when I relapsed, and I didn’t have this app in place. Now that I’m using it, I find the process of staying on track much easier.

Remember, recovery is a journey—One Day at a Time (ODAAT).

0 Comments
2024/12/03
08:08 UTC

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I don't have much time left as I recently had a heart attack and my body is shutting down, always keep the faith, you can overcome it all in life.

Just wanted to let all of you know that there's far more to life than gambling and the debt you can accrue. I've been gambling majority of my life, am only 39 years old will be 40 in February but it's not looking like I will make it that point. I suffered a super bad back injury 2 years ago, healed up and then came back a million times worse this year and is in the process of ending my time on earth. My point being, there's always more to life, sure I've gambled millions over my lifetime but I'd give anything to get that time back and sped it with my loved ones, knowing that you will die soon is awful but I never complain cause someone always has it worse than you. Just hang in there and keep your faith and hope in God, where there is a will there is a way, you can persevere, we all can.

1 Comment
2024/12/03
07:38 UTC

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Day 20

Grateful to have 20 gambling free days behind me. My addiction is with online slots.

I’ve picked up my hobbies again. I’m working out. I sleep so much better. I’m not in a constant hunt for money. The chase for quick fixes and quick satisfaction is over. I work for my dopamine hits and they are more amazing for it. I have a long term plan for my debts and I look forward to following it.

To think, a few weeks ago, I was so deep down. A shell of myself. Neglecting everything and everyone for the sake of gambling.

I know 20 days is not a lot but from where I was, it is - I couldn’t pause for 10 hours. Now I’m excited to reach a month. Most I’m looking forward to a full year without gambling. 2025 ❤️‍🩹

1 Comment
2024/12/03
05:59 UTC

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Grinding away at my debt

A year ago, I was gambling every day and had racked up $430,000 in debt. Today, I’m a year into recovery with only one slip and down to $275,000 in debt. It’s gonna be another 2-3 years to clear it, but I’m making progress and I can do it and so can you.

8 Comments
2024/12/03
05:07 UTC

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Game over... It's over for me

I got screwed over gambling I don't know how I'll get out of this debt... I relapsed again now im 7k in debt now I don't have a job and not sure if I'll be able to find one that I can pay off these debts with. I have lost all my money and all my hope I'm ready to give up on this game called life

8 Comments
2024/12/03
04:48 UTC

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Would you pay for a gambling recovery app?

An app that helps you monitor and meet your gambling abstaining goals?

Want to see how many would pay a cheap price for something like this given we all blow loads of money on gambling anyway.

View Poll

0 Comments
2024/12/03
03:37 UTC

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How to deal with the severe depression?

Lost 8 years of work / savings. No temptation to gamble further, but I'm seriously depressed and it's exhibiting physical symptoms even if I try not to have my mind focus on it.

14 Comments
2024/12/03
01:14 UTC

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40 days!

Come on folks, you can do this. Let's all keep our streaks alive.

1 Comment
2024/12/03
00:34 UTC

10

Day 9

Focusing on work. A new opportunity for a full time, well paid role appeared, I will try to get it and if this happens it will be a real jackpot at this moment.

Always remember:

  1. Work = Power/Health/Progress

  2. Gambling = Weakness/Sickness/Stagnation

2 Comments
2024/12/02
23:57 UTC

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This really hurts. I hate my useless life.

I had everything last year at this time, solid remote job, I had a girl who really loved me, everything was going smooth and perfect for me. Now I have 15k credit card debt and 2k personal debt. I have managed to ruin everything, and gambling is the only thing to blame. I was trying to make quick money and to run away from my anxiety which I have for 8 years now with gambling, what was fun at the start is now 17k debt. I broke up with my ex two months ago and changed the city and changed the job to a better paying one, however it is not on permanent contract and despite giving my best I dunno if they will fire me one day. I found out yesterday that my ex found new guy just a couple of days after we broke up and that she threw all the stuff I bought her. Shit hurts and I am drowning in debt and don’t know when and whether I will get myself out of this. No family, no car, no nothing. I hate myself for this and I hate what I did. I hate my every day anxiety. I ruined my life and I am only 23 years old. All this because of gambling. Please stop on time guys and appreciate what you have.

10 Comments
2024/12/02
22:00 UTC

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Professional help

Hello all, it’s me again. I’ve been clean for 11 days now and aside from giving up my finances to a loved one, I also plan on seeking professional help to better understand what’s going on in my mind.

To those who sought or is currently consulting a therapist, how was your experience in actually looking for the “right” one? Did you look for therapists that specialize in gambling?

4 Comments
2024/12/02
21:48 UTC

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758 days gratefully without a bet

Today:
·      I am grateful for 24 hours without a bet.

·      I am grateful for growing patience with myself and others.

·      I am grateful for the daily fight against the habit to judge others and myself harshly.

·      I am grateful to see the connection between physical and mental health, including daily moments of dehydration.

·      I am grateful to keep my cool in face of pressure and stress.

·      I am grateful for reminders that pressure and stress come from within.

·      I am grateful to see my family in a few days and celebrate my son’s Bar Mitzvah.

1 Comment
2024/12/02
21:25 UTC

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2 months gambling free

This marks two months of my Journey. Alot of shame and tears has been shed. Family and partner knows my situation and we talk about it sometimes. I Dont feel the urge as much as i used to(might be the anti-depresants). But, me and my brother got a clearer picture of my economy and How to approach my dept. One day at the time. Im prioritizing myself and starting to see somekind of light at the end of the tunnel

2 Comments
2024/12/02
21:17 UTC

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Go back or not - Tell me to stop

I am 26yrs old with stable job and sidelines, I earn enough and I consistently save up more than half of my salary. I have enough savings. But one day I was introduced to online gambling and now lost almost 2x my monthly salary. I was able to recover most of my losses but it went back up again because of the urge to completely eliminate my loss. I already had round trip twice. I really feel annoyed and demotivated. I wanted to think of this as permanent loss but there's this urge that I can still recover this. I wanted to stop now before it gets worst.

1 Comment
2024/12/02
20:03 UTC

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Day 10 Complete

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2024/12/02
20:58 UTC

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Day 16: Half Month Bet Free

Happy to report I am on day 16 without a bet placed. Overjoyed of each day ticked off and the betterment of my life. Those struggling, try to start today. It’s all so so worth it.

2 Comments
2024/12/02
19:24 UTC

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tell me to not go back

i just lost money gambling, but the devil in me is telling me “go back, break even then quit forever” i know i shouldn’t, because if i lose then im down more, but the voice of the devil is getting louder within me, i can’t come up with more reasons to not go back. please help.

10 Comments
2024/12/02
18:33 UTC

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Day 0

Relapsed this weekend

3 Comments
2024/12/02
18:25 UTC

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Question to those that have successfully recovered

How long did it take you to feel financially secure ? If that’s even possible with the inflation and rising costs with everything now . I have maybe 800$ in cc debt and 80k locked away . But honestly I still feel well behind my peers . I’ve pissed away by calculation at least 150k over the years . I feel like I’m getting ahead and happy with where I’m at and then I relapse and have to reconstruct a new plan every week or every pay day . I’m just so sick of it . I think gamblings ruined the meaning of money and anything associated with saving to me . How long until you’re just a normal civilian who pays bills and puts away for saving ?

4 Comments
2024/12/02
16:18 UTC

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Day 365

One year. Last achieved 01/01/2019. This was not easy but today I am proud and I plan to keep going.

6 Comments
2024/12/02
16:11 UTC

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I lost my money

I am 20 years old. I lost my money. I lied to my family and my girlfriend. I used to bet 600 a day. I know now it wasn’t about the money—it was the adrenaline that kept pulling me back to the roulettes and casinos. But today, I’ve had enough. I feel ashamed, broken, and foolish, but I’m ready to change.

I hope today marks the beginning of a new life, one where I can rebuild trust, regain control, and find a better path.

17 Comments
2024/12/02
16:00 UTC

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Day 6: Chasing the next gain is a race that leads to no where

Hi all

Couldn’t post for a day but I am back. The feeling is great and I am proud of myself

Just a couple of months more and I’d be out of debt

Please join me and quit this mess. Let’s do it together

0 Comments
2024/12/02
02:58 UTC

3

Day 15: 15 Days Bet Free

Another day ticked off — feeling great. Had some temptation yesterday, but quickly battled it off. Feeling great. Ready to enjoy a Sunday.

1 Comment
2024/12/01
18:13 UTC

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39 days

For those who's been clean for months and years, how do you feel now? What do you do when the amount of money you lost crossed again in your mind? Does having a relapse means losing big amount of money or just even those small bets once like 2$ when you and your friends are betting about something just a joke?

1 Comment
2024/12/02
01:17 UTC

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Back to day 1

Don’t know what is wrong with me I keep going to online gambling sites chasing a few hundred dollar losses and can never seem to cash out during the withdraw time I always think I can control myself but I can’t, just lost 1000 today and 300 of my own money. Any tips to keep my mind off this shit instead of the same “just stop”. I am full of regret right now while my gf is in the shower and has no idea, she knows I gamble but she does not know about what I’ve done last night/ today

0 Comments
2024/12/02
03:19 UTC

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Day 28 - 🫶🏻🖕✅

0 Comments
2024/12/01
19:16 UTC

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Day 45

1 Comment
2024/12/02
11:47 UTC

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Is it truly how he feels?? My gambler is trying to destroy us

My gambling partner has been again pulling away more over a week. He told me he’s very upset with something I said over a month ago and wants to break up. I had cancelled his online betting accounts and told friends not to let him use their accounts so he can’t gamble. He has no access to money. He can’t gamble. has told me he feels trapped and he doesn’t want anything from anyone. Nothing particular about us and seems to forget why he was upset in the first place. He’s searched for reasons to get upset in the past to try the same things and I call his bullshit and he usually comes around. This time he hasn’t really. The debts are worse, he’s extremely stressed and overwhelmed. I keep telling him I care because in want to and I’m not giving up but he keeps just pushing me away and trying to end the relationship. I’ve decided to have a communication break. I don’t want to give up. He doesn’t want help. He isn’t ready maybe but I’m just having a break because we just go around in circles. He can’t gamble and realistically it’s because of me, is this why he’s acting like this? Will he ever come around? I honestly just want the best for him…

12 Comments
2024/12/02
14:59 UTC

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Day 7 - getting by

Day 7. The pain isn’t as fresh but the objective reminder that I had more money last week than today still cuts through.

I can’t let myself dwell and I try to focus on the present. But the commutes alone in the car and silence makes you think about how you went wrong.

I can see why this is a lifelong journey.

I hope we all get better.

2 Comments
2024/12/02
14:44 UTC

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